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Living on the Offense or Defense: Replacing Reactivity with Understanding

Defensive attitude, understanding; photograph of fusball players by Pascal Swier

Photograph by Pascal Swier

Learning to listen with an open mind rather than a defensive attitude opens us to learn and allows us to grow

When I was a kid, my friends and I would play a board game called ‘Life’. The game was pretty simple; you would spin a wheel and move along the board in a car color of your choice. When you landed on a square, you read what was on the square and you did exactly as it said. There were a few choices you had to make along

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