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Dear Therapist: My Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex Anymore

Should I just accept that this will be a celibate marriage? Should I leave?
Source: Bianca Bagnarelli

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Dear Therapist,

My husband and I have been married for 30 years and have a mostly happy, friendly, and supportive relationship. His interest in sexual relations declined after our children were born and came to a full stop five years ago.

I have asked him to go to therapy with me on multiple occasions over the past five years. He considered it several times but always declined, stating he just had no interest in a physical relationship. I have encouraged him to discuss our situation with a friend or his

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