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It's Not My Fault: The No-Excuse Plan to Put You in Charge of Your Life
Written by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Narrated by Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
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About this audiobook
The most common excuse. The most dangerous trap. "It's not my fault!" It seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse. It can even seem like the truth. But according to Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, it's really a dangerous, self-destructive trap that keeps you from the life you want to live. Yet there is a way to turn the trap into a launching pad-and it's simpler than you think. Using eight principles, powerful true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, this best-selling author duo of Boundaries and other popular books will teach you the one skill you need to make empowering choices and start getting what you want out of your relationships, your career, your life. Even if you've gotten a raw deal from other people, your DNA or life's circumstances, there is always something you can do to make things better. With the transformational insights in this audio book, Cloud and Townsend will help you get your focus off what you cannot control and break free from the blame game that sabotages success... so that you really can start living the life you choose.
Author
Henry Cloud
Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist, pastor to pastors, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries, have sold over 20 million copies worldwide. Throughout his storied career as a clinician, he started treatment centers, created breakthrough new models rooted in research, and has been a leading voice on issues of mental health and leadership on a global scale. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I thought this would be a booker for whiners, but I was wrong and pleasantly surprised. This book really gets to the core of excuses, and is relatable to all. I really enjoy their practical use of the Word in Proverbs and the Psalms; not to much, very precise, and encouraging.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Big fan of these gentlemen and their work. Although I don't identify as Christian, their work is powerful.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Excellent book! It lovingly taught me so much about myself! These writers have a gift!
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they read my mind and wrote this book. - Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I love this book so much I will share it!!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very pointed, bible based, sound teaching, relatable and practical. Worth it!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5a book i can relate, summarize my life over the years.