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    Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned"

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    About this audiobook

    For readers of Nora Ephron, Tina Fey, and David Sedaris, this hilarious, poignant, and extremely frank collection of personal essays confirms Lena Dunham-the acclaimed creator, producer, and star of HBO's Girls-as one of the brightest and most original writers working today.

    If I can take what I've learned in this life and make one treacherous relationship or degrading job easier for you, perhaps even prevent you from becoming temporarily vegan, then every misstep of mine will have been worthwhile. This book contains stories about wonderful nights with terrible boys and terrible days with wonderful friends, about ambition and the two existential crises I had before the age of twenty. About fashion and its many discontents. About publicly sharing your body, having to prove yourself in a meeting full of fifty-year-old men, and the health fears (tinnitus, lamp dust, infertility) that keep me up at night. I'm already predicting my future shame at thinking I had anything to offer you with this book, but also my future glory in having stopped you from trying an expensive juice cleanse or having the kind of sexual encounter where you keep your sneakers on. No, I am not a sexpert, a psychologist, or a registered dietician. I am not a married mother of three or the owner of a successful hosiery franchise. But I am a girl with a keen interest in self-actualization, sending hopeful dispatches from the front lines of that struggle.

    Editor's Note

    Hilarious & insightful…

    Dunham’s collection of musings is as smart, funny, and astute as you’d expect, and her charmingly sincere confessions are delivered with a self-deprecating awareness lacking in the “Girls” girls.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherPenguin Random House Audio
    Release dateSep 30, 2014
    ISBN9780804127325
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    Reviews for Not That Kind of Girl

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    • 1/5
      I abandoned this book. I tried to listen but it was not good. Don't know what the hype was because it was boring. I would not waste any time on this if it's on your to read list.
    • 3/5
      I found it hard to follow along at times, like it just jumped from one story to a different one and back.
    • 3/5
      I wanted to love this but found myself underwhelmed for the majority of the book. perhaps I built it up too much prior to the release. I might be back for a proper review but for now I'll leave this placeholder.
    • 5/5
      Had to put her name in the tags because it's so much Lena Dunham - in fact, if you're a fan of the TV show (as I am), that says it all. I loved this book except for the chapters that were lists - fillers, in other words. Her writing is so direct and honest - as someone who's nude on TV a lot would have to write I guess. The parts about her anxiety were riveting and painful.So it would be a 5 except for the lists.
    • 4/5
      A funny and authentic voice of one of the young generation women, who want to be themselves. It made me understand my daughter of 21 better.
    • 4/5
      I have come to hate the word "privilege" when it crops up in reviews. Privilege is a thing we need to understand and rage against when white men get month long sentences for rape and black women get 20 year sentences for selling weed. But the word privilege in book reviews is slung around to support the position that white people who are educated and not poor are irrelevant, that they have nothing to share. What a crock of shit. This is an honest well written book about an interesting young woman who is paradoxically really fucked up and admirably grounded. Good stuff.
    • 3/5
      Full disclosure about my review of this book: I have always just liked Lena Dunham and harbored secret fantasies of us becoming friends. I'm sure this influenced my review somewhat. I'll admit that I would have liked to have read a bit more about how she got into the business, versus just random thoughts, but I also recognize that wasn't really the purpose of this particular book.

      I also had to remind myself that Lena comes from the oversharing generation. There is a lot in this book that could potentially make you cringe, but if you know her work on Girls or anything else, it won't really come as a surprise. Overall, I found her writing style easy to read, and interesting, if not particularly amazing. I also enjoyed the chance to see any parallels between her life and Girls.

      If this hadn't been an ebook I borrowed from the library, I definitely would have dog-eared some of the pages where she talks about how a woman deserves to be treated. There's certainly a lot to be learned from many of her pages, and I found a lot of what she said to be fascinating, if not disturbing, at times.

      It was an easy, quick read and gave me some good insight into her life. (And I still want to be friends with her. And Lamby.)
    • 3/5
      Love Lena Dunham's television series, Girls. Didn't love this book as much as I hopes. She is definitely honest and kudos to that but I had trouble getting into it at some points. Listened to the audio version, read my the author, and it was quick "read" at least.
    • 4/5
      I really liked this. Sure, it's a bit shallow at times and there are sections that probably didn't need to be included (some of the listicles in particular struck me as blog posts on the page), but her honesty, likeability and wit make this super entertaining. If you don't care for Girls then you won't care for this, but it's a great plane read and one that left me liking Dunham even more than I did before reading it.

      There are quite a few really bad reviews and I can see their points - it is a bit narcissistic and Dunham doesn't always seem aware just how privileged she is - but her ambition, honesty and energy won me over. It's very much a 'twenties' book - it will be interesting to see Dunham goes in the years ahead.
    • 2/5
      Im a big fan of Girls so I had to read this book. While I didn't find the writing as edgy as the Girls stuff I did read the whole book admittedly skimming the less interesting bits. Ms Dunham is at her best when writing in the same zone as the Girls material ie: young woman navigates relationships. The bio stuff of her younger years was not that interesting. She definitely has a unique voice and some of it is very funny. Worthwhile, but be prepared to skim stuff (eg:food diary)
    • 3/5
      Entertaining, if you can stomach this self-absorbed, privileged personality. Was looking for more stories of movie/tv business - or of a grown-up Lena. Hoping my daughter will skip the college chapter/essay, because clearly Ms. Dunham is not a role model for earnest students.
    • 4/5
      I can't say that I always agree with Lena Dunham, but I agree with her approach to a lot of things. She's incapable of not sharing and uncomfortable with secrets and this is not for attention, it's how she ticks. She knows she doesn't have everything figured out and that is empowering for her, rather than holding her back. She's got a lot of fears but she confronts them and sees where the road takes her. And she's damn funny when she does it. This is not a book for everyone and if you don't like Dunham, you'll probably hate it. I like that she's in her mid-20's and not sure where she goes from here, but she's excited about it. I like that she owns her past and realizes she's made mistakes, will make more, and hasn't learned all her lessons yet. She feels so REAL, and I think that's the biggest thing she's trying to convey. Watching someone embrace their flaws, not glorifying them, just recognizing they're part of being human, is refreshing.
    • 1/5
      Not worth the hype. A bunch of navel gazing by Dunham, and only funny in the awkward, "I'm not sure I should be laughing at this" kind of way. I only finished it to make sure that I wasn't judging prematurely - unfortunately I discovered I wasn't.
    • 3/5
      Most of this autobiography was depressing as the first season of Girls. Dunham recounts a time when she was 5 years old and accompanied by her little 4 year old friend at one of her father's art exhibits. An older woman asks them what their parents do to punish them if they're bad. The friend says that she's given a time out. Dunham says, "my father sticks a fork in my vagina." If you find that humorous, you'll really like the book. Dunham's parents are artists, and I looked up their work. Her father paints mostly pictures of big pink vaginas, most of them not in anatomically correct positions, some hanging down like penises. She says her mother took lots of nude selfies and turned them into art, but the ones I saw were of naked legs with objects instead of bodies. Not quite the same thing. Anyway, perhaps with this kind of background one would expect Dunham to have an accepting view of her body, which she does show in her nonchalance about nudity in movies. However, when it comes to enjoying reciprocal sexual relations she seems every bit as uptight as a teenage fundamentalist getting a purity ring from her daddy at a virginity ball. The reason I finally started liking Girls in the third season, and the reason the book finally became a good read, is that she talks about making it in her work. She is a big success and has finally developed quite a work ethic, but boy, she is not cut out to be anyone's employee. Artist to the core, I'm glad she's finally getting the sex part right.
    • 4/5
      I'm wavering on this one. Parts of it deserved a 5 but other bits were less inspiring. Like everything else Lena Dunham writes, it's funny, wrenching and raw. The little indulgences (unsent letters and such) aren't bad, but the narrative time-traveling is at times jarring. Still, it's Lena, with all her faults and charms, saying the shit we never dared to.
    • 5/5
      Dunham is the voice of her generation.
    • 2/5
      I wanted to like this book a lot more than I did. I mean, look at that cover! It's so aesthetically pleasing (and I'm all about aesthetically pleasing book covers).But, alas, I found myself disliking this book for pretty much the same reasons why I dislike Dunham's HBO show Girls: she's incredibly self-centered, views the world only through her specific experiences and gets upset when things are not as she would like them, and lives in a weird nightmare land of a privileged New York upbringing combined with a therapist and self-diagnosed neuroses. Honestly, I'm wondering why I ever thought I would enjoy this collection of essays and lists in the first place...I'm sounding pretty harsh. I did enjoy the cute little illustrations throughout the book. I laughed at a few places, mostly during her aforementioned lists. Her final essay on a guide to running away for a 27 year old resonated a bit with me...but most of the time I just found myself rolling my eyes at what she had to say about topics such as sex, medical disorders, college life, and being an adult. I applaud Dunham for being able to turn her little bubble into a profitable form of self-reflection and confirmation, but it is unfortunately all too laughably immature and annoying for my taste. As a woman fast approaching my mid-20's, I'm appalled that someone who has had so much opportunity to experience life and the world and who has had so much success is stuck in her teens/early 20's. I just...ugh. The more I type, the more annoyed/angry I get. So I'll just leave it at that.The aesthetically pleasing cover is incentive enough for me to keep this book...to the used bookstore it goes!
    • 3/5
      There were moments of clever brilliance here, but much of it was filler for a book meant to exploit the writer's current popularity. I'm an admirer of Lena Dunham, but I was unimpressed with her top ten lists - not that funny. I did appreciate the several pages of revealing and thought provoking observations and I also liked the illustrations.
    • 1/5
      In which I learned that, whatever kind of girl* Dunham is, I'm not.*I'm not clear what kind of girl she is, but, admittedly, I did end up skimming many of the essays.
    • 4/5
      I'm not certain what the male opinion of this book would be, but I can say that as a young woman, Lena Dunham's book truly resonated with me. My experiences have been different from hers, but so much of what she speaks about is true of an entire generation and the world in which we inhabit today. Being a college graduate but not having a "real" job, struggles with dieting and losing weight, and figuring out sex and relationships. These are not unique struggles, but Lena Dunham explores them in a honest, sometimes humorous style, that is easy to relate to. I would highly recommend this book to any young woman of my generation.
    • 3/5
      Oh Lena Dunham....why can't I decide how I feel about you?! I really struggle with admiring her audacity and really just thinking she's kind of insane. This book did little to make that struggle lessen any.

      On the one hand, I really do applaud Dunham's honesty. She truly embraces who she is--flaws and all-- and there are moments in this autobiography where she really exposes her vulnerability. This really makes her seem more human and relatable than she so often does. The section where she discusses being raped felt very honest, even more so because she seemed unable to just come out and say what happened to her. Yes, she did this artfully, but it also seemed like a way to still somehow lessen what happened--almost as though she were still trying to make excuses for something inexcusable that was done to her.

      She is very open, also, about her struggles with anxiety and mental illness, which I appreciated. She discussed her experiences with therapy, and the ways in which her anxiety set her apart from her peers from a very early age.

      While all of this is noteworthy and admirale, though, there are times when it also seems that Dunham is completely oblivious to the life of privilege that she has always led. To hear her talk, it seems that she is shocked to discover a world outside Manhattan. Anything that is not New York may as well not exist, and those of us who did not grow up in that magical world must not know what it is to truly live. Okay, so maybe that's a bit harsh--but her love of her hometown does seem to exceed typical hometown pride

      There are also other moments in the book where she does not seem to realize that what she's describing is not anything like most people's typical experiences growing up. At least, they're nothing like mine. There's the much-maligned section about her vying for her sister's affection. Did I think that was super weird? Absolutely. Do I think she sexually molested her sister? No. I really just think she doesn't realize that that behavior is not the kind most children exhibit.

      The autobiography was refreshing in the sense that it did make me realize that Lena herself is not ENTIRELY her character on Girls, although her experiences have definitely colored Hannah's. I was afraid that I would read "Not That Kind of Girl" and realize that Lena IS Hannah, which may have killed my faith in humanity.

      I don't know that I learned much from Dunham's lessons, but I did enjoy her tale, even as it made me squirm at times and be VERY glad it wasn't my own.
    • 4/5
      If a book can make you grimace and laugh and think about the world just a little differently (sometimes all on the same page), I believe it is worth reading. Lena Dunham has given us such a book. I've never even seen her show "Girls", but I'm going to check that out next.
    • 2/5
      I've never watched her show on HBO but I will be, that's for sure!I absolutely loved her essays and great wit, she is very honest in regards to her flaws and phobias that we all had issues with. I really enjoyed this book and hope she'll find time to write more
    • 3/5
      Probably my least favorite memoir I've read in awhile. It felt very scattered and off balance. There was no rhyme or reason to much of her story. Just disconnected stories from her life that sometimes were kind of funny, but mostly I just sort of thought....OK.There was virtually nothing about how "Girls" came about and also none of the humor or wit that I see in the writing of that show. This one was a pretty big let down for me. After finishing this I'm still not sure what kind of girl Lena Dunham isn't.
    • 3/5
      I enjoyed Not That Kind of Girl a lot - so much I pretty much read it in one sitting. I read 2/3 of the book and was thinking to myself that I cannot relate to anything whatsoever (not the sexcapades, fear of sleeping alone, being assured by a bag full of medicine), but in Part 5, when Lena Dunham talks about her childhood memories of being afraid of death and hypochondria, I felt like I could have written a lot of those things. Same with the part about fitness and health or the lack of it, really. She does talk about a lot of life's challenges and problems in a very easy manner, like they are not a big deal, which I like, otherwise the book would have been quite depressing. I would not categorize it as "humour", though. It is at times so cynical and ironic that it seems almost sad, but in a understandable, relatable, been-there-done-that kind of way.Cannot say I took a lot from the book, which is why I rated it 3/5.
    • 3/5
      It took me three months to read this book.I think the first third is really tough going. The anecdotes are not that entertaining and there is just so much navel gazing - I found it really hard to get through. Around the halfway point I found it a quick read. The stories were good and I found myself happy to pick it up. Towards the end I really liked the essays on camp - but sort of loathed the ones on death. Maybe that is just a personal thing - but I just found them really plodding and just too much.I read the whole thing, so it definitely wasn't all bad. I just had expected it to be zippier.
    • 4/5
      I listened to Lena Dunham read this on audio. I laughed a lot and was happy I am not her mother.
    • 1/5
      White girl wrote a book.
    • 5/5
      This book is a spectacular and engaging book by a young woman who is smart, creative, charming, honest, raw, funny, and complicated. It is a book that does what art should do: it makes you feel. It makes you feel understanding and empathy, it makes you feel understood and "normal" because someone else feels all the weird things you feel that you're not "supposed" to feel. It makes you feel uncomfortable and challenged, it makes you feel inspired and curious. This book is a book all young women should read, a book I wish I had to read as a young woman. "When you run away, the point is not to escape. You aren't actually trying to disappear. You just want to attract your mother. The great fantasy is that she's somewhere, watching, like the mother in Runaway Bunny who becomes the tree, then becomes the lake, then becomes the moon. Your mother becomes the mini backpack and becomes the loaf of bread and becomes the Devon Sawa poster above it where you go to sulk after it's all over. She knows. She knows."
    • 4/5
      Lena Dunham is the creator, executive producer, writer, director, and actress of the HBO series Girls and this is a book of her personal essays on life, sexuality, dating, obsessions, anxiety and just about everything in between. It is creative, observant, and deeply funny while at the same time deeply sad. She is a creative force whether you appreciate her subject matter or not.