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Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart
Written by Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., Donald H. Baucom, Ph.D. and Kristina Coop Gordon, Ph.D.
Narrated by Coleen Marlo
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About this audiobook
Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that's been tested-and proven-to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you'll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you'll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future.
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Reviews for Getting Past the Affair
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Don't have big expectations of books like this. They can't put your life back together. Just don't cheat. And if it's too late, just don't cheat again. And if you're literally driving to your lover's house as you check LibraryThing on your iPhone, turn the hell around and go home, or someplace alone to think, or whatever you have to do. Just don't do the wrong thing. Consider it a personal favour to me.
If you're trying to put your life back together, you could try books like this, I guess. Just don't be surprised if it's not enough. And be prepared to accept that your relationship may already be over.
I don't envy you. Good luck.