The Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting Playbook

Tenet One

We realize we are vastly more than our body

WITH THIS TENET WE

begin the walk out of limitation

learn where our identity comes from

open the door to true self-responsibility

plant the first seeds toward accepting our own divinity

Principle #1 We are thought manifested into a life form

We think we are our bodies; we are not. We think we are our problems, or our ancestors, or our many identities. We are not. We are not our sex, or our illnesses, or our desires. We are not our loves, our pains, or our addictions. What we are is a piece of the All That Is, sired by the light, in order that the isness might experience itself greater than it was before.

We are the embodiment of a love so vast, so incomprehensible, that we run from its power. Yet that power is what we are.

We are the higher power that is greater than ourselves.

We are a marvelous creation of mind in matter.

We are the ongoingness and foreverness of everything that is.

We are a portion of the infinite, a piece of God destined to wake up one day and remember just that.

We are incomprehensible forces of energy living for now inside physical instruments, because that is what we chose to do.

We are a portion of the whole; therefore what God is, is what we are.

We are power centers of unlimited magnificence, supreme intelligences who have never been separated from our source, for we are that source.

We are what we look outside ourselves to find.

We are the love we seek, the joy for which we yearn, the fervor of life we think we have lost. Our longing is but the pressing call of our soul to wake up, and to remember. This, then, is our grand journey home.

The Longing Exercise

Understanding what our strange longings have felt like over the years, and how we handled them, helps to clear away any doubts we may have about beginning this journey back to remembrance.

Most of us have felt something was missing in our lives, that there had to be far more to it than a paycheck, a two-car ga-rage, 2.5 kids, and matching towel sets. There was an emptiness we haven't understood and have rarely spoken about, a hollowness we yearned to fill, but never did—or could.

The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to seek to remember who and what we are. The only way we will ever fill that longing is to walk into our own power and accept our divinity while we relish our physicalness.

Discuss and/or Journal

What is thought to you?

Where does it come from?

How do we originate it?

What does it do? What is its purpose?

Can it harm us? Can it help us? How?

What does this mean: We are thought manifested into life-form?

What we are is pure, raw, source material manifested into form to learn and understand how to manipulate that energy in physicality. Pure, raw, source material is thought in its highest (frequency) form. Social consciousness is impure source material in one of its lowest (frequency) forms. Either way, we are source material manifested into form.

Who cares anyhow? If we want to stop struggling, we had darn-well better care. If we want to stop pain, we had better care! If we want to create our lives in any way other than what they are right now, we have got to care.

So here's how it comes down: We are not our bodies; we are energy. We are electromagnetic beings, sending out electromagnetic waves that come from our emotions. Every thought we embrace has its own frequency, bringing back to us exactly what we send out. We are not our body; we are mind IN body.

Realize that your present difficulty is only a small part of you, and the rest of you is doing quite well, thank you.

The Blow 'em Up Exercise

Before we can fill that longing and walk into our own divinity, we have to do some dumping.

Jot down anything you can think of in your life today that you'd like to get rid of, dump, or blow up. Emotional pains, economic struggles, family problems, etc. (Leave the past out for now; we'll get to that later.)

Principle #2 We are not our problems

All those things you listed in the previous exercise are just good old-fashioned problems. Until we can at least entertain the idea that we are greater than our bodies, we will continue to live for only one thing in life: our problems!

We think we are our bodies, and we think we are our problems. Of course, we are neither. Yet holding on to our problems is the very thing that keeps us from filling that longing inside. Once we find our inner core, once we come to know our true Selves, problems vanish. That's what this Playbook is about! But before going on, we need to know where our problems come from in the first place!

Discuss and/or Journal

What do you think a problem is?

Could you describe one of yours in just one sentence?

How do you think we get problems?

Why do you think we have them?

The Emotion Exercise, Part I

First, let's look at the many emotions some of these problems bring up.

Make a list of all the common negative emotions we live with day to day, such as fear, worry, remorse, etc.

The Emotion Exercise, Part II

Deeply and sincerely feel— feeeeel—what it would be like to live without any of those emotions. Share, write, or tell yourself out loud what it felt like without them. Be honest. Was it terrific? Or was it boring and monotonous? Every one of those feelings is a problem! Everything you listed on the previous page is a problem. We are addicted to those feelings. But if they're so uncomfortable, why do we keep them around? It's simple …

We will never know the greatness of our Selves until we know the source of our pain and struggle, so we are going to look hard at what controls us.

Problems give us our identity!

Problems are our number one addiction.

We are addicted to negative feelings.

Our lives are a constant acting out of our addictions.

We live for our addiction to our problems, day in and day out.

Problems give us security.

They are like old friends: known …familiar … predictable.

Problems give meaning to a life without purpose.

To the degree that we deny our true essence, will we have problems.

Problems and blame go hand in hand.

Because we don't understand how we get what we get, we blame others.

We place blame outside of us for most events in our lives.

The surest way to maintain problems is to maintain blame!

Problems come from our beliefs.

Beliefs form our reality (as we will come to see).

Beliefs carry powerful emotions.

And emotion is what causes the experience (as we will find out).

The belief creates the problem!

Every belief we have carries its own emotion.

It's the emotion of the belief that's the culprit.

It's the emotion behind the belief that magnetically attracts.

A belief is a thought, and thought creates emotion.

Beliefs make up our subconscious.

Whatever we believe, we live.

Whatever we believe, we attract.

Or… whatever we believe, we repel.

Beliefs create our reality.

If we believe a thing, the effect will follow, no matter what.

If we believe a thing, we will experience what we believe.

Until we can control our beliefs, they will control us.

Belief Exercise, Part I

Everything we're doing on these next four pages has to do with beliefs. Fear, blame, if-onlys: they are all powerful beliefs we hold that continue to form our experience day after day. Take blame. Because we don't understand why we can't get what we want, we usually blame others for our not having it. That's a belief.

Putting down what you think you should write will accomplish nothing. There is no right or wrong here, but your deeply truthful response will be your most important step toward realizing how far we all go to maintain our powerlessness. You will refer to these exercises often, so please, dig down! NOTE: Do the left column BEFORE filling in the other two: then go back and quickly fill in the two right columns.

Belief Exercise, Part II

By placing blame outside of ourselves we give up choice, we look to others to make us feel better, we give up control, and we give our power away.

We all have a pocketful of if-onlys: If only I had …, If only I could …, If only I hadn't …, If only they had …, If only it would …, If only we could …, If only she/he/it had …, If only we were …, If only they would …. Blame is just another form of belief. As we change our beliefs, we change our experience. Try not to skimp on this; we can't change our lives until we change our beliefs.

Explanation Break

If this Tenet is about us being more than our bodies, how come we're into all this stuff about beliefs, beliefs, beliefs?

Here's how come: We touched on it lightly, but now let's really look at it. If we can swallow the notion that our beliefs create our experience, that our entire physical environment is the materialization of our beliefs, that our beliefs form every moment of our reality, and that if we really believe a thing, the effect will follow whether we want it to or not … well, if we can ultimately swallow all that, we just might realize how unimaginably powerful we are.

Sure, a lot—if not most—of our beliefs have come from others, but until we can see that we are not at their mercy unless we believe we are, we remain in that vicious circle where we're constantly reinforcing all the stuff we're trying so desperately to change. And wondering why it's not happening!

Here's the bottom line: Until we can completely and unequivocally accept the idea that our beliefs form our reality, our reality is not going to change. Period! And we will never, but never, come to believe that we are any greater than these dear bodies. Yes, the bodies are a wonder, but they are simply not what we are. Never have been, never will be. So if we can match up at least some of our beliefs with some of our problems, and vice versa, we just might be willing to accept that we are ever so much more than our bodies.

Two kinds of beliefs

Universal: These are the beliefs common to many, such as humans will always kill, or you have to work hard to get ahead. These are the ones we build our lives from. Because they are so common, they are also powerful, making them a major influence in our daily affairs.

Personal: Yours alone, such as I'm too fat, or I'm not handsome.

It doesn't matter a hoot how many of each kind of belief you list in these next two exercises, only that you are aware of how much the beliefs of others—that you have adopted as your own—control your life. Do everything you can to connect a belief to a life experience. Perhaps a belief is Short men are rotten lovers. Or Women aren't as smart as men. Or I'll never get ahead financially. Any kind of habitual thoughts you have that are limiting. Ready? Go for it.

Belief Exercise, Part III-a

Everything you listed in Part I and II is a problem that came from a belief. And every negative belief you hold causes some kind of problem. This exercise will clearly show how we run our lives—so unnecessarily—from our beliefs.

This is one of the most important exercises in this Playbook. Please! Take time, feel it through, go way back, be honest. This could be a long list, so use extra pages in your notebook, if necessary.

When you finally understand that you can generate that which you have been desperately looking for outside of yourself, you become the master of your life.

Belief Exercise Part III-b

Now we turn it around. Please note that these pages have not been put side by side, facing each other. That's for a very good reason. Start as fresh as you can with a new problem, one not listed on the other page. This will conjure up a fresh belief. You might not be able to finish these two exercises in one day (III-a and b), but keep adding to the list as you think of more throughout the days.

HOMEWORK: Belief Busting

How do we get rid of those beliefs we now see as destructive? One way is to play let's pretend to generate the emotion opposite the one that comes from the belief you want to change.

One-a-day

The more often you generate that new feeling, the faster you'll change what you want to change. Every day pick a belief you hold about yourself (whether universal or personal) and conjure up the opposite feeeeeling. One-a-day! For instance, let's say you believe yourself to be a people-pleaser. So you conjure up the feeeeeling of saying No, or walking away, or letting someone get their own coffee. If you believe yourself to be shy, conjure up the feeeeeling of being gregarious, interested in people, a good conversationalist, etc. Pretend. Ask your guidance for help, and then STAY ALERT for the miracles that will begin to happen.

Stay alert for the miracles that will begin to happen

One-a-week

If you've got a real stickler, work on it for a whole week. Play. Have fun. Conjure up new images that bring up new feelings. As you'll soon see, feeeeelings are what make this all happen, because as you feel, you become. The more you do this homework, you will literally create a new internal blueprint from the neuro-pathways that are being imprinted in your brain. But you must get into it emotionally, or it will just be a waste of time. If you don't feeeeel it, forget it!

Now be physical

When you're ready, take this to the next level and physically act out the opposite of what you want to change. You're still pretending, but now you are energy in motion, creating new pathways for your brain to respond to.

For instance … shy? Then smile at someone. Believe you are poor? Then put a fifty-dollar bill in your wallet. Believe you are a timid speaker? Then get in front of your mirror and cut loose.

Imagination is the closest we get to divinity in physicality. So imagine! Be sure to always generate the new emotion that is opposite the old one. Do this regularly, and you will soon find yourself becoming a deliberate—rather than accidental—creator of your experience. And always, always, make this fun!

Change the feeling, and you'll change the belief.

Principle #3 What we see in the mirror is only an instrument

For ease of reference now, we're going to call that vaster portion of ourselves our entity. It is the unlimited and indefinable being we truly are, reaching far beyond our limited ideas of God. So, if this vast something is what we really are, what is it we see when we look in the mirror?

Deep inside each of us is a little spark that is incomprehensibly powerful. That little spark is what we are, for it is a piece of our entity. It is All That Is, learning to experience more of itself in this wondrous thing called a body. Inside us, our entity can explore its potential and understand more of what it is, meaning more of what we are.

However, let's not downplay the body. While it is nowhere near the totality of what we are, it holds the knowledge of all that has ever been or ever existed anywhere in any universe. Our journey, then, is to get the two together, entity and body. This is the journey home, the journey into remembrance, the journey back to