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“A brainy, beautiful braid of stories about three generations of a Muslim family. This book…will go a long way toward deconstructing stereotypes about American Muslims, and that, on top of its value as a work of fiction, makes it a treasure.” — Minneapolis Star Tribune

A brilliant bestselling debut novel from author Nafisa Haji, The Writing on My Forehead describes one woman’s struggle with the Indo-Pakistani traditions of her family and her own independence. The San Francisco Chronicle calls Nafisa Haji a “talented new writer of sense and a distinct sensibility,” and Khaled Hosseini, beloved author of The Kite Runner and A Thousand Splendid Suns, calls The Writing on My Forehead “a moving meditation… lyrical and touching.”

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PublisherHarperCollins
Release dateOct 6, 2009
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Writing on My Forehead: A Novel
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Nafisa Haji

Nafisa Haji's first novel, The Writing on My Forehead, was a finalist for the Northern California Independent Booksellers Association Book of the Year Award. An American of Indo-Pakistani descent, she was born and raised in Los Angeles and now lives in northern California with her husband and son.

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  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    A family and social history of an Indian / Pakistani family and American decendants told through the eyes of Saira. I did get confused with some of the aunties, cousins names but started to get it by the end. A lot of the plot is told as stories from the past, the stories of Big Nanima's life and how women have advanced in India. And stories of her mother's and father's past . Saira's mother is a strong person trying to mesh old fashion traditions into her two daughter's lives. A family and social history.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    This is the second book by this author I have read. Intriguing, enlightening, thought-provoking storytelling. Beautiful language and imagery. Love every minute of reading it!!
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    Such a beautiful read! I enjoyed this novel very much.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    Excelente historia que muestra los lazos familiares y sus costumbres
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    a heart wrenching tale.. the emotions are so beautifully captured that you cannot help wiping your moist eyes while traversing the life of Saira and her choices.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    Such a good read. Such an unexpected ending, and made me cry. Won’t regret this book
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    “Bearing witness” to the story of a young girl reluctant to follow a life bound by culture, hate or love, Instead courageous enough to pave her forward.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    Excellent storytelling!
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    There were a few places that I thought Haji got away from the actually story to teach us something and occasionally the story got confusing to follow. But the more I read, the harder it was to put this one down.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    Seem to be interesting book about women in hidden world
  • Rating: 3 out of 5 stars
    3/5
    Educated me about India, but lacked a strong plot.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    LOVED this book! At one point in the story, I thought I had missed something very important. I was going to go back and re-read but decided to just keep moving forward. It was revealed in the end. There was so much Indian/Pakistani culture to learn about in this wonderful story!
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    I was completely taken by this beautifully written debut Novel by Nafisa Haji to the point that I had to read it twice to fully savour the rich prose with which this author writes. The Writing on My Forehead(which in many cultures denotes "destiny" or "kismet" --- a hidden meaning as the author uses a more literal reference in the book)is a mesmerizing story about Saira Qader, a rebellious second-generation immigrant woman, and her journey to find herself, to come to terms with a recent haunting tradegy, and above all to give meaning to her life. As a journalist travelling all over the world to bear witness, she revisits, unearths, learns from, and is inspired by the "devilish details" in the wisdom of old multi-generational stories of her family that grew up in the Indian Sub Continent---stories of courage, scandals, and independence. This book has rich, complex, yet touchable characters that come to life and stay with the reader much after the last page. For a debut novel, this is a six star performance and I remain eager to read more from this author in years to come. Highly recommended !!!
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    I loved the characters in this book, the chief one being Saira Qader a Muslim American of Indo-Pakistanin descent. She did not want to follow the traditional expected path like her sister Ameena who married and had a daughter. She chose instead to become a journalist and travel the world. She identified especially with her favourite Aunt who had also bucked the system. But after five years travelling the world tragedy stirkes her family and she is forced to look again at the decisions she has made and work out how to deal with the future. She realises that sometines choice is taken away from us and we are lead in an unexpected direction.As she is grappling with the turmoil we hear from her the stories of other members of her family and the different ways their lives have taken them - her grandparents and her parents and her Aunts and sister and we have a great picture of the whole family over the years. We learn of secrets kept and lies told. An absorbing read.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    An involving depiction of a young Muslim-American woman growing up caught between two cultures and deciding on her life's path. Packs a bit too much in as far as experiences but well written and engrossing. Great details about Pakistani and Indian and Muslim culture.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    As you can guess, the cultural meat in this book is so juicy and I love it. I love reading about other cultures and learning. It is just so interesting to me. I liked learning about Saira because she was the rebellious one, the black sheep, so to speak, and I am definitely that person in my own family.But Saira's rebellious nature is not the only aspect I liked about her. I like the way Haji had Saira deal with the conflict between being both American and Indo-Pakistani. I like the way Saira and her sister, Ameena, are complete opposites, yet they are sisters to the end. I loved Big Nanima, who was a beloved great aunt of Saira. They were so much alike and I would have loved to have a Big Nanima in my younger years who could help me feel more confident in my being my own person and not caring so much what everyone else thinks and says. I identified with Saira when she lost a parent and I empathized when nearly everything she knew came to a dramatic halt and she had to change everything to acclimate.I think Haji wrote a beautiful, passionate, and impressive first novel. There were times when Saira would go off on a tangent that was not necessarily helping the story to move along. But overall I thought it very well-written and a book I can recommend.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    Great twist at the end :)I really enjoyed this novel, it started off well and just kept getting better - until at the end we discover something that I never would have guessed. That, for me, is the sure sign of a good book.The central character is Saira, the younger sister of Ameena. Although Ameena is very happy in her arranged marriage to Shuja, this is not enough to convince Saira that she wants to settle down to married life. Living in America, travelling to Pakistan, Saira also has relatives in London; she has absorbed much of her Pakistani culture while simultaneously becoming a young American. This of course causes internal conflicts but also provides a huge supportive extended family. I loved the feel of this worldwide family with its many wonderful characters. The huge network was ultimately responsible for providing Saira with her career choices and one of her relationships and in spite of calamities along the way had a wonderful 'feel-good' quality.The story begins with Saira as a young girl and takes us through her days as a student and eventually an international journalist.The title is beautifully apropriate, also evoking the closeness of the family.I can't believe this is the author's first book, I hope she won't leave it too long to write another.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    I received this book from a Goodreads first reads giveaway. I signed up for several books that looked interesting, and was excited to hear I was selected for this one.I found this book both entertaining and thought provoking. In one sense, this is the story of Saira and her sister. It is the story of of a girl growing into a woman and of the meeting of cultures. It is also the story of an extended family, and many other sibling pairs within it. More than anything else, it is a story of relationships.Saira is a child of Indo-Pakistani immigrants to the US. Her sister seems to be quite happy in the role she is cast into by their parents' culture, but that just isn't the person that Saira is meant to be. Even as a young child, Saira always wants to know "why" and always pushes at her prescribed boundaries. A trip to Pakistan at age 13 introduces Saira to some of her extended family and her family's history. She continues asking "why", and begins to hear the stories of the relationships that helped form who her parents are, and to form their attitudes towards her sister and herself. These come together as she grows older and begins to experience a run of tragedies, ending with one hinted at in the beginning of the book.I found almost all of the characters interesting, likable (in their own way), and individual. In spite of each character having his/her own personality, each pairing (sibling or romantic) contains an echo from other relationships in the family, through different times and locations. Going into this book, I didn't know very much about the history of the relationship between India and Pakistan. Although I was glad to know more, I was saddened to think about how much strife is going on in that part of the world, and reflect on the breadth of it. This is a theme touched on briefly in the book.The writing was very good. There were a few points where it felt clumsy, or where the reader was told things perhaps we should have been left to discover on our own, but these were rare. For the most part, the writing stayed out of my way, which I appreciate in a book.I'd recommend this book, and will keep my eyes out for others by the author. I give it a high 4 stars, wishing once again for half stars.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    Opening with the adult Saira's longing for the comfort of her mother as she walks down the hall to check on her sister's daughter, this novel is one of family, tradition, and secrets and it quickly turns back in time to Saira's childhood. As the American-born younger daughter of strict, traditional Muslim, Indo-Pakistani parents, Saira never quite fits the image of the girl and then the woman that her cultural heritage insists she be, not like her older sister Ameena. She has no desire to grow up and marry well, being more interested in living a life of freedom, as exemplified by her unmarried, but self-sufficient, much-beloved great aunt back in Pakistan. Her desire for an education and a less constrained life bring her into conflict with her mother especially, a woman who is determined to create for Saira the same contented, married life sister Ameena has embraced. But Saira rebels in small and large ways, especially after her journey back to Pakistan for a cousin's wedding where she uncovers family secrets, the consequences of which continue to reverberate far past the borders of Pakistan. The secrets give her a different view of life, but they also, ultimately, intrigue her in a way that finding a suitable husband does not. And so Saira follows her own path, deviating from what is expected, becoming a journalist, focused on the small details, the bearing witness. But just as she bears witness to others' suffering in war torn areas around the globe, she will be drawn back in to her family's intimate life when tragedy strikes.Haji's novel is beautifully written, taking on identity and family in the context of the second generation, that generation still so tied to the culture from whence their parents came but oftentimes wanting to assimilate, rejecting their cultural history partially or in full. Saira is in a difficult position, both American and Indo-Pakistani and so many outside forces, current and historical, contributed to her character, the Partition of India, the Western concept of love, the Muslim faith and its tenets, the culture of the American teenager. She is a character who is completely appealing and as she reveals her story and that of the neglected family secrets, I was drawn into a world both like and unlike mine in so many ways. The characters felt real though some of the revelations towards the end of the novel, mostly about Saira's generation, were quite obvious and predictable at least to me, including the one involving Saira herself. Haji has taken the story of a family and skillfully woven major events in the modern histories of India, Pakistan, and the United States into the more personal narrative. Only when cousin Mohsin is regaling Saira with their shared grandfather's service with Gandhi does the history seem to overwhelm the story itself, becoming more a history lesson than a piece of a fictional plot. It feels at this point as if this is inserted in its entirety for an audience who can't be assumed to know about Gandhi, the British Raj, and the Partition at all. And perhaps that's a fair assessment of the English speaking and reading public but it is the only time the novel descends into the didactic, generally preferring instead, to let the personal speak for the universal, and doing it successfully. The ending of the novel feels a bit rushed, as if Saira is more comfortable telling the story of a more distant past than of her years outside the family fold, the immediate past, and so the deaths and her grief have, perhaps a bit less of an impact than they could have had if her more current life been included more in the plot. But overall, Haji has written an insightful book on family and relationship and the complexities of both. She has created characters who are not "other" but are us, despite differences in cultural expectation and superficialities. The book is engrossing and despite minor flaws, flows pretty seamlessly through until the reader turns the last page and sets it aside, still thinking about some of the issues it raised. Those who value insights into the Indo-Pakistani culture will find much to revel in here. And those who enjoy novels limning the difficult balancing act that second generation children face, caught as they are between two strong cultures, will enjoy this novel of one of these children who is still, and always will be, balancing culture, tradition, and history with the new, the sometimes forbidden, and the different.
  • Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    5/5
    Nafisa Haji's The Writing on my Forehead transports readers into another culture and the struggles that members find themselves in as the world around them evolves, causing clashes between modernity and the past. Told from the point of view of Saira, readers are taken on a very personal journey into the past, uncovering the deep secrets of Saira's grandmother and grandfather as well as her own parents. The dynamic between Saira and her sister is only partially shown, with the point of view of Ameena silent. From fate to choices, each character must follow their path to the end -- no matter what it holds for them."I close my eyes and imagine the touch of my mother's hand on my forehead, smoothing away the residue of childhood nightmares. Her finger moves across my forehead, tracing letters and words of prayer that I never understood, never wanted to understand, her mouth whispering in nearly silent accompaniment. Now, waking from the nightmare that has become routine -- bathed in sweat, breathing hard, resigned to the sleeplessness that will follow -- I remember her soothing touch and appreciate it with an intensity that I never felt when she was alive." (Page 1)Saira grows into an independent woman who is running from her culture and tradition to find herself grasping for it in the darkest moments of her life. As an American with a strong Pakistani-Indian heritage and a mother reminiscent of Mrs. Bennet in Pride & Prejudice, it is no wonder that she rebels against tradition and culture to become a traveling journalist."I shudder, now, to think of how my mother, trying hard and failing to be subtle, got the word of my availability -- accompanied, I learned later, by a full-size, glossy headshot -- out on the proverbial 'street' where desi families gathered and speculated, assessed and collated young people into the 'happily ever after' that getting married was supposed to promise." (Page 191)Haji's prose is eloquent and engages not only the readers' sensibilities and emotions, but their inquisitive nature as family secrets are unraveled. Saira is a complex character who searches for a center, an axis on which she can revolve and become grounded. While she is connected to family, like Mohsin and Big Nanima, throughout her life because they are in effect the outsiders of a culture she rejects, she continues to struggle with her other relations -- her sister, Ameena, her mother and her father -- because they represent to her a culture she finds limiting. The Writing on my Forehead provides a variety of topics for discussion from political imperialism and its consequences to the tension between the modern world and tradition and the modern dilemmas facing adolescents striking out on their own to the loss of family -- making this an excellent book club selection that will inspire debate and introspection.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    I found this book a bit difficult to get into...it opens with a dispute between two sisters. Their mother chastises the younger one for being too boisterous and impulsive. I felt sorry for the younger daughter growing up in such a restrictive domestic environment where gender very much determined your life choices and how you must behave. But the author weaves her tale very cleverly and before too long I was barracking for the rebellious younger daughter and intrigued by her murky family history as told by alternatively gossipy aunts or sage great-aunts. This story kept me guessing to the end. I don't think it's great literature - at times the writing annoyed me with its Mills and Boons style- but the story was worth telling. How much control do we have over our destiny and what do we do/how do we respond when s..t happens?
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    "The Writing on my Forehead" is the story of Saira, a Muslim-American woman of Indian/ Pakistani descent. Saira grows up torn between the traditional expectations of a woman in her culture-- marriage and children-- and her own desires to be independent. As her life unfolds, Saira finds herself forging her own path in ways that her more traditional relatives do not always approve of. As she creates her life, she is also drawn into the stories of her family's past. The novel moves easily between past and present, and the author beautifully uses the family's stories to illustrate the idea that no matter where you go, your family and culture are always part of who you are. There are times when the plot twists are somewhat predictable, but even when you think you know what's coming next, the writing is completely engrossing and lyrical. There was never a moment that I felt like I was waiting for the "good part" with this book; it was utterly compelling from beginning to end.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    It took me a while to start enjoying “The Writing on My Forehead”. Though I realized this at the time, my copy gives me further proof in that the first marker I placed denoting something I wanted to comment on was on Page 71.Until then, I hadn’t felt much from or about the character. The words and the story were interesting enough, but there wasn’t much…energy, or life behind them. And then finally,“Something flickered in my mother’s eyes. Suddenly, the person I had though of as my biggest obstacle switched sides to become my biggest ally. The first sign of support came in the form of silence. That night, my mother offered no further argument against my going.” Although it’s not the main character, young Saira Qadar that says these words, it is in this scene that it felt like she started to really think about things bigger than herself, started to realize what members of her family had experienced in their lives, started to understand that they had an impact on her life, on the choices she would face.This book is story about the past and the future…letting go of one and making the decision to move into the other. Saira’s story seems mostly that of an observer…a passive one at first, and then one that moves into the stories and sometimes changes them irrevocably.A character that enters her life much later on says it far better than I. “Fiction is truer than journalism, you ask? But journalism is based on facts. Facts. What could be truer than facts? Well, facts are often disparate and contradictory. Their complexity eludes our understanding. How to assimilate them – these unruly, misshapen entities? Journalists are reporters. Reporters are supposed to report. The temptation to do more than report is irresistible, however – all for a good cause, of course. To clarify, explain, contextualize – to help people understand what we ourselves do not.”I love the idea of facts as “unruly, misshapen entities”. So often facts are portrayed as cold, unchangeable, set in stone. But facts, especially those about and within the lives of human beings, are rarely ever the same when seen through different eyes.“In journalism, truth is too easily rendered irrelevant, subject to the design and construction of facts. In fiction, facts are irrelevant, subject to the storyteller’s quest for truth.”Saira, as she moves through the lives of her grandparents, parents, relatives and the world beyond, experiences firsthand the great divide that can live between facts and truth. And as she does so, the emotion, the feeling behind her words is finally revealed.“…in journalism, you have to maintain your distance. You can’t bear witness if your eyes are full of tears.”That distance proves to be very difficult for Saira, especially when it comes to the big secret of the novel (that’s not a secret at ALL so it bothered me how carefully Haji was trying to write her way around it). As Saira grows up, the facts she discovers come with a price. As she becomes more involved in the story that is her life, she starts to understand how sometimes it is impossible to make a choice that is right on all counts. Most choices are right for some people and once made, seem incredibly wrong to others.“And is that not something you will regret? Later?” Her question was in the wrong tense. The answer I repressed was a bittersweet mixture of regret and remorse already realized, processed and assimilated into who I was. Later was not something I worried much about.”By the end of the book, I cared a great deal for Saira, and although mine is a life very different from hers…I felt that I’d been shown a great many truths. There is some joy and a great deal of sorrow in this book, but in the end there is the story of a girl who becomes a woman…in a family and a world she may not completely understand, but is determined to experience .
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    The Writing on my Forehead, by Nafisa Haji, is a gratifying and powerful debut novel by a talented new novelist. It is a splendid, stirring, cross-cultural tale with multifaceted psychological overtones. The book covers twelve years in the life of Saira Qader, an American of Indo-Pakistani heritage brought up in a traditional Muslim family—a family with many secrets. We enter the book at its end when the main character is introduced to us as a twenty-six-year-old woman in psychological turmoil, a woman tormented by recurring nightmares that the reader does not understand. We are drawn into the mystery of what is occurring, and are compelled to follow the story as it is metered out to us in chronological vignettes starting when Saira is fourteen years old. Saira's story is the story of her family, their relations to each other, and to the country and culture of their birth. This is a family that has suffered and survived many divisions. The book chronicles those divisions and gives them heart-rending depth. The story is emotionally satisfying with an unexpected ending that haunts the readers for many days after the last page is turned. The novel is written as if it were a memoir. I started the novel knowing full well that this was a fictional tale, but soon got caught up in the false reality of the memoir. This literary effect was so successful that, three-quarters way through the novel, there was a scene that caused me to turn back to the cover and assure myself that I was, indeed, reading a novel and not a true-life tale. In that part of the book, Saira asks her career journalist and novelist boyfriend to read and critique some of her creative writing. He returns with this backhanded praise. "You are a leech, Miss Saira. You have stolen the stories of your family and made them yours... You are too presumptuous, putting words in the mouths and feelings in the hearts of people that you have no way of knowing are accurate. Yet, you have done it in a way that seems to honor them, with such sympathy that I can almost forgive your literary hubris." As I read these words now for a second time, I am struck with how accurately they describe this work...as if the author was having fun with the reader and honestly critiquing her own novel. If so, Haji shows excellent insight into her own creation. I am impressed by the author's writing style. It is fresh and vivid. She allows nothing to detract from the delicate methodical unfolding of the plot. Haji is a storyteller. Her prose manages to be elegant without drawing attention to itself—and that style suits this book very well. I chair a contemporary literature book group and I plan to suggest that the group read this novel. The book leaves the reader with many unanswered questions. I am sure that our book group will enjoy reading this work, and that it will provide an excellent springboard for a fascinating group discussion.
  • Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
    4/5
    The Writing on My Forehead is a family history told from the perspective of Saira, a young woman who has grown up in LA and is the daughter of immigrants from India and Pakistan. The novel starts with Saira looking in on her young sleeping niece and then flashes back to Saira's own childhood. The novel then traces the next 30 years of Saira's life--from childhood to adulthood--and her struggles against the rigid Muslim and Indo-Pakistani traditions of her family. As Saira learns more about her family history, she is more set upon defying the traditions that surround her. By the time Saira has reached adulthood she is a successful journalist hiding a huge family secret that will blow up in the turbulent days following 9/11. Nafisa Haji's writing in this novel is crisp and fluid--she moves easily from one topic to the next and her descriptions make the reader feel as though she is traveling Saira's life journey with her. Haji does a wonderful job of unfolding Saira's personal story and her family's larger story on parallel narrative threads. The interaction between the generations is wonderful, and you get a sense of the complicated task of growing up in a large interconnected family. The novel has wonderful pacing until the last 50 pages, when it feels like the novel is rushed to the end. I wish the author had spent more time with the conclusion of the story, because it was so rich, I reached the end wanting more. Overall, I really enjoyed this book. If you enjoyed The Kite Runner or The Namesake, you will enjoy this book.