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Barbara Johnson's approach to life is positive, uplifting, theraputic, and fun. But Barbara is far from being a cockeyed optimist, blind to life's grief and disappointment. In fact, her entire ministry of joy and encouragement began in the "slimy cesspool" of her own pain. And that's why her laughter is so infectious and her wisdom rings so true in this joy-giving book, which offers giggles and guidance to help you:
- shore up sinking self-esteem
- reach the other side of your grief
- weather your stress and get rid of your guilt
- restore the joys of motherhood
- sustain an effective prayer life
- make peace with aging and go for healthy maturity
"Almost everyone needs a splash of joy to get through the mess, to get cleaned off and get sweetened up, refreshed and ready to go again," Barbara Johnson says. With short chapters intended to be read in one sitting-plus a collection of quips and quotes at the close of each chapter-Splashes of Joy offers invigorating encouragment and a gentle reminder to spread joy into the lives of others as well.
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Barbara Johnson was the founder of Spatula Ministries, a coauthor of various Women of Faith devotionals, and the author of numerous bestselling books, including Boomerang Joy, Living Somewhere between Estrogen and Death, and Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy.
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Splashes of Joy in the Cesspools of Life - Barbara Johnson
Splashes
of Joy
in the Cesspools
of Life
Splashes
of Joy
in the Cesspools
of Life
BARBARA JOHNSON
Splashes_0003_001SPLASHES OF JOY IN THE CESSPOOLS OF LIFE
Copyright© 1992 by Barbara Johnson. All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced in any form, except for brief quotations in reviews, without written permission from the publisher.
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Scripture quotations used in this book are from the following sources:
The King James Version of the Bible (KJV).
The Holy Bible, New International Version (NIV) Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.
The New King James Version (NKJV). Copyright© 1979, 1980, 1982, Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publisher.
The Revised Standard Version of the Bible (RSV), copyrighted 1946, 1952,© 1971, 1973 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the U.S.A. Used by permission.
The Living Bible (TLB). Copyright© 1971 by Tyndale House Publishers, Wheaton, Illinois. Used by permission.
The Holy Bible, New Century Version (NCV). Copyright© 1987, 1988, 1991 by Word Publishing, Dallas, Texas 75039. Used by permission.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Johnson, Barbara (Barbara E.)
Splashes of joy in the cesspools of life / Barbara Johnson.
p. cm.
ISBN 0–8499–0698–9 (tp)
ISBN 0–8499–3313–7 (sc)
1. Women—Religious life. 2. Women—Conduct of life. 3. Johnson, Barbara (Barbara E.) I. Title.
BV4527.J62 1992
248.8’43—dc20
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Printed in the United States of America
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This book is dedicated to my OLDER and THINNER sister, Janet, who has fondly called me Punk
for as long as I can remember. Her best quality is her tender heart. When our kids were small, Janet and I took them to see the movie The Adventures of Tom Sawyer at a drive-in theater. It was much too violent for her. When Tom’s Aunt Polly thumped him on the head with her thimble for being mischievous, Janet made us leave. But she has always been there for me, as she has for so many others. She cries easily (but always appropriately), and she will surely cry when she reads this excerpt from Carey Martin’s essay, What Is a Sister?
which is especially true for her:
A sister is one of the most precious people in the story of your life. Together, you have shared some of the most special moments two people have ever shared. A sister is a perspective on the past, and she’s a million favorite memories that will always last. A sister is a photograph that is one of your most treasured possessions. She’s a note that arrives on a special day, and when there’s news to share, she’s the first one you want to call. A sister is a reminder of the blessings that come from closeness.
A sister is a confidante and a counselor. She’s a dear and wonderful friend, and—in certain ways—something like a twin. She’s a hand within your hand; she’s so often the only one who understands.
What is a sister? She’s someone more special than words; someone beautiful and unique. And in so many ways, there is no one who is loved so dearly.
Other Books by Barbara Johnson
Where Does a Mother Go to Resign?
Fresh Elastic for Stretched-Out Moms
Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy
Pack Up Your Gloomees in a Great Big Box,
Then Sit on the Lid and Laugh
Mama, Get the Hammer, There's
a Fly on Papa's Head
Splashes_0006_001Look for the Barbara Johnson Joy Box wherever
Barbara Johnson products are sold.
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Acknowledgments
Introduction
Barb, I Need a Splash of Your Joy . . .
1
Smile! It Kills Time Between Disasters
2
How to Lay Down Your Agonies
and Pick Up Your Credentials
3
We Must Understand That It Is Not
Always Necessary to Understand
4
Wherever I Go, There I Am
5
S.D.D.D.D.
(Same Doo-Doo, Different Day)
6
Laugh and the World Laughs with You . . .
Cry and You Simply Get Wet!
7
How Can I Be Over the Hill
When I Never Even Got to the Top?
8
Motherhood Isn’t for Wimps
9
Oh, Lord, Let My Words Be Tender and Sweet
for Tomorrow I May Have to Eat Them!
10
We Are Easter People
Living in a Good Friday World
ENCORE ENCORE
Going Up with a Splash
Endnotes
Acknowledgments
I gratefully extend appreciation and thanks to the many people who have so graciously shared with me the stories, poems, letters, and other materials that appear in this book. You have provided some of the biggest splashes of joy in my life!
Diligent effort has been made to locate the author and copyright ownership of all material quoted in this book. However, because I receive clippings, handwritten notes, church bulletins, etc., from friends and readers all over the world, there often is no way of identifying the original source. Many of the anecdotes and tidbits used in this book are combinations of materials from different sources, and the letters I share have been changed and/or combined so that the writers’ identities are protected. If any readers know the correct source of the items now designated as Source unknown,
I would appreciate hearing from you so corrections can be made in later printings and proper credit can be given.
Special acknowledgment and my sincere thanks also go to the following individuals and companies for these materials:
Ashleigh Brilliant for permission to use Ashleigh Brilliant Pot-Shots and Brilliant Thoughts (Brilliant Enterprises, 117 West Valerio St., Santa Barbara, California 93101).
The Russ Postcard cartoon feature by Dana Summers, included in chapter 1. Used by permission.
Edgar Guest’s poem, To All Parents,
from All in a Lifetime (Freeport, N.Y.: Books for Libraries Press, 1970) is reprinted in chapter 2 with permission of the Ayer Company, Salem, New Hampshire.
Jane Wagner’s poem, Why Escape?
included in chapter 5, is taken from Ten Fun Things to Do Before You Die by Karol Jackowski. Copyright 1989 by Ave Maria Press, Notre Dame, Indiana 46556. All rights reserved. Used with permission of the publisher.
Ernest Lowe has given me permission to reprint his poem about having diabetes. It appears in chapter 5.
The cartoon feature, My Stair Treads Have Started to Wear Out,
included in chapter 7, is from© Recycled Paper Products, Inc. All rights reserved. Original design by Hadley Robertson. Reprinted by permission.
In chapter 8, the cartoon feature, "Children are a great com–fort in your old age. . . ." © 1989 is by Gretchen Jackson Clasby. Used by permission.
Also in chapter 8, the words (but not the character) in the car–toon feature I try to take just one day at a time. . . .
is borrowed from the book of the same name by Ashleigh Brilliant (Santa Barbara, Calif.: Woodbridge Press, 1987). Used by permission.
Included in chapter 10 is the poem from Tell Me Again, Lord, I Forget by Ruth Harms Calkins © 1974. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.
Also in chapter 10 is the poem When I Come Home to Heaven,
by Beth Stuckwisch © 1984. Used by permission of Dicksons, Inc., Seymour, Indiana.
Robert Hastings’s essay The Station
is reprinted in the Encore! Encore! section from A Penny’s Worth of Minced Ham, published by Southern Illinois University Press. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
Introduction
Barb, I Need a Splash of Your Joy . . .
Not long ago I paid a visit to Focus on the Family to tape a radio interview with Dr. James Dobson, the founder and president. While we sat in his office, sharing our latest experiences, I sensed that he wasn’t in his usual up
kind of mood. There was a definite heaviness in his voice that wasn’t typical of him.
I knew Dr. Dobson had been serving on the Attorney General’s Commission on Pornography and that for over a year he had been spending one week every month traveling to various cities through out the United States to study the problem. He had even received threatening letters and phone calls for taking part in the program, and it was obvious that all those months of stress had been a drain on him, physically as well as emotionally.
Sensing Dr. Dobson’s downcast mood, I offered to come back at another time. Then we could do the interview when you are feeling more refreshed and ready to go . . . ,
I suggested.
Dr. Dobson just looked at me and said, Barb, if there EVER were a time that I needed a splash of your joy, it’s today!
We went ahead with the interview and it came out much better than any of us had hoped. Later, I thought about what he had said.
Someday, I told myself, I’d like to write a book that would have refreshing words that could help others find splashes of joy,
no matter what situation they find themselves in. So, in a way, I owe part of the title for this book to Dr. Dobson, who tossed off that phrase, splash of joy
so easily, never thinking it would become part of a book designed to inject some joy and hope into a joyless, hopeless world.
So now you know where the first part of the title came from, but what about the rest of it? Some of my friends told me that using a word like cesspools
in a title would sound too graphic, and I listened carefully to what they were saying. But the more I continued to hear from folks out there who are in pain of every imaginable description, the more I realized that that’s exactly where they are—in one kind of slimy cesspool or another.
Most of us can think about times when we’ve been in the cesspool
; many of you are there right now. Almost everyone needs a splash of joy to get through the mess, to get cleaned off and get sweetened up—refreshed and ready to go again.
For several years I used the phrase in His grip
when auto–graphing books requested at conferences or by mail. But to be honest, that got tiresome because of having to go back and dot all those i’s. Since I sign hundreds of books, I decided I wanted something that would be meaningful, but without so many places where I would have to dot some i’s or cross some t’s.
Finally, I came upon the perfect word. JOYFULLY says it all. In JOYFULLY there is nothing to dot or cross—it just flows out. It’s a word that is a little splash of joy
for me because it gives me the perfect trademark for every book that I autograph. JOYFULLY simply means full of joy.
What a blessing to have found one little word that I can make my own. It says what I feel, simply and completely, and it is the key to the way I live my life.
That’s what this book is all about—living life joyfully. I want to bring you splashes of joy, whether you feel you’re in a slimy cesspool or just a dirty mudhole that is causing you stress and frustration. Because of my books and Spatula Ministries, I get a lot of feedback that turns into splashes of joy for me. One dear woman wrote this darling note:
Splashes_0013_001Another good friend wrote to say that so many people are hoping to hear words of encouragement as they . . . search for a way out of the tunnel of despair, the slough of despond, the quagmire of panic, the quicksand of hopelessness . . . and all those kinds of places. God is using you to help people through.
Letters like that give back to me splashes of joy, as do comments made by women after they hear me as a retreat speaker. We gather in a circle after I spend three days telling them everything I know (actually, it takes less than three days, but I repeat myself a lot). Then I offer them the opportunity to talk about how they feel. Almost everyone shares and can hardly wait to get her turn. Those are times when the splashes of joy become little tidal waves that wash over me as I am reminded of Proverbs 11:25—as you refresh others, you, yourself, will be refreshed.
So I guess I’m writing this book for myself as much as for you. We both need splashes of joy, so let’s go find some!
Joyfully,
Barbara Johnson
1
Smile! It Kills Time Between Disasters
Life is what you make it,
until something comes along and makes it worse.
When I opened the package, I should have known that THESE pantyhose would be different.
But somehow I just didn’t get suspicious, even when they came wrapped as a gift just before April Fools’ Day, given to me by a friend who was working in the novelty shop at Knott’s Berry Farm. When I took them out of the box, they looked like any other pantyhose and I thought, How nice of Alice to send these. I can always use another pair.
Just two days later—on April 1—I decided to wear the new pantyhose while speaking nearby to a large group of women at a church brunch. When I pulled on the pantyhose that morning, I guess I should have realized something was a bit strange because they came clear up to my ARMPITS! Bill even commented, What have you got on? It looks like a SARONG!
I just ignored my tell-it-like-it-is
husband and hurriedly finished dressing. Obviously, Alice bought the wrong size, I told myself, but there’s nothing to be done about it now because I don’t have time to change . . . I’ve got to be at the church in twenty minutes . . .
The program went nicely, but as I got up to speak, I felt some–thing beginning to creep up on me. I had on a V-neck dress and, looking down, I was horrified to see something brown inching its way right up out of my neckline! The brown stuff just kept coming, and soon it seemed to be like some kind of muff around my throat. Then I realized what was going on. Those pantyhose Alice had given me were made of material that really stretched. (I learned later they were 100 percent SPANDEX!) My new pantyhose had actually begun to grow north
—straight up over my head! I could have tied them at the top in a bow!
What to do? There was no way to shove the pantyhose down my dress without making a big bulge in the wrong place. Be–sides, I was in front of five hundred women, with no privacy to do anything. I decided to stop and tell the crowd that I had a friend who knows I love the first of each month—especially April Fools’ Day. She must have thought it would be great fun to give me a pair of unique
pantyhose—the kind that could creep up clear around my neck!
Once the women understood that my problem was my pantyhose and not some strange growth caused by spores from outer space, they all began laughing and enjoying my embarrassment along with me. Not many speakers get to finish a presentation with a brown muff that appears magically from out of their dress. It was a first for my audience, and it was DEFINITELY a first for me. But we all had a good time because I chose not to get flustered. Instead, I enjoyed making the best of the situation.
When you look at all the pain and problems in the world, creeping pantyhose isn’t exactly a 7.2 on the Richter scale of human suffering. It does, however, illustrate the fact that there is something about joy and laughter that is engaging and even therapeutic, especially when things aren’t going very well. The overwhelming response to a recent book I did—So, Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy—is hard to explain, unless you take into account the tremendous need so many folks have for some kind of relief, something to bring a smile or chuckle into a life that, as one letter said, doesn’t have any sparkles right now.
The following paragraphs offer just a peek into my post office box, which is the landing place for up to several dozen letters a day, almost always from women who are in, or just crawled out of, one of the slippery cesspools of life. Pain has MANY faces, and the universal cure is laughter—not because we try to deny the truth, but because we have learned to face it, absorb it, and smile through it.
From New York:
How I wish I could meet you face to face and speak with you. Sometimes I feel like no one understands my pain. My husband and I also lost two children. Donna, a beautiful young lady, turned to a life of prostitution and in November ’84 she was murdered at the age of 22. We never did see her in her coffin— they shipped her home sealed.
A few months later, Jerry, age 27 contracted AIDS because of his gay lifestyle, and at age 28 he went home to be with Jesus. . . . When our children died, everyone kept telling us to rejoice. We tried to, and in the interim I denied the reality of my grief and now I’m unable to cry, so the only emotion that comes from me is anger . . . I am so uptight right now I feel like a pressure cooker about to explode. I spend a lot of time with the Lord in prayer . . . the only time I get any relief from my terrible anxiety. . . .
Please pray for me. I’m a mess who’s waiting for God to make something beautiful. He truly is the Rock that is higher than myself, and I continually run to Him, sometimes pleading for strength to make it through the next moment. . . .
From Colorado:
I found out last week that my son is HIV positive and has been ill a lot this winter. He called last Sunday night. Only God knows my pain and my son’s fright.
Today I don’t feel like I can hang on to God, so I’m letting God hang on to me, my son and my husband. . . .
From California:
It was just one year ago that our daughter had her diving accident and went to be with the Lord. We still miss her so much, but knowing where she is makes it easier to bear. . . .
From Alabama:
My life fell apart four years ago. We had a wonderful life, prosperous, one son, one daughter, beautiful home, health, etc. Our daughter announced her lesbianism at the start of her senior year in school.
Nine months later, my husband left me and our son without one word of warning (after 22 years together). I found out he was having an affair with a woman at his job. . . .
But my faith in God has never been stronger . . . and I still have my sense of humor! I know that God is in control, even though my life seems to be so out of