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    How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game
    How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game
    How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game
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    How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game

    By Gloria Arenson

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    Say goodbye to fat once and for all with this easy to use step-by-step workbook. Free yourself from the bondage of food with a non-diet approach that teaches you to modify your eating behavior and build self-awareness and self-esteem. Use the amazing energy method, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), to eliminate cravings and resolve life issues that contribute to binge eating.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherGloria Arenson
    Release dateAug 9, 2009
    ISBN9781452491776
    How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game
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    Gloria Arenson

    Gloria Arenson, MS, MFT, is an author and educator who has been a clinical therapist for more than twenty years. She specializes in Energy and Power Therapies to treat panic disorders, depression, phobias, and addictions, as well as stress and anxiety. A well-known, charismatic speaker, Ms. Arenson has helped thousands overcome self-defeating behaviors, raise their self-esteem, and enrich relationships through her classes and workshops. The author of popular books on eating disorders and compulsive behavior, she has appeared on major talk shows with Montel Williams, Leeza Gibbons, and Gary Collins. She trains other professionals - psychotherapists, teachers, and health professionals in Meridian Therapy, the basis of The Meridian Therapy Revolution. She lives with her husband, fellow therapist Laurence Brockway, in Southern California.

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      How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game - Gloria Arenson

      How To Stop

      Playing The

      Weighting Game

      Gloria Arenson, MS, MFT, DCEP

      Copyright © 1978, 1984, 2008, 2009 Gloria Arenson. 

      All rights reserved.

      eBook; 2009

      ISBN: 978-0-9621942-3-8

      Disclaimer

      The information, instructions or advice presented in this book is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical or psychological care. The author and publisher disclaim any liability or loss incurred directly or indirectly as a result of the use or application of any of the techniques presented in this book.

      Smashwords Edition, License Notes

      This eBook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This eBook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each person you share it with. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then you should return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Design and illustration by Laurence T. Brockway

      TABLE of CONTENTS

      Preface

      Introduction

      Chapter 1:  Say Good-bye To Fat

      Chapter 2:  The Weighting Game

      Chapter 3:  Freedom From Food

      Chapter 4:  EFT for Rapid Results

      Chapter 5:  The Truth About You

      Chapter 6:  The Ship Of Fools

      Chapter 7:  The Captain

      Chapter 8:  The Curse or The Blessing?

      Chapter 9:  You Deserve The Very Best!

      Chapter 10:  This Is Just The Beginning

      Preface

      What is Integral Behavior Modification?

      Millions of people spend billions of dollars every year to lose weight, only to gain it back again. They are missing the boat! Obesity is not a primary problem. It is a secondary problem that results when important life problems are not dealt with, problems such as low self-esteem, unexpressed anger, and feelings of helplessness. Fat is similar to a bad case of hives. When you treat only the symptom, the hives/fat, you can make it disappear, but if you don't deal with the allergy/life problem, the hives/fat will reappear again and again. We are not just our bodies. We are physical, emotional, and spiritual beings. Permanent change will rarely be achieved by singling out only one aspect of the person to treat. Lasting success is possible only when there is an awareness of the wholeness of the Self and willingness to assume responsibility for one's behavior.

      Overeating is a learned response. Therefore, it can be unlearned. Compulsive overeaters abuse food in response to environmental stimuli such as eating by the clock, eating in front of the TV, or eating at special events. They also eat in response to emotional stimuli. Feelings such as anger, fear, guilt, or happiness may be the trigger. The result is weight gain.

      The misuse of food is a negative behavior with a positive value for the overeater. What is the payoff? The Weighting Game is a way of waiting for life to happen rather than being responsible for making it happen. Health can be achieved only through the integration of the whole person. Equal time must be allotted to physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of the individual. I call this process Integral Behavior Modification.

      Introduction

      This book is for you if you have lost weight more than once. Obviously you did something right, 
but why didn't it last? Your local bookstore has shelves filled with books about healthy eating, exercise, and diets galore including meditation diets, fiber diets, water diets, and miracle diets. All of them work, if you work them! There's the rub. How do you keep yourself working them? And what do you do after you have reached your goal?

      This book is not about eating. It is about freeing yourself from food. Thirty years ago I came across a wonderful book, How to Win the Losing Fight, describing what was then a new approach to weight loss. It was a self-published book that wasn’t sold in the stores but was circulated by word of mouth. The book combined what we now call Behavior Modification with spirituality. I was so taken with the ideas that I wrote the author, Elizabeth Keyes, a letter explaining my own issues and how I was inspired by her belief that we can be free of the bondage of food.

      At that time, I was the Chairman of the Board of Overeaters Anonymous. I had practiced the twelve steps rigorously, had lost weight and found that I was not the only maintainer who was having trouble keeping it off as I introduced foods new and tempting foods into my life. OA had swallowed the AA program whole, and taught that sugar was our enemy and that we were allergic to it as alcoholics were allergic to alcohol. I began to question some of the OA dogma but was terrified of dropping out.

      I noticed that when I occasionally made a mistake and accidentally bought and drank regular soda rather than diet soda I did not immediately go on a terrible binge. Yet, what if OA was right? Would I balloon into a monster that could not stop eating? I poured out my heart to Elizabeth and amazingly, she replied and offered me ideas. Elizabeth became my mentor. She guided me to start a class and tell people about what she named the art of gentle eating. She maintained that there are no bad foods. She believed that we can eat all foods in moderation and convinced me to try her method. 

      Her generosity and love sustained me. I started teaching in my girlfriend’s living room and eventually created more and more classes that I taught through local adult education facilities. I used her book in all my classes. As time went on, I created work sheets to implement her ideas and began studying psychology. All of those years of learning and sharing led me to write this book.

      This is a book designed to help you succeed in losing and maintaining weight in a reasonable, loving way. The step-by-step guide has evolved from classes and workshops I have presented, and the many clients I have guided for more that thirty years. Thanks to the co-operation of hundreds of wonderful students, who have contributed some of the material you will be reading, you can now participate in my Weighting Game class through this book.

      The many and varied activities will enlighten you to the ways you have sabotaged your own success in the past. You can change all that permanently. After becoming aware of what you did that didn't work, you can make new choices that do work. You need never say If I'm so smart, why aren't 1 succeeding? You will be able to eliminate the feeling of bewilderment or fear that you have experienced in the past when, after a long struggle to lose weight, the scale began to climb once more.

      You will be able to truly say: I will never be fat again.

      Chapter 1

      Say Goodbye to Fat

      How to Use This Book

      The activities on the following pages have been designed to help you:

      ¨     Modify your eating behavior

      ¨     Improve the way you see yourself

      ¨     Love yourself more

      ¨     Make new decisions about yourself and food

      Each page can be a gift for you. Don't skip anything. Plunge right in with page 1 and keep going at your own pace until you get to the end. Don’t just read through this book and put it down. It is meant to be lived and enjoyed for a minimum of 8 weeks. The insights and changes you will experience will become a part of you and will last the rest of your life.

      The activities and quizzes have been specially designed to aid in your success by adding to 
your knowledge and awareness. Do all of them. At the end of many assignments you will find a summary called My Discoveries. I will keep asking you to learn from your actions rather than judge yourself as good or bad. Your discoveries will heighten your understanding of your behavior. I urge you to think about whether you like what you are doing, and if not, what you can do to change things.

      The Beginning

      Knowing where you are is the first step. Use a notebook to keep track of your food intake and to write your ideas, thoughts, affirmations and answers to many questions I will ask you.

      Get started right now. In your journal, begin by noting today’s date and your weight. Write any words or phrases that describe where you are today.

      • How do I see myself Physically today?

      • How do I see myself Emotionally today?

      • How do I see myself Intellectually today?

      • How do I see myself Spiritually today?

      • How do I see myself in the future?

      Are you ready to say goodbye to fat for the last time? When something is no longer useful or valuable you usually get rid of it. The same is true of excess weight. Have you been holding on to your fat because it is useful? What has it done for you lately? Here is a sampling of Farewell Letters written by some of my students who were tired of losing and regaining extra pounds.

      Dear Fat,

      Guess what… you are on your way out. I'm sick and tired of carrying you around. You've kept me from feeling pretty, stopped me from taking trips, buying nice clothes, seeing old friends and everything else I think thinness offers. I want a total life.

      Your X Body

      Dear Fat,

      Thank you

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