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    Making Great Decisions Reflections: For a Life Without Limits
    Making Great Decisions Reflections: For a Life Without Limits
    Making Great Decisions Reflections: For a Life Without Limits
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    Making Great Decisions Reflections: For a Life Without Limits

    By T.D. Jakes

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    The star of BETs Mind, Body & Soul, and featured guest speaker on Oprah’s Lifeclass, Potter’s House pastor, T.D. Jakes turns his attention to the topic of relationships, guiding you on the right track to making decisions you will benefit from for the rest of your life. In the vein of Joel Osteen’s Become a Better You and Dr. Phil’s Life Strategies, the New York Times bestselling Making Great Decisions (formerly tiled Before You Do) gives you the psychological and practical tools you need to reflect, discern, and decide the next step toward strong relationships in your life. “Remember,” writes T.D. Jakes, “your tomorrow is no better than the decisions you make today.”

    “My promise is that if you read this book, you will be equipped, you will know all you need to know about making foolproof relational decisions,” writes T.D. Jakes. Choosing the right partner, at home or at work, is one of the most consequential decisions we’ll ever make. How can we be sure that we’re choosing wisely? How do we know if we’re doing the right thing when we change careers? By breaking our decisions down into their five crucial components:

    Research: gathering information

    Roadwork: removing obstacles

    Rewards: listing choices and visualizing consequences

    Revelation: narrowing your options and making your selection

    Rearview: looking back and adjusting as necessary to stay on course

    Clear-sighted, realistic, and spiritually uplifting, Making Great Decisions is one of those rare books that can change lives.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAtria Books
    Release dateJun 2, 2009
    ISBN9781439166086
    Making Great Decisions Reflections: For a Life Without Limits
    Author

    T.D. Jakes

    T.D. Jakes is the CEO of TDJ Enterprises, LLP, as well as the founder and senior pastor of The Potter’s House of Dallas, Inc. He’s also the New York Times bestselling author of numerous books, including, Crushing, Soar!, Making Great Decisions (previously titled Before You Do), Reposition Yourself: Living Life Without Limits, and Let It Go: Forgive So You Can Be Forgiven, a New York Times, USA TODAY, and Publishers Weekly bestseller. He has won and been nominated for numerous awards, including Essence magazine’s President’s Award in 2007 for Reposition Yourself, a Grammy in 2004, and NAACP Image awards. He has been the host of national radio and television broadcasts, was the star of BET’s Mind, Body and Soul, and is regularly featured on the highly rated Dr. Phil Show and Oprah’s Lifeclass. He lives in Dallas with his wife and five children. Visit T.D. Jakes online at TDJakes.com or follow his Twitter @BishopJakes.

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    Making Great Decisions Reflections - T.D. Jakes

    Reflection 1

    Before I take any great step OR make any decision, I must deromanticize it.

    You

    I have seen far too many marriages and other kinds of great beginnings that ended horrendously. My focus must be not, on the plans, but on the far more difficult processes that follow, the long-term consequences of my relationship decisions. I must see not only the face of my sweetie pie but the face I will wake up next to for the rest of my life, the face of my partner of choice, the face I will run to when life becomes cold and pains are unbearable. The one I must choose as carefully as a warrior selects a weapon or an artist selects a medium—my weapon of choice when I fight layoffs, mounting bills, pressure, and unimaginable challenge. The face I will watch convulse with the aches and pains of disease and injury; the face that will comfort me and the hand I will squeeze in sorrow.

    Do

    I do not romanticize my perspectives based on commercials and soap operas. Life is not always easy. I must begin to glimpse what many don’t learn until they experience pain and regret.

    Reflection 2

    Before I choose a spouse or make any relationship decision, I must know how to deliberate carefully.

    You

    I must be as deliberate as possible, as logical, objective, and thoughtful in my decision to commit, cohabitate, and commingle my DNA. Love need not leave me intoxicated and blind to the realities that await me in a close relationship: bills to be paid, diapers to be changed, cars to be repaired, homes to be moved, jobs to be completed, on and on throughout all the seasons of my life. This is what I’m committing to. I’m not committing to a lifetime of good chemistry or shared ideals or that tingling feeling inside.

    This reality also must not dampen my enthusiasm for a relationship, or make me cynical and suspect of the joys that married life can afford. But I must make every relationship decision with appropriate care and deliberation. So much of the rest of my life comes down to this one decision.

    Do

    I do act based on logic, objectives, and thought—not solely emotions—in all my relationship decisions.

    Reflection 3

    Before I make a pivotal decision, I will examine the power of one single choice to shape the rest of my life, and the lives of others.

    You

    The power of one individual decision can never be underestimated. Fortunes have been gained and lost, marriages mended and torn, children born or buried, all because of one person’s decision, which may have seemed of little importance at the time.

    I understand that life has a way of knocking me down. My life will be easier the fewer mistakes I make. Life brings real challenges but I do not have to give way to pressure, anger, or disappointment and succumb to pain, losing sight of my passion and purpose. I realize that every important relationship decision affects the quality of my entire life.

    Do

    I do move into relationship decisions in a way that will ensure positive results. I will do everything I can to ensure the best choices for my life.

    Reflection 4

    Before I make an important relationship decision, I realize that I can’t afford to make a bad choice and face a setback.

    You

    I have to make every move count. I do not want to have to recover economically, emotionally, or spiritually from a massive setback that could result from a bad decision.

    This means that sometimes, even after I spend time and money, even invest emotionally in a relationship, I have to decide against it. Others may say, You did all of that and still walked away? What I spent investigating it might seem wasted to them, but not to me.

    I have learned that relationship decisions come down to five crucial components:

    Research—gathering information and collecting data

    Roadwork—removing obstacles and clearing the path

    Rewards—listing choices and imagining their consequences

    Revelation—narrowing my options and making my selection

    Rearview—looking back and adjusting as necessary to stay on course

    In fact, these components can be applied to any area of my life. Whether choosing a spouse, selecting a major in college, acquiring property, deciding on a new career, buying a company, or determining where I will live, all my major decisions require due diligence and deliberation. I want to make significant decisions with as much certainty as possible. If I do, I’ll move confidently into the future with no regrets.

    Do

    I do gather as much data as possible before making a big decision.

    Reflection 5

    Before I credit extenuating circumstances beyond my control to my achievement or failure, I admit that I am a victim or victor of my own making, because of a key decision.

    You

    I can trace every success or failure in my life back to something I did or didn’t decide effectively—whether in the course of developing relationships, doing business, or selecting investments, or in any other area. My decisions set the course of my life. I must put in place the necessary prerequisites to accomplish my desired goals. Past decisions and their consequences can be offset by decisions I make now.

    Do

    I do hold myself responsible for my life and expect good results as I exercise the process of

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