How to Be the Parent You Always Wanted to Be
By Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
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About this ebook
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish’s down-to-earth, respectful approach to parenting has improved the lives of countless families throughout the world. Now, the authors’ wisdom and advice are collected in this concise new edition of How to Be the Parent You Always Wanted to Be—an essential workbook and audio guide to their widely embraced and empowering methods of parenting—uniquely designed for busy parents on the go. Faber and Mazlish address the struggles parents face every day. By listening to this recording and doing the workbook exercises, you’ll learn how to:
•Deal with your children’s strong emotions
•Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
•Express your angry feelings without being hurtful
•Engage your children’s cooperation
•Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Loaded with real-life stories, delightful cartoons, and answers to commonly asked questions, this new multimedia edition demonstrates simple, proven skills that can make relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
Adele Faber
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are #1 New York Times bestselling and award-winning authors whose books have sold more than five million copies and have been translated into over thirty languages. The authors’ group workshop programs and videos are currently being used by thousands of parent and teacher groups around the world. They currently reside in Long Island, New York and each is the parent of three children.
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How to Be the Parent You Always Wanted to Be - Adele Faber
Part I
Principles and Skills
About Feelings
What bothers me about kids is how they cry and carry on over the least little thing. And there’s no reasoning with them.
About Feelings
When their unhappy feelings are denied or dismissed, children often become more upset.
Even a logical solution from the parent doesn’t seem to help.
Children Want You to Know What They’re Feeling
Sometimes it helps if you just listen.
Sometimes a word, like oh
or mmm,
lets them know you understand.
Sometimes it helps if you can name the feeling.
Most children appreciate it when you give them in fantasy what they can’t have in reality.
You can accept children’s feelings even when you need to stop or limit their actions.
Practice Acknowledging Feelings
Part I
Answers: 1b, 2a, 3c, 4a, 5c, 6b, 7c, 8c
Practice Acknowledging Feelings
Part II
Under each of the following statements, write
a) an unhelpful response
b) a helpful response that acknowledges feelings
Possible Answers
Here are some responses to the child’s statements on the previous pages. There is no such thing as one correct
answer. As long as we acknowledge a child’s feelings with respect, we are helpful.