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    Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game
    Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game
    Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game
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    Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game

    By Rhoberta Shaler PhD

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    “Stop! That’s Crazy-Making!”
    If you are screaming that in your head or out loud, you are very likely dealing with passive-aggressive behavior. And, yes. It is crazy-making.
    The good news is that you can learn to manage yourself well around passive-aggressive behavior.

    You can also, if you are very insightful and wise, learn to manage passive-aggressive behavior within yourself.

    In others, passive-aggressive behavior coming our way seems sneaky. It surprises you, infuriates and frustrates you. And, it happens over and over. It does make you second-guess yourself and wonder if it is you who is losing it. It’s not! There is much you can learn that will help you create the boundaries required to assert yourself in a passive-aggressive relationship.

    In yourself, passive-aggressive behavior may send people away from you. They do not want to be caught in your web so they may well avoid you. They find ways not to invite you along, or good reasons for being too busy to see you.
    Not sure if you're in relationship with a passive-aggressive person, take the free checklist to help figure it out.
    http://passiveaggressivechecklist.com/

    The folks you are related to may not move away entirely but you will erode their respect, their trust and their desire to spend time with you. And, in many families, it’s contagious. That means then you’ll all drive each other crazy but blame each other for doing it. Not a recipe for warm fuzzies, is it?

    GOOD NEWS! Passive-aggressive behavior can be managed, changed and put out to pasture.

    Dr. Shaler works with private clients and companies throughout the world via video conferencing. Start today at beaclient.com

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherRhoberta Shaler PhD
    Release dateJun 19, 2012
    ISBN9780971168930
    Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game
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    Rhoberta Shaler PhD

    Rhoberta Shaler, PhDThe Relationship Help DoctorRhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to know why and how to transform relationship with themselves and with other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity.Widely published and author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two popular podcasts: Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views.Dr. Shaler works with clients worldwide via video conferencing. Start today at beaclient.com

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      A helpful introduction 2 learning how to recognize and effectively communicate with the passive aggressive person in your life. If you aren't sure the person in your life is passive aggressive this should be enough information to be able to definitively assess yes or no. The author also includes a few pointers and how to deal with situations and where to go from there. I know I will be delving a bit deeper and looking for what will give me as close to total deliverance from the situation. The author includes next steps and ways to continue to resolve passive aggressive tendencies are in yourself or in the people you deal with.

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    Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game - Rhoberta Shaler PhD

    Stop! That’s Crazy-Making!

    How to Recognize, Respond to

    and Recover From Passive-Aggressive

    Behavior & People

    by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

    The Relationship Help Doctor

    Founder of Sow Peace® and The Optimize Institute & Center

    www.SowPeace.com

    www.OptimizeCenter.com

    San Diego, CA

    Published by People Skills Press

    Copyright 2012 © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

    All rights reserved.

    Smashwords Edition

    ISBN: 978-0-9711689-3-0

    Table of Contents

    Chapter One:

    Passive-Aggressive Behavior is Crazy-Making!

    Chapter Two:

    Ssh! Inside Secrets of a Passive-Aggressive Relationship

    Chapter Three:

    How to Recognize a Passive-Aggressive Person

    Chapter Four:

    How to Respond to Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    Chapter Five:

    How to Recover from a Passive-Aggressive Person

    Chapter One

    Passive-Aggressive Behavior is Crazy-Making!

    It leaves you with that yucky feeling, the feeling of just being sucker punched. It leaves you shaking your head in disbelief. It’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are cul-de-sacs with no escape. It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! And, it requires relationship help.

    It’s covert, stealthy even! You’re really not sure when or if you were hit, or when you may be again. It causes you to question your words, your actions and your motives, as if something were always your fault. You’re dealing with passive-aggressive behavior!

    Trying to actually confront passive-aggressive behavior is also often crazy-making. Passive-aggressive behavior is based in deep-seated anger and resentment. Unfortunately, the passive-aggressive person is often unaware of what s/he is doing, and when confronted, refuses to acknowledge either the behavior or its results. S/he can be quite upset that you would even think they were the problem, or contributing to it.

    And, yes, passive-aggressive people can drive other folks around the bend. They lack the insight into their own behavior that would allow them to see what they are doing, and therefore they think others simply don’t understand them, continuously misunderstand them, or want more from them than is reasonable.

    WHAT IS PASSIVE-AGGRESSION?

    Here’s the actual psychological definition from the DSM-IV, the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders:

    "A. A pervasive pattern of negativistic attitudes

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