Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur: A Mythological Dating Guide
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After answering questions to determine your own type, you can learn to identify others-with the help of illustrations from artist Fumi Nakamura. By reading up on the various types' favorite activities, likely professions, sexual preferences, and parenting styles, you'll gain insight into compatible creatures. If you're a Wood Nymph (like Block), you could get your heart broken by a fickle Satyr, but if you can track down the strong, soulful Centaurs of the forest, you just might be on the path to true love. Clever and insightful, Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur is an invaluable guide for any dating creature.
Francesca Lia Block
Francesca Lia Block, winner of the prestigious Margaret A. Edwards Award, is the author of many acclaimed and bestselling books, including Weetzie Bat; the book collections Dangerous Angels: The Weetzie Bat Books and Roses and Bones: Myths, Tales, and Secrets; the illustrated novella House of Dolls; the vampire romance novel Pretty Dead; and the gothic werewolf novel The Frenzy. Her work is published around the world.
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A mythological dating guide... yes, it's complete and utter fluff, but what a fun read! WNSC presents one of those systems, found everywhere from astrology to Myers-Briggs, that divides men and women into a dozen distinct types based on personality. The cute twist is that these types are all based on fantasy creatures from mythology and fairy tales - so as you read you can decide if you're more of a Fairy or an Urban Elf and whether a Vampire would make a good match for you. (My husband the Giant was an easy match, but it took a little time to find the right combination for me - the 'extremely feminine and creative, rather moody, and always alluring' Night Fairy.)While there aren't any profound or earth-shattering insights in this book, it might make you notice a few traits in your friends, partner, or even yourself that you had previously overlooked. There are quite a few anecdotes from Francesca Lia Block's personal life, which her fans will find interesting, but sadly it does seem as if Block (the sensitive Wood Nymph) has had some less than stellar experiences with a few of the other 'creatures' and this makes her a far from impartial judge - Satyrs and Weregirls in particular come off rather badly!I'm not generally a fan of 'what's your type?' books, but for fantasy or fairytale fans who like a generous sprinkling of pink sugar stars from time to time, this will be a delight. See if you can get at least one friend to read it with you as it will generate a lot of hilarious conversation.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The dating forest can seem at times a magical place filled with happiness and love, and at other times a place to be feared, where hearts are stolen or left broken. It is not always easy to find your way, especially when the scenery keeps changing. Just who are all these creatures roaming the forests of love and heartbreak? For that matter, what type of creature am I that I dare to enter such a perilous yet hopeful place?In this forest the first thing you must do is not to discover what creatures are about you, but what creature are you. If you can first see who you are, then you can see who you want, and who you want to avoid. There are many dangers; some more easily avoided then others as attraction can easily lead you down a stray path. But if the right path can be found, one that leads to your own handsome prince, or beautiful princess, then there is no reason why one cannot live happily ever after.Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur is an eerily accurate, at least in my case, guide to love, life and friendships. This is no ordinary story but a cautionary guide filled with all the wisdom and enchantment that comes with blending myths, fairy tales and astrology. If you ever find yourself lost in these woods, and you will if you haven't already, then this invaluable book will be able to assist you, if not entertain you, as you make your way blindly through this world.
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Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur - Francesca Lia Block
Wood Nymph
Seeks Centaur
BY THE SAME AUTHOR
Fiction
Weetzie Bat
Witch Baby
Cherokee Bat and the Goat Guys
Missing Angel Juan
Ecstasia
The Hanged Man
Primavera
Baby Be-Bop
Girl Goddess #9: Nine Stories
Dangerous Angels: The Weetzie Bat Books
I Was a Teenage Fairy
Violet and Claire
Nymph: Nine Erotic Stories
The Rose and the Beast: Nine Fairy Tales
Echo
Wasteland
Beautiful Boys: Two Weetzie Bat Books
Goat Girls: Two Weetzie Bat Books
Necklace of Kisses
Ruby
Psyche in a Dress
Blood Roses
Quakeland
Pretty Dead
Poetry
How to (Un)Cage a Girl
Open Letter to Quiet Light
Nonfiction
Zine Scene: The Do-It-Yourself Guide to Zines
Guarding the Moon: A Mother’s First Year
Wood Nymph
Seeks Centaur
A Mythological Dating Guide
Francesca Lia Block
with illustrations by Fumi Mini Nakamura
Copyright © 2009 by Francesca Lia Block
Illustrations copyright © 2009 by Fumi Mini Nakamura
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission from the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews. For information address Bloomsbury USA, 175 Fifth Avenue, New York, NY 10010.
Published by Bloomsbury USA, New York
All papers used by Bloomsbury USA are natural, recyclable products made from wood grown in well-managed forests. Th e manufacturing processes conform to the environmental regulations of the country of origin.
LIBRARY OF CONGRESS CATALOGING-IN-PUBLICATION DATA
Block, Francesca Lia.
Wood nymph seeks centaur : a mythological dating guide / Francesca Lia Block.—1st U.S. ed.
p. cm.
eISBN: 978-1-60819-121-5
1. Dating (Social customs) I. Title.
HQ801.B626 2009
306.73—dc22
2009008174
First U.S. Edition 2009
1 3 5 7 9 10 8 6 4 2
Designed by Maria Elias
Typeset by Westchester Book Group
Printed in the United States of America by Quebecor World Fairfield
For Lydia (Fairmaid) Wills and Reg E.
(Gracefully Maturing Satyr) Cathey
Contents
Introduction
Defining Your Type
Female Types
Male Types
The Types
Male Types
Female Types
Male Combinations
Female Combinations
Famous Types
Types in Literature
Mythological Matches:
How the Types Relate to Each Other
Female-Male Matches
Same-Sex Matches
Astro-mythology
Conclusion
Acknowledgments
Wood Nymph
Seeks Centaur
Introduction
You are lost in a dark forest, surrounded by gnarled trees that block out the sun and moon. The paths twist and turn and seem to lead nowhere. Strange creatures that both attract and frighten you lurk in the shadows. You both attract and frighten you lurk in the shadows.
This is not just any wood—it is the dating forest. How do you survive? How do you find your way without a guide? The answer lies here.
My last boyfriend had curly hair that formed little horns on his head, a neat beard, well-developed haunches, and small, hoof like feet. He was lusty in bed and graceful on a skateboard. He took softly lit nude photos of me (mostly of my rear end, to be precise) and whenever I asked how he was when I saw him, he gruffly whispered in his thick accent, Better now.
Once he told me he had never felt as close to anyone as he did to me. But at the same time he didn’t like to be tied down and he kept our relationship a secret for months. He still seemed quite attached to his young, beautiful ex-wife. When we broke up, he seduced his next girlfriend with the exact same tactics he had used on me. He took her photograph and even made her the requisite CD mix. I wondered whether he used the same songs. I watched him speaking softly to this new woman with his sexy accent, doing skateboard tricks to impress her, or standing quietly by while she leaped around in front of him, just as I had once done. I was devastated. What had I done wrong? How was I lacking? I couldn’t figure out what had happened or how I had fit into the dynamics of the relationship. I felt that I didn’t understand at all the man I’d spent a year with.
So I started dating, mostly on the Internet. Where else these days? It was the first time in my life I had really dated. I had been married for seven years, and before that had had only a few long-term relationships. All my past relationships had been chance encounters or introductions through friends, but these approaches felt too limited or random now. The Internet seemed to offer a world of possibilities.
But before I knew it, I had wandered into a dark thicket and lost my way. I was in a foreign, twisty, tangled forest without a map or a guidebook to help me understand all the new creatures that surrounded me. Which one was best suited for me? Who were they? For that matter, who was I, really? I was a loving single mother of two young children, a published writer, a loyal friend, a shoe fetishist, a part-time yogi, wild dancer, and love obsessive. And now I was also a dater. But what kind? And what kind of male dater should I be looking for as my potential mate?
At first I tried to answer these questions by jumping into emotional and sexual relationships with too many people, and much too soon. I knew I needed some guidance, but what kind?
When I was a little girl my father told me Greek myths as bedtime stories and my mother read fairy tales aloud. I loved to draw mythological creatures—fairies, mermaids, fauns chasing nymphs. As an adult I wrote about them in my novels and short stories. Myths and fairy tales are a part of me, a part of how I think about the world. Why had I cut myself off from them when it came to such an important aspect of my emotional life—dating? They had provided me with so much sustenance through the years (emotional and actual—writing about them is how I make my living). So why not draw on them now, when I really needed them?
I began to look at all my past relationships in this context. My ex-boyfriend was a Satyr. The ex before that was a Faun. I had had coffee with Giants. I had never become close to a Centaur. I had never even met a Woodsman, but for the first time I thought I might, because I was at last able to see and define him for what he was.
As for myself? I thought about it for awhile and determined that I was a Wood Nymph.
I recalled all my failed relationships, and when I looked at them through the lens of mythology, they no longer seemed so devastating. I felt seen, if only by myself. I felt a sense of order. Of course the Satyr left me. Of course I couldn’t stay with a Faun. I was a Wood Nymph! It was like trying to date the wrong astrological sign. You might be able to triumph over fate in certain cases, but the odds are against you, so if you fail you needn’t be discouraged. Just move on.
My restless writer’s mind, which likes to make sense out of everything, felt instant relief from the mythological dating exercise. I did it more and more. I could go into a room and classify almost everyone immediately. My friends of all ages, genders, and mythological types joined me, categorizing themselves and their dates, challenging me (So-and-so doesn’t fit into any of your categories. You need a new one.
), and adding their wonderful insights.
This mythological dating guide is the first and only mythological classification system to help all those experiencing the highs and lows of seeking a mate, or just a date. It’s a way to discover more about yourself and others. It’s a way of looking at others that is as old as the forests, lakes, and hills from which the initial types originated. After all, if the fairy tales are what we are looking for in our real lives, why aren’t we turning to them for guidance? If you want a Tree Elf in your life, you must learn to recognize him. You may not even realize that you need a Tess and not a Pixie. This book will help you sort through the different types and will give you help in dealing with them. Once you see your Satyr, how do you avoid the heartbreak that he has a tendency to visit upon you? What is the best way for the Urban Elf couple to spend their time? What’s a Centaur like in bed, and can he ever be happy with a Brownie, or is he more sexually compatible with a Fairy? It may be a forest out there, but with this guide, I promise you’ll find that there are some friendly creatures around to support you and help you find your way. You just have to be able to spot them. And that may help them see you, too, which is what we’re all really looking for.
Defining
Your Type
Before I tell you about the different types in detail, I am offering you a way to find out which one you truly are. You may think you are one type, based on name alone, but this section will provide you with the details that define the types on a deeper level. Find the paragraph that describes you best, without thinking about it too much. Then check the end (don’t peek) to see which type you are. If you come out about even between two types, you are a combination. I’ll explain this later. For now, read the descriptions with an open mind and remember to have fun. By defining your mythological type, you won’t only have more insight into yourself and your relationships, you may be able to enjoy everything in your life just a little more. You might better understand why you like the people and things you do and begin to trust your true nature in pursuing more of what is meaningful to you.
It is possible for females to be one of the male
types and vice versa, although some of the types, like Giants, Vampires, and Urban Elves, have closely related but distinct male and female versions. I have divided the descriptions into female and male types, but you may recognize yourself as either male or female despite your gender, so feel free to identify yourself using any of the summaries below.
Female Types
1. Do you wear low-rise jeans and not freak out too much if the crack in your rear accidentally shows once in a while? Have you either imagined working as a stripper or actually been one? Are you not very self-conscious about public displays of affection, or even public displays of animosity with your partner? Is sex important to you? What about creative expression—writing, painting, photography? Do you love to dance freely, without following steps or a routine, and will you do it almost anywhere? Do you like to listen to angry female singer-songwriters? Have you always passionately wanted kids? If you have them, do you love them with all your heart, even if they keep you constantly overwhelmed?
2. Are you compassionate by nature? If you are a mother, are you an excellent, if somewhat overprotective, caretaker? Do you work in the healing arts or just enjoy massage and yoga? Are you interested in alternative medicine and unconventional spiritual practices? Do you dress in fl owing, loose-fitting clothing and rarely use much makeup? Do you listen to world music and read books about spirituality? Do you have a deep-seated reverence for nature and care tremendously about the state of the world? Do you sometimes have trouble with boundaries between yourself and the needs of others?
3. Are you smart and well read? Do you blog about, say, the new Charlie Kaufman film and make mix CDs featuring art-rock bands? Are you a devotee of musicians like Björk? Do you love to walk to cafés where you could spend hours drinking coffee, eating pastries, and working on your laptop? Would you now wear or ever consider wearing a skirt with knee socks and cat glasses? Are you a closet romantic? Are you both a bit of a loner and a devoted friend?
4. Do you have more than twenty pairs of shoes? Do you spend hours on the phone counseling your girlfriends about their romantic troubles, but are you less likely to reveal your own? Can you get dressed in the perfect outfit at a moment’s notice? Is shopping one of the things that helps cheer you up the most? Is food a very important sensual plea sure for you, especially dessert, but are you careful not to overeat? Do you love flowers and often give them to your friends? Do you like music that could be described as pretty
? Do the words ethereal and/or effervescent describe you at times? Are you somewhat elusive?
5. Are the words fun and easygoing often used to describe you? Are you very social and always surrounded by friends who love you? Do you enjoy outdoor sports activities? In a relationship, are you looking for someone to go on adventures with? If you like someone, do you tell them directly and not bother with games? Do you enjoy fashion immensely but prefer looking cute and comfortable rather than overdressed? You may be this type.
6. Do you have good hair? You know you have good hair. You never really worry about not having good hair. Do you have a good singing voice? You can tell the difference between Prada and Dolce & Gabbana at a glance, can’t you? You can spell Gabbana. Do males generally like you while other females might feel threatened by you? Do you sometimes insult others without meaning to do so? When you walk in the room does everyone notice? If they don’t notice, you make them notice at a moment’s notice, right?
7. Are you relatively shy but with a passionate inner life? Do you deal with depression by getting in bed with a chick flick and a carton of ice cream? Are you maternal and gentle by nature? Do you listen to soothing singer-songwriters and read romantic literature? Is your house your pretty, cozy domain? Are your cupboards stocked with comfort foods that you like to cook up for a friend? Are you generally stable and down to earth, especially where your family is concerned?
8. When you’re depressed do you yell about how angry you are or sing really loudly to your favorite song while driving on the freeway? Would you consider shaving your head? Are tattoos something you’re very comfortable about getting? If you were a famous American poet, would you be Sylvia Plath? Are you looking for intensity above almost all else in a romantic relationship—that is, someone you can fight well with and then have great make-up sex with? Do others find you somewhat intimidating in spite of how sensitive you feel inside?
9. Is savvy a word that could describe you? Are you upwardly mobile in your career? Is your style classic and a little conservative? Are you practical but not immune to life’s pleasures, like jazz music and a fine meal followed by chocolate? Your BlackBerry is never far from your fingertips, is it? Are you seeking a solid, loving, long-lasting relationship, and really won’t settle for less?
10. Do you blend in fairly easily, but can turn the world on with your smile when you want to? Do you have a serious, dark side that you sometimes disguise with laughter and teasing games? Are you someone who enjoys working out at the gym a lot to release the intense tension you sometimes feel? When you like someone, do you find it easier to become that person’s friend than to involve yourself romantically? Is your personal style casual? Do you shy away from dressing in provocative ways most of the time? Have you ever been called a tomboy? If you answered yes
to most of these questions, consider the fact that you may be this type.
11. Is edgy fashion one of your trademarks? Are you much more sensitive and shy than you appear? Do you enjoy an exciting nightlife and lay comparatively low during the day? Were you ever in an alternative music band? Do you have a lot of sexy black lingerie and spike heels? Do people sometimes think you are mysterious? Do you like to cultivate this impression? Do you love dark, romantic literature and music? If so, this may be you.
12. Are you known for your quixotic nature? Are you alternately charming or brooding and looking for a partner who will accept all the aspects of who you are? Do you have a definite edge that hides a more vulnerable side? On a date, do you enjoy sharing a drink at a dark bar? Will you run off your