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    20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People
    20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People
    20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People
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    20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People

    By James C. Tanner

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    We've all been there a time or two, burned by bad relationships be it with a friend, co-worker, employer, family member or romantic partner. All of a sudden we wake up one day scratching our head wondering "how on earth did we get ourselves into another mess?" Too many of us good people have poured ourselves, with the best of intentions, into building bad relationships where we've ended up being abandonned, taken advantage of, or left with little or nothing to show for the devotion, time, and energy committed to a good thing gone bad. Somewhere in the midst of it all we lose sight of who we are, and for a period of time, doubt our ability to discern who is going to be a good choice for us, and who won't be. It becomes a question of, "What do I have to change to avoid falling into this trap again?" In our childhood years we are left to the perils of the school yard to learn from the meek and the bullies how to make friends, no one teaches us as children or as youth how to recognize the 20 traits of relationally unsafe people. Most of us couldn't identify two of the several personality disorders. If asked, most of us couldn't describe what a narcissit, psychopath, sociopath or what a machiavellian is, and yet, they can be a nightmare in a relationship. Most of us don't know what the cycle of abuse looks like, or the power/control wheel, and most of us incorrectly think an irresponsible partner is someone who is a poor provider or bad with finances. The 20 Traits of Relationally UNSAFE People helps to peel back the blinders revealling many of the reasons why we've made bad choices in the past and what we need to look for to avoid making those mistakes again.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherJames C. Tanner
    Release dateFeb 7, 2016
    ISBN9781310917882
    20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People
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    James C. Tanner

    James C. Tanner is a highly published author who has been publishing for over 38 years. First publishing at age 16, he is widely published in the areas of business, marketing, and psychology. A former professional Investigator who specialized on cult/occult related crime with a targeted focus on the ritual slaughter of animals. He has written and taught business skills development programs under contract to clients such as the Government of Canada.

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      20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People - James C. Tanner

      20 Traits of Relationally

      UNSAFE

      People

      By James C. Tanner

      Legals

      20 Traits of Relationally Unsafe People

      By

      James C. Tanner

      Copyright © 2016 James C. Tanner of James C. Tanner Publishing.

      All rights reserved. Published by James C. Tanner Publishing at Smashwords.

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      Although the author has made every effort to ensure that the information in this book was correct at publication time, the author does not assume and hereby disclaims any liability to any party for any loss, damage, or disruption caused by errors or omissions, whether such errors or omissions result from negligence, accident, or any other cause.

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      Dedication

      This book is dedicated to all of those people who bucked the odds and made a choice to stick it through, building better healthier relationships.

      20 Traits of Relationally

      UNSAFE

      People

      Introduction

      We have all been there, holding the hand of, hugging, or reassuring someone who has gone through a tragic break up in a relationship. Many of us have been in that person’s shoes for each of us at some point in life has experienced some form of a relationship, be it plutonic, romantic or professional that has left us feeling abandoned, taken advantage or, abused, belittled, berated, and left with nothing to show for what we’ve invested into it.

      In the silence of our misery, quite often we find ourselves asking those painful questions, why did I let this happen to me?

      Perhaps the greatest tragedy comes when we find ourselves asking the really tough question of, why did I let this happen to me AGAIN!

      We have all been blessed in life to know some really great people. We have also known many of these great people to experience relational break downs or complete failure over and over again.

      Why do really great people, seem to experience one failed relationship after another? Why do they seem to pick losers for friends? Eventually as one asks these questions, they begin to point more inward examining the kinds of employers we end up with; and the kinds of people we seem to magnetically draw to us.

      As children, we are taught so many great things in school, but when it comes to picking our social circle, well let’s face it…we are dumped out into a school yard expected to play amongst the really great and the true bullies. For many children, the school yard becomes a lesson in life known as survival of the fittest, and not how to identify and draw healthy people around you.

      Most adults have no clear understanding of the warning signs or character traits which are openly visible in those who struggle with personality disorders, or mental illness. Having said this, many mentally ill people, and people with personality disorders are capable of having life long relationships, but when they link up with the wrong people…abuse happens.

      Many adults are unaware of something known as the cycle of abuse, or the power/control wheel. They don’t understand what a healthy relationship where two people love and treat each other as equals really looks like. For the most part, couple get married based on sexual or attractive chemistry, only to find 3 to 7 years later that somethings grow familiar, and Holy crap…my Mr. Right has a lot of flaws!

      For those of you who might not purchase the full test, let’s take this opportunity now to present an image which clearly defines the Cycle of Abuse.

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