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Na ly nc .................................................................................................................... 5
Yu mnh......................................................................................................................... 7
Bit mnh......................................................................................................................... 9
y lc ny ................................................................................................................ 13
Tnh Yu ....................................................................................................................... 15
Sc mnh ca t tng ................................................................................................. 18
Khen.............................................................................................................................. 21
T duy tch cc l g ? .................................................................................................. 24
Lut Hp Dn................................................................................................................ 27
Nhng git nc hm nay ............................................................................................ 32
Tch cc hay tiu cc? Yu hay th ?........................................................................... 36
T duy tch ccThuc v cuc i.......................................................................... 39
Cc phn bin chng t duy tch cc............................................................................ 42
Nn tng ca t duy tch cc ........................................................................................ 45
Tch cc n mc no ? ................................................................................................ 48
Cng hng tch cc..................................................................................................... 51
Chin u vi chnh mnh ? .......................................................................................... 55
T duy tch cc lm c g cho ta ?............................................................................ 59
Khi no ta cn t duy tch cc nht ?............................................................................ 62
Hnh ng tch cc th no ?........................................................................................ 66
Lm th no tip thu c nhiu kin thc? ............................................................ 69
Cng hay nhu? Mnh hay yu? .................................................................................. 72
Lm th no ph phn tch cc ?.............................................................................. 76
Thnh cng l g?.......................................................................................................... 80
Hy t to c hi........................................................................................................... 83
Cn quan tm ngi khc ngh g v mnh ? ................................................................ 86
Tch cc hay tiu cc nhn t bn ngoi....................................................................... 89
Phi c danh g vi ni sng ? ...................................................................................... 91
i bin m ci mt mnh .............................................................................................. 95
Lm sao a t nc i ln ? ...................................................................................... 96
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Na ly nc
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Cc bn mn,
Hm nay bn hi hoa xun, nam thanh n t dp du, ci ni xn xao. Nhng ai lm
li gia dng ngi, nhn nhng cnh hoa mun sc m nghe lng t ti: Hoa i, sao
ngi c v tnh?
Hm qua tri ma, nhng em b tm ma ci a trong hm nh, i tnh nhn m
nhau che d bc trong ma. Nhng ngi c ph ch chng nhn nhng dng ma nh
nhng dng nc mt.
Vy th ma bun hay vui? Hoa v tnh hay hu ?
Ma ch l ma. Hoa ch l hoa. Hoa u c tnh, ma u c bun vui. Chng qua ch
v lng ngi xung ln, bp bnh, tri ni.
Tt c nhng hin tng bn ngoi, u khng c ngha g t chng c; cc ngha u
t t duy ca ta m sinh ra. Ma ch l ma; nu ta cho l ma bun th ma bun, nu ta
cho l ma vui th ma vui. Nng ch l nng; nu ta cho l nng p th nng p, nu ta
cho l nng chi th nng chi.
Tt c cc tnh cmvui, bun, gin, ght, yu, thchch l phn ng ca ta i vi s
vic bn ngoi. Nu chng tr hn m ta cau c phn nn th cng phi, hoc ta ci vui
v kt xe th m chng cng n cho bng c th cng phi. Tr hn ch l tr hn.
chng phi l chuyn vui hay bun, tt hay xu. Vui bun ch l phn ng ca ta i vi
vic tr hn thi.
Na ly nc, nu ni l y na ly th cng ng, m cn na ly th cng ng. ng no
cng ng. Tt c ch ty thuc vo s la chn ca chng ta thi. Ta mun t duy tch
cc, yu i, mnh m? Hay l mun lm k phn nn, ngi thua cuc?
Vui bun, yu ght, tch cc tiu cc, khng phi t ngoi n. Cng khng phi l bNm
tnh tri sinh. Chng ch l thi quen ca ta phn ng li vi cc tc nhn bn ngoi. Nu
ta quen cu nhu, phn nn, tiu cc, th c i ta lun lun cu nhu, phn nn, tiu cc.
(V c l l cng s kt hn vi ngi cu nhu, phn nn, tiu cc. Ni no vung ny).
Nu ta quen mm ci, vui v, nng nhit, th c i ta lun lun mm ci, vui v, nng
nhit.
V trong hai loi ngi ny, bn bit l ai s thnh cng trong i, phi khng?
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Victory!
Bn mi mua mt chic xe my, i c vi hm b tai nn, chic xe nt by, vy l
xui hay hn? Nu chic xe nt by m gi ny bn cn ngi ni chuyn c, th l
xui hay hn vy?
Nu bn thi hng, khng vo i hc u tin mt c, th l vic tt hay xu?
Nu khng vo c trng y nhng li vo trng lut, bit u li chng l du hiu
bn hp ngh lut hn v sau ny s thnh cng ln trong ngh lut.
Nu chng c i hc no nhn bn c, c l l du hiu bn s phi theo con ng
lm n ca Bill Gates.
C th l mi ngi chng ta c mt t di truyn t b m. Nhng nu mnh khng chu
tp t duy tch cc ri c li cho b m v tnh tiu cc mun nm ca mnh, th rt l
bt cng cho b m, v bt cng cho c ng tri na Mun bit lm ton th ch c
cch l i hc ton m thi.
Nhng lm th no tp c mt t duy tch cc?
Th nht, mm ci c ngy, nht l khi ni chuyn vi ai.
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Yu mnh
Posted on Thng Hai 9, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Nu ta mun yu thng tch cc vi th gii v i sng ny, trc ht ta phi thng
yu chnh mnh. Nu mnh khng yu thng qu mn chnh mnh th lm sao mnh c
th yu thng qu mn ngi khc c?
Mi ngi chng ta l mt ch th c bit, vi hnh dng, c tnh v tm tnh c bit.
Trong gn 7 t ngi trn th gii, khng ai ging ta c. Trong cc th nghim v DNA,
ch t hn 1% ca mt genome c th nghim, nhng kt qu t cc th nghim ny
cng cho thy c hi hai ngi trn th gii c DNA ging nhau l di 1 phn triu.
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Vn v nh thng!
Nhng yu mnh l yu th no?
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Bit mnh
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Cc bn mn,
Bn trm nm trc cng nguyn, Socrates li hai t bt t, vng vang sut my ngn
nm lch s trit l ty phng: Bit mnh (gnthi seauton, know thyself). Bit v
chnh mnh tc l bit v con ngi, tc l bit v i sng v ngha ca n. Binh php
Tn gia ni: Bit mnh bit ngi, trm trn trm thng. Nhng nu ta thc s bit r
v ta, th c l l ta cng bit gn ht v ngi ri, v ngi vi ta c l ging nhau
khong 90 phn trm v ch 10 phn trm l khc nhau.
Nhng bit mnh khng phi l vic d. Benjamin Franklin vit: C ba iu cng/khkhn (hard) nhtthp, kim cng, v bit chnh mnh. i khi ta c cm tng l ta
bit rt r v chnh mnh. Tuy nhin, bit c ngha l kim sot c. Nu ta bit ch
trm s suy ngh v hnh ng nh th no, ng nhin l ta khng th b trm. Nhng
bao nhiu ln b hng xm ch ni mt cu nghe hi chanh chua l ta bc la hng
hc tc th, trc khi kp suy ngh Nn ni gin khng? bao nhiu ln ta bit l nn
lm ha vi hn, nhng h thy mt hn th ta li ch mun tt cho hn mt ci, th l ta
li bc sang hng khc? bao nhiu ln ta bit khoe khoang l khng hay, nhng
vn tip tc khoe khoang?
H thn kinh, h suy tng ca chng ta, c lp trnh theo thi quen. C th m chy,
khng cn ta iu khin, m thng th cng khng cho ta iu khin. Mt s cc thi
quen ny ta c th thy c. Mt s thi quen khc, nht l thi quen v cm tnh, ta ch
lm theo m khng bit. Chng hn, ni lo th tim p khc i mt t, hoc nghe iu g
lm ta lo lng th li ti mt, m hi. Hoc l, ni v mnh th c t nhin thm tht
mt t.
Cung cch suy ngh v hnh ng ca mi ngi chng ta c lp trnh bng qu
nhiu iu: H thng tm sinh l t nhin, di truyn, thi quen hc c t b m anh
em, gio dc, kinh nghim, v.v Tt c nhng iu ny to nn c tnh ca ta. C tnh l
tng hp ca tt c cc thi quen ta c. V cc thi quen ny va to nn c tnh, va l
nhng bc mn che ta trong bng ti ca chnh mnh.
Bit c chnh mnh tc l bit c tt c nhng thi quen g ang xy ra trong mnh,
ang hnh ng trong mnh, v tm cch iu khin chng, khng cho chng iu
khin mnh. Bit mnh tc l lm ch c chnh mnh.
Nhng lm th no bit mnh?
Cch t nhin l mnh phi lng yn quan st mnh. Mun bit v con ve, ci kin, hay
bt iu g , th ch c cch l quan st tht k thi. Mun bit v chnh mnh cng th,
ta c phi quan st chnh mnh. V nu khng th va quan st con kin va nhy rock
and roll, th ta cng ch c th quan st chnh mnh trong yn lng.
Yn lng l iu kin cn thit quan st. V bi v yn lng qu him hoi trong thi
i chy ua n o ca chng ta, quan st chnh mnh tr thnh qu kh khn , v vy
nhiu ngi khng c c hi thy c mnh mt cch r rng. y l iu m nh Pht
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2. Quan st mnh trong hin ti: C ba giai on quan st quan st thn th, quan st
cm gic, v quan st t tng.
Quan st thn th l nhm mt, dng tr c nhn thn th mnh, nhn th ngi hay th
nm ca mnh, nhn tay chn, mt mi, tc tai ca mnh.
Sau quan st cm gic, bt u l cm gic trong thn th nh t tay, nga chn, ri
n cc cm gic trong u c nh bun, vui, gin, bc mnh, trng khng, v.v K
quan st c l do m mnh c nhng cm gic , nh l ai hi chiu ni mt cu m
ti nay mnh cn cm thy bun bun.
Giai on cui cng l quan st t tng, nhn xem ci u mnh ang suy t iu g,
nh l mnh ang bc mnh v c ny v ang c ao c mng c ta mt trn, hay
mnh ang ngh n vic phi vit xong t trnh ngy mai.
Ch gin d vy thi. Nu ngy no trc khi ng ta cng c khong 10 pht tp nh th,
th ta s luyn cho h thn kinh ca mnh nhn din cc cm xc v t tng ca mnh
mi khi chng xut hin. V nhn din c tc l c th kim sot c. Thng
thng vic nhn din t n c hiu qu ngn nga, cng nh k trm t ng ngng
trm khi hn bit l ngi ta nhn din c hn l tn trm.
Cc thc tp trn y da mt t theo thin T Nim X ca pht gio nguyn thy.
Thin ny c bn quan st: Thn th, cm gic, t tng v v tr. y ta ch cn dng
3 bc u v mnh m thi. Hn na, cc v s thng ngi xp bng thin nh. Tuy
nhin, nu bn ngi xp bng m trong lng th c tng t n ging nm v gi m,
thi th ln ging nm m gi cho c vic. iu quan trng l tnh lng v quan st,
ch khng nht thit l ngi, nm hay i.
Bn ch cn tp quan st chnh mnh nh th, mt lc no bn s thy c nhng g
xy ra trong mnh mi khi chng n v bn c th lm ch chnh mnhkhng d ni
nng, khng d lo s, khng d mt bnh tnh. Lc no cng tnh lng v ch ng. V
nu c ai thy bn ni nng, khng phi l v bn b ni nng m bn c tnh ra v
ni nng, v lm nh th th ngi kia mi chu nghe.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v.
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y lc ny
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Cho cc bn,
Ngi ln tui th hay sng bng qu khnhng thng ngy thn thng xa xi y
ngi tr tui th hay sng bng tng lainhng c m, nhng mc tiu ca i
mnh. Chng my ai trong chng ta sng vi hin ti. Nhng nu suy ngh cho cng tn
th ta ch c mt thi im sng, l lc ny, v mt ni sng, l ni ny. Nm
pht trc l qu kh, tc l ch mt t tng trong tm ta. Nm pht sp ti th cha
n, li cng ch l mt t tng. Ch c lc ny l tht. Vy th ch c mt cch sng tht
m thi. l sng lc ny, ngay y.
Ni n y chc chn l vi bn s thc mc ngay: Vy ch hm nay nng r i chi
m phi au kh t chi, v cn phi lo lm bi, vy chng phi l hc cho tng lai sao?
Ai li ch bit i xi n vi nng th sng hn l lm ngi hng c n vi my quyn
sch. D nhin l ng, v hu nh ai trong chng ta cng phi lo cho tng lai nh th,
khng nhng l tng lai ca mnh m cn l tng lai ca nhng ngi thn, ca cc
em, ca v con, trong gia nh. Tuy nhin, k hoch cho tng lai ch l mt d tnh, mt
t tng trong u c. thc hin k hoch tng lai, ch c mt cch duy nht l sng
v thc hin n trong hin ti, vo lc ny, ti ni y. Abraham Lincohn ni: iu hay
nht ca tng lai l tng lai ch n mt ngy mt ln. V ngy l ngy hm nay.
Hm nay c rt nhiu iu trong i sng mnh. Nu bn d nh tt nghip trong nm
nm, th ngy hm nay ch c 1 phn 1825, tc l khong 0,55 phn ngn ca k hoch
tt nghip nm nm. Bn cnh cn cc vic khc hm nay, nh lin h vi ngi
trong gia nh, tp th thao, lm vic t thin, ngh ngi, v.v Nu mnh gt tt c mi
s qua mt bn v ch ch tm vo my quyn sch cho k hoch tt nghip, tc l mnh
khng sng cho ngy hm nay. Nu cn i hc th c th l bn khng thy c tai
hi r rng nh nhng ngi lp gia nh. Bao nhiu ph n tm s rng ng chng
tng gim c ca mnh mi ham m cng vic m khng h ng ngng g n v con?
Bao nhiu gia nh v? V nu ni n sinh vin, th bao nhiu gio s i hc v
lnh o cng ty phn nn l sinh vin ra trng nhng chng bit g ngoi my quyn
sch?
l cha ni n stress. Nhng c gng thng xuyn qu mc, thiu ngh ngi, s to
ra stress thng xuyn, lm cho ngi ta thay i tm tnh qua hng lnh lng hp tp,
v trong trng k gy ra nhiu bnh cht ngi. Trong thp nin 1980, M ai cng ca
tng c tnh hng A (type A personality). y l loi ngi thng minh v chy vi vn
tc Apollo. H l nhng ngi thnh cng nht trong thi . Tuy nhin sang n thp
nin 2K ny, loi ngi type A ng cht, b t qu, b bnh tim, cng nh cc loi bnh
him ngho khc, nhiu hn cc loi ngi khc rt nhiu. Vy th ?
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Nhn y mnh xin php cc bn cho mnh lm mt vic c tnh cch c nhn mt t.
Thng thng l mnh hay tm cch lm qu tng, thay v mua qu tng ( l tnh tn
tin hc c t m hi cn nh ). Hm nay dch my cu ny v tnh yu, mnh mun
mang ra lm qu Valentine cho b m (Phng) y. Mong cc bn cng hoan h vi
mnh.
C ba cu ny u nm trong Thnh Kinh (Bible). Mnh dch t bn New International
Version. Nu bn no thy c cu no u su sc v mnh m hn th xin chia s
vi mi ngi, bng cch comment y. Xin mun vn cm t.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v.
Happy Valentines!
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
C l ai trong chng ta cng nghe rt nhiu chuyn v nhng ngi c lnh bnh
mt cch k l, hoc l php l do cu nguyn, hoc l tin rng mnh ung thuc thn
trong cc trc nghim v tm l. T tng tch cc c kh nng tng cng sc mnh ca
h thng min nhim, i khi n mc tr thnh php l. V vy, ngy nay bc s thng
khuyn khch cc bnh nhn nn cu nguyn (nu h c lng tin tn gio), v khuyn
khch thn nhn ngi bnh nn chm nom, lm cho h yu i, chng bnh. Cng v
vy m thnh thong ta vn thy c ngi lm chng rt thnh tht rng Thy Nm Ngi
ny cha ti lnh bnh kinh nin, 20 nm nay khng ai cha ht, mc d l iu tra ra
th thy ch c mt cch cha cho mi bnh nhn l phun nc l vo ngi ca h. Hm
nay, chng ta s ni n vic s dng sc mnh phi thng ny ca t tng vo cuc
sng hng ngy to nn thnh cng trong cuc sng.
I. T tng c th nh hng n i sng v thnh cng (hay tht bi) ca ta trn rt
nhiu cp khc nhau. Cp u tin l t tng nh hng ht mc tp trung nng
lc ca mnh. Nu cu hc tr tin rng mnh s thi u, quyt tm thi u, th ng
nhin l cu ta hc hnh chm ch hn cu hc tr c tin l mnh s rt. Mt ngi tin
rng mnh c nhiu ci hay, ci gii, v chc chn l s thnh cng trong i, th h s c
thi tch cc, vui v, yu i mi ngy. iu ny lm chnh h nng ng hn v
ngi khc cng thch th h hnngi vui v tch cc lun lun hp dn ngi khc,
d l cng phi hay khc phiv vy, h ng nhin l s nhiu c hi thnh cng
trong i.
Ti y ta c th nghe mt thc mc quen thuc: My a ngi mu, tri sinh chng
n p, cho nn d dt hay gii th vn thnh cng, cn em th ci g cng trung bnh hay
di trung bnh, lm sao m b c? D nhin ri, lm sao m b c? i khng
nn so b vi ngi khc, v mi ngi chng ta l mt ch th c bit, vi mt con
ng sng c bit. So b vi ngi khc th chng khc no so snh qu cam vi qu
to. Thnh cng ca ngi khc khng phi l thnh cng ca mnh. Hn na, ngay c t
thnh cng cng rt l tng i v ngha. Thng thng ngi ta ngh rng tin bc,
a v, tn tui l thnh cng. Nhng nu hi cc v ti t ni ting t t cht, v nu
c th mp my c vi cu by gi, c l l chng v no ng vi nh ngha thnh
cng .
Mi ngi chng ta c mt mc ch trong i sng, nh thnh bc s gii phNu, lm ch
mt tim ph, thnh ngi mu, v.v t c mc ch th tm gi l thnh cng.
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Vit Nam V ch
II. T duy tch cc lm cho chnh mnh tr thnh vui v, tch cc, nng ng. T mnh
c nng lc t nhin lm cho ngi khc tin tng v cm phc, v h s mang n cng
vic v c hi cho mnh. Nhng, t duy tch cc cng c nhiu cp . Ta cn phi bit
mnh ang cp no, v c gng n cp cao hn. V d: Ti khng mun ngho th
khng tch cc bng ti mun giu. Ti khng mun bo th khng tch cc bng ti
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mun ngi thon th. Ti khng mun nng gin th khng tch cc bng ti mun
lun lun du dng.
Trong cc v d trn y, mi cu c hai v. V u tin l v tiu cc v dng th ph
nh (khng) v nhng ch tiu cc, tc l ch ch n ci ta khng mun (ngho,
bo, nng gin). Ngc li, v sau ca mi cu rt tch cc v dng th xc nh
(mun) v nhng ch tch tc, tc l ch ch n ci ta mun (giu, thon th, du
dng). Nu bn c t bo mnh ti khng mun bo c th l bn s cn bo rt lu, v
tim thc bn c b nhi vo ch bo, t tim thc c hot ng theo li bo, lm
cho bn khng hng hi v ngh lc i hng thon. Khng mun ngho hay
khng mun nng gin cng th. Ch no ta nhi vo tim thc (bo, ngho, nng
gin), th tim thc c theo hng m lm.
V vy, tt c mi suy t, mi ch dng trong cch suy ngh, mi nh lut vn phm
trong nhng cu ni m thm trong u mnh, u phi tch cc. Th xc nh l th tch
cc nht, v d thng xuyn nht l Ti mun V ch no xc nh ci ta mun l
ch tch cc nht, v d, giu, thon th, du dng. Khi tim thc nhn cc ch ny thng
xuyn, tim thc c theo hng m i, v t nhin l ta s thy hng hi vui sng i
theo hng .
III. T duy tch cc cn i xa hn na v cho rng tng lai vn cn rt yu so vi hin
ti, v hin ti thng l nhng g ta s m c. V vy, ti mun giu (tng lai) vn
cha tch cc, ta phi ngh rng ti ang giu (hin ti) th mi mnh m. C x
nh mt b hong, v ngi ta s c x vi bn nh mt b hong. C ngha l, c ngh
rng mnh l ngi thnh cng, n ni i ng suy t nh ngi thnh cng, ri t
nhin cuc i s mang n thnh cng cho mnh.
iu ny mi ni ra nghe c v hi l lng. Tuy nhin, trong thc t n li cc k hiu
qu. V d: Thay v ngi c sch qun l c i hy vng s thnh nh lnh o
gii, ngy hm nay bn c ng ra mi gi bn b t chc mt CLB g , ng nhin
bn thnh ngi lnh o hm nay ca nhm (d trn thc t chc danh l g, k c
chc danh chy lng xng chuyn). Vic t t trn vai mnh gnh nng ngi xy
dng nhm s bin bn thnh mt lnh o ti ba mt ngy no , m nu c c sch
50 nm th cng khng lm c.
y ta thy tin trnh tp luyn qua mt bc nhy vt rt ln. T vic tp trung t
tng tch cc v ti mun trong tng lai, ta i t duy thnh ti ang trong
hin ti, v ti ang t nhin thc Ny ta n hnh ng ngay. T t duy n hnh
ng l mt bc nhy, xem ra rt gin d vi mt s ngi, nhng i vi nhiu ngi,
l bc nhy m c i h, cho n khi nhm mt, h vn khng dm lm.
Nu bn c lng tin nh ch bng mt ht ci, bn c th bo ngn ni ny di i ni
khc, v n s di i. Bn nghe cu ny c quen thuc khng? Bn c tin vo chnh
mnh, d vi lng tin ch bng mt ht ci khng?
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v!
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Cho cc bn,
i vi ngi Vit chng ta th c l nhng ngn t c s dng tn tin nht, tn tin
n mc keo kit, l nhng li khen. R l Li ni khng mt tin mua, t do m ni
min ng c khen.
n s lm thy c bn mc chic o p, mi m ming Tri, hm nay Vn p qu
l my qu v cng phng bt u nheo nheo mt Hmm coi b bt u th cu.
V nh mi khen thng con trai cha ht mt cu, b ch Anh c lm h con.
Thng cho roi cho vt, ght cho ngt cho bi. C nh vy con ci n ln ngi trn u.
(Qu v i, qu v c ght th xin cho mt hp s-c-la, nht l loi made in Switzerland.
Mnh ha l s khng leo ln u qu v). trng th d c n bt tai hn l c mt
li khen. i lm, mnh lm vic gii n mc vn phng ca mnh mi vic tri chy,
chng c x-cng-an g bao gi, th chng ai thm . Hi c ai phn nn by b,
th c nc nho v da.
Nu mi ngy, tng s t ta ni trong ngy chia ra ng 50% khen v 50% ch, th
l qun l v gio dc na ma. Nu ch 75% v khen 25%, l qun l v gio dc
bng stress. Nu khen 75% v ch 25%, l qun l v gio dc bng mch nha. Trong
vn ha thng cho roi cho vt ca ta, tng li khen ln n mc na ma l kh
khn lm ri, ni chi l mch nha. Bn c mun ng hng xm mang ci roi my bng
lng n t thng tay my ci vo mng bn, ri m ming ci huynh huch, khoe
chic rng vng lp le, Ti yu ch lm ch i , khng? Th th ti sao bn li tin rng
bn c th em th thut p dng cho con ci, thn nhn, bn b?
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Khuyn khch em
M mnh cng khng hiu truyn thng thng cho roi cho vt ny n t u. Mt
ln, lu lm ri, trong mt bui c-ph m trong mt qun nhuy l s thc, vo
qun nhu nhng gi c-phmt ngi bn ca mnh l gii: Ti ngh c l l t
vn ha Pht gio. Lm nh vy tp cho tr con bit dp ci ti ca mnh xung.
Mnh tr li ngay l mnh khng thy Pht gio c mi , ch ng ni l c r.
Pht hc rt coi trng nhn cch ca mi c nhn v dy ngi ta rng mi ngi chng
ta, k c nhng ngi xem ra t hi nht, u c Pht tnh trong lng, u l Pht-angthnh, v nht nh l mt ngy no kip ny hoc mt kip sau no s c o
thnh Pht. L thuyt v ng ca nh Pht dy chng ta ng chp vo ci ng ca
mnh, ng kiu cng hm hnh, ch khng ni l phi coi thng, ch p v nh p
n. Hn na, gio dc nh Pht l t gio dc, t gii thot, ch khng phi do ngi
khc cm cy p.
Theo mnh ngh, chc chn l khi my ch ba bn Trung quc sang h tin nhn ta
my ngn nm v trc, nu cc ch thng minh mt t (v d nhin l cc ch rt thng
minh), chc chn l cc ch phi tay th qut roi vo dn bn x, ming th Ng i l a.
Ng i l a. n thi cc anh Ph-lang-sa th nht thit phi l tay th bt tai ming th
je taime. Nht nh phi l nh vy, v bn cht chnh tr ca h v n l ha phi
l nh th. V nu ngy nay ta vn cn yu qu phng php va bt tai va I love you
ny th phi l hi chng Stockholm.
C l l khng cn ni nhiu th chng ta ai cng bit tm quan trng ca tnh t trng
trong vic pht trin nng lc hot ng v kh nng sng to ca con ngi. T trng
l t tn trng mnh. Tc l mnh phi thy mnh c ci g ng tn trng. M lm sao
thy c ci g ng tn trng trong mnh khi mnh c b ph phn, roi vt, hng ngy?
Cch thng thng nht chng ta thy c ci hay ca mnh l nh ngi khc vch
ra: Tri, mt ch p qu, chic o ny hp vi ch qu, ch thng minh qu c,
ch gii ngoi giao qu. D l ngi ln hay l tr em, rt kh pht trin tnh t
trng khi ti ngy ch c nghe n ci yu ca mnh m chng thy ai ni mnh c
im no hay c.
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Khuyn khch
D nhin l li ta khen lm cho ngi c khen tch cc v yu i hn. Nhng i vi
nhng ngi thc tp t duy tch cc, li khen li cn quan trng nhiu hn na, v li
khen tng ngi khc nh hng trc tip n t duy ca chnh ta. Th nht, li ta
khen ngi khc s cho chnh ta bit rng ta t tin. Bi v ch c ngi t tin mi khen
ngi khc, ngi khng t tin th ghen ght v thng bi mc ci yu ca ngi khc.
Th hai, ch c ngi tch cc trong t duy mi thy c nhiu ci hay ci p ca
ngi khc m khen. Nu khng t duy tch cc th khng th thy ci g hay p
c. Th ba, khen ngi khc tc l nng ngi ta ln, m nng ngi khc ln ng
nhin c ngha l gim ta xung. Ngha l, ch c ngi khim tn trong lng mi hay
khen ngi khc. Thiu khim tn th rt kh m khen. Th t, cng yu nhiu ngi
chung quanh, ta cng thy nhiu iu hay p ca h v cng mun tn dng h bng
li. Cc cp tnh nhn u nh th. l bn tnh con ngi. V vy nu ta t khen, hy
t hi: Thc s l mnh c yu ai chung quanh mnh khng y? V vy , trc khi li
khen tc ng nh l mt phng cch gio dc v qun l i vi ngi khc, ngay lc
cn dng t tng trong u ta, trc khi ni ra, li khen dnh cho ngi khc l
phng thuc thn diu cho chnh ta v l thc o cho chnh ta. Khen ngi nhng
thc ra l luyn tp tm mnh.
trn, chng ta c ni n gio dc v qun l mch nha vi 75% khen v 25% ch,
nhng ch l mc thp. n mc qun l tuyt nh th ch cn 100% khen, v chng
cn t no ch ht. V d: Ngi cng s ca mnh hi yu v qun l thi gian, mnh c
th ni: Em rt hay, rt analytical, gii communication, gii quyt mi vn rt nhanh
chng v chnh xc. Nu em qun l thi gian hay hn mt t, lm cho vic s dng thi
gian c hiu qu hn, th nng xut ca em s cn tng thm c rt nhiu. Ta vn c
th khen trong khi gip ngi cng s thy c khuyt im ca h.
Trong t duy tch cc, ch l tiu cc, khng cn dng n, khng nn dng n. Hn
na, y l mt im quan trng khc m ngi t duy tch cc cn lu : Ch thng
l phn nh tnh tiu cc ca ngi ni. Nu ta ch, m khng bit dng li khen
vch ra khuyt im, th, mt l, kh nng s dng li ni ca ta cn yu, hai l, ta cn
rt tiu cc trong t duy. (Tuy nhin qun l l mt ngh thut. Trong trng hp no ,
vi mt ngi no , c th l ch thng mt, th ngi mi nhp tm lc .
Nhng y l ngoi l, m l ngoi l th c ngha l ch nn c mt nm mt ln).
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T duy tch cc l g ?
Posted on Thng Hai 20, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
T duy tch cc l g? T duy tch cc khc vi mt vi loi t duy khc nh th no?
Ti sao ta li cn t duy tch cc?
T duy thng c ngha l suy ngh, v ni n suy ngh l ta thng c n tng rng
l mt hot ng ca no b mt lc no . Thc ra, t t duy y rng ri hn,
v c ngha l mt thi sng, mt ci nhn v cuc i v s sng, tng t nh t duy
trong cm t thay i t duy. T duy tch cc chnh l sng tch cc hay thi tch
cc.
Tch cc c ngha l khng tiu cc
, l
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Bay!
V ta cn thc tp v tm tnh khng d g thay i c. Tm tnh ca mi ngi l
mt b my tm sinh l c bit, c nh th m vui bun yu ght. Khng phi mun i
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Lut Hp Dn
Posted on Thng Ba 1, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
T ngn xa con ngi khm ph ra tru tm tru, nga tm nga, ni no vung
ny, lng tin bng ht ci di c ni non, v nhng cu thn ch ngn gn lp i
lp li vi lng thnh s lm cho s vic xy ra theo mnh mun. Ngy nay c th gii
phng ty ang ni n cc iu ny, nhng vi mt t mi hnLut Hp Dn (law
of attraction).
Mt cch vn tt, lut hp dn ni rng bt c t tng g ta c cng u hp dn cc
nng lc tng t trong v tr to nn s vic theo t tng . V d: Ti s c
tin, nu c ngh v tin nh th t dng ta s c tin. Ti s p, c ngh nh th th ta
s thnh p ra.
D nhin ni n lng tin hay thn ch, th vn c mt nn tng rt khoa hc.
Nu ta c tin l ta c tin th ra s rt hng hi lao vo cc vic lm tin. Cng lm, cng
nhiu kinh nghim, cng gii, cng thnh ln. y ch l chuyn hin nhin. Hoc, chng
no tin l mnh p trai th thng hay n cch n mc hn v t tin hn vi cc c.
M cc c th thch n ng n mc t t v t tin. Rt cuc s lng cc c bn chng c
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l chng minh hng hn nht l chng p trai. Lng tin lm cho mnh c t tin v tp
trung t tng, do a n thnh cng. Vn rt gin d.
Tuy nhin lut hp dn cn c kha cnh siu nhin ca n. l, sc mnh ca t
tng hp dn cc nng lc trong v tr thc hin mun ca t tng. Tng t nh
nh Pht ni, mt ting khNy mng tay c th mang m ba rung ng n v lng th
gii. Nh vy ngha l sao? Nng lc g trong v tr li cng hng vi nng lc ca t
tng ca ta n mc ?
Chng ta s khng i vo lnh vc tm l ngoi cm m ta khng sc chng minh, tc
l v lng th gii. Thay v vy, ta s ch kho st lut hp dn trong th gii c nhn
ca mi ngi chng ta, thy c tnh cch khoa hc ca n, v s dng n mt
cch hiu qu. Th gii c nhn ca mi ngi chng ta l chnh mnh, gia nh, bn b,
nhng ngi lm cng s, nhng ngi mnh giao tip hng ngy, nhng ngi mnh
khng giao tip nhng h c tip xc vi t tng ca mnhnh nhng ngi c iu
g mnh vit trn Internet.
Hp dn nhau cc
Danh t u tin ta phi gii thch l t tng. T t tng (idea) trong lut hp
dn c th lm cho rt nhiu ngi hiu lm rng l mt hot ng ca thc, nh
suy ngh hay suy t. Nhng trong lut hp dn, t tng c ngha l mt hot ng
ca tm thcgm thc, tim thc v c cc cm gic nh vui bun yu ght. Ni
chung, t tng l tt c nhng g xy ra trong tm ta. M ni n tm, l chng ta u
bit tim thc ln lao v mnh m hn thc ngn ln, cho nn khi hiu t t tng
trong lut hp dn nh l mt hnh ng suy ngh ca thc m thi, l ta lm mt
sc mnh ca lut hp dn i c trm, c nghn ln. V d: Nu ming ta lNm bNm ti s
c tin (tc l thc), nhng trong thm tm ta khng tin l iu ny s thnh s thc
(tc l tim thc). M tim thc th mnh hn thc c nghn ln, cho nn ng nhin
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l ta s sng theo hng ti s khng c tin, v v vy mt t tin trong vic kim tin.
Th th lut hp dn vn ng, nhng thn ch ca ta th sai.
V tim thc rt kh cho ta thy, ta cn phi tm cch thy tim thc qua nhng ci
khclng tin, v cm gic. Lng tin iu khin mt phn rt ln s suy ngh ca tim
thc, v cm gic thng l hu qu ca tim thc, cho nn ta qun l tim thc bng
qun l lng tin v cm giclng tin phi tht mnh m, cho n ni ta lun lun cm
thy rt l hng hi, chc n. Khi ta ni ti s c tin vi mt lng tin mnh m v mt
cm gic hng hi, chc n, th lc t tng ca ta mi tm gi l chn tht v mnh
m. V vy, thay v ni thc v tim thc, rt m h v kh hiu, chng ta ch cn
quan tm n 3 iu: (1) s suy ngh, (2) lng tin, v (3) cm gic. Suy ngh n iu g,
nh ti s xung cn, th suy ngh vi mt lng tin vng chi v mt cm gic hng
hi. Lc t tng mi thc s c sc mnh chuyn ha i sng ta v th gii ca ta.
Ni n y c l chng ta mng tng c lut hp dn hot ng nh th no:
Nu ta c ni ti c tin vi mt lng tin mnh m v mt thi hng hi, th tim
thc ti s c tin s bt y ch huy tc phong v cch sng ca ta. T nhin l ta s
bt u hng say nghin cu vic kim tin, ni chuyn kim tin vi bn b, sing nng
i tm vic lm, h vic g c th kim ra tin ta u hng hi lm. Nhng ngi nh vy,
i xin vic u, cc ng ch u m. Ngi no mun lm thng mi g cng mun
tm partner nh vy. Khng giu sao c?
Nh vy ta thy t tng ca ta chuyn ha c i ta, v t nht l i sng ca
nhng ngi lm vic chung. V nu c bn b thn nhn no , nghe ta ni v tin vo
cch sng ca ta, h lm theo v thnh cng, cng l do t tng ca ta phn no
chuyn ha cuc i h. V nu mt t bo no nh ta vit mt bi v kinh nghim
ca mnh, nhng c gi no nh m chuyn ha i sng ca h, mt phn cng l
do t tng ca ta. chnh l t tng ca ta c nng lc chuyn ha th gii ca ta.
V nu uy tn ca bn cng cao trong x hi, th th gii ca bn cng ln, nh hng
chuyn ha ca bn trn hnh tinh ny cng nhiu. Rt thc tin v khoa hc.
Lut hp dn l lut t nhin, nh l trng lc, rt trung tnh. Lut hp dn ng vi tt
c mi ngi, khng cn bit nam n, ln b, giu ngho, v quan trng nht l, khng
cn bit tt xu. Ngi lng thin tin chc chn l mnh s giu, s giu nh lm n
lng thin. Ngi c mu n cp, tin mt cch st l mnh s giu, th s giu nh
n cp. V vy, chng ta thy trong x hi, bt k ai, tt hay xu, cng c th thnh
cng.
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Vn hp dn nhau c
Th th c g khc bit gia ngi xu v ngi tt y? Tha, c lut nhn qu (law of
causation). Ch ny nghe nh xut thn t Pht gio, nhng thc ra c th gii dng
n c triu nm nay, v nh ngi th s c hu qu l b ngi nh li, ai cng phi
thy. Nu lm n lng thin th c nhiu bn v khng c k th, cho nn c xc sut rt
cao l thnh cng s vi mnh rt lu. May ra th c th hng c tui gi hnh phc.
Nu i n cp, th c nhiu k th qu, li c cc bc cng an chiu c c bit, nn
xc sut hng c thnh cng lu ngy chc l ch hn zero mt nc nh, v xc sut
c ng da ct th sut sot 100%. S khc bit gia tt v xu l ch mt bn
th nhiu bn nn sng lu, mt bn th nhiu th nn cht yu.
Lut hp dn l lut ca t tng, m ngn ng l mt phn rt ln ca t tng, cho
nn ngn ng rt quan trng trong lut hp dn. Chng ta ni qua iu ny trong bi
Sc mnh ca t tng. Trong ngn ng ca con ngi, th ph nh c nh hng rt
yu trong tm thc. V d: Ti khng yu ai th nht nh nc c. N chng c ngha
l g ht, n ch c ngha l ti khng yu ai, v khng chc l ti c ght ai khng. Nghe
chn pho. Hay ti khng chng anh, chng ngha l g c, vy anh c ng h ti
khng?
V vy khi ta ni mt cu ph nh ti khng mun bo, tim thc ca ta khng thm
ci yu t ca ch khng ph nh, m li thm ci mnh m ca ch bo xc nh.
Cho nn tim thc c hng ta sng theo hng bo. V vy, cc chuyn gia v t duy
tch cc (cng nh cc lut s chuyn v tranh tng trc ta) lun lun dy ngi ta ni
v vit th xc nh: Ti mun gy (khng phi l ti khng mun bo), hay ti
mun giu (khng phi l ti khng mun ngho).
Mt s cc chuyn gia cn c cch trnh by th ny: Lut hp dn khng bit vn phm
, ch bit cc t m thi. Nu cu bn ni m c ch yu, khng cn bit l ph nh
hay xc nh, th lut hp dn c dn ta i theo hng yu. Cc bn c nghe cc ph n
ln tui k chuyn i ca h khng: Hi tui ght ng gn cht, thy mt l wo
ng khc. Nht nh l khng thm thng. Rt cuc cng ly ng. Tm li ti yu
anh Tn hay ti khng yu anh Tn, i vi lut hp dn th nh nhau, v c hai ch c
ngha l yu v anh Tn. Tng t nh vy, ti khng thch bo v ti thich bo
u ch c ngha l ti v bo. V vy, ta lun lun phi suy ngh (v ni chuyn
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nh cao hp dn
D nhin l ai trong chng ta cng bit nh hng ca lut lp i lp li (law of
repetition). Cc gio chc u rt gii lut ny. Dy mt iu nhng c lp i lp li
hng trm ln, bng hng trm cch khc nhau (bit ri, kh lm, ni mi!), nh vy th
hc tr mi nhp tm c. Cho nn, theo lut hp dn, nu bn mun iu g th son
mt cu thn ch ngn, nh ti s c tin, ri c thm lp i li cu trong u, th
lut hp dn s c tc dng mnh m. (Nhc thm thi, lm nhm ngoi ming chc l s
b ngi nh cho nhp vin ).
V mt quy lut ngn ng khc na l hin ti th lun lun lun mnh hn tng lai.
Hy so snh anh yu em v anh s yu em xem cu no mnh hn. Nhng iu ta
c mun ng nhin l thuc v tng lai, v d ti mun c tin. Th th ta gii
quyt ci yu ca tng lai th no? Tha, c 2 phng cch. Th nht, nu vic g c
th bin n thnh hin ti, th phi suy ngh theo cch hin ti. V d: Thay v ti s c
t tin th ta phi ni Ti c t tin, v chng l do g ta khng th ni ti c t tin ngay
by gi m phi i n sang nm.
Th hai, i khi ta cm thy nht nh khng th ni th hin ti mt cch y tin tng
c, v d, nu trong ti khng c mt ng xu, th ni ti s c tin d tin hn l ti
c tin. Trong trng hp c ni ti s nhng phi buc tng lai vo hin ti,
ngay trong lc ny, ngay y. Tc l, hin thi ti ang ngi y ni chuyn vi bn
ca ti, ti bit l ti mun c tin v ti s c tin, nhng ci s c tht c hay
khng cng l do ti sng trong hin ti c tht hay khngtng lai ch l mt chui
nhng ngy ca hin ti. Hin ti ti ang ni chuyn vi bn ti, ti s ni chuyn rt
thc, ti s lng nghe rt k, s m rng u c v con tim nghe, ti s chia s tht
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tnh, ti s dng mi giy ng h mt cch tn tnh. Sng ngay pht ny, ngay ti y,
mt cch tn tnh, d l mnh ang lm bt k vic g, th l cch ni hin ti c
tht vo mt tng lai s n tht.
Cui cng, c bn hi lut hp dn ny t u ti? D nhin l nghe qua ta cng thy
lut hp dn l qui lut tm l t nhin. Con ngi hp dn nhau v sc mnh bn trong
ca mnh. V cc chuyn gia v tm l v truyn thng (communication) ni n
nhiu thp k (nu khng ni l hng nghn nm nay). (Ch c phn tm l ngoi cm
nng lng ca tm thc lm chuyn ng nng lng ca v trth mnh xin c php
min bn, v cha nm chc). Gn y mt vi cun sch bn chy Ny danh t lut
hp dn thnh rt ph thng. Theo mnh ngh, lut hp dn c din ging ngy nay
chnh l t duy tch cc pht xut t cc ging s thin cha gio khi xalng tin
bng ht ci di c ni nontrnh by li mt cch khoa hc hn bng cc khi nim
Pht gio ang rt thnh hnh trong gii tr thc u M ngy nay.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui!
Mn,
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Git nc
Vy, nhng git nc hm nay l g? V ta ang lm g tch t chng?
Ngay u bi, ta ni ta mun lm i sng mnh c ngha hn v th gii tt p
hn? Th gii l mt t rt tru tng. Rt kh ta Thanh Ha v lm cho th gii
Nam Phi tt p hn. Cho nn tt c nhng t tru tng ta ni n hng ngy, ta phi
bit c th ha chng. Hy i th gii thnh th gii ca ti. Th gii ca ti l
chnh ti v nhng ngi ti thn quen v giao tip hng ngy. Ta ang lm g hng ngy
lm th gii ca ta tt p hn? D qu, c mang nhng bng hoa nh cm cng khp
th gii ca ta hng ngy, th th gii ca ta s tt p hng ngy, phi khng? Rt gin
d!
Nhng nhng bng hoa nh l g? , hy c sng to ca bn t tm cu tr li.
Sng to khng c gii hn, sng to l cnh hi u c th lao su vo lng bin hay vn
qua cc tng tri. Nhng cha cn n sng to, ch cn mc t m l ai cng bit
cu tr li: Nhng a hoa nh l nhng n ci vi ng ch qun ph quen, nhng ci
gt u cho em b hng xm, nhng hi han u ngy vi v con trong nh, nhng cu
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Ch l hoa c thi
V vy, nu bn ch suy ngh mt t v nhng g bn c th dng nh nhng bng hoa nh
mang cm y th gii ca bn hng ngy, bn c th lm cho th gii tt p hn
hng ngy. V chng my chc nhng ngi trong th gii ca bn u s cng nhn
rng bn l ngi trang tr ni tht cho th gii ring ca h hng ngy, v bn l mt
phn ca th gii ring ca h. Nu trong th gii ca bn c 100 ngi, th bn l
chuyn vin trang tr ni tht cho 101 th gii ring. Trong thi i @, nu bn ni
chuyn thng xuyn vi 2 nghn ngi trong cc din n, bn ang lm p cho 2K1
th gii ring. Nu mt th gii ring c khong 100 ngi, hay 2K ngi, bn c nhn
ln tm s ngi. Hiu ng cp s nhn rt kinh khng.
Nhng hnh ng rt nh lm thng xuyn hng ngy, vi mt tm lng khim tn,
gin d v u i, c nhng nh hng rt ln trong th gii ny. Mt ting khNy mng
tay c th mang m ba rung ng n v lng th gii. Cu ny ca Pht gia rt su
sc. Hy xem mi th gii l mt tri tim con ngi. nh hng dy chuyn ca mt n
ci nh trong ngy, c th lan t tim ny sang tim kia, bit u c th ko di n v
lng thi gian v v lng con tim. Cc bn c tm cu , ri chim nghim n
trong cuc sng, bn s thy mc su thm ca n.
ng ngh n i dng. Ta khng th lm ra bin. i dng t n t i. Khng ai
iu khin c i dng. Nhng bn c th lm ra nhng git nc hng ngy to
i dng. Ha s Van Gogh ni, Nhng iu v i to ra bi nhng iu nh b gom
li. Napoleon Hill, tc gi quyn Think and grow rich (Suy ngh v lm giu), cha
ca truyn thng vn hc thnh cng c nhn ngy nay, ni, Nu bn khng lm c
nhng vic v i, th lm nhng vic nh b mt cch v i. Tc l sao? Tc l gt u
mm ci cho ngi hng xm v tin rng, mt cch huyn diu no , n ci nh b
ca mnh vn c mt nng lng m thm rung ng n v lng th gii, v lng con
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cng l tch cc sao ?
Th hn cng l ngn la am m thc Ny con ngi hng say hot ng trong vic tr
th v p , nh tnh yu thc Ny con ngi yu thng v xy dng. Lm li ln ca
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C tch cc ln tiu cc, c tnh yu ln th hn, u to ra nng lc. Cuc u tranh gia
nng lc tch cc v nng lc tiu cc l ci m, trong mi nn vn ho ca con ngi,
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ph, hng say ch trch, hng say p ngi ta xung, l nhng hng say tiu cc, d
xem ra rt nng, rt nhiu nng lc. Martin Luther King ni, Hn th khin i sng t
lit, tnh yu gii phng. Hn th tung ri bi i sng, tnh yu em n hi ha. Hn
th ph en cuc i, tnh yu ri sng.
Nhng, nu ta khng l ngi hiu v lm ch c con tim ca mnh, ta s khng
phn bit c tnh yu v th hn trong tim. Nu c ngi cp ng ang cp mt
thiu n, v ta ra tay ho hip nh hn cu nng, th trong lng ta ang c tnh yu
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cng v quan bng mi cch, th l tnh yu hay th hn?
y l cu hi ht sc ch quan, v thc s l ch c mnh bn hiu c qu tim ca
bn. Khng ai c th tr li cho bn cbn ang v tnh yu hay th hn trong lng? Nu
bn khng chc, th mnh chia s vi bn mt phng cch nhn bit gin d. Nhng cch
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vn lun thng yu con ci. l bn tnh con ngi t nhin. Rt nhiu ngi trong
chng ta lc khi bn tnh yu thng ca mnh qu lu, cho nn thng hay th ght
ngi mnh cho l lm li, trong khi mnh vn c yu lm li ai hng say u t
tham nhng trong khi mnh vn nhn tin hay chi tin di gm bn thng xuyn?
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ta sng nh l c xy trn mt nn tng tm linh vng chc, d nn tng l Thng
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ng gi hng xm n gip lp ging. Nhiu ngi n ph, gip xc t xung
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Synergy l Nng lc cng hng, nng lc to ra do lm vic ha hp vi nhau.
Synergy c gc ch Hy Lp l lm vic vi nhau. Nng lc cng hng ni n mt
hin tng quan trng: Nng lc to ra do mt nhm ngi lm vic chung vi nhau th
cao hn l tng s nng lc ca tt c cc c nhn trong nhm cng li. V du: Mt ngi
lm ring r c th cy xong 1 hecta t mt ngy, nhng nu 20 ngi lm chung vi
nhau th c th lm xong 25 hecta mt ngy. S gia tng nng sut 5 hecta l hu qu ca
cng hng.
Cng hng l t ca m hc. Khi mt m thanh vi mt tn s no gp mt vt no
c th dao ng cng mt tn s, nh ting ca dy n gp thng n, cng hng s
xy ra v tng cng m thanh rt nhiu. T vt l n quan h con ngi, hot ng
chung vi nhau cng tn s s lm cho cng ca nng sut gia tng vt bc. V
vy, trong qun l, t synergy c nhc nh n hu nh hng ngy.
Trong qun l th chng ta c th hiu synergy rt dnu mt i bng thn thit nhau,
mi ngi ai cng lm ng phn s mnh, chia s vi ng i, hiu nhau rt nhanh,
khng ghen t nhau, cng mt lng quyt thng, th i bng c synergy rt cao v rt
hay thng. Tuy nhin, nu i bng hay ci v nhau, ganh t nhau, mt ngi ni 10 th
ngi cc ngi kia hiu c c 5, i bng nh vy thiu synergy v s kh thng.
To ra c synergy hay khng, phn ln l do ngi lnh o. Khi tuyn cu th mi
vo i bng, k thut chi bng ch l mt phn, tm tnh ngi cu th c ph hp vi
tm tnh ca cc cu th khc trong i, v tinh thn teamwork (tinh thn ng i) ca
ngi cao khng, mi l yu t quyt nh. Vic tuyn ng ngi l quyt nh rt
quan trng ca lnh o. Mt con su lm ru ni canh. Mt cu th khng c tinh thn
ng i lm hng c i bng.
V trong tin trnh qun l i bng, d nhin l lnh o phi t ln mc hng u vic
duy tr v pht trin thit thn v tinh thn ng i. Nu c thit thn v tinh thn ng
i cao, t nhin cc k nng lm vic ng i s c, nh k nng truyn thngni
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chuyn ng ton i ng chin thut v chin lc trn sn c.
l qun l; kh nhng vn cn d, bi v ngi lnh o c mt i v k lut ca i
lm vic. Ci kh l trong nhng sinh hot x hi, khi chng ta ai cng l ph thng
dn nhng li quan tm n vic thnh ph, vic quc gia (Ni chung l lm lnh nhng
hay quan tm n vic quan ), lm th no chng ta c th to ra synergy cho vic
g?
Nu quan st cc phong tro x hi, ta thy tin trnh pht trin ca synergy xy ra th
ny. Hy dng vic v sinh thnh ph lm v d.
1. Mt ph thng dn vit bi trn Internet ni v v sinh thnh phngng x rc, thm
thng rc, gio dc lm p thnh ph, u t lm p thnh ph, v.v
2. Vi ph thng dn khc ng v vit bi tng t. Th l ta bt u c synergy.
Cng nhiu ngi ni, ng ri, cc bn ni phi lm l ta cng c nhiu synergy. Mt
lc no , khi c nhiu ngi ln ting, synergy c th mnh n ni ta cm nh c th
s n c trn khng.
3. Mt nhm ph thng dn no quyt inh i mt bc xa hn, lm iu g ngay
trn ng phv d, t chc vi cc doanh nghip a phng t mt dy thng rc
p mt ngay trn mt khc ph. Ta s thy synergy tng ln rt cao.
4. Ti cc a phng khc, nhiu nhm ph thng dn, theo gng, cng lp ra nhng
d n lm sch v p ng ph. By gi ta c mt phong tro, v synergy c tun
ln ngn ngt.
Cc phong tro cch mng x hi t c ch kim pht trin theo m hnh ny, t c ngoi
l, bi v tt c u c chi phi bi mt quy lut t nhin: Mt nng lc tch cc t
mt ngi c kh nng kch ng nng lc tch cc t mt ngi khc. V nng lc tch
cc ca t hai ngi tr ln c tc ng cng hng v thnh mnh hn rt nhiu v s
kch thch nhiu nng lc tch cc t nhiu ngi khc. Ri li tng cng hng, tng
kch ng, tng tham gia, ri tng cng hng, tng kch ng, tng tham gia c vy
m pht trin nh l qu cu tuyt bng nm tay ln t trn ni xung, cng ln th cng
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hn n lc ln nh tri ni ln.
Nng lc tht l kinh khng, phi khng cc bn? Nhng mnh s ni cho cc bn
nghe mt b mt ngt ngo khc. Cho n lc ny, c th l mt s bn c bi ny nh
c tiu thuyt ni n nhng phong tro cch mng x hi ca nhng huyn thoi no
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li chnh mnh. V iu ny th tht l chnh xc. T thng mnh tr thnh thin ho
hn mt t mi ngy khng phi l d, v l cuc u tranh sut i. Thng k ch
bn ngoi th rt d, t thng th kh hn nghn ln. (Mnh khng cng c mu tiu
lm nu ra y mt v d rt r. ng ta bch chin bch thng vi tt c hng binh
thin h, vy m ch c ci vic chng tham nhng thi th c xch c tang mun nm ).
Nhng hm nay mnh mun bn n mt vn t nh trong suy tng. Khi ni n
cuc chin t thng phi chng ta rt d b li lm l ngh n nhng im yu ca
chnh ta nh l mt k th cn phi trit h? V nu nh vy th khng phi l ta t chi
b mt phn ca chnh ta sao? V nh vy khng phi l ta s b t trong mt tnh trng
au kh trong tm thc hay sao? Ci tn ti t ny, sao n c mi trong ti, lm sao
ti git cht n i con ngi ti thnh thin ra? khng phi l mt hnh thc split
personality (phn chia nhn cch) m nhng trng hp nng n l mt loi tm bnh
nguy him hay sao?
Nu cc bn ngh rng y l mt cu hi l thuyt chng lin h g n cuc sng, th
hy ngh li xem. bao nhiu ln chng ta rt bc mnh vi yu km ca chnh
mnh? bao nhiu ln ta lm ta tht vng? bao nhiu ln ta hu nh tuyt vng v
yu km ca mnh? L thuyt khng?
Nhng nu suy ngh su xa hn mt t th li suy ngh chin u chng li chnh mnh
c g khng n, phi khng cc bn? Bao nhiu chuyn trn i phi chin u, cm,
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Trc y nhiu nm, nu mnh nh khng lm, c cun ging Kinh Kim Cang ca
Thin S Nht Hnh, c on Thin S ni v m p ci gin, ci au ca mnh, ng
chi b hay xua ui n, hy nhn nhn v yu thng n, v n chnh l mnh, l mt
phn ca mnh. Phn ng u tin ca mnh l Hmm thin s ny ni sao nghe
cha qu nhng nghe cng rt mi l. t ra l n ngh cch gii quyt vn ch
c mt phe, l phe ta, ch khng c thng ti thin nh nhau vi thng ti c. Khng c
mu thun ni tm. Vy l mnh tm nghin cu vn thm mt t.
V sau th mnh nhn ra ngay l nhn nhn v m p ci yu, ci au ca mnh l
mt thc hnh tm l c s dng rt nhiu t Ty sang ng. K t Sigmund Freud,
khoa phn tm hc cha bnh tm thn bng cch gip bnh nhn t t i ngc v d
vng li ra ngoi nh sng nhng kinh nghim khng vui b chn du (repressed)
trong tim thc t trc v ngy nay sinh ra nhng vn tm l. Khi bnh nhn (vi s
gip sc ca bc s phn tm) li ra ng chng o tc v bnh nhn xc nhn l
chnh hn, th bnh nhn tc th lnh bnh. iu ny th rt cn bn; mnh bit t hi
hc trit i Hc Vn Khoa Si Gn, nhng ch ngh n my ngi b bnh ch
khng ngh n p dng vo i sng thng nht cho chnh mnh.
Trong khong mt thp nin tr li y, khoa tm l ph thng (pop psychology) M
cng ch tm n i din nim au trong tm, ni n ra ngoi (talk it out), c th lm
ha (reconcile) vi n v vi chnh mnh, v ng ca vn (put a closure on the
problem).
(Vn l l thuyt ny tr thnh qu hp dn n ni ngy nay n tr thnh cc reality
show (show thc t) trn TV M, trong mi ngi c tr tin mang nhng
chuyn kn trong gia nh, ln TV ni cho thin h nghe, reconcile v put a closure!!
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nht l khi ta b tn cng bi tht bi, tht tnh, tht trn, tht th, tht c, tht , tht lc,
tht tit, tht thn, tht nghip, tht th, v ta s hi n tht sc, tht thanh, chi vi tht
kinh hn va, cui cng l tht vng v tht ch. Lc m ta gp khng hong chnh l lc
ta cn t duy tch cc nhiu nht ng c.
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Nhng, khi gp khng hong th ta li hay suy t rt tiu cc! Mi b nng cho gi s de
l bt u bing n bing ng. Bia bnh thng th ng, lc ny ngt nh nc chanh
ng. Mi b thuc c 6 thng, lc ny ln la lm bn li vi b thuc l l. Ph n
th bnh thng thy ai cng d thng, lc ny mi ng c chn l Tr Vng
mt nc v c K, U Vng mt nc v Bao T, v nhn loi, k c tui, thng kh v
Eva. Cuc i bnh thng th khng mu hng cng mu xanh, lc ny c ti m m
nh m ba mi. V quan trng nht l, c c th ln tinh thn ca ta nh b bp di
ngn Ng Hnh Sn v i, khng ca quy ng no c, v cng khng bun ca
quy. Th gii chung quanh ta nh ang v ra tng mnh. V t duy tch cc? Dp qua
mt bn i! Ha ra t trc n nay mnh qu ngy th, khng bit c thc t ca cuc
i.
Khi chng ta b khng hong no b truy t v ai co buc g hoc b mt vic mt
cch bt cng, chng hnchng ta lun lun b 2 mi di tn cng cng lc: Mi th
nht l chnh khng hong , v mi th hai tn cng trc tip vo t duy tch cc ca
ta. y l chin lc tn cng rt tinh ving lot tn cng phng tuyn v hu cn. Ta
phi hiu r c cc cuc tn cng ny c th phng v hu hiu.
V vy, khi gp khng hong v u c ta bt u suy ngh tiu cc, tht vng, ti tm,
mt lng tin, iu u tin ta phi lm l t nhc mnh: , nh kho t duy tch cc ca
mnh ang b tn cng, v mnh ang bt u suy t tiu cc. Phi trn tnh li, v d l
mnh c phi ra php trng ngy mai, hm nay mnh vn phi suy t tch cc.
y l cuc chin u tin v quan trng nht ta phi ng c khi gp khng hong
bo v hu cn, bo v kho t duy tch cc, bo v u c t duy tch cc. Nu thua trn
ny l ta thua ton b cuc chin, v s khng cn v kh phng th.
Tun va ri cu tng thng Hn quc Roh t t ch v b t co tham nhng. tng l
nguyn thy quc gia th ch rt mnh, vy m vn khng ng c c tn cng ca
khng hong tinh thn. Cho nn ta cn bit l, trong cn khng hong, mi di tn cng
vo kho t duy tch cc ca ta c sc cng ph rt mnh, khng th coi thng.
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V vy khi gp khng hong, vic u tin phi lm khng phi l gii quyt khng
hong . Vic u tin phi lm l phi chc chn rng ta vn t duy tch cc, vn bnh
tnh, vn yu i, vn tin vo ngy mai tri li sng, d ngy mai c th cn rt lu, v
mnh cng khng bit l n bao gi.
iu ny rt quan trng trn phng din chin lc, v n cho chng ta hai iu li. Th
nht, n cho ta nng lc tch cc ng c vi khng hong. Th hai, n cho ta sng
sut gii quyt khng hong, bi v ngi bnh tnh v yu i c th thy nhng cch
gii quyt khng hong rt hiu qu, m ngi qunh qung chn i khng th thy.
Nhng lm th no ta c th duy tr c t duy tch cc gia cn khng hong nh vy?
1. Trc ht, chm mi th xung (slow everything down). Khng khong c khuynh
hng lm mnh qunh qung hay nng gin, v mnh c khuynh hng lm mi th
chuyn ngay lp tc. Vy th, chuyn g bt buc phi lm ngay th lm. Chuyn g khng
cn phi lm ngay th , ng lm ngay.
i th bc chm li. Li xe th li chm li. n th n chm li. Chm li v vic
mnh ang lm mt tn th n mn n v cch n ca mnh, i th n cch
i v vn tc i ca mnh. (y chnh l chnh nim trong thin hc. Cng phu ny lm
cho mnh gi bnh tnh rt tt).
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Hnh ng tch cc th no ?
Posted on Thng Su 4, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Cm t t duy tch cc lun lun to cho ta mt n tng v suy tng. V d nhin l
iu ny ng mt phn, v t duy tch cc c gc r t trong tm thc, t ci nhn ca ta
v chnh mnh, v mi ngi, v v cuc i. Tuy nhin, t duy tch cc l mt nng
lung, m nng lng th ch to c bng chuyn ngmt tng nm yn khng
th to ra nng lng. V vy, t duy tch cc ch hin din c nu c nng lng t
hnh ng, d l hnh ng trong tm thc hay hnh ng bn ngoi ca thn th.
Hnh ng tm thc l ta suy ngh tch cc v mi ngi v mi vn ta gp hng
ngy. Hnh ng bn ngoi l lm iu g trong chiu hng t duy tch cc ca
mnh. Nu mnh mun tch cc v vn rc rn trong thnh ph, th t nht l cm rc
trong tay cho n lc tm ra thng rc.
Hnh ng l mt t rt rng ri. C rt nhiu loi hnh ng khc nhau, chng ai nn
p ai phi theo hnh ng nody cho con ci hay hc tr vi cu, vit mt vi cu trn
bog, vit mt bi bo, b rc vo thng, vn ng chng x rc, vn ng chin dch
thnh ph p, gp mt t tin cho cc vn ng ny, v.v Thy theo hon cnh v y
thch c nhn, mi ngi c mt cch hnh ng ring. Ch khi hon ton khng c hnh
ng no ht, mi l vn .
Tuy nhin, trong mt s trng hp, ci khng hnh ng li c th l hnh ng ln.
Gp mt ngi chi bi mnh ngoi ng, mnh lng l bc i, thay v li ci nhau,
th s im lng c th l mt hnh ng rt ln m ngi nh khng lm c.
Khng lm mt iu tiu cc, t chnh n, c th l mt hnh ng c tnh tch cc.
Hoc mt ngi hay ht sch mn tin, ta nht nh khng cho mn, cng l mt cch
rt tt gip h.
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Cho cc bn,
Lm th no tip thu c nhiu kin thc? Chng ta c th thy s khc bit rt r
gia mi ngi. Hai sinh vin ra trng cng bng cp, nhng sau mt thi gian th kin
thc 2 ngi khc nhau hon ton, mt ngi th vn c t m, trong khi ngi kia th
thng thi ra bi phn, v ngi t m li c th l ngi ra trng vi hng cao hn. Hai
ngi cng vo lm mt hng, cng mt lc, cng mt loi cng vic, mt ngi th ln
v v, mt ngi th c ch mt ch. iu g xy ra?
C nhiu cch l gii hin tng ny trong thc t, nhng hai im quan trng nht
l gii l, th nht, kh nng lm vic chung vi mi ngi v, th hai, kh nng tip thu
kin thc. V hai iu ny, thc ra lin h mt thit vi nhau.
Chng ta ngh l c hc nhiu, nh l c sch nhiu, th c nhiu kin thc. (Hc y
ni theo ngha hpngi xung d sch ra hc hay nghin cu iu g ). Chng ta
thng ngh rng tip thu kin thc l tch cc nhi kin thc vo u, nh l mang tng
bao go vo kho go cho y. ng l mt cch tip thu kin thc. Nhng cch
va chm va mt (Vc my bao t nht nh l phi mt, phi khng cc bn. ).
Thc ra, kn thc nh nh sng mt tri, chiu t nhin trn vn vt. Tm tr l cn nh
di nh mt tri. Ch cn m toang ht cc cnh ca ln nh th nh sng a vo trn
ngp, chiu sng tng ng ngch tm ti trong nh. Cch tip thu kin thc nh vy va
nhanh, va nh, va d, va hiu lc, phi khng cc bn?
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Tip thu kin thc khng phi l ch khing kin thc vo nh kho, m l m toang mi
cnh ca kin thc a vo. Hai cch tip thu ny khc nhau, v c th lm cho kin
thc ca hai ngi khc nhau nh 100 v 1 cc bn. Khng th xem thng c.
Nhng iu g l cc cnh ca tm tr? , cu ny tr li th hi mt, v danh sch th qu
di. Chng ta cn nghin cu mt cch nh ngn gn hn. Cu tr li ngn nht v y
nht l ci ti, nhng li qu tru tng, cho nn ta cn phi c th ha ci ti
trong mt vi th d in hnh. Ni chng l: Tt c nhng g lin h n vic nh
hnh Tinh hnh bn aiu l cc cnh ca c th ng kn tm tr m la
hay m rng cho nh sng tr tu.
V d:
Bng cp: Ti c tin s, ch ngi c tin s tr ln mi c g ng cho ti ch tm
nghe.
Tui tc: Ti tht thp c lai hi, con rui bay qua l bit rui c hay rui ci. My
a con nt ni by b phin qu.
Danh ting: Ti c cao danh trng, my ngi v danh tiu tt sao c lp nhp hoi?
Tin bc: Ti thnh triu ph, my b hng rong th bit g m bn lun?
Kinh nghim: Ti lm vic ny 20 nm ri, c g phi bit na?
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Thi : Ton l mt m lng nhng; k s thng thi thc thi v quy Nn.
Ni chn: Hc phi c ni, nh trng hc hay th vin, khng phi l tt c mi ni,
v nht nh khng phi l ngoi ng ngoi ch.
Gi gic: Hc phi c gi hc, khng phi l tt c mi pht mi giy trong ngy.
Con ngi: Hc l phi c thy gii hn hoi, khng phi l bt k ai trn i cng c ci
g m mnh c th hc.
Vn vt: Phi hc vi thy c bng cp kinh nghim; ma nng, con ng, cy c, ch
mo, c g hc c?
Th bc: Hc t thy ch lm sao hc ngc t hc tr c?
Gc gc: My chng Lo Cai th c g hc? Dn Trung k (hay Bc k hay Nam
k) th c g hc?
Tn Gio: My ngi m tn d oan th c g hc? Dn Cng gio H Nai th c g
hc? Dn Ha Ho th c g hc? Dn Hi gio th ton l khng b, c g hc?
ri: Tui bit bao nhiu ri, khng cn bit thm g ht.
Thng thi: C thin h say ch mnh ta tnh.
Danh sch ny c th di v tn, cc bn . Nhng ni vn tt th: Tt c nhng g gip
ta nh hnh, nh danh, nh tnh chnh mnh, u l nhng cnh ca ca tm tr.
Nu chng ta c m toang chng ra, th nh sng tr tu s a vo.
Ngi ta hay ni Hc mt bit mi, c chuyn khng cc bn? Tha c. Nu cc
cnh ca ca tm tr ca bn m toang, bn nhn mt chuyn, c th hiu ra n 10
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chuyn, trong khi nhng ngi khc cng nhn s kin ch thy c 1 chuyn hay
chuyn m thi.
V u bi chng ta c ni n kh nng lm vic chung vi mi ngi nh l mt yu
t, bn cnh yu t tip thu kin thc, l gii cho thnh cng, nhng trong bi ta chng
ni g n im ny c. Ti sao? Tha, l do l nu ta m toang ht cc cnh ca ca tm
tr, th ta s lm vic tt vi tt c mi ngi. Ngi khim tn v rng m nh th lun
lun rt gii v lm vic nhm (teamwork). Lm vic tt vi mi ngi l h qu ng
nhin ca s m rng tm tr. M rng cc cnh ca ca tm tr va gip ta tip thu kin
thc, va gip ta lm vic tt vi mi ngi.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v.
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Hin du, khim tn, nhn nhc v tnh yu khng bao gi ng ngha vi yu hn c.
Tri li l khc. Chng ta ai cng thy l rt d cho chng ta ni t i khi b ai ph phn
ng chm mt t, v ci v nhau ch v mt t ng chm khng ng chi l chuyn rt
thng xuyn. Ta c th thy trong cc din n Internet hng ngy. Nhng nhn nhc
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Vy th tnh yu hin ha, du ngt, khim nhu, nhng tnh yu cng can m, dng
mnh, anh hng. Mnh v yu sng vi nhau v ha quyn vi nhau lm mt, nh m
dng trong vng thi cc, ch u phi l chi b nhau, b mt chn mt, c mt mt
mt u. Nh nc hin ha v nc thnh sng thn Ny tan rng ni. Nh gi du dng
v gi thnh ging bo thi sp i non.
Nhng th th khi no ta khim nhu, khi no ta dng mnh?
, y l loi cu hi thc s khng c cu tr li. chng khc g hi ngi ha s,
Khi no anh dng mu , khi no anh dng mu vng? hay ngi ca s, Khi no ch
ht mnh, khi no ch ht nh. D nhin ta c th tr li bng mt cng thc no nh
khi mun c v st mu th , vui v th vng hay nhc vui th ht mnh, nhc bun
th ht nh. Nhng ngi hi chuyn nghip mt t thi l c th bit cc cng thc
ny ch l cc cu tr li nhm nh. Ngui ha s ch bit mnh dng mu g khi dng mu
. Ngi ca s ch bit ht mnh yu th no khi ng trc mt nhm khn gi no
trong mt khung cnh no vi mt cm xc no . C tp trc nh th cng ch l
tp ch khng phi tht.
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Lm th no ph phn tch cc ?
Posted on Thng Su 11, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Ph phn hu nh lun lun c v tiu cc, d l ngi ph phn c thi tch cc th
ngi c ph phn cng vn cm thy tiu cc, khng t th nhiu. l cha ni
n, rt thng thng, chng ta ph phn vi thi tiu cc. Nhng khng th khng
ph phn c, phi khng cc bn. T duy ph phn (critical thinking) l mt phn quan
trng ca t duy, m chng ta cp trc y trong bi T duy tch cc l g? Nhng
lm th no ta ph phn m khng c t duy tiu cc trong lng, v ngi nghe cng
khng cm thy tiu cc?
Thi lun lun i t trong tm ta i ra, cho nn trong phn di y ta s kho st vn
t trong tm ra n hnh ng bn ngoi.
I. Tm tch cc khi ph phn
iu quan trng nht l lm th no ta tch cc ngay trong tm ta khi ph phn, v ta
bit r l ta ph phn tch cc, ch khng b ch huy m qung bi mt tm tiu cc? Cu
hi ny nghe nh tha, v ai trn th gii cng ni ti ph phn tch cc. Vng, c th l
ta mun tch cc tht, nhng khng hn l tm ta ang tch cc khi ph phn, phi khng
cc bn? Nu tm mnh khng sng sut th chnh n la mnh, mnh cng khng bit
u. B ngi khc la th d thy, ch b chnh ci u ca mnh nh la mnh th m
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c. Cch s dng ngn ng. Cch ny th rt khoa hc. Nh mt ngi bn ca mnh thu
bng ln khi mnh ang mnh ming ph phn ai , ri ngi nghe li mt mnh gia m
vng lng. Ngn ng mnh dng ni n yu thng nhiu (khng cn bit yu thng
ai) hay l ngn ng th hn, kiu cng, tc tn. Ngi tch cc lun dng ngn ng yu
thng. Ngi tiu cc dng ngn ng th hn. Loi ngn ng no c nhiu trong cch
ph phn ca bn?
Nu c nht k ng Thy Trm, cc bn s thy cun nht k ton l ngn ng yu
thng. Nm th mi ha mi c mt vi ch c v cm phn M, ng nhin l do
au kh m ra. Ngi tch cc l nh th, lun lun c tnh yu v dng ngn ng tnh
yu, v tm tr hng v tnh yu, d l ang xung trn mt mt mt cn. H khng c
thi gi suy t th hn.
* V d l ta ni n hnh ng bn ngoi hay thi bn trong ca tm tr, chng ta cn
nh thng xuyn l t duy tch cc l mt thi ca con tim. V thi ca con tim
ca ta th ch c ta bit, cho nn ta phi rt thnh tht vi chnh mnh c th thy con
tim ca mnh, v phi rt t k lut t hun luyn con tim ca mnh. Chng ai lm
c cc vic ny cho mnh c.
Cn cc hnh ng bn ngoi? ng nhin chng phn nh phn ln con tim ca mnh.
Phn nh cn li, c th l ngi ngoi khng th no hiu ht con tim mnh c; hiu
lm l chuyn ng nhin i. Hoc l chnh mnh i khi lm vi chuyn ngu si m
chnh mnh cng khng mun lm. y li cng l chuyn ng nhin i. C phi c
ln thi.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v.
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Thnh cng l g?
Posted on Thng Su 18, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Chng ta thng hay ni n thnh cng nh l mt ch im quan trng ca cuc
sng v ta ni t duy tch cc a n thnh cng. Nhng thnh cng l g?
Ni theo ngha thng thng nht th thnh cng c ngha l khi ta c mt mc ch no
v ta t c n, l thnh cng. Xa hn mt t, th c l mi ngi chng ta u
ng y l mc tiu ti hu ca mi ngi trn i chnh l tm nim vui v bnh an
trong lng mnh; c c nim vui v bnh an trong tm, l thnh cng.
Nh vy, c ngha l cch nh ngha thnh cng ca chng ta y hon ton c tnh
cch ch quan. Chnh mnh nh ch im i mnh v thnh cng ca mnh. Chng c
mc tiu khch quan no bn ngoi c. iu ny rt quan trng, v nu chng ta ch cn
mt mi nh tranh hai qu tim vng, my con g v mt con ch, v ta t c iu
, tc l ta thnh cng trong mc tiu , d rng my t bo l ci ch tin l cc
ngi i xe hi mi c gi l thnh cng.
Tuy nhin ta cn phn tch y nim thnh cng su hn mt cht trong thc ti i sng.
1. Nu mt ngi mun c tht nhiu tin c mt ngi bit th v i, v lm vic
ngy m cng thng, chp git, gian ln, lm stress, lc no ni chuyn cng chi th v
bc tc. Ngi rt cuc t c mc ch l xy c cn bit th theo mnh mun.
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Loi th hai l nhng ngi li bing tiu cc, khng mun lm g, v ti ngy phn
nn ch bai cuc i. Loi ny khng bao gi vui. V nu l ai trong thin h cng xem
nim vui ca mnh l mc tiu ti hu, th loi ngi ny khng c thnh cng bao gi.
Trong hng tiu cc th li c hai loi.
Loi tiu cc th ng ti ngy phn nn cm rm.
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Hy t to c hi
Posted on Thng Su 26, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
C hi l hai ch quan trng nht trong kin trc x hi. Tt c mi ngi trn th gii
u mun c mt x hi bnh ng, d l ta ni n trit ly no hay ly thuyt chnh tr
no. Nhng nu xem k th ngui 75 kg phi mnh hn ngi 40 kg, ngi gii ton phi
khc ngi dt ton, ngi sing nng th phi khc ngi li bing.
Lm th no ta c th c mt x hi bnh
ng vi nhiu khc bit c nhn nh th? Tha, ta dng khi nim c hi. Mt x hi
bnh ng l mt x hi cho mi ngi mt c hi ng u thng tin. Cn vic s
dng c hi hay khng l quyn ca ngi .
Bnh ng c hi (equal opportunity) l khi nim nn tng nht, trn chng ta c
th mt xy mt x hi tt p ca chng ta. Nhng by gi, ta hy tm ri xa cc khi
nim ln lao v x hi chnh tr hc, a bnh ng c hi v vi chnh mnh, vi
con ngi c nhn ca mnh. Lm sao mi ngi chng ta c th tn dng ti a khi
nim bnh ng c hi ny gip ch chnh mnh?
Chng ta hay dng t tm kim c hi din t cch ta c c c hi. iu ny ng
trn mc thy c (visible). Nhng mc khng thy c (invisible) th c hi
t tm n vi ta nhiu hn l ta i tm, nu khng n tn tay th cng ng thng
xuyn mp m ngoi cng. Nhng, iu ch c th xy ra nu ta bit cch thu ht c
hi, c hi chy theo ta. cng l iu m ta gi l T to c hi.
C hi thng i theo mnh nu mnh c 3 iu: (1) ti, (2) bn v (3) danh ting. y
cht, cc bn ng c vi: Tng g ch iu th em bit ri. Ch c mt ni l em
khng c ti, t c bn, v chng c ting. Khng sao, ta s tm cch to ra 3 iu .
1. Ti: Ch ti ny mnh dng vn tt thi, ch ngha n su v rng hn. Ti y c
ngha l (a) mnh bit lm mt vic g , (2) mnh lm n rt hay, v (3) mnh ng tin
cy trong vic .
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2. Bn: Cng c nhiu bn th cng c nhiu ngi qung co khng cng dm mnh.
Qung co trn TV chng n thua g so vi qung co ming khng cng. Nh sn xut
tn bao nhiu tin qung co th chng my ngi tin v y, nhng nu bn mnh ni
cho mnh bit mi khm ph ra tim ny bn o qun rt p v r, th chc l cui tun
ny mnh s gh vo ngay.
Nhng d nhin l bn mnh ch qung co cho mnh nu bn mnh tin vo ti ca mnh
tc l tin rng mnh lm tt v ng tin cy. Nu bao nhiu nm quen bit nhau m li
ni ca mnh khng ng tin cy, ni iu g ra cc bn cng ngh: B ny m ni 10 th
may ra c 3 l tht v ng th hng bt. Cho nn cch sng hng ngy lm cho bn
b chung quanh phctc l cho rng mnh ng tin cyl cch hay nht c mt
mng li thn quen qung co khng cng trng k.
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Thc ra th con ngi l mt loi sng tp on. Cc sinh vt sng trong mt tp on,
nh mt by tru, mt by chim, thng c tc phong rt ging nhau. Con ngi ng
nhin cng c khuynh hng . M ging nhau c ngha l suy ngh nh nhau, v
rt quan tm n vic lm cho nhng ngi khc pht lng, chng i, v cc khc l ca
mnh.
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Cho cc bn,
Chng ta lun lun ni n t duy tch cc v hnh ng tch cc nh l mt hot ng
pht xut t tm ta. Ngha l, y ngha thc s ca mt hnh ng th ch c ngi lm n
mi bit. Cc ph phn v kt lun t bn ngai u khng chnh xc. Vy c ngha l ta
khng th dng bn ngoi nh gi tch cc tiu cc hay sao?
Tha, vn l thuc vo ta l aingi lm hnh ng? hay ngi nhn hnh ng?
Gi s mt ngi hnh kht c mt ngi ph n cho 20 nghn ng. ng ta c cn
phi bit ngi ph n ngh g trong u khng? C cn bit b ta cho v lng thng
ngi hay v mun ni ting khng? Nu cn phi bit nh vy th c th ngi hnh
kht ny s sm ngh lm hnh kht, v anh ta s cht i rt nhanh. Hn na, khng ai
c th bit c trong u ngi khc, vy th ng on m mt cng v ch. C phn
on theo bn ngoib y gip mnh mt s tin, c nhn v cm n b y tht tnh.
Vy l .
Ngay c khi ngui lm khng thc s c lng tt, nhng vic lm tt i vi ngi
nhn, th ngi nhn c nhn v cm n nng nhit tht tnh. V du: Ngi ph n trn
thc s mun ni ting khi cho tin, v ngi hnh kht cng bit c iu , nhng
20 nghn ng n tay anh ta l mt hnh ng thin, n gip cho anh v con ci c
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Ngi t duy tch cc hu nh lun lun c 2 qui lut tri ngc nhau trong mi trng
hpmt cho mnh v mt cho ngi:
Khng quan tm n ngi khc ngh g v mnh, nhng quan tm n mang li
ch an vui n cho ngi khc.
Khng cu ngui yu mnh, nhng cu mnh yu ngi.
Khng c ci ti cho mnh, nhng nng cao phNm tnh ca ngi khc.
Khng i cng ly cho mnh, nhng mang cng ly n cho mi ngi.
Hai b qui lut gn nh i chi nhau ty theo i tng l mnh hay ngi. Nhng c
hai rt cuc phc v cng mt mc chmang n an lc cho mnh cng nh cho ngi
khc.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Cho cc bn,
sinh ra trong tri t, phi c danh g vi ni sng? Cc bn c thy vn g vi
cu ni khng? l ch danh. Ch ny to ra rt nhiu vn :
1. Nu bn l ngi c th danh cho i, th mi hnh ng bn lm trong i ch
nhm mc ch li danh. khng phi l ch nhm mc ch phc v ci ti ca
mnh sao?
D nhin, ta c th ni, vy th sao? Nhm xy dng danh cho mnh cng l vic tt, v
danh i hi mnh lm mi vic li ch cho i. D l c ci ti lm ch ch
trong , mi hnh ng vn tt cho i c m.
ng nh vy. Nhng nu mi ngi u nhm vo danh cho mnh, th t nc s
khng c sng to. V ngi sng to, nh ta ni nhiu ln trc y, lun lun l
ngi thiu s, lm nhng vic m m ng ch bai v chng i. Nu bn l ngi
sng to, th thnh cng v danh ting u khng thy, nhng trc mt bn s c
bit n nh thng in, thng khng, dt, lp d V nu cc y kin v li sng mi
ca bn khc vi truyn thng vn ha xa nay, th ng nhin bn s c xem l
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i bin m ci mt mnh
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Cho cc bn,
Chng c cch no tp luyn la t tay m ta khng thy au, v chng c cch no
trnh khng bao gi b phng. Cuc i nh mt dng sng, lc ny dng sng tnh
lng, mt lc no s n on thc ghnh. T duy tch cc khng gip chng ta trnh
thc ghnh, trn c kh au. T duy tch cc ch gip chng ta sng mi ngy vui v
v khi b khn kh th ta c th chng vi thc ghnh c th sng st qua khi thc.
Nhng b phng l phi au.
Paul McCartney ca the Beatles k li khi John Lennon cht, Paul an i Yoko Ono, v
ca John: Ti hiu ch ang cm xc th no (I know how you feel). Yoko tr li li
mt cch tc gin, Khng, anh khng hiu ti ang cm xc th no (No, you dont
know how I feel).
Tt c nhng cn au u nh th. Khng ai thc s c th hiu c, bi v hiu ch l
t tng, nhng au l cm gic thc s. Ngi au ch au mt mnh, khng ai chia s
c ci au vi mnh c. Ngay c v chng, khi v au , d cho chng c ng ngay
trong phng sinh th cng: n ng i bin c i, n b i bin m ci mt mnh.
au lun lun l mt ni c n tuyt i. Cho nn, thc l lc ta ang au khng ai c
th thc s hiu v chia s vi ta c. C chng cng ch l mt t bn ngoi.
Ni c n tuyt i lm cho nhng cn au ln tr thnh v i, v chng ln trn
cn au ban u l mt ni c n ln hn c cn au ban u nhiu ln.
Nhng lc nh vy nu ta ni vui v yu i th chng khc no ni vi ngi ga ph
chng va mi cht Vui v, yu i ln. Khng c. Nhng lc chng ta ch c
th ni, Ch c gi gn sc khe. C n ung y , i ng y . ng ch mang
bnh.
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Chng ta lun lun ni n t duy tch cc, nghe nh l nhng siu nhn, v bn cht ca
ni l nh th. Nhng s thc l mi ngi trn th gii, tch cc hay khng, th cng
au nhc khn kh nh nhau khi gp kh khn hon nn. C khc nhau chng ch l kh
nng sng st v vt qua.
Cho nn nu bn no ang kh au nhc nhiv chc l con s khng nh, v ai
trong chng ta li chng c nhng ng dao xuyn tim mnh khng hm nay th ngy
maith bn cng nn nh rng d sao i na th bn cng khng nht thit phi i bin
m ci mt mnh. Tt c chng ta u ngi trn mt chuyn tu ca nhng ngi v
ang v s c nhiu au kh.
au kh l mt iu chc chn. V hai iu chc chn khc l: (1) Mi ngi chng ta
u bit au khbn khng i bin m ci mt mnh u. (2) Kinh nghim cho thy, d
l tnh hnh c t hi n mc bn ngh l khng chu ng ni, th chc chn 100% l
cn bo ca th k cng phi n lc tn. Ngha l, thi gian ng vo phe ca bn.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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T duy tch cc l khoa hc c nhn cho mi ngi chng ta. khng phi l khoa x
hi hc hay chnh tr hc cho t nc. Nhng bn khng cn phi l Einstein th cng
c th thy t duy tch cc l xy dng t nc mc cn bn nhtmc su thm nht
ca mi tri tim con ngi. Nu a s chng ta tch cc th ng nhin l c quc gia
tch cc v tin ln t.
Khi ni n t nc, chng ta c khuynh hng ni ngay n hin php, lut, nh nc,
v.v Tt c nhng iu ny ng nhin l quan trng, nhng chng th cng nh ni
quy v iu l ca mt cng ty, hay t gi th ca hai v chng trong gia nh. Chng ai
quan tm n ni qui v iu l ca cng ty khi bn n mnh yu li l ca cng ty, v
chng ai nhc n t hn th khi ni n sc mnh hay im yu ca mt gia nh. Ci
mnh hay yu ch do mt im duy nht m rami ngi trong cng ty v trong gia
nh c ha thun v nng nhau cng tin ln hay khng, hay l chia nm s by, dnh
git nhau, m nhau? Cng ng ta snglng, x, huyn, thnh ph, quc gia
cng khng ra ngoi qui lut cn bn ny: Mi ngi chng ta c n nhau cng i
ln hay khng? Hay l tm cch ng trn bng cch p ngi khc xung? Nu
cng nng nhau ln th t nc i ln, v cng p nhau xung th t nc i
xung. Vn gin d th thi.
Vy th lm th no chng ta cng nng nhau ln, cc bn ?
Rt gin d:
Chng ta khen nhau v khuyn khch nhau. Ngi no lm iu g , min l iu
khng c hi, th ta lun lun c th khen, d l cch h lm cn nhiu thiu st. V d,
mt em xung phong tr li trong lp v tr li sai, th ci sai khng quan trng bng
tinh thn xung phong. Gio vin c lm cho em thy ci hng khi ca mnh khi em
xung phong khng? Cn sai th gio vin cho thm thng tin sau, cho em v c lp, c
chuyn g u.
Nu tm chuyn khen th hu nh 90% iu mi ngi lm quanh ta u c ci g
cho ta khen, k c chuyn rt hng ngy nh n mc. Thnh thong mnh gp mt anh
hay mt ch n mc rt hay, mu sc ha hp, v c ci g rt l ngh thut (ni l
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Cho cc bn,
T duy tch cc l khoa hc c nhn cho mi ngi chng ta. khng phi l khoa x
hi hc hay chnh tr hc cho t nc. Nhng bn khng cn phi l Einstein th cng
c th thy t duy tch cc l xy dng t nc mc cn bn nhtmc su thm nht
ca mi tri tim con ngi. Nu a s chng ta tch cc th ng nhin l c quc gia
tch cc v tin ln t.
Khi ni n t nc, chng ta c khuynh hng ni ngay n hin php, lut, nh nc,
v.v Tt c nhng iu ny ng nhin l quan trng, nhng chng th cng nh ni
quy v iu l ca mt cng ty, hay t gi th ca hai v chng trong gia nh. Chng ai
quan tm n ni qui v iu l ca cng ty khi bn n mnh yu li l ca cng ty, v
chng ai nhc n t hn th khi ni n sc mnh hay im yu ca mt gia nh. Ci
mnh hay yu ch do mt im duy nht m rami ngi trong cng ty v trong gia
nh c ha thun v nng nhau cng tin ln hay khng, hay l chia nm s by, dnh
git nhau, m nhau? Cng ng ta snglng, x, huyn, thnh ph, quc gia
cng khng ra ngoi qui lut cn bn ny: Mi ngi chng ta c n nhau cng i
ln hay khng? Hay l tm cch ng trn bng cch p ngi khc xung? Nu
cng nng nhau ln th t nc i ln, v cng p nhau xung th t nc i
xung. Vn gin d th thi.
Vy th lm th no chng ta cng nng nhau ln, cc bn ?
Rt gin d:
Chng ta khen nhau v khuyn khch nhau. Ngi no lm iu g , min l iu
khng c hi, th ta lun lun c th khen, d l cch h lm cn nhiu thiu st. V d,
mt em xung phong tr li trong lp v tr li sai, th ci sai khng quan trng bng
tinh thn xung phong. Gio vin c lm cho em thy ci hng khi ca mnh khi em
xung phong khng? Cn sai th gio vin cho thm thng tin sau, cho em v c lp, c
chuyn g u.
Nu tm chuyn khen th hu nh 90% iu mi ngi lm quanh ta u c ci g
cho ta khen, k c chuyn rt hng ngy nh n mc. Thnh thong mnh gp mt anh
hay mt ch n mc rt hay, mu sc ha hp, v c ci g rt l ngh thut (ni l
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i l mt chuyn i khng bit im n. Rt t ai n c im mnh d nh. Thng
thng ta bt u cuc hnh trnh vi mt nim ch im trong u, ch nhn ra rt
sm l cuc i c rt nhiu ch r bt ng, v sau mt lc th ta chng chc l i ta ri
s v u. Nhng nh vy th i mi vui. c truyn m bit c on cui ngay t
khi khi u th ct hng ri. Nhng nh vy c ngha l ng i khng phi l ng
thng, m l ng quanh co ngon ngho, c nh ng rng. i khi i c chc cy s
ri mi khm ph ra l mnh ch li n ngay im khi hnh.
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Chng ta thng ni cn bn ca t duy tch cc l yu mnh, yu ngi v yu i. Ri
ta li ni ngi t duy tch cc khng c ci ti. Nhng, yu mnh khng phi l yu
ti sao? Khng c ci ti th ly mnh u m yu? Hm nay chng ta gii quyt vn
xem ra l mu thun ny.
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Khi nim yu mnh khng th tch ri khi khi nim yu ngi, tc l yu nhng
phn t khc trong ton th ca mnh, v yu i tc l yu ton th . Trong tnh yu
ny, ta thc c rt r tt c nhng g ta lm d l ch cho ring ta, u nh hng n
ngi chung quanh, nh hng n ton th, v khng th nh hng bn tay m khng
nh hng ton c th. Ti l ti trong cng ng v ti ca cng ng.
Nhng khi ti khng thc s xem ti l mt phn ca ton th nh nhng phn t
khc, m xem nh mnh quan trng hn, i hi nhiu quyn li hn, i hi c ch
tm c bit hnnh bn tay i thc phNm n nui n trc khi i ni khc trong c
th, hay i i mt phi ti ngy ngm n, ci ming ti ngy phi ca tng n, i tai ti
ngy phi nghe li ca tng nth ti tr thnh ci ti, ci ego, ci ng, m ta
phi hy b, v ci ti ny tr thnh tai hi cho chnh n v tai hi cho tp th, n gin l
v n ang hy hoi ha hp cn thit cho tn ti v pht trin ca cng ng.
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Kinh nghim cho thy cng mun i su vo t duy tch cc ta cng phi bc su vo
qu tim ca mnh. Cp u ca tt c cc kha hc v t duy tch cc lun lun nm
mc na ly nc. Cp hai l bit mnh v yu mnh. Cp ba l yu ngi v yu th gii.
Cp t tr ln l tm kim nhng gi tr su thm trong con tim ca mnh, nhng g cho
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mnh tnh yu, an lc v sc mnh tinh thn nhiu nht. i khi l theo cp bc sau: gia
nh, qu hng, ng bo v t quc, th gii con ngi, i Th Tuyt i (the One,
the Ultimate, the Beginning and the End, the Heart, God). Ty theo mnh mun i su
n u, sc mnh tinh thn ca mnh tng theo n . Con ng ny di cho tt
c mi ngi u c th i cng ng, d rng cp c th khc nhau.
C vi iu chng ta cn quan tm y l:
1. Ngi cp mt th cha bit cp ba. Cho nn khi cc bn nghe mt iu m khng thu
trit, th khoan gt ra . C th nm ti bn s nghim ra, hoc c th l bn s cn 20
nm sng na hiu ra. Khim tn mt t th thu thp tt hn. Mnh c Bt Nh Tm
Kinh v v chp lc hc trit i Hc Vn Khoa nm 18 tui. Ba mi nm sau, mnh
hiu c Bt Nh Tm Kinh v v chp. V nhng iu ng ngNn Cha Gi Su ni
(nh l yu k th) cng tn mnh khong 30 nm suy ngh v sng.
2. Nu bn khng quan tm n qu tim ca bn, th bn s lun lun dng cp mt,
cp hai, khng tin ln c.
3. Cng vo su trong qu tim, cng kh din t. Ni mt, nhiu khi ngi nghe hiu
lm hai ba. Cho nn cc qu v c o rt t ni. Gp nhau th hu nh chng ni g bao
gi. (Ni nhiu nh mnh, ngy no cng vit bi, l cha c o. Nhng khng vit th
khng chia s vi cc bn c, nht l cc bn tr hn mnh, m mnh rt quan tm). V
vy, vo cc vn chiu su ca con tim, cc bn c, nhng nn t qun st con tim
ca mnh k cng thc hnh hng ngy th mi trc nghim c cc vn . ng
qu b nh hng bi ngn t ta c, v chp vo ngn t l ta s lc.
4. Khi ni n chiu su thm nht ca con tim, bt buc ta phi r n cc khi nim
nghe rt tn gio, hay cc v thy c xem l gio ch cc tn gio. Nhng chiu su
con tim khng phi l tn gio. Tn gio l nh, cha, th, miu, chc sc, hng ng,
tin bc, quyn lc, lut l hnh chnh, v i khi l tranh chp quyn lc v chnh tr.
Ni chung l nhng t chc con ngi khng khc cc i cng ty my. Cc vic
khng phi l vic chng ta quan tm y. Chng ta ch quan tm n thnh qu nghin
cu chiu su con tim ca cc v thy ca cc tn gio gt hi trong my ngn nm
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V du: Ma.
Nhn ma chng ta c th thy lng phi phi, nh:
Ba y ma xun phi phi bay
Hoa xoan lp lp rng vi y
Hi cho lng ng i ngang ng
M bo: Thn oi ht ti nay
(Nguyn BnhMa xun)
hay su bun, nh:
Ma bun..bun lm..ma i..
Mt m cui t cng tri Bin ng.
(Nguyn KhuynMa bun)
Hay trung tnh, chng vui chng bun, nh:
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Trc ht, ni chung l chng ta nn trnh nhng ngi thy tiu cc. Tiu cc mt t th
khng sao, nhng ngi tiu cc hng thy thng lm cho ta rt mt nng lng. Nghe
h ni mt hi l ta s bc mnh, trm cm, hay rt xung tinh thn. Khng nn mt nng
lng ngi nghe h. C hi cho chnh mnh.
Gp nhng trng hp lm vic trong mt cng ty ma o v mnh s phi i theo h,
nh l lm k ton vin v phi gi m giy t gi thng qua, th tt hn l nn tm
cng ty khc lm vic.
Ngi ni chuyn vi mt vi bn, c mang ngi khng c mt ra ni xu, th ta nn
nhc cc bn khng nn ni v ngi vng mt v nn i ch ni chuyn.
Ngi vi mt s bn lm chung m c ni xu cng ty ca mnh, th ta nn ni vi cc
bn bn cch gii quyt vn hoc l t gii quyt nu c th c, hoc l bo cho cp
trn, v khng nn tip tc phn nn m khng chu tm cch gii quyt.
V khi ta nghe mt lung t duy tu cc, ng gt u ng theo ch v lch s. Nu
thy khng nn ni g, th khng nn ni g, ng gt u ha theo ch v lch s.
V khi bn ni chuyn tch cc, nu c ngi cho rng bn ngy th, khng hiu i, hay
o dc gi, th mm ci, nhng ng cc thc gi lung lc.
Ni chung l, nu ta ngi trc ca nh m thy ngi th kh c ln tri th phi lm g
. ng ngi hoan h. Ngay c, ng ngi yn nhn.
T duy tch cc l tch cc xy dng t duy trong tm mnh cng nh mi trng t duy
tch cc quanh mnh. Ta khng th t duy tch cc nu ta tiu cc trc nhng lung
sng tiu cc trong x hi. Lm g th ty bn. Nhng do something!
Sau cng, ti sao ph hoi d hn xy dng c trm ln, m x hi li cha dit vong, cc
bn? ng l ra th x hi loi ngi tan r mt tiu ri ch?
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Tha, hin tng x hi loi ngi cng ngy cng tin trin, d ph hoi th d hn xy
dng rt nhiu, l bng chng hng hn rng s ngi ph hoi rt t so vi s ngi xy
dng. l chng mnh rt r nhn chi s tnh bn thin.
V vy, nu bn l ngi t duy tch cc, bn c nhiu ng minh hn bn tng.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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C l mi chng ta u ng y l chng ta cn hc thm t vn ha cc nc v ch hc
ci hay ch khng hc ci d. Ni th d nhng lm th kh, v rt nhiu yu t phc tp.
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sn pht huy n thnh sc mnh, trong i sng ring ca mnh cng nh trn chnh
trng v thng trng th gii.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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V phi chng chnh ci tnh lng chn chn ca gc r cho php l cnh c xn xao
m cy khng v m ng nghing trc gc?
Th th, nhng tnh hung khc nhau trong ngy i hi ta c nhng hnh ng khc
nhau. Lm th no ta bit c nn hnh ng th no?
Rt d cho chng ta c nhng quy lut r rng v chc chn, nh l Nu k th tt m
ny th a thm m kia. iu ny th cng khng kh, nu k th tt mnh th nhn mt
t cng chng c g l kh khn my.
Nhng nu k th tt ngi khc v to ra bt cng x hi th sao? y khng phi l tt
mnh, m l tt vo c x hi?
Nhng ngi trm cp h hip ngi khc th sao?
Chc chn l nhng tnh hung i hi ta phi lm g , vi con tim yu i, yu
ngi v yu i.
y l khi con tim tnh lng v ha i ca ta gip ta quyt nh phi lm g trong tnh
hung ny khi tnh hung ny ang xy ra. l l quyt nh ta khng th tnh trc
c m ch c th quyt nh ngay khi n xy ra. Vo lc mt tnh hung ang xy ra
vi nhng s kin c th ca nai ang lm g vi ai, ti ch no, trong khng kh no,
ci hi ci li ca hnh ng ca h th no, nhng iu g mnh nn lm can thip,
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Yu thng ci yu ca mnh
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Cho cc bn,
Hng ngy ta c t duy tch cc v c c c t duy tch cc, v ta cm thy rt
thng xuyn ta khng tch cc c nh ta mun, v ta li c c c thm, v vn cm
thy mnh yu km, v ta bt u stress stress stress v ci yu km ca mnh. Ha ra khi
u cho tch cc v ht stress, mt lc sau th li nhiu stress hn na. ng l tNu ha
nhp ma.
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Vn ch ny c vi im:
1. Ta c chi b ci yu km ca mnh, khng chp nhn n l mt phn ca mnh, v ta
b stress v n vn cn . Nu hai cnh tay ca mnh yu khng c t 100 ky c, th
vic g phi stress? C thong th tp th thao u n hng ngy, hai cnh tay s mnh
thm t t, n u hay n . iu quan trng l ta vui thch khi tp hng ngy, nh l
mt mn gii tr, hn l c c c nh l mt loi cng vic nhiu stress. C c th chc l
cng chng gip mnh i nhanh c bao nhiu, v cc bp tht ch c th mnh t t, m
li c th lm cho mnh mt hng th v thm stress. M thm stress th c ngha l mnh
i li trong t duy tch cc.
2. C c cho mnh tc l to c ngh v ci yu ca mnh, v tiu tn t tng v nng lc
vo ch yu ca mnh, ch khng dn c sc mnh vo ch mnh. M trong tm ly
con ngi, c ch tm vo ch yu l ta yu thm. V d: Nu c mng a b My dt
ton, my dt ton, c cho gii ln th c kh nng cao l a b s dt ton c i. iu
ny cc b m v thy c c kinh nghim u thy. V trong mn t duy tch cc, iu
gi l lut hp dn, c ngh v ni n ci xu hoi th ci xu s n vi mnh, k
c khi mnh ni Phi b ci xu ny, phi b ci xu ny.
iu ny th khng phi ngy nay chng ta mi bit, m cc i gia v tm y con ngi
bit t my ngn nm trc. Thnh kinh c ni, Mun vo c thin ng th phi
nh tr em. Tr em sng rt hn nhin vi chnh mnh, khng x v ci yu ca mnh v
khng ham h chy theo ci mnh ca mnh. Trong Kinh Kim Cang c rt nhiu cu theo
ngha, B tt m cn mun gic ng th khng l B tt, B tt m ngh l mnh gic ng
th khng phi l B tt. Cn ham mun l cn gnh nng, th khng th gii thot bay
bng c. C ung dung t ti th iu g s n, s n, t nhin mt lc no .
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Thay v chi b ci yu ui ca mnh, th cch hay nht l chp nhn con ngi ca
mnh ton din, c ci yu ln ci mnh. D nhin l ta mun lm mnh ci yu, nhng
mun lm mnh khng c ngha l chi b. Khng ly do g phi chi b v khng yu
thng cnh tay ca mnh ch v n khng mnh nh mnh mun. Tc l, nu ta l ni
nng khi khng ng ni nng, bun khi sch ni khng nn bun, stress khi sch ni
khng nn stress, th c ung dung chp nhn n nh l mt phn ca mnh. V thay v c
chi b l mnh khng bun, khng stress th c ung dung i din ni bun ca mnh
v u i nhn n ang trong lng mnh.
Thin s Nht Hnh c vit trong Kinh Kim Cang Ging Gii, hy m p yu thng ni
bun ni au ca mnh v n l mnh. Kinh nghim ring ca mnh cng cho thy l khi
bun au, nu chi b ni au, c tnh gt n ra khi u c, th n c nm nhc nhi
thng ny qua nm n. Nhng nu c nhn n yu i v chp nhn, mnh ang au
nhc kinh khng, v cn au ang xu x mnh th kh nng cho mnh lnh c
cn au gia tng rt nhiu, c nh l cn bo hin ri s i xa.
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Posted on Thng By 25, 2009 by tdhoanh
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X tin c nhn l personal style, l cung cch ring ca mi ngi. Bt c vic g trn i,
mi ngi chng ta u c cung cch ring ca mnh. D thc hnh mn hc no, ngnh
ngh no, th mi v thy u c cung cch ring ca mnh. Vic quan trng nht ca
ngi hc tr trong bt k mn g, l t t khm ph ra cung cch ring ca mnh. Nu
khng c c cung cch ring th rt kh vt tri, d mn l mn g.
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My hm trc mnh c gii thiu v Yanni v k nguyn nhc New Age. Ngi nhc s
hng u ca nhc New Age ny hc nhc khng c thy. C ngha l anh ta chng l
thuc vo cng thc vo ca mt ngi thy no p ung, c t mn m tm ra cch chi
nhc hp vi mnh nht. Trong cc mn v ngh thut, c th l hc cch th hay hn
l b g b vo cc cng thc n ni mnh khng pht trin c.
Ni chuyn trc m ng cng th. C ngi th h ht kch ng. C ngi th tht
nh nhng n ni ngi nghe phi tht lng nghe. Cch no cng c th l cch hay
nht, cch no cng c th chuyn ng con tim ca ngi nghe, nu n thc hin bi
ng thy.
T duy tch cc v ngh thut sng hng ngy cng vy. Mi ngi chng ta c mt c
tnh, mt cch cm xc v t duy khc nhau. Chng ta phi quen thuc vi chnh mnh
tm ra nhng cch suy t v ng x hay nht cho mnh. C ngi khi ni gin th ung
mt ly nc, suy t n l l, t t ht gin. C ngi phi ra m bao ct vi chc ci
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cho bt gin, ri suy t g th tnh sau. C ngi c th suy t trong yn lng, c ngi
ch suy t c nu nhc rock. C ngi th cn l l logic trc, c ngi cn vut ve
tnh cm trc. D l chng ta rt ging nhau trong nn tng, c tnh chng ta c nhiu
khc bit. Sng v t duy ph hp vi c tnh ring ca mnh th d tin b hn l p
mnh i theo cch khng hp vi mnh. Tri sinh ra mnh ging alto, th khng nn tn
cng tp cc bn nhc cho ging suprano.
Trong vn ha Anh ng c cu: Be Yourselfhy l chnh mnh. Hy l chnh mnh chnh
l sng vi vn ling v bn tnh tri cho, pht trin n theo hng thch hp nht. Nu
tri cho mnh l lun sc bn v mt l tr rt mnh, th l lun v l tr thng l nn
tng cho mnh pht trin t duy. Nu mnh l ngi tnh cm mnh hn l tr, th tnh yu
ca mnh cho ngi chung quanh v cho th gii chnh l nn tng ca t duy ca mnh.
Nu mnh l ngi chn ch ht bt th lao ng kin tr l nn tng t duy ca mnh. Nu
mnh thch ngi mt mnh suy t, th suy t mt mnh l sc mnh ca mnh. Nu mnh
thng mun tm s vi bn hn, th ngi vi bn l ngun sc mnh ca mnh.
Trong cc mn hc, k c t duy tch cc, c hai iu quan trng. Th nht, mnh mun
mnh tinh tn thng xuyn. Th hai, mnh bit mnh lm g th thch hp nht vi mnh.
V d: Chng ta thng nghe ni n cm n v tri n. Nhng nu ta khng quen ni cm
n nhiu, ni ra ta c cm tng khch so, th ni t thi cng c. D vy, ch cn bit
chc l ta tht c tri n trong lng, th t chnh n, lng tri n ca ta s bit cch lm vic,
theo cung cch ca ring ta. Where there is the will, there is the way. Ni no c y ch,
ni c ng i.
Nn tng ca t duy tch cc l 3 iu: Yu mnh, yu ngi v yu i. Bn lm g
l ty bn. Nhng nu mi ngy bn cm thy yu mnh hn, yu ngi hn, v yu i
hn, d ch l mt t, l bn ang i ng ng, d l c quyn sch no ni ng
l sai.
V hy nh l, khi bn ang xung tinh thn v bt k l do g , bn c th c khuynh
hng mi ti li trn u mnh, v c cm tng l mnh sai lm v tch s v mi
cung cch ca ring mnh l sai ht. Khng hn th. Cng c th c vi iu mnh cn
sa i, nhng khng phi l b ng xe c ngha l mnh li Nu. B ng chng b khng
hn l v mnh c g sai. B chy nh khng hn l v mnh bt cNn. ng coi thng
mnh qu. Chuyn g th chuyn, thng hay thua, thnh hay bi, ng hay sai, tt hay d,
th t tin vo mnh vn l im ta cui cng.
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Nu i bun chung m partner ca mnh v l do g cho rng phi chia 55/45, cho anh
ta phn ln hn mt t, thay v 50/50 nh mnh ngh. Ta c th nhn c khng?
Hi cn nh mnh hay ch m i bun. M mnh hay ni, cc partner ca m thng hay
ly phn ln hn mt t, v m mnh khng bao gi ci li, khng phi v di, nhng m
mnh ni, Nhn mt t th ai cng thng. Kt qu trc mt l m mnh lc no cng
bn rn vi cc b bn r i bun chung, chng bao gi lo mt mi, tht nghip.
Nu tranh ci trn Internet, bn c sn sng ngng, ngi kia ni cu cui cng
khng?
Thng thng trn Internet ai cng mun ni cui, cho nn cc tranh lun khng bao
gi kt thc. Trong cc lp hc cho cc lut s chuyn v tranh tng, c cu ny: Say
what you want to say. Then shut up and sit down. (Ni iu g bn mun. Xong ri
ngm ming li v ngi xung). Ni xong iu mnh cn ni v bit ngi nghe hiu
ht mnh, th ngi yn, cho bn kia mun ni g th ni. Li nhi hoi ch lm ngi
khc bc mnh, m ra ci ming kin ci thn.
C ngi r r ni xu mnh, c cn phi phng ra n ngi phao tin n v cho hn mt
bi hc khng?
Tr phi sp ca mnh quan tm, cho l vn c th nh hng n cng vic ca mnh,
nu khng th c th gt my r r ra ngoi tai khng?
Mnh ngh l mnh gii hn bn lm cng phng, nhng bn mnh th c thng chc,
mnh th khng, c cn thit mnh phi i cng l khng?
C s tranh chp gia mnh v ai bn b hay v chngc nht thit phi lm r l
li ca ngi kia khng?
C ai ni g , hay lm g , lm mt mt hoc chm t i mnh, th mnh c nht
thit phi ly li th din hay tha mn t i khng?
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dnh cng nhiu la chn cng tt. Khng nn quyt nh kiu t cu (burn
the bridge) nu khng b bt buc lm th, v mnh khng th bit c l trong tng lai
mnh c th phi i ngc li chic cu . Khng nn ng bt k cnh ca no vnh
vin, nu mnh khng b bt buc phi lm th. Cng c nhiu ca m cho tng lai,
cng c nhiu t do, v cng t stress cho mnh.
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Ngi im tnh, hc c cch t qun ly, bit cch ha mnh vi ngi khc; v
ngc li, nhng ngi khc knh trng sc mnh tinh thn ca anh y, v cm thy l h
c th hc hi anh v trng cy vo anh. Mt ngi cng tnh lng, th thnh cng, nh
hng, v quyn lc cho thin ho ca anh ta cng ln. Ngay c ngi i bun bnh
thng cng thy c thng mi ca anh ta mnh thm khi anh ta pht trin c tnh
t kim sot v im tnh, v ngi ta lun lun thch lm n vi mt ngi c tc phong
rt qun bng.
Ngi mnh m v im tnh lun lun c yu mn v knh trng. Anh ta ging nh
cy i th che nng trong vng khan hn, hang ch che trong cn bo. Ai khng yu
mt qu tim tnh lng, mt cuc i du dng v qun bnh? Khng cn bit l ma hay
nng, hay bt k i thay no c th n vi nhng ngi c c phc c ny, h lun
lun ngt ngo, tnh lng, v im tnh. Cung cch chc chn qu him, m chng ta gi
l tnh lng, l bi hc cui ca vn ha, l hoa tri ca linh hn. N qu gi nh tr tu,
ng thm hn vngvng, hn c vng rng. Ch kim tin m thi th nh b bit bao
so vi mt cuc i tnh lngcuc i sng trong i dng ca S Tht, di nhng
ln sng, ngoi tm vi ca bo t, trong im Tnh Vnh Cu.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Cho cc bn,
Nu c cc bn tin v cc i gia tham nhng b bt, cc bn hn cng thy l cc v ny
khi trc l nhng sinh vin xut sc, cn b tr nng nhit ti cao, phc v tt, ln chc
v v Ri mt ngy no trn gh quyn lc, chng tui tr ho kit nm xa tr
thnh mt ng trung nin mp , bnh hon, xi tht, v hm tham nhng. iu g xy
ra?
D nhin ta c th hiu ngay l nhng ngi ny qua mt tin trnh ti ha trong khi
ang trng thnh (nu ta gi l trng thnh); tc l cng ln tui h cng ti i.
Cc bn hi c tui mt t u thy c iu ny. C nhng ngi bn hi hc trung
hc i hc th trong sng v ly tng. Sau khi ra trng mt thi gian th bt u c tc
phong chp git t t. n lc ln gh quyn lc l bt u bin th thnh ngi ch k
v tham nhng. Tin trnh trng thnh ca chng ta lun lun l tin trnh nhn thy
nhiu ngi trong sng v tch cc t t bin thnh tiu cc, ham h, ch k, v ti t.
Ti sao?
Ti sao tin trnh khng i theo chiu ngc li? Ti sao n khng i t con ngi
tiu cc ti t t t bin thnh cc nh lnh o trong sng ly tng? Nu i sng con
ngi tin ha theo chiu ny c phi l th gii thnh thin ng ht ri khng?
Tha cu tr li l: V tui tr trong sng v ly tng.
Mt t giy trng tinh ch c th bNn thm, ch rt kh m trng p hn c na. Tui
tr trong sng v ly tng th thng l ch c th b ti i ch khng trong sng v ly
tng hn c. Trong i sng tinh thn, chng ta thng ch c th trng thnh
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*
Phi bit i theo b ngnhm ny, ng ny, o nycc nhm khc phe khc
l sai, v iu g phe ta lm cng ng, k c nhng iu v o c.
*
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Lm th no bt au kh ?
Posted on Thng By 31, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
au kh l au v kh. Nu au th kh. Nu bng tay, gy chn th au kh. Nhng au
v kh l hai iu khc nhau. au l nguyn nhn v kh l hu qu. Trong v d gy
chn, au l hin tng sinh hc do gy xng, kh l hin tng tm ly trong uci
tm bun ru, gt gng, phn nn v au.
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Mount of Beatitude, i ca (bi ging) Hnh Phc Tht, Capernaum v Bin Galilee
(Do Thi)
on vn ny, lc bnh thng th c nghe rt tm thng, chng c g l c sc c.
Nhng khi mnh rt bun , khi mnh tuyt vng, khi mnh khng cn bit phi lm g c,
mang n ra c, th n sng dy nh mt hi th m, lun qua c nhng k h li ti trn
vch ni, vo tn y hang su, vo tn y qu tim lc lng trng vng ca mnh. Tht
l l lng.
Trong Thnh kinh, Cha Gisu c mt bi ging di rt ni ting, ging cho my ngn
ngi nghe trn i cao, gi l Bi ging trn i cao (The sermon on the mount). an
vn ngn ny l on m u ca Bi gng trn i cao, v c tn l Beatitudes (Hnh
Phc Tht).
Hm nay mnh dch v post bi Beatitudes y, c bit cho Sesame v Leo Pretty, v
cc bn ang nhiu au kh trong lng. Bi v mnh khng bit c g hay hn gi gm.
Chc cc bn mt ngy an bnh.
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Beatitudes
Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called sons of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
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Lm th no khim tn ?
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Hm qua chng ta ni v khim tn nh l m ca cc k nng sng khc. Hm nay,
chng ta n cu hi tip theo t nhin: Lm sao chng ta c c c khim tn?
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1. Kin nhn l bit thi gian tnh. y l vn timing. y l kin nhn ngi ta ni
n thng nht, thc t nht, v cn t cng phu nht.
Bt c iu g trn i cng cn thi gian. Nu nu cm cn 20 pht cm chn, th ta
khng th tng la cao gp 5 ln v 4 pht sau th xong ni cm chy. Kin nhn l
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3. Kin nhn l nhn nhc, nhn nhn. y l ngha cao nht ca kin nhn. y
khng cn l thnh cng trong vi d n, v l hon ton lm ch tm mnh, lm ch i
mnh, thnh cng cho c i mnh. y l nhn nhc m ta ni trong bi Mt s nhn
l chn s lnh, l khim tn v khng cn ci ti, l m ca tt c cc k nng sng
khc, m ta ni trong bi Nhng k nng sng, v Lm th no khim tn.
Khi khng cn ci ti th ta khim tn, ta nhn nhc, ta kin nhn ta lm ch tm
mnh. Ta c th c c nhng k nng sng khc mt cch t nhin.
Trong a s cc kha hc v t duy tch cc trn th trng ngy nay, chng ta ch hc
c n im th nht v th 2 trn y. Tuy nhin, im th 3 ny mi l nn tng su
nht ca t duy tch cc.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Trong mt phim xi-n mnh xem kh lu, mt nhm khoa hc gia to dng mt a
b, hnh nh l bng cloning (to t t bo mu) th phi. a b ln ln khe mnh v
bt u bit ni nh bnh thng. Ri mt hm n, a b ni di mt cu g , l
cu ni di u tin em ni, v c nhm khoa hc gia nhy ln vui mng, , n ni di,
n ni di. N bit ni di ri. V l bng chng tr c em tin trin tt, n
mc thng thi hn.
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Bi lin h: T duy tch cc v chiu su con tim, Gi mnh lm lnh o, Bo trng bn
tnh chn tht.
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Nu chng ta c suy t (v hnh ng) nh ctc l phn nn v tnh trnh gian tham
trong ncth ta chng gii quyt c g c. m ch lm cho vn thnh trm trng
thm, v cng phn nn ta cng tin iu ta phn nn, m cng tin th ta cng c khuynh
hng sng theo s tht ta tin, tc l mi ngi tip tc sng theo kiu gian tham.
Cch gii quyt vn DUY NHT l ngh v ni rng Thnh tht s a n thnh
cng v sng thnh tht nh th thnh cng. V iu ny rt d lm, khng c ly do
g ngi no c th ni l kh. Nu trong nh nc cn bng ng, v bn cho rng bn
khng thnh tht c, th ra ngoi lm t. Trong nn kinh t t nhn, khch hng ch
mun sng vi cc cng ty ng tin cy, nu bn ng tin cy th bn s thnh cng, nu
khng th phi ng ca. Khch hng khng mun gian di.
Tc l thay v phn nn, hy ngng phn nn v sng thnh tht, ng thi dy bo
khuyn khch ngi khc sng thnh tht thnh cng. Tc l chng ta phi i mi
trng tu cc (ca phn nn v gian di) thnh mi trng tch cc ca thnh tht, bng
chnh hnh ng thnh tht ca mnh.
Chng ta khng th ly i bng ti bng cch ngi nguyn ra chi bi bng ti. Ta
phi thp ln mt ngn n bng tm gng tch cc thnh tht ca ta.
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Nu bn tin rng, x hi chng ta c qu nhiu gian di, th t nht tin thm rng, nu bn
thnh tht bn s ni bt gia m ngi gian di nh vin kim cng gia bi ct. Nu
ni bt th th c hi bn nh hng tt n ngi khc c th rt cao.
Ch c mt cch gii quyt vn , khng c cch th hai: Ngng phn nn v gian di ,
v sng thnh tht. Vn ca chng ta l chng ta phn nn v gian di, v ta sng thiu
thnh tht. Hy lm iu ngc li: Ngng phn nn v gian di, v bt u sng thnh
tht. Bn c th lm c iu khng?
Khng c cng phi c, v ch tn l thnh tr cui cng ca o lm ngi.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Vic hun luyn i ng bn hng v tip th nhm vo mt vic duy nhth phi lun
lun vui v yu i, lun lun tin l mnh s thng, lun lun quyt thng, khng c ch
tht bi trong t in ca h.
V hun luyn y khng c ngha l mt vi lp hc, hc xong ly chng ch l xong.
N l c mt tin trnh sng. Cc cuc hp hng ngy, hp hng tun, picnic, i chi
chung thng xuyn ch nhm vo mt im duy nhtgi cho mi ngi tch cc,
tich cc, v tch cc.
Th th nhng im no c ch trng nht trong tin trnh o to ?
Ni chung, k thut th nhiu, nhng c th tm chia thnh bn nhm: T duy tch cc v
chnh mnh, t duy tch cc v mi ngi, t duy tch cc v sn phNm v cng vic ca
mnh, v tc phong tch cc trong giao tip
1. T duy tch cc v chnh mnh
Mun thnh cng v tin l mnh s thnh cng.
Ngh tt v mnh: Mnh c ti, mnh thng minh, mnh lm vic chm ch, mnh p,
mnh c duyn Ngui tiu cc v chnh mnh khng th bn hng hay tip th c, v
nu chnh mnh m mnh cn khng thy c ci hay ca mnh th mnh thy ci hay
ca sn phNm no c?
Lun lun ni chuyn vi n ci v vui v. V d: Hm nay ch th no? Hm nay
tri nng p, em rt vui, v cng vic y mt bn, bn rn l em vui ri. (Thay v:
Hm nay nng mt qu. Cng vic li dn ng, qu mt). Ngay c khi b bnh, th cu
tr li vn tch cc, My hm nay m phi nh, hm nay em i lm c ri. Vn cn
nhc u mt t. Nhng i lm c l em vui ri. (Thay v: Em vn cn bnh, nhng
phi c i lm, s cng vic dn ng).
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Hm nay ta tip tc nghin cu, lm cch no chng ta gia tng sng to cho mi c
nhn chng ta v, nh vy, d nhin l cho c quc gia.
Hin nay chng ta c 3 iu li cho vic bin vn ha ca ta thnh vn ha sng to. Th
nht l Internet. Internet gip cho mi ngi Vit tip xc vi t tng mi l hoc xa l
hng ngy. iu ny lm cho cch suy ngh ca chng ta tr nn rng ri hn, v bt bo
th.
iu th hai l chng ta c ngi Vit trn khp th gii, lin lc vi qu nh nh 24 gi
mt ngy qua Internet. My anh chng v c nng lai Ty, lai M, lai Hoa, lai Nht , lai
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1. iu th nht l t duy: Sng l sng to. Sng l mc thm chi non, l mi, cnh
mi mi ngy. Sng to khng phi l y thch. Sng to chnh l sng. Khng cn sinh ra
c ci g mi na l cht hay sp cht. Gin d th thi.
2. Sng to l suy ngh khng ging ai, lm ci khng ging ai. Cho nn hy ca ngi
nhng ci khng ging ai ca ngi khc, d ci mnh khng cn, v khng my thch
(min l khng thc s phi chng v ly do c th no v v sinh, hay o c, hay
ly do quan trng no ).
3. Khuyn khch con ci, hc tr, bn b, v nhng ngi quanh ta th hin c tnh ca
h, th hin cc suy tng v hnh ng mi l ca h.
4. D nhin khng phi t tng mi hnh ng mi no cng tt, nhng nu c 100 ci
mi, sau thi gian o thi ht 70 cn 30 l va, Thay v, c ch 2 ci mi v thi gian
o thi 1 ch cn li 1.
5. C t tng mi c ngha l bn nm trong thiu s ch c mt ngi. Cho nn phi c
cam m i mt mnh, ng s ma. Nu ta chia s y tng vi cc bn, th cng ch c
mt s rt nh c th thy c iu ta ni (v t tng mi l thng l th). Li na,
trong mi trng chng khng ging ai ca vn ha Vit, ta c th li cng c n.
Phi can m v chp nhn chuyn . Thin ti thng phi ln li mt mnh. Nhng
vn c chia s ra ngoi, bit u hng xm th khng hiu c, nhng mt ngi bn
bn kia qu a cu li hiu c.
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3. Pht trin c tnh ca mnh c ngha l mnh cng khuyn khch ngi khc pht
trin c tnh ca h, v knh trng c tnh ca h, d l c tnh chi vi c tnh ca
mnh. V d: Mnh l ngi ni nh nh, bn mnh l ngi ni rn rng nghe mun lng
l nh, th vn c khuyn khch bn mnh sng vi c tnh ca bn.
Ngi khng khuyn khch ngi khc pht trin c tnh, ng nhin l ngi thch
ng khun, nh vy th chnh ngi cng khng th pht trin c c tnh ca mnh
(ngoi tr c tnh ng khun).
4. C th i mt mnh. Nu bn c mt cung cch ring v cch suy ngh ring, v mi
ngi chung quanh suy ngh mt cch khc, h s mun lo li bn vo con ng sng
ca h, v bn phi vng tin c sng cch ca mnh. y l chuyn rt thng xy
ra. m ng thng c mass mentality (t duy ca m ng), i khi cn tr thnh
mob mentality (t duy in r kiu bng ng ti phm) hay herd mentality (t duy nh
mt on th).
Ngi thc s tnh thc khng cn phi chy theo m ng. H ngi yn suy ngh chnh
chn, ri i theo quyt nh ring ca mnhhoc ng y vi m ng hoc i ng
khc.
iu ny ni th d lm th kh, v i a s ngi trn th gii khng c suy ngh c
lp m ch chy theo m ng. Chnh v vy m ta mi c mass mentality. Cho nn bo
v c tnh ca mnh i hi ta phi tnh thc v can m i mt mnh i khi.
5. Pht trin c tnh khng c ngha l coi thng mi ngi khc. ch l thiu
hiu bt, kiu cng, v thiu t tin. Ngi c c tnh mnh th rt gn gi v thn thit
vi nhng ngi chung quanh, v h qu trng v thch th c tnh ca mi ngi chung
quanh.
Nguyn ly vn hnh ch ny rt d hiu: Ngi c c tnh mnh v mun pht trin c
tnh mnh ca mnh, ng nhin l hiu v mun nhng ngi chung quanh cng pht
trin c tnh ca h, nh mnh ang lm cho mnh.
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Ngc li, ngi c c tnh yu, thch ng khun, thng khng bit tn trng c tnh
ca ngi khc, v cng mun ngi khc ng khun nh mnh.
Pht trin c tnh l ci ngun ca sng to. Ngi c c tnh ng khun ng nhin
cng ch c th sng to kiu ng khun, ngha l chng sng to g c. V vy, mi
ngi chng ta hy t pht trin c tnh ca mnh v khuyn khch mi ngi chung
quanh cng lm th.
V bt u bng mt ch HI.
Hi v bt k iu g cho n khi mnh tha mn l hiu v nm vng vn
lm quyt nh cho ring mnh. ng t ng d vng vi li dy ca ai c. Nhng cng
ng coi thng kin thc ca ngi i trc, ngi c kinh nghim hn. Hc tm ca
ngi i trc, v tip tc hi thm, cho n khi mnh c kin thc ca ring mnh.
V cng ng suy t theo kiu khng suy t, , ci ny ti, ti khng thch v khng
gii thch c ti sao ti khi b ngi hi vn li. l ni lm nhm, khng phi l suy
t.
Mi chng ta nn khng bao gi qun mt s tht rt cn bn: t nc ta ch c th
thng minh, mnh m, v sng to nu mi chng ta thng minh, mnh m v sng to.
Khng c cch khc.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Ti v khng ti
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Hm nay chng ta dnh mt t thi gian ni li mt im mu thun m chng ta ,
ang v s tip tc nghe thng xuyn trong tin trnh gii thch t duy tch cc. l
mt mt chng ta ni khng nn c ci ti, mt mt chng ta li bo ta phi t tin, phi
yu mnh, phi yu nhng ci hay ci tt mnh c. Thc l rt ri rm. V vy, lu lu
chng ta cn phi ni n vn ny, khng ai trong chng ta b lc ng.
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3. Mc cao hn na: Mnh v ang thnh cng. i sng ca mnh, cng vic ca
mnh c nh hng n nhng ngi xung quanh, c nh hng n x hi ny, i sng
ny.
4. Mc cao hn: Con ngi mnh cn rt nhiu tim nng cao hn l ch lm thng
mi, lm chnh tr hay lm kinh t thnh cng. Mnh c th cm nhn c th gii
ny, i sng ny, v mnh l mt phn ca s sng v cng, s sng bng bc trong v
tr.
y l nhng bc trng thnh v t duy v chn mi ca con tim. Trng thnh
c bc no, ta bit c bc , khng bit bc sau c, cho n khi chn
mi ln cp. C ngi ch cn mt giy, c ngi phi cn mt i. Khng ni trc
c.
Tuy nhin, d l c ni n v ng hay khng ti, tin trnh trng thnh vn l nhn
thc c ci ti, bit qu trng ti, nui dng hun luyn ti, ti trng thnh v
thun thc tng bc, cho n khi ti vt thot c c gii hn ca ti v suy t nh l
mt phn mt thit ca i Sng.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Ni chuyn th no ?
Posted on Thng Tm 19, 2009 by tdhoanh
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K t hm nay chng ta s khai trin su t t, lm th no xy dng vng nh hng
ca ta ln rng v chc chn. T nh ti ln chc chng my khi ta c hc lp v ni
chuyn. Lc bt u bp b mt hai ch ba ma l bt u ni chuyn vi m. Ri
t v sau l ni chuyn t nhin vi mi ngi, t b m anh em n thy c bn b.
Thnh thong c hc c mt t v n ni cho l t nh, nhng ch l mt vi cch
tha hi, ch chng c lp no dy ta ni chuyn c.
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khe hn 10 ln. Ngy xa i sinh con th i, nhng hc th khng c lp. Ngy nay c
b ln m u hc lp sinh con cng vic i bin ca ph n tri chy hn v c
c ngi bn ng chia s.
Vy th, ta cng cn phi hc ni chuyn. Nhng, ti sao li phi hc? Nu khng hc th
c hi g? T nh ti ln ti ni chuyn mt ngy 24 ting (ni qun n qun ng ) c
sao u?
Nu ta khng hc ni, th cch ni chuyn ch l biu hin t nhin ca c tnh (do bNm
sinh v thi quen nh gio dc gia nh), v nh vy l hn xui may ri. C ngi th ni
chuyn ai cng thng, c ngi th ai cng ght, a s chng ta th thng khi ni
chuyn xong mi thy l c nhng iu mnh khng nn ni, hoc l nhng cch ni
mnh khng nn dng Ni chung l v ta khng thun thc k nng ni chuyn, cho
nn cht lng ni chuyn ty thuc nhiu vo hn xui may ri, ty theo hm ra ng
c gp trai hay khng.
Vy th ta cn nghin cu hc hi c th kim sot v thun thc k nng ni chuyn
hn. V v ni chuyn l k nng n ni chnhtruc c ni trc m ng, trc c
phng vn tm vic, trc c ging bicho nn ni chuyn l k nng m ca tt c
cc k nng ni khc. Hc cch ni chuyn l hc cn bn ni cho tt c cc k nng ni
khc.
Ni n ni chuyn, chng ta d b i lc vo c mt rng qui lut, nh l phi khim tn,
phi nh nh, phi thnh tht, phi thu hiu, v.v Rt d b hn n trong u v b lc
vng vng. Cho nn, chng ta s dng mt cch khc, gin d hn v hiu qu hn.
Chng ta s ch trng vo mt hai im chnh, t mi iu tt khc s t ng ny
sinh.
I. Mc ch ca ni chuyn: Xa nay chng my ngi trong chng ta ngh n mc
ch ca ni chuyn. Gp bn l ni, c ting ng h, ht gi th bye-bye ra v. Vy
thi.
Nhng nu ngh li k mt t th ni chuyn l chia s. Chia s g th cha cn bit.
Nhng chc chn l ni l chia sthng tin, s thch, tnh cm, kin thc
M mun chia s th mnh phi hiu ngi kia. Cng hiu su hiu k, cng chia s tt.
V d hai mn i thoi sau y:
Bun qu gh nh b chi.
Bun g vy?
Bun qu gh nh b chi.
qua i. mnh chy ra tim tp ha u ng mua vi tri xoi nhm nhi.
D rng chng ai bit chuyn g xy ra, ai cng c th thy c ngi bn trong v d
th hai c v nhy cm v hiu bn mnh hn ngi trong v d 1 rt nhiu.
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II. V vy, quy lut ni chuyn th 2, l phi lng nghe, v ch c lng nghe mi hiu
bit chia s.
y l qui lut thc hnh u tin. (Quy lut s mt bn trn l mc tiu trong t tng).
V qui lut lng nghe ny tri ngc li vi a s chng ta. Chng ta thng thng
dng ni chuyn trnh by kin ca mnh (Thng cha x trai d man tn bo),
hay s thch (Ti thch nhc rock hn nhc c in), hay kin thc (Decartes l cha
ca tam an lun). Nhng ch l mt chiu, v l chiu th hai. Chiu u l chiu
lng nghe, v nu khng lng nghe th ta cng ni khng hiu qu. Phi lng nghe trc
khi ni.
Cho nn phi mang lng nghe v v tr u trong ni chuyn.
Nhng, lng nghe bng cch no?
1. Tm nim: Ti mun thc s hiu c bn ti ang ngh g, ang cm xc g. V
ti ch c th hiu c, nu ti lng nghe v quan st.
2. Tnh lng: n o th khng lng nghe c.
Tnh lng tc l khng ni nhiu, nht l ni ra kin ca mnh khi khng cn ni.
V d:
Bit ng Ho dy ton khng?
Ci ng hc quNy kiu cng ai m khng bit.
Cu tr li ny c th ct ngang vnh vin mt cuc ni chuyn quan trng v su sc
nh sau:
Bit ng Ho dy ton khng?
Bit.
My bit tao lm sao khng?
Khng. Ni i. Tao nghe.
Tao c bu vi ng
Tnh lng l khng suy ngh lung tung trong u trong khi nghe. Ch nn ch tm
vo vic nghe m thi. V d:
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8. Lng nghe l lng nghe. Lng nghe khng c ngha l bn phi cho y kin, cho c
vn, cho phn an, hay lm g . Khi ngi kia cn y kin, h s hi y kin bn, lc
hy ni. Bng khng th bn ch cn lng nghe, vy l cho cuc ni chuyn ri.
III. Chia s thng c ngha l chia s ng . Cho nn khi ni chuyn nn ni v cc
im ng y. Cc im bt ng , nu khng c l do quan trng thc s phi bn n,
th chng vic g phi li n ta. C nhiu ngi ch thch li nhng im bt ng ra ni.
Sao vy?
IV. Chia s khng phi l mt hnh ng tri thc, m l mt hnh ng tnh cm.
Ngay c khi ngi ta chia s tri thc, v d Mnh post bi gii ton ny chia s vi
cc bn, d tan l tri thc, th chia s tri thc ton l hnh ng tnh cm chia s vi
nhng ngi mnh yu quy. Cng nh chia s mt qu camd qu cam l thc phNm th
vic chia s qu cam cng l hnh ng tnh cm.
V vy, hy t con tim vo vic chia s khi ni chuyn. Dng con tim sng ch tm,
ch thnh, ch tnh.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Ni trong ni chuyn
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Cho cc bn, trong bi Ni chuyn th no? chng ta ch cp n mt vic chnh l
lng nghe, m chng ni g n phn ni c. S d th v nu bit lng nghe, ng nhin
l bit ni. Nu hc lng nghe l ng nhin hc ni mt cch t nhin. Tuy nhin, v c
bn s thc mc l sao hc ni chuyn m khng hc ni, cho nn hm nay ta ni thm
mt t v phn ni.
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tc l dp bt thi quen ca mnh, thch ca mnh, thnh kin ca mnh, kin thc ca
mnh, con ng ca mnh.
Ta sng vi ta mt ngy 24 ting, cho nn khi gp ngi khc ni chuyn, hy
nhn h nh l trng tm cho suy t ca mnh. Chng ly do g gp bn m vn cn
xem chnh mnh l trng tm ca suy tng. 24 gi mt ngy cha sao?
Trn y ch l cc quy lut chung chung. Thc hnh th phi ty tnh th m uyn
chuyn v tho b quy lut. Nu sng i ch theo mt s quy lut cng nhc l xong,
th cuc i qu d, nh l n nt computer thi. u c gin d th.
Ngh thut th ch c qui lut hng dn chung chung, nhng khi thc hnh th li bin
ha v cng. Ty nghi m ng x.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Networking
Posted on Thng Tm 21, 2009 by tdhoanh
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Networking y khng phi l mt mng computer, m l mt mng nhng ngi m bn
bit, nh c g th bit ai m gi. y cng gn ging nh vng nh hng, nhng c
l l rng hn mt t, c c nhng ngi mnh bit d l mnh khng c nh hng my
n h. Networking l xy dng mt mng ngi quen bit quanh mnh. T ny c l bt
ngun t k ngh computer.
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Cch thng thng nht ngi ta dng network l i hp, gp nhau, ni chuyn vi
nhau mt t v trao i danh thip. Sau mt seminar hay mt conference no thng ta
c mt m danh thip, mai sau nu cn th bit ai m gi.
Nhng lm th no network hu hiu?
Mt trong nhng cch thng xuyn nht l trong nhng dp gp nhau ng ngi, mi
ngi cm ly nc ung, ng ln ln nhau trong cn phng tip tn ln, v i vng
vng, bt tay nhau ni chuyn, ni vi mi ngi mt t. Mnh chng bit cch ny c
hu qu bao nhiu, v mnh khng thch n my. Trong cc dp ng ngi, mnh cng
cho hi mi ngi mi ngi mt t, nhng chng bao gi mnh xem n nh l
networking c. Ch l cho hi v l x giao v lch s.
Tuy nhin mnh thy nhiu chuyn vin networking dng cch ny mt cch khng
c thun thc lm. Anh chng n bt tay, t gii thiu, trao danh thip, ni chuyn
vi mnh vi ba cu, nhng mt th c lo lin o quanh phng, tm mc tiu k tip.
Xem ra rt khng thnh thc khi ni chuyn.
Cch m mnh thoi mi nht l tm ngi hp gu ni chuyn v ng ni chyn vi
ngi ny rt lu. Mnh c cm tng l nh vy th xy dng c quan h tt hn. Tuy
nhin, nh th thng c ngha l b qua nhiu ngi khc.
Mnh c mt ng bn vong nin l gio s tm l i hc. ng ny rt hay. ng y c
mt quyn s tay, ni chuyn vi ai, ng cng thnh thong xin php h cho ng ly bt
ghi vo s tay cc chi tit c nhn, nh tn h, tn v hay chng ca h, tn ca my
ngi con, bao nhiu tui, v.v Mnh cha thy ai t phin h v vic ny. C l l
mi ngi u thch khi thy ng y quan tm n cc chi tit ca h. y ng l mt
cch rt hay, v n gip ng ny nh c cc chi tit ca mi ngi, mai mt ni
chuyn tip. (D vy mnh vn cha lm, v khng sing vic ny my )
Cch network mnh thch nht l ni chuyn vi mt ngi ring t v lu mt t, nh
mi nhau i n tra. D nhin, cch ny th tt v c thi gi hiu nhau hn. V nhng
ngi i n tra vi mnh cng hp cch ni chuyn vi nhau mt t ri. n tra nh vy
th rt vui, v c th to thm nhiu thn tnh.
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Theo mnh nhn xt, khi netwoking ngi ta hay hi nhau lm vic g, v l cu hi
t nhin, hn na n nm trong danh thip, dng lm ti ni chuyn. Nhng iu nh
hng nhau khng phi l vic lm, m l hai iu ny:
Ta tht s mun nghe chuyn ca ngi i din: Mun nghe chuyn lm n ca h,
chuyn gia nh con ci ca h, s thch ca h, chuyn h khi nghip ra sao Mnh
ni l tht s mun nghe, v nhiu chuyn vin networking ch hi chuyn mt cch
cng thc v my mc, nghe rt l chn. Ngi tht s mun hiu ngi khc nh mt
ngi bn mi, th ng nhin l thch nghe chuyn ca bn.
Cch ni chuyn ca ta lm cho ngi nghe c n tng l ta ng tin cy.
Mi mt nhm ngi c mt loi t cch kiu mu khc nhau. Trong mt nhm ton l
ngi lm n ma o, nu bn l ngi hin lng chn tht, chc l bn s b lng qun
trong gc phng.
Cng ln cao th bng cp, a v, tin bc v k nng ngai giao cng mt kh nng gy
n tng. cp rt cao, s chn tht ca mt ngi c sc thuyt phc rt mnh.
Trong nhng ng dy lin h, ngi ta thng c mt vi tnh t din t mt
ngi no . V d: Anh ABC ny l bn ti. Anh y l thng gia, thng minh v
thnh tht cc k. Anh ta ang tm bn i tc. Anh gp anh y c khng?
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V vy, danh ting no mnh to ra, tt hay xu, th cng s nm cht trong vi tnh t ,
t ra l cng mt thi gian kh lu. Thnh hay khng, mt phn ln cng nh vi tnh t
ny ta c trong bn b.
i vi nhiu ngi, networking l mt k thut sn ngi. Mnh khng thch khi
nim . l cch suy ngh ca nhng ngi khng quan tm n lin h thm su gia
mi ngi.
i vi mnh, sng cng c nhiu bn cng vui. Mnh tm bn ch khng lm network.
Chc cc bn mt tngy vui.
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Luyn tp to nn hon ho
Posted on Thng Tm 26, 2009 by tdhoanh
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B mt thun thc mt k nng, mt ngh thut, nm trong cu ny, Practice makes
perfect Luyn tp to nn hon ho. V nu rt gn li mt ch cho d nh, th ch
l practice. Mun thng Olympic th practice, practice v practice. Mun thi th
practice, practice v practice. Mun thnh cng th practice, practice v practice.
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Vy th practice l g?
Practice l thc tp, luyn tp, thc hnh.
Practice th no th cha cn bit, nhng iu rt r l practice khng c ngha l l
thuyt.
Practice cng khng c ngha l study. Study l hc. Nhng ngi ta c khi hc l thuyt,
c khi hc thc hnh. Practice l thc hnh. Ngi ta khng ni study makes perfect,
m ngi ta ni Practice makes perfect.
M practice th chng c g hp dn ht. Biu din th hp dn. Nhc s trnh din mt bn
nhc trong nh ht th rt hp dn. V s biu din nho ln nh cp th rt hp dn.
Nhng tp nhc hay tp v chng c g hp dn ht.
Cc bn nghe ai tp piano r mi fa sol la si si la sol fa mi r cha? Nu
trong nh c ngi hc piano m bn cha phi vo bnh vin thn kinh v in ci u,
th bn cng lc cng thm hu lm. Hc v cng vy, vo v ng th thy, m 100
ci tay phi, 100 ci tay tri, 100 ci chn phi, 100 ci chn tri. Ngy no cng vy,
mt gn cht, m xem ra chng c g hp dn nh l anh hng dng song long phi cc
h th gian hng cu nn m nhn c.
Thc tp lun lun chn pho, mt mi, m thm, khng mu m, khng vinh quang,
khng hp dn S tht en ti ca cuc i l th. l cuc i tht ca cc i s
ph v i s mu trong tt c cc ngnh ngh thut. Ngay c sau khi nc ting giang
h, ln TV bo ch ng, th cuc i thc tp chn pho vn l cuc i chnh. Mt
nm may ra ln TV ho nhong mt hai ln, mt ln vi ting ng h. Cn phn ln
cuc i cn li l luyn tp, luyn tp, v luyn tp. Trong m thm.
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thnh tht ch bng c v thnh tht, khng th khim tn ch bng c v khim tn,
khng th sng to ch bng c v sng to, khng th c nhn tm ch bng c v c
nhn tm.
Mun c iu g chng ta ch c mt cch, khng c con ng th haithc tp,
thc tp, v thc tp mi ngy.
Cho nn cc bn mun c bnh tm, mun c can m, mun c yu i, mun
thng s hi th ch c mt cch l thc hnh cc c tnh mi ngy. Mun can m
tt nh hng s ph, th tp can m mi ngyngha l hnh ng qu cm, d trong
lng th rt run. Mun yu i nh hng s mu, th tp yu i, ci vui vi b bn mi
ngy, d mi c nng ni yu anh nhng khng yu mi mi. Mun hc khim
tn th khi c bn ch l dt, tp nut nc bt mm ci.
Vn trong cc k nng sng l, khng phi chng ta khng bit, nhng chng ta khng
kin tm thc hnh. Ni chung th tt c chng ta bit tt c nhng iu cn bit.
Nhng c ngi thc tp, c ngi khng. Nhiu ngi tm c mi sch pht trin
nhn cch, hc lm ngi, c nhn tm, ngh thut ni chuyn, ngh thut chinh phc
c i, nhng khng thc tp hng ngy nghim chnh. (D nhin l c sch k nng
sng hng ngy cng tt. l nhc nh hng ngy, nh hng nh t k m th. Nhng
nu c khng m khng hnh, th khng c ri).
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T hn na, nhiu ngi khng nhng khng thc tp cc c tnh tt, li xm nhau h
chuNn t cch xung. Ti khng r n c chuNn v chuNn qu cao so vi ti, th th ti
ko chuNn xung thp. Th l chng ta c vn ha ni di l hiu i, t tin di
gm bn l khn ngoan, ai cht mc ai, khn th c ngm ming
Rt may l th gii con ngi khng i theo hng . V ni g th ni, ngi thnh tht
vn c ngi ta tin hn v mun lm n chung hn, ngi can m th c bn trung
thnh hn k b bn m chy Ngha l, nhng ngi thnh tht v can m th vn c
c hi thnh cng cao hn. Tc l, nhng thc tp gian kh , mt lc no , khng
chng th chy, s mang li phn thng cho chng ta.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Hu x t nhin hng
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Musk deer
X c ngha nguyn thy l bn, nh x th l ngi bn sng hay bn cung. Mi loi vt
thng c mt loi dung dch c mi c bit, bn ra ngoi nh du lnh th ca
mnh v bo tin cho ng bn bit mnh u. V d, loi nai gi l musk deer, c mt
ti musk nh vy, v loi du ny l nguyn liu chnh ngi ta dng lm nc hoa
cho n ng. Cc ti du ny trong loi vt gi l x hng.
Nu ta c mt ti musk nh vy trong ngi th ng nhin l c mi thm, m khng
cn phi bi nc hoa cng mnh, phi khng cc bn? l hu x t nhin hng.
Nhng ci g ta c hn ngi u c th xem l x hngv ch ton, ht rt hay, bn
cung rt gii, ai en judo, v.v Nhng iu ny thng c bng cp, chng ch, hay
gii thng lm bng chng, nn l vic d.
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Nhng cn bo i
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Cho cc bn,
Rt thng xuyn cuc i ang sng sa vui v ca ta bng nhin b mt m my en
bao ph kn mt, ging bo, sm st, cung phong, ma dm, ngp lt, nhc nhi, lng lo,
s hi, trm ut bao trm c con ngi mnh v c th gii ca mnh. V mnh chi vi,
ngp th, t lit, khng suy ngh g c, khng thit n ung, khng thit lm vic,
ngi c r lit, t lit hon ton.
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c bo hng ngy ta thy thin h git nhau v my chuyn rui bu hng ngyem
gi ni anh xu trai, m la con li bing, bn b ch nhau dt, v ch chng bt ti, ch
nh ny chy qua nh kia tiu by, mt 10 ngn ng v nghi l bn mnh ly Ni
chung l a s cc chuyn git ngi trn bo ch hng ngy ch vo hng xe p cn
ch. Nhng nhng ci gai nh xu, nh mt 10 nghn ng, vn c th lm cho mt
ngi hon ton m qung v tr thnh in r.
V vy, khi ta gp vn , gp khng hong, nm di y ni th khng c, sp ngp
th, sp cht, s hi, t lit, tuyt vng, nhc nhch khng c th hy nm yn v
suy ngh t t. tnh lng logic thoi mi xem qu ni ang mnh thc ra c
phi l qu ni hay khng, vn mnh ang gp phi c phi l qu ni hay khng, hay
ch l o tng ca tm tr, ch l ci gai t ti ca ngi cha quen p gai. Nu khng
nhc nhch tay chn c th c nm yn v nhc nhch t tng mt t nh th Bit
u mt lc sau thy d th hn, thoi mi hn, m mt ra th thy tri ni bin u
mt. V trong tay mnh ch c mt chic gai hng.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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y na ly hay cn na ly?
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M, khi phng vn xin vic, thi tch cc m ngi M gi l positive thinking c
th quyt nh n 70% thnh cng, cn li mi l cc k nng khc. Ngi tch cc
(positive person) thng giao tip tt, lm vic theo nhm tt, ho hp tt, t tin, nng
n Ngi tiu cc (negative person) s b gt b ngay sau vi pht phng vn. V ch
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Cn chng ta, c kim tra li s thy thng ngy ta c nhng suy ngh rt tiu cc:
- Vit Nam lc ny xut khNu tm sang Nht nhiu lm.
- Xi, ch c ba ba l Nht n tr v v thiu v sinh thi.
Hay:
- Nh A, hm nay mc ci o p qu h ?
- X, p trong tm hn mi ng k ch b ngoi th n thua g !
Tt c cc cu p trn u l cch ni, cch suy ngh tiu cc. Khng ai ni l cch
ni sai. Nhng i thng c hai loi ngi: thnh cng v tht bi, lc quan v bi
quan, tch cc v tiu cc. Vn l ta chn cch ni, cch ngh no, th thi.
Tt c bng ti ca th gian cng khng che c nh sng ca mt que dim
Ngi tch cc lun thy ci hay, ci tt, ci p trong s vic v ngi khc. Ngi
tiu cc lun ch trng n khuyt im ca ngi khc v lun lo lng ngi khc
khng tn trng, n nang mnh.
Ngi tiu cc khng bao gi phc ai v thy ai cng km. Ngi tch cc thy ai cng
phc v thy cng c mt ci g m mnh phi hc hi.
Ngi tiu cc thng t ti v t tn cng mt lc. Ngi tch cc th thng t tin v
khim tn cng mt lc.
Ngi tiu cc khng bao gi dm hi han iu g v s ngi khc ngh l mnh dt, m
nu c hi th ch hi tn cng. Ngi tch cc lun lun hi chi tit v thc tm mun
hc hi.
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Ngi tiu cc khi gp kh khn thng cho l ti s mnh en, tri thiu cng bng.
Ngi tch cc th cho y l th thch kh nng chu ng v gii quyt ca mnh.
Ngi tiu cc bun b v ghen tc khi ngi khc thnh cng. Ngi tch cc vui v
khi thy ngi khc thnh cng v s hi thm hc thm c mt t b mt thnh
cng.
Ngi tiu cc hay ph phn ch bai, cn nhn v than vn. Ngi tch cc th ch
trng gii quyt vn .
Ngi tiu cc lun lm ngi khc bc mnh, xung tinh thn. H khng lm ai vui,
khng thuyt phc c ai. Ngi tch cc lun lm ngi khc ln tinh thn, lm mi
ngi tr ln hng hi v vy tnh thuyt phc rt cao.
Ngi tiu cc hay t kiu, t mn v th ng. Ngi tch cc lun phn u v i l
mt cuc u tranh nh ng gi v bin c ca Hemingway, phn u khng v li lc,
nhng ch v vic ca ng l nh c, bn tnh con ngi l hot ng. Ngi khng hot
ng l ngi cht.
Ngi tiu cc khng trong team (i ng) no c c. H s lm v bt c i
ng no m h trong .
V lu di, ngi tch cc lun lun thnh cng v ngi tiu cc lun lun tht bi.
Tiu cc d ly lan, tch cc cng d ly lan. Nhng tch cc ly mnh hn tiu cc v
tt c bng ti ca th gian cng khng che c bng ti ca mt que dim.
Na ly bc c th ni l y na ly, c th ni l cn na ly. ng no cng ng. y
l vn ca ring mi ngi. Vy m cng l vn chung ca mt quc gia. Ngi
tch cc lun thy ly nc y mt na. t nc no c nhiu cng dn suy ngh tiu
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Sc mnh on kt ca Vit Nam rt ln, v th chng ta lun mun mi ngi lm, suy
ngh, n ni cng mt cch. Chnh v vy m thnh ra bo th, thiu sng to, cng nhc
v chm chp.
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Honh
Ch thch: Bi ny mnh vit khong thng 6 nm 2007, c l cho tp ch Nh Qun L.
Nay thy c trn mt s Websites trn Internet nn mnh mang v post li y.
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Phn bin nh th no ?
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Cho cc bn,
C l tt c chng ta u ng rng phn bin l nhu cn ln trong t duy v trong hnh
ng, ca c nhn v ca x hi, ca t nhn hay ca nh nc. Thiu phn bin ng
nhin l chng ta m mt phn.
Cc lut s chuyn v tranh tng hng ngy s dng phng php chin u l lun gi
l Devils Advocate (bin h cho Cha Qu). Ngi devils advocate ng vai phe ch,
tn cng phe ta, phe ta tp n v phn cng. Khng c devils advocate th trm
trn trm thua, v khi lm trn ta s ng qu nhiu bt ng b him.
Phn bin l tin trnh t nhin ca sng to. Khng th sng to c, nu ta khng phn
bin.
Phn bin l hai v sinh tp u trn sn u. Hc v m khng tp u th ch c v
mm. Nhng, nu hc v mm chnh thng, th vn phi hc phn bin l chnh.
Tuy nhin, phn bin c th lm trn c vai tr tch cc sng to ca mnh, n i
hi mt s iu kin khch quan:
1. Ngi ta phn bin vi nhau tm mt gii php chung. V phn bin m khng cn
gii php l li nhi tn thi gi. Hoc t hn na, ch l chi nhau. Hoc t hn na, ch
l trit h v thanh ton nhau, ngay c dng ngn ng h tr cho chin tranh bo
ng.
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2. Gii php chung i hi tnh anh em, v nu khng l anh em bng hu th chc l
khng c v khng cn gii php chung. V vy, phn bin i hi tnh anh em, tnh bng
hu.
3. Tnh anh em i hi tng knh ln nhau. V nu l anh em th tng knh. Khng
tng knh th thng l th ch; m th ch th khng th c phn bin, v th ch th
ch dng ngn ng cho chin tranh. V vy, phn bin i tng knh.
4. Tng knh i hi cNn trng trong ngn ng, c bit l trong ngn ng rt trng l
ngha ca Vit Nam. V d: Nu hai ngi thng gia Vit ang ci nhau si ni, v mt
ngi bng nhin i t anh v ti sang My ngu nh ln th c th l khi u
ca chin tranh v chm dt tnh ng nghip i tc, d l dch sang ting Anh th You
are stupid as a pig chng c g l nng n c. Ch mt ch my v tao c th bin hai
ngi bn thnh hai k th. Ngn ng Vit cht cha rt nhiu l ngha, vt b l ngha
l c th vt bin gii t bn sang th.
Nhiu ngi dng ngn ng th tc v c tm trong ngn ng Vit chi nhau, nhng
khi gii thch vi ngi ngoi quc c dch ra ting Anh ting Php, mt ht tt c mi
ngha th tc bo ng ca ngn ng Vit, v gii thch rng l t do n ni.
Cc bn, ngn ng th tc l mt loi bo hnh, mt loi bo ng bng ngn ng.
khng phi l phn bin, v cng khng phi l t do ngn lun. l v l v gy ri
lon. N chng khc g cc qu v neo-nazi trng c swastika ca Nazi v h ho chi
bi ngi Do thi, v ni l t do ngn lun. Ngy nay nhiu quc gia trn th gii c
hate law (lut chng gy cm th) gii quyt cc t do ngn lun kiu .
Ngoi 4 qui lut phn bin trn, ng nhin l cc lut l khc rng buc ngn ng u
p dng trong phn bin. V d: Lut chng m l cng khai, lut bo v quyn t do
ring t, lut bo v b mt thng mi, lut bo v b mt quc phng, v.v
Nu chng ta tun theo 4 qui lut phn bin bn trn (v cc lut l khc v ngn ng)
th ng nhin l phn bin ch c th tch cc v sng to, v khng th c vn g.
Qui lut rt cn bn trong khoa hc qun l cng nh trong cc kha hc nh do m
dy lc cn b l iu ta ni khng quan trng bng cch ta ni. Tuy nhin ngy nay
nhiu ngi c thi quen rng, Cha, Pht, Allah, cng bnh, bc i l tt. Cho nn ti
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au kh v trng thnh
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Cho cc bn,
au kh l mt phn ca i sng. Ai trong chng ta cng u bit chn l ny. Kinh
Pht ni rng i l kh. Thnh kinh ni rng Phc cho nhng ngi ngho kh trong
tm linh, v nc thin ng l ca h. Phc cho nhng ngi than khc, v h s c an
i.
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Thc ra, cc chuyn gia u bit, chng ta phi hc thm tng ngy trong ngh nghip,
ch khng phi ch 6 thng mt ln.
Vy ngha l sao?
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Yu t khng bit ny c rt nhiu tn gi: Thi tnh (timing), Cha, nhn duyn (c
th t tin kip ta khng h bit), s phn, nh mnh, may ri Nhng d l tn g i
na, n cng u m ch Ta chng c quyn lc g trn n c.
Peter Seeger v ban nhc The Byrds vit bn nhc rt ni ting Turn! Turn! Turn!
(Quay,Quay, Quay):
Cho mi th
u c mt ma
V c mt thi cho mi mc ch di bu tri.
Mt thi sinh, mt thi cht
Mt thi gieo, mt thi gt
Mt thi git, mt thi lm lnh
Mt thi ci, mt thi khc
Mt thi xy, mt thi ph
Mt thi ma ht, mt thi th than
Cc li ny l ly nguyn vn trong sch Ecclesiastes ca Thnh kinh. Mi th c mt
thi, ngha l ta c mun lm khc i cng khng c. Khi l thi chin tranh th ta
c mun ha bnh cng khng c. S d th, v cuc i c nhiu yu t khng bit,
nhiu yu t ngoi s kim sot ca ta.
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Tham
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Tham sn si. y l ci m Pht gia gi l tam c, ba loi c lm cho chng ta au kh.
Ngun gc mi kh au ca chng ta nm trong 3 ch ny. Hm nay ta s ni v ch
tham trc.
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Nu bn u tranh cho ha bnh v cng l, m khng git chc tr dp ai, cng khng
cn tr tin ha ca x hi, th vic lm l tng ca bn ch c li cho mi ngi m
khng hi.
Khng lm hi ngi khc khi thc hin mun ca mnh, y l thc o cch
sng ca chng ta.
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Sn
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Hm nay ta ni n ch sn trong ba c tham sn si, ba ngun gc ca mi kh au
theo Kinh Tham Sn Si ca Pht gia.
Sn hay sn hn l ni nng, gin d, hn gin, bc bi, la ht, chi bi, x lng x
cnh Sn l nng ra ngoi. Hn l nng ngm bn trong. Chng ai trong chng ta l
lng g vi sn hn.
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Tha, bi v kinh nghim cho thy khi ta nng, ta lm nhiu chuyn in r v ngu dt
ngoi sc tng tng. c bo th thy nhan nhn hng ngy: Chng v ci nhau hai ba
cu, ng chng ni nng ngay thng xng vo v v bt hp qut. Hc tr lm n, c
gio bc mnh tt cho mt tt lng lun mng nh. Mt bn ni bn kia ngu, bn ngu
bn rt dao m ngay ti cng trng
V ci hn ngm ngm cng chng km hi t no, nu khng ni l hi hn nng bng
n. Truyn kim hip, nh hng ln trong nn vn ha nc ta, dy Qun t bo th 10
nm cng cha mun. V nhiu ngi b c i, ch sng tm th. Hng qun t
ca o tm th v khng bit n o l bung x ny, nht nh phi l sng to ca
cc tiu nhn thi hu th mt php, v kh tng tng c Khng Tthy dy qun
tli c th nh mn n th, cha cn ni n thy dy bung x Thch Ca.
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Hoc v b chng p bc qu, phi ni nng chng li kch lit th may ra chng ta mi
bt u knh n.
Hoc dn b quan ch p qu, ni nng chng li kch lit th may ra mi c ngi nghe
li ku ni.
Bn tnh con ngi l nh th, i khi phn ng mnh m th mi a li kt qu v cng
l, cn lc no cng du dng cha chc c vic.
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Nhng phn ng mnh m khng c ngha l ni gin hay sn hn, cc bn. y l hai
iu hon ton khc nhau.
Qui tc chin u thnh cng i hi mt con tim thng sut tnh lng:
Nu bn phi chin u nh ngi ni in v tc gin, th hy chin u d di nh th,
vi s suy tnh c/n thn ca mt con tim trong tro tnh lng nh mt nc h thu.
Nu d di v suy tnh bnh thn mnh phi lm th, th l chin lc thng,
Nu d di v ni nng, l ng thua v khng l chin lc.
Tm li, sn hn, nh HIV/AIDS ch c hi m chng c li g. Chng l do g m ta
khng luyn tp t b n.
Nhng lm sao t b sn hn?
Ngi ta hay ni nhiu cch chm dt sn hn, dp b tnh nng, nh l: Ung mt ly
nc khi ni nng; hay c nhiu lng t v yu thng mi ngi Mi cch u tt
c. Tuy nhin, theo kinh nghim ca mnh th c 2 iu d lm nht tr sn hn t t.
(Tr t t v bn tnh con ngi khng th xoay ngc trong ch mt ngy, mt thng,
hay ngay c mt nm. Bt k luyn tp no cng i hi kin tr v nhiu cng phu tu tp
nhiu nm, mi ngy kh mt t). Hai iu l:
1. Khng bao gi lm quyt nh g khi bn ang ni nng. Quyt tm i ht nng ri
hy tnh.
Nu mun gii thch cho hn ta ngay v mnh ang ni nng, tnh sau. Ngui ri
hy tnh. Nu mun m cho hn mt m v hn phi l qu, tnh sau. Ht nng ri
hy tnh. Khng lm quyt nh g khi ang nng, k c khi ang nng ngm.
Quyt nh khi ang nng n gin l dt, l bt tr.
2. Lun lun nhc mnh rng sn hn hon ton ch c hi m khng c li, v ta sn hn
ch v ta cn l n l ca thi quen.
V vy, khng l do g ta phi tip tc n l trong con ng bt tr , m khng tm
cch lm ch tm mnh c c t do.
Nu mnh bit sn hn l ci phi dt b nh th, th rt kh cho n c th sng lu
trong mnh.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
Mn,
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ngun gc ca mi kh au.
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I. Cn Bn ca Yu Ngi
1. Yu ngi trong Thin cha gio:
Cha Gisu ni: Yu Cha, Thng ca bn, vi c tri tim, c linh hn, c khi c
ca bn. y l iu rn u v quan trng nht. V iu rn th hai nh th ny: Yu
lng ging ca bn nh yu chnh bn. Matthews 22:37-38.
Cu ni c gi l Lut Vng (The Golden Rule). Ngi Thin cha gio yu ngi
v Cha bo th. y l lut t tri. Thc ra lut ny c ti thiu l t thi Moses,
trc Cha Gisu khong 1500 nm. Leviticus 19:18. Gisu ch lp li mt cch rt ngn
gn m thi.
V Lut Vng c hai v: V u l yu cha. V sau mi l yu ngi. Yu ngi v yu
cha, v v cha bo yu ngi.
y, lng tin vo cha rt quan trng. Nu khng tin cha (v u), th chng l do g
phi nghe lnh cha yu ngi ( v sau).
V Lut Vng dy yu ngich khng ni thm l ngi tt hay xu, c hc hay
khng c hc, du cn hay t t, thin hay c, thn hay s, bn hay th Yu ngi
y l yu tt c mi ngi, k c ngi xu, ngi ti li, ngi c hip, k th ta
Cho nn, tnh yu trong Thin cha gio gi l Tnh yu v iu kin (unconditional
love).
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Nn tng trit l su thm nht ca yu ngi trong t tng Pht gio l cu ny:
Tt c php l khng . Kinh Hoa Nghim, phNm V Tn Tng .
Tt c mi th, mi ngi, mi vt (tc l tt c php) u l Mt, v ci Mt
khng th din t c bng t no cho ng, nn gi l khng. Khng y khng c
ngha l khng c.
V tt c u l mt, nh tt c ngn sng u l mt i dng, nn ngi v ta l mt.
Ngi l ta v ta l ngi. Yu nhau l chuyn ng nhin. Yu ngi cng l yu mnh
thi.
mt mc suy t thp hn, c tnh cch thc hnh, Kinh T Tm ni ta yu ngi v:
Tm t khi c kho tu,
Lm cho tri buc b mau yu dn.
Khng cn du vt tham sn,
Nit bn hin l thnh thang gia i.
Tc l yu ngi lm tim ta c th thot mi rng buc ti tmnh tham lam, sn hn, si
mv c c con tim tnh lng n c Nit BnNirvana, Hon Ton Tnh
Lng.
Kinh T Tm cng ni rt r l yu ngi l yu tt c chng sinh, khng phn bit gn
xa tt xu, nh l Tnh yu v iu kin trong Thin cha gio.
Th Tn thuyt ging nhng li,
Lin quan tu tp nn ngi t tm,
L ngi rt i n cn,
Thng yu tri khp k gn ngi xa.
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Nhng ngi khng tin vo truyn thng tm linh no, th suy ngh theo ch ngha li ch
xy dng cn bn cho yu ngi. H thng o c ca ch ngha li ch t trn
cn bn rng: Mc ch ca o c l to nn mt th gii tt hn.
V o c l to ra hu qu tt, ch khng cn bit n nh tt. iu ny rt
khc vi cc truyn thng tm linh, trong tm (intention) ca ta c mt vai tr rt
ln (d l khng c tnh cch quyt nh) trong vic xt on mt hnh ng l thin hay
c, tt hay xu.
Kim ch nam cho t duy v hnh ng ca ngi theo ch ngha li ch l Ta nn lm
bt k iu g c li nht cho con ngi, tc lm cho th gii sung sng hn, hnh phc
hn, l tng hn, bnh ng hn, v.v.
Vi kim ch nam nh th ny, yu ngi ng nhin l c gi tr khi n lm cho mi
ngi cng vui v ha ng cho th gii tt p hn. Nhng khi phi git ngi th
gii tt p hn th cng nn lm, v gt b tnh yu c nhn sang mt bn.
Nh vy ta thy, trong cc truyn thng tm linh, tnh yu con ngi v iu kinca
mi c nhn n mi c nhn khc trong x hil ch o cho i sng c nhn v x
hi. Tnh yu v cm xc tnh yu l kim ch nam cho mi sinh hot c nhn v x hi.
Nhng trong ch ngha li ch th yu ngi ch l mt trong nhng con s trong con
ton. Nu yu ngi m c vic cho th gii th yu, nu ngi lm phin th gii th
nh ngi. y cng l cn bn suy t cho nhiu cuc cch mng x hi Nm mu ta
thy trong th k 20 (v vn cn xy ra ti nhiu ni trn th gii, d l di hnh thc
chin tranh tn gio lch lc ngy nay).
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Khi yu ai, t khc ta bit phi lm g. V vy, cc trng phi tm linh ch trng vo
dy ta c con tim yu i, hn l ch tm vo dy qui tc hnh ng. Ni chung th mi
chng ta u bit yu ngi nh th no: Ni nng vui v, mm ci, ng trm ca
ngi, ng c hip ngi, ngh tt v ngi v khng nn ngh xu v ngi, thy ci
xu ca ngi th bit nhng khng dng n ght, tha th, k th khi ng nga th
cng cu gip, v.v Khi yu t khc ta bit phi hnh ng th no.
Tuy nhin vi trm nm trc, i s Pht m (Bhadantacariya Buddhaghosa), vit
quyn cNm nang quan trng nht trong Pht gio Nguyn Thy, Visuddhimagga, m T
kheo Nanamoli dch t ting Pali sang Anh ng l The Path of Purification (Con
ng Thanh Tnh), c ch r phng cch luyn tp t tm, mi ngi u c th dng,
d mnh nm trong trng phi no. Tm gn nh sau:
Chng ta thc tp lng t (yu ngi) tng bc mt, bng cch chia mi ngi thnh 4
nhm: Chnh ta, ngi ta rt yu mn, ngi ta khng thng khng ght, ngi ta ght
hay th.
V thc hnh qua 3 (hoc 4) bc chnh nh sau:
1. Trc ht ta khi lng t: bng cch hng lng t v chnh mnhti mong hnh
phc v khng au kh; ti mong khng c th hn, khng au n, khng lo lng, v
sng hnh phc.
2. Sau ta hng lng t: bng cch nh li nhng g lm ta tng thm thng mn
(nh cc mn qu hay li ni du dng), nhng g lm ta tng knh trng (nh o c
hay tr tu), m ta thy trong mt ngi no , v d nh mt v thy gio ca ta. Ri
ta hng lng t ca ta v ngi : Ti mong thy c hnh phc v khng au kh.
C nh tm nh vy cho n khi ta cm thy y p lng t trong tm ta.
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Khi cn gin bt u ngui, ta phi hng lng t v ngi ny, c nh l chnh ta,
l ngi thn ca ta, ngi ta khng thng khng ght, ngi ta c th hn. V ta phi
lp i lp li thc tp lng t, ph b ro cn, cho n lc trong tm ta bn nhm ngi
u bnh ng nh nhau: ta, ngi thn ca ta, ngi khng thng khng ght, ngi c
th hn.
V, cc bn, d nhin l mn thc hnh no cng i hi nhiu nm thng thun thc.
iu quan trng l, cng nh hc n, hc v hay hc v, luyn tp thng xuyn hng
ngy l cch duy nht gii. V nu thnh thong c nh n sai nt th cng nh rng
bao nhiu nghn hc tr khc, bao nhiu nghn v thy thng ng ca th gii, cng lu
lu b sai nt nh bn vy.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Hy tn hng mt ngy p
V mt ngy mai tt p hn.
Bng tnh yu
Hunh Hu dch
JUST FOR TODAY
- Just for today I will be happy Today I will delete from my diary
two days: yesterday and tomorrow
Yesterday was to learn
and tomorrow will be the consequence
of what I can do today.
Today I will face life
with the conviction that this day
will not ever return.
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Trong u ca bi ny, mnh c tnh dng t cng phu, l t rt thng nghe trong
v hc, d rng cng phu ch c ngha l b cng ra luyn tp nhiu. Nhng mnh dng
t cng phu ly v d ca mt v s lm minh ha.
Nu bn l v s bn s khe mnh, t tin v c th yu i. Nh c th d thnh cng
trong nhiu vic. Nhng khng c ngha l i bn t th thch v t kh khn hn
ngi khc.
V s th cng c th b b ch, i theo chng khc. Cng c th b tht nghip, khng c
tin tr tin nh. Ra ng vn c th gp cp (d l bit ng ph hn). i lm vn c
th b ng nghip ghen ght, boss . L mng ng nh bo mt cu cng c th b bo
da cng cng
Nh vy ngha l, nu ta c cng phu t duy tch cc cao, ta vn gp mi vn mi
ngi ang gp hng ngy. Vn , rc ri, kh khnl mt phn t nhin ca i
sng. Mun sng th phi n, phi mc, phi ng Ch lo n lo mc lo ng thi l ng
nhin phi lm vic trong gung my kinh t vi triu ngi khc. M c ngi khc
l c kh khn, ng chm, ging co, n nn cng thm vi cc vn bnh tt tai nn
t nhin.
Ngi c cng phu t duy tch cc cao th c kh nng ng ph vi cc kh khn trong
i mt cch d dng hn cc ngi khc. Nhng s lng kh khn th cng nh mi
ngi khc thi.
Hn na, mnh c tin bun cho cc bn. Cc v s thng b n n hng chc ln, nu
khng l hng trm ln, hn ngi khng c v. Ngi khng c v, ra ng thy ai b
cp th khp np ng nhn hay tng l b i. V s thy ai b nguy th nho vo gii
cu. Cc bng nhm cp bc giang h rt thin chin trn ng ph. ng vo h l
lun lun c th nguy him n tnh mng ca mnh. Cho nn v s b n n, thng
tt, hoc t vong l chuyn thng.
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Tng t nh th, ngi c t duy tch cc mnh m s tch cc nhng tay vo vic lm
i sng tt hn, con ngi bt kh hn. M r n chuyn ngi khc l mang kh
khn vo mnhhoc l con tim mnh nhc nhi v ni au ca ngi khc, hoc l mnh
b nhng nhm ngi xu cho n n, hoc c hai.
Nh vy l cc bn c cu tr li ri . Cng phu t duy tch cc cho ta kh nng gii
quyt vn cao cho mi tnh hung, nhng cng mang li cho ta nhiu kh khn hn
ngi trung bnh. i l th. Ngi cng gii cng c nhiu vn kh khn gii
quyt.
No vacation
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
, nu bn ngh, Ti s t duy tch cc nhng s khng xa vo chuyn ca ai ngoi
ng khi rc ri vo thn, th cng c. Nhng bn s khng bao gi t duy tch
cc, v l gc tiu cc m.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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1. Mc thp nht ca t duy tch cc l t tin vo chnh mnh. Tin l mnh c quyt
tm v kin tr i n ch, thnh cng trong mt vn no , hay thnh cng
trong i mt cch tng qut. Trong ting Anh, y l confidence.
y l mc m mi kha hc, mi bi vit, mi quyn sch, mi websites v t duy tch
cc ni n khi h dng t t duy tch cc. V a s cc ni ny, c th n hn 70%,
cng ch ngng li ngay mc ny m khng cn bit l T duy tch cc cn nhiu mc
cao hn. V vy, nhiu kha hc v sch v Tu duy tch cc tht ra rt hi ht, ch mc
ny, m cc v thy hay tc gi c l l khng bit t duy tch cc cn i ln n vi ba
tng na.
Trong chui bi t duy tch cc mnh vit, mc ny l mc ca cc bi nh Na ly
nc, Yu mnh, Bit mnh, Sc mnh ca t tng, Xn tay o, La trong lng, T duy
tch cc l g?
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Chng ta ai cng mun ng gp vo vic gip ngi khc tt hn, lm cho th gii ta
sng p hn, vi nhng ph phn xy dng. Tuy nhin, rt thng thng ta c th thy
c, nhiu ngi li nhi tiu cc hn l ph phn xy dng. Ph phn xy dng, lun
lun c t duy tch cc tim Nn trong , lm mi trng ta sng tch cc hn. Li nhi
tiu cc mang gi tiu cc i khp ni, ch lm cho khng kh thm ti tm u m bt rt
kh th m chng em li li ch no ht. Mt ng l nh sng, mt ng l bng ti.
Vy th lm th no phn bit sng ti, bit u l ph phn xy dng v u l li nhi
tiu cc, hnh ng cho ng?
i khi phn bit ph phn tch cc v li nhi tiu cc cng hi kh. Tuy nhin trong a
s cc trng hp, cc tiu chuNn phn bit sau y s gip chng ta nhn din sng ti:
1. Phn nn chung chung m khng c vic g c th, khng lin h n ngi no c th,
l li nhi tiu cc. V d: Chnh quyn ton l mt l tham ; doanh nhn ton l mt l
xo tr; thi th lon lc su b cai tr ngi; cng gio ton l mt l bn nc; Pht
gio ton l mt l dt; Trung quc l lu manh khng tin c; Hi gio l cc oan
khng b; M l lng on chnh tr cc nc khc
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2. Khi ni n ngi hay vic c th, cng ch ph phn chung chung m chng a ra
c iu g c th, l li phi tiu cc. V d: i anh chng dt m gim c gim
ic g; xy ci cu ch ny l ngu; li mt d n dt na ca nh nc
Nu a ra cc kt lun chung th, th phi a ra cc s kin c th chng minh c
kt lun ca mnh. Khng c s kin c th m kt lun ph phn, l li nhi tiu cc.
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Ti sao vy?
Tha, ti v chng ta quen thi quen suy t phn cch hn l suy t ha hp. Khng
nhng quen thi quen, chng ta cn p nhau suy t mt kiu.
Cho nn, nu ngi Vit m ni l Trung quc ng ta sai l phn quc, cng gio m
ni c Gio Hong sai v Tin Tri Mohammed ng l phn o, ng vin m ni
ng sai l phn quc (oops, phn ng hay phn quc? )
Chng ta thy c cc phi l v u m ca suy t thng tnh ca con ngi cha?
Nu ti hc lp 10B th chng l do g ti khng yu cc lp khc trong trng, d rng
nu lp ti bng vi cc lp khc ti s h reo ng h lp ti. Nu ti yu gia nh ti
th chng l do g ti khng th yu cc gia nh khc. Nu ti yu nc ti th chng l
do g ti chng yu cc nc khc. Nu ti yu dn ti th chng l do g ti khng th
yu cc dn tc khc.
Trong dng tin ha ca con ngi, nhng u c si m v ang tip tc dng nhng
nhm tng tr ca cc c nhn (supporting groups) nh nhng nh t giam cm chnh
nhng c nhn . Nhiu b lc man d khi xa cng sng theo cch thy ngi
khc b lc l tn cng v bt v, quay lm ba n ti. Ngy nay ta khng cn n ti
bng chin binh r ti na, nhng t tng phn cch v k th th chc cng ch ci tin
hn cc b tc man d thi c i khong 1cm.
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Hm nay chng ta tip tc trin khai nim thuc v, t c nhn ca ta trong th gii
chng ta ang sng.
Th gii y l th gii rng ln, l c qu a cu, l tt c mi quc gia trn th gii.
Chng ta hay ni ti sng trong th gii ny, nhng ta c thc s quan tm n th gii
ny khng?
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D nhin, nu bn thay i cng vic, s lm, ni thng xuyn chnh nhng thay
i vt th ny c c hi ln mang n kinh nghim v t duy mi cho bn. i mt
ngy ng hc mt sng khn.
Nhng iu quan trng hn c l kh nng i mi ngay c khi mnh chng chuyn i
u c. Chng ta c th im qua cc thay i, theo th t t thp n cao, trong nm va
ri chng hn, nh l cch kim im thnh tch thay i trong nm:
1. Nm ri ta hc thm c mn g mi khng? Nh l ngoi ng, hay s dng
computer, hay s dng my mc g , hay khiu v, hay v, hay m nhc Hoc c
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Tt c chng ta u ng rng cng hc cng thy mnh dtb hc th mnh mng
v cng hc mnh cng khm ph ra l ci mnh bit cng ch nh vi ht ct trn bi
bin. Tu luyn ni tm cng th, nhng chng my khi ta nghe ni Cng tu cng ti.
Thc ra, tu cng ch l hc. Hc cng nhiu cng thy dt, th tu cng lu cng thy mnh
nhiu yu ui lm li.
Ti sao vy?
Tha, ti v cng tu luyn cao thm ta cng pht hin ra nhng im yu ca mnh m
trc ta khng thy.
thy r vn , chng ta hy quan st mt ngi cp ca git ngi, bng nhin mt
ngy cht i d, bt u con ng tu luyn chnh mnh:
u tn, hn thy cp ca git ngi l xu, cho nn ci t qui chnh.
c mt thi gian di, hn khm ph ra l ni di l xu, bn c b ni di.
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Thm mt thi gian, cng lc cao hn, hn khm ph ra l hn hay kiu cng v mnh,
v d vng anh hng v s nht tm ci t qui chnh ca mnh, hn bn tp cho khim
tn.
Thm mt thi gian, cng lc cao hn, hn thy ru thng lm cho hn suy ngh
thiu chnh xc, bn b ru.
Thm mt thi gian, thy thuc l lm phin mnh v ngi khc qu, bn b thuc.
Thi gian sau, cng lc cao hn, thy mnh hay ha m khng thc hin ht c, bn
bt u ha cNn thn hn v c thc hin mi li ha.
Thi gian sau na, hn cm thy nn vo tu vin i tu th mnh mi thanh tnh ra, bn
b i i tu.
Trong tu vin, mt thi gian rt lu, hn mi nhn ra rng hn vn hng ngy cnh tranh
vi cc tu s khc v o hc, bn c b hn thua.
Vi nm sau hn mong i c phong chc tu vin trng, v khm ph ra rng mnh
thm hng mong ngi bn ca mnh ng c chc .
Sau khi thnh tu vin trng, hn khuyn khch mi tu s ca hn ging o hng hi
cho mi ngi. Ri mt ngy hn khm ph ra l hn vn thng ngh rng ch con
ng o hc ca hn l ng v nhng ngi theo nhng o khc l lc ng
C nh th, tu luyn cng cao thm ta cng khm ph ra ta c rt nhiu khim khuyt v
yu km, m trc ta khng thy c.
iu ny rt ph hp vi cc khi nim v minh v gic ng ca Pht giakhi v minh
ta khng thy c ci si m ca mnh; thy c mt iu si m l gic ng c mt t.
Ngi hc v cng th. Hc tr mi hc v th ch thy mnh mnh. Nhng i s ph th
bit ni no l t huyt ca mnh, ch dng loi n no th c th h mnh.
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V trong Thin cha gio, nim ti t tngci yu km bNm sinh ca con ngi
cng l ci nhn bit su sc ca nhng ngi tu luyn n mc thng tha.
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Thnh tht hn 6%
Bt ch k hn 6%
Nhn nhc hn 6%
Lo lng cho x hi hn 6%
Yu mnh t hn 6%
Yu x hi nhiu hn 6%
Bt k th hn 6%
Can m hn 6%
t a dua theo m ng hn 6%
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t ch bai hn 6%
Khen ngi nhiu hn 6%
Bt cau c 6%
Hay ci hn 6%
Bt nghim ngh 6%
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Chng ta thng ngh n cc vic lp bin v tri v cho l ta khng bao gi sc lm
g cho i c. Th gii khng c, v cng khng cn c, N Oa.
Ch cn lm vic cht xu trong kh nng hng ngy ca mnh thi. Mi ch mi ch lm
cng vic nh xu ca chng ta, xy dng mi ln hn chng ta vi trm triu ln.
Mt ting gy mng tay c th vang ng n v lng th gii.
Trn trung bnh 6% .
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
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Mt trong nhng cch rt d o lng cng phu t duy tch cc ca ta n u, v
x hi ta c th dn ch c n u, l o lng mc t i vt ca ta. Cn mc
thp, th t i vt cng mnh; mc thng tha th khng cn t i vt; i a s ngi
nm gia hai thi cc.
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T c nhn n x hi
Vn t i vt khng ch l vn ring ca mi ngi, m l mt vn x hi ln.
Nu chng ta t i vt nhiu qu, khng dm ph phn nhau, th i thoi, trao i, sng
to v dn ch khng th pht trin trong x hi ta.
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Teamwork Thm li
Posted on Thng Mt 19, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Chng ta ni n teamwork trc y. Hm nay, nhn dp va ni v t i vt, chng
ta ving thm li vn teamwork l vn lin h trc tip n t i vt. y l vn
cc k quan trng cho t nc. Mi ngi Vit Nam chng ta u ni cu, Mt ngi
Vit th hn 3 ngi Nht, nhng 3 ngi Vit th thua 3 ngi Nht. So vi cc nc
tin tin, teamwork ca ta d n mc sc.
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Nu ta trn rng mt mnh, thc t th ta c tch cc hay tiu cc chc cng khng khc
xa nhau lmngy ngy kim thc n, ti v ng ng ca phng d th. Ngoi ra
c yu i hay cm rm v mi loi chim chc th c th l khc nhau ni tui th ca
mnh, nhng chng ai trn th gii quan tm n vic c.
Tuy nhin khi chung vi mi ngi gia ph th ngi hay cu nhu phn nn s hon
ton khc vi ngi vui v yu imt bn l tht bi v b a s ngi khng a, mt
bn l thnh cng v i u cng nhiu ngi a thch.
Cho nn t duy tch cc, d l tp trung nhiu vo chnh mnh, thc ra nh hng rt ln
n mi ngi quanh mnh.
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Ta cng vui v, ha ng, yu ngi, thnh tht, trung thnh, v t k thi v bt cng vi
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ngi, th cng phu t duy tch cc ta cng cao. Ta cng ph phn, k th, chng i,
chi bi ngi, cng phu ta cng thp.
Cng phu t duy tch cc ca chng ta ch pht trin c nu chng ta o lng thi
v t duy ca mnh thng xuyn, hng ngy.
Nu khng th chng ta s c o tng l ta tch cc cao sau khi c mt m sch v
t duy tch cc, trong khi thc t th ta cha di chuyn c 1mm.
Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.
Mn,
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Hc ci g kh hn? Hc lut hay hc t t? Bn thy bao nhiu lut gia, thNm phn,
cng t vin tham nhng trong nhng ng dy chy n? Th th hc lut kh hn,
hay hc thnh tht v thanh lim kh hn?
Tt c nhng kin thc k thut y, dc, lut, hnh chnh, ITu d hc. Ai hc cng
c. ng c o tng l ch ngi siu thng minh mi hc c cc mn ny. Ch l
hc nhanh hay chm, vi nng khiu ca mnh m thi.
Nhng o cthnh tht, khim tn, yu ngi, can mkhng phi ai cng hc
c, khng phi ai cng chu hc.
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Ai cng hc bn sng c. Nhng c ngi dng sng gi an ninh cho dn, c ngi
dng sng cp ca git ngi. V ngi c, i khi khng hc c hnh c, v h
khng chu hc. i khi ng da cc t hnh m vn cha vn c mn v minh ca
mnh c t no.
Cho nn ta phi ly ci tm lm gc, ly o c lm gc.
To con ngi t t, ri ngi t t i hc k thut.
Cn hn l to ra mt m ngi k thut m tm a ti tm, ph nhiu hn xy.
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Gi p khu vn t quc
Posted on Thng Mt 22, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Hm qua chng ta bn v nhiu vn quan trng ca t nc qua nhng phn hi
ri rc ca hai bi Pht trin con ngi, pht trin t nc v nh sng v bng ti
Bn chn ci no? Hm nay chng ta tm tt chnh ca cc phn hi trong bi ny.
iu kin cn v ti c chin thng l ngi tt chng lm g c.
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