The 6 pillars of self esteem "HSE= self respect ...

assurance of my value, worthy of happiness, comfort in my needs enjoyment and joy is my birthright,deserving of love of others entails the expectation of friendships,love and happiness,the conviction of our own value,not the delusion of us being perfect to others, but that our fulfillment is deserving and important enough to work for.Worthy of rewards of our actions, self efficacy ...basic confidence in the face of life's challenges;self trust an d self reliance, confidence in what we need to do to to furfill our goals conviction that we are able to think, judge know and correct our errors,comitted to do our best to master the challenges entailed by our values Trust in our processes,confidence in what made it possible to reach success The 6 Pillars.. practice living consciously: live mindfully.. the ability to be aware of the environment and accordingly, foc using or mind, seeking awareness, seeking truth,seek to the best of our ability and then behave in accordance in w hat we seek and know, acting on what one sees and knows mind that is active,not passive,concerned with actions being aligned with purpos es,being in the moment,being receptive to new knowledge, being able to see and correct mistakes , a commitment to grow and learn as a way of life, a concern of the values that guide me, a concern to know thyself practice self acceptance: something we do, to be myself, to be on my own side orientations of self value and self commitment that derives form the fact that I am alive and conscious a natural egoism, a birthright of every human being, do not be self rejecting, or no treatment or significant advances can be made, I choose to value myself, the voice of the life force,what is true is true,if i am thinking or feeling emotions I accept them, i do not rationalize,deny or attempt to explain away, if i have taken actions of which i was ashamed the fact is i have taken them, I do now trick my brain or try to make facts disappear what is is,accepting does not mean liking the idea of self acceptance: Just as when we need to approach or correct others we should choose to do so in ways that do not damage their self esteem and so we should do this to ourselves he greatest crime that we commit against ourselves is not that we may deny or di sown our shortcomings but that we deny and disown our greatness because it frightens us.......if a fully realized self acceptance does not evade the worst in us...neither does it evade the best practice of self responsibility: take responsibility for my life and well being, I am responsible for my choices and actions,I am responsible for my behavior with other people,I am responsible for my personal happiness,I am respo nsible for my actions, i am responsible for raising my self esteem other human beings do not serve or exist for the satisfaction of my needs, just as we are not a means to theirs practice self assertiveness: honoring my wants needs and values respectfully and

appropriately, authentically... the willingness to be who i am and treat my self in respect to all human encounters,to ask questions, to challe nge authority, to think for oneself and to stand on what ones thinks live and express our values, a commitment of right to exist, and I am not here o n earth to look up to others expectations,to confront the challenges of life and not evade, take on tasks that stretch us, extend our mind across unf amiliar places,learn to be in an intimate relationship without betraying our sense of self,be kind without self sacrificing,cooperate with others without abandoning our our standards and convictions practice of living purposefully: use of powers to earn the goals of what we have selected, following your goals, your passions, translating your thoughts into your reality,be concerned with theses questions...what am i t ryign to achieve, how,and why, is feedback form the environment tell me i am achieving it or failing, are there new things i need to consider, d o my goals need to be rethought,cultivate a capacity for self discipline (organize our behavior for specific tasks)think plan and live long range 4 core issues 1.take responsibility for forming goals 2.identify actions to achieve goals 3.monitor behavior to check for alignment for goals 4.pay attention to outcome of ones actions to know whether they are leading wher e one wants to go personal integrity: An expression of self esteem, A moral life requires serious reflection...Rightly or Wrongly we experience our choices as complex... If your motives are to spare people you care about ..you inflict a worse pain th an they would otherwise experience. If your motives to protect your self esteem by avoiding your values and loyalties it will be your self este em you will damage...lies do not work....by trusting your mind and work..., the more you enjoy integrity the more u enjoy self esteem, and by e njoying self esteem it feels natural to enjoy integrity...dishonesty is disturbing and self destructive to self esteem, behaviors that generate self esteem are also expressions of good self esteem "~The 6 pillars of self esteem Nathaniel Brandan"