7 cch vt qua ni s tht bi

Posted on Thng Ba 30, 2010 by Hi Nguyn Hng S tht bi c l l yu t mnh nht km hm mi ngi bn di kh nng ca h. Trong mt th gii y nhng bt n, mt nn kinh t phc tp, v v s iu khng may c th xy ra vi bt c ai, tht d thy ti sao phn ln mi ngi c xu hng chn ci g an ton.

Nhng bn thn vic trnh ri ro vn c ri ro. Nu bn khng bao gi dm tht bi, mc trn thnh cng ca bn s rt thp. Phn ln mi ngi nh gi thp gi tr v kh nng hi phc t tht bi ca mnh, khin h b qua nhng c hi gi tr. Trong sut lch s, kh nng tht bi nng n v tht bi thng xuyn l mt du hiu ca nhng thnh cng v i Cc chin lc sau y s gip bn nh gi ri ro v phn thng mt cch ng n nh c th vt qua ni s tht bi. 1. Xem xt tn km ca nhng c hi b b l Ri ro ln nht m mi ngi cn nhc sai l nhng li ch h nh mt khi trnh nhng c hi ri ro cao/phn thng ln. Trong hng dn ca mnh v lp k hoch cho s nghip, Marc Andreesen nh sng lp ca Netscape so snh mt s nghip c qun l tt vi mt qu u t a dng. Mt s nghip l tng gm rt nhiu c hi vic lm (mt s ri ro, mt s an ton). Nhng c hi ny cng nhau to nn mt s nghip tng i an ton vi kh nng thng tin cao. Chp nhn nhng c hi ri ro cao l cn thit v chng em li phn thng ln nht: Vn l nu khng chp nhn ri ro, bn khng th khai thc bt k c hi no. Bn c th sng mt cuc sng hnh phc mt cht v tnh lng, nhng bn khng th to ra ci g mi, v bn khng th to nn du n ca mnh trn th gii ny. 2. Nghin cu cc kh nng iu cha bit l ngun gc chnh to ra ni s hi. Khi bn khng bit ang phi i mt vi iu g, nhng hu qu c th xy ra dng nh ti t hn so vi bn thn chng. Hy vt qua ni s bng cch thu hiu n. Nghin cu tt c cc kh nng c th (c tt v xu) bn thc s hiu c s ri ro ca tht bi v li ch ca thnh cng. Phn tch cc kt qu ny s gip bn nhn r ni s tht bi v c c quyt nh hp l.

3. Hy xem xt c nhng tnh hung xu nht Mt trong nhng cu hi c tc ng mnh nht do Tim Ferris trong chng trnh 4 hour workweek a ra l: Nu bn theo ui nhng gic m ca mnh v ng, hon cnh ti t nht, bn cn bao lu hi phc? Cu tr li c th l t hn bn mong i. Tm mt cng vic khc t hn bn mong i? Ni s vi thng kh khn c mnh gi bn li trong hon cnh bnh thng mi khng? 4. Hy hiu li ch ca tht bi Nh Emerson ni, cuc sng l mt chui nhng th nghim, th cng nhiu bn s lm cng tt hn. Mi tht bi l mt kh khn trong th nghim v l mt c hi pht trin. Thm ch k c khi tht bi tiu tn ca bn rt nhiu tin bc th li ch gio dc thu c c th vt xa nhng g mt. Thay v lm vic cho mt cng ty ln, lm vic cho mt cng ty mi hot ng c th b xem l mo him nhng theo Paul Graham, Nhng nh qun l cc cng ty ln thch thu nhng ngi bt u vi nhng cng ty nh v tht bi hn l nhng ngi dng cng khong thi gian lm vic cho nhng cng ty ln. Phi chang kinh nghim cc cng ty ln khng an ton hay khng ng gi nh bn ngh? 5. To mt k hoch i ph vi nhng iu bt li Mt cch khc vt qua ni lo s tht bi l gim thiu nhng iu bt li. Hy hn ch ri ro ca bn bng cch to ra k hoch x l nhng iu bt ng. Thm ch ngay c khi la chn ban u tht bi, bn vn c th duy tr tnh trng c vi mt k hoch d tr tt. Dm tht bi khng c ngha l bn phi mo him nh mt tt c. Nu bn qun l ri ro mt cch thng minh, bn c th nm bt li ch t nhng c hi ri ro cao trong khi t mnh ri khi mng li an ton. 6. Hy hnh ng Cch tt nht gim s hi v xy dng tnh t tin l hnh ng. Ngay khi bn hnh ng, bn s tch ly kinh nghim v tri thc. Ln thc hin u tin, mi th u l iu kh nht. iu ging vi vic nhy t mm xung mt ci h sau khi nhy mt ln, bn s thy nc tht an ton v nhng ln sau tht d dng. Hy bt u vi nhng bc nh v xy dng lng t tin ca bn cho n khi bn c th kim sot cm gic s tht bi.

7. Hy t thuyn Khi nhng i qun Hy Lp c vt bin tin hnh trn chin, iu u tin h lm sau khi vo b l t cc chin thuyn, lm h b mc kt. Vi vic khng cn ng quay tr v qu hng ngoi chin thng, quyt tm ca qun s c nng cao. Khi thnh cng v tht bi l nhng la chn duy nht, bn khng c la chn no ngoi vic phi i tip. Nu bn c mt mc tiu, nhng s cam kt phi thc hin, hy t buc mnh phi hnh ng bng cch t chy nhng con thuyn. Hy ng k trc mt k thi trc nu bn mun quay tr li trng hc. Hy t hn cui cng cho vic chuyn n mt thnh ph mi trong khi cha k hp ng thu nh. Ni s tht bi s bin mt khi bn nhn ra n khng th cu gip mnh.

7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure

by Editor, Pick The Brain The fear of failure is perhaps the strongest force holding people below their potential. In a world full of uncertainty, a delicate economy, and countless misfortunes that could happen to anyone, its easy to see why most people are inclined to play it safe. But playing it safe has risk as well. If you never dare to fail your success will have a low ceiling. Most people underestimate their merit and ability to recover from failure, leading them to pass up valuable opportunities. The ability to fail big and fail often has been a mark of the spectacularly successful throughout history. The following strategies will help you put risk and reward in perspective so you can overcome the fear of failure. 1. Consider the cost of missed opportunities The biggest risk that people fail to consider is the benefit they lose by avoiding high risk/high reward opportunities. In his guide to career planning, Netscape founder Marc Andreesen compares a well managed career to a diversified portfolio. The ideal career contains a wide range of job opportunities (some risky, some safe) that combine to form a relatively safe career with a high potential for growth. Taking high risk opportunities is essential because they offer the greatest reward: The issue is that without taking risk, you cant exploit any opportunities. You can live a quiet and reasonably happy life, but you are unlikely to create something new, and you are unlikely to make your mark on the world.

2. Research the alternatives The unknown is a major source of fear. When you dont know what youre dealing with, potential consequences seem far worse than they actually are. Take the power out fear by understanding it. Research all the potential outcomes (both good and bad) so you genuinely understand the risk of failure and benefits of success. Analyzing these outcomes will help you see through the fear of failure and make a logical decision. 3. Put the worst-case scenario in perspective One of the most powerful questions posed by Tim Ferriss in the 4-Hour Workweek is: If you chase your dreams and fall flat on your face, worst-case scenario, how long will it take you to recover? The answer is probably less than you expect. How hard would it really be to find another job? Chances are you could recover completely in a few months. Is the fear of a few rough months strong enough to keep you in a mediocre situation indefinitely? 4. Understand the benefits of failure As Emerson said, life is a series of experiments, the more you make the better. Each failure is a trial in an experiment and an opportunity for growth. Even if a failure costs you financially, the educational benefits can far outweigh the loss. Working for a startup instead of a big company is considered risky, but according Paul Graham, Managers at big companies prefer to hire someone whod tried to start a startup and failed over someone whod spent the same time working at a big company. Maybe that experience at a big company isnt as safe or as valuable as you think?

5. Make a contingency plan Another way to overcome the fear of failure is to reduce the downside. Hedge your risk by creating a contingency plan. Even if your first option fails, you can maintain the status quo with a solid backup plan. Daring to fail doesnt mean you have to risk losing it all. If you manage risk intelligently, you can capture the benefits of high risk opportunities while leaving yourself a safety net.

6. Take action The best way to reduce fear and build confidence is taking action. As soon as you do, youll begin accumulating experience and knowledge. Everything is hardest the first time. Its like jumping off a cliff into a lake after you do it once, you see that the water is safe and each time afterwards is easy. Start off with small steps and build up your confidence until the fear of failure is manageable. 7. Burn the boats When ancient Greek armies traveled across the sea to do battle, the first thing they would do after landing was to burn the boats, leaving them stranded. With no way to make it home besides victory, the resolve of the soldiers was strengthened. When success and failure are the only options, you have no choice but to follow through. If you have a goal, but are afraid to commit, force yourself into action by burning the boats. Register for an exam in advance if you want to go back to school. Set a deadline to move to a new city without signing a lease. Fear of failure disappears when you realize it cant save you.