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GUESS WHAT??? NEW THINGS ARE COMING! WE RECENTLY LAUNCHED OUR NEW STUDENT WEBSITE TO BETTER TELL THE STORY OF IBCLR STUDENT MINISTRY AND TO BETTER KEEP YOU INFORMED AND ENGAGED. CHECK IT OUT HERE. WE WILL ALSO BE LAUNCHING OVER THE COMING MONTHS A NEW RESOURCE TO CONTINUE EQUIPPING YOU TO BE THE PRIMARY DISCIPLER OF YOUR CHILDREN. THIS RESOURCE IS CALLED HOME 22:6. KEEP YOUR EYES AND EARS OPEN AS WE PREPARE TO ROLL IT OUT CHURCHWIDE OVER THE COMING MONTHS.
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VOLU NTEER SPOTLIGHT

RUDY VAN HEMERT

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A NEW BATTLE CRY FOR EQUALITY

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7 CRIPPLING BEHAVIORS THAT KEEP CHILDREN FROM GROWING INTO LEADERS

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Melissa Sponer
Girls Ministry Associate
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Ross Spigner
Middle School Pastor
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Man, what a great start to 2014. Its been awesome to see the excitement from our students and families. As many of you know, DNOW is the biggest in-house event in the life of our student ministry. Below are some of the stats from this years DNOW!

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Over 175 students registered for DNOW.! Over 40 college students and young adults served as Bible Study leaders.! Over 20 host homes hosted a group of students for the weekend of DNOW.! Dozens of other adult volunteers helped make this weekend possible.! Nearly 5000lbs of canned goods were gathered for the IBC Food Pantry.! Dozens of parents not already involved in the weekend joined us for a time of celebration and commissioning on Sunday. Many were not from our church family or any church family.! Students responded to the Gospel.!

Im sure you all will join me in praising the LORD for what He did during DNOW. However, would you consider looking at DNOW, and our student ministry, from a little different perspective. Would you join me in praising our LORD for what He BEGAN at DNOW and various other elements of our student ministry?! You see, its easy to look at numbers and often claim premature victory or feel discouraged. Numbers dont necessarily equate success or lack thereof, especially with ministry to children and adolescents. The spiritual life is a long and arduous journey. Rather than evaluating and celebrating DNOW as a success based on numbers, would you join me in praying for the new journeys that students began during DNOW. It is likely that many of these journeys may not display signicant fruit until well into adulthood, but such authentic fruit will impact generations to come.

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Truth Flowing from One Generation to the NextThrough Strong Heart Connections

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January 1-3, 2012 A God of Second ChancesRichard Ross, Ph.D. 1. Heart Surprise (Today a parent goes first): Say: Of all the places Ive been, my favorite place to visit has been . . . One place Ive never been that Id like to visit someday is . . . 2. Read Scripture: Invite a family member to pray. Ask family members to read John 21:15-17. Discuss the Truth and Untruths in light of this passage. Truth God loves us and gives us second chances to live for Him. Untruths God doesnt care about me. God doesnt give second chances to anyone. There is no way to get right with God when I mess up. 3. Explore Scripture: Read aloud John 21:15-17. Explain that Jesus was appearing to some of the disciples after His resurrection. Remind family members that Peter had denied Jesus three times before His crucifixion. Say: Jesus knew Peter had denied Him, but He also knew Peters potential. He gave Peter a second chance to affirm his love and heal their relationship. Emphasize that Jesus also knows all about our failureseven if weve been disloyal to Him multiple times. Say: Jesus expects those who love Him to love His followers. He used His questions to check Peters heart and intentions. Point out that Jesus did not ignore Peters denials, but restored him so he could minister to others. Say: Jesus knows our sins, but He is willing to give us second chances. 4. Think It Through: A teenager will lead this step. 5. Nail It Down: Say: Peter went out of his way to distinguish himself and his devotion to Jesus. He hesitated to let Jesus wash his feet in John 13 and drew his sword to defend Jesus in John 18. He stepped out of a boat and walked on water to meet Jesus in Matthew 14. But Peter also had a tendency to boast about his love for Jesus. Share that Jesus knew Peters heart and wanted him to rethink his words and commitments. Say: Jesus gives us second chances when we fail. He forgives us when we ask Him, then He looks into our hearts and says, Feed my sheep. Encourage family members to use the new year as a time to start fresh with a second chance from God. 6. Pray: A teenager will lead this prayer. 7. Blessing: Say: May God bless you every time you ask for forgiveness and move closer to Him. Parent Tip: As a parent you may need a second chance from your children, as well as from the Lord. As you look forward to the new year, examine your life to see if there are some areas where you need to humble yourself and ask your children for forgiveness. If so, dont hesitate to follow through with whatever God reveals to you.

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I want to know more about the Christ, she said.! Tam is a 23 year-old Vietnamese young professional, living in one of the most populated urban centers in the world.! A city of 10 million where a church has not been started in more than a decade.! Tam, and millions just like her in her country, have no knowledge of Jesus because they have no access to the Gospel.! However, all of that changed for her on November 9 when Ellen Harrison and Elizabeth Jones met her on the street, befriended her, bought her some iced co"ee, and shared the story of our Savior.# !# Tams story represents millions across our globe without access to the Gospel.! The reason they are unreached is not because they are unresponsive, but because they have never heard. We speak of the second coming, remarks Oswald Smith, while half the world is still waiting to hear about the rst one.!# !# A recent survey found that our city has 678 houses of worship.! Just this week, Barna research named Little Rock as the 8th most Bible-minded city in the U.S.! Compared to population, that is roughly 1 church for every 250 people.! By contrast, Kristen Vaughan (IBCs rst fully-sponsored international worker) serves in a city in South Asia with roughly 1 church for every 250,000 people.! The issue is not one of importance or value, but one of access.! Thus my question to us as parents of teen students: how will we encourage our kids to give all people equal access to the Gospel?! In a culture that screams equality into the ears of our students through every media outlet possible, is it time we, as parents, consider a similar battle cry?# !# Right here at home, our students can join the Immanuel family in playing a part in one of three new church starts in four years targeting areas of Little Rock that remain neglected and underserved while meeting food and clothing needs for roughly 4,500 families each year. GO Teams, in large part fueled by our students, will connect with hundreds of families in Toronto, NYC, and Seattle this year.! Globally, our GO Teams will serve more than 10,000 people on 5 continents each

team only made better, leaner, and more agile with the infusion of student energy. !The result is the planting of new communities of Jesus followers who will now take responsibility for sharing with others.! GO Teams are designed to be catalytic while keeping the worship of the one, true, living God and the multiplying of disciples as the key objectives.!# !# The battle cry for equality is both a local and global cry.! How so?! We deny people access to the Gospel when we refuse to share with those who do have access; and when we refuse to go to those who dont.! Encourage your student to do both; and to be willing to take the risks that we were not and make the sacrices that we have not.! Just ask Isaac: the litmus test of our obedience comes often through our willingness to trust Him with our kids.! But in that, we are secure: because He is really the only one who can truly be trusted with the consequences.#

our children today coddling and crippling them and keeping them from becoming leaders they are destined to be. Tim is a best-selling author of more than 25 books, including Generation iY: Our Last Chance to Save Their Future, Articial Maturity: Helping Kids Meet the Challenges of Becoming Authentic Adults, and the Habitudes series. He is Founder and President of Growing Leaders, an organization dedicated to mentoring todays young people to become the leaders of tomorrow.# Tim had this to share about the 7 damaging parenting behaviors that keep children from becoming leaders of their own lives and of the worlds enterprises:# 1. We dont let our children experience risk. We live in a world that warns us of danger at every turn. The safety rst preoccupation enforces our fear of losing our kids, so we do everything we can to protect them. Its our job after all, but we have insulated them from healthy risktaking behavior and its had an adverse e"ect. Psychologists in Europe have discovered that if a child doesnt play outside and is never allowed to experience a skinned knee, they frequently have phobias as adults. Kids need to fall a few times to learn its normal; teens likely need to break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend to appreciate the emotional maturity that lasting relationships require. If parents remove risk from childrens lives, we will likely experience high arrogance and low self-esteem in our growing leaders.# 2. We rescue too quickly# Todays generation of young people has not developed some of the life skills kids did 30 years ago because adults swoop in and take care of problems for them. When we rescue too quickly and over-indulge our children with assistance, we remove the need for them to navigate hardships and solve problems on their own. Its parenting for the short-term and it sorely misses the point of leadershipto equip our young people to do it without help. Sooner or later, kids get used to someone rescuing them: If I fail or fall short, an adult will smooth things over and remove any consequences for my misconduct. When in reality, this isnt even remotely close to how the world works, and therefore it disables our kids from becoming competent adults.#

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http://bit.ly/deeplycommitted While I spend my professional time now as a career success coach, writer, and leadership trainer, I was a marriage and family therapist in my past, and worked for several years with couples, families, and children. Through that experience, I witnessed a very wide array of both functional and dysfunctional parenting behaviors. As a parent myself, Ive learned that all the wisdom and love in the world doesnt necessarily protect you from parenting in ways that hold your children back from thriving, gaining independence and becoming the leaders they have the potential to be.# I was intrigued, then, to catch up with leadership expert Dr. Tim Elmore and learn more about how we as parents are failing A publication of IBC Student Ministr y. ! www.ibclrstudents.org 2014

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3. We rave too easily# The self-esteem movement has been around since Baby Boomers were kids, but it took root in our school systems in the 1980s. Attend a little league baseball game and youll see that everyone is a winner. This everyone gets a trophy mentality might make our kids feel special, but research is now indicating this method has unintended consequences. Kids eventually observe that Mom and Dad are the only ones who think theyre awesome when no one else is saying it. They begin to doubt the objectivity of their parents; it feels good in the moment, but its not connected to reality. When we rave too easily and disregard poor behavior, children eventually learn to cheat, exaggerate and lie and to avoid di$cult reality. They have not been conditioned to face it.# 4. We let guilt get in the way of leading well# Your child does not have to love you every minute. Your kids will get over the disappointment, but they wont get over the e"ects of being spoiled. So tell them no or not now, and let them ght for what they really value and need. As parents, we tend to give them what they want when rewarding our children, especially with multiple kids. When one does well in something, we feel its unfair to praise and reward that one and not the other. This is unrealistic and misses an opportunity to enforce the point to our kids that success is dependent upon our own actions and good deeds. Be careful not to teach them a good grade is rewarded by a trip to the mall. If your relationship is based on material rewards, kids will experience neither intrinsic motivation nor unconditional love.# 5. We dont share our past mistakes# Healthy teens are going to want to spread their wings and theyll need to try things on their own. We as adults must let them, but that doesnt mean we cant help them navigate these waters. Share with them the relevant mistakes you made when you were their age in a way that helps them learn to make good choices. (Avoid negative lessons learned having to do with smoking, alcohol, illegal drugs, etc.) Also, kids must prepare to encounter slipups and face the consequences of their decisions. Share how you felt when you

faced a similar experience, what drove your actions, and the resulting lessons learned. Because were not the only inuence on our kids, we must be the best inuence.# 6. We mistake intelligence, giftedness and inuence for maturity# Intelligence is often used as a measurement of a childs maturity, and as a result parents assume an intelligent child is ready for the world. Thats not the case. Some professional athletes and Hollywood starlets, for example, possess unimaginable talent, but still get caught in a public scandal. Just because giftedness is present in one aspect of a childs life, dont assume it pervades all areas. There is no magic age of responsibility or a proven guide as to when a child should be given specic freedoms, but a good rule of thumb is to observe other children the same age as yours. If you notice that they are doing more themselves than your child does, you may be delaying your childs independence.# 7. We dont practice what we preach As parents, it is our responsibility to model the life we want our children to live. To help them lead a life of character and become dependable and accountable for their words and actions. As the leaders of our homes, we can start by only speaking honest words white lies will surface and slowly erode character. Watch yourself in the little ethical choices that others might notice, because your kids will notice too. If you dont cut corners, for example, they will know its not acceptable for them to either. Show your kids what it means to give selessly and joyfully by volunteering for a service project or with a community group. Leave people and places better than you found them, and your kids will take note and do the same.# Why do parents engage in these behaviors (what are they afraid of if they dont)? Do these behaviors come from fear or from poor understanding of what strong parenting (with good boundaries) is?# Tim shares:% I think both fear and lack of understanding play a role here, but it leads with the fact that each generation of parents is usually compensating for something the previous generation did. The primary adults in kids lives today have focused on now rather than later. Its about their happiness today not their readiness tomorrow. I suspect its A publication of IBC Student Ministr y. ! www.ibclrstudents.org 2014

a reaction. Many parents today had Moms and Dads who were all about getting ready for tomorrow: saving money, not spending it, and getting ready for retirement. In response, many of us bought into the message: embrace the moment. You deserve it. Enjoy today. And we did. For many, it resulted in credit card debt and the inability to delay gratication. This may be the crux of our challenge. The truth is, parents who are able to focus on tomorrow, not just today, produce better results.# How can parents move away from these negative behaviors (without having to hire a family therapist to help)?# Tim says: Its important for parents to become exceedingly self-aware of their words and actions when interacting with their children, or with others when their children are nearby. Care enough to train them, not merely treat them to a good life. Coach them, more than coddle. # Heres a start:# Talk over the issues you wish you wouldve known about adulthood.# 2. Allow them to attempt things that stretch them and even let them fail.# 3. Discuss future consequences if they fail to master certain disciplines.# 4. Aid them in matching their strengths to real-worldFacebo problems.# ok 5. Furnish projects that require patience, so they learn to delay gratication.# 6. Teach them that life is about choices and trade-o"s; they cant do Instagra everything.# m 7. Initiate (or simulate) adult tasks like paying bills or making business deals.# 8. Introduce them to potential mentors from your network.# Twitter 9. Help them envision a fullling future, and then discuss the steps to get there.# 10. Celebrate progress they make toward autonomy and responsibility.# 1.

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