Why Is It That Men Cant Say What

They Mean, Or Do What They Say?-

An In Depth Explanation

Its that moment where you feel as though a man sounds downright hypocritical, dishonest,
inconsiderate, deceptive, manipulative, and disloyal.
You know what Im talking aboutits the moment when you realize that men say things
they dont mean. Its that eye opening realization that men say one thing, but mean the
E!"# opposite$ and that men say and do two different things.
%ometimes it even &EE'% as though men are doing this on purpose. %houldnt it be simpler
than this( %houldnt men be !)'E to communicate(
*ight now it feels like a cruel and sick game is being played on you, as you try to match his
actions to his words, or his words to his actions. +othing adds up, and if he really cares
about you, why cant he ,ust be upfront and honest with you( -hy is it so hard for men to
get things straight(
#heres a simple e.planation for this. Youll find that when emotions are involved, a man is
almost +E/E* able to truly say what he means. In other words0

Any Time eelin!s Are In"ol"e#, A Man Will A$t O%tsi#e O& 'o!i$...
Emotions defy all logic. )ut what I% logic( 'ogic is simply our ability to reason and make
sound ,udgments. +aturally, when we reason, our actions match up to our words, and in
general predictability is at its peak.
)ut, our emotions do not listen to logic. In fact, our feelings 1/E*21-E* our logic$ this is
especially true when our feelings are intense. #hus, we can literally be outside of our mind
when we are emotional.
Youll find that when a guy is emotional, hell never be able to do what he wants to do.
3ell say things and never be able to follow through with them.
3ell act strange, react even more oddly, and will even do things that seem to be
completely out of character. #his is where most women will become E#*E4E'Y confused.
Youll be so confused trying to figure out why it is that he is acting as he is, or why it is that
he is saying certain things, that you will start to think that its your fault.
-hen a man becomes unpredictable, and when his emotions start to overpower his logic, a
woman will almost !'-!Y% think she has done something wrong. )ut, you will never be able
to figure out what it is that youve done wrong. 3e, of course, wont e.plain himself either,
but he cant
!nd this is where it all boils down, because every single man faces a 4!51* dilemma, that
women dont even realize occurs. -hat is this dilemma( #he dilemma is this0

Men ear Their Emotions...
Yup, you !*E reading this correctly. 4en are so terrified of their emotions that they become
distraught whenever their emotions pass over the threshold of logic. +aturally, men are
taught to be logical, and are told to suppress their emotions.
&rom childhood till adulthood, they are conditioned to believe that e.pressing their
emotions can be seen as unhelpful, a sign of weakness, problematic, and simply
unacceptable.
#hus, men learn to e.press themselves through logic instead, and as we know, logic never
mi.es with emotions$ thus there is always a stark contrast in how a man thinks and how a
woman thinks.
#his is why the statement men are from Mars, and women are from Venus sticks$ because
its a universal fact that at times men and women seem to be so completely different that
its sometimes impossible to think they are from the same planet.
#o help you understand better, lets put this into perspective. "onsider the fact that
women, are instead taught to e.press themselves through their emotions.
Your entire life, you are taught that as a woman, you should connect with your emotions,
should e.press yourself through emotion, and that your problems can be solved through
emotion.
&or instance, you know that when you cry, you can tell others that you are upset. "rying
can help you solve the problem, because it clearly sends a signal to others that you have a
need for something, or that you have been hurt and need them to console you or stop their
behavior.
'ikewise, when you are confronted with a problem, you end up talking about it. You want
to discuss your feelings, and how things make you feel. You want to talk about how
something has hurt you, why it has hurt you.
#alking helps you feel better, because it is a good way for you to vent your frustrations out,
and you feel less pressure and stress as a result.
!nother e.ample is when a woman tells someone that they love them. ! woman feels that
by telling it, she is therefore sharing the emotion, and in the end feels like she was able to
e.press herself. #ypically, others will tell you in return that they love you, )6# men, of
course may not always return it.
#herefore, you have learned that you can get *E%6'#% from your emotions, when you
e.press them. In the end, you have been learning how to "1++E"# to your emotions for
most of your life.
You have come to terms with your emotional side, and you have learned how to deal with it
and also how to use it as a tool for reinforcement in your life.
#his also means that you have learned how to react and deal with your emotions when they
become overbearing or strong.
4en, however, do not have this lu.ury. %ince it is practically taboo for a man to e.press
himself emotionally, he ne"er learns ho( to $onne$t an# $ome to terms (ith his
&eelin!s.
1f course, in a relationship, this can be a 367E issue. *elationships are founded almost
entirely on emotion and feelings, and partially on logic.
4en struggle in relationships as a result, and moreover, they struggle even more to
communicate with women because of it.
You see, when a man becomes emotional, his natural urge is to resist it. 3e resists his
emotions, because he doesnt know how to handle them, and has found that whenever he
was too emotional, things ,ust felt out of control for him.
#hats e.actly why men &E!* their emotions, because they have no way of controlling
them. #hey dont know what to do when they are emotional, or have strong feelings.
#hey cant connect, and as a result find that everything else is out of control too. -hat
happens then, is men try to regain the control, which is where you should understand that
men handle and tackle their problems in a completely different manner than women do0

Men Ta$)le *ro+lems ,y -sin! 'o!i$, .ot Emotion...
-hen a woman has a problem, shell talk about it, and it is always tackled with her
emotions0 she talks about how she feels.
4en, however, tackle problems with logic. #hat is how they learn to 8vent their frustration,
that is how they e.press themselves, and that is how they are able to feel in control.
4oreover, that is how they solve their problems0 they reason, make sound ,udgments, and
investigate the issue. )6#, that is the *E!' problem. #hat is where the real eye opener is.
!t first, the emotions set in, and a man will say things, while the emotions are there.
)6# then, he will realize that the emotions have set in, and his 'ogic will tell him to
suppress it in order to stay in control.
3is logical mind will say No! Back away!, and thats when you find him suddenly doing the
E!"# opposite of what he said. #hats when you find him saying things he doesnt mean.
In the end, men dont actually intend on doing this on purposebecause its a reaction they
dont even realize they have. %ometimes a man is aware of the fact that he cant handle a
certain emotion in its entirety, and in those cases youll really feel confused, because his
reaction will be to pull away from you.
#hats why youll find the most discrepancies when he is emotional. It can even be when
everything is fine and has been running smoothly, because a man will fear E/E*Y emotion
when it passes the threshold of logic$ even if the emotion is a positive feeling, such as love
or trust.
Youve probably guess where I am going with this, so why is it that a man cant say what he
means, or do what he says he is going to( 3ere is what it all comes down to0

Men Cant Say What They Mean Or Do What They Say As 'on! As Their Emotions Are At
O##s With Their 'o!i$al Si#e...
3e resists his emotions$ therefore its a never9ending circle
/0 3ell feel an emotion.
10 3ell act on that emotion for the time being, not realizing that its a feeling ,ust yet.
20 3ell recognize that he is feeling an emotion as it grows stronger.
30 3ell struggle to accept the emotion, as his logical side tries to gain control again, telling
him that its bad to feel that way.
5. 3e starts to feel out of control internally, because he cant connect to his emotions,
but is feeling them$ and at the same time his logic is arguing that he should suppress
them by acting against them.
6. &inally, he pulls away and withdraws to feel in control again.
6. *inse and repeat.
#he moment where his logic tries to regain control is the moment where you will find him
never doing what he says, because now his mind is directing him to do the E!"# opposite
as he feels.
3is mind tells him to do the opposite, because he doesnt know what the true result of
acting on his emotions will be.
*emember that men never really act on their emotions and dont e.press themselves
through their emotions, thus they never gain any real e.perience with their feelings.
%ince there is no e.perience there is no solid guarantee that if he acts on his emotions, he
will get the results he wants.
#his is where it becomes e.tremely scary for men, because they fear failure and re,ection.
&ailure and re,ection only mean more emotional torture, which they absolutely dont want
to have to try and handle. #hus, they take the safer route and back away from their
emotions.
In the end, as long as a mans logic is at odds with his emotions, there will always be
discrepancies.
6ntil he comes to terms with his emotions, and learns how to handle and deal with them,
his logical mind will always re,ect them and tell him to let go of them, or tell him to
suppress them by acting in the opposite manner that his emotions are leaning him toward.
%o lets put this into perspective, and apply everything above0 'ets say hes told you that
he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. 3e says something like0 I
love you, and dont want anyone else. I want to marry you!.
Ecstatic you feel fulfilled and happy that he wants to commit to you, and feel great that he
has gotten to this emotional state with you. )ut the ne.t thing you know, hes withdrawing,
becoming distant, ignores you, and you even catch him flirting with others.
!t first, he feels the emotion, but then it becomes intense. 3e doesnt know the outcome
of it, and becomes worried. 3is logical side argues with him, and tells him to reason on it,
and to ,udge the situation.
3e does, and all of his worst fears come true. 3e starts thinking that maybe he will be
trapped if he really does what he says, and if he really follows his feelings.
3e starts to think things like0
What if it doesnt work out? or
Will I be able to provide for both of us?
What if she loses interest in me or finds someone better?
What if I fall out of love?
What if I cant be the man she needs?
What if I need space?
What if I cant make our dreams come true?
!nd it goes on and on.:what if, what if;, and more :what ifs;.

#he doubts start to kick in, as he thinks that perhaps he cant, and his logic continues to
provide e.amples of where everything could go wrong, and suddenly he is convinced to
back out.
3e, of course, cant e.press any of this to you, because he is unable to e.press his
emotional side. #hats where he backs off, becomes distant, breaks his promises, and does
the opposite of what he says, and your world turns upside down.