ABOUT THE BOOK

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Title - You Can Win
Author - Shiv Khera
What Kind of Book
This book is a construction manual for a
success.
It is a Cook Book
INTRODUCTION
The search for meaning in human existence an the !h" an ho! of human
behaviour continues for all of us !hen interacting !ith #eo#le. $er" often
the crux of a successful !orking environment is successful human
relationshi#s. %Born to Win& eneavours to unerstan #eo#le an hel#
them moif" behaviour'#ersonalit" #roblems usuall" attribute to hereit"
an environment. Base on transactional anal"sis( it gives #eo#le a rational
metho of anal")ing an unerstaning behaviour !hile in#uts of gestalt
thera#" give #eo#le a useful metho for iscovering the fragmente #arts of
their #ersonalit"( integrating them an evelo#ing a core of self confience.
This book can be use as a guie an reference for those intereste in
enriching their lives an their inter#ersonal relations an reali)e( most
im#ortantl"( that * %You !ere born to !in&.
ABOUT AUTHOR
Winners dont do different things the! do things differentl!"
Who is not familiar !ith Shiv Khera+s ever-ins#iring an motivating ,uote-
Shiv Khera is an eucator( business consultant( an a reno!ne an
sought-after s#eaker. .e eneavors to encourage an inform #eo#le(
hel#ing them reali)e their true #otential an has taken his "namic message
aroun the !orl.
Shiv Khera comes from a famil" of businessmen that use to o!n coal
mines in /hanba in 0harkhan. But ue to the nationali)ation of coal
mines( his gran father lost the business an Shiv left Inia to start life over.
.e lane in the 1SA an i various things from !ashing cars to selling
life insurance. .is struggling life took a !inning irection !hen he attene
a lecture b" 2orman $incent 3eale. The motivational teachings of 2orman
$incent change his life forever an he move for!ar on his success #ath.
With 45 "ears of extensive research an unerstaning to his creit Shiv
has hel#e #eo#le on the #ath of #ersonal gro!th an achievement. 6ver
47(777 #eo#le have attene an benefite b" his three-a" "namic
!orksho#s internationall" an aroun one million #eo#le have hear him as
a Ke"note S#eaker.
Shiv Khera institute 8ualifie 9earning S"stems( an initiative to incor#orate
his "ears of ex#erience as a motivator an to evelo# a core #rogram
kno!n as the Blue#rint for Success :B3S;. This #rogram motivates #eo#le
to ientif" their true #otential an achieve success both in their #ersonal an
#rofessional s#heres of life. .e has evelo#e several such #rograms that
cater to ifferent levels of #rofessional hierarch". .is #rograms( besies
Inia( are ,uite #o#ular in Singa#ore an the 1SA.
.e has authore several bestsellers that have an enthusiastic reaer base
not onl" in the countr" but !orl!ie. .is international best seller( %You Can
Win&( !as his first book( !hich came out in <==> an sol over a million
co#ies !orl!ie in > languages. .is secon book %9iving !ith .onor& hit
the stans in August 477?( !hich again #lease million book lovers across
the !orl. Then !ithin a #erio of six months in @ebruar" 477A( his thir
book %@reeom Is 2ot @ree& !as on the stans. Though this book #lunge
into the controvers" of #lagiarism( it too turne into a best seller.
.is brilliance soon began to be ackno!lege !orl!ie. .e has been
recogni)e as a %9ouis Barchesi @ello!& b" the Coun Table @ounation(
an honor he shares !ith famous humanitarians like Bother Teresa. 9ions
Club International has honore him !ith a D9ifetime Achievement A!arD for
the cause of E.umanitarian Service to the Societ"+. .e is also a reci#ient of
the Cotar" Club+s DCentennial $ocational A!ar for Fxcellence.D
Shiv Khera al!a"s strive to hel# Inia an its #eo#le as !ell. Ins#ire b"
his attachment to social causes( he fought #arliamentar" elections but
unfortunatel" coul not make it to the #arliament. Then( he foune a trust
calle %Countr" @irst @ounation& in orer to serve his countr". The vision of
this trust is %Ces#ect an /ignit" for ever" InianD an the mission is %to
ensure freeom through eucation an Gustice&.
Shiv Khera is tr"ing to establish the #rie of our countr" in international
forums. .is obGective is to boost the morale of the common Inian an to
eraicate social inGustice through eucation. Fver" true Inian shoul come
for!ar to Goin his Countr" @irst Bovement an contribute to the nation+s
evelo#ment.
#I$$ION O% THE BOOK
It !ants to make "ou to create an Action 3lan for the rest of "our life.
A&tion 'lan
What "ou !ant to achieve
.o! "ou ex#ect to achieve it
When "ou #lan to achieve it
The !hole book is ivie into > cha#ters. I !ill escribe that briefl" as
escribe in the book.
<. Im#ortance of Attitue
4. Success
?. Botivation
A. Self Fsteem
5. Inter#ersonal skills
H. Subconscious Bin I .abits
J. Koal setting
>. $alue an visions
AUTHOR$ 'ERCE'TION$
Business o!ners !ere askeL
%If there !as one thing that "ou !oul like to see change( that !oul make
"our organisation more #rouctive( !hat !oul it be-&
The" all sai that
()* of the time a #erson gets a #romotion at !ork ue to ATTIT1/F.
+)* of the time a #erson gets a #romotion at !ork ue to W.AT T.FY.
Winners on+t o ifferent things M the" o things ifferentl"N
Winning is not ever"thing( it is the onl" thingN
When a hammer hits glass it shatters( !hen it hits steel it forges it.&
OCussian sa"ing.
The sa,e i,-le,ent &an &a.se / different rea&tions0
Are 1OU 2lass or are 1OU $teel3
%9ife is a grinstone M either it can #olish "ou u#( or it coul grin "ou o!n
M it e#ens !hat "ou are mae ofN&
THERE ARE 4 KIND$ O% 'EO'5E IN THI$ WOR5D
Those !ho make things ha##en
Those !ho !atch things ha##en.
Those !ho !oner !hat ha##ene.
What &ategor! are 1OU in3
Al6a!s -.t in a little 7it e8tra e9en 6hen it h.rts0
Winners on+t o ifferent things M the" o things ifferentl"N
Horse ra&ing0
Is the !inning horse <7 times faster than the horse that comes 4n-
3robabl" 26TN
We on+t have to be <7 times smarter than our com#etitors.
All !e nee is the ege.
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Winners :s 5osers
Winners see an ans!er for ever" #roblem
9osers sees #roblem for ever" ans!er.
Winners sa" %It ma" be ifficult but it is #ossible&
9osers sa" %It ma" be #ossible but it is T66 ifficult&.
Winners sa"( %I must o something&
9osers sa"( %Something must be one&.
Winners see #ossibilities
9osers see #roblems.
Winners see the gain.
9osers see the 3AI2.
TOO5$ %OR CHAN2E
The authors sho! ho! T.A. along !ith ex#eriments erive from gestalt
thera#" can be use to evelo# an exten a #erson+s %!inning streak&
The" believe that all have the #otential to be a !inner * an alive( a!are(
real #erson. Kestalt Beans %an organi)e !hole&. Farlier anal"sts like /r
@rerick 3erls #erceive that man" #ersonalities lack %Wholeness& * an
are fragmente. The aim of gestalt thera#" is to hel# #eo#le become !hole
leaing to confience'self-reliance. Cole - #la"ing is #art of the thera#"
use.
E2O $TATE$
<. 3arent Fgo state
4. Ault Fgo State
?. Chil Fgo State
<. 3F - Inherite attitues I behaviour #atterns - ex#resse in #reGuicial(
critical an nurturing behaviour messages !hich influence the Chil.
4. AF - Corres#ons to current realit" - is organi)e( aa#table( intelligent -
tests realit".
?. C.F. - Contains onl" im#ulses that are natural to an infant.
Anal!;ing Transa&tions< Transactions can be classifie asL
a. Com#lementar" Transactions
b. Crosse Transactions
c. 1lterior Transactions
a. The lines of communication are o#en an res#onses are #ositive an
#reictable.
b. Crosse Transactions - 9ack of a##ro#riate res#onse.
c. 1lterior Transactions are common among losers.
As a tool TA can be use to Eiscover+ one+s real self( to reali)e ho! one
relates to others an be a!are of the course one+s life is taking. 6ne
revie!s one+s inner iscor an can choose o#tions o#en to one. It serves
as a frame of reference to evaluate ol behaviour #atterns an etermine
esirable changes.
THE NEED %OR 'O$ITI:E $TROKE$
All of us nee to be a##reciate an reassure b" our fello! beings. A
chil+s #rimar" hunger for #h"sical touch an love emerges as a nee for
recognition. Fffective managers are kno!n to be Ein touch+ an Erecogni)e+
the !orth of others.
<. %3ositive Stroking& hel#s the iniviual maintain his EI+m 6.K.( !inner
#osition+. 9istening - lening "our ear - is one of the best strokes one can
give the other. It sho!s acce#tance of the other+s #oint of vie!.
4. 2egative stroking :an iscounting;L /iscounting occurs !hen an infant+s
feelings an nees are th!arte. These negative strokes give the message
- %"ou are not 6.K.&.
It creates losers - leaing to unha##" ault human relationshi#s.
CHAN2E is not al!a"s eas". .o!ever #eo#le can 9FAC2 ne! !a"s of
transacting.
THE ADU5T E2O $TATE
This state eals obGectivel" !ith realit" - is influence b" eucation an
ex#erience. To achieve integration of #ersonalit" to be able to acce#t or
reGect #arental assum#tions on the basis of realities an a##ro#riateness(
the Ault must gain kno!lege of the chil I #arent ego states. This is #art
of his'her self a!areness. When "our ault ego state is turne on an tune
in( it can hel# "ou set the course of "our life much more intelligentl".
THE CHI5D E2O $TATE
Ces#onses of a chil - affection( in,uisitiveness #la" #la"fulness !hining(
mani#ulation reflect the chil ego state. This evelo#s into three iscernible
#artsL-
a. The natural chil
b. The little #rofessor
c. The aa#te chil
a. This is that #art of the chil ego state that is the ver" "oung( ex#ressive
infant in each #erson. Self centere an #leasure loving.
b. The unschoole !isom of the Chil. The creative iniviual e#ening
on non-verbal messages( #la"ing hunches an e#ening on intuition.
c. That #art of the chil ego that moifies the natural chil+s inclinations.
Confli&ts<
When a #erson+s Ault an Chil states come into conflict( the iniviual
s!ings from com#liance !ith #arental norms an rebellion.
%EW CO##ENT$
Shiv Khera i not !rite an" ne! conce#ts for achieving success.
.e !rote onl" all the #revalent ieas b" man" other authors in ne!(
fresh !ors !riting in sim#ler language.
This is for the #eo#le !ho have never rea an" success book or
foreign author book because if the" have the habit of reaing
success books the" !oul feel it as a nothing ne!.
But Shiv khera have taken all the essential substance from man"
author an for the beginners it !ill be a real treat.
CONC5U$ION
2obo" !ants to be a looser. Fver"bo" !ants to !in. This book tells
"ou that +3ositive Attitue+ is the ke" to a successful life.
/efinitel" there !ill be a change in "our life after reaing this book.
We on+t have to be <7 times smarter than our com#etitor.
All !e nee is the ege.
WI22FCS BAKF T.F /AYS C612T.
96SFCS C612T T.F /AYS T.FY.
If !o. 6ant to look at the -ra&ti&al a--roa&h to life and 7e s.&&essf.l
in e9er! -art of !o.r life0 1o. ,.st read this 7ook0