When Is a Door Not a Door?

Now that we've settled that, let's move on to the audience participation
section of today's post:
It isn't every day that you have the time to take a leisurely stroll around the
neighborhood: a stroll without purpose or destination, a chance to stretch
your legs, let the mind wander, and get reaquainted with some old familiar
sights. On your way, perhaps you'd stop in at a coy coffee shop, e!plore the
paths of a favorite park, or take the opportunity to do some window"
shopping. #hen there are those days when it's enough $ust to let your feet
decide your course...
%icture yourself on a stroll through town. #he day is beautiful and you're half"
lost in a daydream. &ou turn onto a street that you've never been down
before, and as you walk you pass a beautiful house set somewhat back from
the street. %ausing a moment to admire the lovely home, you notice the door
is half"open. 'hy is the door a$ar(
). #he house is being burgarlied.
*. #he owner forgot to close it.
+. #he owner is inside, sweeping out the entranceway.
,ey to 'hen Is a -oor Not a -oor(
-oors have a twofold significance: they may be passageways, but they can
also be barriers as well. In particular, the front door of a house represents its
first line of defense, all that stands between its inhabitants and the
uncertainties of the world outside. .y imagining as open a door that should
normally be closed, you envision a scenario or vulnerability and e!posure. On
a subconscious level, the reason you imagined teh door being open is linked
to the ways that you leave yourself open and e!pose your own weaknesses
to others.
). #he house is being burgarlied.
&ou instantly assume the worst in any situation, and this trait is nowhere
more evident than when things actually do go wrong. &ou never get flustered
in a crisis, but only because you're much too busy panicking. /o the ne!t
time disaster strikes, it's important to keep a clear head and remember to
take a few deep breaths first and count to ten. #hen you can faint.
*. #he owner forgot to close it.
&ou aren't the type to get carried away in crisis situations. On the contrary,
you're so rela!ed that you may not notice a crisis is occuring at all. #he
mistakes you make are caused more by oversight than bad intentions, but
the end results for you 0and for people around you1 are the same.
+. #he owner is inside, sweeping out the entranceway.
&ou may appear to be a laid"back sort, but you never let your guard down.
2chieving that constant state of rela!ed alertness is what has made you into
the mature individual you are. Of course, you still have your human
weaknesses3 you $ust don't put them on display for all the world to see.
A Desert Journey
Note: 2s much as possible, I don4t want to copy the e!act words from the
book. I want to make it shorter, but still, understandable.
/cenario ): &ou are at work5 &ou still have lots of pending $obs to do.
Overtime. 6verybody is already going home. &ou are unsure if you can finish
the work you are doing.
/cenario *: It4s time for the most boring sub$ect you have in your class.
#here4s still * )7* hours left.
2nd now5 let4s imagine ourselves in a desert5
). &ou are riding a camel in a desert. &ou really feel tired and e!hausted.
'hat will you say to the camel who has been with you all throughout your
$ourney in the desert(
*. &ou are really thirsty. 8uckily, you saw an oasis. .ut you are surprised to
see that someone has arrived before you. '9o is he7she( 02 person you
know1.
+. :inally, your destination is already in sight. 9ow do you feel now(
;. &ou have to leave the camel now since you already reached your
destination. 2nother person will now ride to the camel. 'ho is he7she(
,ey to 2 -esert <ourney:
#he desert and camel theme symbolies the $ourney toward personal
independence. /pecifically, this scenario reveals your feelings about parting
with a lover. &our answers show how you might react when the time comes
to go your separate ways.
=eaning of your anwer to item >): #he words you spoke to the camel reveal
what you might say to yourself when you realie love has been lost.
=eaning of your anwer to item >*: #he person you encountered here could
be someone who has helped or comforted you in the past or one you might
turn to in times of need.
=eaning of your anwer to item >+: &our feelings upon reaching the town are
your true feelings about finally getting over a lost love.
=eaning of your anwer to item >;: #he new rider is a person toward whom
you feel a secret rivalry, $ealousy, or resentment.
A Flash of Red
:rom red as a rose to red as a beet, when we see red it affects us
emotionally. /cientific e!periments have shown that people asked to remain
in a room with red walls become more passionate, aggressive, and easily
aroused than people in rooms with muted backgrounds. ?esearch has even
shown that e!posure to red can make the body temperature rise. ?ed may
be at the low end of the spectrum of light, but it has power to move us like
no other color.
Imagine three women, each of whom is fond of the color red and uses it to
accent her appearance. #he first of these women has her nails painted red,
the second wears red lipstick, and the third has her hair colored the same
shade. Now imagine their personalities and describe each in detail.
,ey to 2 :lash of ?ed
2lthough in some ways we all react similarly to the color red, there are also
significant differences in our psychological responses. #his is not simply a
matter of taste or acculturation but seems to have roots that sink deeper into
the mind. In the natural world, red is the universal sign of danger, a way for
one animal to let potential foes and competitors know, @Aareful, I bite and
I'm poisonous.@ .ut this same shade is also powerfully seductive, and for
animals attuned to the same se!ual frequency, it can signal that the mating
season has begun. In nature as in fashion, it's not the color itself3 it's what
you do with it.
#he images you had of the three red"accented women reveal the kinds of
women you view as friend and foe. #his results in different interpretations,
depending on whether the respondent is male or female.
:emale respondents.
#he woman with red nails is seen as a threat and represents the type of
woman you can't imagine yourself ever getting along with. On the other
hand, you feel a strange and compelling attraction to the woman with red
lips. #he woman with red hair is an image of the type of woman that you
hope you will never become.
=ale respondents.
#he red"nailed woman is the kind of person you fear will use or make a fool
of you, while the red"lipped woman is the type you can imagine yourself
falling wildly in love with. #he redheaded woman represents the type you
can't see yourself being attracted to, no matter how physically beautiful she
may be.
A Glazed Expression
2rts and craft class is almost a right of passage in our society, a grueling test
of the human spirit in which young initiates strive to force rubber cement,
pipe cleaners, modeling clay, and papier"mache to bend to their will. 2nd few
of us can claim to have managed to avoid the e!perience of creating an
ob$ect""be it ceramic mask, napkin holder, or the obligatory ashtray""only to
be confronted by and empty e!panse demanding that you do something,
anything, to decorate it.
2 plain white coffee mug of your own design sits ready for the kiln and is
staring at you in blank anticipation. &ou have chosen to use blue glae3 now,
if only you could decide on the pattern....
'hich of the following patterns do you paint in blue on the mug(
). /tripes.
*. %olka -ots.
+. Ahecks.
;. 'avy lines.
,ey to 2 Blaed 6!pression
.lue is the color most deeply associated with the inner workings of the mind,
from imagination to intuition to intellect. #he white surface of your coffee
mug provides a blank slate and give s your mind free rein to e!press itself in
the most comfortable, natural way. In this sense, the pattern you selected
reflects the structure and strengths of your mind in its approach to creativity
and problem solving.
). /tripes: &ou favor a direct and clear"cut approach, making you a keen
decision maker able to resolve problems and put plans into action instantly.
It's only natural that people perceive you as a leader and pillar of strength in
difficult times.
*. %olka dots: &our strength lies in the adaptive, artistic nature of your mind.
#his may make you appear to be a little offbeat, perhaps even eccentric to
some, but you make a real contribution to the world as a creator with a
unique vision.
+. Ahecks: &ou e!cel at mastering the demans of the everyday, but in no
way does that make you average or ordinary. :ew people are able to
organie their lives with such quiet efficiency. 2nd the result of your efforts is
that you always seem to have the time, wealth, and compassion to share
with those in need.
;. 'avy lines: &ou gift is in generating an atmosphere in which it's easy and
comfortable to feel and e!press love. It's not that you crave attention or
affection, but people $ust naturally feel good about taking care of and
supporting you. 2nd all that goodwill has a ripple effect, touching the lives of
those around you in subtle ways. 2sk the people who know and love you""the
world is a better place for your being in it.
A Night at the Syphony
#here's something magical about a night at the symphony " a sense of
e!pectation and pure pleasure. Imagine being able to take a place on that
stage among the other musicians, a once"in"a"lifetime chance to perform at
your very best.
If you could $oin the orchestra, what instrument do you see yourself playing(
). Ciolin
*. /tring .ass
+. #rumpet
;. :lute
,ey to 2 Night at the /ymphony
=usical instruments are symbolic of members of the opposite se!. #he
pairing of you and your instrument shows how you perceive yourself in
making the music of love. #he instrument you chose gives insight into what
you think of as your strongest lovemaking technique.
). Ciolin
#he violin demands sensitive fingerwork and a delicate touch with the bow to
draw forth music from the taut strings. &ou see yourself has having the same
awareness and skill in locating and playing upon your partners' most
sensitive points. #here's a sense of adventure in the way your hands can
create such beautiful music by running over the same familiar notes.
*. /tring .ass
#here's a feeling of power gotten from taking position behind an enormous
bass and making it call out in a tremendous moan. In love, your skill rests in
the ability to bend your partners to your will, taking complete control, and
driving them onward to pleasure they never imagined the could e!perience.
&ou never ask permission, but that dominating character is what makes you
so irresistible.
+. #rumpet
#here's no getting around it " your mouth is the strongest weapon in your
arsenal. 'hether it's whispering love talk in your partner's ear or e!ploring
them with your lips, you have all the characteristics of the oral personality.
;. :lute
#he flute demand incredible patience from those who want to master it. &ou
show that same patience in the way you wear down your partners with
persistence, determination, and stamina. &our lovers are often taken off
guard when what they thought would be a brief recital quickly develops into
a full concerto in si! movements.
At !he "ar#
6ven for people with normally happy lives, there come times when the
everyday seems $ust a little boring and, well, everyday. 2lthough it's
certainly nice to be able to know that tomorrow will be a good day, too much
predictability can leave you uninspired. .ut we know a way to escape that
daily routine, if only for a short while. #he answer lies in seeking out
stimulation and the occasional thrill. #his is the secret to being able to
appreciate the value of even our everyday lives.
9ow do we bring thrills into our lives( 'atching movies, traveling, and
playing sports and games of chance. Or maybe a trip to an amusement park,
a world where thrills mingle with fantasies. 8et's take a trip back to that
realm of childhood e!citement and fun.
&ou will need a pencil and paper for this qui.
). &ou enter the park gate, and a roller coaster looms before you with a line
of people waiting their turn. 9ow long do you have to wait in line before
getting to ride(
*. &our turn finally comes and now you're racing and plunging around the
course. 'hat kind of feelings does the speed bring out in you(
+. 2t the most e!citing point in the course, the roller coaster dives into a pool
of water and you're drenched by the spray. 'hat do you shout or scream at
this instant(
;. Ne!t you decide to try the merry"go"round. .ut during your ride, for some
reason the horse you're riding breaks down and stops moving. 'hat do you
say to the horse(
D. &our ride on the roller coaster was e!citing, but it wit will revasn't all that
it could have been. If you were going to design the perfect roller coaster,
what would the course look like( -raw a detailed picture of the course.
,ey to 2t #he %ark
-id you have a good time at the park( In psychological terms, rhytmical up"
and"down motions represent se!ual e!citement. /o your responses to the
five questions actually show your attitudes toward se!.
). #he time you spent waiting in line reveals how much time you spend, or
would like your partner to spend, on foreplay.
-id you have to stand in line for hours before the main event, or did you $ust
$ump aboard without waiting(
*. &our feelings during the roller"coaster ride reveal how you feel while
making love.
-id you think, @#his is the best ride I've ever been onE@ or was your reaction
closer to, @Bet me off this thingE I think I'm gonna throw upE@
+. In <ungian symbolism, water represents the source of life. &our words at
the moment the roller coaster splashed into the pool show what you might
say at the moment of se!ual clima!.
8et's hopw you didn't say anything you'll end up regretting in the morning.
;. #he horse, in psychological terms, is a symbol of masculine principle. &our
words to your broken"down steed reflect what you might say to yourself or
your partner in situations where the man failed to rise to the occasion.
@It's all right, don't worry about it. It's only a ride.@ &ou have a truly gentle
and forgiving nature.
@I can't believe this. I want my money backE@ &ou said it, not me.
@Aome on you stupid animal, giddyapE@ &ikesE
D. &our plan for the ideal roller"coaster course shows your vision of the
perfect se! life.
#he ups and downs of the roller"coaster ride are an e!act metaphor for the
thrills and lulls of lovemaking. 'as it a long, slow ascent followed by a
terrifying plunge( 2 series of acrobatic loop"the"loops and +FG"degree rolls(
Or maybe you drew a course where you spend the whole ride turned
upsidedown and backwards( -on't worry, your secret is safe with us.
$usted
#hey say that police develop a si!th sense about criminal mind. 2nd each of
us has a little bit of that criminal mind inside, which is why the police can
never afford to be off duty. If you were a cop, how do you think you4d handle
the pressures of the beat(
&ou4re in hot pursuit of a suspect fleeing a crime scene. 2fter a long chase,
you finally manage to run him down and make the arrest. &ou4re standing
over him with your pistol in his face. .ustedE 'hat does the suspect say to
you as he stares down the barrel of your gun(
Key to Busted!
'hat did the cornered crook have to say for himself( 2lthough you were
imagining yourself as the police officer, your own hidden tendencies came
out in the criminals words. In the game of cops and robbers, it4s the robbers
who have to come up with e!cuses as the cops haul them off to $ail. #he way
you imagined him responding gives an idea of how you reacted when your
parents caught you doing something bad. 2nd if you4re like most people, it4s
how you continue to behave today.
%ir&le' !riangle' S(uare
6very shape and design may be reduced to the same basic building blocks:
points and lines. :or some, those words may dredge up painful memories of
high school geometry class. .ut they can also take us back to a time when
the world was simple, to grade school art class when a house could be drawn
using four squares and a triangle or a face created with a circle, two dots and
a wavy line.
&ou4ll need a pen and paper for this game. Hsing a single circle and any
number of triangles and squares, draw a design on the paper.
,ey to Aircle, #riangle, /quare
9ow did your artwork turn out( #he real meaning of the design you drew can
be found in your use of the three basic shapes.
If you drew a very large circle, you possess an equally great sense of self.
#hat can be a good thing when it leads to positive self"regard, but for some
people it signifies a distorted notion of their place in the world I in other
words, at its center. If you drew a very small circle, you see yourself as
insignificant or dwarfed by the world around you. -on4t let yourself be
overwhelmed by all those triangles and squaresE they4re made of the same
points and lines as you areE
#he number and sie of triangles you used represents your work or school
responsibilities. 8arge triangles denote your sense of the importance of your
work and the fulfillment you find in it, while a large number of triangles
means you4re working on several pro$ects at once. .e careful if you have too
many triangles3 it may mean you need to cut down on your workload before
it wears you out.
#he squares stand for how you feel about society and other people. If you
used very large squares, it indicates you4re under pressure to conform of fit
in. If you put many squares in your design, it shows you tend to feel lost in
the crowd or burdened by too many rules.
If the shapes in your design connect, overlap and share borders, it means
you4re en$oying a degree of integration and harmony between those aspects
of your life. If all the shapes occupy separate spaces, it4s likely you4ll see
signs of isolation and lack of connection in your life as well.
Deep in the )ountains
#he mountains and the seaInature has a power that draws us to her. 2fter
all we are all nature4s children, born into her world and fed on her bounty. No
matter what marvels technology may develop, getting back to nature lets us
feel truly alive. =edical science may make advances, but the best medicine
will always be nature4s own healing power.
&our ne!t $ourney will take you back to that green world, and what better
setting for you to rediscover your natural self(
). &ou have set off to climb a mountain, in search of a fabulously rare stone.
'hat is your impression of the mountain as you stand at its foot(
*. 2fter a hard search, you still haven4t found the stone, and now the sun has
fallen. 'hat will you do ne!t(
+. &ou have finally discovered the stone you were seeking. 'hat kind of
stone is it( -escribe its sie, weight, and value.
;. Now it is time to come down from the mountain and return home. 'hat
parting words do you have for the mountain, and what is its reply(
?eady for what your answers reveal about you( ?ead on...
,ey to -eep in the =ountains
#he mountain that looms before you represents your father, or a father
figure in your life. In psychological terms, it is a manifestation of the
archetype of the Jwise old man.K #he stone you seek symbolies abilities and
strengths you must discover within yourself on your own $ourney to adult
independence.
). &our impression of the mountain show the image you have of your father.
'as it difficult and unforgiving( Bentle and easily conquered( Or did you
have an idealied image of a magnificent peak that somehow seemed to
welcome you and encourage you in your quest(
*. #he stone you are searching for represents your as yet undiscovered
talent or strength. &our response to this question shows whether you will
ever realie that untapped potential.
%eople who say they4d keep searching for the stone no matter what tend to
show the same persistence and determination in their own lives, never giving
up even when efforts seem fruitless.
#hose who said they4d call it quits for the day but come back again to
continue the search are the type who pace themselves, spreading their
efforts over a long period of time. #here are probably more than a few late
bloomers in this group.
%eople who gave up looking for the stone altogether are in danger of never
fulfilling their true potential.
+. #he way you described the stone shows your feeling of self"worth. 9ow big
and heavy was it, and what did you think of its value(
JOh, about twenty dollars or so.K 9mmm, that4s not much of an appraisal, is
it(
JIt turned out to be a huge diamond worth millionsEK 9old on now, let4s not
get carried away with ourselves.
;. &our parting words to the mountain reveal what you have always wanted,
but never been able, to say to your father. -o you recognie any of these
patters(
&ou: #hanks for everything.
=ountain: &ou take care of yourself.
-id you have that kind of ideal e!change( Or did it go more like this:
&ou: 'ell, it looks like I4m finally through with you.
=ountain: &ou can say that againE
=aybe it4s time you and your father sat down for a talk.
D*ellers of the Deep
#he undersea world holds mysteries we can barely conceive. Its seemingly
endless waters remain the last great frontier on earth, luring adventurers,
challenging science, and inspiring poets, artists, and the romantic at heart.
#he simplest e!planation for this allure is that there is more to the ocean
than meets the eye. 9idden beneath its featureless surface, millions upon
millions of creatures "" some familiar, some fantastically strange "" live, feed,
breed, and die. It is almost as if our planet contained two separate worlds,
which have only $ust begun to discover each other.
'ithin the bo! below 0print it outE1 is a picture of a coral branch. #his
e!ercise requires you to draw an octopus 0or more than one1 anywhere
within the bo!.
,ey to -wellers of the -eep
Aarl <ung, one of the founders of psychoanalysis, observed that the octopus,
with its sinister, alien appearance, slippery invertebrate form, and tentacles
that stretch in all directions, is a commonly encountered symbol of stress and
an!iety. &our artwork sheds some light on the level and nature of stress in
your life.
#he sie and number of octopuses you drew reflect the importance and
number of worries in your life. 2 single huge octopus indicates a
preoccupation with a single great concern, while a number of smaller
octopuses swarming everywhere is a sign that you feel overwhelmed by
minor stresses and annoyances on all sides. If you drew a small, friendly"
looking creature bobbing happily beneath the waves, good for youE No one
said that life has to be a cold, dark abyss.
#he position of the octopus in relation to the coral is also significant. If you
drew a free"floating octopus, it means you believe that your stress, however
great it may be, is resolvable. .ut if you drew the octopus clinging tightly to
the coral, it shows you feel as if you're locked in a stranglehold of
entanglements.
+o#ology ,uiz -
).1 Imagine there're horribly threatening monsters angrily rampaging the
city, what do you think is the cause of them anger3 why the monsters are so
furious(
a. #hey're hungry and looking for food
b. #hey're looking for their lost love
c. <ust because they are ugly monsters with high temper
d. #hey're angry with this desperate world
*.1 &ou are walking in the art gallery, you are rela!ed and stop at one
picture. &ou stop and stare at this picture for a long time, amaed and
fascinated. 'hat kind of picture is that(
a. /elf"portrait
b. %arody version of something
c. 2bstract
d. %ainting of nature
+.1 If you have a magical eraser that can erase anything:
a. 6rase yourself
b. 6rase your lover
c. 6rase the third party
;.1 2gain, you are in the art gallery, the same one as before. 'hile you are
looking at that picture, a guy standing ne!t to you is about to say something.
'hat is that might be(
a.1 @'hat a beautiful painting, you think(@
b.1 @9ow do you like this painting(@
c.1 @6!cuse me3 do you know what time is it now(@
d.1 @&ou know, I'm the one who painted this picture@
D.1 &ou are in D stars hotel room with a blue sky view. &ou fell asleep and
take a nap for a couple hours. 'hat do you e!pect to see outside the window
once you wake up(
a. =idday sun shines above the marine blue sea
b. -ark blue sea refle!es stars on the sky
c. Aold blue sea barely see in the mist
d. #he sun is setting at the end of the line where sky and sea has met
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Now, it's time to check your answer:
).1 #he question stands for the dark side of yourself and cause of pressure in
your life
If you choose
a. &ou are on a diet and feel a bit suffer from it
b. 8ove is the main cause of the pressure in your life
c. &ou feel unsatisfied with your own appearance
d. &ou are pessimistic person
*.1 #he question stands for your attractiveness
If you choose
a. &ou are self"confidence
b. &ou are talkative and have a sense of humor
c. &ou are creative person
d. &ou are gentle and well"manner
+.1 #he question stands for how you handle the problem in your love life
If you choose
a. &ou always run away from the problem in your love life
b. &ou respect love and see it as a beautiful thing
c. &ou don't like to let the problem goes on and effect with your life. &ou love
to solve it right away
;.1 #he question stands for the way you act when you met someone for the
first time
If you choose
a. &ou are friendly and love to get to know and have new friends
b. &ou will consider carefully before get to know someone
c. &ou are independent and see no importance of getting to know new friends
d. &ou always get e!cited to know someone and try to make them impressed
in you
D.1 #he question stands for what do you want from love
If you choose
a. &ou want a high"voltage love
b. &ou believe the importance of honesty between lovers
c. &ou want your lover to be your best friend
d. &ou are looking for a perfect love. Ideal and romantic
+o#ology ,uiz .
).1 &ou are reading stuff in the living room while someone is knocking on
your door. #hrough the cat's eye you see a stranger. 2ccording to the way he
dresses, this guy must be a technician. 'hat kind of technician is that(
a. 2n electrician
b. 2 plumber
c. 2ir"conditioner technician
d. #elevision or stereo technician
*.1 &ou are a superstar about to release a new album. 'hat do you want for
the album cover
a. .eautiful landscape
b. Aartoonish picture
c. 2bstract picture, some artistic stuff
d. %icture of yourself
+.1 &our boss told you to cut a piece of paper into half. 9ow do you like to
cut it(
a. Aut it in straight
b. Aut it in wavy line
c. Aut it in igag line
d. Aut it in one curve line
;.1 If you have to commit suicide, which way you will prefer(
a. /hoot yourself
b. Overdose yourself
c. 9ang yourself
d. <ump off the building
D.1 'hich part of the cake you are eager to eat(
a. #he strawberry part
b. #he uneatable decoration part
c. #he sugary"decoration part
d. #he Ahocolate part
e. #he decorating wafer part
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Now, it's time to check your answer:
).1 #he question stands for the problem in your family that you try to ignore
If you choose
a. #he warm atmosphere that everyone and talk to each other about
anything
b. #he understanding feeling within the family
c. #he factor from outside that effects to your family
d. #he fun in the family
*.1 #he question stands for what you see as the most charming attitude in
yourself and would like to e!press it for everyone to see
If you choose
a. &ou see yourself as a gentle and well"mannered person
b. &ou love social life and always entertain people surrounding you
c. &ou are skillful, very talented and very creative
d. &ou have a high self"confidence and love to be leader
+.1 #he question stands for the method you will choose to end your
relationship with someone
If you choose
a. &ou can end it right away. No regret
b. &ou cannot end it completely at the moment.
c. #he way you end the relationship is harsh and aggressive
d. &ou will end your relationship gently
;.1 #he question stands for how you manage your money
If you choose
a. &ou are a so"called stingy but never have a proper savings
b. &ou are a businessman and know how to earn a money from anything you
want
c. &ou strict with the way you spend the money and good at saving money
d. &ou don't know how to spend money and always use it all once you have it
in your hand
D.1 #he question stands for your attitude
If you choose
a. &our life is based on morality. &ou will not do anything against
righteousness
b. &ou are fashionable and always fascinated people around you
c. &ou care other people's feeling and love to be in the crowd
d. &ou are reasonable and a natural born leader. &ou love to be in control
e. &ou are sensitive, romantic and always dream of happy wedding
+o#ology ,uiz /
).1 &ou walk down the street and unintentionally kick the garbage bin fall in a
mess. 'hat do you e!pect to see(
a. Nothing, the bin is empty
b. <ust a garbage spread all over the street
c. =ostly food
d. 2ll the garbage has already put neatly in a bag
*.1 &ou are watching #C in the living room and decide it's time to go to bed.
6ntering the bedroom you see a snake on your comfy bed3 what you are
going to do(
a. ?un away
b. 2 bit shocked but not that scared. 9owever, you have no idea what to do
in this situation
c. 2 bit shocked but not that scared, so you are immediately thinking of
getting it out of the place
+.1 &ou are driving by the seaside. /eeing a beautiful landscape, you cannot
help but pulling off the car to draw this breathtaking view as part of your
memory. 9ow do you like to draw the palm tree at the right side of the
paper(
a. #aller than he real one
b. /ame height with the real one
c. /horter than the real one
;.1 &ou bought chocolate"filled donut from the most famous bakery in town.
Hnfortunately, happily bite a piece3 you realie the one you've bought has
nothing inside. 'hat will you do(
a. Bo back to the bakery and try to change it with a new one
b. #alk to yourself @It happens@ then finish the donut
c. #hrow it away frustratingly and buy something else
d. :ind something to fill it yourself to make it even more delicious
D.1 #here is an egg in front of you. 'hat kind of egg is that(
a. /nake egg
b. #urtle egg
c. -inosaur egg
d. Ahicken egg
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Now, it's time to check your answer:
).1 #he question stands for what you want to hide from others
If you choose
a. &ou have nothing to hide. &ou are very open and sincere to others
b. &ou try to act open"minded but the truth is you have something in your
mind
c. &ou are paranoid and don't like anyone to know your personal life
d. &ou are in control and rarely tell other people about how you feel
*.1 #he question stands for your perspective towards relationship with your
lover
If you choose
a. &ou afraid to begin a relationship with someone
b. &ou are not afraid to have a relationship with someone you like
c. &ou don't want to have a relationship with anyone, and if you also try to
kill a snake, it means you've found someone or you've found someone that
has already married
+.1 #he question stands for your background about your e!"lover
If you choose
a. &ou've already forgotten about your e! and ready to move on to someone
else
b. /omehow you still have feeling with your e!, and if you want to met
someone, that person must have some point similar to your e!
c. &ou cannot forget about your e!
;.1 #he question stands for how you act once you face the une!pected
problem
If you choose
a. &ou are reliable and ready for anything to come
b. &ou don't let the problem disturbed you for long
c. &ou will solve the problem out as soon as possible
d. &ou always come up with ideas, which everyone accept and trust, to solve
things up
D.1 #he question stands for the e!pectation towards your own child
If you choose
a. 'ealth and intelligence
b. 9ealthy and live long
c. Hniqueness and outstanding
d. &ou $ust want your child to be safe and happy
/o, how do you like it( 9ope you en$oyE
0oo# 1ut $elo*
,eeping plants offers us the chance to give without any promise of
reciprocation, gratitude, or reward. It's true that they ask for little " $ust
some water and sunlight " but in a material sense they give even less in
return. Nonetheless, houseplants en$oy a popularity that seems out of
proportion to any decorative function they might perform. %erhaps we keep
them because they fill a very human need: the need to be needed.
2 potted plant you've been trying to keep on your balcony falls over the
ledge it was sitting on. &ou run outside to survey the damage. 'hat do you
see(
1. The plant landed on the ground upright and intact
2. The pot broke, but the plant seems to have survived the fall
3. The pot and plant are both smashed beyond recovery
. !or some strange reason, there is no sign of either plant or pot
Once again, responses in the comments.
note: this is not a se! one.
Key to "ook #ut Belo$
#he sheltered life of a potted plant corresponds to a hidden, guarded side of
your character and the ways you try to keep the world from penetrating your
social mask.
). #he plant landed on the ground upright and intact
&ou appear to be strong and confident and are always eager to demonstrate
your coolness under fire. .ut beneath that tough facade is a person more
concerned with keeping up an image than actually living it.
*. #he pot broke, but the plants seems to have survived the fall
&ou seem calm and unflappable to others, but the reality is you $ust hate to
show your emotions. #hose pent"up feelings within you $ust keep growing
and growing, and no pot can hold them in forever.
+. #he pot and plant are both smashed beyond recovery
&ou seem to be soft"spoken and self"effacing, but that @natural listener@ is
crying out for a chance to shine center stage. &ou are only waiting for an
opportunity to break out of the self"imposed mold that confines you.
;. :or some strange reason, there is no sign of either plant or pot
&ou e!cel at generating e!citement and making others laugh and people see
you as the life of the party 0even when there's no party in town1. .ut that
glib e!terior hides a seriousness and even a shy side that you choose not to
show the rest of the world.
1n your $irthday
&our .irthday is the one day a year when you're $ustified in e!pecting things
to be $ust a little nicer than usual. 'ell wishes and congratulations, presents
and cards, maybe even a party or romantic dinner for two.
It's your birthday today, and when you check your mailbo! you see you've
gotten a card from someone you would have never e!pected. who is the
sender( &ou have also received a number of gifts from family L :riends. Of
that group, who sent you the biggest package( 0Bive the names of people in
your life when answering the qui.1
?6/H8#:
#he responses you gave signify your true feelings about people in your life,
feelings you might not even be aware of yourself. #he person who
une!pectedly sent you a cards is actually someone you would like to care
more about you or give you more attention. In short, the person you named
as the sender is someone you'be been hesitant to approach, or $ust a friend
you haven't heard from in a while( =aybe it's time you made the first move
toward bridging that gap.
On the surface, you might associate thebiggest package you received with
good feelings about the sender. .ut from a psychological perspective, the
person you named as the sender s someone whose affections you take for
granted. #his doesn't nessarily signify a lack of respect, but you definately
feel confident of their feelings for you. .e careful not to get overconfident.
'hat feels like security to you may look like plain selfishness to others.
"ostar#ed2 !he Future
8ounging around the house one /aturday afternoon, you are startled out of
your reverie by the doorbell. 'hen you open the door, you're greeted by a
most unusual surprise""a pair of animal messangers has come to deliver
news of your life in the futureE .ut when you open their messages, you see
they contain very different predictions of what lies in store for you. One of
the animals has brought a letter foretelling a life of happiness and
contentment3 the other prophesies only disaster and despair.
'hich of the animals below brought glad tidings and which an omen of
doom( 0%ick a different animal for each.1
). #iger.
*. -og.
+. /heep.
;. %arrot.
D. #ortoise.
,ey to %ostmarked: #he :uture
:or most people, the future is greatly influenced by their selection of a mate
or life partner. #he animal messengers in this scenario actually correspond to
your own perceptions of the kinds of people likely to bring you $oy and grie.
2nimals are rich and comple! in psychological significance, with a range of
positive and negative attributes and associations. In this scenario, the animal
you chose as the bearer of the message of happinesss represents the type of
person you perceive as an ideal spouse, while the doomsayer animal is the
type you fear would drag you down into the depths.
). #iger.
glad tidings: &ou see yourself happiest with an ambitious and powerful mate,
posessed of an indomitable will to rule.
gloom and doom: &ou dread the prospect of a vain, tyrannical partner who
struts around like a lord of the $ungle and growls at any mention of sharing
housework.
*. -og.
glad tidings: Hnquestioning loyalty and absolute devotion are the things you
seek most in your mate.
gloom and doom: &ou are utterly incompatible with those who try to please
everyone and fret over what others might be thinking.
+. /heep.
glad tidings: &ou see the key to contentment in a warmhearted nuturing
spouse.
gloom and doom: &ou fear winding stuck with a boring homebody content to
spend each day graing the same old patch of grass.
;. %arrot.
glad tidings: Nothing would suit you better than a talkative, fun"loving
partner who knows how to make you laugh.
gloom and doom: No one could suit you worse than a chattering layabout
with a severe allergy to work.
D. #ortoise.
glad tidings: &ou match made in heaven is serious, dependable, and sure to
be there in your hour of need.
gloom and doom: #he prospect of a lifetime spent with a frustratingly slow"
moving, slow"witted partner is your worst nightmare.
Reading 3ou 0i#e a $oo#
/ome are very fussy about their books, refusing to read anything outside of a
particular genre or sub$ect matter. Others read indiscriminately, devouring
volume after volume without pattern or preference. =any read only on
occasion or when work or study demands it. 2nd then there are those who
simply don't read at all if they can avoid it.
.ut for those who do read, not $ust out of necessity, but for the sheer
pleasure and rela!ation it affords, finding a good book is almost like making
a new friend. #here's a sense of simultaneous familiarity and discovery. It's
as if a window has opened into a previously unimagined world, but one you
sensed was waiting for you all along. /ometimes it's almost as if the book
has chosen you.
). 2 book lies open in front of you. 'hat type of story does it contain(
*. &ou begin to read and soon find that you yourself are a character in the
story. 'hat kind of role do you play(
+. &ou read further and come to a section where the pages have been
damaged, making them nearly impossible to read. 'hat part of the story is
it(
;. &ou have $ust closed the cover after finishing the book. 9ow was the
ending(
#he ,ey to ?eading &ou 8ike a .ook
'hile reading habits and preferences may vary widely from person to
person, we all share a common e!perience in which books and reading were
an inevitable part of life: our school years. In our culture, books and school
are ine!tricably linked, and the answers you gave in response to this scenario
likewise echo your own e!periences during school.
). #he type of story you imagined reflects your general impression of your
school years.
-oes your answer suggest you lived through a comedy, a mystery, or a
romance( #hen again, who among us didn't(
Or perhaps it was an erotic novel( 6ither you were a very precocious child or
you had an overactive imagination.
2 /hakespearean tragedy( #he fact that you survived all five acts has added
nobility to your character.
*. #he role you saw yourself in is the image you have of yourself in your time
as a student.
'ere you the star of the tale( 2 sidekick( Aomic relief( Or no more than a bit
player with only a single line of dialogue on page *M+( It may $ust be that
your character was being developed for the sequel.
+. #he scene described in the damaged pages mirrors a situation in which
you were hurt during your youth. .roken hearts can hurt as much as an act
of violence, and even seemingly minor traumas can take a lifetime to heal.
2lthough at first there might not seem to be any immediate connection to
your life, if you think back to your past, it's more than likely you'll find some
buried painful memory associated with the scene.
;. #he ending of the story is an e!pression of your feelings of closure 0or a
lack thereof1 regarding your days spent at school.
-id you answer something like @2nd they rode off into the sunset to live
happily ever after@( 2 little clichNd, perhaps, but you can't argue with
success.
%erhaps you envisioned a story in which your character dies in the end( It's
likely you greeted your graduation as a chance to be reborn into a new life.
Or was the ending a cliff"hanging @#o be continued . . .@( In a way, that's the
most accurate response you could give. &ou'll $ust have to wait and see how
the ne!t episode turns out
%ir&le' !riangle' S(uare
6very shape and design may be reduced to the same basic building blocks:
points and lines. :or some, those words may dredge up painful memories of
high school geometry class. .ut they can also take us back to a time when
the world was simple, to grade school art class when a house could be drawn
using four squares and a triangle or a face created with a circle, two dots and
a wavy line.
&ou4ll need a pen and paper for this game. Hsing a single circle and any
number of triangles and squares, draw a design on the paper.
,ey to Aircle, #riangle, /quare
9ow did your artwork turn out( #he real meaning of the design you drew can
be found in your use of the three basic shapes.
If you drew a very large circle, you possess an equally great sense of self.
#hat can be a good thing when it leads to positive self"regard, but for some
people it signifies a distorted notion of their place in the world I in other
words, at its center. If you drew a very small circle, you see yourself as
insignificant or dwarfed by the world around you. -on4t let yourself be
overwhelmed by all those triangles and squaresE they4re made of the same
points and lines as you areE
#he number and sie of triangles you used represents your work or school
responsibilities. 8arge triangles denote your sense of the importance of your
work and the fulfillment you find in it, while a large number of triangles
means you4re working on several pro$ects at once. .e careful if you have too
many triangles3 it may mean you need to cut down on your workload before
it wears you out.
#he squares stand for how you feel about society and other people. If you
used very large squares, it indicates you4re under pressure to conform of fit
in. If you put many squares in your design, it shows you tend to feel lost in
the crowd or burdened by too many rules.
If the shapes in your design connect, overlap and share borders, it means
you4re en$oying a degree of integration and harmony between those aspects
of your life. If all the shapes occupy separate spaces, it4s likely you4ll see
signs of isolation and lack of connection in your life as well.
!he $ig $lo*up
2n erupting volcano is one of the most awesome displays of nature's fury,
belching forth hot lava and poisonous smoke that can reduce the surrounding
landscape to grey ash. #he destruction it brings overwhelms everything in its
path, and it's easy to understand how ancient civiliations could have
regarded volcanoes as signs of the anger of the gods. 6ven today volcanoes
seem to be sending us a not so subtle message about our place in the grand
scheme of things.
&ou are standing within view of an erupting volcano. 'hich of the following
best describes your thoughts at watching the spectacle(
). @=aybe this is nature's way of warning us to stop destroying the earth.@
*. @I guess the pressure $ust got too high inside there.@
+. @ 'ow " what a sightE I'm impressedE@
;. @It's in the nature of these things to blow up. .ig deal.@
,ay to #he .ig .lowup
#he thoughts you had about the volcano are linked to the way you react to
e!plosive power, specifically the anger of a superior. 'e've all run into a
boss, teacher, coach, or parent who throws the occasional tantrum " this
scenario shows how you deal with those blowups.
). @=aybe this is nature's way of warning us to stop destroying the earth.@
&ou recognie when you're responsible for other people's anger and are
willing to accept the blame. #hat same sensitivity and adult attitude lets you
clear up any problems you might have caused.
*. @I guess the pressure $ust got too high inside there.@
&ou place the blame of any problems squarely on someone else's shoulders.
2fter all, if you thought you were doing something wrong, you wouldn't have
done it in the first place, right(
+. @ 'ow " what a sightE I'm impressedE@
&ou accept criticism and even outbursts in a positive way, but that's not to
say you take them lightly. #hat sunny outlook is sure to make a favorable
impression on superiors in the long run, after they've forgotten whatever it
was they were yelling for.
;. @It's in the nature of these things to blow up. .ig deal.@
/trong words, tirades, and harsh critiques leave you unimpressed, probably
because you don't listen to them. /ure, that's a low"stress way to get
through a chewing"out, but you're running the risk of never learning from
your own mistakes. =aybe you should start paying a little more attention to
all that sound and fury3 it might be signifying something after all.
!he $lue $ird
One day, a blue bird suddenly flew to the window of your room and was
trapped. &ou got attracted to this bird that4s why you kept it. #he ne!t day,
you were surprised to see that th ebird turned into color yellow. On the third
day, it became red, and on the fourth day, it became black. 'hat color is the
bird when you wake up on the fifth day(
1. %t stays black.
2. %t turns back to it&s original blue.
3. %t turns $hite.
. % turns golden colored.
,ey to #he .lue .ird:
#he bird that flew into your room seemed like a symbol of good fortune, but
suddenly it changed color, making you worry that happiness would not last.
&our reaction to this situation shows how you respond to difficulties and
uncertainties in real life.
). #hose who said the bird stays black have a pessimistic outlook.
*. #hose who said the bird turns blue again are practical optimists.
+. #hose who said the bird turns white are cool and decisive under pressure.
;. #hose who said the bird turns golden can be described as fearless.
4nder a %lear $lue S#y
Imagine a clear blue sky without a cloud in sight. <ust thinking about it
should give your spirits a little lift. Now turn your minds eye down to survey
the landscape. 'hich of these scenes feels most calm and rela!ing to you(
1. a $hite sno$y plain
2. a blue seascape
3. ' green mountain
. ' field of yello$ flo$ers.
#ell me what you picked and I will tell you what the book says it means. 3"1
()*+"T*,
#he color blue has power to soothe the soul. 6ven a blue image in the mind
can slow the pulse and make you take a deep breath. Other colors have
significance too. #he scene you pictured contrasted against that clear blue
sky reveals a hidden talent that resides in the depths of your untroubled
mind.
). 2 white snowy plain &ou are blessed with a special sensitivity that allows
you to comprehend situations at a glance and decipher comple! problems
without needing any proof or e!planation. &ou have what it takes to be a
clear"sighted decision maker and even something of a visionary. 2lways trust
your first intuititions3 they will guide you well.
*. 2 blue seascape. &ou have a natural talent for interpersonal relations.
%eople repect your ability to communicate with others and the way you help
bring diverse groups together. <ust by being around, you help others work
more smoothly and efficiently, making you an invaluable member of any
pro$ect or team. 'hen you say @Nice $ob, keep up the good work@ people
know you mean it. /o it means much more to them.
+. 2 green mountain. &our gift is for e!pressive communications. &ou always
seem to be able to find the words to e!press the way you feel, and peole
soon realie it's e!actly how they were feeling too. #hey say that $oy shared
is multiplied while shared grief is divided. &ou always seem to help others
find the right side of the equation.
;. 2 field of yellow flowers. &ou are a storehouse of knowledge and creativity,
bursting with ideas and almost infinite potential. ,eep attuned to the feeling
of others and never stop working on building your dreams, and there is
nothing you cannot achieve.
Where the S#y eets the Sea
#here are breathtaking mountain vistas, sweeping metropolitan skylines,
rugged tracts of forest that scretch as far as the eye can see, and gentle
country landscapes dotted with fields and farms, but of all the scenic views in
the world, none can stir the imagination and calm the soul like the unbroken
line where the sky meets the sea. #hat blue horion is a vast space inviting
the mind to rela! and unwind, to soar above and dive within, to dream...
&ou are staying at a resort hotel with ocean view. 8ying on your bed, you
gae out a huge bay window across the cool blue waters, and lulled by the
scene, you drift off to sleep. 'hich of the following view greets you when you
awake(
1. ' bright midday sun burning over the sea.
2. The dark ocean sleeping beneath a starry night sky.
3. ' cool mist rolling in over the $aters.
. The sun -ust beginning to sink beneath the hori.on at dusk.
()*+"T,
In myths and ancient religions from around the world, the sea and the sky
are pictured as an eternal couple, forever holding each other in a loving
enbrace. #he way you envisaged the scene out your hotel room window is
your vision of the ideal relationship between two loving partners and shows
the things you seek most from love.
). 2 bright midday sun burning over the sea
%assionate e!citement and intensity are essential to your ideal romance. :or
you, love isn't true love if it doesn't burn like fire, and if that means added
danger, it always proves worth the risks in the end.
*. #he dark ocean sleeping beneath a starry night sky
Others may think you're a little hokey or old"fashioned, but you place the
greatest emphasis on things like commitment and faithful devotion in a
relationship. &our love affairs may not set the sky ablae, but they will never
cause you any sleepless nights, either. 2nd when other loves have clouded
over or burst into flames, you will still be en$oying those nights of untroubled
sleep"" together.
+. 2 cool mist rolling in over the waters
#he line between friendship and love is blurred for you3 the two inevitably
flow into each other. &our perfect relationship is with someone you can tell
your secrets to, share laughter and tears with, and $ust rela! and be yourself
around. &ou refuse to believe that your lover can't also be your best friend.
;. #he sun $ust beginning to sink beneath the horion at dusk.
&ou seek a storybook romance that inspires the worldwith its picture"
postcard perfection. 6verything has to be $ust right, from the meeting, to the
first kiss, to the place settings at the wedding, to the house with the white
picket fence. #rue love is a once"in"a"lifetime e!perience, and you see no
reason to settle for less than the very best.
Who5s Got the $utton?
9ow do you make your choices when shopping for clothes( 2re you lured by
certain colors or patterns( -o some brands have the power to make you
reach for your credit card( Or are you an inveterate bargain hunter who can't
resist the chance to save ;G percent, even if it's something you don't really
want or need( #hink of the clothes that are already in your closet. &ou may
see patterns other than paisley, tartan, and flower print begin to emerge.
/pecifically, think of your favorite blouse or shirt. Now visualie the number
of buttons on the front. 9ow many buttons are there, and how do you keep
them buttoned when you have the shirt on( 0Ahoose the nearest answer
from the choice below.1
). It has more than five buttons down the front, and I button them all.
*. #here are two or three buttons on the front, and I button them all.
+. #here is a row of buttons on the shirt, and I leave one or two at the top
unbuttoned.
;. #here are no buttons on the shirt.
,ey to 'ho's Bot the .utton(
:ew people consciously make button count a deciding factor when choosing
their wardrobes. .ut as in most matters of taste, the subconscious plays an
important role. #here are many things in life that are uncontrollable, but
there are also some in which we have the power of final say. .uttoning is
one. -eciding how we spend our money is another. .oth behaviors are ways
of e!pressing one's sense of freedom or control, and your buttoning habits
actually reflect the way you handle your finances.
). It has more than five buttons down the front, and I button them all.
&ou are very conscientious with your money, never splurging or spending
recklessly. ?egardless of your income, you set a budget, follow it, and
somehow manage to put something away as well. /ome might call you tight,
but you're on the straight"and"narrow path to financial security.
*. #here are two or three buttons on the front, and I button them all.
&ou take a middle"of"the"road approach in managing your personal finances.
&ou aren't afraid to spend on the things you want, but you don't like to throw
money away frivolously, either. &ou are one of those rare people in control
of, and not controlled by, their money.
+. #here is a row of buttons on the shirt, and I leave one or two at the top
unbuttoned.
&ou have specific goals and invest every spare penny in them. On the other
hand, you're a moderate spender in areas not directly related to realiing
your dreams. #hat single"minded sense of purpose makes you a prime
candidate for conversion one day to the buttoned"down look adopted by
people who are used to getting what they want from the world.
;. #here are no buttons on the shirt.
&our fiscal motto is @2 penny saved is a penny wasted.@ &ou charge like a
wounded bull, and don't look back to survey the damage. Bet used to the
$eans and #"shirt look. If you keep up the pace, that might be all you're able
to afford.