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The Poet makes and the Philosopher understands. I am fortunate to be both. From
the Love of Wisdom I came to the Wisdom of Love. I grew up through learning to
love another and you can too. It is not easy to grow up be Responsible for your
Freedom and often we seem to only do so through learning the lesson of loss. But
it is entirely possible to become mature ripen into understanding the Human
Condition and, finally, it is absolutely necessary to do so if we are to survive and
thrive as we can do if we so choose.
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Out grow the ZOMBIES of GODS & GOVERNMENTS!
You do not need them to exist but they need you. Let
them die for they are truly dead. They will go back to
nothing when you become something. Grow up!
Learn to take care of yourself and others too.
PERSONS US! need each other. That is the obvious
but startling truth. As James J. Lynch wrote: Our
common plight is that it is becoming increasingly
difficult to share the most basic of all human truths: that
people desperately need each other, that we really our dependent on one another.
Our magnificently complex and terribly petty obsession with WANTING MONEY has
come with our refusal to recognize what we really, simply NEED is EACH OTHER.
We have allowed our MEANS to become our END and our end ourselves, persons
has become meaningless and mean. We are living beyond our means and meaning
and are drowning in debt. We are dying killing ourselves when we try to live
without that which carries our meaning: our caring for our selves and each other.
Real wealth is productivity: the creation of useful things that
benefit all persons who produce and consume them through
free trade in a free market without the coercive commands of
GOVERNMENTS & GODS those thoroughly UNNECESSARY
EVILS we as immature, adulterated adults have created out of
our LONELY NIGHTMARES (the AMERICAN DREAM we
screamingly awaken from) to hunt and haunt us as the
ZOMBIES we allow to feed on our fears of being
PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE for our FREEDOM.
This is your choice now: grow up into the caring and careful
Human Animal we potentially can be or remain the uncaring
and careless Animal Human we currently, and adolescently, are.
The Race to be Human is won or lost as YOU. Join the Human Race by choosing to
take complete RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FREEDOM and create a WIN-WIN
WORLD of Free Persons freely trading their creative and created values to achieve
an ever increasingly interdependent, prolific, and peaceful prosperity.
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Dialogue is the essential element of every social interaction, it is the elixir of life.
The wasting away of children, the broken hearts of adults, the proportionately
higher death rates of single, widowed and divorced individualscommon to all
these situations, I believe, is a breakdown in dialogue. The elixir of life somehow
dries up, and without it people begin to wither away and die. Real dialogue is a
process...No material substitute can fill the human need for dialogue. When a child
goos or smiles, it is vitally important that someone elsesomeone alivesay ga
or smile back. Someone must respond. Someone has to care. The dialogue process is
not exclusively in you or in the other person, but rather between people as a
reciprocal, spontaneous, and mutually flowing process. While we are alive,
therefore, what we have to give to each other is at one and the same time the
simplest yet most sublime giftourselves.
Here is a review of a later book by James J. Lynch, A Cry Unheard, published in 2000
that continues the themes of his earlier book quoted above:
We're a lonely society. Twenty-five percent of American
households consist of one person living alone; 50 percent
of American marriages end in divorce (affecting more
than a million children); 30 percent of American births in
1991 were to unmarried women. These factors are
linked to an increased risk of premature death, according
to loneliness specialist James J. Lynch, Ph.D., who has
spent almost four decades clarifying how loneliness
contributes to a marked increased risk of developing
premature coronary heart disease. Mortality rates in the
United States for all causes of death, and not just for heart
disease, are consistently higher for divorced, single, and
widowed individuals of both sexes and all races, writes
Lynch in A Cry Unheard: New Insights into the Medical
Consequences of Loneliness. An important point in this book is that loneliness in
childhood has a significant impact on the incidence of serious disease and
premature death decades later in adulthood. School failure is a major contributor to
this problem. Children who fail in school are socially isolated and deficient in the
language and communications skills that could help them overcome their isolation.
Lynch also explores the links between loneliness and premature death, and
describes the biological power of human dialogue--which, he says, is more intimate
than sexual intercourse, because dialogue involves the heart, not just the body. This
is not a fluffy, feel-good book. There are no quick tips, no instant relief from
loneliness, no do now lists of activities. This book is for readers willing to delve into
the subject of loneliness and health risk. Lynch wants you to understand the
magnitude of the problem, which he presents in a style that is both academic (with
plenty of statistics and graphs) and accessible. He also wants you to understand the
complex solution: contact, companionship, and communication. --Joan Price,
Amazon book review
human loneliness and social isolation. His three books on the topic include The Broken
Heart: The Medical Consequences of Loneliness (1976), The Language of the Heart:
The Human Body in Dialogue (1985) and A Cry Unheard: New Insights into the
Medical Consequences of Loneliness (2000). He has also authored fifteen chapters in
medical textbooks and over 100 articles in peer reviewed medical journals.
What's a common health-related mistake you see your patients or clients
making, and how can they avoid it?
Lynch: The most common mistakes people make is to take their relationships for
granted, and to accept the mechanistic model of disease. Every (heart) patient I see
has just had stents put in, has just had surgery, and the whole model is hydraulic.
When they first see me, they're angry at the cardiologist. Why do they have to see a
shrink? Then when I show them how their blood pressure changes more when they
talk than it did when they were on a treadmill, and how their blood pressure
changes when they listen, they see the logic in it.
So the most common mistakes are to trivialize communication and to trivialize
relationships. I go nuts when I hear people say they've got to save nature, as if all
humans aren't part of nature! We have to save ourselves. So there are very profound
spiritual implications (of not communicating). I won't dance around the issue of
spirituality. I think that's really the most important thing.
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