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According to attachment theory our first relationship with our carers acts as a
lifelong template, moulding and shaping our capacity to enter into, and
maintain, successful subsequent relationships with family, friends and
partners. It is believed that these early and powerful experiences with the
people who first looked after us will shape our long-term emotional wellbeing.
Advances in neuroscience and the development of early brain scanning have
shown that feelings, empathy and emotional understanding are hard-wired
into our brains through our early relationship experiences in the first years of
life.
Levels of key chemicals (serotonin and cortisol) that promote social and
emotional development, mood regulation and self-control are released
through interaction with early care-givers. The infant and young childs brain
is then hard-wired with conceptual ideas and understanding about emotions
and relationships based on these interactions. This means that pathways in
the brain are actually formed or not formed according to our attachment and
relationship with first care-givers both in the home and in any care-giving
setting.
Attachment signals
As children grow, indeed for all their lives, they adapt to attachment signals
and behaviours (see table, above right) in an age-appropriate way to make
emotional connection to others in order to:
Attachment styles
Research has shown that whether our emotional needs are met or responded
to in the first years of life can have a long-term effect into adulthood. This is
described as having a secure or insecure attachment. In addition it has been
found that attachment styles can often be passed on from one generation to
the next. In instances of insecure attachment it is only through appropriate
intervention that the cycle can be broken to introduce more positive
relational attitudes within families.
Secure attachment
Disorganised attachment
Disorganised attachment occurs when children send out attachment signals
but these are not received or responded to appropriately by the parent or
carer. Sometimes the parent appears unaware of the childs needs. This
attachment style can occur when the parent has many unresolved emotional
issues from his or her own past or has no emotional resources to draw on due
to mental health problems or a traumatic life event occurring during the first
years of the childs life. Alternatively, and much more seriously, disorganised
attachment can occur when the parent is a threat to the child through abusive
behaviours.
Children with disorganised attachment often fail to thrive and may have
developmental delay. Young children will inevitably show signs of emotional
and behavioural difficulties from an early age by demonstrating aggressive,
disruptive or withdrawn behaviours both at home and in the early years
environment.
Disorganised attachment in infancy has been linked by both longitudinal and
retrospective studies to a number of mental health problems and personality
disorders. In addition, disorganised attachment is a risk factor that hugely
increases a childs vulnerability to other harmful influences or events.
In adulthood there is an increased susceptibility to relationship breakdown,
substance misuse, self-destructive and self-harming behaviours, eating
disorders, suicide, offending behaviour and aggressive, violent and controlling
behaviours.
The role of the early years practitioner
As early years practitioners we need to be aware that all children have
complex emotional needs that have to be met in a number of different ways.
When childrens relationship needs are met they feel secure, happy and
confident. Equally, when their emotional needs fail to be met children can
feel insecure, unhappy and lacking in confidence. An extreme lack of
emotional sustenance can have repercussions in all areas of development
social and emotional, cognitive and even in physical growth and wellbeing.
Ideally, children will have most of their emotional needs met by their family
at home, allowing them to grow up feeling secure and emotionally stable.
Consistent failure to meet these needs at home can produce negative and
challenging behaviours and have an effect on long-term outcomes through
childhood, adolescence and into adulthood.
There is a responsibility placed on the early years practitioner to help to
supplement childrens needs within the early years setting and, perhaps even
more importantly, to support parents to meet their childs needs in a primary
way at home. It is sometimes difficult for parents to nurture their children
emotionally if they have very few emotional resources themselves. By seeking
judgement.
Appreciation is shown by giving positive celebratory feedback on big and
small things. Telling children what it is they have done well and why you are
proud of them means their sense of purpose is enhanced. Achievements
should be celebrated in whatever area. A lovely smile or a kind act are as
worthy of appreciation as tidying up the toys. Some children like public
acclamations of success; others prefer the quiet word of appreciation just
like adults!
Parents can be appreciated for contributing in whatever way to their
childrens learning and wellbeing whether this in the setting or at home.
Encouragement involves cheerleading through motivating and empowering
from the sidelines thereby giving children a sense of your strong belief in their
abilities to meet the challenges of learning, playing and growing. Stretch
them a little bit further than they thought they could go. Encourage them
when the going gets tough and resolve falters.
Equally, we can give parents encouragement in carrying out the complex and
difficult task of raising and looking after their children. We can point out to
them the positives and the joy and laughter their children can bring them
when sometimes life appears to be particularly challenging.
Affection involves using the power of physical touch to communicate our care
and support. Although we obviously need to keep within appropriate
boundaries it is vitally important to reach out to children with a simple pat on
the hand or touch on the arm.
Affection is a stronger language than the spoken word and communicates in a
way that a sentences or phrase can never do.
Respect for young children means seeing them within the context of their
whole life experiences both at home and in the setting and giving them the
dignity that comes from growing in independence and self.
Respect for parents means holding people in esteem and understanding that
they have their own beliefs, opinions and value systems which are worthy of
being heard, even if they are not the same as ours. We need to take time to
listen and to hear and be ready to negotiate and compromise when there may
be a clash or misunderstanding.
Support is necessary when children are finding life challenging in whatever
way, whether it is socially, emotionally or in tackling their learning they
need to feel help is just there ready to be asked for. Children need to know
that we will put ourselves out and be prepared to go that extra mile
sometimes too. This gives a sense of working and growing alongside others in
the knowledge that they are not alone.
In order to support children we need to support their parents in a holistic and
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