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I.LESSONOBJECTIVES

1.Distinguishlovefrominfatuation
2. Identify the common problems of teenagers involved in a boygirl
relationship
3.Sharepersonalexperienceinrelatingwiththeoppositesex
4.Expresspersonalideasonhowtoavoidpremaritalsex
5.Buildameaningfulandresponsiblerelationshipwiththeoppositesexand
6.Commitoneselftodevelophealthyrelationshipswiththeoppositesex.

II.LESSONCONTENT:BoyGirlRelationship
Materials
Cassetterecorderandactivitycard
Sources
Sawyer,Kieran.SEXANDTHETEENAGER:ChoicestheDecision,AveMaria
Press,NotreDame,1992.
ProLifePhilippines.Youthforlife:Truelovewaits,Pandacan,Manila,1992
CE/GMRCForGrade4
(RevisedEdition)

Weiderkehr,Macrina."LoveisnotBlind"
SilverBurdettPublishingCo.,NewJersey,1979.

III.PROCEDURE
A.PreliminaryActivity(Moodsetting)LoveQuiz
Ask the students to answer the Love Quiz. Tell them to write TRUE. If they
agree with the statement and FALSE if they disagree with the statement . The
teacher will give the answer to the quiz. After the quiz ask them the following
questions:
LOVEQUIZ
Read each statement carefully. Write TRUE if you agree and FALSE if you
disagreewithit.
__________1.Loveatfirstsightoccursbetweensomepeople.
__________2.Itseasytodistinguishreallovefrominfatuation.
__________3.Peoplewhosincerelyloveeachotherwillnotfightandargue.
__________4.Ibelievethatfateselectsoneparticularpersonforeachofusto
marry,andthatitwillguideustogether.
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__________5.Ifamanandawomangenuinelyloveeachother,thenhardships
andtroubleswillhavelittleornoeffectontheirrelationship.
_________ 6. Its better to marry the wrong person than to remain single and
lonelythroughoutlife.
________ 7. I believe that it is not sinful to have sexual intercourse before
marriageifthecouplehasameaningfulrelationship.
__________ 8. If a couple is truly in love, that condition is permanent and will
lastalifetime.
__________9.Shortcourtship,sixmonthsorless,arebest.
__________ 10. Teenagers are more capable of genuinely love than are older
people.
B.ACTIVITY:LOVENOTES
ThestudentswillbeaskedtoimaginethattheyareTV/Radiocounselorswhose
task is to give advice to letter senders. Tell them that eight (8) volunteers are
needed to be the love counselors. Each one will read and later on give his/her
own advice to the letters sent by the imaginary teenagers who have problems
intheirrespectiverelationships.
Dear_____________________,
Whatcanyousayaboutcoupleswhoaretoosweetinpublic.Theyevenkiss
andhuginpublic.
Anongsaymodito?
Love,
Mr.Observer

Dear______________________,
MyclassmatesareteasingmethatIamtheonlyvirginintheworld.Hindina
rawusoangvirgin.Idontwanttobeleftout.WhatshouldIdo?
Love,
Babes

Dear______________________,
MygirlfriendandIareboth2ndyearstudents.Yesterdaywewenttothedoctor
andfoundoutthatsheistwomonthspregnant.Anoanggagawinnamin?Please
help.
Love,
JackandJill

Dear______________________,
EversinceIansweredRico,myschoolgradesaregoingdown.Icant
concentratekasiehheisalwaysinmymind.Tellmewhattodo.
Love,
Ms.SeventyThree

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Dear______________________,
Myboyfriendisaskingmetohaveasexwithhim.Hetoldmethatthisisthe
onlywaytoprovemyloveforhim.Idontwanttolosehim.
Love,
Ms.P.M.S.

Dear______________________,
Myproblemisgalitnanamankaminggirlfriendkobecauseshewantsmeto
visitherintheirhome.Bakitganooneh,niligawanatpinasagotkolangnaman
siyasaphonetapospinapapuntapaniyaakosabahaynila.Badtriptalaga!!!
Love,
Goliath

Dear______________________,
Ihaveabigcrushonmyclassmate,Amanda.IreallywanttocourtherbutI
amnervous.Sapalagaymoanuanobaangqualitiesnahinahamapngbabae
saisanglalakingtuladko?
Love,
Mr.Maginoo

Dear______________________,
MyboyfriendandIspendmostofthetimehugging,kissingandtouching.We
seldomtalkaboutideasandourplansinlife.Ievenstartedtellingliestomy
parentsjusttobewithhim.ItseemsthatIamlosingcontrolbutIcantresist
him.Sendyouradvicerightawayplease!!!!
Love,
MissPhilippines

Dear_____________________,
ThiscomingSaturdayIhaveabigdate.Totellyoufranklythisismyfirsttime
todateagirl.CanyourecommendplaceswhereIcanbringher?
Love,
Mr.FirstTime

C.ANALYSIS
Affective
1.Whatdidyoufeelwhilegivingtheadvice?
2.Doyouagreewiththeadvicegiven?Why?
Cognitive
1.Basedonthelovenotesactivity,whatarethecommonproblems
encounteredbyteenagersinaboygirlrelationship?
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2.Howareteenagersaffectedbythisproblems?
3.Whydoyouthinkteenagersfacethesekindofproblems?
Behavioral
1.Whatcanyoudotoavoidtheseproblemsinyourrelationshipwiththe
oppositesex?
D.ABSTRACTION
Introducetotheclasstheseideas.
Probably nothing in life is as important to us as our relationship with other
people. Most of our joys and most of our problems come from the way we
relate to people. The four basic kind of relationships and their distinction from
oneanotherwillhelpusunderstandhowtheyaffectusinreallifesituation.

The F in L.I.F.E. stands for FRIENDSHIP. We all need friends at every stage of
ourlivesbutweespeciallyneedthemduringtheteenyears.Friendsarepeople
who we can talk to, go places with , tells secret to, and above all, trust. We
depend on our friends for companionship, fun and laughter, challenge, respect
and understanding. There is another kind of relationship that becomes
extremelyimportantinourteenyears,romanticINFATUATION,theIofL.I.F.E.
It includes any kind of relationship that involves sexual attraction or sexual
feelings.Infatuationischaracterizedbysuchthingasabsorption,jealousy,day
dreams, loss of appetite, exclusiveness, possessiveness, fickleness and the
need for constant nearness and reassurance. The L in L.I.F.E. is LOVE. It is
characterized by wonderful qualities like commitment, understanding,
acceptance, forgiveness, sensitivity, consideration, patience, trust, self
sacrifice, permanence, kindness, compassion and deep mutual trust. The last
kind of relationship in L.I.F.E. is EXPLOITATION. It is relationship based on
selfishness. We exploit people when we use, abuse, blackmail or manipulate
themtogetwhatwewant.
During adolescent years you will be making many choices and decisions
involvingthesefourkindofrelationshipsdecisionsthatwillaffectyourentire
life. It is extremely important that you recognize the differences among them,
not just in theory but in reallife situations. What you think is love might turn
out to be only infatuation or even exploitation. The result of this very common
mistake such as premarital sex, teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted
diseaseandguiltanddisappointmentcouldbedevastatingforyouandforother
people. To help us better understand the difference between love and
infatuationletusdecipherthesetoflettersbelow.
THHHKPKSTSI
Thefirstsetshowsthenaturalprogressionofarelationshipofsexuallovefrom
talking to holding hands to hugs and kisses to passionate kissing to sexual
touches and to sexual intercourse. It also indicate the development of I or a
romanticinfatuation.Ontheotherhand,thesecondsetofletter.
SACFIFRL
Shows the natural progression from friendship to love. From stranger
acquaintancesomeone whose name you know companionsomeone to do
things with: friend trust and sharing intimate friend deep trust and
emotionalintimacyrealloveunconditionalacceptanceandcommitment.
Here are some tips on how to develop a healthy relationship with the opposite
sex:
1. Set limits. Let the other person know how you feel about expressions of

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affection. At the same time dont give out mixed signals. Wearing tight,
revealing,sexyclothescangiveyourpartnerthewrongmessage.
2.Avoidtemptingsituations. You should avoid circumstances that could lead
to temptation, such as being alone in a house, an apartment, or a parked
automobilewithsomeoneyouaredating.
3.Saynoandmeantit.Ifasituationbecomestoo"heated",havethesenseto
sayNO!andmeanit!Asone20yearoldwomanwhogaveintohavingsexual
relationssaid:"Ifyoudontwalkaway,youllbesorry!"
4. Develop a close friendship with God. Know Him as a real person with
feelings,itwillhelpyouavoidconductthatoffendsHim.Pouringoutyourheart
tohimaboutspecificproblemsdrawsyouclosetoHim.
Ahealthyrelationshipwithoppositesexentailscontroloverthepowerful
emotionandknowingthelimits/boundariesaroundtheexpressionofyour
sexuality.Remember,truelovewaits!.
APPLICATION:
PersonalCommitmentMakingAskstudenttoreadandanalyzetheResponsible
BoyGirlCreed.Afterwards,eachstudentwillmakeapersonalcommitment
basedonthecreedpresented.(SeeattachedResponsibleBoyGirlCreed)
IAmaResponsibleGirl

1. Mykissesareworthmorethanpartyoramovie.
2. MybodyisthetempleofGodnotaplaything.
3. ThefirstNOmaybedifficult.Afterthatitseasy.
4. Virginityisstillavirtuelustisstillacapitalsin.
5. The way I dress, act and speak may be a temptation to my boyfriend. I
willobservemodestyforhisandmyownprotection.

6. My parents have done so much for me I wish always to be a credit to


them.

7. Myboyfriendwillbeahusbandandafathersomeday.
8. He must be a hero in the eyes of his wife and children. I will do nothing
9.
10.

topreventthatonmydateswithhim.
I want to be a wife and a mother. I will reserve my purity and affection
formyhusbandandchildren
IfIthroughmyweakness,Ishouldgetpregnant,Iwillnottaketheeasy
wayoutbykillingmyunbornchild

IAmaResponsibleBoy

1. Theparentsofmygirlfriendplacetheirtrustinme.Iwillnotvioletit.
2. IwillrespectmygirlfriendasIexpectothermentorespectmysister.
3. Iwillrespectwomanhoodbecausemymotherisawoman:Iwillnotask
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.

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my girlfriend to do anything that I would be ashamed of it my mother


foundout.
My girlfriend has given me the honor and pleasure of her company. It is
wrongformetoexpectmoreinpaymentforthisdate.
My girlfriend will be a wife and mother someday. She must be an
exampletoherchildrenandtheprideofherhusband.Iwillhelphertobe
pureanddecentasIwantmyownwifetobe.
Manhood means strength of character as well as body. Lack of self
controlisasignofweakness.IwantmygirlfriendtoknowIammanly.
Godiseverywhere.Heseeseverything.Knowseverything.Darknessmay
hidemefrompeople,butitcannothidemefromGod.
If through lack of selfcontrol, I should get a girl pregnant, I will not
pressureonhertokillourunbornchild.

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Fromnowon,Iamcommittedto______________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________
IV.EVALUATION:SentenceCompletion
Afterknowingthedifferencebetweenloveandinfatuation,Irealized
that______________________________________________________________.
Tomaintainahealthyrelationshipwiththeoppositesex.Iintendto
__________________________________________________________________.
Ialsobelievethatwecanavoidpremaritalsex
by________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
V.CLOSINGACTIVITY:
Askthestudenttosingthesong"Somebody"alongwiththetapeplayer.
Somebody
ByDepecheMode
Iwantsomebodytoshare
Sharetherestofmylife
Sharemyinnermostthoughts
Knowmyintimatedetails
Someonewhollstandbymyside
Andgivemesupport
Andinreturn
Shellgetmysupport
Shewilllistentome
WhenIwanttospeak
Abouttheworldwelivein
Andlifeingeneral
Thoughmyviewsmaybewrong
Theymayevenbeperverted
Shellhearmeout
Andwonteasilybeconverted
Tomywayofthinking
Infactshelloftendisagree
Butattheendofitall
Shewillunderstandme
Aaaahhhhh....
Iwantsomebodywhocares
Formepassionately
Witheverythoughtand
Witheverybreath
Someonewhollhelpmeseethings
Inadifferentlight
AllthethingsIdetest
Iwillalmostlike
Idontwanttobetied
Toanyonesstrings
Imcarefullytryingtosteerclearof
Thosethings
ButwhenImasleep
Iwantsomebody
Whowillputtheirarmsaroundme
Andkissmetenderly
Thoughthingslikethis
Makemesick
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Inacaselikethis
Illgetawaywithit
Aaaahhhhh....

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