Between Fear & Love Is The Living

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Between Fear and Love is the Living.

Fear has many faces and most of those faces are in disguise. Fear can be so
deceptive that we rarely recognize or define it, and therefore fail to challenge it when
it sneaks up upon us in such an insidious way that it can paralyse, erode, control and
ultimately destroy us. Fear is the most lethal weapon and the most toxic poison
known to man. Fear is highly contagious and self destructive. Fear can be spread by
word, suggestion, imagery, innuendo or intimidation.
Fear is a chameleon and will most often show up as something completely different
which makes it very difficult to recognize or unmask. Almost all destructive
behavioural and emotional responses can be tracked back to fear when we peel away
the layers of our feelings and actions. Fear is the core issue behind violence, jealousy,
bigotry, anger, depression, greed, hatred, lies, insecurity or obsessive worry, just to
name a few.
When fear is appropriate it is a vital, effective life saving response which is critical to
self preservation. Staying alive and protecting ourselves from harm is our most
primal and instinctual priority. Appropriate fear, will prevent and protect us from
danger; it will instantly ignite super alertness and superhuman strength. This is
commonly referred to as the fight or flight response. Most of us will have experienced
this super state of reaction if we have been involved in a potential car accident. In
something like a nanosecond we are capable of processing an extraordinary amount
of information and physically manoeuvre the car to avoid the collision.
Appropriate fear is also an effective decision making factor. Most, if not all, of our
choices are based on predicting pleasure or pain. We are predominately motivated by
pleasure and pain, that is, gaining pleasure or avoiding pain. We all like to kid
ourselves that we operate from intellect, and that we make decisions by using
knowledge, logic and experience. If we just scratch the surface a little we will almost
always find that our motivations are emotionally based. Pleasure is easy to
comprehend; we choose and maintain our careers, relationships, homes, hobbies and
possessions because they please us. Choices of pleasure may encompass comfort,
self esteem, love, respect, acceptance, approval, security, safety and prosperity.
Decisions based on avoiding pain may include any or all of the above, but from the
flip side. Avoiding pain is extremely motivating and many of our decisions and
reactions have a fear base. Pain avoidance is what fear is. Fear of physical or
emotional harm, poverty, abandonment, violence, humiliation, loneliness,
disapproval, disease and ultimately death.
It is vitally important to discern what appropriate and inappropriate fear is, as
appropriate fear can and will protect us, and inappropriate fear can destroy us. Most
of the time we dont recognize it at all, so, its impossible to name it, let alone

challenge it.
The human condition has a huge emotional range and can appear quite fluid in its
ability to change; we can be carried away or bounced around in a little cesspool of
negative influences one minute, and then find ourselves lifted up and flying high the
next . Emotions can be quite unpredictable, indefinable and often uncontrollable, and
yet emotions can dominate, create or destroy us. Some people believe hate is the
base emotion and love is the highest. Indifference is often considered to be the
opposite of love, but it is my belief that both hate and indifference are by products of
fear.
The ultimate fear must be fear of death; being inevitable, we really should make
peace with this and find it within ourselves to accept it. When we place fear in the
realm of death, then we must place love in the realm of life.
We are living anywhere between these polarities, and might view life as rhythms,
vibrations and frequencies between polarities. We understand night and day, light and
dark, coarse and fine, heavy and light, negative and positive, hate and love, thick and
light and good and evil. When we consider all of life is energy, then we can place
ourselves within the frequencies of these polarities.
When fear is positioned at the darkest side of the polarity, we can include all of fears
associates; hate greed, jealousy, anger, violence and poverty etc. The dark side is
also represented by death, decay, destruction, war, evil and disease. Negative
frequencies are coarse, slow or stagnant, heavy, thick, lethargic, black and isolated.
The dark side is asleep, lifeless and baron. Likewise, love represents all that is light,
alive, creative, healing, joyful, energizing and fertile.
As energetic bodies, within an energetic realm, we synchronize with similar energies.
This is really huge, and may be hard to get your head around, but its also very
simple. Thoughts and emotions are energies, which align themselves with compatible
energies.
The greatest minds, all religions, the sages and prophets and philosophers and Bob
Dylan and John Lennon and every other person who ever had a quality thought, all
said this:
LOVE IS THE ANSWER.
Love is light, Love is God, Love is the creative force, Love is freedom - because love
aligns us with all that light represents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure,
energized, serene and loved requires saying in the light. Staying in the light obviously
also means staying out of fear.
I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and
expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is Satan; an evil,
destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was
done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and
suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will

keep coming back to the same core fear.

Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is
engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our
actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve.
For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all.
We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events
taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression,
some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so
much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and
environmental issues and greedy, incompetent and spineless governments. Even
when we bring ourselves away from the world stage, and just focus on our own little
realities, we still find so much to analyse, consider, protect and fight for. Sure, we
worry about aging, our health, finances, families and jobs. We worry about the
quality and quantity of our food, pollution of our rivers and air, crime and the decline
of communities. We argue that an intelligent and responsible person needs to be
concerned about such things, and I agree; apathy and indifference or prancing
around like Pollyanna in her happy place wont make the world a better place.
There are problems, big and important problems, and those problems do need
solutions. Problems are solved by intelligent application of ideas and actions, not by
obsessive worry, and not by imagined fears. Herein lies the crux of the issue:
Worry and fear are impotent they serve no purpose, other than to use up creative
intelligence, and destroy creative energies or attract destructive energies.
All problems have two possible applications and they are: Fix it or accept it.
1. Find a solution to change, improve or eliminate the problem.
2. Or accept that, what is is.
That is F.F F. Find it, Fix it or Forget it.
The third and most popular application seems to be, Worry about it until it
disappears and this does not and will never work.
Worry, by the way, is fears little brother, the same genetic code if you like. Fear is big
and powerful and jumps around like a trampolinist in our solar plexus, whereas worry
is a silent and sneaky, tenacious little character, that you will hardly notice until the
damage is done.
Symbology
In previous chapters, I have symbolized fear and worry, by giving them identities, so,
I will just bring them back now for another look. They are the Chattering Monkey, the

Barking Dog and the Witch.

The chattering monkey symbolized the constant dialogue which goes on and on in our
heads, when we are obsessively worrying. He engages us in a prolonged and
exaggerated drama and reinforces our victim status. The chattering monkey, as a
symbol for fear, demonstrates how we take a reasonably small fear, compare it to
everything that ever happened before, and clump it all together and exaggerate it.
Words like, nobody, everyone, always, never and forever, have this one problem
sweeping across your past, present and future and gathering everyone and
everything that ever hurt or offended us. The chattering monkey is a master at
making big out of little.
The barking dog, I have now decided, is a toothless, barking dog. Dogs are trained to
bark, they are hardly ever trained to bite. Barking dogs will scare you away or stop
you in your tracks by the implication that they may bite. We dont even need to see
the dog, it could be a miniature poodle for all we know, but if it barks we will give it
power and control, and accept that we must back away. Symbolically, the barking dog
is the reason we dont do things that we do want to do or the reason we do things
which we dont want to do. Peer pressure can be a barking dog, shyness or insecurity,
fear of being rejected or abandoned, are all barking dog fears.
The witch is a complete fabrication, she never existed at all. For some unknown
reason, when we are insecure, scared or threatened in any way, be that real or
imagined, we justify our fear by inventing a greater threat than the one at hand. I
guess we feel humiliated, small, afraid, powerless and weak for not being able to
conquer our fear or problem, so we somehow excuse, justify or forgive ourselves, by
inventing a greater threat. The problem with the witch is that we convince ourselves
and others, that she exists, and we actively involve ourselves in focusing all of our
energies in dealing with her, just burning ourselves out and sabotaging our lives.
Symbolically, jealousy can be a witch, imagining your partner is cheating on you when
there is absolutely no reason other than your own insecurity, is how a relationship can
be destroyed by a witch. Hearing a noise outside your window at night can also be a
witch, as you freeze with fear and convince yourself it is a psycho rapist. Some
people convince themselves that entire races of people, people they have never even
met, are all criminals or terrorists thats a lot of witches!
The secret to controlling fear is in first exposing it for what it is. Too often, we focus
on other people or the events themselves or else we convert fear into other emotions
like self righteousness, anger, insecurity, greed or any number of deceptive
responses.
If you are feeling despondent, indifferent, isolated, fatigued, depressed or any
emotion that is dark, you need to name it and then claim it. You will be amazed at
how many emotions mask fear, but once you can see it, you can begin to challenge or
dismantle it.
The reason I have bought in the chattering monkey, the barking dog and the witch is
to save you from hours of verbal ping pong. Long drawn out analytical dialogue will
drive you crazy, and is really a little self indulgent and mostly unproductive. Imagined
fears and exaggerated fears need to be stopped and dismissed, as soon as they are

exposed. The subconscious mind grabs an image and all of the interpretation that
that image represents. When you catch a fear you name it, you then ask yourself, is
this fear real or is it a monkey, dog or a witch? By creating a habit of applying these
images to fears, the mind will soon learn to challenge and stop the interplay or the
indulgence.
White Light
White light is the minds symbol of all things great and creative. Light, is the source of
life, it creates life and maintains life. White light is a symbolic interpretation of God
and love. It represents purity and healing. It is viewed as the highest and finest
vibration or frequency. Imagining white light within us, radiating out from us, and
being connected to us, will instruct the mind to align us with love, life, healing and
creation. By being still and visualizing white light, we are able to activate our own
emotions to generate love and lightness. This again gets back to, what we think and
feel, attracts us to what is compatible or similar.
The same is true for fear; consciously or unconsciously indulging in fearful thoughts
and emotions will also align us with similar energies. Repetitious fear creates a
negative belief system, and attracts that type of behaviour and those compatible
energies.
It could be so simple to master this game of life, so easy to view life as a wonderful
adventure, filled with extraordinary beauty and possibilities. There is so much good,
infinite love, abundance and joy, if we choose to connect into it. Love and happiness
are not just random acts or accidents which come along, sweep us up and then toss
us out. Love and happiness are self generated and contagious; they align to
everything within a similar frequency and will expand and grow.
I am talking here about making conscious decisions, to create and maintain thoughts
and emotions, which are creative in nature. And no, its not always easy, and no, you
wont be able to control all things, all of the time. But, consider this, if you went back
over your life and took an inventory of every worry and fear you ever had, and then
tossed out every monkey, dog and witch, then, how many fears would be left? And if
you dissected all the real fears, and noted the outcomes, how many were as bad as
you imagined at the time? If you listed the really bad outcomes; the things which
almost destroyed you and or dramatically changed you, then you might also wonder
what of these events shaped the person you are today. The big question here of
course, is that, if everything that went before made you who your are today, then
how many regrets will you carry?
You might find as much as eighty percent of your life has been wasted on imagined
dangers, and if this is so, then, imagine this, what if you had that eighty percent back
again? What would you be capable of creating, being, experiencing or feeling if you
used your useless worry and imagined fear energies, in creating and choosing
thoughts, emotions and actions, what could life be?
It must be obvious that we do choose our thoughts, we can change them by will or
we can allow them to rattle around in our heads unsupervised and out of control. It is

also obvious that our emotions are reactions to those thoughts. How we react or
respond is also a choice. We may be anywhere between fear and love at any given
time The choice is ours.
There is a little story about Buddha which goes like this:
Buddha was famous for being able to maintain his serenity and it was said, that he
could not be provoked. One man, decided that this could not be true, and so set out
to prove that he could provoke Buddha. Day after day, he teased and taunted and
tried to provoke Buddha to become angry or at least annoyed.
When Buddha failed to respond, he finally said to Buddha, How can it be that you
have not become angry or annoyed with me?
Buddha replied If someone offered you a gift, and you chose to not accept that gift,
who would the gift belong to?
Well, said the man, the gift would remain the property of the giver.
Exactly, said Buddha.