1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud

or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not
irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It
is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins
out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful,
and endures through every circumstance.
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How to Build a Godly

Relationship
Before Marriage
by Jordan Doris
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Most people want to truly understand love. In the Bible, God

paints a very clear picture that helps us to understand if we
really are in love. One of the greatest love stories that we find in
the Bible is the Song of Solomon. It is also known as the Song
of Songs. This is a story that helps us to better understand how
to build Godly relationships. This article is full of great tips that
will help you to build a Godly relationship before marriage.

1.) Physical Restraint- While we are attracted to our partners,

God asks us to practice physical restraint until marriage. If you
practice physical restraint in relationship by saving intimate
moments for marriage (Even holding hands and sitting too

close with each other can lead to intimate relationships AVOID IT - cannot stress enough of how important this matter
is!), -Hebrews13:4-"Let marriage be held in honor among all,
and let the marriage bed be pure, for God will judge the sexually
immoral and adulterous." While practicality does not determine
right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage
were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted
diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and
unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up
without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is Gods only
policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves
lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value,
and, most importantly, honors God. Then you will not only have
a healthy relationship with God, but with your partner as well.
2.) Maintain Your Character- Be who you are when you are with
your future spouse. Don't try to be someone you're not. It is
important that both you and your future spouse show your true
colors before marriage. This way there will be NO
SURPRISES once you are married! Be happy and attain the
fruit of the spirit in your personal life! - 1 Timothy 6:6 - "But
godliness with contentment is great gain." & Galatians 5:22-23 " But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance,
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Against such things there is no law."
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3.) Get Opinions From Others- We may not always want to hear
what others want to say, but it is important that we LISTEN to
their opinion. Listen to what the one you love have to say.

Titus 3:1 - "Remind the people to be subject to rulers and

authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good."
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.) Allow the Man to take the Lead- God asks men to lead in a
relationship;however that doesn't mean that a woman should not
have an opinion. Make sure that you are both in this together for
the RIGHT REASONS!
Ephesians 5:21-25 - "Submit to one another out of reverence for
Christ.Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you
do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ
is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should
submit to their husbands in everything.Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for
her."
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5.) Praise Each Other- Find reasons every day to give each other
praise. This will help you to BUILD LOVE & SECURITY in
your relationship. Tell your future spouse the things that you
love about him or her and be there for them during happy times
as well as tough times. 1 Thessalonian 5:11 - "So encourage each other and build each
other up, just as you are already doing."
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.) Become One in Spirit- Make sure that both you and your
partner are in the same place spiritually. (As nice as it may be
for two people to live together meeting each others needs,
GOD HAS A HIGHER CALLING FOR THE MARRIAGE.
Even as they were to be serving Christ with their lives before
marriage

Romans 12:1-2 - "Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in

view of Gods mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice,
holy and pleasing to Godthis is your true and proper worship.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and
approve what Gods will ishis good, pleasing and perfect
will.", now they are to serve Christ together as a unit and raise
their children to serve God
1 Corinthians 7:29-34 - "What I mean, brothers, is that the time
is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if
they had none; those who mourn, as if they did not; those who
are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it
were not theirs to keep; those who use the things of the world, as
if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is
passing away. I would like you to be free from concern. An
unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs--how he
can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the
affairs of this world--how he can please his wife-- and his
interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is
concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to
the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is
concerned about the affairs of this world--how she can please
her husband."
Malachi 2:15 - Has not the one God made you? You belong to
him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly
offspring.So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the
wife of your youth.The man who hates and divorces his wife,
says the LORD, the God of Israel, does violence to the one he
should protect,says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard,

and do not be unfaithful.[Breaking Covenant Through Injustice]

You have wearied the LORD with your words. How have we
wearied him? you ask.By saying, All who do evil are good in
the eyes of the LORD, and he is pleased with them or Where
is the God of justice?
Ephesians 6:4 - "Fathers,do not exasperate your children;
instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the
Lord."
Priscilla and Aquila, in Acts 18, would be good examples of this.
As a couple pursues serving Christ together, the joy which the
Spirit gives will fill their marriage (Galatians 5:22-23 - Fruit of
the spirit). In the Garden of Eden, there were three present
(Adam, Eve, and God), and there was joy. So, if God is central
in a marriage today, there also will be joy. Without God, a true
and full oneness is not possible!) You should make sure that
both you and your spouse believe in Jesus Christ as your
savior. A solid Christian foundation is key to building a Godly
relationship.
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