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I created this checklist in an attempt to find similar desires with my partner, and realized more people
may need a tool that opens up the mind and allows you to ask questions you may not normally ask. This
checklist is also something you can take on your own to figure out some of the things you might desire
by looking closely at each item and really thinking about how they make you feel.
This checklist will cover everything from your missionary style love making to the intense world of BDSM.
While I have done my best to cover most everything I can think of, there are always new things coming
up the line in the wonderful world of sex. So if you have a fetish, a kink, or something as simple as a
position or place that I may have missed, please leave a comment so I can update the checklist.
The checklist is going to start at the most basic and move its way to the more intense in a series of
sections. You may want to do this with your partner over a few different nights, crossing into the more
difficult questions after you see how you do with the less . . . shall we say . . . taboo questions.
This exercise did wonders for me and my partner, but please, if you do this, do it with an open mind!
There is nothing worse than undermining your partners fantasies or desires. There is not right or wrong
when it comes to sex. While some things may be undesirable to you, to someone else it may be the thing
they love the most about a sexual encounter. So try to be understanding.
Try not to shout out answers that shoot down the item youre discussing. If youre not into Paddles or
Electricity that is your right, but your partner might find it intriguing. If you shoot something down
quickly, they may not feel comfortable answering the rest of the questions. Also, remember you may not
agree on everything, which is okay! It doesnt mean you have to do everything your partner wants you
to; it just brings you closer to understanding your partner.
Most importantly HAVE FUN, and TALK to your partner about each Item you feel comfortable talking
about. My partner and I spent hours and days discussing each thing, and we had a blast, its a fun
experience, where you are sure to learn something new about your partner and yourself.
Okay lets get started!
Here is the Key for how to label your answers. You can adjust the key to fit your relationship or use what
I have here, anyway you answer is fine, this is just a guide to get you started.
NA
No Answer
Curious
You may not be sure you will like it or not, have not tried it
and are Curious about it. Its something you would like to
Wanted
This is something that you want very much and may have a
hard time without it.
Love
Enjoy
Neutral
You dont dislike, or like this, but if your partner likes it,
you will do it. Or you may be willing to give it a go.
Dislike
You dislike doing this, or you dont think you would like
this, but are willing to do this for your partner if they
Loved or Enjoyed it.
Hate
You hate doing this, or think you would hate it, but are
willing to give it a try, or do it for your partner if they
Loved or Enjoyed it.
Soft Limit
Hard Limit
Intercourse ~ Vaginal
Have
Do to
done
your
to you
partner
Stipulations ~
Intercourse ~ Anal
Hand jobs
Fingering ~ Vaginal
Fingering ~ Anal
(fingers, no fist)
(fingers, no fist)
Oral ~ Male
Oral ~ Female
Oral ~ Anal
Sucking
Licking
Light Nibbles
Breast play
Body Massage
Use of lubricants
Sensation lubricants
(hot, cold)
Use of condoms
Use of birth control ~ Female
(this should be
Sexual Location
Stipulations ~
At home ~ bedroom
At home ~ kitchen
At home ~ Living room
At home ~ Dining room
At home ~ Garage
At home ~ Bathroom
At home ~ Laundry room
At home ~ basement
At a friends house ~ Private
At a strangers house ~ Private
In the car ~ parking lot
In the car ~ Driveway
In the car ~ Moving
In the car ~ street or garage
In the car ~ Parking spot
In the Shower at home
Shower at a friends/relative
Shower in a hotel
In a hotel
In a bed and breakfast
In a public place
(BDSM Club,
Have
Do to
done
your
to
partner
you
Lingerie ~ soft fabrics
Baby dolls ~ soft fabrics
Booty shorts and tanks ~
soft fabric
Stipulations ~
leather
Gowns ~ leather
Chaps ~ leather
Latex ~ Lingerie
Latex ~ Baby dolls
Latex ~ Jumpers
Latex ~ Gowns
Latex ~ Spanking Skirts
Latex ~ Stockings
Latex ~ bra and Panties
Latex ~ Costumes
Costumes Soft Fabric ~ Nurse
~ Maid
~ Government
~ Military
~ Prison
~ School girl / professor
~ super hero
~ vampire
~ Witch
~ movie or book character
~ Animal
~ Beer girl
~ bartender/waiter
~ Adult baby
~ fire fighter
~ Cop
~ Dirty Princess/ fairy tail
~ Cook
~ cowboys
~ Indians
Full Hoods
Masks (gas, face)
High Heels
Thigh high boots
Knee high boots
Garters
Thigh High stockings
Fishnets
Ballet heels
Platform Heels
Flat shoes
Mary Janes
Sexual Item
Have
Do to
done
your
to you
partner
Stipulations ~
Intercourse ~ Vaginal
Intercourse ~ Anal
Hand jobs
Fingering ~ Vaginal
Fingering ~ Anal
(fingers, no fist)
(fingers, no fist)
Oral ~ Male
Oral ~ Female
Oral ~ Anal
Sucking
Licking
Light Nibbles
Breast play
Body wash
Genitals wash
Anal wash
Foot scrub
Hair wash
Shaving ~ Legs
Shaving ~ Armpit
Shaving ~ Genitals
Shaving ~ Anal
Shaving ~ chest (men)
Shaving ~ back (men)
Water Massage ~
removable head
Sexual Toy
Have
Do to
done
your
to you
partner
Stipulations ~
Dildos ~ Realistic
Dildos ~ Glass
Dildos ~ Plastic, or Jelly
Male Masturbators
(eggs, fleshlights)
Dildos ~ Vaginal
Dildos ~ Oral
Dildos ~ Anal
Anal Plugs
Anal Beads
Vibrators
Strap on vibrators
Bullets
Vibrating Panties ~ private
Ben Wa Balls
Double penetration Dildos/Vibs
Double Headed Dildos/vibs
Breast pumps
Vaginal pumps
Penis Pumps
Nipple Clamps
Genital Clamps
Vibrating nipple Clamps
Vibrating genital clamps
Strap on Harness (for others)
Dolls, or penetrable body parts
Cock rings
Ticklers
Mechanical tongue
Fucking Machines
Tools with dildo attachments
Nurse/Patient
Maid/Master
Secretary/Boss
Hooker/John
Stripper/Client
Paramour/married Partner
Knight/Damsel in distress
Little Red/Big Bad Wolf
Gender reversal
Teacher/Student
Physiologist/mental patient
Have
Do to
done
your
to you
partner
Stipulations ~
Age Play
Babysitter/Parent
Insets
Prisoner/Guard
Cop/Robber
Abductor/Abducted
Puppy,Pony,Pet
Vampire/Maiden
Super Hero/rescue
Fire fighter/rescue
Cheerleader/Jock
Farmers Daughter / Farm Hand
Religious
Interrogation
Debutant or Mermaid/Pirate
Rich/Poor
Cook / Patron
Service man/Housewife (can switch)
Salve/Master
(play basic)
Fetish
High heels
Voyeurism
Exhibitionism
Medical
Have
Do to
done
your
to you
partner
Stipulations ~
Body Piercing
Tattoos
Shaved or Unshaved
Bestiality
Big and Beautiful
Body Builders (muscle worship)
Urine
Panties
Stockings
Scat
Diapers/ Adult Baby
Insertions
Amputee Fetish
Agalmatophilia
Statues, mannequins
and immobility
MILF
Asphyxiation or Strangulation
Chronophilia
Vomit
Crush Fetish
or objects)
Formicophilia
(being crawled on by
bugs)
Frotteuism
consenting persons)
Geriatric
Enemas
Breast feeding
Machines
Dirty Talk
Nasophila (noses)
Navel Fetish
Pornography
Sleeping
Food/Vegetables
Bondage
Light Bondage~
~Headboard Bondage
~Neck Ties
~Velcro Cuffs
~Under Mattress Straps
Have
Do to
done
your
to you
partner
Stipulations ~
~ Door Cuffs
Rope Bondage
Breast Bondage
Materials ~
~Nylon
~Hemp
~Silk
~Chains
~Cable ties
~Plastic wrap
~Tape
~Collars
~Spreader Bars
~Stocks
~Crosses
~Horses
~Leads
~Manacles
~Harnesses
~Straight Jackets
~Chairs
~Cages
~Sleep Sacks
Being tickled while tied
Being teased while tied
Intercourse while tied
Anal while tied
Oral while tied
Given an orgasm while tied
Just tied and undone, no sex
Discipline, Domination or
Have
Do to
Submission.
done
your
to you
partner
Spankings by hand
~ Bottom
~ Breast/Chest
~ Feet
Stipulations ~
~ Back
~ Legs
~ Genitals
Beatings with ~
~ Crop
~ Paddle
~ Hairbrush
~ Floggers
~ Whips
~ Cane
~ Belt/Straps
Beatings with implements
Bottom
~ Back
~ Feet
~Breast or chest
~Legs
~Genitals
Spanking/ Beating Intensity
~No marks
~ Slight Marking
~Temporary Marking
~ Braking skin, bruising, cuts
~ Permanent marking
Face Slapping
Biting ~
~ hard leaving marks
~ Medium No marks
~Just a nibble
Breath control / play
Clothes pins ~
~ List body parts okay with
~ or full body
Clothing chosen for
Clothing earned as reward
Clothing lost as punishment
Collars ~ in public/private
Crawling/ Kneeling
Enema punishment
Food chosen for
Food earned as reward
Food taken away as punishment
Food from bowl
Food from hand
Food from body
Used as furniture
Used as latrine
Bladder control
Auctioned off
Lent out to others
Humiliation Private
Public Humiliation
Verbal Humiliation
Leash public
Leash Private
Positive reinforcement
Negative reinforcement
Orgasm denial
Orgasm on command
Forced Orgasm (with consent)
Lecturing or lessons
Forced Masturbation
(with consent)
Nipple/Genital Play ~
~ Clamps
~ Weights
Scratching
Ice Play
Fire Play
Hot Wax
Hair pulling
Suction
Needle play
Fisting ~ Anal
Fisting ~ Vaginal
Dilation ~ vaginal
Dilation ~ Anal
Double penetration
Triple penetration
Threesomes ~ any sex
Group sex
Public sex
Public Bondage
Public discipline
Housework
Cooking
Activities chosen for
Told when to speak
Called by titles only
Dominate
Submissive
Electricity Play
Speculum play
Forced oral (with consent)
Well I hope you enjoyed my checklist, and that you and your partner had fun doing it. I hope you learned a lot,
did a lot, and plan on doing even more! Leave comments if you think I need to add or adjust the list, or if you just
have something you want to say. If its rude feel free to keep it to yourself. This was all done for fun, and to
educate yourself and your partner on what you might like sexually.