237 Reasons Why Women

Have Sex (decoded)

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September 28, 2014 | CRJames.com

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There was a study done several years ago that counted the number of reasons women
gave for having sex.
Note: The study was done by Cindy Meston, PhD, and David Buss, PhD, of the
psychology department at the University of Texas at Austin.
For example, one reason was: "I was attracted to the person."
Another reason was: "I wanted to impress friends."
When it was all said and done there were 237 reasons.
As you may know, I've referenced this list several times.
Well today, I have decoded it so that it's more useful - as you'll see.
Let's get straight to it.
The list now contains a second column that reveals the core desire (or reaction).
When you understand the core desire (or reaction), it allows you to use the list in 2 ways.
Way #1: To help you get better at analyzing the elements that got your woman turned on.
As we stated a thousand times, arousal is NEVER random.
[Cause] Something happens ==> [Effect] It triggers a response (sadness, laughter, sexual
arousal).
So...
...if your woman ends up getting really horny one day, something (or more than likely a
'series of somethings') caused it.
Maybe something happened ==> And that lead to a strong desire for companionship.
Maybe something happened ==> And that lead to a strong desire for experiences
something new
The more you look at this list of 237 reasons + the categories (this is the new part), the
more it forces you to think levels beyond the average guy.
The typical/average guy will just ask her for sex.
He won't press buttons.

He won't warm her up in any way (emotionally or psychologically).

Yet, when you look at the list of 237 Reasons Why Women Have Sex, you are FORCED
to see that certain CORE DESIRES are driving her towards a craving for sex!
When you understand this 'secret weapon' list, it shows the importance of 'doing things'
that create a core desire. (That's Way #2.)

This list also shows that you may have - at some point
(with or without trying) created those desires
in a woman before.
Here's the interesting part.
I've looked at this list hundreds of times looking for patterns or anything interesting that
relates to my personal experiences. And I've found something that you may appreciate.
No one is talking about this and it's a game-changer!
You see, if you look closely the list also shows that there are two key driving forces.
In other words, often times, she is compelled/magnetized/driven to have sex because it
represents something - some sort of prize - in the sense that she has to have sex in order
to get it .
Let's refer to this as...

Model 1: [Backend End] The Prize Factor

[ Point A ] ===> [ SEX ]

In this model, she has to have sex to get a certain FEELING or PERCEPTION.
The driving force is on the backend (the red part).
Does that make sense?
Let's explain it in super simple terms.
For example, if she has a STRONG DESIRE to experience a new sex position, she
has to have sex in order to get that feeling/experience, right?

That's what we mean by the driving force is on the backend (the red part), because
there is no other way to experience the feeling of trying out a new sexual position
than to have sex.
Another example: If a woman has a STRONG DESIRE to get revenge on a cheating
partner, then that's another situation where she has to have sex (with someone else) in
order to get her 'particular prize'.
So again, for Model 1, the prize/emotional-reward/pleasure takes place during sex
(the backend).
Does that make sense?
Good. Let's move on to the next one.

Model 2: [Frontend End] The Fuel Source Factor

[ Point A ] ===> [ SEX ]

In this model, the driving factor is on the frontend. For example a woman who
suddenly starts to feel sexy/naughty and is 'pumped up' with this idea that she is
amazing at driving guys wild or something along those lines.
At this point she doesn't need to have sex in order to get this feeling, because
she already has the feeling.
So in this case, the feeling is the driver, but it's on the frontend (at point A) - before
she has sex.
However she reacts to that feeling by having sex and/or performing behaviors that
move her in the direction of having sex.
As you know, there are certain feelings that a person experiences that dictate their
next move (or series of moves).
For example:
When Uncle Jimbo experiences the feeling of anger ==>
His next move is to kick the dog and buy a bottle
whiskey.
When Scooter has that crazy-fun-silly feeling ==> His
next move is to play a prank on someone or moon a group
of elderly women walking by.

 When Alexis has that naughty-sexy-fun feeling ==> Her

next move is to put on something sexy and start talking
dirty to her boyfriend.
Make sense?
How a women feels about herself (and/or the guy...and/or the moment) determines
her behavior/decisions/actions/next-move!
Super brilliant!
(Yet very logical.)
As we mentioned, the average guy will just ask his partner for sex and then he'll get
surprised when she's not too recentive...
But a skilled guy....
He'll do something (or a series of things) to have an emotional impact on her. He'll warm
her up in some way (via romance, ST tactics, whatever) ==> and then he'll ask (often in a
strategic way).
In other words, he gets her to want/desire/crave sex and then he'll 'make the sexual offer'.
Let's start getting to the good stuff...
When you look at the chart (below) with the reasons and categories, in most cases the
ones that are listed as 'desires' (i.e. desire to experience, desire to be accepted, desire for
attention) are going to be Model 1: [Backend End] The Prize Factor.
When you see the ones listed as 'reacted' (i.e. reacted to SV element, reacted to sensory
stimuli, etc.) those are going to be Model 2: [Frontend End] The Fuel Source Factor
There are also some that are listed as 'functional' and they can go either way.
Let's take a look at the chart.
And actually there are 2 charts. The one with the green categories (below) are listed in
order of reasons. The original list.
The second chart is exactly the same, except the category column is blue and it's listed in
order of categories. That way you can see all of the 'types of desires and reactions' in one
group.

Chart #1: Listed In order of reasons

Chart #2: Listed in order of categories

This chart is exactly the same as the one above, except the category column is blue and it's in
order of categories. That way you can see all of the 'types of desires and reactions' in one group.

Section 2
Another thing to keep in mind is that it really helps to know your woman.
Not every woman is highly motivated to try out a new sex position.
Just like not every woman is overly concerned about being accepted by others.
So the question becomes....
How do you use the above list as a way of getting her turned on?
Great question.
Here's a simple example.
Let's say a guy is talking to his wife and she just came back from hanging out with a
group of female friends. She ends up telling him that all of her friends with the exception
of her was talking about a new sexual device called the Swing Master 7000. They all
tried it with their male partners and they all loved it. The men and women. She then tells
the guy, "we haven't bought a new sexual toy/device in awhile."
<< PAUSE >>
Let's pretend that me, you and a few others are secretly watching this conversation on a
live TV monitor and we're cheering the guy on because his wife just mentioned this new
sex device (Swing Master 7000) and everything just fell in his lap (without any effort)
and now he just needs to bring it home.
As we are looking at the TV monitor, we're also looking at our 237 Reasons Chart (with
Categories), and we can CLEARLY SEE what the current drivers are. We're smiling at
his future success....
We're high-fiving each other and giggling for him, because he has a nice 2-pronger that
fell in his friggin' lap!

Based on her conversation about all of her friends loving the Swing Master 7000 (sex
device)...
What should his next move be?
(Note: This is a super easy one.)
A.) He should say something like, "Oh. ok."
B.) He should say something like, "Did I ever tell you the story of my Uncle Jimbo?"
C.) He should say something like, "That's interesting. It's called the Swing Master 7000.
That actually sounds fun! Let's check it out!" (realizing that she's dropped hints with
other things like this before + knowing that she doesn't want to be the odd person out.
Plus, he knows that she's dying to be able to go back to them at some point and tell them
that she tried it out, too.)
D.) He should say something like, "I lost the remote. Can you help me find it?"
Obviously, the best response is C.
That's what we call a good ole' fashion "leveraging a situation" game plan.

In terms of a "creating a situation" game plan...

Here's a simple example to explain how that works...
It's a case where the guy says something to her like:
"I saw this interesting video online where these women
were talking about something called the Happy Couple
9000. Apparently it's this new sex toy that couples can
use and the reviews are pretty interesting. One woman
said she used it with her husband and they had one of the
best sexual sessions in their entire lives. Another woman
said 'blah blah blah blah my legs are still shaking blah
blah blah blah. It made me realize that it's been awhile
since we got something like that blah blah blah it's
currently on sale for blah blah blah..."
Notice how out of thin air and with his bare hands (using the Chart + "the Sexual Tension
tactics in his brain" + "knowing his woman" + 2 Tablespoons of thinking) he was able to
come up with something smooth that appealed to her her core desire to try new things
(that could make sex different, more fun, more pleasurable). And it also has the angle of
'let's try something out together'.
Average guys just ask her out on nowhere, "Do you want to have sex?"
Super Desirable Guys press emotional buttons ==> And strategically link those buttons to
sex (in a way that stimulates her desire)(in a way that's not rushed)(in a way that's
intimate/respectful/strategic).
And it falls in that category of life where if you're willing to go above and beyond the
average guy (and learn things that most people aren't willing to learn)(and do things that
most people aren't willing to do), then you DESERVE to be more successful at XYZ than
the average guy.
Take Care!
Until next time...
Talk Soon,
CR James
http://crjames.com