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eres something you probably didnt do this morning: Look in the mirror and ask, am I a jerk?
It seems like a reasonable question. There are, presumably, genuine jerks in the world. And many of those jerks,
presumably, have a pretty high moral opinion of themselves, or at least a moderate opinion of themselves. They dont think of
themselves as jerks, because jerk self-knowledge is hard to come by.
Psychologist Simine Vazire at the University of California, Davis argues that we tend to have good self-knowledge of our own traits
when those traits are both evaluatively neutral (in the sense that its not especially good or bad to have those traits), and
straightforwardly observable.
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For example, people tend to know whether they are talkative. Its more or less okay to be talkative and more or less okay to be quiet,
and in any case your degree of talkativeness is pretty much out there for everyone to see. Self-ratings of talkativeness tend to
correlate fairly well with peer ratings and objective measures. Creativity, on the other hand, is a much more evaluatively loaded trait
who doesnt want to think of themselves as creative?and much less straightforward to assess. In keeping with Vazires model, we
find poor correlations among self-ratings, peer ratings, and psychologists attempts at objective measures of creativity.
The question am I really, truly a self-important jerk? is highly evaluatively loaded, so you will be highly motivated to reach a favored
answer: No, of course not! Being a jerk is also not straightforwardly observable, so you will have plenty of room to reinterpret
evidence to suit: Sure, maybe I was a little grumpy with that cashier, but she deserved it for forgetting to put my double shot in a
tall cup.
Academically intelligent people, by the way, arent immune to motivated reasoning. On the contrary, recent research by Dan M.
Kahan of Yale University suggests that reflective and educated people might be especially skilled at rationalizing their preexisting
beliefsfor example, interpreting complicated evidence about gun control in a manner that fits their political preferences.
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eventually grew into a healthy baby and toddler. At age 4,...READ MORE
I suspect there is a zero correlation between peoples self-opinion about their degree of jerkitude and their true overall degree of
jerkitude. Some recalcitrant jerks might recognize that they are so, but others might think themselves quite dandy. Some genuine
sweethearts might fully recognize how sweet they are, while others might have far too low an opinion of their own moral character.
Theres another obstacle to jerk self-knowledge, too: We dont yet have a good understanding of the essence of jerkitudenot yet,
at least. There is no official scientific designation that matches the full range of ordinary application of the term jerk to the guy
who rudely cuts you off in line, the teacher who casually humiliates the students, and the co-worker who turns every staff meeting
into a battle.
Jerks see the world through goggles that dim others humanity.
The scientifically recognized personality categories closest to jerk are the dark triad of narcissism, Machiavellianism, and
psychopathic personality. Narcissists regard themselves as more important than the people around them, which jerks also implicitly
or explicitly do. And yet narcissism is not quite jerkitude, since it also involves a desire to be the center of attention, a desire that
jerks dont always have. Machiavellian personalities tend to treat people as tools they can exploit for their own ends, which jerks also
do. And yet this too is not quite jerkitude, since Machivellianism involves self-conscious cynicism, while jerks can often be ignorant of
their self-serving tendencies. People with psychopathic personalities are selfish and callous, as is the jerk, but they also incline
toward impulsive risk-taking, while jerks can be calculating and risk-averse.
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Another related concept is the concept of the asshole, as explored recently by the philosopher Aaron James of the University of
California, Irvine. On Jamess theory, assholes are people who allow themselves to enjoy special advantages over others out of an
entrenched sense of entitlement. Although this is closely related to jerkitude, again its not quite the same thing. One can be a jerk
through arrogant and insulting behavior even if one helps oneself to no special advantages.
Given the many roadblocks standing in the way, what is a potential jerk interested in self-evaluation to do?
he first step to the solution is to nail down more clearly what it means to be a jerk. I submit that jerkitude should be
accepted as a category worthy of scientific study in its own right. The word jerk is apt and useful. It captures a very
real phenomenon that no other concept in psychology quite does. Jerks are people who culpably fail to appreciate the
perspectives of the people around them, treating others as tools to be manipulated or fools to be dealt with, rather than as moral
and epistemic peers. To be a jerk is to be ignorant in a certain wayignorant of the value of others, ignorant of the merit of their
ideas and plans, dismissive of their desires and beliefs, unforgiving of their perceived inferiority. The nugget of folk wisdom in calling
certain people jerks is to highlight this particular species of deficiency.
Jerks see the world through goggles that dim others humanity. The server at the restaurant is not a potentially interesting person
with a distinctive personality, life story, and set of goals to which you might possibly relate. Instead, he is merely a tool by which to
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secure a meal or a fool on which you can vent your anger. The people ahead of you at Starbucks are faceless and of no account.
Those beneath you in the social hierarchy lack your talents and deserve to get the scut work.
To sharpen our conception of jerkitude, its helpful also to consider the jerks opposite: the sweetheart. Maybe you know one or two
of these peoplehabitually alert to the needs and interests of others, solicitous of others thoughts and preferences, liable in cases
of conflict to suspect that the fault might lie with them rather than with the other party. Imagine flipping our jerk goggles inside out,
converting them into sweetheart gogglesgoggles that make especially vivid the value, interest, importance, and specialness of the
people around you.
The jerk will either dismiss the criticism, counterattack, bloviate, storm off, or
smile and sink the knife in deeper.
Probably no one is pure jerk or pure sweetheart. Several decades of psychological research confirm that, when it comes to big,
broad personality traits, pretty much everyone is mixed and complex and subject to a variety of shifting influences. But where
specifically are you on the spectrum from jerk to sweetheart, and in what respects, in what situations, toward which people? Maybe
nothing is more central to your moral character than your degree of jerkitude. It is your basic moral comportment toward the
people around you.
This definition can help us see two obstacles to jerk self-knowledge. One obstacle is this: To the extent one genuinely worries about
being a jerk, ones jerkitude momentarily vanishes. If you prickle with fear and shame at your possibly shabby behavior to someone,
in that moment, by virtue of that very prickling, you are recognizing the legitimacy of that persons interests and values, seeing that
person as an individual with moral claims upon you, rather than as a tool or fool. You have, at least for a moment, taken your jerk
goggles off.
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Thus, ironically, it is often the sweethearts who are most worried that they have been acting like jerkswho approach you later with
blushing apologies for their really not-so-terrible behavior. In contrast, nothing is more foreign to the full-on jerk than a blushing
apology.
Of course, if you take comfort in this idea and think, hey, since Im worried that I might be a jerk, and in fact Im reading a magazine
article on that very subject, then I must not actually be a jerk! and thus cease to worry, at that very moment your jerkitude
potentially reasserts itself.
The other distinctive obstacle to self-knowledge of jerkitude is the jerks inability to listen. Plausibly, one of the most important paths
to moral self-knowledge is listening, in a genuinely open way, to other peoples moral criticisms of you. The jerk cannot easily do this.
Because the jerk tends not to see others as peers worthy of intellectual and moral respect, the jerk rarely accepts criticism
constructively. Why take seriously what a tool or fool has to say? Why try to engage with their critical perspective on you? More
likely, the jerk will either dismiss the criticism, counterattack, bloviate, storm off, or smile and sink the knife in deeper.
Other moral vices are not recalcitrant to self-knowledge in these ways. Dishonesty, for example, does not block ones ears to
accusations of dishonesty. Greediness does not particularly interfere with the ability to think that one might have been greedy. But
its the nature of jerks to stop their own ears.
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f the essence of jerkitude is a failure to appreciate the perspectives of others around you, this suggests what might be
a non-obvious path to self-knowledge: looking not at yourself but at other people. Instead of gazing into the mirror,
turn away from the mirror and notice the colors in which the world seems to be painted. Are you surrounded by fools
and non-entities, by people with bad taste and silly desires, by boring people undeserving of your attention, by people who can be
understood quickly by applying a broad and negative brushcreeps, stuck-up snobs, bubbleheaded party kids, smug assholes, and,
indeed, jerks?
If this is how the world regularly looks to you, then I have bad news. Likely, you are the jerk. This is not how the world looks to most
people, and it is not how the world actually is. You have a distorted vision. You are not seeing the individuality and potential of the
people around you.
Maybe nothing is more central to your moral character than your degree of
jerkitude.
Ive painted this jerk-goggled vision in extreme colors, but aspects of it are, I suspect, familiar to all of us except the most hopelessly
sweet sweethearts (who, actually, have their own problems, since they are too easily swept up into the desires and opinions of
others). We all have our jerkish moments.
But how often are you lost in jerkitude? If we are all part jerk and part sweetheart, where are you on this spectrum? You can try, in
retrospect, to recall how frequently you find yourself behind jerk goggles. But unfortunately this isnt the sort of judgment people
are very good at. Memory is selectivewe tend to recall a few highly salient cases, or ones that confirm our prior opinions or show
us in the best light (or, among anxiously self-critical people, the worst light). I see two more scientific approaches, if you really want
to achieve an accurate perception of your jerkitude.
One is to adapt the experience-sampling methods pioneered by psychologists Russell T. Hurlburt of the University of Nevada, Las
Vegas, and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, now at Claremont Graduate University. Set a random beeper or some other arbitrary external
trigger and, when the alarm sounds, notice how youve been thinking of things. You might not be very good at self-assessment and
perhaps you will be prone to rationalizing self-flattery, but at least over time youll collect a representative sample.
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A second approach is to attempt something like mindfulnessa concept from Asian meditative traditions. Recently, psychologist
Erika N. Carlson at the University of Toronto has suggested mindfulness training as a path to self-knowledge of the most difficult-toknow personality traits, those that (like jerkitude) are high in evaluativeness and low in observability or salience. The essence of
mindfulness is to attend as non-judgmentally as possible to ones stream of experience. Carlsons suggestion is that by more
habitually attending to our experiences as they pass, we can acquire a broader and more representative evidence base by which to
assess our personalities.
Although empirical mindfulness research is in its infancy, there is some evidence of a relationship between mindfulness and selfknowledge. For example, Amber S. Emanuel and colleagues at Kent State University found that participants who reported being
observantly mindful of their mental states more accurately predicted their emotional reactions to a United States presidential
election. Christina L. M. Hill and John A. Updegraff, also both then at Kent State, found that greater self-reported mindfulness was
correlated with a tendency to better differentiate among subtly different positive and negative emotions during experience
sampling.
I dont know how realistic it is to expect many people to do experience-sampling or mindfulness training in any serious way, with an
eye to improving self-knowledge of their moral character, nor how successful such training would ultimately be. Let me conclude,
then, with a more modest suggestion: Think about this article sometime later today, sometime when you are surrounded by other
peoplemaybe in the lunch line, or at a department meeting, or at a party, or in a crowded plaza. Notice the people around you. Are
they fools and tools, or do they sparkle with interesting individuality? Notice, in other words, if you are wearing your jerk goggles.
We all look through jerk goggles sometimes. But we are not stuck with this vision of the world. Merely by reflecting on it a bit, we
can, I thinkmost of us, at least momentarilysee what is deficient in that vision.
And that is the way to take those jerk goggles off.
Eric Schwitzgebel is a professor of philosophy at University of California at Riverside and author of Perplexities of Consciousness and
(with R.T. Hurlburt) Describing Inner Experience? Proponent Meets Skeptic. He blogs at The Splintered Mind.
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The irony of taking two parking spots in a very crowded parking lot is, while you may not get a door ding, the probability of getting a key
down the side of your car goes up exponentially.
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jb > John Malcholm 13 days ago
It is so much easier to park at the empty end of the lot and walk a little , the auto parts store next to me has a manager with a new
Chev. Camero (Advanced Auto.Parts ) he does it all the time ,I asked him if anyone ever keyed his car he say no and was just
protecting his car anyway he could , sometime he even blocks 3 spaces and I'm sure one day someone will key it .
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keying and spitting on jerk parkers' vehicles are two of my favorite pastimes
and the nicer the car, the more joy i take out of the activity
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Lee Attiny > lippity ohmer 12 days ago
Taking two parking spots certainly puts you in the asshole category but keying someones car makes you a complete piece
of shit.
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Does keying even a jerk's car, not make you a jerk as well, though?
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I have stickers I past on these cars that say: "I Park Like An Idiot!" and stick it on their windshield or door. Yeah... that's me
being a jerk too. :-)
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You, I am sorry to say, failed to grasp the article, meaning you are not only a JERK, but a criminal, as well & that equals (=)
JERK OFF personality and so, I say, "PISS OFF", Asshole!
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Victor Munoz > Fredrick Rehders 14 days ago
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Fredrick Rehders > Victor Munoz 14 days ago
One doesn't need "jerk goggles", to identify a jerk, boasting of his criminal deeds. Two wrongs never equal a right,
but a large segment of our population fails to grasp that simple truth, Victor. Witness the mob behavior when a
segment of our society reacts prematurely to perceptions, rather than facts. These examples inundate the news
cycle, yet, many of these undereducated segments, refuse to learn, from either their mistakes, or the mistakes of
others. They refuse to take responsibility for the direction of their lives and criminal behavior becomes something
they can accept, utilizing a false premise, for justification.
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Two wrongs do not equal a right, but three lefts do, especially helpful to remember when you miss your turn.
All teasing aside, perhaps if we weren't taught competitive games, like musical chairs, in our formative years
jerkitudeness wouldn't abound. T'would a better world be, if collaborative models were the norm.
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Fredrick, as others here have pointed out, criminal behavior is one thing, being a jerk is another. The author of the
piece is a philosopher addressing jerkitude, which is a moral category, not a legal one. I'm sure he would prefer we
use more precise language. The person you were addressing was perhaps not a savory character, but to call them a
jerk shows the very kind of indiscriminate self-assertion characteristic of jerkiness.
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Fredrick Rehders > Victor Munoz 14 days ago
Personally, if I see anyone keying a car, I would like to jerk a knot in their ass if I could, but I won't, because I would
never be the initiator of violence. That goes back to the multiple wrongs doesn't make it right, thing. Philosopher, or
not.. making up definitions to suit ones-self is a pretty jerky thing to do, but there I go being judgmental, again! Your
point was well made, Victor and it is apparent that I am out of my element, here. All of this time, I thought I was a
voice of objective reason, just to discover... I'm just another jerk! Hell, when it comes to "indiscriminate selfassertion", I'm practically spastic!
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Steve NJ > lippity ohmer 7 days ago
So spitting and keying is your response to a jerk? That's being a jerk. It's also vandalism keying a car. The car jerk merely
parked in two spaces. Aren't you the bigger jerk for causing damage? You'll probably say, "No, I'm not a jerk." Typical jerk
response.
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MaxImPerfect > lippity ohmer 18 days ago
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BenGleck > John Malcholm 9 days ago
It's happened to me on more than one occasion that, upon parking far away from others in an isolated spot, I've returned to my
car only to find that someone parked right next to it, with nary another car anywhere nearby. The first time it happened, I
discovered that a brand-new pair of prescription sunglasses had fallen out of my jacket pocket as I exited my vehicle and landed
on the ground near my front tire. The driver of the other car, who just had to park next to me way out in the parking boondocks,
had driven right over the glasses and crushed them. Talk about being bewildered.
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The most interesting thing this article has to say is that a "jerk" dismisses the humanity of others. My New Years resolution is to be a
better person. Maybe a jerk's is to be a better jerk. As someone noted, jerks run the world. What amazes me is that in a jerk-run world,
we have not yet annihilated ourselves. Jerks rule; the rest of us tollerate the fool
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MrDrT > kyushuphil 13 days ago
I disagree, comrade. Many "all tenured in corporate academe" are jerks but not most. You seem to paint with a broad
brush. You might consider re-reading the article. Does such feedback cause you to see me, or anyone with a viewpoint
that diers from yours, as a jerk?
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MrDrT > kyushuphil 10 days ago
You mean stereotyping such as "all tenured in corporate academe" is the problem?
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Geo-Logic > Shlomoh Sherman 17 days ago
Perhaps an anti-Jerk New Years resolution might be to try to see the better aspects of the behaviours and personalities of other
folks.
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folks.
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My guess is that the really good jerks grab whatever they want so smoothly that the rest of us take too little notice to raise a fuss.
Those people bullying the help? They're bush-league jerks, or more likely, fairly normal people who are having a bad day.
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Fredrick Rehders > lindenman 14 days ago
Whoa, Lindenman! Bernie Mado is in jail and none of our politicians, past or in the foreseeable future, seem willing to take
on the real problem plaguing our nation... The Fraudulent Reserve... oh yeah, while The Untouchable FBI, lets Hitlery and
her partners-in-crime, continue to skate! "Bullying the help" "having a bad day", my ass!
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lindenman > Fredrick Rehders 14 days ago
Whoa yourself! Are we talking about jerks or crooks? I'm not sure I could sketch out an accurate Venn diagram o
the top of my head, but I can't believe the overlap is perfect. When I speak of accomplished jerks, I don't mean
people who break the law. I mean people who grab all the advantages that are technically up for grabs, the rest of
the world be damned. They manage to do it with such stealth or such panache that people either assume these
perks are their due, or that letting them have their way is the path of least resistance.
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Fredrick Rehders > lindenman 14 days ago
Great reply, sir! I see by your articulate explanation, my assumption was far afield, thinking it was possibly alluding
to Michael Brown of Ferguson, MO and those white collar villains, that always seem to maneuver through. I was just
being a snarky jerk... sorry 'bout that! FR
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Uninvited observation. . . Most criminals are also jerks because of their viewpoints and impulses described in the
article.
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LikeMe LikeYou > Shlomoh Sherman 5 days ago
"What amazes me is that in a jerk-run world, we have not yet annihilated ourselves." Give us time...
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Preben Kristensen > Shlomoh Sherman 20 days ago
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Lee Attiny 23 days ago
I'm pretty sure I'm not a jerk but its possible that's because I'm a complete asshole.
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Buttercup2 > Lee Attiny 13 days ago
LMAO.
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MrDrT > Lee Attiny 13 days ago
FA, If so, then you are a funny asshole. From here on I'll refer to you as "FA."
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Roger 22 days ago
It seems to me that the overall level of jerkitudiness (jerkitosity?) in society has increased in recent years. More and more people run
through red lights and don't even try to slow down for the orange lights; when you let people in to your lane, they rarely wave thanks;
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through red lights and don't even try to slow down for the orange lights; when you let people in to your lane, they rarely wave thanks;
many people don't say thanks when you hold the door open for them, etc. I hope the jerkitometer starts to register a decrease in societal
jerkitudiness soon.
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ApathyNihilism > Roger 21 days ago
It does seem that the trend is towards increasing jerkitude indeed. Electronic devices , narcissism, accelerating pace of life are
probably contributing factors.
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Eli > ApathyNihilism 18 days ago
I'm not sure I buy any relationship between electronic devices and jerkitude. I don't see it anecdotally, and I haven't seen
any studies.
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I think big city living also contributes to jerkitude increasing. I'm not fully sure why (anonymity, less fellow feeling, imported
culture from those raised in an even bigger city?).
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Roger > R Evans 19 days ago
I think all of those things (electronic devices, narcissism, big city living, etc.) contribute, but I think a large
component of the increasing jerkitudiness is less good parenting (or no parenting) recently, where parents don't
teach their kids to say please and thank you and to wait their turn. Like the old saying, common courtesy is like
grease. It helps make the wheels of society go around. Hopefully, someday it will get better?
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Roger, Roger.(as in "I agree, Roger). I will say I've encountered high definition jerks in the city, suburbs, and in the
country. I think it comes back to the cost-benefit ratio perceived by jerks and whose watching them. Comments like
"all successful business people are jerks" might compel jerks to gravitate to that career path or compel the
undecided in those roles to, unwisely, become jerks as a career-enhancing strategy.. Jerkiness is misunderstood as
a low-cost, high-benefit behavior when the impact on relationships is understood.. I've also noticed a lot of addicts
are jerks so they can sever relationships and free time for their entitlement-driven, addictive behaviors. Lots of
addicts and criminals are jerks...perhaps all of them.
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And, Roger back to you, MrDrT! :-) Successful business people, addicts and criminals. It seems like with the
money-grubbing, unseemly behavior of senior management and Wall Street lately, business people are doing
everything they can to put themselves in the jerk and criminal category. Actually, I know some, especially small,
business people who aren't jerks, but the many that are give them a bad name. Then, the rich and powerful wonder
why there's so much discontent in the country with the status quo.
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MrDrT > Roger 10 days ago
Maybe its a regional thing. Business people are pretty solid citizens here in Texas.
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SeekingFacts > Roger 9 days ago
When more people in this country used to have a "faith", meaning they were afraid there would be consequences for their actions
(example: Christian, or Hindu if you like), they were generally more considerate of their behavior toward other people (I know;
generalizing and discounting all the racism, right?). The less people believe there are eternal consequences, but instead only
short-term social consequences, the more jerkitude we will experience. Has anyone else made that correlation?
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Saying "no problem" to a thanks is a way for the considerate person to indicate that you have not put them out by asking
something of them, or accepting something that they have volunteered.
If they have been put out is when a thanks is truly necessary and deserved (or even when reciprocity should be
givenoered in more extreme cases).
At least that's what goes through my head when deciding on whether to say "No problem!" or "You're Welcome" after
helping someone.
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I think it is largely vernacular, though it is true and interesting that modern society as a whole has devolved from "my
pleasure" to "no problem."
That said, when I say "no problem" in answer to thanks, I generally mean a very casual "you're quite welcome." I think of it
as essentially equivalent to "de nada" in Spanish or "macht nichts" in German.
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DrGonzo7719 > ApathyNihilism 18 days ago
"What would you do if you knew you could get away with anything?" I would go around physically assaulting jerks. Does that
make me a jerk?
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