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A prayer for
the funny pages
l We last checked in with Dick Tracys Jewish partner Sam Catchem a year and a half
ago, in a short piece about a siddur app for
the newly launched Apple Watch. The Apple
Watch proved to be a marketplace disappointment, but not as problematic as Dick
Tracys fictional wrist wizard, which had to be
recalled, in a comic strip twist modeled after
the recent Samsung fiasco.
But thats not all that is sick in the cartoon
world created by Chester Gould 85 years ago.
In the latest plot twist, Sam Catchems wife,
Margie, has cancer.
It started with a lump. Then a doctor visit
and a biopsy. Now its chemo, Sam said in
Tuesdays strip.
He was speaking to leisure-suit-wearing
Rabbi Marmelstein, who promised Sam that
God listens to prayer, Samuel, and then proceeded to recite a transliterated misheberach
prayer that filled a double-sized panel.
If that seems like a lot of Hebrew for the
funny pages, you must have forgotten the run
five years ago, in which Rabbi Marmelstein was
introduced as Sams old army buddy before
lighting a Chanukah menorah and reciting the
blessing over the Chanukah candle in both
transliteration and footnoted translation.
Who said comics arent educational?
Larry Yudelson

Couture war heats up in Knesset


l So much for skirting the law.
Dozens of female aides to Israeli lawmakers showed up to work at the Knesset in short skirts to protest the enforcement of an institutional dress code.
At least nine aides reportedly were
refused entrance to the Knesset on
Wednesday because guards told them
their hems were too high.
The protest came after at least two
parliamentary aides were detained for
violating the Knessets dress code. The
code is not new but its enforcement has
been beefed up in the last few weeks.
Lawmaker Manuel Trajtenberg of the
Zionist Union party reportedly removed
his jacket and shirt and tried to enter
the Knesset in his undershirt to support
the women.

Youll all have to wear burkas! he


reportedly warned them.
Female Knesset guards have been
tasked with enforcing the dress code
after the Knesset director-general,
Albert Saharovitch, issued a paper
refreshing it about a month ago. The
Knesset spokesman said the dress code
was not made any stricter, but that
guards have been instructed to enforce
it in order to prevent offense to any
visitors and guests.
According to the Knessets website,
entrance to the Knesset is permitted
only in appropriate attire (no tank/
spaghetti tops, cropped tops, shorts
or 3/4 length trousers, ripped trousers, shirts with political slogans, short
skirts and shorts dresses, flip-flops or

open-back clogs). The rules apply to


people 14 or older.
One aide told the Jerusalem Post
that a guard said skirts could not be
more than two inches above the knee,
though that requirement is not spelled
out in the code.
The labor union representing the legislative aides reportedly has protested
the enforcement of the dress code.
Some lawmakers argue that their
aides clothes are fashionable and appropriate. I completely support the
protest of the parliamentary aides
because it is a battle that concerns all

of us, the struggle not to be measured


according to the length of the skirt,
said Zionist Union lawmaker Meirav
Michaeli, whose aide was barred from
the building last week, in an interview
with Haaretz. I am in favor of respectable appearance, but we must differentiate between respectable appearance
and modest appearance. Dress code
cannot be an outmoded method for
objectifying women.
The Knesset spokesman told reporters that the protest was nothing more
than an orchestrated provocation that
disrespected everyone. JTA Wire Service

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Noshes

My favorite latke variety to make is my


variation using rutabaga and turnip.
Thats from kosher food blogger Yosef Silver. Oh, and dont fry them either, he
said. Its far healthier if you dont. And if you have to eat donuts, bake them. Yes,
the eight days of Chanukah will be far more joyous without fried food, wont they?
(Sob)

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La La Land headed
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The romantic
musical La La
Land has
received major kudos
from critics and is a
big-time Oscar contender. Its co-stars, Ryan
Gosling and Emma
Stone, seem well cast.
They had real romantic
chemistry in Crazy,
Stupid, Love (2011).
When their La La
characters meet, hes a
jazz musician working in
dives and shes an
aspiring actress/barista
trying to survive. They
fall in love, but as they
become successful, that
success starts tearing
them apart. JASON
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was raised chasidic, has a
smallish supporting role.
(Opens Friday, Dec. 16.)
The film was written
and directed by Damian
Chazelle, best known for
his 2014 film Whiplash.
It was about the relationship between a young
Jewish jazz student and
his hard-driving instructor. It was nominated
for five Oscars and won
three. In 2015, Chazelle
told the Jewish Journal
of Los Angeles that his
Catholic parents were
dissatisfied with his
church Sunday school
so instead they sent him
to Hebrew school for
four years. About those
four years, Chazelle said:
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Hebrew and then I went
with my class to Israel
when we were in the
sixth grade. I dont think

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Jewish; I was, like, passing.
Chazelle met JUSTIN
HURWITZ, 31, the La
La Land film composer,
at Harvard, and there
they formed a nationally successful rock band
called Chester-French.
Hurwitz wrote 15 songs
for La La; some are
full production numbers. The lyrics for these
songs were written by
the songwriting team
of Justin Paul and BENJ
PASEK, 31. Pasek and
Paul met at orientation at
the University of Michigan and quickly hit it off,
despite different backgrounds. Pauls father
is a Protestant minister
and Pasek comes from
a quite religious Jewish
home. Theyve written
several shows together,
including the Broadway
hit musical version of A
Christmas Story. This
is the first time that this
team, which normally
writes their own complete songs, has written
only the songs lyrics, not
the music.
Actress Helen
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about the film
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which opens Dec. 16: It
will be either a complete
disaster, will fall onto the
rock and crash and burn
or it will be kind of
wonderful and very
special. Will Smith plays
Howard, a successful
New York ad executive
who falls into a profound

Justin Hurwitz

Benj Pasek

David Frankel

Allan Loeb

depression when his


6-year-old daughter
suddenly dies. His
partner (Naomie Harris)
and colleagues (Kate
Winslet, Michael Pea)
are worried about his
strange behavior and
pretty soon we learn
through their conversations that Howard is
writing and mailing the
kind of letters that a
child would send to
Santa Claus, asking for
answers except his
letters are addressed to
Love, Death, and
Time. Not long into the
film, Love, Death, and
Time take on human
form (played by, respectively, Keira Knightley,
Mirren, and Jacob
Lattimore) and they talk
to Howard.
The film was directed

by DAVID FRANKEL,
57 (The Devil Wears
Prada). Hes the son of
MAX FRANKEL, 86, the
former chief editor of the
New York Times. The film
was written by ALLAN
LOEB, 47, who has written hits and flops (hits
include 21, a film about
gambling, and Wall
Street: Money Never
Sleeps; flops include the
musical Rock of Ages).
Loeb began screenwriting in 1993, but nobody
would turn his scripts
into a movie until 2007.
Meanwhile, Loeb compulsively gambled away
every penny he made.
Maybe Loeb believes
in miracles because in
2005 he got help and
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Full STEAM ahead
Maayanot shows students careers in science, engineering, and design
Larry Yudelson

he synagogue at Maayanot
Yeshiva High School for Girls in
Teaneck was made over into a
party space last Thursday, with
disco balls, loud music, glow lights, and
dancing.
All this was the setting for the schools
STEAM talks short presentations from
women working in the fields of science,
technology, engineering, the arts, or
mathematics.
Dance music.
Then a talk.
Then a video from one of the schools
alumnae.
Repeat.
It wasnt rocket science until Estelle
Anselmo took the stage.
Ms. Anselmo is chief engineer at Arde
Inc. in Carlstadt, which builds pressure
vessels for space craft. A pressure vessel is a container that holds high pressure
gas that provides fuel for a rocket, she
explained.
She pointed to a picture of a rocket projected on the screen behind her. That
part sitting up in the top of that spacecraft
is something I touched, something I built,
and now it is sitting on Mars, she said. It
was designed six miles from here.
Her message and the message of her
fellow speakers was simple: The young
women of Maayanot should dare to dream
of exciting, creative careers.
I wish something like this existed for
me when I was in high school, she said. I
had no idea what I was going to do. I didnt
even know what an engineer is.

I happened to like math and science.


Somebody said I should be an engineer so
I said, all right, Ill major in engineering.
Somehow I just kept doing it. Every time
I was faced with something I didnt know
how to do, I went out and read about it.
There are five companies within 25
miles from here that support the space
industry and national defense. Every
day the people working there enjoy that
moment where they can solve a problem
and go from a piece of paper to a piece of
hardware.
The engineers she manages at Arde
take piles of requirements, sift through
them, figure out how they can make our
little product anywhere from four inches
to four feet in diameter to meet all the
requirements, very lightly, so it can get
into space. We sit there redesigning until
the product works.
We can say we are rocket scientists,
she said.
Maayanots principal, Rivka Kahan,
opened the talks by citing a teaching of
Rabbi Joseph Soloveitchik, the Yeshiva University Talmudist known as the Rav.
In the eyes of the Rav, our task in this
world as ovdot Hashem servants of God
is to create, she said.
There are so many ways you can innovate and create and improve our world,
she told her students. This program will
widen your mind to the ways you can create in this world.
That message was echoed by all the
speakers.
No matter where you start, including
here in Teaneck, you can do and be anything you want, Michelle Sohn said. Ms.

After the talks, Maayanot students look at exhibits, including work by students
from the Bergen Academies.
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Maayanots principal, Rivka Kahan, introduces the speakers.

Sohn grew up in Teaneck and studied


at the Yavneh Academy and the Frisch
School before going to Boston University
and then earning a masters in manufacturing engineering from Columbia.
She is vice president of product development at OXO, which makes kitchen
tools and other household goods. I collaborate with designers and engineers to
come up with ideas for kitchen gadgets,
she said. At the same time I manage the
kitchen gadget business to make sure its
profitable.
To illustrate the impact product design
can have, she displayed a slide with a picture of two door handles. One was a regular doorknob. The other was a door lever
which is much easier to open. If youre
holding all your books, you can get it with
your elbow.
Ms. Sohn said her path to engineering began when I was little. I was one
of those Lego kids. I was very fascinated
with the book The Way Things Work.
Physics was my favorite class in high
school. In college my favorite class was
called visual thinking. Im excellent in
knowing which Tupperware to pull out
to fit the leftovers.
Her advice to the students: Do what
you love. We think about being wives,
about being Mommy, but we need to be

people as well, so choose something thats


going to make you happy.
Elianna Kaplowitz graduated Maayanot
in 2009 and went to Barnard. She is a clinical research coordinator at the Hospital for
Special Surgery in Manhattan.
I love my job, she said in a video presentation. I coordinate all aspects of
research in my particular department,
which studies hip and knee replacements.
I started loving science when I was at
Maayanot. My job combines my love for
research and for improving the health of
individuals.
Dr. Chavi Eve Karkowsky spoke about
her role as a maternal-fetal medical specialist, or high-risk obstetrician.
Its the best job ever, she said.
She went to a yeshiva high school in
Maryland, and then to Yale for college.
Coming from the modern Orthodox
world, a lot of people told me not to go
there, she said. I was very happy I did.
After college, she didnt know what she
wanted to do. She considered becoming a rabbi, and studied in Jerusalem at
the Hebrew University and the Hartman
Institute. But I found out Im no good at
having unstructured time, so I went to the
Mount Sinai School of Medicine, she said.
Being an obstetrician has a bit of the
rabbinate to it. I am with people at their

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happiest and saddest
moments. I can fix problems. Im always learning,
always thinking, always
teaching, she said.
Jordie Gilbert-Honick
graduated Maayanot in
2008 and is a Ph.D. candidate in biomedical engineering at Johns Hopkins
University. My specialty
is making skeletal muscle
constructs, she said.
When people think
about science, very often they think about
what they learned in school and view it as
static and not changing, she said. In my
job I feel the fluid and dynamic nature of science. We will develop the science that will
be studied in school in the next generation.
Her Maayanot education helped her.
My first computer coding class was a
foreign language, and solving the problems was challenging, she said. My
first instinct was to give up. Then I realized I had faced similar challenges in high
school. I had learned Gemara, which
repeatedly challenged me to think creatively in a foreign language.
Remember you can do this, she told
the students. My best advice is to be

Her message and the


message of her fellow
speakers was simple:
The young women of
Maayanot should dare
to dream of exciting,
creative careers.
resilient. There will be bumps along the
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The more I studied about human physiology, chemistry, and physics, the more
I realized I regarded the human body as
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reward; something no money can buy.
She concluded by urging the students
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Webinar on BRCA genetic testing


Updates in a rapidly moving field from Sharsheret
Miryam Z. Wahrman, Ph.D.

wenty six years ago, a scientist by the name of Mary-Claire


King reported the discovery of
a gene, BRCA1, whose mutant
forms increase the risk of breast and
ovarian cancer. A second gene, BRCA2,
which also is associated with increased
risk of cancer, was identified a few years
later.
The discovery of specific human genes
linked to cancer promoted the development of genetic screening tests for those
genes. The field has moved forward rapidly, raising the issues of who should be
screened. And once someone is found to
have cancer-associated genes, what can
be done to reduce the risk?
These are particularly compelling
issues for women of Ashkenazi Jewish
descent, as BRCA mutations are found at
a much higher frequency in that population. New recommendations on BRCA
screening and their implications will
be discussed at a webinar hosted by
Sharsheret, an organization that provides
services for young women of Jewish backgrounds who are dealing with breast and
ovarian cancer. The webinar, scheduled
for December 20 from 8 to 9 p.m., will
include presentations by Peggy Cottrell,
Sharsherets genetics program coordinator, and Shera Dubitsky, its director of
navigation and support services.

According to the Centers for Disease


Control, while one in 500 people in the
U.S. general population has a cancerrelated mutation in BRCA1 or BRCA2,
one out of 40 Ashkenazi Jews carry such
a mutation. About 50 percent of women
with BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutations will
develop breast cancer by the time they
reach 70, compared with 7 percent of
the general population; 30 percent of
women with such mutations may get
ovarian cancer by the time they are 70,
compared with less than one percent of
the general population.
In light of these numbers it makes
sense for all people of Ashkenazi Jewish ancestry to think about having testing done, Ms. Cottrell said. Ms. Cottrell,
who has been a genetic counselor for the
last 14 years, has observed changes in
recommendations as new discoveries are
made and genetic mechanisms are better
understood. The new recommendations,
that all Ashkenazi Jews men as well as
women be tested, are one example of
such a change.
Ms. Cottrell explained that in the past,
BRCA testing was recommended for
families with a history of breast and/or
ovarian cancer. There seems to be more
support from the experts to test all Ashkenazi Jews, regardless of family history,
but we need financial support by the
insurance companies, she said.
Genetic tests can be expensive, so

What: A webinar, BRCA Genetic Testing: Understanding the Physical, Emotional,


and Financial Challenges
When: Tuesday, December 20, from 8 to 9 p.m.
Who: Presented by Sharsheret, it will feature presentations by Peggy Cottrell,
Sharsherets genetics program coordinator, and Shera Dubitsky, its director of
navigation and support services. A question and answer session will follow.
To register: Go to www.sharsheret.org, call (866) 474-2774, or email
webinar@sharsheret.org.
For more information: Email Sharsherets support program coordinator,
Shira Kravitz, at skravitz@sharsheret.org.
If you cant make the webinar: After the live webcast, the presentation will be
archived on Sharsherets website for future access.
Who funded it: Medivation, Inc., Myriad Genetics, Inc., and Cooperative Agreement
DP14-1408 from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Elana Silber

Peggy Cottrell

insurance companies may be reluctant


to pay for them. Identifying women at
high risk for cancer can lead to earlier
and more effective treatments, however,
and in the long run that reduces costs
for health insurance companies and
improves outcomes for patients.
One option for testing is offered by the
program for Jewish genetic health at the
Albert Einstein College of Medicine in the
Bronx, which offers low cost BRCA testing and genetic counseling for people
of Ashkenazi ancestry. According to its
website, The genetics team at Montefiore Medical Center, in conjunction with
the Program for Jewish Genetic Health,
is now offering BRCA mutation testing
at a subsidized rate for interested individuals as part of a research initiative.
Participants must be 25 or older, have
at least one Ashkenazi Jewish grandparent, and have not already been tested
for BRCA mutations. A nominal fee of
$100 is charged, which may be covered by insurance. (See http://einstein.
yu.edu/centers/jewish-genetic-health/
brca-community-study/)
Ms. Cottrell said that it is important to understand that BRCA testing is

screening for something that really has


an impact on your life and your health.
Its not like testing for Tay Sachs or other
recessive Jewish genetic diseases. Its a
much bigger deal. Someone who carries a recessive form of a disease gene
like Tay Sachs does not develop the disease. Couples in which both husband
and wife carry the recessive gene are at
risk of having a child with the disease,
but through genetic counseling they can
learn about options to help them have
healthy children.
But because BRCA acts in a dominant
fashion, a person testing positive for a
BRCA mutation faces the lifelong issue
of dealing with a higher risk of cancer.
In this case knowledge is power, as
BRCA positive people can make choices
and take steps to significantly reduce
the risks.
Ms. Cottrell said that direct-to-consumer genetic testing has led to people
who have no family history of these cancers inadvertently discovering they have
a BRCA mutation. If they did [genetic
testing] as a lark, but find something significant, it comes out of nowhere, she
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information. If its not in your family history, you
might be the first person to get breast cancer, she
said. Those are the people were looking to help.
Ms. Cottrell said that the webinar includes a
presentation by Shera Dubitsky, a psychologist at
Sharsheret, who will address the psychosocial
impact of someone who doesnt have family history finding out they are a carrier.
The webinar is one component of our educational program, Sharsherets executive director, Elana Silber, said. There are 12 national programs, and we tailor programs to meet the needs
of women who reach out to us. Some examples
of programs developed by Sharsheret include peer
support programs, survivorship navigation, and
programs for young parents with breast or ovarian cancer.
Weve had the opportunity to speak to thousands of women at increased risk or living with
breast cancer in their family, Ms. Silber said.
While Sharsherets target is the Jewish community, those outside the Jewish community are also
reaching out to us. We are a national organization
[with a mission to] share information with women
across the country, if not across the world.
Ms. Silber reported that the organization,
founded by cancer survivor and visionary Rochelle
Shoretz in 2001, has grown to three offices around
the country, with headquarters in Teaneck and
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Torah transcends denomination


Local woman oversees videos that help bring meaning to text
Exodus You Almost Passed Over. But her
main focus is the videos there are now
In the week before Chanukah, approxiabout 250 of them.
mately 15,000 people from across the globe
I dont think of myself as a creative person, Ms. Stern said. I manage the calendar
are expected to click on any of five short
and schedule on a daily basis, editing outanimated holiday courses available at Aleph
lines and scripts and helping to shape Rabbi
Beta Academy, lured by such teasing titles
Fohrmans ideas with other staffers. I guide
as Reindeer and Latkes: Arent The Winter
the conversation and make suggestions to
Holidays Suspiciously Similar?
push it forward. Then I work with audio and
Rabbi David Fohrman founded Aleph
video editors on every detail; it could be that
Beta (alephbeta.org) in 2011; his goal was to
a scene needs to be more emotional, or a
help people discover satisfying answers to
word is missing an apostrophe, or the colors
lifes questions through intellectually and
arent consistent from one frame to another.
emotionally engaging videos that delve into
Although she attends an Orthodox synaTorah text. Some 550 paying subscribers
gogue near her home in upper Manhattan
include people from every stream of Judaism
and observes Shabbat and kashrut, Ms. Stern
and other religions, in addition to Jewish day
prefers not to use denominational labels.
and supplemental schools.
I believe Torah transcends denominaIn the offices of the Long Island-based nonprofit, its executive producer, Bergen County
tion, she said.
native Rivky Stern, oversees a complex and
The Aleph Beta approach she espouses
fast-paced production process involving
is not geared to outreach or preaching, she
scriptwriters, animators, videographers,
explained. The goal is to forge a connection
video editors, and Jewish educators headed
with the biblical text to reattach ourselves
by Rabbi Fohrman.
to the book written by God and conseMs. Stern, 29, grew up in Bergenfield and
quently to gain a sense of meaning in Jewish
attended the Moriah School in Englewood and
living, whether or not you follow its dictates.
the Frisch School in Paramus. After two years
While formal Jewish education in the
at Midreshet Harova, a religious Zionist semiUnited States generally is understood to be
nary in Jerusalem, she majored in Africana
facing two major crises the cost of tuition
studies (the history, politics, and cultures of
and the failure to produce adults who can
peoples of African origin in Africa and the
engage fully with Hebrew textual sources
African diaspora) at Johns Hopkins University
Ms. Stern says the more fundamental crisis
and spent a semester abroad in Ghana.
is the failure to impart meaning and purpose.
Ms. Stern was active in her campus Hillel
If you marry another Jew without a comRivky Stern 
Lisa Pasternak
pelling reason to do so, youre just being racand led a couple of Israel Outdoors Birthright trips, leading her to ponder a career in
ist and youre not continuing to pass down
informal Jewish education that was not limthe legacy from Abraham and Moses, she
ited to an Orthodox environment.
said. Youre not fulfilling any sort of mission
The direction she was seeking became
to make the world a better place.
clear during a long drive to a wedding in
Judaism isnt just about the Holocaust or
Atlanta the summer after her junior year.
bagels. Judaism has to be about something
Her carpool mates asked if she wouldnt
real. So our goal at Aleph Beta is to impart
mind passing the hours in transit by listenthe meaning that we think is inherent in
ing to an audio course on the biblical book
Judaism and that meaning can be found in
of Jonah taught by Rabbi Fohrman, formerly
serious textual study of the Bible.
an adjunct lecturer at Johns Hopkins and
Ms. Stern acknowledges that watching a
lead writer and editor for ArtScrolls Talmud
video or two will not magically enhance your
translation project.
relationship with God or change you into a
By the time they arrived in Atlanta, Ms.
better spouse, parent, or coworker. But, she
Stern felt transformed.
said, I think regularly learning Torah this
His presentation was so impactful not
way makes you a better person.
only because it was the most compelling
When Rabbi Fohrman finds new meanScreenshot from the most recent Aleph Beta Chanukah video. It illustrates a
ings in texts I think that does make him a
read of this book that Id ever heard but
Talmudic story about Adams fear that the first winter heralded the destrucbetter father and husband, and a better boss
because it was so relevant, she said. All the
tion of the world.
to me. I think Im a nicer person because of
tools and methodology Rabbi Fohrman used
Torah. Too often religion is used as a negative
in his textual analysis directly translated into
tool, but Torah is a guidebook for how to live your life to
why the book of Jonah has meaning for me now, as it has
opportunity to work with Rabbi Fohrman. Before long she
create a better world.
for people throughout time. I felt I should be leading my
was promoted to content and production manager, finally
We need to make it relevant and compelling to
life a little differently for having learned this.
becoming executive producer in February 2016. For the
everyone.
I was transformed in the way I thought about Bible.
first three years she also worked for 10 hours a week as an
Ms. Stern said that the comments and emails the comAfter graduating from college in 2011, Ms. Stern took
informal Jewish educator at New York University through
pany receives from subscribers of all ages and faiths valia job at Cool Kippahs, a division of Judaica House in
the Orthodox Unions Jewish Learning Initiative on Campus program.
date the Aleph Beta philosophy and keep her enthusiastic
Teaneck. In August 2012 a friend told her about a sales job
Ms. Stern has a hand in every product created at Aleph
about her job. I feel privileged when I come into work
opening at Aleph Beta.
Beta, including Rabbi Fohrmans most recent book, The
every day, she said. How many people can say that?
Sales didnt really float her boat, but she jumped at the

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Making It Home
Tenafly woman brings together furniture for new lives
So now they have apartments, and emotional and financial support, and they want
to start their lives again, but how can
you start fresh in a white box? Ms. Massarsky said. Thats where Making It Home
comes in. Technically people cant chose
their furniture that would be a logistical
nightmare but we ask them what they
would like, and we try to accommodate.
Most people, with rare exceptions, are so
thrilled to have anything at all.
Basically, we walk into completely empty
apartments, with not even a square of toilet
paper they just get a voucher for a bed so
they are so thrilled to have somebody come
in and give them something to sit on.
AJ Luna is the director of veteran ser-

Joanne Palmer
There were two seemingly unconnected
problems that Cynthia Massarsky of
Tenafly addressed with one masterstroke.
The first is her understanding that it is
hard to make an empty room into a home.
It takes stuff tables, chairs, couches,
shelves to take a barren space and transform it into a place that can support, even
nourish, life. The people who find themselves in such bare spaces often are at
points in their lives where such support is
necessary if they are to make it, Ms. Massarsky learned.
The second was her need to take the
skill, drive, and ambition that had fueled
her career as a consultant into her new
post-retirement life and do something that
matters.
Making It Home, her new nonprofit venture, is the organization that grew out of
those two problems. Ms. Massarsky created it to bring furniture to low-income
disabled veterans and all sort of other folks
who are in need and dont have anything
to sleep in or eat on. Its a public/private
partnership, now part of the Bergen Volunteer Center in Hackensack.
Ms. Massarsky spent much of her career
at the intersection between public and private enterprises. Shes worked in marketing for nonprofits including Save the Children, Covenant House, and the National
Council for Jewish Women, to pick almost
at random from a very long list of very
good causes. She started her own firm,
CWM Marketing Group, in 1990; before
that, she worked in the profit sector at
Scholastic Books and even before that (in
a startling blast from the very sadly nearly
forgotten past), in the nonprofit world, on
Marlo Thomass Free To Be Foundation.
So when Hurricane Sandy hit, three
years ago, the not-yet-retired Ms. Massarsky decided that she had to do something
to help, and that she had the skills to tackle
a part of the problem that others had not
addressed. She was very good at putting
companies together with people who
could not afford their wares but needed
them desperately nonetheless. I got Bobs
Discount Furniture to provide free furniture to a family whose house was devastated by the storm, and who had two kids
with disabilities, she said.
From there, she helped furnish garden
apartments in Tenafly for people with disabilities. The neat aspect was that I created a gift registry, and people could go
online and order a piece of furniture,
she said. It was funded by donors. She got
word out about the project by blanketing
Tenafly the town where she has lived
for 35 years, and which she loves with
postcards describing the need and the
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Cynthia Massarsky at the wheel.


solution. It worked.
It was the opposite of Not In My Backyard, she said proudly. The impulse
wasnt to shove away the existence of this
project. Instead, it was Lets show everybody what a great community we are.
Those were discrete tasks, though, and
shed been semi-retired then anyway.
What next?
When I started looking for my next
project, I realized that during the previous ones I had gotten so many calls from
people who had used furniture, she said.
People wanted to keep their furniture
out of landfills; they didnt want to throw
it away. But they were redecorating or
downsizing. They asked me if people with
disabilities could use the furniture, and I
had to say no. Not then.
The idea percolated, though.
I kept getting calls from town residents,
from children of seniors, or from realtors
selling the houses of people who had died.
Theyd say, Oh my God, Im stuck with a
houseful of furniture.
Ms. Massarsky realized that in fact she
could work with this furniture after all.
And this is the project Im sticking with,
she said.
People send us pictures of furniture,
and if it looks like its going to work if
its in good shape we gather a troop of
volunteers, which includes police officers
and people who work for moving companies, who do this gratis.
Shes surprised and touched by how
enthusiastic police officers can be about
her work. They have what we need,
she said. They have trucks, they have

muscles, they are community-service oriented, and they have days off.
So we find the volunteers, and we coordinate with them and get the furniture.
But what to do with it? Furniture is not
only heavy, its big and bulky and often
has to be stored. Its not as if furniture gets
picked up from one house and deposited
directly in another. Westy Self-Storage is
a family-owned business that operates in
New Jersey, Connecticut, Long Island, and
New York. They give us complimentary
space, and they schlep the stuff in and out
of the warehouse.
Thats what makes it work.
Its not like what we do is such an
incredibly new idea, but most nonprofits
cant handle either the logistics or the storage piece.
How did she do it? I just went in and
asked, she said. I just said we need space.
Im not shy, she added, unnecessarily.
The other half of the equation is the people who will live with the new furniture.
On the client end, we work with the countys Housing Health and Human Services
Center in Hackensack, she said. The center includes a homeless shelter, an awardwinning shelter, and the people who run it
are amazing, Ms. Massarsky said. They
give us the names of clients who are leaving the shelter and are renting apartments.
The center also helps clients get entitlements, Section 8 vouchers, all sorts of help
they didnt know they could get, she added.
Most of the clients with whom she works are
disabled and cannot hold down jobs, but the
center helps them realize that they can live,
and not have to live on the streets.

Its not like what


we do is such an
incredibly new
idea, but most
nonprofits cant
handle either the
logistics or the
storage piece.
vices at Bergen Countys division of veteran services, and not coincidentally a veteran himself. Mr. Luna tells a story about
one particular client of Making It Home,
a 74-year old disabled veteran on a fixed
income who had lived in an apartment
in Woodbridge until the house was foreclosed and he was forced out. He ended
up in the shelter, Mr. Luna said. Eventually, the county found another apartment
for him, this time in Lyndhurst.
I connected with Cynthia, and they got
him a bedroom set and a kitchen table and
chairs. They set him up pretty nice, Mr.
Luna said. The Lyndhurst police department moved him.
Cynthia has been tremendous, Mr.
Luna said. I like working with her. She
is a go-getter, and an example for all
of us about working together for the
community.
Ms. Massarsky, who is Jewish, said this
work she has chosen to do is major tikkun
olam. Its repairing the world. It is bringing
an entire community together to do good,
without any expectation of anything in
return.
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Working toward civility


Local philanthropist, Israeli group work in different ways for a renewed sense of hope
Joanne Palmer

o matter what you think of


the outcome of the presidential election, it is clear that it
has roiled a sense of unease,
disorder, and prickling discomfort that
is new to most Americans. Its stirred up
anti-Semitism, which always has been
under the surface, we realize, but has
not been socially acceptable for decades
until now.
As Time magazines cover put it when
it named President-elect Donald J. Trump
its person of the year, he will take over the
leadership of the Divided States of America. Very often during this last year, we
have not seemed to be One nation, indivisible. We are not only divisible, we are
extraordinarily divided.
That bothers many people, including
philanthropist Angelica Berrie of Englewood. She believes, however, that we will
not be stuck in this dismal situation forever, and that it is up to women to lead the
way out of it.
In a post on her blog, angelicaberrie2013.blogspot.com, Ms. Berrie talks
about her hope in the power of women
to effect change. She cites a few groups as
examples; one of those groups is the Israeli
one called Women Wage Peace.
Ms. Berrie begins by talking about the
power that unarmed, sincere, earnest,
faithful people can have on their oppressors. Not always, to be sure; it often
depends on whom those oppressors or
their agents are. But sometimes.

Ms. Berrie, who has become Jewish, is a


powerful force in the local Jewish community. She is closely allied with the liberal
Orthodox thinker and leader Rabbi Donniel Hartman, who now heads the Jerusalem-based Shalom Hartman Institute
begun by his father, Rabbi David Hartman,
but also spent many years teaching at the
Kaplen JCC on the Palisades in Tenafly.
Ms. Berrie grew up Catholic in the Philippines, though, and one of her formative
experiences was standing with her classmates, all girls, in front of the tanks of
President Ferdinand Marcos, armed only
with rosaries and hope. The girls survived,
and eventually Marcoss regime fell.
Ma rc o s wa s ove r t h row n by a

A marcher celebrates in the Women Wage Peace walk to Jerusalem.


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Vivan Silver

Angelica Berrie

women wage peace

completely peaceful movement, Ms. Berrie said. We were able to depose him. It
was grassroots, completely intuitive, with
nothing organized or rigid about it.
Although most women around the
world are poor, Ms. Berrie said, women in
the United States control 60 percent of private wealth. Although the words women
and power rarely are used together, she
continued, when women reach across
divides to work together, their power can
be palpable.
This election has galvanized the country, she said. Whether we do or do not like
the outcome, it has made activists of all of
us. Look at the success of the Trump campaign. And Trumps women opponents are
planning a huge march on Washington the
day after he is inaugurated; it has been put
together not by professional organizers but
by energized people, and it is planned to be
peaceful but highly visible.
We are all completely awake, and you
cant put us back to sleep now, Ms. Berrie
said. We are looking for a way to channel
that energy. The question is how we organize, what we stand up for, how we stand
up, and how we build coalitions.
She sees some hope. Right now, our
community has been so divided because
of Israel, which puts us at odds with other
communities that used to be our allies,
Ms. Berrie said. We marched in Selma
with the African American community, we
were allies with the gay community, but
now everyone sides with the Palestinians,
even if they know that the Palestinians
would kill gay people. It is so unnatural.
But now, we have shared values. They
will try to pull us apart, but we have to find
a way to come together.
The presidential campaign laid bare
some of the ugly truths weve glossed
over, she added. We sort of sat back on
our haunches, nothing was

threatening us, things were going okay, so


we didnt have to do much. The election
has made us more aware of the inequality of economics in our country. The gap
between rich and poor is so great that you
cant be blind to it, but weve all been living in a little cocoon.
Philanthropy is my work, so I have to
look at those outside the cocoon, but we
here have had a relatively comfortable life
in New Jersey and New York. We forget
that there are people who have lost their
jobs, dont have health care, dont have
much education, dont have skills, dont
have much hope. We cant just say this all
will be solved by a new president.
We have to be responsible for our
neighbors. We are our brothers keepers. There are some forces for democracy
that cant be controlled. If the desire for
democracy comes from the highest purpose, if it comes from a place of integrity
and principles and justice and humanistic
values, then it becomes a groundswell and
you cant keep it down.
So I am not depressed now. At the end
of the day, I believe, goodness will prevail.
But we have to do our part.
In her post, Ms. Berrie mentions extraordinary movements led by extraordinary
women who did not know their own

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power until they had to. Women of Liberia Mass Action for Peace ended a civil war
in Liberia; its founder, Leymah Gbowee,
received a Nobel Peace Prize for her work.
And the Northern Irish Peace People, led
by Mairead Corrigan and Betty Williams,
two housewives personally affected by
the violence, managed to stop the war in
northern Ireland. Ms. Corrigan and Ms.
Williams also both won Nobels.
And then there is Women Wage Peace,
the Israeli group Ms. Berrie mentioned in
her post.
Vivian Silver, an Israeli who made aliyah from Winnipeg 43 years ago, lived on
Kibbutz Gezer for 16 years, and has been
a member of Kibbutz Beeri since 1990, is
active in Women Wage Peace. We were
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Civility
from page 14

founded two years ago, in the summer of 2014, as a result


of the last war in Gaza, Ms. Silver said. I live right on the
border of the Gaza Strip. Everyone here was tremendously
affected by this war, just as we were by the two previous
wars in Gaza. But this one was over the top.
Over the top? I mean that it went on for a very long
time, and people were killed in the area, and people were
wounded. Two kibbutz members were killed, and another
became a double amputee. It all seemed endless, and it
seemed as if there would only be continuous wars. That
the government had decided that for some reason the status quo not only was acceptable, but that it was better
than any alternative.
And then women from across the country started getting together and saying no. This is not acceptable. We
dont want to live like this. We dont want our children to
sacrifice their lives. This does not bring security.
The whole rationale for Women Wage Peace is to
change the basic concept, to acknowledge that continued
wars were not going to bring security, so what would bring
security is a political agreement.
But, she stressed, Women Wage Peace is different from
most groups and very unlike what most people would
expect in that it is foundationally not a protest movement, Ms. Silver said.
We are an advocacy movement. We will be the first to
stand by our prime ministers side, no matter who it is
Netanyahu, Liberman, Herzog, Livni when they receive
the Nobel Peace Prize.
We dont have any other agenda. Our agenda is not to
bring about the downfall of the government. It is to see
that whatever government that is in power reaches a political agreement.
She is not nave. It will not be easy. That means
changing the language that we use, she said. It means
reaching masses of people, so that we have a critical
mass that will allow us to have the impact that we need
to bring about change.
But it is necessary. Protest movements remain tiny
because they are ideologically pure, she said. They take
whatever position they have, and they stick to it.
There are some similarities between the language
Ms. Silver uses and what we hear in the United States,
although the stakes are different. The biggest enemy

Leymah Gbowee of Liberia, who won a Nobel Peace Prize, addresses the crowd in Jerusalem after the
Women Wage Peace march.

we have is despair, she said. Hopelessness. The feeling that nothing can change. That nothing will change.
In October, Women Wage Peace held a march.
Twenty thousand people, most of them women,
walked from near Jericho to Jerusalem. 1,000 Palestinian women participated, Ms. Silver said. The
buses that brought the women there were funded by
the Palestinian Authority, and that is extraordinary,
at a time when any Palestinian doing any kind of outreach to the Israeli side is denigrated, and immediately
accused of normalization.
But as pleased as she was by the Palestinian womens
participation, we are not a joint Palestinian-Israeli
movement, she said. We are an Israeli movement. Our
target population is within Israel. We are not looking for
international support to pressure our government. We
want to work from within, and the only way to do that is
by growing our numbers.
We want Israeli Jews and Arabs and Druze, we want
people from the right and the left, we want the religious

The march, a nonpartisan call for peace, went from Jericho to Jerusalem in October.
16 Jewish Standard DECEMBER 16, 2016

and the secular. We want those who live in Tel Aviv and
those who live in the periphery. We cross all traditional
ideological lines.
Of course, its easier to say this than to accomplish it.
It is a very slow process, Ms. Silver said. But they are
working with some settlers, and hope to attract more.
We use the movie Pray the Devil Back to Hell, she
said. Its a documentary by Abigail Disney that shows
the ways that Liberian women ended the civil war in
their country.
We screened that movie in parlor meetings all over
the country, she said; the more they showed it, the
more people they attracted. Eventually, the woman at
its heart, Leymah Gbowee, went to Israel and marched
with Women Wage Peace.
I have been a peace activist for 45 years, but I have
never experienced anything like I am experiencing now,
Ms. Silver concluded. Thats because we are not following the same pattern as the other movements.
We are not coming up with a particular solution and
fighting for it. We are purposely saying that it doesnt matter what the solution is as long as it is acceptable to both
sides.
That forces her and her colleagues to be particularly
careful about language. We dont ever say occupation,
she said.
We are under attack by everyone. The left is very critical, because it seems that we are too bland, and we dont
have a position. We are pushing to meet with women in
settlements. Women on the right have the problem of
defending working with what would typically be considered a left-wing organization.
But it is because the organization is neither right- nor
left-wing, in fact no wing at all, that the women hope eventually to win peace. Compromises are hard, but they are
necessary, and peace is the goal.
So it makes sense that Angelica Berrie can take inspiration from an organization like Women Wage Peace and
she and we confront the fact that whether we like it
or not and the fact that some of us like it and some of
us do not the world around us has changed. It is up to
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Scavenger hunts from Teaneck


Young entrepreneurs send
college students running for prizes
Liz Posner
With expenses as high as the citys skyscrapers, New York is as
tough a place to start a business as ever. But not every young
and ambitious college grad from the north New Jersey area is
fleeing to Manhattan or Williamsburg to launch a career.
Take 22-year-old Shachar Avraham and 23-year-old Scott
Wisotsky, for example. The two former Binghamton University roommates have jumpstarted their entrepreneurial enterprise in Teaneck, just a few miles down the road from where
they grew up.
Their company, Campus Pursuit, is the most fun marketing
startup youve never heard of. Essentially its a college-wide
scavenger hunt program that engages brands with college
students. Brands like Pepsi and Kettle Brand Chips send their
products to Scott and Shachar, who deliver the samples to college student ambassadors working part-time from the comfort
of their campuses. Then those ambassadors organize scavenger hunt games for participating students, sending them scouring between library bookshelves, under bushes, and anywhere
else the hunt takes them. When they find the prize, they get to
keep their Chipotle burrito or their Amazon gift card.
For Campus Pursuits clients, the prize is even greater:
theyve just acquired a new potential customer.
Sound as retro as the games you played during your
own college orientation? Its not. The scavenger hunts are

organized through a sophisticated smartphone app. The


ambassadors post clues on the app and push notifications
send the students running. Once theyve discovered the prize,
students can scan a barcode on the product to inform them
that its been found.
At least where trends are going with the market, students
are always on their phones, Mr. Wisotsky said. We wanted
to infuse traditional marketing with a digital component. So
essentially what were doing is hiding physical product and
engaging people through digital means the app.
This fall, the founders expanded their scavenger hunt app
to 45 college campuses across the country, and they quadrupled the size of their student ambassador team.
The founders believe Campus Pursuit owes its success to
the invaluable and timeless rule of marketing: 18- to 22-yearolds are ripe for the picking when it comes to customer loyalty. Out of their parents house for the first time, its when
many of us make our first decisions about products we will
continue to buy for the rest of our lives.
Legacy brands and new product creators alike know
this, and so they come to Campus Pursuit to forge those
connections.
Clients come to us because we connect the physical and
the digital, Mr. Wisotsky said. We work with many snack
and beverage brands. To physically get the product into college students hands and then into their mouths, we do that
pretty well.
What Mr. Wisotsky and Mr. Avraham think Campus Pursuit
brings to the table is the thrill of the hunt.

Scott Wisotsky, left, and Shachar Avraham, one-time


college roommates, have a start-up that markets to
college students.

Any brand can post advertisements on social media, or


even hand out product samples to students outside the campus center. But in a saturated market full of hundreds of
different soft drinks and snacks, few brands truly engage
young people in the experience of obtaining their product
in the first place. And as any diehard Black Friday shopper
knows, sometimes its the chase that makes you really love
the product you buy.
In all business, success comes down to knowing your target audience. Mr. Wisotsky and Mr. Avraham certainly have
gained a lot of insight into college students today. They want
instant gratification, Mr. Avraham said. They want things
now. No one has time to read everything on their news feed.
People want to skim and get the general gist of things. Whats
cool about Campus Pursuit is that you get the product now.
Students are open to learn about new brands, Mr.

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Wisotsky added. Eighteen- to 23-year-olds want to learn new
things. Later on in life, people know what their toothpaste
will be, what theyll drink. But students, this is their first time
living away from home. Theyre building brand preferences
that will determine what they buy for the rest of their life, and
might even pass onto their kids one day. Its easier for a college
student to try a new snack and fall in love with it than when
theyre older.
Companies often hire student ambassadors to spread the
word about their products to the coveted college student market. Both Mr. Wisotsky and Mr. Avraham had student ambassador jobs when they were in college.
When Scott was my roommate, I remember he posted on
Facebook groups and it wasnt getting anyones attention, Mr.
Avraham said. It was all flyering and spamming Facebook
groups, slipping things under students doors, Mr. Wisotsky
said. We wanted to create something more fun.
Unsurprisingly, given that the two recent college grads just
launched a business from their dorm room, they have run into
some difficulties along the way. When we started out, our
challenge was balancing schoolwork while developing a business, Mr. Wisotsky said. Now that were both out of school
doing this full time, the challenge is totally different.
Keeping our brand ambassadors motivated is a challenge,
Mr. Avraham added. Weve refined the program many times
to make it better. Right now, Campus Pursuit ambassadors
are compensated for each person they persuade to download
the app.
Its a great experience because theyre running marketing
campaigns for these brands, Mr. Avraham noted. Now were
seeing ambassadors who graduated in 2015, 2016, get full-time
jobs. There are employers literally hiring our ambassadors
because of their experience working for us.

Shachar Avraham and Scott Wisotsky are two nice Jewish


boys at heart. Jewish business ethics and morals are very
important to us, Mr. Avraham said. Specifically, treating
everyone we meet with respect, compensating ambassadors
on time. Its very important to us to infuse those values into
our work.
Entrepreneurship seems to run in their blood. Mr.
Wisotskys grandfather owned a manufacturing factory, his
mother started a recruiting firm, and his father had a film production company.
Mr. Avraham never had thought about starting his own
business, but, he said, when Scott approached me with the
idea, I formed my major around it.
Both say their families and Jewish upbringing, including a shout-out to their Hebrew school education at the
Bergen County High School of Jewish Studies, contributed
to these values.
Jews have always been entrepreneurs, Mr. Avraham
said. Its in our blood.
Theres something very Zionist about it, Mr. Wisotsky
added.
Yeah, going back to the pioneers in Israel, Mr. Avraham
said. They built the country turned it into a country from
swamps. Jewish people are a light unto the world. Were the
type of people who want to help others and benefit the world.
With all the challenges we face as a people, weve always come
out on top.
Mr. Wisotsky added, When you look at Israel, theres so
much solar and green energy, so many tech companies. Its in
our books. Its in our teachings. Young Jewish entrepreneurs
read the scripture and apply it to their lives.
They dont just read something on paper. They actually go
out and make change.

One guy was with us as a participant when we started in


2014. He was finding a lot of prizes and we were like, this guy
cant just eat up all the prizes, we want to hire him! So we
approached him and asked if hed want to work for us. So he
became a brand ambassador, then a team manager, then we
hired him part-time to be the director of the brand ambassador program. He just got hired for a full-time role last week.
Its very cool.
Were helping a lot of people, were helping brands, Mr.
Wisotsky said. A philosophy we had from the beginning is
we want to put a smile on every students face every day.
Young entrepreneurs face a vast number of challenges.
Perhaps most daunting is building a business without any
experience. But both men said they wouldnt exchange their
journey for any entry-level job. I cant imagine starting my
professional career any other way, Mr. Wisotsky said. Its
been the most rewarding experience of my life. Having started
a company, having taken an idea and turned it into a full operating business, has shown me that even outside of business, if
you work hard and put in the effort, you can make something
amazing. Its not impossible.
In addition to diversifying their services in their Teaneck
office to include such marketing services as on-campus product sampling and events, Mr. Wisotsky and Mr. Avraham are
considering expanding the Campus Pursuit brand to Israel.
I was in Herzliya in 2015 and thought that Campus Pursuit
could do well here, Mr. Wisotsky said. College marketing
initiatives could thrive there.
Weve had requests from students in Israel to expand
there, Mr. Avraham added. But wed need to work with
Israeli clients. Theyre even considering empowering
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JNF womens group travels to NYC


The Northern New Jersey region of the
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The women also went to the Metropolitan Museum of Art for the

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Rachel and David Yolkut are the guests of
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Reaching out to the intermarried
Orangetown Jewish Center begins keruv program
Joanne Palmer
It used to be that Jewish parents brought
up Jewish children who grew up to marry
the children of other Jewish parents, and
then they went on to have Jewish children,
whom they brought up to marry Jews and
have Jewish children
It seemed as if that would go on forever,
in part because Jews wanted to marry
other Jews, and at least in part because
it was hard for Jews to find non-Jews who
wanted to marry them anyway.
Things have changed.
By now, statistics show that more than
half of American Jews intermarry. But we
also know that at least some of those nonJews are interested in Jewish life, are willing to be married by a rabbi, and bring
their children up as Jews.
The organized Jewish world has been

slow to figure out how to deal with this differently configured landscape, but many
institutions have begun to try.
In the Conservative movement, the
Federation of Jewish Mens Clubs has
taken the lead; now, individual synagogues also offer programs. In Orangeburg on December 4, the Orangetown
Jewish Center gave what it called a Recipe for Celebrating the December Holidays, aimed at interfaith couples, interfaith parents raising children, parents
of interfaith adult children, and grandparents. The ingredients necessary for
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Last year, the two went to an FJMC keruv
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we went back to our synagogue, I was
like, Lets get moving on this, she said.
They drew up a strategic management
plan. This was not going to be a scattershot approach, they decided. The issue is
too important and too emotional for that.
They took the first step in their advocacy work by putting bookmarks in the
machzorim that congregants used on the
High Holy Days. They used a template
from the Federation of Jewish Mens
Clubs, but the phone number and email
address on it was theirs.
Next, they wrote a personal piece about
keruv in their shul newsletter, the Shaliach. We had to be organized about this
about why we were doing it, and who
we were going to reach, Ms. Liner said.
Both Liners stressed that everything
they have done has been with the enthusiastic support of their rabbis, Craig
Scheff, Paula Mack Drill, and Ami Hersh.
None of this would be happening without them, Ms. Liner said. They are
amazing people.
Rabbi Scheff helped us write our

article, Mr. Liner said. It wasnt about


what you cant do in the Conservative
movement. Keruv is about drawing
closer; its about interfaith families and
interracial families and LGBT people.
Thats what were trying to do here. Its
not just about interfaith.
Its really about drawing closer.
The first meeting began with three
panelists, the Liners reported. The first
speaker is Greek Orthodox, and he is raising Jewish kids, Mr. Liner said. Hes very
involved in the nursery school and the
school. The second speaker was raised
Italian Catholic, married a Jewish man,
the kids were converted when they were
young, and later on she converted. And
the final speaker was someone whose
two daughters married non-Jewish men.
One of the sons-in-law is in the process of
converting, and the other is not.
The son-in-law who is converting is
doing it because he felt so welcomed into
the synagogue, Ms. Liner added. He
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Temple Beth Sholom in New City hosted


its own Israeli exchange program in April.
Many congregants who were involved with
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Chanukah Shabbat with menorah lighting


Beth Am Temple in Pearl River continues a 30-year tradition with a menorah
lighting during Shabbat services on the
seventh night of Chanukah. The service,
which includes Chanukah music, begins
at 7 p.m. on Friday, Dec. 30. Non-members and members all are welcome to
bring a menorah and eight candles to

light. A festive oneg Shabbat with traditional holiday foods will follow.
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but they can come up to the bimah.


Even though there are restrictions, the
rabbis do everything they can to have
the family involved, and be an integral
part of the event, Mr. Liner said. They
are not sitting in the audience.
I dont know where the Conservative
movement will go in the future, but we
are so happy that these people want to
be part of the shul.
And remember, both Liners said, that
like it or not, intermarriage now is part
of Jewish life. We go to our rabbis class,
and at one class we talked about intermarriage, Ms. Liner said.
The rabbi asked everyone to raise
their hands if they have someone interfaith in their family, and almost everyone
raised their hands. And then the rabbi
asked about having someone interfaith
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that, he might not have done it. It would
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The Center for Jewish Life at Rockland Community College and Hillel of Rockland present the Chanukah Unity
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What Rex Tillerson as secretary of state


could mean for the Jewish agenda
Ron Kampeas
WASHINGTON President-elect Donald
Trumps pick for secretary of state, Rex Tillerson, is the chairman and CEO of Exxon
Mobil, an energy company large enough to
have its own foreign policy.
It is a policy, however, that doesnt always
align with the priorities of Jewish and proIsrael groups. Oil companies have clashed
in the past with the pro-Israel lobby.
Exxon Mobil has not been a friend to
Israel through the years, said Abraham Foxman of Bergen County, the national director emeritus of the Anti-Defamation League,
referring to clashes in the 1970s over the
Arab boycott of Israel and in the 1990s over
the imposition of sanctions on Iran.
Others suggest, however, that fears that
Big Oil will tilt U.S. policy against Israel are
a thing of the past.
There was a time that being associated
with oil made you automatically deemed
hostile when it comes to Israel, said David
Makovsky, the Ziegler distinguished fellow
at the Washington Institute for Near East

Rex Tillerson speaks at the World Gas Conference in Paris in June 2015.
Christophe Morin/Bloomberg via Getty Images

Policy. However, at a time that Israel and


Gulf states are quietly pursuing common
interests when it comes to enmity toward
Iran, the Mideast is no longer zero-sum.

Hopefully, oil executives see this shift as


much as the Arabs themselves.
Makovsky recalled how one of President Ronald Reagans secretaries of state

also had ties to one of the energy industrys biggest builders of oil, chemical, and
natural-gas facilities.
One should recall that when George
Shultz came in, people thought his business connection to Bechtel projects in the
Gulf made him hostile to Israel, and this
did not prove to be the case, he said. I
think a question Tillerson will be asked at
the hearings beyond the focus on Russia is
how does someone whose business background made him a skeptic on economic
sanctions [against Iran] now be the one
who will have to enforce them and even
advocate for more in certain instances?
That focus on Russia will involve scrutiny
of Tillersons close ties to President Vladimir
Putin. Tillerson led the expansion of Exxons
joint drilling with Russia in recent years and
has objected to sanctions imposed on the
country over its invasion of Ukraine.
Morton Klein, the president of the Zionist Organization of America, said his anxiety was allayed to a degree by what he saw
as the friendliness to Israel of Trump and
his team.

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I had concerns about [Tillersons] closeness to Arab
countries and to Russia, all of whom have been hostile to
Israel, Klein said. But then again I wonder because of
his close relations and because of President-elect Trump
and the pro-Israel people around him, Im hoping he will
use some of these relations and turn their minds around.
Steve Rosen, the former policy director for the
American Israel Public Affairs Committee, recalled the
1990s battles with oil companies over sanctioning Iran
but said they were not ideological, and that Tillerson
could well change his outlook once he changes jobs.
It would be a little unnatural if a CEO with a company
with material interest in the freedom of his company to
engage in profit-making behavior were to favor sanctions,
he said. Where you stand depends on where you sit.
As for Trump, his statement announcing the nomination emphasized Tillersons executive skills.

While Jewish groups


largely have hesitated
to critique Trumps
appointments, they
will quietly be asking
more than a few
questions about
Tillerson and what
he signals about the
president-elects
foreign policy.
Guiding operations around the world that include
more than 200 offices, Mr. Tillerson knows how to manage
a global organization and successfully navigate the complex architecture of world affairs and diverse foreign leaders, Trumps statement said. As Secretary of State, he will
be a forceful and clear-eyed advocate for Americas vital
national interests, and help reverse years of misguided foreign policies and actions that have weakened Americas
security and standing in the world.
Nevertheless, Tillerson faces a tough nomination
fight. And while Jewish groups largely have hesitated to
critique Trumps appointments, they will quietly be asking more than a few questions about Tillerson and what
he signals about the president-elects foreign policy.

Russian reset
Trump wants to reset relations with Russia, saying
it would be better to have the country alongside the
United States rather than its rival. The president-elect
has boasted of his mutual admiration for Putin. What
does that mean for Syria?
Like most of the world, Israel wants the carnage to
end. Unlike Russia, it does not want the outcome to
include the empowerment of Russias ally, the Assad
regime. Israeli Defense Minister Avigdor Liberman, for
one, says that Assad must go. Israel also does not want
Iran and Hezbollah Assads allies and, effectively,
Russias to come out of the deal strengthened.

Iran sanctions
Tillerson is on the record saying sanctions on Russia
were counterproductive. What about Iran?
Its not clear yet whether Trump is committed to
scrapping the Iran nuclear deal or enforcing it more

strictly than Obama did. And whatever anyones objections to the pact, which swapped sanctions relief for a
nuclear rollback by Iran, it is true that the Obama team has
enhanced sanctions in other sectors, with a special focus on
targeting Irans Lebanon proxy, Hezbollah.
Jewish groups will want to know if Tillersons opposition
to sanctions is a matter of principle, or if he is against them
because it affects his business now. Had he led Exxon Mobil
in the 1990s, would he have joined in the oil industrys fierce
opposition to Iran sanctions introduced at that time?

Two states?
Trump says he wants to broker a peace deal between Israel
and the Palestinians. In its convention platform, the Republican Party officially became agnostic about a two-state solution and said it would defer to Israel on whether this is the
preferred outcome. Trumps aides have said the same thing.
The mainstream and left-wing pro-Israel communities, meantime, remain committed to a two-state outcome.
We expect senators to question him vigorously to determine
whether his views are consistent with decades of bipartisan U.S.
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and with upholding our countrys international commitments,
such as the successful nuclear agreement with Iran, J Street,
the liberal Jewish Middle East policy group, said in a statement.
(The centrist American Jewish Committee became the latest
mainstream group to reassert support for the two-state solution, issuing a statement calling it the only realistic resolution
to the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, as established through direct
bilateral negotiations between the parties themselves.)
Through his role at Exxon, Tillerson forged deep and
friendly ties in the Arab world. How necessary does he believe
a two-state outcome is to a lasting peace? Is he ready to
relaunch negotiations between the Israelis and the Palestinians? The last round, in 2014, ended in a war between Israel

and the Hamas-run Gaza Strip, and the rumblings of a third


intifada in the West Bank.
Netanyahu has said that the enmity Israel shares with Arab
states against Iran has created an opportunity for a simultaneous deal a broad peace deal with the Arab states that could
encompass the Palestinians. Tillerson has had his ear to the
ground in that region. Does he agree?

Human rights and climate change


In its statements about the nomination, the Trump transition
team depicted Tillerson as a petroleum executive who worries
about climate change and the effect of big business on impoverished nations. It relayed excerpts from an Associated Press

profile that dug up a quote in which Tillerson advocates for


sensible strategies that address these risks [of manmade
climate change] while not reducing our ability to progress
other global priorities such as economic development,
poverty eradication and public health.
The American Jewish World Service was not buying,
and referred in a statement to Exxons alleged role in
suppressing scientific evidence of manmade climate
change.
Tillersons nomination is deeply disturbing, as he is
the leader of one of the worlds largest energy corporations which has polluted the global environment,
developed close relationships with dictators, and used
its resources over 40 years to suppress climate science,
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Israeli NGO draws large


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Facebook enables terrorism
An Israeli legal rights NGOs video claiming that
Facebook aids and abets terrorism garnered more
than 750,000 views in the three days after it was
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The Shurat HaDin Israel Law Centers video
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Canadian pop star Justin Bieber will perform in Israel
as part of his Purpose World Tour. The singer is scheduled to perform in Tel Avivs Yarkon Park on May 3.
Bieber first performed in Israel in 2011, when he was
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20,000 fans, the visit did not go smoothly, as the teen
sensation clashed with paparazzi while visiting Israels
holy sites.
Israeli fans will need to shell out 350 shekels ($92)
for Bieber tickets in the grass area, 790 shekels ($209)
for Golden Ring tickets, and 1,190 shekels ($314) for
the VIP section. Tickets are scheduled to go on sale
Saturday, but members of Biebers official Israeli fan
club enjoyed an early sale Thursday.
Biebers 2009 debut album, My World, sold millions of copies worldwide and made him one of the
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Nevada and Israel signed a memorandum of understanding on wateruse innovation, marking what is
reportedly a first-of-its-kind collaboration agreement between a U.S.
state and a Middle East country.
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Our private sector needs to partner with water-advanced countries
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8 liberal Jewish groups to skip


Conference of Presidents party at Trumps D.C. hotel
Ron Kampeas
WASHINGTON Eight liberal members of the Conference of
Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations will not
attend its Chanukah party because it is being held at a hotel
owned by President-elect Donald Trump.
The Union of Reform Judaism, the Central Conference of
American Rabbis, the National Council of Jewish Women,
Americans for Peace Now, Jewish Women International, HIAS,
Ameinu, and the Workmens Circle all have said they will not
attend the December 14 party at the Trump International
Hotel in Washington, D.C.
Some of the groups cited the bigotry they associate with
Trumps campaign in explaining their absence, while others
pointed to the conflicts of interest posed by the presidentelects far-flung business holdings. Two groups, Americans
for Peace Now and the Jewish culture and social justice group
Workmens Circle, also cited concerns about the partys cohost, the Embassy of Azerbaijan.
We would hope that the COP will be an honest broker
in allaying the fears so many of us have about the incoming
administration, Nancy Kaufman, the CEO of NCJW, said in a
letter Monday to Malcolm Hoenlein, the conferences executive vice president.
Until and unless the president-elect sorts out his many
conflicts of interest, it would be wise for us to stay neutral

and not inflame the conflict by having an event at the Trump


Hotel in D.C., which we all know is wrought with very serious
questions, she said.
HIAS, the lead group advocating for immigration reform
and refugees, said its principal concern was Trumps stoking of fears about refugees during the campaign. Welcoming
refugees is HIAS mission and a fundamental Jewish value,
said its president, Mark Hetfield. Until HIAS gets a sense as
to where the Trump administration stands on welcoming
refugees, we do not wish to celebrate any Jewish holiday in
a forum which is named for him and from which he profits.
Hoenlein did not respond to a request for comment. But
last week, when news of the invitation first broke, Hoenlein
said that the venue was chosen not by the conference but by
the Azerbaijani embassy.
The embassy rented the room, they needed to do it
because it had to be near the White House, Hoenlein said,
noting that the Obama administrations final Chanukah party
would be taking place the same day.
Hoenlein said that using a Trump property should not taint
anyone who has business with the administration.
You think that Trump knows who rents a room in his hotel
and that influences how we represent to him? he said.
The Conference of Presidents, the organized Jewish communitys foreign policy umbrella group, represents more than
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The Union for Reform Judaism, like the
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Jacobs said in a statement Saturday night.
Especially while the president-elect himself is still working through the implications
of holding the nations highest office while
presiding over a company with widespread
holdings, it would have been far preferable to
choose one of the other approximately 3,000
other possible locations in downtown Washington, Jacobs said. If the conference is having that much trouble finding a non-political
location, the URJs conference staff would be
delighted to help.
Norm Eisen, a former top ethics official for
the Obama administration, said the problem
in this instance was Trump, not those who
patronize his businesses.
The solution to these kinds of issues
is for Trump to divest through a blind
trust, not to target or condemn those who
patronize the hotel, Eisen said. While I

wouldnt go there, I wouldnt under these


circumstances criticize others for doing
so. The problem here is Trumps.
Lori Weinstein, the Jewish Women International CEO, said her group had concerns
with potential conflicts between Trumps
businesses and his role as president, and
also noted that this was the first time in
recent memory that the Conference of
Presidents had hosted a Chanukah party
in Washington.
Not only is it most unusual for the Conference to host a holiday event in D.C., but
the choice of venue, still under the active
management of the president-elect, and the
source of an ongoing litigation, is an unwise
choice of venue, she said in a statement.
The Central Conference of American
Rabbis, the Reform movements rabbinical
association, noted the concerns about the
incoming administration, and referred to
the bigotry it said Trump normalized during his campaign and with his choices for
top advisers.
Especially as representatives of a community that has been so deeply impacted by the
history of both the Holocaust and immigration, we believe that all Jewish groups must
fiercely and consistently oppose any normalization of bigotry, the group said in a statement Wednesday.

Certainly, the theme of the Hanukkah


party, freedom and diversity, is at odds
with the language we are hearing from Mr.
Trumps inner circle and appointments, the
statement said. Until Mr. Trump denounces
the anti-Semitism, racism, homophobia and
sexism that have plagued his campaign and
his transition, we join with our colleague
Rabbi Rick Jacobs of the URJ in asserting that
this is an inappropriate venue for a Conference of Presidents event.
Last week, at the first leg of what he called
his post-election thank you tour, Trump condemned bigotry and prejudice in all of its
forms. His campaign has said that earlier
comments he made about Mexicans, Muslims, the disabled, and women, as well as his
use of themes and imagery that Jewish groups
found unsettling, all have been misconstrued.
The Workmens Circle, which promotes
Jewish culture and education, also cited what
it said were troubling aspects of Trumps
campaign in a letter to Hoenlein. His presidential campaign platform included a Muslim Registry and a ban of Muslims and others
from immigrating to the United States, the
group said.
His rallies have included Nazi salutes, and
amid this climate our country is now witnessing a significant increase of anti-Semitic acts,
it said. All of this is happening without any

attempt by Trump to stop the hate speech his


campaign actively propagated.
The Workmens Circle also objected to
the partnership with Azerbaijan, which it
described as a regime that sanctions the
violent suppression of any opposition. The
Workmens Circle launched a petition urging
the conference to drop Azerbaijan as a cohost and change the venue.
Jewish organizations previously have cohosted events with autocratic countries that
otherwise have a good record of protecting
their Jewish communities or maintain close
ties with Israel. Azerbaijan has done both.
Israel and Azerbaijan have grown closer
in recent years. Azerbaijan sent a firefighting
plane to help quell forest fires last month in
Israel, and Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin
Netanyahu has announced plans to visit the
country soon. Azerbaijan has been protective
of its Jewish community and taken steps to
preserve their heritage.
Also weighing in with a statement was the
New Israel Fund, a funder of social justice
causes in Israel, which is not a constituent of
the Conference of Presidents.
Any organization that chooses this
moment to throw a party at the Trump
hotel is utterly out of touch with the
majority of American Jews, its CEO, Daniel Sokatch, said.
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IfNotNow activists march in Philadelphia on November 22 to demand that


President-elect Donald Trump fire Stephen Bannon.
Courtesy of IfNotNow

IfNotNow brings young left-wing


Jews out to protest Trump,
Jewish organizations
Ben Sales
This Jew says no to white nationalism, one sign read.
Silence is akin to consent, another
said, quoting the Talmud.
A third displayed a lyric from a Yiddish song: We will outlive them.
The signs, along with chants like
Donald Trump, its your fault; Stephen
Bannon, oy gevalt! were directed not
only against Bannon, the presidentelects choice for chief strategist. As
hundreds of Jewish protesters marched
up Manhattans East Side on November
20, they also targeted the Zionist Organization of America, the pro-settlement
group that had invited Bannon to its
gala that night.
Bannon never showed up at the dinner, but to these protesters that wasnt
the point.
The group that organized the protest, IfNotNow, says the real issue is a
disconnect between Jewish institutions
and the values of young Jews. Legacy
Jewish organizations, IfNotNow activists charge, are so focused on supporting Israeli government policy that they
are willing to dismiss other Jewish concerns like the bigotry on Bannons
former website, Breitbart News.
This is the inevitable result of proIsrael-at-any-cost policies, said Yonah
Lieberman, 25, a founding member
of IfNotNow. They are so caught up
in their desire to ensure that the U.S.
government supports Israel unilaterally
that [theyre] willing to sacrifice [their]
own values.
The group takes its name from If not
now, when?, the end of a statement by
Hillel, a first-century rabbi. Founded
in the summer of 2014 to organize
young Jews opposed to Israels war
in Gaza, IfNotNow since has evolved
into an activist community steeped in

both left-wing protest and Jewish tradition. It rails against Israels control of
the West Bank, the incoming Trump
administration, and Jewish organizations it accuses of supporting both
those things.
Trumps election has given the
group a boost. In November, IfNotNow organized simultaneous demonstrations against Trump and Bannon in 30 cities, on what it called the
Day of Jewish Resistance. On Wednesday, the group expects 200 people
to attend its protest of a Chanukah

IfNotNow since
has evolved
into an activist
community
steeped in both
left-wing protest
and Jewish
tradition.
party hosted by the Conference of
Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations and the Embassy
of Azerbaijan at Trump International
Hotel in Washington, D.C.
Lieberman said nearly 3,000 people have participated in IfNotNows
recent anti-Trump demonstrations,
and 650 have attended activist training sessions the group is holding
across the country.
Ending American Jewish support for
the occupation is the groups primary
goal, although it is light on ideological
specifics: IfNotNow takes no position
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IfNotNow
from page 35

on Zionism, the two-state solution, or


the movement to boycott, divest from
and sanction Israel known as BDS. The
neutral stances lead some mainstream
leaders to label the group as naive and
worse.
The occupation is a crisis for
our entire community, said Lizzie
Horne, 25, a former Hillel International employee who helps organize
IfNotNow actions in New York. Pivoting to focus on some of these Donald Trump appointments is really just
recognizing this is a part of the bigger
system. There are people and institutions that are willing to forgo certain
values as a way of maintaining the
occupation.
What sets IfNotNow apart is its focus
on disruptive protest. While some Jewish groups long have preferred quiet
dialogue with the powerful over vocal
demonstrations, IfNotNow believes
that sitting and reasoning with American Jewish leaders wont get them
anywhere.
In April, 17 IfNotNow activists were
arrested after staging a sit-in in the
lobby of the Anti-Defamation Leagues
national headquarters to protest the
Jewish establishments support of the
occupation of Palestine.
Many Jewish groups, including the
ADL, the American Israel Public Affairs
Committee, and the American Jewish Committee, endorse a two-state
solution. Some vocally criticize Israeli
actions and explicitly support Palestinian rights, like the dovish J Street.
But IfNotNow accuses the mainstream of empty rhetoric in place of
meaningful action.
In order for us to win, and to end
our communitys support for the occupation, we have to get the majority
of American Jews on our side, said
Sarah Brammer-Shlay, 25, one of the
organizers of Wednesdays protest.
Doing work primarily in board rooms
and meetings, thats not moving thousands and thousands of people because
theyre not seeing that happen.
But the brash language encouraged
by IfNotNow has meant trouble for at
least one of its organizers. Simone Zimmerman, one of the groups activists in
2014, was briefly appointed as director of Jewish outreach for Sen. Bernie
Sanders Democratic presidential campaign, only to be suspended after it
emerged that she had used expletives
in a Facebook post about Israeli Prime
Minister Benjamin Netanyahu.

If the groups goal is to consternate


large Jewish groups, it is succeeding.
The ADL and the Jewish Federations
of North America both offered to meet
with IfNotNow and were rebuffed. In
April, the ADL lamented in a statement
that the group seems to be more interested in spectacles and ultimatums
than in discussion and dialogue.
Left-wing organizations are friendlier. Truah, the rabbinic human rights
group, participated in the ZOA protest,
and its executive director, Rabbi Jill
Jacobs, noted a long history of young
Jews staging protests of large Jewish
institutions. In a statement, J Street said
it shares IfNotNows concerns about the
occupation and Trump.
IfNotNow isnt the only anti-occupation Jewish group that has shifted to
protesting Trump. J Street has released
statements criticizing the president-

IfNotNow
believes that
sitting and
reasoning
with American
Jewish leaders
wont get them
anywhere.
elects domestic policies and appointees. And Jewish Voice for Peace, which
supports BDS, also has placed a new
emphasis on protesting his statements
and policies targeting minorities.
Its a new political world and well
have to figure it out, JVP Executive
Director Rebecca Vilkomerson said in
November. Were definitely in conversation on whats going to need to shift
given the Trump presidency.
IfNotNow activists say the fights
against the occupation and Jewish
communal acceptance of Trump are
one and the same. But beyond any particular issue, some say the group has
become a young, left-wing Jewish community for them. In their mission to
make the establishment Jewish community uncomfortable, theyve become
comfortable with one another.
For me, this is a space where I
found a home and I could say the
things I wanted to say, Horne said.
Its one of the most welcoming communities I have ever been a part of.

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AFP over employment
of Palestinian politician
A media watchdog organization renewed its criticism
of the Agence France-Presse news agency over the
conflict of interest of employing the chairman of
the anti-Israel Palestinian Journalists Syndicate as a
reporter on Israeli-Palestinian affairs.
The Committee for Accuracy in Middle East Reporting in America (CAMERA), which initially called out
AFP in May over PJS leader Nasser Abu Bakers statement that Palestinian journalists should boycott Palestinian officials who conduct interviews with Israeli
media, revisited the issue following Abu Bakers
recent campaign for a seat on a governing body of the
Palestinian Fatah political party.
My decision to run in the election for the [Fatah]
Revolutionary Council stems from my and my colleagues desire to awaken the Fatah media, which
needs to be awakened so that it would be devoted primarily in favor of the national interest and redirect the
compass toward our cause toward Jerusalem and the
[Palestinian right of ] return, Abu Baker recently told
Palestinian media, according to CAMERA.
The media watchdog said Dec. 7 that AFPs employment of Abu Baker, a man who is not only an aggressive anti-Israel boycott advocate but also an aspiring
Palestinian politician, raises serious concerns.
The conflict of interest is clear and blatant, Tamar
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definition of anti-Semitism
United Kingdom Prime Minister Theresa May
announced that her government officially will adopt
a working definition of anti-Semitism.
It is unacceptable that there is anti-Semitism in this
country. It is even worse that incidents are reportedly
on the rise. As a government we are making a real difference and adopting this measure is a groundbreaking step, May said in a lunch hosted by the Conservative Friends of Israel.
The working definition of anti-Semitism was developed in May by the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance, an intergovernmental organization
backed by 31 countries.
The IHRA defines anti-Semitism as a certain perception of Jews, which may be expressed as hatred
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Anti-Israel students at Columbia University erected a mock apartheid wall


in front of the iconic Low Library steps during Israel Apartheid Week, in early
March 2016.
Uriel Heilman

As BDS resolutions
stall, pro-Palestinian
students shift tactics
Ben Sales
When Northwestern Universitys student
senate passed a resolution in February
2015 asking the university to divest from
six corporations it said contributed to
the violation of Palestinians human
rights, freshman Ross Krasner was hurt
and surprised.
The rhetoric of the measure, portraying Israel as an oppressor, was more
extreme than what he had expected.
Krasner decided to become more
involved with the campus pro-Israel
group, Wildcats for Israel, and became
its president that May.
A year and a half later, Krasner feels
confident that the university wont heed
the resolutions divestment call, and he
has shifted his extracurricular focus on
campus. He is now a student senator; in
that forum he can advocate for a range
of causes he supports, including but not
limited to Israel.
We knew the whole time the university wasnt going to divest, said Krasner, now a junior. Because it passed,
its never going to be brought up again.
Anti-Israel activists, he said, have lost
their rallying cry. Theyve lost their thing
to mobilize around.
The vote by Northwesterns Associated
Student Government Senate was one
of three huge campus victories scored
by the BDS movement which aims to
boycott, divest from and sanction Israel
within two weeks in February 2015. It
was preceded by similar votes in the University of California Student Association,
representing all U.C. students across the

state, and in Stanford Universitys undergraduate senate.


But nearly two years after the BDS
three-peat, the wave seems to have
receded. Of about a dozen BDS resolutions passed since November 2015, only
two or three have come at major universities. A BDS resolution at the University
of Michigan failed three weeks ago.
Perhaps most significant, not one
university has actually divested from
Israel or companies targeted for doing

Of about a
dozen BDS
resolutions
passed since
November
2015, only two
or three have
come at major
universities.
business in the West Bank. After its college council passed a divestment resolution in April, the University of Chicago
released a statement saying an Israel
boycott would only diminish the Universitys distinctive contribution.
Hillel Internationals president,
Eric Fingerhut, said that the organization has reached out personally to
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BDS
FrOM page 39

university presidents to lobby them against BDS and has


found open ears.
We have been in touch with university leaders, trustees, and administrators to help them oppose, to help
them understand why any kind of academic boycott or
divestment would be the wrong thing to do, he said.
Theyve all agreed with that position.

Hillel Internationals
president, Eric
Fingerhut, said that
the organization has
reached out personally
to university presidents
to lobby them against
BDS and has found
open ears.
Kenneth Waltzer, executive director of the Academic
Engagement Network, a 350-member group of university faculty who oppose BDS, said divestment is a nonstarter for many university boards of trustees because it
would violate their commitment to invest funds in a way

that would best serve the school. There is not enough


consensus on divestment for it to override concerns of
fiduciary responsibility, he said.
University presidents are responsible, said Waltzer,
who also is an emeritus history professor at Michigan
State University. Students can get as excited as they
want for a particular issue. They dont have a responsibility for where it goes. Do we want to cut off all our ties
with Israel? Its a much more complicated issue.
National pro-Israel groups have invested millions of
dollars in fighting BDS since 2010. In June 2015, Sheldon
Adelson, the casino mogul, Jewish philanthropist, and
Republican megadonor, raised a reported $20 million at
a summit launching a new group to fight BDS on campus. That same month, the Israeli government pledged
some $25 million in anti-BDS funding over 10 years. In
soliciting the money, leaders of national organizations
portrayed BDS movements as the central threat to Israel
on campus.
Pro-Israel groups now believe the threat has shifted,
as BDS has failed to make concrete gains in terms of
divestment. They say that anti-Israel groups have pivoted from pushing divestment resolutions to protesting, and in some cases disrupting, pro-Israel events and
speakers on campus.
But Ben Lorber, campus coordinator for the pro-BDS
Jewish Voice for Peace, said divestment resolutions and
protests at events serve the same purpose: sparking
conversation about Palestinian rights. He predicted that
BDS resolutions would re-emerge next semester with
the approach of the 50th anniversary of the Six-Day War
between Israel and Arab states, as a result of which the
West Bank came under Israeli control.
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whole, Lorber said. Divestment is so effective


because it gets the whole campus talking about the
Israeli-Palestinian conflict and looking into these
issues. Students are continuing to exercise their
free-speech rights to protest injustice on campus
and in the world around them.
Wendel Rubinstein, a 2016 University of Chicago
graduate who campaigned for divestment, said that
BDS activism may have scaled back as students
especially following the election of Donald Trump

Pro-Israel groups now


believe the threat has
shifted, as BDS has
failed to make
concrete gains in
terms of divestment.
are refocusing their efforts on demonstrating on
behalf of immigrants and vulnerable minorities.
I think what students have been focused on this
year, especially in light of the election results, is
building coalitions and solidarity, Rubinstein said.
Theres not an actual campaign to push a specific
initiative right now on pressuring the university
to divest from Israel.
Last month, more than a year and a half after
its student divestment vote, Northwestern
announced the establishment of an advisory committee on investment responsibility. The committee will advise the university on how to vote at
shareholder meetings, and will include four student representatives among its 10 voting members.
Krasner is concerned that anti-Israel students
will be appointed to the committee, but still he
isnt worried that his school will divest from Israel.
He is more troubled by the marginalizing of proIsrael students in campus social justice movements
something he has experienced.
Last year, when students at the University of Missouri were protesting issues of racial injustice on
their campus, Krasner co-wrote a resolution supporting the protests as a Northwestern student
senator. But he was pressured to withdraw his
name from the resolution, he said, after a senator
supporting the campus African-American student
group, as well as the campus Students for Justice in
Palestine, objected to his pro-Israel activism.
Krasner called the incident a very hurtful thing
that happened to me.
Im constantly learning about what it means to
be an ally to marginalized communities, he said.
As someone who says, No, I dont support BDS,
its a challenge I wasnt prepared for coming in.
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ith a slew of recent


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on favorite childhood
stories such as Beauty
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Sleeping Beauty, it is clear that fairy tales
have made a big comeback. Crowds continue to be drawn to the tales, which feature the fair maiden and, of course, her
Prince Charming. The romantic simplicity,
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as a model for some, an antidote to modern woes for others, and yet for others, a
diversion from everyday humdrum.
When it comes to a wedding, what little
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that day would be like, from what kind


of dress they would wear, to what kind of
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important the wedding day is for brides


and grooms, and each, in their own way
works to create a day that is very special
a fairy tale or a fantasy for the wedding couple.
At the Estate at Florentine Gardens in
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fairy tale wedding from the get-go, said
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remarked that the ballroom resembles
the ballroom in Beauty and the Beast.
They cant help but feel like a princess at
the ball, she said.
Some brides have even taken other fairy
tale elements to their weddings at the Estate
at Florentine Gardens. They have arrived in
fairy tale style in a horse and carriage.
Also, because we only do one wedding
at a time here, the couple always feels very
special, said Ms. Daidone.
Noam Sokolow, owner of Rave Catering
& Event Planning, said that getting to know
the couple and their stories helps to create
the unique quality of a fantasy or fairy tale
wedding.
I think with every event you try to create that fantasy or dream, Mr. Sokolow
said.
Mr. Sokolow said the by taking a keen
interest in the couple and their history
and their parents and grandparents, the
party is tailored to their dream specifications. For instance, one parent hailed from
Cuba, and to celebrate that heritage, some
of the food was Cuban-inspired.
At the Palisadium in Cliffside Park,
owner Yossi Abadi said that brides and
grooms are creating their fantasy or fairy
tale wedding for the 21st century through

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social media. More and more couples are


approaching Mr. Abadi and his staff with
their Pinterest pages that theyve been
compiling for some time with their dream
vision of their wedding.
There has been Id say a 50 percent
increase in people coming in and telling us
that theyve seen something on Pinterest
or Instagram that they want for their wedding, whether its the floral arrangement
or anything else.
I love it, said Mr. Abadi. For us, it

makes it more challenging to make their


vision happen. I met with my staff and
told them that this is a new generation of
brides. Times have changed. Brides are
thinking for themselves and there is nothing capping creativity now.
The online mindset has changed the
landscape of creating a wedding. We now
ask the couple to show our team their Pinterest page so we can see the centerpieces
or the chuppah and make it happen. Mr.
Abadi said.

At Northern Valley Affairs at Temple


Emanu-El in Closter, owner Les Friedman
recently put together a fantasy wedding
that turned the elegant venue into an exotic
and spectacular veritable Garden of Eden.
Flowers galore graced the entryway, the
tables and the chapel. The florist created
elaborate hedges of roses in a riot of redtone colors that flanked the 50-foot aisle in
the chapel and also created an all-flower
and crystal chuppah.
Add to that a fantasy menu that included
fish stations of the finest catches from the
sea, and stations of the best meats. An
after-party included a redo of the ballroom,
transforming it into a club replete with a DJ.
When the guests walked in, no matter who you were, your eyes popped out
of your head. It was amazing, said Mr.
Friedman.
And what would a fantasy of fairy tale
wedding be like without the pampering
that preceded the event?
At Etuale Skin Care Center in Tenafly,
bridal packages are available for the special
day. The company uses an exclusive French
line, Biologique Recherche, for its clients.
Bridal packages, said Victoria Katseza,
are available for the bride and for members of her bridal party to make everyone
feel the fantasy and fairy tale of the event.

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And then Michael got down on one
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asked his beloved Alyson to become his
wife. And just like that, on May 14, 2014,
the day Alyson received her masters in
speech and language patholoy, the next
chapter of their lives began.
But although this new chapter was about
to begin, the book already was quite full.
Their story started in March 2009, on the
campus of Ramapo College. Young, nerdy
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meeting, just as he did every week, when in
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noticed Mike before that day, and here I
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and now he wants to talk to me? When
the meeting was over, Aly and Mike went
their separate ways until later that evening. Mike just really wanted an excuse
to talk to her again, and had a feeling that
there was something special about her, he
said, smiling.
And talk they did. Minutes turned into

Mike and Aly and family surround


Nana Coop at the October wedding.

hours, and conversations turned into


plans to see each other this time outside of a Hillel meeting. As time went on,
they both knew that this was something
unique. I couldnt tell you what it was,
or what I felt, but I just knew that when
I was with Aly, things just felt right, Mike
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found myself wanting to talk to Mike all the time, because


when we spoke, everything just seemed to be right.
Fast forward to Passover, and just like that, Aly and Mike
officially became Aly and Mike.
As their time at Ramapo two years more for Aly, and
three for Mike went by, the stories and memories continued to grow.
The two have experienced their share of ups and downs,
but more importantly, together they have experienced the
best that life had to offer and have found true happiness
and love with each other. They also had amazing love and
support from their families.
Mike and Aly finished college and went on to grad
school, where the story only got better, except that the
two became weekend long-distance partners.
The engagement was marked with joyous surprises and
parties, and then some unfortunate medical diagnoses,
but most of all, love and support from friends and family.
A wedding date of May 29, 2016, was set, they made reservations at Congregation Bnai Tikvah in North Brunswick,
and planning began. There even was a successful trip to
Kleinfelds, where Aly said yes to a dress.
On October 7, 2015, at 10 p.m., Aly and Mike made a
decision that most friends and many family members did
not know about until months later.
As their May wedding date came closer and closer, the
difficult reality of the failing health of Alys beloved nana,
Diane Coopersmith, Nana Coop, became something they
couldnt ignore. Aly and Mike decided that now was the time
to get married, they wanted a wedding for that Sunday,
October 11. Sitting in Alys familys kitchen, the decision was
made they needed to have Nana Coop at their wedding.
The phone calls making plans for a wedding to take
place for just about 72 hours from that time began. This
was amazing, considering that the planning for the May
2016 wedding took about two years.
First and foremost, the couple had to get a wedding
license. The process was expedited, and it worked. People
made special travel plans, a venue near Nana Coops home
was found, flowers ordered, an officiant, a cake, and even
a little music had to be pulled together.
Aly bought a second wedding gown locally, off the rack,
so her nana would see her married looking like a bride.
She wore her mothers veil.
As weak as Nana Coop was, she was overjoyed, and
couldnt wait for the big day. A mere four days later, on
October 11, 2015, under the bluest sky, Aly and Mike said
I do under a chuppah held up by family members, and
under Mikes grandfathers tallit, in a beautiful, emotional
ceremony led by Cantor Bruce Rockman of Bnai Tikvah.
Their immediate family, closest family friends, and
bridal party (minus only one) amazingly, were there. The
day, one of the happiest of their lives, was made more special by seeing the smiles and joy on the faces of those they
loved so dearly. As much as they wanted to share their
incredible and special moment with everyone on their May
list, it was not about making a splash; it was doing something that in their hearts the two of them wanted to do.
Nana Coops beautiful beaming smiling face said it all
that day; hospice began in the next few days. She left this
earth soon after, surrounded by love and with the memory of seeing her oldest grandchild married.
It was very difficult to get back on track for the next big
day, May 29, but it also was a good distraction. Plans fell
into place and wedding part 2, as Aly called it, started
to become more and more of a reality. On May 29, 2016,
Aly and Mike were married again, this time officially

signing a ketubah to make the marriage complete. Rabbi


Arthur Weiner of the JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth
Tikvah, Rabbi Robert Wolkoff of Bnai Tikvah, and Cantor Rockman led the ceremony under the chuppah at
Bnai Tikvah.
While we were so ready and so happy to officially
begin our lives together in the eyes of Judaism, we would
be remiss if we didnt thank every one and let them know
that without them, none of this would have been possible, Aly said, wiping tears from her eyes. The amount
of love is just breathtaking. Never in a million years could
I have dreamt that this is how my story would go, with

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two weddings, but I could also never have imagined how


happy I could be.
Holding Aly tightly in his arms and grabbing some tissues for her, Mike said, When I first met Aly, I knew there
was something special about her. Seven years later, I still
get butterflies when I see her. The worst of days can always
be made right with a smile and kiss from her, and simply
put, I am the luckiest person on the planet.
Hands held tight, the two stared into each others eyes,
smiled, and then said, almost in unison, I love you.
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Dolphin: transformation and love.
Horse: vitality and beauty.
Bees are seen as symbols of a positive, cooperative community, or family, and doves are, of course, signs of peace,
kindness, and love. Since dragonflies are a popular wedding motif, their meaning of good fortune and luck is especially pleasing to wedding couples. And peacocks also a
very popular motif for wedding details connote wholeness, beauty, self-assurance, and dignity.
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symbolic meaning of transformation is perfect, given their
transition from single to married life. Incorporating butterflies, whether its a live butterfly release after the ceremony, silk butterflies used as wedding cake decor or pretty
butterfly motifs on the invitations, is extra meaningful.
Here are some ways to include your favorite flowers,
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for the unsung hero of many a wedding day, the
bridal emergency kit.
I cant tell you how many buttons Ive sewn on, says
Good, making her first item the sewing kit, which at least
needs to include safety and corsage pins, a needle with
thread colors to match all outfits, and a small pair of scissors. One time, the brides dress ripped and they had to
sew her into it with fishing line. Why, you ask? No sewing kit. The other essential items to keep in mind when
preparing for the big day include, but are not limited to:

Solemates (S.O.S. Wedding Rescue), and more. The Internet is full of wedding horror stories, and tips from brides,
grooms and members of bridal parties along with a few
good laughs so others can learn from their mistakes.
Of course, there are some things you just cant plan
for. One time, Good recalls, a bridesmaid misjudged her
foot size when she ordered her shoes, and couldnt keep

her shoes on when it came time to dress for the wedding.


They had to tie her shoes on with ribbon from the craft
closet. And at more than one wedding, Good has wished
for more long mirrors in dressing rooms, as well as a spare
iron and steamer for pesky wrinkles. Bear these tips and
tricks in mind when planning for the day of, and youll be
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Stain remover sticks and a cloth to get makeup off


dresses and tuxes.
Tissues for when things become too emotional nobody
wants runny makeup and a mess on their best fabrics
First-aid items including Band-Aids, smelling salts, and a
headache remedy of choice.
Bottled water and a white soda that wont stain, especially if its a hot day or in case the nerves hit and someone
isnt feeling well. It would be wise to throw in a stick of
deodorant here as well you never know.
Small collection of snacks that dont stain or make a
mess, such as soda crackers. No one thinks they want to
eat before the wedding, and they get hungry.
For faces, hair and teeth makeup, hairspray, toothpaste/toothbrush, and mints. No gum, absolutely no
gum, says Good.
Extra pantyhose and depending on the style of the
dresses extra body tape to prevent wardrobe malfunctions from your worst nightmares.
Paperwork: an assignment list of people to gather up
the flowers, rentals and decorations, etc.; a card with any
original vows written on it; the order of the service and
whos who; essential phone numbers. Its best to have all
of this critical information on you in order to stay on top
of things its these little things that add up!
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with you on the wedding day. You would think that would
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decorations for ballrooms or tents. You
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so extravagant they seem like upside-down
gardens. And billowy drapes add an ethereal feeling to your wedding.
Wedding planner and designer Kristin
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feel of spaces, saying that Couples are
moving away from oversized ballrooms
and looking for romantic, intimate settings
that have a homespun feel with natureinfused decor and organic touches.
According to Rockhill, Ceiling decor is
quickly replacing tall centerpieces. Now
brides are opting for low, lush arrangements that allow for easy conversation and
adding decorative touches to the ceiling
instead to create depth and drama.
Utilizing the space above is a wonderfully fresh way to liven up a venue or transform a blank space like a tent or industrial
loft. Rockhill suggests having lush floral
chandeliers, ceilings draped with greenery
or unexpected unique lighting fixtures like
crystal-draped wagon wheel chandeliers.
Beyond these suggestions, here are some
top trends in wedding ceiling decor:
Create a ceiling garden using one type
of flower, one flower hue or multiple coordinating flower types.
Play on the wedding bouquet trend by
creating a ceiling garden with an eclectic
assortment of flowers.
Use greenery of different styles and
textures to create an all-green ceiling
cover. This simple blanket look may be

balanced with lavish table centerpieces


featuring dramatic florals with pops of
color and texture.
Decorate only above the dance floor
to create drama.
Draw attention to your sweetheart
table by hanging a flower arrangement
above it.
Using clear wire, create an effect of
flowers raining from the ceiling.
Hang indoor or outdoor crystals in a
carefully lit space to add an extra sparkle.
Drape lofty fabric swags from the ceiling center to the venue walls for a warm
yet ornate look. Or fix sheer fabric in
undulating wave patterns across the ceiling for a modern, trendy look.
Dangle bistro light strings or lanterns
to establish a homey and comfortable
ambience.
Extend floral or greenery garlands
from the ceiling center to the outer walls.
Design a projected light show to liven
up any blank wall or ceiling: Project your
names, wedding date or any custom pattern up above, rather than on the dance
floor where this has been seen many
times over. This can be a budget-friendly
accent. Consider contacting a lighting
company for assistance, especially to
accommodate vaulted ceilings and balance out other lighting effects.
As you ponder these options, take a few
things into consideration to avoid any wedding planning woes: Make sure to inquire
about any rules or restrictions for altering
your space. Discuss your ideas with the
venue organizer or even obtain a rendering
of your imagined decor from your florist or
wedding planner. Additionally, you or your
planner will need time to plan the setup
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Tips for a successful second wedding


Chelle Cordero

econd weddings are just as special as first weddings.


Like any marriage, they represent a union between
two people and a commitment to each other to
love, cherish, support, and be friends. If either partner has children from a first marriage, the new marriage
is also the blending of families: a promise to not only be a
good wife or husband but also a good father or mother. A
second wedding should represent who the couple is and
be the beginning of a family for the partners and children.
There are few, if any, hard-and-fast rules for second
weddings. The couple can use their past experiences to
plan the ceremony and reception exactly as they want it
to be. Most likely the bride and groom will not be depending on parents to pay for the wedding and will feel freer to
make choices without pressure. It is recommended that
the ceremony and reception be different from the first
time and that former spouses not be included (for comfort of the new spouse and guests).
The couple can decide on any venue: a restaurant or
catering hall, a beachfront, a backyard, a park, or the family living room. Couples may find it fun to plan a surprise
wedding where an intimate group of guests are invited to

a party, a backyard barbecue or other occasion and the


wedding just happens.
If theyre planning a religious wedding, its a good
idea to contact the house of worship and officiant before
choosing the ceremony site, because there may be some
constraints depending on how and why the first wedding
ended.
Brides and grooms can and should write their own
wedding vows; they have the confidence, experience,
and maturity to know why this wedding is important to
them and what their expectations are. Some key words
and terms the wedding partners could use in their vows
are: a new life together; starting over; a fresh start;
drying tears and learning to laugh; loving with eyes
wide open; or a new and exciting journey. When there
are children, in addition to promising to be there for each
other, the couple may want to promise their children, by
name, theyll be there for them as well.
Additionally, any children should be included in the
wedding ceremony, and its a nice idea to incorporate
a trinket or medal for them after the couple exchanges
rings. That way the kids feel like part of the union, too.
The wedding dress can be any color or style the bride
chooses, including white (the use of a blusher veil, though,

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is discouraged). The groom is also free to choose his garment. Attendants could be given more leeway in choosing
their garments, or the couple could offer to pay if the outfits are not apt to be worn again.
While immediate family members may give wedding
gifts to the second-time-around couple, many other guests
may opt not to, especially if they were present at the first
wedding and gave a generous gift then. It is still all right if
the couple chooses to sign up for a gift registry. However,
the newlyweds probably dont need the normal items
for setting up a first-time home; instead, choices could
include couples ski equipment, travel vouchers, game
accessories (such as pool sticks) for two, theater tickets,
etc. Its a thoughtful gesture if the couple chooses lowerpriced items for the registry so that previous gift-givers
dont feel taken advantage of.
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Weddings afloat
Sharon Naylor

achts have quickly become a top trend in wedding


locations, offering guests a unique setting, spectacular views, and the thrill of VIP treatment aboard
a multimillion-dollar vessel. Every element of a
glamorous ballroom wedding including top-tier catering and service, entertainment and dancing can occur
inside a yacht or on its top deck for an open-air ceremony
and celebration.
They are ideal for people who desire a venue thats
different from the four-wall ballroom overlooking the
parking lot venue that all of their friends have had their
weddings and events in, says Camille Cerria, nautical
event planner for Smooth Sailing Celebrations. So many
yachts are upscale and glamorous, and many sail through
breathtaking scenery including historic sites viewed so differently from the water.
Top yacht event companies offer fleets of boats, accommodating a range of guest-list sizes and budgets. They may
be booked to sail or to remain docked, cutting down on the
need for sea legs or experiencing on-the-water discomfort.
Yachts obviously host just one wedding at a time, which
affords you privacy and the full focus of the yacht staff.
Yacht companies are well-connected to their trusted
wedding vendors, who can provide any rentals, decor,

A vibrant sky makes a dramatic backdrop for a


wedding afloat.

lighting, and other elements to make your wedding design


wishes come true. And outside caterers know exactly what
is needed for the yachts galley for the food preparation, if
it is not prepared on the boat itself.
Adding to the popularity of yacht weddings is the
boats design, offering indoor and outdoor areas, gathering spaces, existing bars and other design elements that
create excellent opportunities for guests to mingle or to
steal some private time. And if spending the night on your
yacht isnt feasible, usually luxury hotels are situated by
the boats marina for easy guest accommodation.
Cerria suggests the following tips for yacht weddings:
Choose a budget-friendly buffet reception: With so

much to do on a yacht, guests hate to be tied to their dining room chairs. Buffet service goes more quickly than
plated service does. Allow you and your guests enough
time to enjoy the yacht experience of mingling, dancing
and sightseeing under the stars.
Have your vendors set up beforehand: Ask your vendors to take advantage of the two-hour early boarding
time thats allotted to all vendors. In this way, the boat
will be festive and all decked out with music playing for
your guests boarding.
Say Cheese! early: Use the early boarding time to
take staged photos. This will allow you to enjoy your
wedding without being dragged away from the festivities for pictures, while letting your photographer take
impromptu images of you and your guests having a wonderful time, says Cerria. Also, think about the timing
of sunset and the beautiful colors of the sky over the
water; an earlier photo session might capture that gorgeous scenery.
Find a spot for a group shot: Many boats have an outdoor level where the photographer can take a group photo
of guests on a lower outdoor level. Its a special memento
to have one picture where every single one of your guests
is present in the same image.
Considering that celebrities and professional sports
teams host parties and celebrations aboard yachts, you
can add a distinct VIP, good-life feel to your special day
when you plan a yacht wedding. Plus, you are literally
sailing off into the sunset with your beloved. 
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BEAUTIFUL BEGINNINGS

Registry regrets
When it comes to gifts, be careful what you ask for
Kristen Castillo

ets take a quiz: Registering for gifts is A) exciting, B) exhausting, C) overwhelming, D) a dream
come true or E) all of the above? Chances are you
answered E.
Registering for gifts involves a bundle of emotions.
From what to register for to how to notify wedding
guests, registries can cause a lot of angst, says Sara Margulis, founder and CEO of wedding registry site Honeyfund.com, who says etiquette is the No. 1 concern for
couples.
Still, the registry process can be very rewarding, especially if youre detailed in preselecting items and experiences that are a fit for you and your spouse.
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CMO of Zola, a modern registry platform that combines
gifts, experiences and cash. The same rule that applies
to clothes applies here: If you dont use it for over a year,
you should get rid of it. Or in this case, dont get it in the
first place!
While its easy to sign up for lots of stuff, you need
to make sure you really want and will use the gifts you
receive. Some items are fun but youll never use them;
others are practical but not your style.
Your registry is a place to ask for the gifts youd never
buy yourself, as well as to upgrade what you already have
and use, says Lizzy Ellingson, founder of Blueprint Registry, which creates a customized wish list based on the
couples home.
No matter what you ask for, make sure your registry

choices are spot-on. Gift-giving experts share their advice


on how to avoid registry regrets.
Registering for things you think youll need in the
future (but end up never using).
When Einat Naveh, founder and CEO of Bridal Boost,
got married seven years ago, she registered for a variety of
things even though she didnt have enough space to store
them.
We were in a tiny one-bedroom apartment in the West
Village when we got married, so I registered for a wine
fridge, among other items, she says. That wine fridge is
still in my parents attic, she adds.
Naveh suggests registering for high-quality pots, pans,
knives and small kitchen appliances, which can be used
every day.
Not registering for big pieces.
While you dont want to register for big-ticket items you
wont use or wont be able to store, you should consider
your party and holiday entertaining needs.
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now. Its not political. Not controversial. Not connected to any


religious affiliation. Its just white.
And cold.
And yet, it evokes strong emotion.
Ah! The picturesque white stuff! The
pristine blanket! The twinkle at night!
The quiet!
Oy! The digging of the car! The
slowed-down commute! The wet mess!
The pain!
How I feel about snow, I suppose,
depends on the day, and on which
side of the windowsill Im on. It also
depends on whether I need to brave
the weather, or whether I can enjoy it.
But tis the season. And if we have
a northeast winter, I would say that
not having conferred with the Farmers Almanac we will see some snow
this year.
My first real snow memory would
be in first grade. We were coming
home from school on the bus, which
dropped us off on the corner. It just
snowed and the block of single and
two-family homes looked beautiful.
The small patch of lawn in front of our

house looked especially


beautiful. In fact, it looked
perfect. It was the proverbial blanket of white.
I loved the way it looked
so much, I wanted it to
look that forever. But that
was not to be, because my
friend and neighbor, Linda, thought to tramp on
the lawn, and destroy its
perfection with her little
footprints.
Please come off, I asked. No
movement off. Come off the lawn,
PLEASE, I beseeched. Not a move.
Ok, then, I thought. And here, dear
reader, is where it becomes a bit notso-nice. In wanting to preserve my
lawn, I had to remove Linda, who was
now stomping up a storm to spite me.
So, with my little first-grade schoolbag, I swatted her. She got off.
I learned an early lesson then that
violence did not pay. The lawn was
already messed up. Besides, Lindas
mother yelled at me for what I did.
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we slowly found our way into France.
I remember how seamless the border
crossing was. There were no guards,
no trumpets, no big deal. There was
just a flag to indicate that wed crossed
the border. Nevertheless, it remains a
great snow memory for me.
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overtaken me and the beauty of snow
has eluded me. But perhaps this season, when the snow starts to fall, and
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e may be in the throes of winter


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Plan for success


Choose activities everyone can participate in and make it convenient, simple
and fun. Get your childrens input as to
what they want to do so there is some
buy in. Also make sure you participate.
Children will have more fun if the parents get in on the act.

Rough and tumble zone


If possible, create an indoor active zone
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squats, lunges and sit ups. Keep the area


dedicated so its always available when
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Board em busters
Make a list of fun exercises you and your
kids can do in a given week, post them
on a board in a visible location, then
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more activity they want to perform. Vary
time and repetition according to age.
When an activity is complete give your
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end of each week, offer a reward to keep
everyone motivated

go ice skating,
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Go pro
Tweak professional games so you can
play them inside. Have a round of basketball with a soft foam ball or wad of
newspaper and a basket. Try indoor
bowling with ten soda bottles, each partially filled with water or sand. Set in a
triangular shape and then knock over
with a medium-sized ball. Tennis anyone? Stretch a string across the room,
tape it to the walls, blow up a balloon
and use poster board squares for rackets. Or play indoor volleyball.

Tone up
Every day items found around the house
can help your family tone up. Use milk
jugs partially filled with water or sand
to strengthen your chest, shoulders and
arms. Make the bottom step a stair stepper to build your leg muscles and cardiovascular system. Step on the waistband
of old pantyhose and pull up to work biceps, triceps and shoulders.

Color my wintry world


One fun and easy game your family
will enjoy is an outdoor ice cube hunt.
Make different colored ice cubes and
hide them in your yard or at the park.
Then bundle up and let the game begin!
Create a color point system to determine the winner or whoever finds the
most gets a prize. You can even do it
at night with a flashlight. The best part
is the ice cubes wont melt so you can
stick them in the freezer and have the
hunt all over again.

a mound of snow or a few bricks. Fill


several buckets with water (you dont
need much), pour it over the tarp and
let it freeze. When a thin layer of ice
forms, put on your boots or sneakers
and have a family skate.

Frolicking fitness tag


It doesnt have to be warm outside to
play tag. With this version base isnt
an object, its an activity. Players run
around and avoid being tagged by performing a simple, predetermined exercise such as ten jumping jacks, fifteen
squats or twenty hops on one foot.

Cold war capers

Skating on thin ice

A fun thing to do in the snow is play


tug of war. Dig parallel trenches that
are three- to four-feet long and mound
up the snow in the middle. Divide your
family into two teams then have each
team stand in a line perpendicular to the
mound on either side of the snow. The
first team to pull their opponent into the
snow bank wins.

If there is snow on the ground and


its below freezing, create a backyard
ice skating rink. Place a tarp over the
snow and hold down the edges with

Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of parenting magazines, a mother and a
grandmother.

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When Tummy Woes


Are of Great Concern
H E I D I M A E B RAT T

earing my tummy hurts from a


youngster can strike fear in the
heart of a parent. Stomachaches,
though, are a common complaint among
children, and most are completely normal. They usually suggest that a child ate
too much or needs to go to the bathroom.
But how do you know when tummy troubles signal something more serious?
About Our Children consulted with
pediatric gastroenterologist Dr. Diana Volvert of the Valley Medical Group for some
guidance on the matter.
About Our Children: When does a
common tummy ache become something
of greater concern?
Dr. Diana Volpert: Abdominal pain
is one of the most common complaints
that children present with. In the majority
of cases it can be difficult to pinpoint an
exact explanation for the discomfort that
they experience. However, the absence
of a clearly defined disease does not necessarily mean that the gastrointestinal
system is functioning well. The following
signs and symptoms should prompt parents to contact their physician as soon as
possible: Significant abdominal pain with
abdominal distension or hard abdomen.
Abdominal pain that wakes up your child
from deep sleep. Vomiting dark green
stomach contents, bright red blood or
dark, coffee-ground like material. Or the
appearance of maroon or black stools.
AOC: When does a digestive complaint become an emergency?
Dr. Volpert: There are several cases
in which digestive complaints can quickly
evolve into a medical emergency. The first
of these is vomiting dark green stomach
contents. This could be a sign of intestinal obstruction, or damage to the intestinal lining, which can result in bleeding
and decreased blood supply to the gut.
Another concerning complaint is blood
in the stool. While blood in stool is not
always alarming, in large volumes it can
be a sign of oxygen loss to the intestine.
When rectal bleeding is accompanied by
severe pain medical attention should be
sought immediately. Small amounts of
blood can sometimes be seen in vomit
after several bouts of retching. However,
if blood is present in large amounts, or if
the child is experiencing chest pain, then
the child should be evaluated by a medical team member as soon as possible. Fever and severe abdominal pain associated
with movement can be a sign of severe
infection, including appendicitis. Finally,
any time a child has yellowing of the skin
or eyes, they must undergo evaluation in
a timely manner.
AOC: What are the most common

stomach/gastric problems that face children? That face teenagers?


Dr. Volpert: The most common gastrointestinal disorders in infants are: gastroesophageal reflux, colic, gas, and milk
protein allergy. As children grow, their
complaints gradually change. In toddlers
and preadolescents the most common
reasons for visits to gastroenterologist include: constipation and stool withholding,
feeding difficulties and failure to thrive,
diarrhea secondary to excessive juice
intake (known as toddlers diarrhea), involuntary soiling, and celiac disease. Adolescents most commonly present to gastroenterologists with: gastroesophageal
reflux, constipation, lactose intolerance,
celiac disease, irritable bowel syndrome,
and inflammatory bowel disease.
AOC: How does stress impact gut
health for youngsters?
Dr. Volpert: There are many different
areas of the brain involved in the sensation of abdominal pain. At least one of
these areas relates to the intensity of the
pain, while other areas relate to memories and emotions. Because of this interconnection, the perception of pain can be
affected by emotions or life experiences.
Studies have shown an association between anxiety/depression and abdominal
pain. The social consequences for older
children with bellyaches who get into this
cycle can be demoralizing. Parents can
help by being compassionate and never
doubting the childs pain. With that said,
parents should also encourage the child
to maintain their usual daily routine.
Dr. Volpert: When is it time to see a
stomach specialist?
AOC: A pediatrician will provide effective advice and treatment in most
cases, but, if the issue does not resolve
or worsens, then it is time to see a gastroenterologist. In infants such situations
would include persistent fussiness, vomiting, bloody diarrhea, or poor weight gain.
In toddlers, preadolescents and adolescents the red flags are recurrent vomiting,
chronic abdominal pain, persistent diarrhea, blood in stool, loss of appetite, and
weight loss.
AOC: How can a parent prevent stomach problems from occurring?
Dr. Volpert: Never ignore the childs
pain, and ensure that evaluation is done
in a timely manner. If the cause is found
to be functional, its important for the
parents to emphasize maintenance of
daily routine. In cases of organic disease,
parents should make sure the child is
compliant with the gastroenterologists
instructions, especially as they relate to
medications and diet.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our
Children.

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OurChildren
About

Teaneck Teen Chefs Career


Starts to Cook
From Chopped to Rising Star, Eitan Bernath Brings Much to the Table
H E I D I M A E B RAT T

hen hes not studying Gemara or doing geometry, Eitan


Bernath might be whipping
up Chanukah sugar cookies for Breakstones Butter or creating jelly donuts
for Manischewitz.
In fact, he has.
The Teaneck teen chef, who two
years ago was the memorable kippahclad contestant on the Food Networks
Chopped, today is busy juggling a dual
curriculum at The Frisch School, and a
budding and busy culinary career, which
includes his weekly food blog and gigs
with some major companies.
Several companies, including Breakstones Butter, Manischewitz, and others, have tapped the affable 14-year-old
freshman to use their products in recipes that he creates. Eitan then posts the
recipes on his own blog, or, the company

uses them in their own media campaigns.


While Eitan has been busy with his
own weekly blog, creating and photographing new recipes, he did a stint
last summer at the Susie Fishbein and
Friends Culinary Institute at Camp Nesher, internships at local restaurants,
and took a pastry course at the International Culinary Center in New York City.
In addition, he contributes to a local
magazine and will have a monthly column, Easy Ethnic with Eitan with the
launch of a new kosher food website,
kosher.com. He also has been invited
by kosher food celebrity Jamie Geller to
join her as a guest on some of her upcoming videos.
Its surreal, said his mother, Sabrina Bernath. The opportunities that
are being offered to him as a 14 year old,
and the acceptance that he is getting not
only from the kosher foodie community,
but from the larger community, said

A Recipe for Chanukah


Fried in oil is the mantra for Chanukah dishes. Here is one of Eitans recipes that fits the bill for the holiday, or
for any time of the year.
Cornflake Crusted Chicken Fingers

Ingredients:
For the Chicken:
8 chicken tenders
1 cup flour
2 eggs
2 cups cornflakes
Oil for frying
For the Mayo:
cup mayonnaise
2 tsp sriracha
Preheat the oil in a medium sized pot to

350 degrees Fahrenheit.


Place the flour, eggs, and cornflakes into
three separate bowls.
To coat the chicken, dip the chicken in
the flour, then egg, then flour again, then
egg again, and then finally the cornflakes.
Once all the chicken has been coated,
fry them a few at a time for 5 minutes
or until golden brown and cooked all the
way through.
Place the cooked chicken pieces on a
plate with a paper towel to drain of all
the oil.

For the Spicy Mayo:


In a small bowl combine the mayo and
sriracha.

Mrs. Bernath, who chairs the


math department at Frisch.
We are so happy for him.
Most recently, Eitan
received The Rising Star
Award from the organizers
of Kosherfeast at its annual
fete at Le Marais restaurant
in Manhattan. While his
parents, Jason and Sabrina,
were aware that he was receiving the award, it was a
surprise to Eitan. The annual
collegial event draws several
bold-named kosher chefs
who blog.
Hes a rock star, said
The Aussie Gourmet Naomi
Nachman, who presented
Eitan with the award. Hes
amazing, and so mature.
People dont even realize
that hes 14 years old.
Kosher chef Levana Eitan Bernath and his parents, Jason and Sabrina Bernath, at
Kirschenbaum, a pioneer of Kosherfeast.
kosher gourmet cuisine, is also a fan.
based Joseph Jacobs Advertising agenWhat impresses me most about Eicy, said he sought out Eitan for the Chatan is that even though hes exploring
nukah campaign for Breakstones Butter.
just like all other kids, he seems to have
The company was interested in making
found his calling. Indeed, hes a natural
its time-honored product appealing to
in the kitchen. I cant resist adding hes
a younger demographic, and Eitan was
so impossibly cute. And, even though
perfect in many ways. He filled the
Eitan seems unusually talented for his
niche nicely, but he doesnt step away
young years, theres not a single conceitfrom the heritage of the brand, Rosened bone in his body.
feld said.
I always say, pay attention to kids,
Eitan is young, hes energetic, pasand take them seriously, Ms. Kirschensionate about food, and very authentic,
baum said. They are tomorrows stars.
said Mr. Rosenfeld. You just get a sense
Eitan could be a real spokesman for his
that hes real.
peers. Fun dishes made with serious
Likewise, the folks at Manischewitz
and healthy ingredients? Great messought Eitans qualities of passion and
sage for kosher cooks and mothers of
energy and his youth.
picky children.
His enthusiasm is contagious, said
Sara Stromer, assistant brand manager
For Eitan, he is just doing what he
of Newark-based Manischewitz. Hes
loves, and he pushes himself to the
very mature, and he really knows what
challenge, like committing to a weekly
he is doing.
blog. Every Sunday, he wakes up and
Using one of the Manischewitz mixcreates a new recipe that he posts on
es, he created donuts and came up with
social media.
a way to use its grape juice to make jelly.
Food blogging has really helped me
The company has launched a new soprogress in my cooking, Eitan said.
cial media campaign to target a youngWhen it comes to balancing schooler demographic.
work and food work he admits that he
As for Eitan, the busier he gets, the
has to be smart about it. He uses his
better, as he wants to keep growing.
free periods at Frisch to answer a client
Age doesnt determine what you
or do other food-related work, all while
can accomplish, Eitan said, just how
keeping abreast of his busy academlong youve had to accomplish it.
ic schedule.
It helps to have my phone and computer in school, he said.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About
Elie Rosenfeld, CEO of Teaneck
Our Children.
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Fire Away

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Yummy, Yummy

Make your own gingerbread menorah, and then display it eight


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Mazel Toes on the Holiday

Socks that make the most fabulous foot


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Musical Maccabee

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Press his tummy and he plays the dreidel
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You can run to light your menorah, or just display


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GENERATION G

A Young Childs Version


Of Noahs Ark in the City
E D S I L B E R FA R B

ou can have one if you find


a college that will take both
you and your dog.
Thats how Joes campaign for a dog
always ended. The fact that he was only
eight years old, 10 years away from college, didnt seem to dilute his mothers
argument. It was obvious there would be
no dog in the apartment.
No dog, perhaps, but his mother
overlooked the possibility that other
creatures could fill the void. The restriction didnt seem to go beyond dogs. At
his eighth birthday party, a friend arrived with a package about the size of a
suitcase. The wrapping was torn away
to reveal a cage containing a brown and
white rodent with a nose that twitched
in an appealing way.
Its a teddy bear hamster, his
friends mother said. Then, to justify the

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choice, We picked it over a gerbil because without a tail it wouldnt look so


mouse-like.
Reaction among the adults ranged
from his mothers stunned silence to his
grandmothers remark, Thats a hostile act.
Hostile or not, it was the beginning
of Joes menagerie that would eventually
include, besides hamsters and their offspring, a herd of guinea pigs, a rabbit, a
snake and fish from every possible environment fresh water, salt water, brackish water, as well as hermit crabs.
His first concern was the hamster,
which he said was the best birthday
present ever. He named it Teddy and
got it a companion. Soon one cage could
not contain them and their offspring, so
he created a hamster village with tubes
connecting multiple cages and a treadmill to provide exercise. The complex
occupied half his room.

His mother, who


banned a dog, could
take some comfort
in knowing that hamsters didnt have to
be walked three times
a day. Unlike a dog,
though, they werent
very cuddly. To compensate for that lack
of affection, Joes animal of choice was a
guinea pig, but what
kind? Straight haired
or curly? His solution
was one of each. He soon
learned that guinea pigs
favorite activity is making
baby guinea pigs.
Even Joes mother
had to admit there is nothing quite adorable as a baby guinea pig.
Unlike many other newborn mammals,
they are not naked and grotesque. They
are fully formed with fur. Theyre like
miniature adults.
As they get older, though, unlike
hamsters theyre too big to be contained
in small cages with connecting tubes.
They need multi-gallon fish tanks that
soon occupied the remaining space in
Joes room. He still had his own bed, but
not much more. His mother began to
wonder it she got the worst of the bargain by banning a dog.
Joes father offered a practical solution sell some of the guinea pigs to
the local pet shop. It was hard to decide which ones to part with. Even Joes
mother had become attached to them,
but it was necessary to thin the herd.
The stores owner was eager to buy
these homegrown pets.
By now Joe had reached bar mitzvah
age. His Haftorah study was a necessary
distraction from his zoo, which by now
included an aquarium with exotic, beautiful tropical fish. He was visiting a friend
when he saw something hopping past
him. He did a double take and realized
it was a rabbit. Obviously that was what
was missing from his menagerie. Rabbits, however, were not easy to find.
They scanned ads in local newspapers, and found a place that had a new
litter of Netherland dwarf rabbits. After a brief visit, they were won over by
a light gray bunny with a tendency to
cling when held. What to call this benign, sweet-natured creature? Joes older brother had the perfect name Sauron, Tolkeins Lord of Evil.

Sauron wasnt confined


to a cage. He roamed the
bedroom, and, like a cat,
was liter-trained. On a
diet of rabbit chow,
alfalfa and carrots,
he outlived the
hamsters and
the
guinea
pigs. He lived
to be 14
years old, a
remarkable
age for a rabbit,
which
Joe was certain to be a
world record.
Alas, the Guinness book listed
one in New Zealand
that lived to be 18.
Joe, now in the third year of high
school would soon be looking at colleges. His mother no longer worried about
his finding a place that would accept him
and a dog. There was a new problem.
Joe had taken an interest in snakes, an
interest that required him to have one of
his own. He selected a young Caribbean
boa, a constrictor that would eat only
live prey.
He named the snake Frankie. It was
the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
Joe soon learned that caring for a snake
could be complicated. Early in their relationship Frankie stopped eating. He
seemed sick, but Joe had no way to take
his temperature so he called the herpetology department of the Bronx Zoo.
Thats when he learned that snakes stop
eating when they shed their skin, which
they do periodically. In a few weeks
Frankie, with new skin, began eating
again and all was serene.
When the time came for Joe to look
at colleges, he remembered his mothers stern injunction. Would it apply to
snakes as well as dogs? She didnt ban
the snake, but would a college admissions officer think kindly of it? And what
about a potential roommate? The issue didnt arise. Joe went off to college
and his understanding father inherited
the snake.
Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the
Bergen Record in New Jersey, then the New
York Herald Tribune where he was City Hall
bureau chief. Later, he was a public information officer for the New York City Transit
Authority and editor of one of its employee
publications.

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The Juggle, the Struggle, the Balance of All


S LOV I E JU N G R E I S - WO L F F

alancing marriage, parenting, work,


and life responsibilities can feel like
a high-wire act. Our children need
us, our spouses expect us to be there for
them, and then there are parents, jobs,
financial pressures and daily obligations
pulling at us all at the same time. This
does not even begin to address our desire
to take care of ourselves. Carving personal time out for a gym class or quiet cappuccino in a coffee shop seems as if we
are seeking guilty pleasures.
Some nights we lie awake thinking
to ourselves that nobody in this family
is happy because each person believes I
am there more for the others and this
includes ourselves.
Here are five strategies for successfully juggling our relationships
and commitments:

Take Care of Yourself


In case of an emergency on a plane you
must first place the oxygen mask over
yourself and only then can you begin
to take care of your children. If you are
not breathing you are of no help to anyone else.

If you feel as if you are choking, your


family will feel it. Begin by taking care of
yourself. Be committed to your mental,
emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Make a plan and set real goals. Stop overlooking yourself. This is not selfish and
self-centered; it is not a guilty pleasure.
Look at it instead as giving your family
the greatest gift possible: The gift of a joyful you.

Acknowledge the Challenge


When we feel pressured we snap at the
people in our lives. Family and friends
become the most convenient targets. As
we push loved ones away, a cycle begins
where we start to feel isolated and alone.
Our relationships suffer. Those closest to
us who can help us find calm in the storm
grow distant.
Instead of getting angry with our
partners, set aside time to speak together
in a calm moment. Concentrate on your
tone and body language. Be careful not
to speak impatiently or seem standoffish.
Say, I feel like Im in a pressure cooker
right now. I realize that I may seem snappy and moody. I am feeling overwhelmed.
And while its not an excuse, it is something that is making me act out. I am in a

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bad spot and now I want to work on solutions. Show that you are recognizing
the problem instead of living as if this is
your normal.

Anticipate and Plan


Often our feelings of being overwhelmed
come from being stuck in the same difficult situation time and time again. The
children are coming home from school
all at the same time, mornings are out
of control, your spouse is having a hard
time in the office and walks through the
door in a grumpy mood. And these challenges occur each and every day. The
real surprise is why are you once again
caught unaware?
If you can anticipate that the mornings will be stressful, you can tell yourself
that you know whats coming. Understanding that your stressed partner needs
time to unwind before interacting with
you prevents you from getting bent out of
shape each night. You will feel prepared
instead of off-kilter.
Anticipation also helps you find solutions. You can work on a doable plan
instead of throwing up your hands and
feeling as if this is just not possible. If you
envision that nighttime is chaotic and

the house will be noisy when you return


home after a hard day, you are less likely
to lose it because you know what to expect the moment you walk through the

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The Top No-Nos


When It Comes to What to Say
A D I N A S O C LO F
Who spilled the milk?
Parenting includes many different jobs chef, chauffeur and cheerleader. Dont add detective to the list.
Whodunnit questions Who spilled all the juice
on the floor and didnt clean it up? only lead to lying and accusations. Instead describe the problem and
ask for help, Oh no! Theres juice all over the floor. We
need a mop and some paper towels. You can tell the
family later, I dont know who spilled the juice and I
dont care. That person needs to remember in the future to clean up after themselves.

How was school today?


Many children have a hard time answering open-ended
questions like, What did you do in school today? They
often dont like to answer any questions at the end of
their long day. You can just give your child a warm hello
and a greeting, Great to see you
After your child has time to unwind, you can ask
some close-ended questions like, Did you color or
paint today? Was today an art or gym day? These
questions will help your child open up and talk.
You can also have everyone at dinner share the
best thing that happened to him or her that day. Some
other questions to ask, How were you brave today?
How were you kind today? How did you fail today?

Stop (twirling your hair! being so wild!)

Come Smile with Us

Direct commands are usually invitations for a power


struggle. This is especially true if you have a strong-willed
child. Not only that, there are children who have a hard
time processing the command and then actually carrying
out the command. It looks like they are being defiant, but
in actuality they are struggling to understand the directions thrown at them while curbing their behavior.
It is helpful to tell children what they can do instead
of what they cant and give them a few seconds to comply. Instead of saying, Stop twirling your hair! you can
say, Hands belong in your lap. Instead of saying, Stop
being so wild! You can say, Inside is for quiet voices
and quiet feet.

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Children have a hard time leaving places they love.


Make sure to give your children, 5 to10 minute warnings before you head out. You can say, I am letting you
know we are leaving in 10 minutes. In 5 more minutes
we will start to get ready to go.

Great job!
Most parents have heard by now that that encouraging
kids by saying, Good job or You are wonderful does
not build confidence. It actually does the opposite. It
trains kids to rely on others approval instead of listening to their gut feelings. They become more tentative
about making their own decisions.
Instead we can describe what we see: You hit the
ball and ran to first base! You got into the bath and
washed yourself up! You cleared all the dishes!

You always You never


When we start our conversations with You always are
late, or You never listen we immediately put
the other person on the defensive. It is also sending a

negative message, that they are never on time and they


are not good listeners. Furthermore we are reinforcing
negative behavior because the more you point out the
negative the more negative you will get in return. The
more times I pointed out that my kids were late, not
listening or being disrespectful or non-compliant, the
more likely they would perpetuate that behavior.
Turn the above statements around by saying: I
know you know how to listen. I know we can figure
out a way to get out on time.

We dont cry about lost toys


losing the game
Crying can actually be a great stress reliever; it removes
toxins from the body that build up due to emotional
stress. It is good to let kids just cry it out and let them
know it is okay.
Yes, children cry about the silliest things, at least
to our adult minds. However, these things are important to children. Rav Yisroel Salanter said that when a
childs toy boat breaks, to him it is as if he is a merchant
and all his goods were lost at sea.
Let children cry in peace and empathize with them.
It can be so frustrating to lose your toy! You and your
team worked so hard and you really wanted to win the
game. Ironically this is what helps them deal with their
feelings. It calms them down and they can then recognize that it might not be so bad after all.

You are so smart


In documented studies, children praised in this way
have a hard time performing well academically, are
more anxious about school and shy away from challenges. Children who are told theyre smart believe
that intelligence is something you have or dont. They
figure if you have to work hard at a task it means you
are stupid. They have limited strategies to cope with
academic setbacks.
Instead we need to praise children for their effort, for working hard, persevering at a difficult task
and figuring out solutions to problems. Children who
are praised in this way are motivated to learn and will
challenge themselves academically. They feel that they
have control over their intelligence and they only have
to increase their effort to succeed at school.
Be descriptive and focus on his accomplishments:
You put effort into your book report. You read the
book, answered the questions and drew a picture for
the cover. You had it ready for the due date. Thats
called being responsible.
Adina Soclof is the director of Parent Outreach for A+
Solutions, facilitating How to Talk so Kids will Listen and
Listen so Kids will Talk and Siblings Without Rivalry workshops. She is available for speaking engagements. Check out
www.parentingsimply.com for more information.

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For the Love of Latkes, Just Line Up

Juggle continued from page11


door. And you can be realistic and set practical ways to find evening balance instead
of exploding.

H E I D I M A E B RAT T
Latke lovers, youre in for a treat!
Children up to 17 years old, and
adults 18 and over are invited to join
the Annual Latke Eating Contest on
Sunday, January 1, 2017. Sponsored
by the Cedar Lane Management
Group and Noahs Ark, the contest
will give potato eaters a chance to
sample some of the most creative
patties this latke-loving season.
Gourmand and entrepreneur,
Noam Sokolow, owner of Noahs
Ark and other food enterprises, said
that this years palatte of latkes is
sure to delight the palate.
In addition to the classic potato,
sweet potato and corn and zucchini
latke offerings, there will be Yukon Gold and Jerusalem artichoke
latkes, leek and porcini mushroom
latkes, zucchini and Mediterranean spiced latkes, cauliflower and
zaatar latkes, and Okinawan potato, asparagus and tarragon latkes.
Everybody makes a potato

Find Your Positive Energy

latke, said Mr. Sokolow. Were just


keeping it relevant.
The latke size will range from
small, medium and large, and the
first 10 people to register per age
group, will be eligible for the eat
off. Arrive 10:45 a.m., to register
at Noahs Ark, 493 Cedar Lane,
Teaneck.
Winners will be awarded a gift
certificate to Noahs Ark restaurant.
Bring your appetites.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About
Our Children.

Some of us live life in the positive lane while


others only hear negative voices. The choice
is yours. When we awfulize our situation,
nothing seems good. We easily fall into an
overwhelming feeling of discontent. Our
minds fill with the worst- case scenario. Even
the smallest difficulties loom large and we
dont think we will manage.
Here are some negative self-talks to try
and stay away from: My life is crazy. Nothing ever goes right for me. Ill never be able
to fix this mess. I hate my life.
When you have the negative thoughts
playing in your head that makes you feel
as if you are living a miserable life, you
lose the positive force that lies within. Solutions become difficult to come by. Life
seems dark. Joy is a distant dream that remains unattainable.
The happiest people I know are the most
positive. But living with a positive eye takes
work. When you begin to find yourself traveling in the negative lane be conscious of what
is happening. Counter the negative thought
with a more confident one.

List Your Priorities and Goals


We spend too much time busying ourselves
with meaningless activities that strip us of a
sense of balance in our day. Surfing the net,
checking Instagram, senseless texting and
the sort are all ways we find ourselves wasting hours. We dont begin to realize how precious our time in this world is. We take opportunities with family for granted. Instead
of interacting with loved ones, we forget how
to cherish the simplest moments. Of course
we feel unbalanced.
There is too much emotional clutter
clouding our lives. It is time to get organized
and rid ourselves of the mindless acts that
prevent us from living each day to the max.
Begin by thinking about your priorities. List
your most important goals. How much time
do you spend that reflects your values? And
how much time is wasted; making you feel as
if you dont have enough hours in the day?
Seeking balance while working on solutions will help us live with a positive spirit,
feeling energized and better able to handle
lifes challenges.
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting and relationship coach and the author of Raising a Child
With Soul, (St. Martins Press).

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Guide
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ART
Lessons

SCHOOLS
Golda Och Academy

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in the Arts

DECEMBER HOLIDAY BREAK CAMP

Dec. 26-30 Age 3 to Teens


Dance, Acting, Musical Theater, Fencing,
Gymnastics, Silks, Art, and more.
Class for students
with learning differences
and special needs

Fencing Princess Dance and more age 2-1/2 to adults

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Art Portfolio Preparation Available
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Rhythm and Hip-Hop based


dance classes.
2016
Everyone deserves the chance to dance! READERS
CHOICE

201-390-7513 201-266-8830

studio-info@cresskillperformingarts.com
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Eric F. Ross Upper School Campus


1418 Pleasant Valley Way
West Orange, NJ 07052
973-602-3600
www.goldaochacademy.org
Wilf Lower School Campus
122 Gregory Avenue
West Orange, NJ 07052
973-602-3700
www.goldaochacademy.org
Ages served: Pre-K12th grade
Golda Och Academy unlocks the
potential of its students by cultivating their critical thinking skills and
nurturing their intellectual curiosity
through the study of the humanities, sciences, Judaics, and creative
arts. Please see our ad on page 13.

The Solomon Schechter Day


School of Bergen County

275 McKinley Avenue


Milford, NJ 07646
201-262-9898 ext. 213
www.ssdsbergen.org
3years8th Grade
Solomon Schechter Day School of
Bergen County (SSDS) is a nationally accredited, Jewish day school
that cultivates the next generation
of global leaders through an inquirybased educational approach. Now
in our 43rd year, SSDS is an International Baccalaureate candidate for
the Middle Years Programme with a
newly established Design Thinking
Lab. Our school integrates a rigorous dual curriculum with Jewish
values, and provides a nurturing environment guided by award-winning
educators. We offer Suzuki Violin
and chess, musical theater and
yoga, an organic teaching garden, a
Zeiss microscopy lab, and a digital
media center for Holocaust studies.
On-site day care, extended day, and
robust after-school activities program offered. Contact Sarah Sokolic
in our admissions office at 201-2629898 x203 or admissions@ssdsbergen.org to learn about our program.
Please see our ad on page 5.

The Abraham Joshua Heschel


School

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Grades N-8
30 West End Avenue
New York, NY 10023
Grades 9-12
20 West End Ave.
New York, NY 10023
212-595-7087
www.heschel.org
Please see our ad on page 16.

Academies at Gerrard Berman


Day School

45 Spruce Street
Oakland NJ 07436
201-337-1111
www.ssnj.org
Ages 214
Academies at Gerrard Berman
Day School offers a warm, nurturing environment for children ages
2-14. Through a focus in leadership, STEAM, and performing arts,
the Academies offers its students a
comprehensive Judaic and General
Studies education. We educate children to become successful leaders
and learners who will meet future
challenges and make the world a
better place. Please see our ad on
page 13.

SINAI Elementary at Joseph


Kushner Hebrew Academy

110 South Orange Avenue


Livingston, NJ 07039
862-437-8000 x 8190
www.sinaischools.org
Grades: 18
Elementary-Middle School for children with a wide range of complex
learning or developmental disabilities. Inclusive, yet individualized to
fit each students social, emotional,
and academic needs. Recognized
for educational excellence; Middle
States Association of Colleges and
Schools accreditation. Please see
our ad on page 11

SINAI Elementary at Rosenbaum


Yeshiva of North Jersey, Including
the Riva Blatt Weinstein Judaic
Studies Program

666 Kinderkamack Road


River Edge, NJ 07661
201-262-4202
www.sinaischools.org
Grades: 1-8
Elementary-Middle School for children with a wide range of complex
learning or developmental disabilities. Inclusive, yet individualized to
fit each students social, emotional,
and academic needs. Recognized
for educational excellence; Middle
States Association of Colleges and
Schools accreditation. Please see
our ad on page 11.

SINAI Schools Rabbi Mark and


Linda Karasick Shalem High
School at Heichal HaTorah

70 Sterling Place
Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-335-0633
www.sinaischools.org
Ages: 1821
Functional academic high school
program preparing older boys with
developmental disabilities for rich
and productive adult lives. Focus-

ing on life skills, community awareness, and vocational studies, while


integrating a pragmatic Judaic and
secular curricula. Inclusive, yet individualized to fit each students
social, emotional, and academic
needs. Please see our ad on page 11.

SINAI Schools Maor High School


at Rae Kushner Yeshiva High
School, including the William
Solomon Judaic Studies Program

110 South Orange Ave.


Livingston, NJ 07039
862-437-8000 x8190
www.sinaischools.org
Grades: 912
Academically rigorous program for
high schoolers with academic/social
challenges. Inclusive, yet individualized to fit each students social,
emotional, and academic needs.
Recognized for educational excellence; Middle States Association of
Colleges and Schools accreditation.
Please see our ad on page 11.

SINAI Schools Rabbi Mark and


Linda Karasick Shalem High
School at Maayanot Yeshiva High
School

1650 Palisade Ave.


Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-833-4307 x 249
www.sinaischools.org
Ages: 1421
Functional academic high school
program preparing students with
developmental disabilities for rich
and productive adult lives. Integrates pragmatic Judaic and secular
curricula with community awareness and vocational studies. Inclusive, yet individualized to fit each
students social, emotional, and academic needs. Please see our ad on
page 11.

SINAI Schools Rabbi Mark and


Linda Karasick Shalem High
School at Torah Academy of
Bergen County

1600 Queen Anne Road


Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-862-0032
www.sinaischools.org
Grades 912
Functional academic high school
program preparing students with
developmental disabilities for rich
and productive adult lives. Integrates pragmatic Judaic and secular
curricula with community awareness and vocational studies. Inclusive, yet individualized to fit each
students social, emotional, and academic needs. Please see our ad on
page 11.

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RELIGIOUS
SCHOOLS
Jewish Youth Encounter Program

1600 Queen Anne Road


Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-833-JYEP (5937)
www.JYEP.org
Grades 38
The JYEP is a pre-bar/bat mitzvah Hebrew school for children in grades 3-8,
which, in addition to the traditional classroom instruction of Bible and holidays
by young and vibrant teachers, matches
each child with a tutor/mentor. Our JYEP
staff directed by Dr. Debby Rapps, is committed to creating an environment where
each child is individually nurtured to his
or her own strength in a warm, creative,
meaningful and stimulating environment.
We offer Bar and Bat Mitzvah training in
the higher grades, where each child is
mentored individually by a Big Brother/
Sister regardless of the level at which
they enter. Please see our ad on page 15.

Temple Beth El Religious School

221 Schraalenburg Road


Closter, NJ 07624
201-768-2195
www.tbenv.org
Grades: K-10th grades
Beth Kramer-Mazer/director of education
We are a wonderful place for children to
learn and grow. We provide a safe and
stimulating environment, which promotes positive learning experiences,
builds strong self-esteem and nurtures
inherent curiosity. Jewish identity is enhanced through celebration of Shabbat
and the holidays. Please see our ad on
page 4.

NURSERY SCHOOLS
Glen Rock Jewish Center

682 Harristown Road


Glen Rock, NJ 07452
(201) 652-6624
grjcnursery@gmail.com
We are a small, nurturing environment
rich in hands-on secular/Judaic experiences and exploration both indoors
and out. Our school promotes social,
emotional and cognitive development
through creative play, art, music, movement, literature. Flexible scheduling
and extended care are available. We are
state licensed and 100% of our teachers
are certified with degrees in education.
Hours: 7:15 am to 6:00 pm. In addition to
Nursery School programs, we also offer
Infant/Toddler Playgroups, Toddler Time
and Summer Camp. Please see our ad on
page 12.

Temple Beth El Nursery School

221 Schraalenburg Road


Closter, NJ 07624
www.tbenv.org
Ages 18 months to 5 years
Rabbi Beth Kramer-Mazer/director
We are a wonderful place for children to
learn and grow. We provide a safe and
stimulating environment, which promotes positive learning experiences,
builds strong self-esteem and nurtures
inherent curiosity. Jewish identity is enhanced through celebration of Shabbat
and the holidays. Please see our ad on
page 4.

ENRICHMENT
Boy Scout Troop 226

70 Sterling Place
Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-835-53
www.jewish226.scoutlander.com
Ages: 1117
Boy Scout Troop 226Bergen Countys
only Jewish Boy Scout troop

offers
the opportunity for boys ages 1117 to
experience the outdoors while observing Shabbat and kashrut. Our activities
include hikes, overnight camping trips,
and summer camp. Please see our ad on
page 11.

ARTS &
PERFORMING ARTS
Black Box erforming Arts Centerk

200 Walraven Drive


(GPS 290 Walraven)
just east of Palisade Avenue
201-357-2221
www.blackboxnynj.com
Ages: 5Adult
Collaborative, nurturing theater and improv workshops for all ages and levels of
experience. Most classes end in productions for family, friends, and fans. Students work inside an active professional
theater and learn from top industry
professionals. Act. Sing. Dance. Thrive.
Please see our ad on page 16.

Cresskill Performing Arts Inc.

300 Knickerbocker Road, Suite 1100


Cresskill, NJ 07626
201-266-8830
201-390-7513
studio-info@cresskillperformingarts.com
www.cresskillperformingarts.com
Ages: 2adult
Watch your child soar in the arts! Cresskill
Performing Arts specializes in small
classes, great teachers and a nurturing,
inclusive, non-competitive environment.
All kinds of dance, ballet, pointe, variations, floor barre, jazz, hip-hop, lyrical,
contemporary, 4 levels of modern, Gymnastics jazz, tap, acting, musical theater
production. Early childhood dance beginnings, ballet beginnings. Fencing lessons. New! Silks & Hammocks classes
for age 6 through adults. Rhythm Works
Integrative Dance for children with learning differences and special needs. Dance
companies perform for local charities
and fundraise for autism and the homeless. Birthday parties age 3

teens,
dance, acting, art. Legos, fencing, pajama
parties, princess parties. Please see our
ad on page 14.

The Performing Arts School


at bergenPAC

1 Depot Square
Englewood, NJ 07631
201-482-8194
www.bergenpac.org/educations
Ages: 3 months21 years.
The Performing Arts School at bergenPAC is northern New Jerseys premier
arts education program. Offering classes
in a variety of performing arts disciplines
and opportunities to participate in live
performances, the school provides students of all ages and backgrounds with
arts experiences that stimulate learning
and sparks creativity and imagination.

The programs are developed for young


people ages 3 months to 21 years old,
and since its inception has reached thousands of children. Please see our ad on
page 10.

Rina Goldhagen Art Lessons

7-01 Manor Ave.


Fair Lawn, New Jersey 07410
201-248-4779
Artofexcellencestudio@gmail.com
Ages: 7adult
Art of Excellence Studio. Lessons in Fine
Art. Drawing and Watercolor Private Art
Lessons Structured lessons, relaxed atmosphere, fabulous results. Art Portfolio
Preparation Available. Experienced Artist/Trained Educator. Please see our ad
on page 14.

SPECIAL NEEDS
Berger Learning Group, LLC

31-11 Broadway
Fair Lawn, NJ 07601
201-742-5298
www.bergerlearning.com
Ages: 18 months to 16 years
BLG provides a range of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) services for children
with special needs. Our ABA programs
address cognitive, social-emotional, play,
and self-help skills, as well as language/
communication and behavioral challenges through a positive behavioral approach. Please see our ad on page 16.

The Therapy Gym

205 West Englewood Ave.


Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-357-0417
www.thetherapygym.com
Ages newborn to 21
The Therapy Gym is a comprehensive
pediatric facility offering physical, occupational, speech and behavioral therapy.

We also offer classes for kids including social skills, yoga, mommy & me, &
sports skills. We bill insurance directly
so the client can focus on his/her childs
rehabilitation. We are currently offering
screenings with a therapist for only $30
by appointment only. Please see our ad
on page 19.

SPORTS
Bounce U of Paramus

The Ultimate Party and Play Experience


70 Eisenhower Drive
Paramus, NJ 07470
201-843-5880
www.BounceU.com/Paramus
Ages: PreschoolAdult
Voted #1 Best Place to have a Kids Party
and #1 Best Kids Fun Place, Top 3 for Kids
Gym. Bounce U is a party place for families and friends to share memories that
will last a lifetime. All parties and events
completely private for you and your
guests. Two giant bounce stadiums. 10
incredible inflatables. Plus the new Lightspace game wall! Cosmic Bounce-Glow
parties. Check out our open bounce and
preschool play-date schedule online. Kosher available. Please see our ad on page
4.

Ice Vault Skating Arena

10 Nevins Drive
Wayne, NJ
973-628-1500
www.icevault.com
Ages: All
The Ice Vault has various activities for
kids of all ages. Public sessions, hockey
clinics, hockey teams, figure skating, freestyle, Learn to Skate programs. Birthday parties are also available. Please see
our ad on page 18.

THERE Registration
IS AN ALTERNATIVE
Mid-Year
Now Open

Learn About The Revolution In


HEBREW SCHOOL Education
In Bergen County
JEWISH Y UTH
ENCOUNTER PROGRAM

Creative and exciting classes for children in grades 3-7


Bar & Bat Mitzvah Preparation
Big Brothers/Sisters mentor each student
Monthly Family Programs
Located in Teaneck (Torah Academy)
Classes meet Sunday mornings
No synagogue affiliation required

Contact Dr. Deborah Rapps, Director 201-833-JYEP(5937)


Or visit us at www.JYEP.org or email debby@jyep.org
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OurChildren
About

Taking the Family


On a Winter Vacation
DENISE MORRISON YEARIAN

The Heschel School


OPENING MINDS, BRIDGING DIFFERENCES, LIVING JEWISH VALUES.
Ariela Dubler, Head of School

NURSERY - 12TH GRADE

High School Open House Dates:


Tuesday, September 27 | Wednesday, November 16
To RSVP contact Iris Klein, Co-Director of Admissions
iriskl@heschel.org
Early Childhood, Lower School, and Middle School Tours:
Contact Erica Panush, Co-Director of Admissions ericap@heschel.org
212.784.1234
www.heschel.org
30 West End Avenue, New York, New York 10023

very winter I get a fever cabin fever, that is. The cure?
Take my family on a winter
vacation. Before seasonal blues get
you down, round up a winning winter getaway that will not break the
bank. Following are a few tips to get
you started.

Establish a Budget
The first step to planning a winter vacation is to determine how much you can
spend. While drawing up your budget,
ask yourself a series of questions to help
you decide the kind of vacation you can
afford. Will you be able to fly to your destination, or will you drive? Can you budget
for a rental car and gas? Should you stay
in an all-inclusive resort, or opt for a hotel, condo, or rental property? How much
can you budget for activities? What about
meals, can you afford to dine out the entire time, or will you need to bring food
to eat in the room? Answering these and
other questions will lay the groundwork
for an affordable vacation without wallet
worries.

Create a Family Wish List

2017 Classes
Intro to The Stage
K Grade 3

Musical Theater Workshop for Kids


Grades 4 7

Drama for Teens


Grades 8 12

Teen Musical Theatre Workshop


Grades 8 12

Level II Improv
Ages 14 and older

Teen Improv (Level I)


Ages 14 18

Adult Improv (Level I)


Ages 19 and older

Adult Acting Workshop


Ages 19 and older

Sessions start 1/15/17 or soon thereafter!


Register at www.blackboxnynj.com!

Black Box Performing Arts Center


200 Walraven Drive Teaneck, NJ 07666
201-357-2221
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Choosing a destination that will appeal


to everyone in your family is a seemingly impossible task. But a corporate
wish list is a good place to start. Ask
each family member to write down two
or three destinations he would like to go
to, based on what your budget will allow.
When everyone is finished, look over the
lists carefully to see if the destinations
coincide. Is there any common ground?
If so work from there.
If family members start grumbling
because their destination was not the
popular vote, remind them that nearly every location offers alternative activities.
For example, a ski resort normally has
ice-skating, snow tubing, snowboarding,
swimming, and indoor games.
A cruise ship may offer sightseeing,
hiking, rock climbing, and shopping. The
point is to find a location everyone will
enjoy, even if it isnt his first choice.
Before the final decision is made,
consider the ages and interests of your
children, particularly if they are young. If
you are looking at a vacation site where
babysitting is required for older family
members to participate in activities, will
be there day camps or childrens programs for the younger set?

Research Activities and Amenities


When children help plan vacations, they

feel as if their opinions are valued. It also


teaches them how to research information when it is needed. Go online with
your children and search out activities
in and around your vacation site. Check
out the various websites and do your research. Make a list of several activities,
along with hours of operation and cost
for admission.
If you are traveling by car, look for
places to stop en route museums, science centers, factory tours. This will
break up the trip. Seek out places that
are family friendly to ensure the exhibits
and activities cater to children.
In your research, take advantage of
savings opportunities two-for-one packages, flight specials, frequent flyer miles,
off-season traveling, kids stay free, earlybird dining specials, etc. If you visit a major city or attraction, stay on the outskirts
of town as lodging may cost less. Rent a
condominium or a room with a kitchen
and you can save money on meals.

Compromise and Flexibility


Sometime before the trip, discuss activity options with your family. Agree
on what everyone will do together, but
leave room for compromise. Allow everyone the freedom to do what he or she
wants while on vacation. For example,
the girls may want to go shopping while
the guys attend a sporting event.
If you are traveling with infants and
toddlers, be flexible. If, for example, you
are visiting an attraction and your child
starts to get cranky, be prepared to wind
down the activity quickly. And since children thrive on routine, try to keep their
meals and bedtimes consistent with
those at home.
Above all, remember that rounding
up a winter vacation beats the seasonal
blues. So before cabin fever sets in, balance your budget, decide on a destination, assess the activities, and call a
compromise. Then go and chill out!
Denise Morrison Yearian is a former editor
of parenting magazines, a mother and grandmother.

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OurChildren
About

Helping Your Youngsters


Set and Get to Their Goals
DENISE MORRISON YEARIAN

hen children set and achieve


personal goals, it can affect
the way they view themselves,
their academics and their activities,
both now and in the future. But for many,
goal setting doesnt just happen. Often
its an acquired skill that requires the
guidance, support and encouragement
of a parent or mentor. Once learned,
children can turn todays dreams into
tomorrows reality.
Taylor Hollingsworth is a prime example. Ever since her mother can remember, the preteen has enjoyed entertaining others and made it her goal early
on to become a professional singer.
By the time Taylor was in fifth grade
she had gotten a lot of positive feedback
with different performances so by years
end she was ready to step it up a notch,
said her mother. We decided a good

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next step was to enroll her in a performing arts school so she could major in
voice and minor in theater.
Frank McIntosh, president of the local Junior Achievement, said its never
too early to start children on the goalsetting track. Whats most important,
though, is that the goals be self-directed.
If the child owns his goal, hes more
likely to embrace it and have the motivation and commitment to work toward
attaining it, says McIntosh. Its okay for
parents to give input and guidance but it
needs to be driven by the child.
This was the case with Dave Reslers daughter. From the time she was
in fourth grade, Stephanie had run short
distances in track. Upon entering high
school, she joined cross-country and so
increased her distance from one-quarter
to over three miles. But her biggest running goal came at the end of her freshman year.

One day Stephanie came to me and


said she wanted to join the 300-Mile Club
at school that summer, said her father.
I knew it was a realistic goal, so together we sat down and did the math how
often she would have to run over the
course of three months.
When children formulate a goal,
its a good idea if they write it down,
said Linda Sullivan, local 4-H organizational leader. This creates a clear picture in their minds of what they want to
achieve, gives permanency to the goal
and provides the drive and motivation
to move forward.
In doing so, they should outline steps
that need to be taken along the way.
Breaking down a large goal into specific steps helps kids experience smaller
goals along the way, said Mr. McIntosh.
For some, this may mean taking advantage of resources such as books, DVDs
and the Internet to broaden their understanding. And never underestimate the
power of third-party influencesomeone who knows the ropes and can encourage your child or provide the expertise needed to fine-tune his skills.
Hollingsworth did this.
Once Taylor was at the school, she
started taking private voice lessons and
we educated ourselves from a community theater perspective, she said. We
found out about opportunities at the local childrens theater so she auditioned
for two plays there and was given a
part each time. On both occasions we
watched the related movies and learned
the songs.
While outlining specific steps, have
your child consider potential obstacles
that may hinder goal attainment and
create a plan to overcome them, says
Sullivan. Also establish a time frame
for achieving the goal. This provides

a sense of urgency and lets your child


know if hes on track. It also gives him
the opportunity to reassess his goal,
if necessary.
One thing Stephanie and I discussed was how she was going to get her
miles in when it was 95 degrees outside.
I told her, You need to know and plan
for times when it will be difficult to run,
said Mr. Resler. We also talked about her
progress along the way. When August
rolled around, she was a little behind so
she increased her weekly distances. And
by summers end she had officially run
300 miles.
Taylor has made progress with her
singing goal, too.
She gleaned a lot of experience
from her time at performing arts school,
but the following year she returned to
her former academic setting, said Ms.
Hollingsworth. Soon after we reapplied,
we learned they were doing a production of Oliver and Taylor started preparing right away. When audition time
came, she got the leading role. Right
now were looking at moving to the next
levelgetting an agent who can possibly take her outside the community to
some larger cities.
Experts agree the best thing parents
can do to help their children set and
achieve goals is to guide them in understanding what their strengths are, help
them create a feasible plan and then become their cheerleader. But ultimately
attaining the goal is up to them.
One time I gave a commencement
address and I challenged students to
internalize ten small words that could
dramatically affect their future, said Mr.
McIntosh. If it is to be, it is up to me.
Denise Yearian is the former editor of parenting magazines, a mother and grandmother.

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By Raising Them Up
S lov i e Ju n g r e i s - Wo l f f

ell a child often enough that he wont make it in


life and guess what?
He wont.
It is up to us parents to always help our children
grow, to believe in them and encourage them to climb.
Who should believe in your child if not you?
A parent relayed a conversation that her husband
had with her teenaged son, after he brought home a disappointing report card. Besides doing poorly in various
subjects, her son, Benjamin, failed his Spanish class.
Listen, Benjamin, her husband said. You failed.
Your report card is awful and I think you should drop
Spanish immediately.
Her son replied, But, Dad, I really tried. I want to
learn Spanish. Let me try again.
Why? So youll fail again? Youll just end up showing mom and me exactly what you cant do. Whats the
point?
Dejected, Benjamin lowered his face as his cheeks
grew bright red.
Prove me wrong, Benjamin, prove me wrong! her
husband shouted as he stormed out of the room.
After she related her experience, I spoke with the
mother about what had occurred.
Tell your husband, I said, that instead of saying
Benjamin, prove me wrong, he should say, Benjamin,
prove me right! I know you can do better. I believe in
you. Prove me right!
Our sages teach us that our words can build and
our words can destroy. Negative words and impressions leave us visionless. The only place to go is down.
Positive words, on the other hand, offer our children an upward path through which they may climb.
Even in the Torah, God was careful to use positive

language. When describing the sense of aloneness that


Adam felt before the creation of Eve, God could have
said, It is really bad that Adam is all alone. Instead, He
said, It is not good that man is alone.
Lets take our cue from the Torah. When we communicate with our children we should try to express
ourselves using positive language. This can be done
even when we are disciplining our children.
For example, instead of saying: I cant believe you!
Youre always fighting with your sister! Try: I know
that you can get along much better with your sister.
Instead of: Ive never seen such a mess! Youre
room is a disaster! Try: You can be neater and cleaner.
Your room needs to be put in order.
At the end of one parenting session that I gave,
Danielle, a mother of three approached me. I realized
something today. Ive been calling my six-year old son
slowpoke for the past few years. He wakes up in the
morning and it takes him forever to get ready. Im embarrassed to tell you that Ive even called him turtle.
I decided today that I am going to make a change. I am
going to try using positive words with him.
After the next class, Danielle told me that she could
not believe the difference in her son that accompanied
her new attitude. Instead of dragging his feet, hes the
one who tries to be down first in the morning. One
night, as he was going up to bed, he gave his mother a
kiss and whispered in her ear, Mommy, thank you for
not calling me a turtle anymore.
Let us try to give our children ideals to aspire to
instead of digging deep holes into which they may descend. Each day we have countless opportunities to
help our children grow, to believe in them and help
them reach higher.
After all, we dont call it raising children for
nothing.

Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a relationship and parenting coach


and the author of Raising a Child with Soul, (St. Martins
Aish.com
Press).

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1. Thirty high school teens of Woodcliff Lake took
part in Valley Chabads C-Teen event to decorate
bags as gifts for the participants of the Friendship
Circle, which provides companionship for special
needs children and teens.
2. The sixth graders at Temple Emanu-El of Closter
learned about Kristallnacht from the personal
experience of a students grandmother.
3. Yeshiva University students reached out to
local police officers and firefighters to express
their appreciation for keeping New York City safe
through a campaign created by students in a social
media marketing class.
4. About two dozen members from Temple
Beth Tikvah in Wayne, both children and adults,
met at Daughters of Miriam in Clifton to help its
residents enjoy a carnival of games and prizes on
Federations annual Mitzvah Day.

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5. The Sunday morning Mitzvah Makers class of Temple Emanuel of
the Pascack Valley decorated turkeys for Thanksgiving.
6. Upcoming bar and bat mitzvah students at Shomrei Torah in
Wayne don tefillin for the first time.
7. For the 19th Annual Mitzvah Day, the Chabad of Passaic County
sponsored a coat drive, as well as a C-Teen Group visit to senior
residents at Sunrise Assisted Living and Care One in Wayne.

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8. Five students of the JCCP/CBT Hebrew School in Paramus
received gifts for creating the most creative tzedakah boxes. From
left, competition winners, Gabrielle, Matt, Emily, Hili and Emma, with
Rabbi Arthur Weiner and Marcia Kagedan, education director.
9. The Kindergarten class of Temple Emanu-Els Religious School
learned about how God created the world, with each student
making their own Creation Wheel.

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CO M P I L E D BY H E I D I M A E B RAT T

Butterflies are Free Again


at the AMNH
The butterflies are back.
See up to 500 live,
free-flying tropical butterflies in The Butterfly
Conservatory: Tropical
Butterflies Alive in
Winter at the American
Museum of Natural
History. This is one of the
museums most popular
annual seasonal exhibitions in which visitors can
watch the flight of iridescent butterflies hovering in a 1,200-square-foot vivarium that
is filled with lush foliage and blooming tropical flowers. American Museum of Natural
History, Central Park West at 79 St., Manhattan. 212-769-5100, www.amnh.org.

Think Pink
at bergenPAC
with Pinkalicious the Musical
Pinkalicious The Musical is coming to bergenPAC on Jan. 22, 2017. It is a
tale of Pinkalicious, a pink-loving girl who cant stop eating pink cupcakes
despite warnings from her parents. Her pink indulgence lands her at the
doctors office with pinkititis, an affliction that turns her pink from head to
toe, for her, a dream come. But when the hue goes too far, only Pinkalicious
can figure out a way to get out of the predicament. Shows are scheduled for
1 and 3 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt St., Englewood. 201-2271030, www.bergenpac.org.

Hot Peas N Butter


at The Jewish Museum
Break a Sweat
with Action Zone
at the Liberty Science Center
Just in time for all of Januarys new fitness resolutions, visitors to the Liberty Science
Center can work up a sweat as they test their sports skills in the musuems new, hightech training camp: Action Zone. A state-of-the-art simulator lets you pass a football,
toss a dodge ball at zombies, boot a soccer ball, and more. Visitors can also balance on
a balance beam, give the broad jump a best shot, and scramble up a rotating climbing
wall. Liberty Science Center, Liberty State Park, 222 Jersey City Blvd., Jersey City.
201-200-1000. www.lsc.org

The exciting childrens musical group Hot Peas N Butter


is coming to The Jewish
Museum on Jan. 29, 2017
Shake and sizzle to the
multicultural rhythms of Hot
Peas N Butter. At the concert you could hear a mix
of contagious beats, from
vibrant Puerto Rican folk
music to soulful American
blues, and dance to
Together and other awardwinning albums. Children
3 to 8 and others will
enjoy the show. Sunday, Jan. 29, 2017. Performance at 11:30 a.m.
The Jewish Museum,1109 Fifth Ave. and 92nd Street, Manhattan. 212-4233200, www.thejewishmusuem.org.
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JANUARY

To Our Readers: This calendar is a day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, its a good idea to call to
verify details before you go.

DaybyDay
Friday, December 16
Pokemon Shabbat: An NNJJA Pokemon
Shabbat at Temple Israel & JCC. A dairy dinner is included. 6:15 p.m. 475 Grove St.,
Ridgewood. The NNJJA includes Temple Israel
& JCC, Ridgewood; Temple Beth Sholom, Fair
Lawn; Congregation Beth Sholom, Teaneck; Kol
HaNeshama, Englewood; and Temple Emmanuel
of North Jersey, Franklin Lakes.

Sunday, December 18
Family Chanukah Concert: The Pop Ups! From
10 a.m. to noon. at the Kaplen JCC on the
Palisades, 411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenafly.
Home Depot Menorah Workshop: Home Depot
and Chabad of Upper Passaic host a Menorah
Workshop from 10 to 11:30 a.m. Children and
families are invited to build their own. The Home
Depot, 106 Route 23, Rivervale. 201-696-7609,
www.jewishhighlands.org.
Chanukah Fun Day at Temple Beth Rishon:
Fun-filled day to enjoy for all families and ages.
The day includes activities with a magician,
laser tag, game truck and arts & crafts. From 11
a.m. to 1:30 p.m. Open to the community. 585
Russell Ave., Wyckoff. 201-891-4466, www.
bethrishon.org.
Celebrate Chanukah at the Jewish Museum:
From noon to 4 p.m. its a mother lode of
Chanukah activities. Build a sculptural Chanukah
lamp with funky found Dance to the tunes of
ShirLaLa and watch a unique Chanukah story
come to life through a drawing performance by
Jeff Hopkins and more. The Jewish Museum, 1109
Fifth Ave., at 92 St., Manhattan. 212-423-3200,
thejewishmuseum.org.
Chanukah Fun Day: Temple Beth Rishon 11 a.m.
to 1:30 p.m. Game truck, laser tag, arts & crafts,
magician, clown, and more. Temple Beth Rishon,
585 Russell Ave., Wyckoff. 201-891-4466,
support@bethrishon.org.
The Bossy Frog Ban at Temple Emanuel:
Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley hosts a
pre-Chanukah celebration featuring The Bossy
Frog Band at 10:15 a.m. Temple Emanuel of the
Pascack Valley, 87 Overlook Drive, Woodcliff
Lake. 201-391-0801, Margie@tepv.org.
Rocker Rick Recht in Hoboken: Kaplen
Cooperative Preschool and Learning Center of
the United Synagogue of Hoboken hosts musician
Rick Recht for Chanukah concerts at 11:15 a.m.
and 1:30 p.m. United Synagogue of Hoboken, 115
Park Ave., Hoboken. www.hobokensynagogue.org.
Hamilton Musical Theater Workshop: A Class
Act NY at the Wayne Y with a Andrew Chappelle,
star from the Broadway show, Hamilton and a
top NYC talent manager. Workshop 10 a.m. to
noon for 7 to adult. Part 2 is the audition technique workshop 1 to 3 p.m. for ages 7 to 20. Y at
1 Pike Drive, Wayne. 973-595-0100.
Chanukah Sing-A-Long: Join Cantor Israel
Singer and Temple Emanu-El at Jewish Home at
Rockleigh at 11:15 a.m. 201-750-9997 or visit
www.templemanu-el.com.

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Tuesday, January 24

Tuesday, December 20

Road, Township of Washington. 201664-7422, www.templebethornj.org.


Tot Shabbat in Franklin Lakes: Tot
Shabbat and pizza dinner at Barnert
Temple at 5 p.m. Barnert Temple, 747
Route 208 South, Franklin Lakes. 201848-1027, www.barnerttemple.org.

Chanukah Program and Book Fair:


9:30 to 11:30 a.m. annual book fair,
10:30 to 11:30 watch a production of A
Confused Chanukah. At Congregation
Bnai Israel, 53 Palisade Ave., Emerson.
201-265-2272, www.bisrael.com.

Tuesday, January 18

Wednesday,
December 21

Toddler Time in Glen Rock: Glen Rock


Jewish Center hosts groups for children
12 months to 2 years for arts and crafts,
music, free play and more. 9:15 to
10:30 a.m. 682 Harristown Road, Glen
Rock. 201-652-6623, grjcnursery@
gmail.com.

Library Hour in Wayne: Join us for quality reading and story time accompanied
by creative crafts. These meetings are
free and open to the entire community
regardless of affiliation. Sponsored by
The Chabad Center. From 4 to 4:45 p.m.
461 Valley Road, Wayne.

Friday, December 23

Friday, January 20
See The Bossy Frog, Sunday, December 18.

Chanukah Celebration at Temple


Emeth: Annual Family Shabbat service
for Chanukah. 8 p.m. follows a 6 p.m. dinner.
Bring menorahs, candles and friends. Also a nonperishable food item to donate to the Center for
Food Action. 1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck. 201833-1322, www.emeth.org.
Shabbat Music Service at Temple Emeth: A
musical Shabbat service beginning at 8 p.m. with
Rabbi Steven Sirbu and Cantor Ellen Tilem. 1666
Windsor Road, Teaneck. 201-833-1322, www.
emeth.org.

Saturday, December 24
Chanukah and Chinese Food in Ridgewood:
Temple Israel & JCC invites the community to
the first night celebration at 6:15 p.m. Bring
menorahs. Chinese buffet dinner, dreidel spinning competitions, kids activities and movie. 475
Grove St., Ridgewood. Please bring unopened
cleaning supply or toiletry for donation to
Ridgewood Social Services. 201-444-9320,
www.synagogue.org.

Sunday, December 25
Holiday Vacation Week at The Jewish Museum:
Special family programs during vacation week
from December 25 to December 30, includes
a concert by Oran Etkin at 11:30 a.m. for youngsters 2 to 7 years old, and on other days, drop-in
art sessions, a simulated archaeological dig and
more. 1109 Fifth Ave., Manhattan. For information, 212-423-3222, www.thejewishmuseum.org.
Oran Etkin in Concert: Featuring klezmer, jazz,
and the music of Africa, Oran Etkins performances weave global melodies and rhythms
into a gumbo of goodness. Enjoy tunes from
Wake Up Clarinet! and Gathering Light in honor
of Chanukah in this musical world party. 11:30
a.m. 12:30 p.m. The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth
Ave., at 92 St., Manhattan. 212-423-3200, www.
thejewishmuseum.org.
Chanukah Wonderland in Franklin Lakes:
Wonderland activities include latke making, sufganiyot making, crafts, entertainment and more.
From 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. at the Chabad Jewish
Center, 375 Pulis Ave., Franklin Lakes. www.
chabadplace.org/Chanukahparty.

Monday, December 26
Zumba for youngsters: Zumba teacher Ginnine
Fried leads the fun from 10 to 11 a.m. 10 a.m. for
children 3 to 4; 10:30 geared for children 5 and

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older. Jewish Center of Teaneck, 70 Sterling Place,


Teaneck. 201-833-0515.

Tuesday, December 27
Chanukah on Ice: Come skate away at in Central
Park in the midst of a huge ice sculpture menorah, with music and refreshments. Lasker Rink in
Central Park, 110 and Central Park North. From 4
to 7 p.m. www.chanukahonicenyc.com.
Friendship Circle Winter Break Mini Camp:
From 9:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. for children for special
needs. Also on Wednesday, Dec. 28, Thursday,
Dec. 29. Chani Gurkov, 973-694-6274, www.
fcpassaiccounty.com.

Friday, December 30
Musical Shabbat: Chanukah-themed musical
Shabbat service at 7:30 p.m. at Temple Beth Or,
56 Ridgewood Road, Township of Washington.
201-664-7422, www.templebethornj.org.

Friday, January 6
Family Worship at Temple Emeth: Join family services at Temple Emeth, 1666 Windsor
Road, Teaneck. 7:30 p.m. 201-833-1322, www.
emeth.org.

Saturday, January 7
Zumba Party at JCC: Kaplen JCC on the
Palisades hosts a free Zumba party from 7:30 to
8:45. For folks 12 and older. JCC on the Palisades,
411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenafly. 212-408-1448, www.
jccotp.org.

Monday, January 9
Winter in Israel: Learn about winter in Israel, arts
and crafts and more. Free. JCC on the Palisades,
411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenafly. 201-408-1427, www.
jccotp.org.

Tuesday, January 11
Toddler Time in Glen Rock: Glen Rock Jewish
Center hosts groups for children 12 months
to 2 years for arts and crafts, music, free play
and more. 9:15 to 10:30 a.m. 682 Harristown
Road, Glen Rock. 201-652-6623, grjcnursery@
gmail.com.

Friday, January 13
Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth Or: Join Rabbi Noah
and Cantor Sarah and other families with young
children. 6 p.m. Temple Beth Or, 56 Ridgewood

Shabbat Music at Temple Emeth: Join


a musical Shabbat service at 8 p.m. Join
Rabbi Steven Sirbu and Cantor Ellen
Tilem for singing and dancing. 1666 Windsor
Road, Teaneck. 201-833-1322, www.emeth.org.
Shabbat Hallelu at Temple Beth Or: Musical
services for the whole family. Open to the community. 7:30 p.m. Temple Beth Or, 56 Ridgewood
Road, Township of Washington. 201-664-7422,
www.templebethornj.org.

Sunday, January 22
Friendship Circle Sports Series: Sports clinics for children with special needs. 1 to 2:30
p.m. The Chabad Center of Passaic County, 194
Ratzer Road, Wayne. 973-694-6274. www.
fcpassaiccounty.com.

Sunday, January 22
Tu BShevat at Temple Beth Or: Celebrate the
trees with a Tu BShevat program for 2 to 6 year
olds and their parents. 10:15 a.m. Temple Beth
Or, 56 Ridgewood Road, Township of Washington.
201-664-7422, www.templebethornj.org.

Tuesday, January 25
Toddler Time in Glen Rock: Glen Rock Jewish
Center hosts groups for children 12 months to
2 years for arts and crafts, music, free play and
more. 9:15 to 10:30 a.m. 682 Harristown Road,
Glen Rock. 201-652-6623, grjcnursery@gmail.
com.
Kids Cooking Class: A culinary trip around the
world for children ages 3 to 10. Each class is $8,
held from 4 to 4:45 p.m. The Chabad Center,
194 Ratzer Road, Wayne. 973-694-6274, www.
jewishwayne.com.

Sunday, January 29
Friendship Circle Sports Series: Sports clinics for children with special needs. 1 to 2:30
p.m. The Chabad Center of Passaic County, 194
Ratzer Road, Wayne. 973-694-6274. www.
fcpassaiccounty.com.
Hot Peas N Butter Concert: Enjoy the multicultural rhythms of Hot Peas N Butter at a concert
at The Jewish Museum, 11:30 a.m. For ages 3 to 8.
The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Manhattan.
212-423-3200, www.thejewishmuseum.org.

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B'nai Mitzvah
CALEB WOLIN

Emily Fine, daughter of


Elizabeth and Harold Fine,
celebrated becoming a bat
mitzvah on December 10 at
the Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
Congregation Bnai Israel.

Caleb Wolin, son of Chava and


Matthew Wolin of Teaneck,
and brother of Juliet and Liev,
celebrated becoming a bar
mitzvah on November 26 at
Congregation Beth Sholom in
Teaneck.

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EMILY FINE

RYAN GESS
Ryan Gess, son of Andrea
and Richard Gess of
Ridgewood and brother of
Daniel, celebrated becoming
a bar mitzvah on December
10 at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.

JAYSON HARMER

EZRA SHAFRON

IAN SOLOMON

BEN WEINBERGER

Jayson Harmer, son of


Lea and Brian Harmer of
Hawthorne, and brother of
Aidan, 15, and Logan, 9,
celebrated becoming a bar
mitzvah on November 5 at
Barnert Temple in Franklin
Lakes.

Ian Solomon, son of Beth


and Michael Solomon of
Woodcliff Lake and brother
of Rachel, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah on
November 19 at Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack
Valley in Woodcliff Lake.

Ben Weinberger, son of


Jennifer Weinberger and
Mitchel Weinberger of
Franklin Lakes, and brother
of Arielle, 16, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah on
November 19 at Barnert
Temple in Franklin Lakes.

Brandon Scheinbach, son of


Keri and Geoff Scheinbach
of Norwood, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah on
December 10 at Temple
Beth El of Northern Valley in
Closter.

Ezra Shafron of Wyckoff


celebrated becoming a bar
nitzvah on November 12. He
attends Gerrard Berman Day
School in Oakland and is a
congregant at Barnert
Temple in Franklin Lakes. He
is the brother of Noah
Shafron and Zoey Soukas,
and the son of Amy Silna
Soukas and Jason Shafron.
Martin Shafron, Iris Gibney,
and Joan and Dan Silna are
his grandparents. As a bar
mitzvah project, he brings
music to the residents of the
Chelsea at Montville, an
assisted living community. He
will be donating his bar
mitzvah funds to Rock Club
Music Is The Remedy, a
non-profit organization
dedicated to improving the
lives and well-being of
veterans, at-risk youth, and
other groups through music
instruction, education, and
mentoring.

ILANA SELTZER

OLIVIA SHATTUCK

Ilana MarleeRose Seltzer,


daughter of Errol and Barbra
Seltzer of Fair Lawn and
sister of Lee and Jacob,
celebrated becoming a bat
mitzvah on November 19
at Temple Avodat Shalom in
River Edge.

Olivia Shattuck, daughter of


Meryl and Steven Shattuck
of Ridgewood and sister of
Kyle and Amanda, celebrated
becoming a bat mitzvah on
December 3 at Temple Beth
Rishon in Wyckoff.

JETT MANN

ANDREW GLAZER
Andrew Glazer, son of
Amy and David Glazer of
Ridgewood and brother of
Benjamin and Stephanie,
celebrated becoming a bar
mitzvah on December 3
at Temple Emanuel of the
Pascack Valley in Woodcliff
Lake.

JACOB GONZALEZ
Jacob Gonzalez, son of
Robin Segal-Gonzalez and
Robert Gonzalez of Oakland,
and brother of Joshua, 15,
celebrated becoming a bar
mitzvah on November 5 at
Barnert Temple in Franklin
Lakes.

Jett Mann, son of Richard


Mann and Hollie Asch
of Dumont, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah on
November 19 at Temple
Beth El of Northern Valley in
Closter.

BRANDON
SCHEINBACH

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Ron Kampeas
WASHINGTON A year ago, when several dozen Washington-area Jewish and
Muslim religious and lay leaders jostled
for spots in a group picture, the mood
was convivial.
The most novel item on the agenda for
that November 2015 confab was bringing
non-Middle Eastern Muslims into the
Jewish-Muslim dialogue. The meeting
and the venue an Indonesian-American Muslim center in Silver Spring,
Maryland helped dispel the myth that
Muslims are inherently of Middle Eastern descent, a press release said.
On Sunday, the meeting of the third
Summit of Greater Washington Imams
and Rabbis was better attended. About
one hundred or so leaders were on
hand at Tifereth Israel, a Conservative

synagogue in the District of Columbia,


about 30 more than last year. The group
picture was just as friendly. But in that
anxious were in this together way.
Following an afternoon packed with
tales of Muslims enduring taunts, vandalism, and bullying in schools, the host
rabbi, Ethan Seidel, sang a chasidic melody to calm the rabbis, imams, and lay
leaders as they scrambled into place.
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at her parents Kansas City home, when all 40 people in her
extended family said they encountered hostility in recent
months, from bullying in schools, where younger relatives
were called terrorists, to a fire set on her parents porch,
to a bullet through the window of a male relatives home.
She blamed Trumps campaign, and his broadsides
against Muslims, which included what an aide described
as launching a database of immigrants from Muslim-majority countries, a ban keeping all Muslims from entering
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family of a Muslim-American Army captain killed in Iraq,


and Trumps unsubstantiated claim that he saw thousands
and thousands of Muslims cheering as the World Trade
Center collapsed on 9/11.
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abounded at the summit, an initiative of several local dialogue groups and the New York-based Foundation for Ethnic
Understanding.
And throughout the event, the Trump impact was often
implied, if not explicitly cited.

The first session broke the gathering into lunch


groups, and participants found printouts on their
tables asking them to discuss how Jews and Muslims
should respond to the present social and political
climate.
Basically, they want us to react to the results of
the last election, said Dr. Ira Weiss, a physician who
is involved in the Jewish-Islamic Dialogue Society of
Greater Washington, tossing the printout back onto

The latest FBI hate


crimes report showed
a 67 percent rise in
the number of antiMuslim hate crimes in
the past year.
the table. Some of what Trump said during the campaign was not only intolerant but dangerous.
The coming-together, where rabbis and lay leaders
represented the spectrum of Jewish religious streams,
was especially significant at a moment of increased
bigotry, when both communities are feeling vulnerable, Seidel said in the release announcing the summit.
Police in Marylands Washington suburbs have
reported a spike in vandalism, particularly in schools,
that invokes Nazi imagery. Nationally, the Anti-Defamation League and the Southern Poverty Law Center
have reported an increase in incidents since the election targeting blacks, Muslims, immigrants, the LGBT
community, and women. The latest FBI hate crimes
report showed a 67 percent rise in the number of antiMuslim hate crimes in the past year.
In the roundtable discussions and in plenary sessions, participants struggled to pin down what they
could do to ameliorate the climate.
Participants described initiatives, like mosque and

Ambereen Shaffie of the Sisterhood of Salaam


Shalom addresses a Muslim-Jewish gathering at
Congregation Tifereth Israel.
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synagogue twinnings, that began after the terrorist attacks on Sept. 11, 2001, when there was more of a
national consensus that Muslims in America deserved
protection from counterattacks. But these initiatives had
been in place for years and had not prevented the acceleration of anti-Muslim sentiment in the country.
What went wrong? Participants seemed at a loss to
understand.
Rabbi David Shneyer said his progressive congregation, Kehila Chadasha, had a post-election meeting with a
strong turnout 50 members from a 100-family community and that one of its conclusions was to hold media
more accountable.
What does it mean, holding media more accountable? Seidel asked.
I cant explain at this point, Shneyer said.
Some participants said the rabbis, imams, and lay leaders needed to break out of their bubbles of mutual affection and travel to the America that had elected Trump.
We need to reach out to communities where the likelihood of a difference of opinion exists at a higher rate,
said Abdul Rashid Abdullah, representing the National
American Muslim Association on Scouting and sporting
a scoutmasters shirt.
Abdullah said he had been raised a Roman Catholic and
converted to Islam when he was 18.
I came from a household thats probably supporting
Trump, he said. By Gods will, Im not on that route
but I could have been.
Rabbi Sid Schwarz, a senior fellow at Clal: The National
Jewish Center for Learning and Leadership, outlined
to the larger group what his lunch table came up with,
including volunteering to register as Muslims should

President Barack Obama should dismantle the National


Security Exit-Entry Registration System. Thats an existing structure that Trump could use to facilitate a Muslim
registry.
Walter Ruby, the Muslim-Jewish relations director for the
Foundation for Ethnic Understanding, said that a 10-person
steering committee would be chosen from those attending the
meeting. Rabbi Gerald Serotta, the executive director of the
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But Schwarz also voiced a sense of helplessness that
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Theres got to be a more proactive agenda to counter the way Trump has characterized Islam as radical,
he said.
How do you get out of the vacuum? a participant
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Reverse freedom rides, someone else said. We take
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Some practical ideas emerged, including synagogue
members appearing outside mosques during Friday
prayers bearing signs expressing support, and setting up
arrangements so volunteers would accompany children
to school if they had been subjected to harassment there.
Rabbi Jason Kimmelman-Block, the director of Bend
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groups petition urging that before he leaves office,

Shaffie said Muslims and Jews should set an example by


broadening the current paradigm of utilitarian collaborations
joining in legal challenges, for instance to establish deeper
friendships. She described how the women in her group, the
Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom, visit each others homes when
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Rehabilitation and celebration

Haifa slowly comes back to life in aftermath of fires


Franziska Knupper

Meir Barzilay was one of the lucky residents of Haifa during Israels recent wave of fires.
I live in a row of six houses, says the homeowner, who lives
on Shahar Street. Somehow, the fire magically jumped from
house number two directly to number four, sparing us.
Barzilay points to the gray and black hillsides, the burnt trees,
the plastic foil that protects his neighbors house from rain and
wind. The roof is gone. It was made out of wood, and the fire
swept it all away. The wind still carries the smell of ashes. Barzilays house lies in the district of Romema, the neighborhood
of Haifa hit hardest by the fires that had invaded central and
northern Israel starting Nov. 22. For eight days, firefighters
across Israel battled 90 fires in 1,773 locations. The largest blazes
were in Haifa. Eight hundred of the citys apartments have been
rendered uninhabitable, leaving about 1,700 people homeless.
The damage was so severe it will be necessary to demolish
about 100 houses in Haifa. They are beyond repair.
The municipality is doing a great job to help us, though.
We are grateful for the rapid support, Barzilay says, giving Haifas Mayor Yona Yahav a pat on the shoulder. Yahav
nods in agreement, adding, I am very impressed by the
efficient rescue and assistance the city was providing. The
Israelis inspect the damage to a burnt house in Haifa on November 25.
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fire department and military sent a positive message to the
citizens, a message of security.
The damage in Haifas public areas amounts to half a billion
take up to 30 years, officials say. Damages to private property
declared as terrorist acts, Yahav said. In cases of terror,
shekels (about $130 million), including damage to the citys
have yet to be assessed fully.
the Israeli government provides victims with 90-percent
infrastructure and sewage
systems. Haifas full rehabilitation will10/4/13
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insurance
purposes,
the fires have been officially
compensation for the exterior of their buildings and 10
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under the purview of private insurance companies, and
in the case of people lacking insurance, the government
will cover all expenses, Yahav said.
Whether or not the wildfires were caused by Arab
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arsonists ultimately makes no difference to Yahav. There
is no way to prove if any of this was intentional or not. And
I honestly do not care, said the mayor, who calls Haifa
the only sane city in Israel, and a place in which such
events will not destabilize the atmosphere of mutual Jewish and Arabic existence.
All of the areas Arab municipalities and institutions
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The damage was


so severe it will
be necessary to
demolish about 100
houses in Haifa. They
are beyond repair.
Great Mosque. We are offering our mosque as a place of
refuge and donated wood to rebuild a synagogue that was
destroyed in one of the fires, he said. The imam added
that he is saddened by how the Arab population is blamed
reflexively for the fires, despite Arabs involvement in the
rescue and rehabilitation process. The Israel police are
holding 30 people on suspicion of arson or incitement. If,
however, one of them will be found guilty, then they should
be punished to the full extent of the law, the imam says.
Ariel Waterman, Haifas city engineer, is certain that

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some of the fires were intentional. They
broke out almost simultaneously at distinct
locations within the region, he said. And the
first one started at the fire department itself,
rendering immediate rescue and assistance
all the more difficult. The scorched hills of
Ramat Eshkol are visible behind him.
In Haifa alone, the blazes consumed 700
acres of vegetation. Surprisingly, no wild animals have been found dead. They must have
escaped in time, Waterman said. Despite
Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahus declaration that Israel will rebuild homes and rehabilitate forests 10-times-fold, full rehabilitation will be a long-term process because the
removal of burnt material alone can take up
to four years, Waterman argued. One of the
lessons learned from this natural catastrophe
is never again to plant pine trees in between
houses and in residential areas.
The pine cones were so dry and incredibly flammable that they exploded once they
caught fire, and thus carried it further and
further, Waterman said. This reality disappoints the city engineer, who describes Haifas charm as a place where city and nature
fuse organically, with forest penetrating residential areas.
Despite the damage, the city has started
to celebrate life again. During a food festival, Jewish and Arab chefs from all over the
country presented Levant cuisine, including
some dishes that were near extinction but are

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simultaneously
at distinct
locations within
the region, and
the first one
started at the
fire department
itself.
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being restored, as well as foods from Syria


and Lebanon that most Israelis had never
tasted before. More festivities are around the
corner, including Haifas so-called Holiday
of Holidays, which is celebrated annually
over the course of three December weekends amid Chanukah and Christmas. With
concerts, performances, and street fairs, this
mega-event celebrates the unity of the three
monotheistic religions and will contribute a
glimpse of hope to the recovering city.
No matter what, never postpone a festival, the mayor said.
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Netanyahu embarks on historic visit to


Muslim allies Azerbaijan and Kazakhstan
Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu
left Tuesday for a historic visit to Azerbaijan
and Kazakhstan, two Muslim-majority nations,
in an effort to bolster ties with the Central
Asian former Soviet Republics.
In Azerbaijans capital of Baku, Netanyahu
met with President Ilham Aliyev, who has
been an outspoken supporter of Israel and
an adversary of Iran, which shares a border
with Azerbaijan.
Aliyev noted that Azerbaijans Jewish community plays a very active part of our society. He also revealed that to date, Azerbaijan

has purchased close to $5 billion in defense


equipment from Israel.
Netanyahu called Israeli-Azerbaijani ties
something that we can show the world.
The world sees so much intolerance,
so much darkness, and here is an example of what relations can be and should be
between Muslims and Jews everywhere,
said Netanyahu.
Following his stay in Azerbaijan, Netanyahu will visit Kazakhstan in an effort to
boost defense and economic ties.

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IDF and Technion join forces


to develop medical glider
The Medical Corps of the Israel Defense Forces
has collaborated with the Technion Israel
Institute of Technology on the development of
a glider that could save lives on the battlefield,
Israel Hayom reported.
The medical glider is designed to carry
up to 110 pounds of medical supplies, such as
blood transfusion kits, antibiotics, and intubation kits. The glider can cover a distance of 12
miles within eight minutes. It is 11 feet long and
its wingspan stretches 13 feet. The glider was
designed with collapsible wings so that if necessary, it could be launched from a plane. It

also has relatively low production costs, which


stand at tens of thousands of dollars per unit.
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evacuate [wounded] soldiers, but it will allow
us to bring the hospital to the patients and
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calm manner, and deliver soldiers to the hospital in better condition, said IDF Medical Corps
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Healthy Chanukah options


BETH JANOFF CHANANIE
Joanna Strober and Thea Runyan, two Jewish health and weight experts who also are
moms from California shared their favorite healthier recipes for latkes and kugel for
Chanukah with Jewish Standard readers.
Based on the Stanford pediatric obesity
program and the principles of the Stoplight Diet, Strober and Runyan, founders of
Kurbo, shared seasonal family favorite recipes in a free holiday cookbook. Although the
book is not kosher, each recipe is organized
for easy categorization in the stoplight diet/
healthy eating classification system i.e.,
how many red light, yellow light and
green light foods per serving and was kid
approved by families following the Kurbo
program.
Recipes are easily adaptable for kashrut.
For information or to download a copy of
the cookbook, go to kurbo.com/cookbooks.

Grate the potatoes into a large bowl.


If you use a food processor the texture will be different than if you grate
by hand. Grate the onion and leek
(white part only). Add the egg, egg
yolk, potato starch (or flour), and 1
teaspoon of salt and pepper. Thoroughly mix everything together with
your hands.
Start to form small pancakes (hockey
puck size) and place on the baking
sheet. Make sure to spray lightly with
olive oil cooking spray before. Bake
for about 12 minutes or until golden
brown. Serve hot and sprinkle with a
little salt.

Un-fried potato latkes


4 potatoes (you can use all russet
potatoes or half sweet potatoes)
1 large onion
1 leek
1 egg
1 egg yolk
2 tablespoons potato starch or
potato flour
salt and ground pepper to taste
olive oil cooking spray
Preheat the oven to 375 degrees. Line
a baking sheet with parchment paper.

Healthified sweet
noodle kugel
1 pound whole wheat noodles
(penne or farfalle are favorites)

16 ounces low fat or nonfat cottage


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12 ounces low fat or nonfat plain
Greek yogurt
1 apple, diced
1/3 cup coconut oil
2 tablespoons honey
3 eggs
3 egg whites
1 tablespoon cinnamon
salt
Topping:
4 graham cracker sheets
1 teaspoon butter
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
Preheat the oven to 325 degrees.
Cook the noodles in salted water until
al dente. In a large bowl, mix together
the cottage cheese, yogurt, apple,
and cooked noodles. In a food processor, blend the coconut oil, honey,
eggs, egg whites, and cinnamon. Pour
into the noodle mixture and mix well
altogether. Pour the noodles into a
prepared casserole dish. Wipe out the
food processor and add the ingredients for the topping. Pulse until a
crumb mixture forms. Sprinkle on top
of the noodles.
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PHOTOS BY BRUCE POMERANTZ

From Alpine to Israel


Bruce Pomerantz
My wife Ruth and I recently visited Israel
with the Presidents Mission of the Jewish
National Fund. While I have been to Israel
many times, this mission was different
because it exposed me to a vast array of JNF
projects. When we were two miles away
from the Syrian border visiting JNF sites in
the Golan Heights, we heard and saw rockets being shot into Israel from Syria. During our visit to Halutza, which is two miles
from the Sinai and Egypt, we heard gunfire
and saw the smoke when we first arrived.
We were told that this was Egypt fighting
ISIS. Both of these areas are parts of the
JNF mandate to develop the regions in
the Galilee and the Negev so more people
will live outside of Tel Aviv, Jerusalem and
Haifa. The JNF builds medical facilities,
indoor playgrounds with bomb shelters,
cultural amphitheaters, and therapy facilities for handicapped people. It also builds
reservoirs, maintains the forests, and is

instrumental in providing fire engines and


related firefighting equipment. These are
just a few of the many projects that make
JNF such an important component of the
growth of Israel.
After the mission, Ruth and I extended
our trip to see family and friends and to
revisit Tel Aviv and Jerusalem. Spending
erev Shabbat and Shabbat at the Western
Wall was incredibly moving to me. As a
photojournalist in a previous career, these
photographs brought me back to my days
of doing picture stories. Capturing the
images of religious and secular Jews and
non Jews praying at the wall was very moving and emotional. As the crowds flowed
in, the energy and passions were palpable.
If the images talk to you like they do to me,
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Israeli leaders and top U.S. officials were on hand


Monday to welcome the first delivery of the stateof-the-art F-35 stealth fighter jets at an air force base
in Israel.
The ceremony, which was delayed for several hours
due to poor weather, was attended by Israeli Prime
Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, President Reuven Rivlin and Defense Minister Avigdor Lieberman, along
with U.S. Secretary of Defense Ashton Carter, U.S.
Ambassador to Israel Dan Shapiro, and officials from
Lockheed Martin, the planes manufacturer.
Netanyahu said Israel was just made stronger
today. Carter said there is no better symbol of U.S.Israel relations than the F-35 and that both countries
will dominate the skies.
With the turmoil in the region, were more dedicated to Israels security today than ever before,
Carter said.
The F-35 jets are widely seen as the worlds most
advanced fighter aircraft. Israel is the first foreign
country permitted to buy the planes, and so far
has agreed to buy 52 planes at a cost of $100 million each.


terrorism together.
Sundays attack occurred during a prayer service at Saint
Peter and Saint Paul Church, which is next to Saint Marks
Cathedral in Cairo, the seat of Coptic Christian Pope Tawadros II.
Speaking at a funeral for the victims, Egyptian President
Abdel Fattah el-Sisi revealed that the attack was carried out
by a 22-year-old suicide bomber.
Netanyahu also condemned twin bombings that killed 44
people in Istanbul Saturday.

Israel condemns all terrorism in Turkey and expects that


Turkey will condemn all terrorist attacks in Israel, Netanyahu said of the bombings, for which a Kurdish militant
group claimed responsibility.
The fight against terrorism must be mutual in condemnation and in countermeasures, and this is what the state of
Israel expects from all countries it is in contact with, including Turkey, he said.


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Israel receives first delivery


of F-35 stealth fighter jets

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Netanyahu: Various ways


I can work with Trump
to roll back Iran nuclear deal
Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said he has
about five ideas in mind for how to roll back the Iranian nuclear deal once President-elect Donald Trump
takes office.
There are ways, various ways of undoing the
deal, Netanyahu said in an interview that aired Sunday on CBSs 60 Minutes. I have about five things
in my mind.
When CBS reporter Lesley Stahl asked Netanyahu to
elaborate on the ideas, he declined.
Well, Id like to talk to the president before I talk to
60 Minutes, the prime minister said.
Stahl also asked Netanyahu about how he plans to
move ahead with the Israeli-Palestinian peace process, and the Israeli leader responded that he would
be willing to launch negotiations at any moment.
He added that he still supports a two-state solution
and looks forward to receiving Trumps help on
that issue.
Two states for two peoples, he said. And thats
where Im focused. Id like to have President Trump,
when he gets into the White House, help me work
on that. Id like to see if the Arab states can help me
achieve that. Its a new reality. A new possibility.


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Israel urges united front


against terror after deadly
bombings in Egypt, Turkey
Israel strongly condemned the bombing attacks in
Egypt and Turkey over the weekend.
Israel condemns the reprehensible terrorist
attack at the Coptic cathedral in Cairo, said Prime
Minister Benjamin Netanyahus statement on the
bombing in Egypt, which killed 24 people. Israel
shares in the grief of the families of the victims and of
the Egyptian people. We must unite forces and fight

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Editorial
Thinking about
the summer

es, its almost winter by


the calendar; these are
the shortest days and the
earliest Shabbat starting
(and of course ending!) times of
the year. Its dark, its cold, and
often its grim.
And then theres the news
So of course its time to think
about summer camp! What could
be more intuitive than that?
Our cover story is a paean to
Camp Ramah in the Berkshires
in particular, because its longtime director, Rabbi Paul Resnick
of Teaneck, has stepped down
from that post, and the impressive
length of his tenure there demands
notice.
But theres so much more to Jewish camping than one camp and
one camp director, and really its
time to celebrate the whole Jewish
camping movement.
No matter how Jewishly rich
and full your life is during the
year whether or not you send
your children to day school, go to
shul every Shabbat, go to minyan
every day; whether or not you
take off even for the chaggim that
your co-workers cant pronounce;
whether all your friends are Jewish, whether someone related to
you is part of an interfaith family
no matter how Jewish you are,
its different for your kids at camp.
Camp is entirely immersive in
ways that the rest of life cant be.
Your kids relationship to nature
is far less mediated, and their
relationship to everything else
is far more controlled, because
there are far fewer variables.
Camp teaches kids about all
sorts of things. They learn that
everyone is different, that everyone has idiosyncrasies, and that
everyone is the same, made of
flesh and bone and blood and
tears and heart. They learn about

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friendship, about trust and openness, about privacy and its lack.
They learn about their ties to their
own families; they learn about
homesickness and resilience.
If its a Jewish camp, they also
learn about the rhythms of a Jewish week, the magic of the sun as
it sets at the start of Shabbat and
then the magic of the havdalah
candles, 25 hours later, that
usher in the week. They learn
about Jewish art and music and
dance; they pound the tables to
Jewish melodies. They learn that
immersive Jewish life can bring
meaning and passion; it can give
them things to think about, argue
about, feel, and love.
It teaches them about being
Jewish, and it allows them to
learn about being Jewish while
having actual fun.
As the Federation for Jewish
Camp, which, as its name makes
clear, supports Jewish camping
(and whose executive director,
Jeremy Fingerman, lives in Englewood), it too makes the point
that Jewish camps offer the kind
of immersive experiences that
schools and shuls cannot; families can, of course, but camp is
different.
Weve seen firsthand how
remarkably transformative Jewish
camp can be. We wish for other
children what ours got.
So its cold and dark out now,
but camps are open for registration. Its a good time to start to
think about it carefully, to decide
what your own child would like
best. For ideas, and to learn
more about Jewish camping both
in general and in particular, take
a look at the FJCs website, www.
jewishcamp.org.
Sunny, blue-skied, cloudless
days await!


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JP

Sorry, Sherlock, but


its anything but Elementary

hen it comes to motives for murThose questions have been debated ever since
der, this one from the CBS series
the $350,000 hamburger.
Elementary takes the steak.
The debate is not exactly new, however. There
(Cake is the wrong word here.)
are two instances in the Babylonian Talmud tractate Sanhedrin where the matter is discussed
A scientific genius created a commercially
and ruled upon sort of. In the first instance,
viable (reasonably priced) in vitro meat meat
a midrash is cited that had heavens ministergrown in a test tube that the Food and Drug
ing angels roasting meat for the First Human,
Administration was going to classify as real
meat. This made the scientists boss unhappy. despite the fact that God had decreed that all
creatures had to be vegetarians. It was permitHe wanted the FDA to classify the product as
ted, the midrash stated, because this was meat
a meat substitute, so his company could get
that fell from heaven (literally from heaven, not
around halachic and sharia issues, thereby
just from the sky).
allowing him to tap into the lucrative pareve
Asked an anonymous questioner:
and halal markets. He had the
Is there really meat that falls from
research altered, then murdered
heaven?
the scientist to keep the truth from
Yes, came the answer, because
coming out.
Seriously, classifying a meat
meat that fell from heaven saved
product as pareve was the motive
the life of Rabbi Shimon ben
for murder and it took Sherlock
Chalafta, who had been beset
Holmes to figure it out. Holmes
upon by ravenous lions. When
even gathered what the script
the sage asked his colleagues
called the leading experts
whether the meat could be eaten,
Rabbi
among rabbis and imams, and
they ruled, No unclean thing
Shammai
had them debate the issues
falls from heaven. The meat was
Engelmayer
involved around his dining room
kosher.
Asked Rabbi Zera, but what if
table. The rabbis and imams then
conspired with Holmes to bring the murderer what fell for him looked like a donkey, which is
unclean? Snapped Rabbi Abbahu (after throwto justice.
In vitro meat that also is reasonably priced
ing an insult at him), They already said to him
has been in the works for several years. In 2013, nothing unclean falls from heaven. (See BT Sanhedrin 59b.)
a scientist in the Netherlands actually unveiled
The second discussion is found in BT Sanhea hamburger produced from lab-grown meat.
drin 65b. There we are told that two sages, Rav
That burger, however, cost $350,000. The price
Chanina and Rav Oshaya, created for themis around $10 today, meaning the commercial
selves a third-grown calf (whatever that is)
viability of lab-grown meat is just around the
using an incantation from the Sefer Ytzirah,
corner.
the mystical Book of Creation supposedly
It may be an Israeli corner, at that.
written by Abraham, and they ate it, even
An Israeli company, SuperMeat, recently
though it was neither halachically slaughtered
launched an internet campaign to raise money
to complete research and produce its not-so- or examined.
The 19th century commentator Rabbi Meir
faux chicken product, which is made from the
Leibush, the Malbim, even suggested Abraham
stem cells of a chicken. It took SuperMeat only
himself used the technique to serve milk and
eight days to raise all the money it needed, but
meat to his guests at the same meal (see Geneit will be about five years before the product hits
sis 18; Abraham supposedly observed Torah law
supermarket shelves.
even before it was given, according to Mishnah
Will it be pareve? Will it even be kosher?
Kiddushin 4:14).
Shammai Engelmayer is the rabbi of Congregation
However you slice it, the Malbim was saying
Beth Israel of the Palisades in Cliffside Park.
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Opinion
Will it be pareve? Will
it even be kosher?
Those questions have
been debated ever
since the $350,000
hamburger.
produced in a natural way, it also was pareve.
The late 19th century decisor Rabbi Shlomo Hakohen of Vilna (the Cheshek Shlomo) went further, arguing the milk produced by a conjured calf also is pareve.
That brings us to in vitro meat: Is it meat meat, or is
it pareve meat? Is it even permitted meat?
There is no easy answer to any of these questions,
and the many others that arise from these.
Let us take the last one first: Is it even permitted
meat?
In vitro meat requires the live cells of the animal it
seeks to replicate. If the cells are considered limbs,
and if the animal they came from remained alive, the
cells and anything they produce may be prohibited as
an ever min hachai, a limb from a living animal. (The
prohibition derives from Genesis 9:3.)
If, on the other hand, the live cells were removed
from a freshly killed animal, was the animal killed in
a halachically acceptable manner, and did it undergo
the required post-mortem examination to determine
whether it was kosher? Does it even matter?
Most authorities, so far, dismiss the living limb question it is a stretch to call a cell a limb but there is
divided opinion regarding whether the freshly killed
animal must be ritually slaughtered and examined, or
whether the donating animal even has to be kosher.
That leads to whether the in vitro product is meat
meat, or is it pareve meat?
Part of the answer depends on the face you put
on the question. There is a halachic concept known
as panim chadashot, or new face. If something has
been so altered from its original state that it no longer is considered the same thing, it has a new face
and subject to different rules. (Think pareve gelatin
produced from the collagen taken from the crushed
bones of cows, or even non-kosher ones, as was once
the case; or the Flavr-Savr tomato, which is produced
using pig cells.)
After all the issues are resolved (assuming that is
possible), one issue remains: marat ayin (what the
eye can see). Jewish law forbids engaging in technically acceptable behavior if it appears that Jewish
law is being violated. Putting a piece of American
cheese on an in vitro hamburger is classic marat
ayin.
So, Sherlock, that motive for murder is not so clearcut after all. It definitely is not Elementary.

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Why I attend the New Jersey


League of Municipalities conference

n my year plus as the eastern director


of the Simon Wiesenthal Center, I have
come to two realizations.
Firstly, that there is far more antiSemitism in our own local backyard than
we would care to know about, and secondly,
that building alliances and relationships
beyond our own community is undoubtedly
a critical method necessary to counter such
Michael
prejudicial sentiments.
Cohen
Two weeks ago I attended the New Jersey League of Municipalities Conference in
Atlantic City. Each year since my election
to the Englewood City Council in 2010 I have made sure
to attend, and each year many around me have inquired
about my commitment to do so.
The conference represents the annual gathering of local
elected officials, senior municipal officials, and key stakeholders from around our great state. It is the one opportunity each year that the leadership from your home
municipalities has to interact with others who have similar elected or appointed positions, but divergent ideas and
foundational experiences that drive their thought process.
While there are many formal sessions on achieving a full
spectrum of best practices at the conference, the more
critical time is after the convention center doors close
each evening.
From the midafternoon forward, a full spectrum of
groups and organizations host receptions. Each of these
gatherings is a pathway to the establishment of new relationships in the informal way necessary to build something enduring between people and the entities they represent. Many of them are relationships that are unlikely to
have formed organically.
As I walked through receptions at the Tropicanas Cuba
Libre and the Borgatas Izakaya, I talked incessantly about
the rationale of the Simon Wiesenthal Centers BDS initiative in passing resolutions condemning the movement in
municipalities throughout the state. I had conversations
about the importance of learning about the Holocaust and
using it as the Simon Wiesenthal Center does, as a transformative teaching tool. I discussed the emotional reaction our communities have toward the increasing use of
the swastika by young people who have not been exposed
to that education, and what we fear that such behavior,
caused continued ignorance, so often leads to.
But I also listened.
I heard about the plights of those representing people
facing the digital divide that remains an obstacle to the
success of their next generation in job markets. I heard
about people facing discriminatory immigrant-related
issues, who worry about the treatment of their children
and the related psychological effect of such interactions.
I heard from those battling with poorly achieving inner
city academics in their public schools, who are disturbed
by the lack of attention their school districts are receiving
compared to those in other neighborhoods. I heard their
problems, and as we all continue in this life to learn, I better understood the problems those around us face on a
daily basis.
I also learned that many people across the state had
never even heard of the BDS movement, and that they
were eager both to learn more and to discuss inter-communal partnerships in fighting all forms of discrimination. What I learned was that far too many people who
did not represent jurisdictions that bordered on Jewish
neighborhoods had preconceived notions about the

issues that concern our community, such as


Israel and anti-Semitism, based on standard
news outlets and their respective biases.
They never hear other perspectives. While
most rational people can recognize the
moral and ethical repugnance of any form
of bias, stereotyping, and discrimination, a
persons deeper comprehension of the trigger points of communities other than their
own is grown only through meaningful personal exposure.
When I had the opportunity to tell the
people I met that I had encountered antiSemitic epithets shouted at me and others representing
the Jewish community a few months ago as we tried to
testify at a New York City Council public hearing on a
resolution condemning the BDS movement, it didnt
take long for jaws to drop. Interacting with someone like
me as an equal as I provided a first-hand account was
monumentally important to the readjustment of their
perspective. Suddenly it was real. It was alive. I understand very well the difference made by such exposure
to firsthand accounts as I heard their own personal
accounts of discrimination against people who looked
like them, talked like them, came from the same coun-

I heard about people


facing discriminatory
immigrant-related
issues, who worry
about the treatment of
their children and the
related psychological
effect of such
interactions.
try as they did. Sure, I consider myself fairly knowledgeable about a wide variety of biases in our region, but
there is something that touches you differently when a
respected leader, standing next to you at a reception,
tells you about his child being called the N word in
school or being bullied for coming from a distinct ethnic
or religious group.
I am committed to go to the New Jersey League of
Municipalities Conference each year because if we are
to fight successfully against anti-Semitism it is critical to
ensure that there are people from our community who
can talk about our issues, who can provide that exposure,
and who can give us a personalized identity to those who
potentially might be our allies in our common struggle
against discrimination.
At the same time, if we are to build such necessary intercommunal alliances, it is incumbent upon us not only to
say that we know that others are discriminated against as
well, but to feel the innate power of other peoples emotional struggles within this context. That way, our empathy is genuine, our bond is strong, and our zero tolerance
for swastikas, BDS, or any form of anti-Semitism will be
fundamentally understood and universally abhorred.
Jewish Standard DECEMBER 16, 2016 51

Opinion

Six more things not to do


if you want your children to have a Jewish identity

ast October, I wrote a satirical


op-ed about things Jewish parents
should not do if they wanted their
children to have a strong Jewish
connection.
I did get a few complaints about the negative tone, which was done specifically to be
provocative, but also I heard a lot of acknowledgment that many parents today might want
to re-think (albeit briefly) their priorities.
With Chanukah, one of the most universally
celebrated Jewish holidays, almost here and
conveniently overlapping with Christmas, I
thought it would be appropriate to add some
more Things to the list. Other than the Do
Nots in the headings, I will write this in a
more positive way and without (most) of the
snarky commentary.
1. Do not identify with other Jews who look
or observe differently.
There are only about 13 to 15 million Jewish
people worldwide. We are a very small group.
Therefore, our identification with Jewish
peoplehood is very important for our continuity. We cannot afford to see Jewish people who look or observe differently as the
Other and marginalize them in our thinking or our behavior toward them. Though
the ultra-religious, with their black dress,
long beards, and often large families may not
seem familiar to most secular Jews, their history and more importantly their values
are. Our children need to be taught that these
are our people, not foreigners whose strange
ways are to be avoided. In our society, when
every color, sexual orientation, gender identification, national origin, etc. is welcomed,
we cannot afford to ostracize members of our
tribe and then expect our people to avoid the
fate of the American Indian.
2. Do not respect Jewish traditions you are
not interested in following.
As a corollary to 1 above, even if you do
not observe Shabbat, attend synagogue
regularly, or keep kosher, do not put down
those who do or suggest that those things

are not worthwhile. Make sure that your


children know that these are our traditions
and are core aspects of Judaism. Let them
understand that your personal beliefs or
lifestyle do not include them, but that these
traditions represent important components of Jewish life, with deep meaning and
strong history. Expose them at various times
to these traditions, and let them know that
they have value. And as with other choices
they may make that differ from yours (such
as their jobs, housing, location, or choice of
the Jets v. Giants), they may want to consider
some of them when they become adults.
3. Do not have your children dress appropriately for synagogue.
While none of us would consider showing up to a wedding or funeral without a
suit or dress, we think nothing of letting
our children come to synagogue in t-shirts,
shorts, skirts of nebulous lengths, and even
flip flops. While casual dress has become
accepted in our society, and certainly neat
shorts and pants often are perfectly fine,
there are limits. Sometimes the dress or
lack thereof demonstrates a lack of respect
for the institution and other congregants.
If a childs post-synagogue sports or other
extracurricular activity necessitates a certain
uniform, then bring along that uniform and
change after the service. The same way that
the child would not go to the activity in dress
clothes, in most cases they should not attend
synagogue in a soccer uniform!
4. Do not respect the cell phone rules of
the synagogue.
Unless you are a physician on call or have
a family member in peril (in which case you
may not want to attend anyway), there is no
reason to have your cell phone on in the sanctuary during Shabbat or holiday services. If
you are that important, if you really cannot
be unavailable for 1 to 3 hours, especially on
a Friday night or Saturday morning, when
little or no business is being transacted, then
you and your phone probably should stay

must know which successful


home to attend to your urgent
people are Jewish, and, unforbusiness. That text from your
tunately, which bad ones, like
friend about dinner reservations or a hackneyed, pro/anti
Madoff, are as well, so that
Trump Facebook post certainly
we can teach our children
can wait until services are over.
that there is a value in being a
Once again, it is disrespectful to
member of the Jewish people
the institution and to other conand keep our identity strong.
gregants to use your cell phone
6. Be the first to call out racDan
ism, sexism, and homophowhile in the sanctuary (or for
Shlufman
bia, but the last to identify
many synagogues even while
anti-Semitism.
on their grounds). How do you
When every cause of perceived hate or
expect your children to obey rules or understand that there are things more important
discrimination is met with outrage (as it
than themselves and their social life, when
usually should be), but any type of antithey see you flouting them?
Semitism is met with benign indifference,
5. Do not take pride in the incredible numour children are being taught to forget the
ber of Jewish accomplishments.
lessons of the past. They also are being set
As Adam Sandler reminds us in his Chanuup to question and often distance themkah songs, despite the small number of Jewselves from their Judaism, because being
ish people in the world, it is indisputable that
associated with it becomes too difficult or
our influence and our successes have been
too painful. This often happens now on college campuses with the Boycott, Divestment
outsized. Though many non-affiliated and
and Sanctions movement.
overly assimilated Jews struggle to accept this,
There is growing anti-Semitism in the world
throughout time, Jewish people have flourished despite enormous obstacles. One reason
today, and in the United States as well. Our
was to overcome discrimination. This forced
country is accepting of anti-Semitism in many
us to innovate by creating new industries, such
cases, especially when it relates to Israel. And
as movies and TV, and also to go into others
our continued assimilation into American
where there was a void like medicine, banksociety is causing it to increase not decrease.
ing, and law. Other reasons are our strong famIf you want your children to identify as Jewily relationships, which often are cemented
ish and to continue the chain of Jewish history, they must stand up for themselves and
over Rosh Hashanah meals and Passover seders, community connections, emphasis on
for their people. There are plenty of critics of
education, and focus on creativity.
Israel, and there also is plenty of time for us
Though many of these reasons no longer
to criticize Israel as well. But, if the only discrimination that does not outrage you is the
exist, some of them still do, especially the
one that is leveled against your own people,
emphasis on education. But our community
then you are greatly diminishing the chances
connections are the ones that helped us flourish in the United States in the 20th century
that your children will have a Jewish identity.
and will be most important if we continue
Daniel Shlufman of Tenafly is a member of the
to flourish in the 21st century. So, when the
board of the Jewish Federation of Northern
founders of Google and Facebook are Jewish,
New Jersey and one of its current cohort
that needs to be pointed out to our children
of Berrie Fellows. He is an attorney and a
as a source of Jewish pride. Jewish connectivity is the glue that will keep us strong. We
mortgage broker.

are an anti-Semite, not a hawk.


If you are a soon-to-be-President who
ran a campaign based largely on hate, you
are not merely a populist.
And if you are a Jew who is willing to
accept or ignore racism, you have a lot of
explaining to do.
David Zinberg, Teaneck

Yes, our official policy has been a OneChina policy where Taiwan isnt officially
recognized, but anybody who does two
seconds worth of research can see that is
only on paper and probably needs to be
revisited.
Taiwan is our 9th largest trading partner
and we sell them billions of dollars worth
of weapons. We furthermore unofficially
but actually spread our own military network as a defense for Taiwan. Taiwan itself
is a major investor in mainland China and
there is much official or unofficial business
between them. This no official ties stuff
is paper thin for both the relationship of

Letters
No more doublespeak

When describing Trump, the racists in


his close circle, and the racists among
his supporters, can we dispense with the
Orwellian doublespeak? Can we stop using
diversionary euphemisms?
Terms like alt-right, hard right,
white nationalist, and white ethnocentrist are linguistic red herrings meant to
throw off our sense of outrage. They are
custom designed to sound morally neutral.
But if you salute the President-elect with
Hail Trump! you are a neo-Nazi, not
alt-right.
If you tweet Not anymore, Jews you

America First

The self righteous indignation from the


media and professional diplomatic quarters at the phone call of President-elect
Trump to the Taiwanese President Tsai
Ing-wen is improper.

52 Jewish Standard DECEMBER 16, 2016

America and Mainland China with Taiwan.


The protests from Beijing are something
we can live with to better secure the ties
with Taiwan, a democratic ally in an area
dominated by an ever increasingly belligerent mainland China.
Make no mistake: Donald Trump will
speak to China, regardless of any discussions with Taiwan and he will let them
know that while he wants diplomatic
relations with them, he is not going to let
the United States be bullied or pushed
around.
And really, all this Taiwan handwringing does is once again prove we pay no

Opinion

You cant make peace with bad leaders

n one of my first assignments


abroad as a rookie journalist
back in the early 1990s, I found
myself in the Serbian capital,
Belgrade, just as the violent disintegration of Yugoslavia was getting underway
in earnest.
One afternoon, sitting with a group of
journalists and writers in a caf in the city
center, I was drawn into a long conversation with an Israeli professor who was temporarily teaching in Belgrade. We began
comparing nationalism in the Balkans
with nationalism in the Middle East, and
an observation he made has stuck with me
ever since. I think the Croats should have
an independent state for the same reason
as the Palestinians, he said, as we sipped
Turkish coffee along with shots of the
lethal local plum brandy. Its much better
to get screwed over by your own leaders
than by someone elses.
A quarter of a century later, Croatias
achievement of independence seems
like a distant memory, yet full national
sovereignty still remains elusive for the
Palestinians.
True, the Palestinian Authority, created
in 1994, is widely regarded including in
Israel as a steppingstone on the path
to negotiated statehood. But successive
Israeli prime ministers, among them Ehud
Barak of Labor and Ehud Olmert of Likud,
have offered serious concessions to the
Palestinian leadership in essence, a state
in more than 90 percent of the West Bank
and Gaza, with land swaps also part of the
bargain only to have these rebuffed for
one simple reason: neither the late Yasser
Arafat nor his successor Mahmoud Abbas,
never mind the Islamists of Hamas, have
been willing to make peace, philosophically or politically, with the legitimacy of
Israels presence in the region as a Jewish
and democratic state.
In some ways, this persistent pattern
suggests that my Israeli interlocutor all
those years ago was wrong: even if you

dont have an independent state, you absolutely can get screwed over by your own
leaders, when those same leaders decide
to blame someone elses leaders for your
ongoing misfortune.
Im not, of course, overlooking the
polling data that shows that large numbers of Palestinians regard Israels leaders as their greatest enemies and remain
opposed to any compromise with Israel,
even tactically. The two-state solution,
which has been the foundation of international efforts to bring a solution to this
particular corner of the Middle East, has
been obstructed by many factors, most of
all Palestinian discomfort with the very
idea of a Jewish state in what Hamas and
others consider the Dar al Islam the
domain of Islam. That viewpoint, and not
the promise of peace based on economic
cooperation as envisaged by politicians as
varied as former Israeli President Shimon
Peres and former British Prime Minister
Tony Blair, has counted for far more.
But the most tangible result of this rejectionism has been to freeze negotiations
on Palestinian independence. The result
is that two other solutions, both of them
fraught with risk, now are in the mix.
The first solution involves elements of
both Palestinian unilateralism and international pressure on Israel; in essence, recognizing a Palestinian state without Israeli
consent, and pressuring Israel to concede
territory that it now controls. In the final
days of the Obama administration, its an
approach that again is being mooted in
the context of the United Nations Security
Council resolution that the United States,
in an absolute break with its policy of solidarity with Israel in U.N. forums, would
support.
Will this resolution be a gift of sorts to
the Palestinians from the departing administration of President Barack Obama?
Concern about that prospect has been
widespread, with Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, among others,

Israel has developed with


forcefully restating the imporSunni Arab countries contance of achieving peace
fronted by growing Iranian
through direct negotiations
power are of major strategic
between Israel and the PA.
value; the question, then, is
Those concerns were
whether it is worth risking
heightened with the recent
those relationships further
publication of a New York
enhancement with provocaTimes op-ed by former U.S.
tive statements that suggest
President Jimmy Carter, a
Ben Cohen
that Israel has turned its back
proponent of the slander
on Palestinian statehood.
that Israel is evolving into
Kerry himself addressed
an apartheid state, calling
this point. There will be no separate
for American recognition of Palestine
peace between Israel and the Arab
through a U.N. Security Council resolution
world. Let me make that clear to you, he
that would define the end result of negotiadeclared. There will be no advance or
tions before they begin, and punish Israel
separate peace in the Arab world without
for not following these measures to the
advancing the Palestinian issue. Everyletter. The concerns were further solidibody needs to understand that. That is a
fied by the rather bitter recent comments
hard reality.
of Secretary of State John Kerry, in which
Leaving aside the hint of wishful thinking
he portrayed Israeli settlements rather
here, it is important to prove Kerry wrong.
than Palestinian eliminationism as the key
By developing closer relations with Israel,
obstacle to ending the conflict.
Arab states might in fact exercise positive
Here is where we come to the second
influence on the Palestinian leadership.
solution. In a speech to the Brookings
This is a leadership that still cant
Institution, Kerry highlighted the remark
accept that the Palestinian question is no
of Israeli Education Minister Naftali Benlonger at the heart of the Middle East connett that Israel had reached the end
flict which is one reason why it pursues
of the two-state solution. That internal
offensive and self-defeating initiatives
Israeli discussion, which doesnt change
like securing an apoloy from the U.K.
the fact that government policy remains
government for the 1917 Balfour Declaracommitted to a secure state of Israel
tion, which promised a Jewish national
alongside a demilitarized Palestinian
home in Mandatory Palestine. If the outstate, has attracted a good deal of attenside world wants to be useful, it should
tion, especially now that certain aides to
start cultivating a new generation of PalPresident-elect Donald Trump have been
estinian leaders who grasp this strategic
expressing sentiments similar to Bennetts.
reality, paving the way for a solution that
A Wall Street Journal report on the issue
enables Jews and Arabs alike to live with
even cited the head of a leading PalestinJNS.ORG
dignity and opportunity.
ian think tank saying that in this political
climate, There are people who say lets
Ben Cohen, senior editor of TheTower.
have members in the Knesset from Nablus,
org and the Tower magazine, writes a
Hebron, and Ramallah.
weekly column on Jewish affairs and
Israel should resist international presMiddle Eastern politics. His work has been
sure for an imposed solution. At the same
published in Commentary, the New York
time, Israeli politicians should be more
Post, Haaretz, the Wall Street Journal, and
wary of the implications of rejecting a
many other publications.
two-state solution. The relationships that

attention to our friends anymore.


While Hillary Clinton was accusing
Vladimir Putin of tampering and hacking
claims she never came close to substantiating while threatening to shoot down
Russian planes with a no-fly zone in Syria,
Donald Trump said he wants to sit down
with Putin and work things out.
While the current administration made a
deal with Iran that was so bad that they had
to as Obama administration official Ben
Rhodes admitted to the New York Times
lie about it to the American public and
then compounded that by making a ransom payment they tried to deny making,

Donald Trump has said he wants to get rid


of that terrible agreement and make a better one that puts Americas interests first.
While the current administration puts
out a press release touting the so-called
mixed legacy of Fidel Castro, a murderous,
authoritarian dictator who imprisoned and
executed gays, Afro-Cubans and political dissidents of all stripes, President-elect Trump
called Castro out for the monster he truly
was and warned Cuba that if they dont
change their ways, the United States has no
reason to do anything that is to their benefit.
Under the watch of the last two administrations, we spent trillions of dollars and

caused the deaths of hundreds of thousands of people both American and those
in the middle east to fight wars that were
not in the American interest while creating
more enemies abroad. In addition to leaving Iraq a mess we turned Libya into a chaotic war zone with migrants struggling for
their lives.
This is exactly why the American people elected Donald Trump in the first
place. They want a president who isnt
going to pretend to not have relations
with a country when we clearly do, he
isnt going to make terrible deals with
foreign governments and lie about them,

who isnt going to spend trillions of dollars and waste hundreds of thousands of
lives in unnecessary wars, and who most
certainly isnt going to let the United
States be anybodys doormat.
Peace through strength. No more politics as usual or shady politician speak.
America first.
It is about time somebody stood for
that in this country and our friends again
and I, for one, am proud as can be that
we finally have a leader at the top of our
government, Donald Trump, who feels
the same way.
Dr. Munr kazmir, Leonia

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Looking back
at camp
Rabbi Paul Resnick of Teaneck reflects on
his three decades at Camp Ramah in the Berkshires

JOANNE PALMER
ost careers have their
own internal, specific, idiosyncratic
rhythms, and they
shape peoples lives.
Teachers start in
the early fall, when
the sun still is bright but the air starts
changing. They watch their students grow
for ten months longer than a pregnancy!
and then tumble into the summer
exhausted, ready to go limp and recharge
for the next year.
Rabbis aim toward the High Holy Days;
the rest of the year is intense too, with its
own weekly rhythms, but the sleepless
high theater comes in the fall.
Retailers know that their most profitable
season is right now, with its make-or-break
tensions.
So what about camp directors?
You prepare for ten months for two
months, Rabbi Paul Resnick of Teaneck
said. As a cook, you take raw ingredients, you cook them, you eat them, and
you move on. Thats not the way a camp
director lives.
The year can distill down to a few very
specific moments.
There is nothing more exciting for me
than running onto the buses on the first
day of camp and welcoming the campers,
Rabbi Resnick said.
Rabbi Resnick has been at Camp Ramah
in the Berkshires in Wingdale, N.Y., for 29
years; for most of that time hes been the
camps director. He has just stepped down
from that exhilarating but exhausting post
to become the camps first senior engagement and planning director.
He loves Camp Ramah.
The memory of those buses is sweet.
You have worked for 10 months for that

hour, to get those kids to camp, he said. I


was the first face they saw in camp.
Will I miss that? Yes. Will I miss some
of the challenges, of being awakened at

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midnight because there is a sewage problem? No. But I will miss the buses.
Now, for the first time, Rabbi Resnick will sleep in his own bed most of the

summer; his engagement with the camp


has not lessened but the terms of that
engagement have eased. He looks back on
his life at Ramah with joy.
Paul Resnick, who was born in 1959, grew
up first in the Bronx, on Pelham Parkway,
and then in Woodmere, N.Y., one of Long
Islands Five Towns. His familys connection
to the Conservative movement was deep.
His grandfather was a founder of the Pelham Parkway Jewish Center. In Woodmere,
the family joined Young Israel of Woodmere, which despite its name was officially
Conservative. (Actually, Rabbi Resnick said,
it was Conservadox, with mixed seating in
the center and smaller mens and womens
sections on either side.)
The shuls rabbi, Saul Teplitz, was a huge
force in his parents lives. Norma and Bernie Resnick went to shul every week, and
what the rabbi told them to do, they did,
their son said. At Rabbi Teplitzs recommendation, Paul left public school for the
Brandeis School, a day school in neighboring Lawrence, which was affiliated with
Schechter but more Labor Zionist. Also
on Rabbi Teplitzs advice, Paul went to
Camp Ramah.
Ramah is a camping movement, one of
the few parts of the Conservative movement that is vibrant and flourishing. It
now includes nine sleepaway and four day
camps in North America, as well as camps
in Israel. Some of the camps offer special
activities, but most kids are urged to go
to the one in their region. Then as now,
the camp whose territory encompasses
metropolitan New York, which of course
includes northern New Jersey, Rockland
and Westchester counties, Long Island and
New York City, is Ramah Berkshires.
But Rabbi Teplitz encouraged Paul to
go to Ramah Palmer, in suburban Boston;
his brother-in-law, Rabbi Ray Arzt, was
the director there. That camp closed after

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a year. (That seems to have been the only


big Ramah scandal since the first camp
opened in Wisconsin in 1947; Rabbi Resnick says, I am 57 years old, and the only
time in my life that I ever smoked a cigarette was in Palmer.)
The next year, Paul went to Ramah
Canada Rabbi Teplitzs son Danny was
the head of photography there but
that was it for him as a camper. Then
I stopped going, he said. And that, he
thought, was that.
Paul was accepted at SUNY Binghamton.
By the middle of my senior year in high
school, in 1977, I knew what I was going to
do that summer, he said. And then Rabbi
Burt Cohen, who was the national Ramah
director and the interim director of the
Berkshires, interviewed me, in his living
room, in Hebrew.
He hired me to be a junior counselor at
a camp where I did not know anybody, not
one soul, but I thought why not go for just
one summer? Because who would want
to go back to camp after that one summer
and do it again?
That just shows you how much an
18-year-old knows, he said. Man plans,
God laughs. I have spent all but two of the
last 40 summers at camp.
Paul wanted to be a doctor, and he went
to Binghamton secure in his identity as a
pre-med. And then two things happened
to me, he said. Bio and chemistry were
really challenging. And I took a class with
Dr. Marcia Falk, a Jewish Theological

Seminary-educated poet and translator


who writes liturgy. I was a puny freshman, in a class of eight upper-classmen;
I was able to be there because of my day
school background.
We sat around a table, and they called
her Marcia. I could not call her Marcia.
It wasnt kavod-dic. It wasnt respectful.
But thats how I fell in love with Jewish
texts. That was pure joy. So I was pushed
away from medicine and pushed toward
Jewish study.
And then I became manager of the
kosher kitchen, and I realized that I liked
Jewish stuff. I liked going to daven. I liked
doing Jewish things. I couldnt imagine
why other people didnt feel that too, and
I wanted to turn other people on to it.
So I realized that for me, the path to
that would be through rabbinical school.
That would be my melacha. His work. Not
to get too fancy, but it was his calling.
When I first started rabbinical school,
I wanted to be like Rabbi Teplitz, who was
my mentor, Rabbi Resnick said. I wanted
to be a pulpit rabbi. But then, after some
summers in Ramah, I thought that I could
do this.
I could wear a t-shirt and shorts to
work for a third of the year. How cool is
that? How exciting! And I could get to work
with children as my primary focus, in an
environment that is not the home environment, that is outdoors, in nature, working
with things that are both fun and Jewish.
So he spent every summer at camp

Rabbi Paul Resnick samples camp activities;


below, he stands with his wife, Martha.

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except for the two that bracketed his
year of study in Israel; the first he spent
studying, but for the second I wandered
around Europe with friends doing $10 a
day, he said. He rose through the ranks,
from counselor to rosh edah division
head. It was during one of those later
summers that he met Martha Ezor, who
was a counselor. The pair are about to
celebrate their 30th anniversary; Martha Resnick is a longtime teacher at the
Solomon Schechter Day School of Bergen
County in New Milford.
When I was a senior at rabbinical
school, Dr. Saul Shapiro, the longtime
chair of the camps board, approached
me and said that they wanted to hire me
as assistant camp director, Rabbi Resnick
said. That was very forward-thinking of
them no Ramah camp then had a fulltime assistant director. There hadnt been
a need. But he saw a transfer of leadership coming, and he wanted to make it
as smooth, seamless, and productive as
possible.
It worked. After two years as assistant director and another year as associate director, Paul Resnick took over the
directorship from the retiring Rabbi Jerry
Abrams, who had founded the camp.
And no, you dont have to be a rabbi to
be a camp director at Ramah. You do have
to be a Jewish educator, fluent in Hebrew,
personally observant within the tenets of
Conservative halacha, he said. And you
have to love working with children, and
you have to love the flow of the year.
The professionalism of being a camp
director has been strengthened over the
generations, Rabbi Resnick said. When he
started, it was not seen as much as a profession as a labor of love. Today its both.
There have been many changes in camping since he began to work at Ramah,
Rabbi Resnick said.
Social media and a turn toward transparency have made it far easier to continue relationships through the year; the
intense friendships forged during summers dont have to be packed away in the
camp trunk until next year.
We do year-round engagement, Rabbi
Resnick said. Apple picking before Sukkot. Ice skating at Chelsea Piers. We have
Shabbatons for particular edot. We have
a party at the seminary. Thats on a Saturday night in the winter, when Shabbat
ends early; often out-of-towners stay with
friends who live in the city. Its a new,
vibrant camp tradition.
Other things have changed as well.
We had a change in camp policy about
electronics last year, he said. We shared
the new policy again and again, so no one
could say they didnt know it, on social
media, in snail mail Im a strong believer
in snail mail, because I believe that it does
have a different effect.
Kids are not allowed to bring up any
electronic devices that could access the
web. They could bring mp3 players. We
were very black and white and very strong

Camp offers an immersive Jewish atmosphere. its also fun, as these photos show.
At the bottom right, Rabbi Resnick, in the
center, is surrounded by his family; from
left, son-in-law Elan Sherman and his
new bride, Rena; Martha; Dori; and
Alana Pellerito and her fiance, Joey.

about it, and parents loved having their


kids in an environment where they were
not so electronically connected. We made
an offer to anyone who did not own such a
device that if they could not afford one, we
would buy one for them. They cost $49;
we had a donor who covered it.
And the flip side of that was staff members. They are allowed to bring their
phones; a rosh edah gets a message out
immediately by texting it.
Also, there are all sorts of educational
activities that access the web, and that use
is allowed as well, in controlled settings.
The lesson is that when it is used right,
technology makes the machine of camp run
better. It just has to be thought through.
A camp director and the staff always
have to be aware of state licensing requirements, he continued. The New York
State Board of Health is constantly changing, becoming more strict, he said. That
whole regulatory kind of thinking means
that we always have to be on top of the
game in terms of how many waterfront
people do we have, do we always have a
first-aid administrator on every trip even if
its just to go bowling, whats the right staffto-camper ratio on the trip to Boston. We
were always aware of these things, but our
awareness is always being heightened.
Ramah is accredited by the American
Camp Association, which means that we
have a full day of inspection every three
years, Rabbi Resnick said. We have 20

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binders, each with its own subject transportation, security, in-house medical care,
outside medical care, and so on. This has
become more and more complex.
This makes us a better camp.
The outside world has changed since
Rabbi Resnick first took over Camp
Ramah in the Berkshires. The market has
become much more challenging, he said.
There are more specialty Jewish camps,
largely inspired by the Foundation for Jewish Camp, and there also are many great
non-Jewish options that did not exist a generation ago.
Its also becoming harder to convince
some kids to come to camp. Often 15-yearolds have to build their resumes. We have
spoken to people in corporate America,
who often say that summers in camp provide much better learning experiences, and
we say that we give life-skills experiences
that will be good, no matter what you do in
life. Still, kids and their parents often think
that an internship or an exotic trip or volunteer work all of them genuinely valuable
experiences will do more for their children than camp on a college application.
Part of our mission is to grow Jewish
leadership, and so our two oldest edot
teenagers entering their sophomore or
junior years of high school do some of
their own planning and organizing, Rabbi
Resnick said. What better way could there
be to give them responsibility, while being
supervised by counselors they respect?

Its the training, the production, gaining


knowledge, and then producing the activity. Its not just on paper.
Camp Ramah in the Berkshires had 735
campers and 77 staff members last year.
About 80 percent of the campers are affiliated with Conservative shuls, Rabbi Resnick said; with rare exceptions, the rest are
modern Orthodox. The youngest campers going into third grade are there
for only a week. There were 65 of them,
Rabbi Resnick said. Its a tender age to
send your child to camp. I dont overly
encourage it, but other camps do it, and
the kids love it.
The last year for campers the summer before senior year in high school is
Ramah Seminar in Israel.
Another big change, and definitely for
the better, is that dealing with psychologically challenging issues has become a
higher priority, he said. We always had
kids with all sorts of issues. Now we know
how to deal with them better.
We started the Breirah program for
kids on the spectrum, or who have other
social challenges. We fully integrate them
into the bunks. Thats the only way to do
it. Each bunk would have two or three
counselors; if there is a Breirah camper,
or there are two of them, there always is
a third counselor dedicated to them. We
are now able to take 20 kids who otherwise would not have been able to go to
camp, Rabbi Resnick said.

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We dont market or advertise for this


program. Its all word of mouth. When
we started it we probably were the first
camp to take this integrated approach. We
are dealing with kids who are in the gray
zone. Often, if you would walk into a bunk
and know that there is a Breirah kid, you
wouldnt know which one. Some of these
kids would have gone to camp before, but
they wouldnt have been successful.
Some of the counselors who devote
their summers to working with these
more challenging campers end up as
social workers or special-needs educators,
Rabbi Resnick added.
There also now is an alumni organization, Reshet Ramah, which connects
networks, as its Hebrew name implies
former campers from the entire Ramah
world.
Another area in which camping has
changed is the question of the lesbian, gay,
bisexual, transgender, and queer campers.
The LGBTQ community is very near and
dear to my heart, Rabbi Resnick said. I
learned in the last few years that not everyone feels comfortable in camp thats
both campers and staff members. That
really hurt me. I always prided myself that
being warm and welcoming is at the core
of what we are. Just like under the chuppah you talk about creating a warm and

welcoming home thats what the bunk is


supposed to be.
When I learned that this is not true for
everybody, I said, This is wrong.
So we started conversations with some
parents and some staff members, and this
year, we started to do training. We worked
with Keshet, a Boston-based Jewish
LGBTQ support and advocacy group, and
then we met with our year-round staff, and
then senior leadership, and then the entire
staff, during staff week.
I talked to an alum who is 40 years old,
and knew that he was gay since he was
14, Rabbi Resnick said. He told me that
he didnt know if he should apply to camp
for a staff job when he was 18, and someone said, Of course you should. Of course
Rabbi Resnick will hire you. And of course
I did. It was not an issue for me.
Then, being gay was pretty much a
dont-ask-dont-tell matter. Lately, it has
become much more public, much more
open, Rabbi Resnick said. Counselors
who are gay sometimes will talk to their
campers about it. Camp is a much more
welcoming community now.
And we are much more careful in our
use of language. I tell people not to say
Ladies and gentlemen. It is very binary.
Instead, use the word chevra. And unlike
ladies and gentleman, its Hebrew!

The camp has not yet had a transgender


child, but hes sure that challenge is coming, Rabbi Resnick said.
There are three challenges that he sees
Camp Ramah and all Jewish camps,
and probably all camps will have to
face, he said.
The first is this challenge making
LGBT kids comfortable. Camp, after all,
is a place where no one can hide, except
inside yourself. Everyone is made in Gods
image, Rabbi Resnick said; everyone
should be able to feel comfortable with
that image, no matter what it is.
The second is financial. Camp now
costs $9,000, he said. Many of the campers go to day school, so thats on top of
tuition. Although we have a robust financial aid program, and gave out $300,000
last year, its a challenge. We partner with
congregational rabbis; we dont look at
financial aid as just an obligation of the
camp, but also for the congregation.
There are rabbis who give a certain
amount of money to every kid each year,
and others who try to find kids who really
would benefit and really need it.
We always can make it happen.
Except in the rare but egregious cases
when its clear that a family can afford
camp but has chosen not to pay for it,
once a family applies for financial aid, its
never because of financial aid that a kid
cant come to camp. We are very accommodating. We want the kid in camp.
The third challenge, he continued, is
never to be satisfied with the status quo.
No matter how good a job we are doing
and we do a really good job we should
never rest on our laurels, on the shem
tov the good name of Camp Ramah
in the Berkshires. We must constantly look
at the mission statement, and figure out
the best way to deliver that mission. If we
ever sway from that mission, we will get
into trouble.
The camps mission is to give the best
of the tradition and values of Conservative
Judaism love of mitzvot, Hebrew language, and the land and people of Israel
commitment to inclusion and tikkun olam,
and the joy of learning and prayer.
Everything in camp can be elevated,
he said. Everything can be framed Jewishly, whether its a softball game or a
music lesson or a discussion about God.
When you walk into camp, you are in an
intense Jewish atmosphere.
And then, of course, I also want the
kids to have fun. To learn to play softball
better, and to swim better. To put on
musicals in Hebrew; to sing in the zimriyah and dance in the rikkudiah; to wear
white to welcome Shabbat as the sun dips
over the lake.
Although this will be Paul and Martha
Resnicks first full summer in Teaneck,
they have lived there since 1984, when
they moved from Riverdale to be part of a
community that was intensely Jewish, had
a great shul thats Congregation Beth
Sholom and a great chevra of people.

We have never regretted it.


What really drew us to Teaneck was the
chance to be in a shul where there were
committed, intensely knowledgeable,
warm Conservative Jews, and to be in a
community where there are wonderful
Orthodox Jews, and we dont look at each
other as if we were different from each
other.
The Resnicks have three children
Rena, 28, who just got married; Joey, 25,
and Dori, 22. All the Resnick children went
to Ramah; they all paved their own paths
there, Paul said.
Now, Rabbi Resnick will use his great
knowledge of the camp, its campers,
alumni, parents, and friends to raise the
funds and even more importantly develop
the relationships that it will need if it is to
continue to flourish. The new director,
Rabbi Ethan Linden, will begin his first
summer as director this year, with the full
support of Rabbi Resnick, the board, and
the larger community.
Camp is writing a new chapter, and I
am writing a new chapter, he said. There
is real excitement in camp about there
being someone new. Thirty years is a long
run with one leader.
He cant come up with just a few defining images of the camp, he said; 30 years
afforded him a huge number of them. But,
when pressed, he said, This happened a
few years ago. There was a second-year
mishlachat member thats an Israeli
educator, at camp to act as much as a general role model as a teacher of anything in
particular. He was totally chiloni. Absolutely secular. He had never put on tefillin
before his first year. Hed never had a bar
mitzvah. But he came back a second year,
and was helping a first-year mishlachat
member put on tefillin as if he had been
putting on tefillin forever.
He wasnt at all frum at home after
that first summer, but he went back home
knowing what tefillin was, and he was able
to share that knowledge he gained by living in an intense Jewish environment. And
he wanted to come back.
Then, his last story. Someone asked me
before camp last year, So, rabbi, do you
have a bucket list for your last summer?
And I said I am not dying. But still he
thought about it, and on my bucket list
was walking in the morning with different
people. I mentioned it to Rosh Gesher
the head of the oldest division and
three or four mornings a week I walked
with groups of two or three campers. We
took a 45-minute loop around camp. And
I said to myself, Who would have thought
that waking up early to walk with Rabbi
Resnick would be something anyone
would want to do?
But they did. Campers had to sign up in
advance, and then, from 7:30 to 8:15 or so,
the campers and the camp director would
walk and talk, and ask and answer honest
questions. And the sun was just rising,
and the mist was just burning away, and I
felt that I was high.

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Gallery

n 1 Fathers from Temple Emanu-El of Closter served lunch to their


children and friends on a recent Friday at Solomon Schechter Day
School of Bergen County. Courtesy Emanu-El
n 2 Rabbi Loren Monosov was installed as the spiritual leader of Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack Valley on December 4. Rabbi Jeffrey Selegman
of the Westchester Jewish Center performed the installation. Woodcliff
Lakes mayor, Carlos A. Rendo, and the shuls lay and religious leaders
were at the installation. Courtesy Temple Emanuel
n 3 Last month, the Jersey Hills section of the National Council of
Jewish Women had a potluck/fund raising luncheon at the Opportunity
Center in Fair Lawn. Each attending member brought a homemade dish.
Chairs Muriel Barker and Helen Grabman coordinated the luncheon.
Courtesy NCJW

n 4 Last month, Temple Beth Tikvah in Wayne welcomed Andrew Gross,


the director of political affairs and advisor to the deputy consul general
of Israel in New York as its guest lecturer for the shuls 45th annual
Rabbi Shai Shacknai Memorial lecture. Mr. Gross, second from right,
spoke about U.S./Israel Relations: Partnering for Peace. Pictured with
him, from left, are David Shacknai, Shirley Shacknai Freedman, Rabbi
Meeka Simerly, and Cantor Emeritus Charles Romalis. Courtesy TBT
n 5 At a monthly bat mitzvah club gathering, girls at Bris Avrohom talked
about art, creative writing, food, conversation, and community outreach.
The girls made mirrors to reflect on their inner souls. Courtesy BA

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How can I help my child to fall asleep and stay asleep?
Overall, studies indicate that 15 to 20 percent of one to
three year olds continue to have nightwakings. According
to Dr. Stephanie Zandieh, director, Pediatric Sleep Disorders and Apnea Center, The Valley Hospital, Inappropriate sleep associations are the primary cause of frequent
nightwakings. Sleep associations are those conditions that
are habitually present at the time of sleep onset and in the
presence of which the infant or child has learned to fall
asleep. These same conditions are then required in order
for the infant or child to fall back to sleep following periodic normal nighttime arousals.
Sleep associations can be appropriate (e.g., thumb
sucking) or problematic (e.g., rocking, nursing, parental
presence). Problematic sleep associations are those that
require parental intervention and thus cannot be reestablished independently by the child upon awakening during
the night, adds Dr. Zandieh.
Here are some helpful tips to help your child sleep
through the night:
1. Develop an appropriate sleep schedule with an early
bedtime. Ironically, the more tired your child is, the more
times she will awaken during the night. As such, be sure
your child continues to take naps during the day and set
an early bedtime.
2. Introduce a security or love object to your child.
A transitional object, like a stuffed toy, doll, or blanket,
helps a child feel safe and secure when you are not present. Help your child become attached to a security object
by including it as a part of the bedtime routine. In addition, try to include this object whenever you are cuddling
or comforting your child.
3. Bedtime routine: Establish a consistent bedtime routine that includes calm and enjoyable activities, such as a
bath and a bedtime story.
4. Consistent bedroom environment: Make sure your
childs bedroom environment is the same at bedtime as it
is throughout the night. (e.g. lighting)
5. Put your child to bed awake: After the bedtime routine, put your child into her crib awake and leave the
room. Remember, the key to having your child sleep
through the night is to have her learn to fall asleep on her
own, so she can put herself back to sleep when she naturally awakens during the night.
6. Checking method: If your child cries or yells, check
on her. Wait for as long or as short a time as you wish. For
some children, frequent checking is effective; for others,
infrequent checking works best. Continue returning to
check on your child as long as she is crying or upset. The
visits should be brief (one minute) and non-stimulating.
Calmly tell your child its time to go to sleep. The purpose
of returning to the room is to reassure your child that you
are still present and to reassure yourself that you child is
okay.
7. Respond to your child during the night: In the beginning, respond to your child as you normally do throughout the night. Research indicates that the majority of children will naturally begin sleeping through the night within
12 weeks of falling asleep quickly and easily at bedtime.
If your child continues to awaken during the night after
several weeks, then use the same checking method during
the night as you did at bedtime.
8. A more gradual approach: Some parents feel that not
being present when their child falls asleep feels like too
big of a first step for them and their child. A more gradual
approach is to teach your child to fall asleep on her own,
but with you in the room. This approach may take longer,
but it can feel more comfortable for some families. The
first step is to put your child into her crib awake and sit
on a chair next to it. Once she is able to consistently fall
asleep this way, sit farther and farther away every three to

four nights until you are in the hallway and no longer in sight.
9. Be consistent and dont give up. The first few nights are
likely to be very challenging and often the second or third night
is worse than the first night. However, within a few nights to a
week, you will begin to see improvement.
If you are concerned about your childs sleeping habits or
would like support in helping your child to develop healthy
sleeping habits, make an appointment at Valley Medical Groups
Pediatric Sleep Disorders and Apnea Center by calling (201)
447-8152.

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Alex was a healthy runner and mother of two.
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Beating the
holiday blues
The holiday season is upon us. Decorations and lights
are up, Christmas carols are playing on the radio, and
neighbors are putting the final touches on their holiday displays. In the Jewish community, stores are being
stocked with candles and menorahs and Chanukah
cookies and sufganiyot are on sale. For many of us the
season can be overwhelming and can lead to increased
anxiety and depression. These feelings are often felt
more acutely by family caregivers and older adults who
are experiencing limited mobility, limited finances, and
limited energy.
The holidays magnify the loss of loved ones and may
trigger a longing for the past. Physical and emotional
changes as well as financial constraints impact the ability to celebrate the holidays as you would like. Seasonal
affective disorder (SAD), a mood disorder caused by
the reduction of natural sunlight during the winter, can
compound feelings of depression. Despite these real
challenges there are strategies to beat the winter doldrums and the holiday blues.
Acknowledge how you feel and talk about it. It is ok
to feel sad.
Be realistic about what you can and cannot do.
Get out of the house to avoid isolation and to get some
sunlight.
Stick to a healthy diet and exercise regularly.
Volunteer. Helping others is a wonderful antidote to
loneliness and sadness.
Pace yourself and build in down time.
Try not to set yourself up for sadness by comparing
this years holidays to past celebrations.
Try something new and create new traditions that
accommodate changes in family structure, health,
mobility, or finances.
Limit alcohol consumption. Alcohol is actually a
depressant.
If you are hosting an older relative for Chanukkah
remember these tips:
Arrange transportation if necessary.
If theres snow or ice make sure walkways are cleared.
Let everyone help with set up and clean up. It will
make it easier for you and will make your guests feel like
they are contributing.
Encourage older guests to share their feelings and stories and really listen to them.
Having a mood disorder, experiencing depression
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are risk factors for depression during the winter If you
or someone you know is suffering from symptoms of
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of suicide it is time to consult a medical or mentalhealth professional.
For those suffering from seasonal sadness, remember
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The human agenda
rIcHarD PortUgal
Its hard to make sense of the human agenda. We
are a species capable of composing symphonies
for the masses and committing mass murder; of
inventing agriculture to grow food in abundance
and tolerating the death of millions due to starvation; of creating wondrous technological feats and
utilizing those technologies to undermine basic
freedoms and human dignity. We humans are two
sides of a coin which haphazardly spins and seems
to land on either side with mindless indifference,
but with much dramatic effect.
And the plain truth is that nothing changes as
we age. The common perception dictates that
aging bequeaths wisdom, sagacity and perception;
that we are intelligent and, having lived a long
life with its various adventures and experiences,
would learn to coax the coin to land on the side
of evolution and enlightenment. But that simply
does not happen. We appear mature and seem to
exude an aura of perceptiveness, as if our wrinkles
are the benchmark of intelligence. But we con-

As we cross that
mythical barrier from
middle age to old
age, from adult to
senior, we do not
magically cast off the
follies and excesses
of our youth.
tinue to commit the same mistakes as our younger
brethren. Age doesnt seem to make us smarter, it
simply makes us older. As we cross that mythical
barrier from middle age to old age, from adult to
senior, we do not magically cast off the follies and
excesses of our youth. We charge ahead with the
same baggage of our youth, with the same wanton
disregard of our health, our environment and our
planet. We remain obese; we remain smokers; we
remain intolerant; we remain illogical; we remain
irrational. Of course, being two sides of a coin, we
can also be compassionate, empathetic, environmentalists, health conscious and understanding.
There is a concept in Chinese thought of Chi, a
life force within us all which connects us together
as a species and ties us as a species to the earth we
inhabit and, beyond that, to our entire universe.
There is a current that flows through and around
us, that allows a harmony with nature and with our
own natures. It serves as a calming force which
permits a meditative state and a joining of self to
others; it allows a spirituality and oneness which
encourages both introspection and extrospection.
I have a client who suffers from an autoimmune
disease. There is unfortunately a litany of these
disorders including Parkinsons, MS, myositis,
and dementia to name but a few. These diseases
are brutal and intrusive; they are all encompassing and demanding; they are draining and deadly.
For whatever reason, our bodies turn against

themselves as the immune systems attack healthy cells


as if they were foreign bodies. These diseases certainly
seem to be the dark side of the coin. They encourage a
healthy organism to feast on itself.
Yet, even with this despair, there is the other side of
the coin; the side that displays courage and valor; the
side that shows spirit and mettle; the side that recognizes Chi and allows the mind and body to join in battle. This client does not sit helplessly and bemoan his
fate. He does not blame bad luck or misfortune. He
does not accept the axiom that fate has bequeathed to
him an adversity not to be confronted. Chi accepts both
sides of the coin and searches for balance and stasis.
Where man can create and destroy, a man can host a
disease and search for healing. My client works hard.

He exercises both aerobically and anaerobically, practices Tai Chi and employs Yoga. He meditates, breathes
correctly and controls stress. And his disease has not
progressed. He is in search of balance and that search
has given his body strength.
Is this not a paradigm for all illness, both in an individual man and in mankind in total? The coin has
two sides, but finding a proper balance can perhaps
bequeath a healthy state and a meditative introspection
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If your loved one suffers from dementia
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Safety measures make it among
best 3 percent in U.S.
Holy Name Medical Center is one of the top general hospitals in the U.S. and one of the four best
in New Jersey the only one selected in Bergen,
Morris, Passaic, and Hudson counties for safer
and higher quality patient care. The rankings were
released this month by The Leapfrog Group, a
nonprofit national leader and advocate in hospital
transparency.
The Leapfrog Top General Hospital award is given
to medical centers that have better systems in place
to prevent medical errors, provide higher quality
maternity care and high-risk procedures, and lower
readmission rates. The chosen hospitals must have
received an A in the latest round of Leapfrogs hospital safety scoring and have done well in the federal
governments star ratings. Holy Name was the only
Bergen County hospital to receive 4 stars from the
Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services.
Patient safety and providing the best possible
care has always been our focus and were pleased
to see that our efforts have been recognized, said
Michael Maron, president and CEO of Holy Name.
Our patient-centric care is the cornerstone of all
our specialized services and is one of the reasons
Holy Name has been able to remain an independent hospital.
Leapfrog scores are based on a review of several
key areas in more than 1,800 hospitals nationwide,
including, among other criteria, physician staffing
in intensive care units, computerized medication
orders, and implementation of a policy to handle
Never Events. These mistakes encompass anything
that should never happen in a medical center, for
example, surgery on the wrong limb or patient,
leaving a foreign object in the body, or using contaminated instruments.
Being acknowledged as a Top Hospital is an
incredible feat achieved by less than three percent
of hospitals nationwide, said Leah Binder, president and CEO of The Leapfrog Group. Providing
this level of care to patients requires motivation
and drive from every team member.
Leapfrog recognizes hospitals in four categories:
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Valley Hospitals breast imaging services are now


offered in Paramus in addition to Valleys main campus in Ridgewood, enabling the hospital to accommodate more appointments and to offer many sameday services.
To make an appointment for a mammogram call The
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Holy Names Founders Ball
raises record-setting $1 million
The Holy Name Medical Center Foundation hosted the 2016 Founders Ball
at the Pierre Hotel in Manhattan on
December 3 to benefit Holy Name Medical Centers programs and services.
More than 700 friends, benefactors,
dignitaries, and physicians attended the
annual event, which raised more than
$1 million, it was the largest event in the
Centers history, in both attendance and
financial support. During the evenings
tribute, Daniel E. Straus, president and
CEO of CareOne, LLC, was presented
with the Spirit of Healing Award.
The 2016 Founders Ball was chaired
by Angelica Berrie, Ilan Kaufthal, and
Elizabeth Straus. Angelica Berrie, president of the Russell Berrie Foundation,
was the recipient of the 2015 Spirit of
Healing Award. Ilan Kaufthal is chairman of East Wind Advisors and Elizabeth Straus, Daniel E. Straus daughter,
is executive vice president, CareOne,
LLC.
Max Weinberg, drummer of the E
Street Band and Max and Friends, graciously accepted a personalized jersey

from his favorite sports team, the NJ


Devils, presented by Hugh Weber, president of the NJ Devils and the Prudential
Center, and Grant Marshall, NJ Devils
alum and Stanley Cup Champion. Max
Weinberg and his band then took to the
stage to entertain the gala audience.
Holy Name and CareOne have a
common mission to provide the community with the highest quality healthcare, said Michael Maron, president
and CEO of Holy Name Medical Center.
We thank Daniel E. Straus, a visionary
entrepreneur, philanthropist and supporter of the Medical Center for helping
to make this years gala a record-setting
event.
Its particularly meaningful to be
honored at this years Founders Ball, as
CareOne and Holy Name Medical Center are long-time partners in providing
quality patient-centric care, said Mr.
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Growing new bone from corals raised in the Israeli desert
Graft material made from the enriched mineral exoskeleton of cultured corals is four times stronger than human bone.
Israel21c staff
An Israeli bone-graft product made of enhanced coral has
been approved to start sales in Europe for dental and orthopedic procedures.
This unique product is made from corals grown in a closed
system using patented technology to provide bioactivity and
eliminate biological contamination.
Many practitioners and medical device companies have
already contacted CoreBone to learn more about its advantages over currently available products for bone grafting, says
CEO Ohad Schwartz.
Bone grafts ideally should have four features, he explains.
They must be bioactive, not just a passive scaffold, in order
to attract new bone cells; they must be strong enough to support the site, especially for implants; they must allow for
being replaced as new bone grows; and they must be porous
to enable vascularity, meaning that blood vessels can grow
through them naturally and produce growth of bone from the
inside out.
If you have all those features, you have a very good bone
graft, Schwartz continues. We have all of those.
Some organic grafts from animals or humans also have
those features but they pose a serious risk of rejection and
transmitting disease. Synthetic grafts avoid these risks but are
much weaker than natural bone.
Alternatives are in high demand as the global markets for
orthopedic and dental bone-graft substitutes are expected to

reach $3.4 billion and $1 billion, respectively, next year.


Our product offers the best of both worlds, and therefore
it is an optimal solution, Schwartz says, adding that a European study found CoreBone to be four times stronger than
human bone.
Studies have demonstrated that CoreBones material has
a high rate of bio-integration and connectivity with the host
bone compared with leading products in the market, as well
as almost complete bone healing within months.

Corals grown in the desert

CoreBone is made from the mineral exoskeleton of corals


cultured in monitored aquarium systems and enriched with
silica and strontium to add bioactive and osteoconductive
(bone-cell-attracting) properties. The process is patented in
the United States and Israel.
The corals are bred from selected species in a closed farm
in the Arava desert, so they arent susceptible to marine pollution, contamination and endangerment. They also grow 10
times faster than in nature.
All our products come from natural corals, but we engineer different ones for different indications because they differ in shape, strength and porosity, Schwartz explains.
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different bone graft granules. We found that one of the


corals we grow has the exact shape and dimensions of
tooth roots. So were using the natural design of the
coral to find a solution for a major indication.

Nature does the work

CoreBone was founded in December 2011 as a portfolio


company of The Trendlines Group in Misgav, northern
Israel.
Schwartz is cofounder along with Dr. Itzhak Binderman, an internationally recognized researcher in bone
biology and dentistry who formerly headed the dental
department and hard tissue lab at Tel Aviv Sourasky
Medical Center and taught in Tel Aviv Universitys School
of Dental Medicine and department of bioengineering.
Schwartz says CoreBones products are undergoing
ongoing clinical trials at Baruch Padeh Medical Center
in Poriya, near the Galilee city of Tiberias.
These studies enable the company to launch its products in Europe and Israel; application to the U.S. Food
and Drug Administration is expected by mid 2017.
As for cost, the coral-based bone grafts will be priced
comparably with average bovine-based bone grafts,
which sell for about $100 per 1cc in the United States
and are being used less frequently because of safety
concerns.
We can offer a very competitive price because nature
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Holy Name offers bereavement
support groups in Teaneck
and Saddle River
Holy Name Medical Center Hospice and
Palliative Services are offering several
programs to provide compassionate
support and education to those who are
bereaved. Many individuals who have
experienced the loss of a loved one find
comfort in sharing feelings with others.
Sharing the Journey bereavement
groups were developed to provide support and guidance during the grieving
process. The groups are non-sectarian
and are facilitated by trained bereavement counselors.
Sharing the Journey is open to
those who have experienced loss in
the past year, and it meets for eight
consecutive weeks. In order to accommodate the needs of our participants,
group meetings are being offered at
several times.
At Holy Name Medical Center, 718
Teaneck Road, Teaneck, groups will
be offered Tuesday evenings beginning
January 10 from 6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m.,
and on Wednesday mornings starting
January 11 from 10 to 11:30 a.m.

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Because grieving for the loss of
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Dvar Torah
Vayishlach: Even if we disagree, we should listen

n the beginning of Parashat Vayishlach, Jacob is returning to the


land of Israel after being away for
more than twenty years. The text
tells us about his preparations and his
reunion with his brother Esau, whom
he hasnt seen since tricking their father
into blessing him instead of Esau, after
which Esau wanted to kill Jacob. If we
read the text at its face value, Esau
seems to be a pretty good guy and a forgiving brother, willing to let bygones be
bygones after all these years. However,
the rabbis are invested in showing Esau
to be a bad man and to show Jacob in
the best possible light. In commentaries
we are told that Esau has not forgiven
Jacob and wants to kill him, but there
is no evidence of that in the text itself.
During the time of Roman conquest of

them without really givthe land of Israel, the rabbis


ing them a chance, without
understood this section of
really listening to what they
the Torah to be instructing
have to say or watching to
them as to how to interact
see what they do.
with the authorities. The
Our society is quick to
rabbis did not trust Rome
judge and condemn. Forjust as they did not trust
giveness and understandEsau and so they would
ing are really difficult; they
read this section to prepare
Rabbi Randall
take time and energy. Most
themselves to meet with
Mark
of us are busy, so overRoman authorities to negoShomrei
tiate with them.
whelmed, so tired that we
Torah, Wayne,
Today we live in a world
are happy to get through
Conservative
where often we pre-judge
the day and fulfill all our
others based upon their politobligations without takical or their religious beliefs and we dont
ing the extra effort needed to really listen to someone, to really analyze what
necessarily deeply examine what they do
they say or write. Life is complicated,
and do not say. It is so easy to convince
life is hard; but we owe it to ourselves
ourselves that someone is not our friend
and to those we interact with to really
because of what we think we know about

hear what they have to say even if we


disagree with them, perhaps especially
when we disagree with them.
As we go through this time of transition in America, let us not be too quick
to dismiss others whom we anticipate
might be bad for us or for America.
Change is coming, but change always
takes place; it is up to us how we will
respond to the changes around us. Let
us open our ears and our eyes, our
hearts and our minds; and make the
most of what life has to offer us. Jacob
and Esau had a checkered history, but
they didnt end up with much future
either since Jacob did not accept Esaus
overtures at face value. May we learn
from our ancestors and may our lives
benefit from their experiences.
Shabbat Shalom.

How Chanukah sufganiyot became


a national treat in the Netherlands
Cnaan Liphshiz
AMSTERDAM Though they are considered a caloric hazard in Israel, sufganiyot
are a rare Chanukah treat for many Jews
in Europe.
When the holiday arrives, some Jewish communities in Russia, Ukraine, and
beyond arrange special community bakes.
This keeps schools and kindergartens supplied with the jam-filled doughnuts that
Jews deep-fry on Chanukah in celebration
of the legend involving the miraculous use
of oil during the Maccabean revolt. Other
communities arrange for shipments from
Israel or buy the delicacy in the few kosher
shops that sell them across the continent.
But for Jews in the Netherlands, sufganiyot are a predictable dietary assault.
Each winter they become as ubiquitous
here as they are in Israel, thanks to hundreds of food stalls across the country
that sell a pastry known as oliebollen, or
oil bulbs, every year from November to
January. Prepared with raisins or without,
oliebollen usually are sold with powdered
sugar on top.
I often dont bother to get real sufganiyot at a kosher shop, said Tzippy Harmsen-Seffy, an Israeli-born Dutch Jew from
Amsterdam. I just pick up a few oliebollen instead.
Whereas many cultures have sweet pastries made of deep-fried dough including the German Berliner, which unlike

Oliebollen are sold in stalls like this throughout Amsterdam this time of year.

Kate Hopkins/Flickr

oliebollen is eaten year-round and has


sweet filling few resemble sufganiyot
quite as closely as oliebollen in terms of
ingredients, recipe, and the period of the
year when they are made.
These similarities are not necessarily
the result of coincidence, according to
Jonah Freud, who published a book in
2012 about the Dutch Jewish cuisine based
on her research for the Jewish Historical

Museum of Amsterdam.
Like several other food historians in
the Netherlands, Freud believes that the
oliebollen tradition, which dates back to
the late Middle Ages, may be rooted in
the Jewish sufganiyah, which is likelier
an older dish and is mentioned in Jewish
sources even before the 13th century.
While it would be difficult to credit
with certainty any one cuisine for a basic

recipe of flour, yeast, eggs, water, and oil,


there are nonetheless some influences in
the oliebol that can likely be attributed to
Jewish traditions, she said.
One clue are the earliest recipes for
oliebollen, dating from the Middle Ages,
which have the dough fried in pigs fat.
Jews would have likely swapped the
pigs fat for oil because pork isnt kosher,
Freud said. Eventually we ended up with
the kosher variant, whereas no one fries
oliebollen in pig fat today.
Another indication is the seasonal correlation between Chanukah and oliebollen
season. Oliebollen are not associated with
Christmas, Jonah noted. Its a seasonal
food, not a holiday food, she said.
This is significant, food historians agree,
because Dutch Christians probably would
have been careful not to co-opt any Jewish
customs into their own religious rituals.
To be sure, there are competing theories
about the origins of the oliebol, including
that it was invented by Germanic tribes in
the Netherlands during Yule, a pagan winter holiday.
But if the Dutch oliebol does have Jewish
roots, it would not be the first Dutch food
with such origins.
The Jews of Amsterdam a city so wellknown for its Jewish history that it is also
known as mokum, the Yiddish word
for place are widely credited for giving the Dutch capital its signature halfom
See sufganiyot page 68

Jewish Standard DECEMBER 16, 2016 67

Jewish World
Sufganiyot
from page 67

beef. Before the Holocaust, some 140,000


Jews lived in the Netherlands, mostly in
Amsterdam. Seventy-five percent of them
were murdered.
There is additional circumstantial evidence connecting the oliebol to the history of the sufganiyah.
Jewish food historians believe the habit of
injecting a sweet filling into the sufganiyah
is a late influence that Ashkenazi Jews either
invented or picked up in Germany, where
for centuries bakeries have been selling the
Berliner, a pastry that looks and tastes like
the sufganiyot sold in Israel today.
But the sufganiyot mentioned in Sephardic Jewish writings including by Rabbi
Maimon Ben Yossef, the father of the 13thcentury philosopher Maimonides had no
fillings. Those are believed to have come
later, as Ashkenazi and Sephardi Jews
mixed in the diaspora, including in Poland.
But to this day, some Sephardim in
Israel, France, and Morocco spurn the jam
filling that for many is the trademark of a
good, traditional sufganiyah.
Jonah said this gives credence to theories that oliebollen in their current form
were brought to the Netherlands by Portuguese Sephardim who came here from the

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15th century onward to escape religious
persecution in the Iberian peninsula.
Another indication: Dutch oliebol is often
made with raisins, an ingredient that does
not feature heavily in Dutch cuisine but
was commonly used by Portuguese Jews.
Many non-Jews in the Netherlands
believe oliebollen are originally a Sephardic or Portuguese dish a history
they regard as common knowledge, even
though it has never been proven.
I think it came from Portugal, Portuguese people brought it, said Jan van
Gelden, an Amsterdam entrepreneur who
bought eight oliebollen at a stall in Amsterdams Museum Square intended for the
construction workers who were wrapping
up renovations outside his office.
In Jewish circles, some oliebollen lovers here even insist they are superior to
sufganiyot and closer to the treats Sephardic origins.
If you consider Israeli store-bought sufganiyot original, then oliebollen are better
because theyre fresher and smaller, said
Gili Gurel, another Israel-born Jewish resident of the Netherlands.
But, she added, compared to her grandmothers recipe for homemade sufganiyot, everything is inferior.
JTA Wire Service


Across
1. Biblical princess killed by Phinehas
6. Tell ___ (works often filled with

lashon hara)
10. Theyre often taken on Shabbat
14. Mideast rulers: Var.
15. Do You Love Me? from Fiddler...,

e.g.
16. Zeh hayom ___ Hashem

(Tehillim 118)
17. Where the opening of hope for a

new nation started


19. Avodah ___
20. Bana of Munich
21. First Reich, for short
22. Outputs from 44-Across
24. Carmel, e.g.
26. Panels on many Israeli roofs
28. Site of an annual March street party
32. Famous mother of twins
36. Dedicated lines by Lazarus
37. Make like Jacob towards Esau
39. Its wrapped in the morning
40. Bust ___ (really enjoy an Elon

Gold set)
42. Its next to the Kingdom of Jordan

and where Jordan was king


44. Shofar, e.g.
45. Davis Cup round Israel reached in

2009 (with the)


47. Home of the original

Maimonides Synagogue
49. Opposite of Goliath
50. One might be given at the Temple
52. A melting pot for many immigrants
54. Take Fauda off the DVR
56. What Richard Simmons targets with
a 72-Across
57. Flick with a ship called The
Nebuchadnezzar (with The)
60. Prepare, for a Seder
62. ___Stream
66. My brother
67. Singapore and Sparta...or another
title for this puzzle
70. Where Billy Joels Last Play
occurred
71. One logging on to the Jerusalem
Post website
72. See 56-Across
73. Rosenthal and Burns
74. Worshipped item in the Bible... and
Game of Thrones
75. Make like Haman

The solution to last weeks puzzle


is on page 75.
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Down
1. Shusters Kal-El wears one
2. Counting time (with the)
3. Tubular fare thats chametz
4. One is said on a rainbow or rain-

bow trout
5. Man
6. It comes before Hu at a Seder
7. Carrie Fishers cinematic twin

(and others)
8. Literatures Asher
9. Home of Zayats American Pharoah
10. Place for Cardinals and Cardinals

fans
11. Men named for the third king

of Judah
12. Say Shalom, e.g.
13. All of Gemara
18. Make like the state of Israel since

its inception
23. Locales for Bohr and Salk
25. Name based on the first lady
27. Make a priest or a rabbi
28. Lchaim!, e.g.
29. Jerusalem Botanical Gardens tool
30. Notable name in international lend-

ing
31. Angels supposedly have lovely ones
33. Heights with many minyanim
34. Hero singer who played in Israel

in 2015
35. William Shatners sleep woe
38. Real estate gov. body in the

Holy Land
41. Where to find a centuries old

Synagogue by the sea


43. Some kids only get them on Shabbat
46. Cruise whose name is a variation of

the first matriarch


48. Where some won big betting on

American Pharoah, for short


51. Trump might make one (freeing up

more tzedakah money, perhaps)


53. Make like Greek general Bacchides

against the Maccabees


55. First name in cosmetics
57. Moses wore one
58. Need Nurofen or Optalgin
59. ___ the children of Israel came into

the midst of the sea.. (Ex. 15: 22)


61. Jane of note, once played by

Charlotte Gainsbourg
63. Director Preminger
64. Book before Josh.
65. Indiana Jones spends some time

with them (to his dismay)


68. Air(line) start
69. Meas. for Jamie Geller

Arts & Culture


North Jersey Jewish sounds
A Thread of Blue and Django Project perform in Montclair synagogue
LARRY YUDELSON

here are musicians among us.


They make music as much for love as for
money. They make their living as sidemen in
big name bands, by teaching music, or perhaps
in less musical careers.
They come together in bands of their own, friends playing together, carving out their own musical niche.
And on Saturday night, two such bands, made up of
northern New Jersey musicians with a Jewish tinge, will
play at Bnai Keshet in Montclair (see box).
Thread of Blue is headed by saxophonist and flautist
Martin Fogel of Montclair, who played on some of Lou
Reeds recordings in the 1970s and toured with him.
Were basically performing liturgical music in a jazz
and contemporary style, Mr. Fogel said. The songs are
sung by Cantor Talya Smilowitz of Congregation LDor
VDor of Oyster Bay, New York.
Allen Watsky of Leonia is a guitarist and the leader of
Djangle Box. The group was formed out of his desire to
combine his love for klezmer and other Eastern European
folk music with his love for the guitar. His interest in
Jewish music started in just the most innocent sort
of way, mostly from the cantorial point of view,
he said.
I was playing violin and learning the
traditional niggunim and then I started
being hired by some of the Canadian
klezmer musicians, notably Josh Dolgin,
who under the name Socalled has combined rap and klezmer for records such as
HiphopKhasene.
I wound up working for about ten years
with Josh and David Krakauer, he
said.
Mr. Watsky studied jazz and
composition at
Berklee College of Music

and classical guitar at Mannes School of Music. The work


he did on the klezmer scene was a style I had been playing when I was in my twenties, he said. It wasnt particularly relevant to me artistically.
Djangle Project was an attempt to try to bring something that was relevant to me and mash it all up together.
Its about me not playing the electric guitar in somebody
elses project.
Djangle Project is a nod to Jean Django Reinhardt, the
Belgian-born French jazz guitarist.
He was also playing a French steel guitar, Mr. Watsky
said. Also people derided the guitar as a jangle box.
The name was kind of a joke on the whole idea of using
a French guitar, which is really not an instrument used
much in Yiddish music. People think klezmer is something
mostly about the accordion or the violin mostly anything but the guitar.
The Djangle Projects repertoire includes Moldavian
songs Mr. Watsky learned at Klezcamp in Canada and chasidic and Ukrainian songs, but Mr. Watsky sees his innovation in the realm of rhythm.
Im trying to make a vibe, he said.
What I was doing for Socalled and
Dave was providing them with a
rhythmic basis. I was trying
to reconnect Jewish music to
what I felt was its Middle
Eastern origins, trying to
interpolate Middle Eastern rhythm to this Eastern
European folk music.
Everyone wanted to
call it funk, but in fact its
overlaying Middle Eastern
rhythmic schemes. I think
its probably contextually logical in a timeline of klezmer
musics development. The scale
most used in Eastern European music by Jewish
people is called
the Hijaz. We

Martin Fogel

call it Freygish. Its said to evoke nostalgia for the desert


homeland. Its not a surprise that these Jewish musicians
probably coming from the Ottoman courts would focus
on that as a vehicle for their expression.
While the record he released for Django Project is two
thirds Mr. Watskys own compositions, on Saturday night
we will be sticking to more or les traditional music, he
said. The idea is to try to take something from every
aspect of our musical journey and fuse it into something
that is fun to listen to and also elevating to the listeners, to
try to focus peoples attention on something that will help
them achieve some sort of clarity.
What: Jewish music concert
Who: Thread of Blue and Djangle Box
Where: Congregation Bnai Keshet, 99 S. Fullerton
Ave., Montclair
When: Saturday night, December 17, 7:30 p.m.
How much: $25

Allen Watsky

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Calendar
Friday
December 16
Chanukah discussion:
The Bergen County YJCC
Senior Lunch program
meets to learn about
Chanukah with Rabbi
Bob Mark of the Clifton
Jewish Center at Temple
Beth Or in Washington
Township, noon. Kosher
lunch. 56 Ridgewood
Road. (201) 666-6610.

Shabbat in Wayne:
Temple Beth Tikvah
offers Chanukah
dinner, childrens
crafts, and services,
6 p.m. 950 Preakness
Ave. Reservations,
(973) 595-6565.

Shabbat in Woodcliff
Lake: Temple Emanuel
of the Pascack Valley
holds a Chanukah family
service, 7 p.m., with
Rabbi Loren Monosov,
Cantor Alan Sokoloff,
Cantor emeritus Mark
Biddelman, the TEPV
Swingin Singers, and
the fourth grade class.
87 Overlook Drive.
(201) 391-0801 or www.
tepv.org.

flamenco musical
ensemble, will perform
a concert celebrating
the diversity of Jewish
music at Temple Beth
Rishon. Evening begins
with a congregational
dinner, 6 p.m., followed
by Shabbat service
with pianist Itay
Goren, clarinetist
Jacob Niederman, and
percussionist Jimmy
Cohen, 7 p.m. Lyla Cante
joins Cantor Ilan Mamber,
rabbis Ken Emert and
Lois Ruderman, and the
Temple Beth Rishon
adult choir, Kol Rishon.
At 7:45, vocalist/band
leader Alty Weinreb and
his musical ensemble will
perform Jewish music
with an eclectic blend of
flamenco and rock & roll.
Oneg follows. 585 Russell
Ave. Dinner reservations,
(201) 891-4466 or www.
bethrishon.org.

Saturday
December 17

Shabbat in Teaneck:
Rabbi Dr. Michael Berger
of Emory University is
scholar-in-residence
at Congregation Rinat
Yisrael. After Kabalat
Shabbat, he will give a
dvar halacha. During
the 8 p.m. oneg, he will
address Charedim in
the Coal Mine: What the
Ultra-Orthodox Teach Us
About Being Religious
in America. At the
9 a.m. Shabbat morning
service he will give the
sermon and after Mincha
on Shabbat afternoon
he will talk about Mai
Chanukah? Rav Yitzchak
Hutner on the Revolution
of Chanukah. 389
West Englewood Ave.
(201) 837-2795.

Major General (Res.)


Meir Klifi-Amir
Shabbat in Closter:
Temple Emanu-El of
Closter welcomes
scholar-in-residence
Major General (Res.)
Meir Klifi-Amir, national
director/CEO of Friends
of Israel Defense
Forces, who will discuss
Challenges and
Opportunities for Israel
Today, 9 a.m. Dessert
reception follows.
180 Piermont Road.
(201) 750-9997.

Jewish inclusiveness:
Temple Emeth of
Teaneck s Viewpoints
Committee screens
Nicole Oppers film,
Off and Running, the
story of an AfricanAmerican girl adopted by
a Jewish lesbian family,
2:30 p.m. Viewpoints, a
shul committee that was
formed to celebrate the
diversity of the Jewish
community, includes
programs that highlight
the interfaith, interracial,
and LGBT communities.
1666 Windsor Road.
(201) 833-1322.

Chanukah in Hoboken:
Ammi/My People
Jews By Choice has its
pre-Chanukah dinner
and Havdalah at the
United Synagogue of
Hoboken, 5 p.m. The
group is for people
who have completed
an introduction to
Judaism course and
are looking for the next
step. Discussions by
USH rabbinic intern
Lindsey Healey-Pollack
and Rabbi Robert
Scheinberg. 115 Park Ave.
(201) 659-4000 or office@
hobokensynagogue.org.

Sunday
December 18

The Grammy Awardnominated Pop Ups!


offer Chanukah songs,
a puppet show, and
build-your-own puppet
workshops, at the Kaplen
JCC on the Palisades, 10
a.m. noon. 411 E. Clinton
Ave. (201) 408-1467.

Sarah Nanus
Shabbat in Ridgewood:

Lyla Cante
Shabbat in Wyckoff:
Lyla Cante, a Judeo-

Temple Israel & JCC


in Ridgewood holds
its annual National
Gun Violence
Prevention Shabbat in
commemoration of the
fourth anniversary of
the Newtown shooting.
During 9 a.m. services,
Sarah Nanus, founder
of the Bergen County

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for a pre-Chanukah
celebration featuring
the Bossy Frog Band,
10 a.m. 87 Overlook Ave.
(201) 391-0801 or email
Margie@tepv.org

Chanukah at Home
Depot: Chabad of
Upper Passaic County
partners with Home
Depot in Riverdale for
a Chanukah menorah
workshop, 10-11:30 a.m.
Build a wooden menorah,
get a workers apron
and Chanukah treats.
The Home Depot, 106
Route 23, Riverdale.
(201) 696-7609 or
JewishHighlands.org.

Chanukah in Wyckoff:
Temple Beth Rishon
offers Chanukah Fun
Day with food and
drinks, and activities
including magic,
laser tag, game truck,
and arts & crafts,
11 a.m.-1:30 p.m. 585
Russell Ave. Refreshments.
(201) 891-4466 or
bethrishon.org.

Rick Recht

Chanukah in Woodcliff
Lake: Join members
of Temple Emanuel
of the Pascack Valley

The JCC of Paramus/


Congregation Beth
Tikvah hosts a
comedy night starring
Robin Fox and Doug Adler on
Saturday, December 17, at 8 p.m.
BYO kosher unopened wine.
Desserts served. 304 East Midland
Ave., Paramus. (201) 262-7691 or
www.jccparamus.org.

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Chanukah in Hoboken:
The Kaplan Cooperative
Preschool, the Learning
Center, and the United
Synagogue of Hoboken
present A Chanukah
Concert with Rick Recht,
a day of celebration,
11 a.m.-3 p.m. 115 Park
Ave. (201) 659-4000 or
hobokensynagogue.org.

Chanukah at ShopRite:

Chanukah in Tenafly:

Shabbat in Emerson:
The mens club of
Congregation Bnai
Israel hosts its annual
Chanukah dinner,
6:30 p.m. Services
follow. 53 Palisade
Ave. Reservations,
(201) 265-2272 or www.
bisrael.com.

chapter of Moms
Demand Action for Gun
Sense in America, will
talk about gun violence
and the need for public
involvement. Kiddush
lunch follows. 475 Grove
St. (201) 444-9320 or
www.synagogue.org.

Christina Kamilaris, the


registered dietitian at
ShopRite of Paramus,
offers Healthy
Chanukah Appetizers,
11 a.m.-2 p.m., in the
kosher department.
It is under OU kosher
supervision and features
the stores mashgiach.
224 Route 4 East
and Forest Avenue.
(201) 638-8514.

Chanukah at Home
Depot: Chabad of
Hoboken & Jersey City
holds its Chanukah
workshop at Home
Depot in Jersey City,
11:15 a.m. Build a holiday
toolbox and fill it with
your own Chanukah
candles and dreidel,
meet Bob the Builder,
eat Chanukah treats.
Parents must accompany
children. A project of
the Home Depot with
Chabad of Hoboken &

Jersey City. The Home


Depot, 180 12th St.,
Jersey City. Reservations,
chabadhoboken.com.
clhosting.org.

Chanukah in Rockleigh:
Cantor Israel Singer of
Temple Emanu-El in
Closter leads a Chanukah
singalong with residents
at the Jewish Home
at Rockleigh, 11:15 am.
(201) 750-9997 or www.
templemanu-el.com.

War veterans meet in


Hackensack: Jewish
War Veterans Post 651
of Fair Lawn meets for
lunch and a meeting
to celebrate Chanukah
at the Crows Nest,
12:30 p.m. Members and
their guests welcome.
309 Vincent Ave.
Edward Rosenblatt,
(201) 797-3190.

Folksbiene Yiddish
Theater, 1 p.m. Popcorn
and ice cream. Cancelled
if weather is bad. 558
High Mountain Road.
(201) 560-0200 or www.
tenjfl.org.

Chanukah in Jersey
City: Congregation Bnai
Jacob hosts LatkeFest
2016, 4 p.m. Its all about
cooking and eating
latkes with CBJ, Temple
Beth-El of Jersey City,
and Temple Emanu-El
of Bayonne. Cooking
demos by the shuls best
latke makers, followed
by a tasting. Take home
recipes. 176 West Side
Ave. bnaijacobjc.com.

Chanukah in Franklin
Lakes: Temple Emanuel
of North Jersey continues
the monthly program
Sundays With Sokol
by showing 20 crazy
television commercials
from the 1960s and
then the Yiddish
video My Yiddishe
Chanukah, featuring a
multi-language concert
with members of the

Rabbi Daniel Fridman


Chanukah in Teaneck:
Rabbi Daniel Fridman
of the Jewish Center
of Teaneck discusses
The Beauty of Yefet in
the Tents of Shem: The

Calendar
Challenge of the TorahChochmah Synthesis
in Light of Chanukah
at Congregation Rinat
Yisrael, 8 p.m. Rabbi
Fridman is also associate
rosh ha-yeshiva at Torah
Academy of Bergen
County. Lecture in
memory of Shelly Rudoff.
389 West Englewood
Ave. (201) 837-2795.

Monday
december 19

Europa Chanukah party,


including lunch, at the
Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
CBI, 11:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m.
Entertainment by
the Odessa Klezmer
Band, directed by Ed
Goldberg. Cafe Europas,
social programs for
Holocaust survivors,
are made possible
through grants from the
Conference on Jewish
Materials Claims Against
Germany, the Jewish
Federation of Northern
New Jersey, and private
donations. 10-10 Norma
Ave. (973) 595-0111,
(201) 837-9090, www.
jfsnorthjersey.org, or
www.jfsbergen.org.

Blood drive in Teaneck:

Rabbi Lazer Gurkow


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meaningful: Rabbi
Lazer Gurkow discusses
Planting Seeds of
Happiness in the Fertile
Soil of Life How can
we make our lives deeper
and more meaningful?
at a farbrengen at
Lubavitch on the
Palisades, 7:30 p.m.
Traditional dinner. 11
Harold St., Tenafly.
www.chabadlubavitch.
org/19kislev or
(201) 871-1152.

Holy Name Medical


Center holds a blood
drive with New Jersey
Blood Services, a
division of New York
Blood Center, 2-8 p.m.
718 Teaneck Road.
(800) 933-2566 or www.
nybloodcenter.org.

Chanukah in Emerson:
Congregation Bnai Israel
hosts its special Night
of Giving, 5:30 p.m.,
open to all school-aged
children. Attendees will
light candles, eat latkes,
and make a craft to be
sent to underprivileged
children to light up their
lives. Gift donations
welcome. 53 Palisade
Ave. (201) 265-2272 or
www.bisrael.com.

Wednesday
December 21
Blood drive in Teaneck:

Feature film: The Kaplen


JCC on the Palisades
in Tenafly screens
Footnote (Hearat
Shulayim), 7:30 p.m.
Commentary by Andrew
Lazarus, coffee, and
snacks. 411 E. Clinton Ave.
(201) 408-1493 or www.
jccotp.org.

Tuesday
December 20

Torah Academy of
Bergen County holds
a blood drive with
New Jersey Blood
Services, a division of
New York Blood Center,
10 a.m.-4 p.m. 1600
Queen Anne Road.
(800) 933-2566 or www.
nybloodcenter.org.

Hadassah meets in
Paramus: TriBoro
Hadassah meets to
celebrate Chanukah with
comedy, food, raffles,
and prizes, at the JCC of
Paramus/Congregation
Beth Tikvah, 12:30 p.m.
East 304 Midland Ave.
(201) 384-8005.

Paramus Yiddish club:

Caf Europa in Fair


Lawn: Jewish Family
Service of North Jersey
and Jewish Family
Service of Bergen
and North Hudson
will hold a joint Cafe

Khaverim Far Yidish


(Friends for Yiddish)
meets for a Chanukah
celebration at the JCC of
Paramus/Congregation
Beth Tikvah, 2 p.m.
Bring short stories and
poems, dreidels, and
songs. Group meets the
third Wednesday of the
month. $10 yearly dues.
East 304 Midland Ave.
Marvin, (845) 533-4310.

Thursday
December 22
Blood drive in Teaneck:
Congregation Rinat
Yisrael holds a blood
drive with New Jersey
Blood Services, a
division of New York
Blood Center, 3-9 p.m.
389 W. Englewood Ave.
(800) 933-2566 or www.
nybloodcenter.org.

Friday
december 23
Shabbat in Teaneck:
Temple Emeth holds its
annual family Shabbat
service for Chanukah,
8 p.m. Bring menorahs,
candles, and friends, and
a can of nonperishable
food item to donate
to the Center for Food
Action. 1666 Windsor
Road. Reservations,
(201) 833-1322 or www.
emeth.org.

giant dreidel bounce


house, buffet lunch,
olive-oil workshop,
Chanukah movie room,
and appearances by
Judah Maccabee and the
Dreidel Man. 375 Pulis
Ave. www.chabadplace.
org/Chanukahparty.

Chanukah in Ringwood:
Chabad of Upper
Passaic County holds
a menorah lighting
ceremony with local
officials, 5:30 p.m. Crafts,
glow giveaways, latkes,
donuts, and chocolate
gelt. 110 Skyline Drive,
in front of Wells Fargo
Bank. (201) 696-7609 or
jewishhighlands.org.

Chanukah in Jersey
City: Congregation
Bnai Jacob celebrates
with a movie, cookies,
and Chinese food. 176
West Side Ave. www.
bnaijacobjc.com.

noon. 587 Route 303.


Individual checks. Gene,
(845) 356-5525.

Saturday
December 24
Singles comedy/magic
in NYC: The Place To

Singles
Sunday
December 18
Seniors meet in
Blauvelt: Singles 65+
of the JCC Rockland
meet for lunch at the
Blauvelt Coach Diner,

Be Singles group hosts


a comedy and magic
night for Jewish singles
38+ at Congregation
Talmud Torah Adereth
El, 8 p.m. Latkes and
jelly donuts. 133-135 E.
29th St., between 3rd &
Lexington avenues, New
York City. Reservations,
(973) 851-9070.

Saturday
December 24
Chanukah in Glen
Rock: The Glen Rock
Jewish Center hosts a
community menorah
lighting, with hot
cocoa and jelly donuts,
5:30 p.m. 682 Harristown
Road. (201) 652-6624 or
office@grjc.org.

Chanukah in
Ridgewood: Temple
Israel & JCC invites the
community to its first
night of celebration,
6:15 p.m. Participants
should bring a menorah.
Evening includes
Chinese food buffet,
dreidel games, kids
activities, and a movie.
Bring unopened
cleaning supplies or
toiletries to be donated
to Ridgewood Social
Services. 475 Grove
St. Reservations,
(201) 444-9320 or www.
synagogue.org.

A capella in Fair Lawn:


The Y-Studs, Yeshiva
Universitys a capella
group, performs on the
first night of Chanukah
at Congregation Ahavat
Achim, 7:30 p.m. 18-25
Saddle River Road. www.
ahavatachim.org.

Sunday
December 25

5K benefit Chanukah race on Sunday


All are welcome to the third annual Passaic Chanukah 5K race and kids 1-mile
fun run on Sunday, December 18, in
Passaic Park. The start and finish lines
are at the Boathouse Caf in Third Ward
Veterans Memorial Park in Passaic Park,
near the train station and park entrance
at Passaic Avenue.
The fun run is at 2 p.m.; the 5K is at
2:30. Registration begins at 12:30 or

online at www.compuscore.com or
www.runsignup.com. Proceeds will
benefit Bikur Cholim of Passaic-Clifton,
Congregation Adas Israel, and Chabad
Passaic-Clifton. There will be refreshments, including donuts, latkes, hot
chocolate, and coffee; professional timing, a measured course, prizes, and a
long-sleeved tech race shirt.

New Sunday night learning for girls


A new initiative from Yeshiva Universitys Graduate Program in Advanced
Talmudic Studies offers opportunities
for local high school girls to engage in
high-level Jewish studies with the support and mentorship of GPATS students
and faculty.
Called Sunday Night Learning:
Empowered by GPATS, the program
will feature a series of events that are
open to female high school students.
The evening will begin with a dinner
and chavruta learning with students in
GPATS, a program that provides women

with opportunities to immerse themselves in post-graduate study of Jewish


topics. Advanced lectures from GPATS
and YU faculty, on topics that range from
Tanach to Gemara to Jewish philosophy,
will follow.
The first program will be on Sunday,
December 18, from 7 to 9 p.m., at the Bais
Medrash of Bergenfield, 371 South Prospect Ave. GPATS director Nechama Price
will give a shiur, These Are A Few of Their
Favorite Things: Favoritism in Tanach.
For information, email Nechama Price
at nechama.price@yu.edu.

Chanukah in Franklin
Lakes: The Chabad
Jewish Center hosts
Chanukah Wonderland,
11 a.m.-1 p.m. Family
activities and
entertainment include
making latkes from
scratch, making
sufganiyot, crafts, a

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Jewish World

Israels Junior Mr. Universe


credits Orthodox upbringing for success
Andrew Tobin
ZICHRON YAAKOV, Israel Kobi
Ifrach stood on a stage in England
wearing nothing but gold body paint, a
Speedo, and an Israeli flag. He had just
become the first Israeli to win the Junior
Mr. Universe bodybuilding competition.
Back home in this northern Israeli town,
Ifrachs charedi parents were cheering him
on. Days earlier they had lit Shabbat candles and prayed for his victory.
Ifrach, 20, left the path of strict Jewish observance during high school and
now abides instead by the strictures of
bodybuilding. He works out for hours
every day and follows a carefully regimented diet. But he remains close with
his family and credits much of his success to the discipline of his religious
upbringing.
Since youre young, they teach you
to have a strict order to your days,
Ifrach said. You have to wake up in the
morning and pray and wrap tefillin, and
you take this discipline with you wherever you are in life. I still have this order
and this discipline of doing the things I
need to do.
Ifrach grew up in Zichron Yaakov, the
youngest of eight brothers and sisters
born to Moroccan immigrant parents.
The children attended charedi schools.
Two of Ifrachs older brothers introduced him to weightlifting when he was
11 years old. At his yeshiva in Tiberias,
he would hide dumbbells under his bed
and skip prayers to work out. In class, he
would doodle pictures of superheroes and
bodybuilders instead of studying Torah.
Bodybuilding chose me, Ifrach said.
I didnt choose it. I liked something
about these very masculine characters.
I was interested in them.
After a brief stint in an all-boys army
preparatory program, Ifrach dropped
out of school and moved home to devote
himself full time to bodybuilding.
I couldnt sit and study while I was
thinking of working out. I needed to do
what my heart wanted, he said. Anyway, I dont think I would have continued with religion. It wasnt in my soul.
Ifrachs parents tried to convince him
to stay in the charedi world. His obsession with bodybuilding made little sense
to them.
I was worried. I didnt know where it
was going to lead, his mother, Ruti, said
as she prepared Shabbat dinner. He
was making a balagan a huge mess
in the kitchen every time he needed to
eat. I was waking up in the middle of the
night thinking the house was on fire. Id
come into the kitchen, and hed just be
eating his rice and chicken.
Our parents always wanted us to go

Kobi Ifrach in Zichron Yaakov last month, working out and dressed.

their way, to stay in the charedi world,


for the men to study in the yeshiva, for
the women to be daughters of Jacob,
said Ifrachs sister, Hagit, 37, using a
term for an ideal charedi woman.
Ifrach eventually moved into an
apartment in a nearby non-charedi
neighborhood with his brother Mayer,
a 26-year-old special needs teacher and
amateur bodybuilder. They still live
together, along with a gregarious Rottweiler named Revi. Together they own
and manage a bodybuilding supplement
shop called Kobi Body. Their apartment
is filled with Ifrachs trophies and medals, as well as one photo of the two beefcake brothers nearly nude.
Seven days a week, Ifrach wakes

72 Jewish Standard DECEMBER 16, 2016

Andrew Tobin

up and drinks a protein shake before


spending 30 minutes practicing poses
in front of the mirror. An hour later he
eats a portion of tuna and rice. Two
hours after that he lifts weights for three
hours and drinks another protein shake,
sometimes followed by running stairs.
Lunch is a portion of chicken breast
and rice. After a few hours typically
spent working at the supplement shop
he has dinner: an omelet made from
a dozen eggs, nine of them without the
yolks.
At days end, he poses in the mirror
for another 30 minutes before sending off a selfie to his trainer, Dani Kaganovich, another young bodybuilder
who has won several international

tournaments. Together they tweak the


regimen for the following day, including
how many grams he will weigh out for
each meal.
Ifrachs regimented life leaves little
room for hobbies and friends. Along
with his brother, he spends most of his
free time with his girlfriend, Yuval Azulay. Ifrach likes to cook for her, even if
he cant enjoy the results.
Azulay is 18 and doing national service for the Magen David ambulance
service before starting a career in teaching. In an inverse situation to Ifrachs,
she comes from a secular family but
became observant.
Ifrach competed in his first bodybuilding competition, the Mr. Israel junior
event, in the coastal city of Netanya
in 2012, when he was 16. He finished
second, but the next year he took first
place. He followed up in 2014 by winning the Mr. World youth competition in
Malta, then took the title again the following year in Brazil.
As Ifrach rose in the bodybuilding world, his family came to support
him, and much of the community went
with them. By all accounts, the process
started with his mother.
You have to understand, my father
is a very respected rabbi in the community, Hagit Ifrach said. Everyone
is seeking his advice and coming here
to consult with him about religious and
personal issues. Seeing Kobi on the
stage the first time, wearing only underwear, was a shock.
But they saw my mother come up
after he won with a wig and a long dress
and a head covering, and hugging and
blessing him. When that happened,
everybody understood it was OK.
A little more than a month after winning Junior Mr. Universe in October,
Ifrach is halfway through his two-month
recovery period. Next year, or in 2018,
he plans to compete for the mens Mr.
Universe title won four consecutive
times from 1967 to 1970 by movie star
and former California governor Arnold
Schwarzenegger.
Other competitors get drunk on
their success, Ifrach said. Theyre
not focused enough on their training,
so they wont win again the next year.
I will.
Ifrach hopes to follow Schwarzeneggers path to becoming Mr. Olympia,
which he considers the highest bodybuilding title. But for now he is enjoying
the time off, which he said is essential to
his physical and spiritual recovery. Its
also important to his mom.
At least for a couple months a year,
he eats my Moroccan fish, she said.

JTA Wire Service

Obituaries
Jeffrey Andacht

Jeffrey M. Andacht, 50, of Fort Lee,


died December 4.
Born in Brooklyn, he was a
director of operations.
His parents, Neil Andacht and
Rochelle Dick, and husband, Daniel
Taub, survive him.
Arrangements were by Eden
Memorial Chapels, Fort Lee.

Beverly Berhang

Beverly Berhang, ne Briefer,


99, of Watchung, died December
7. Born in Jersey City, she was a
homemaker.
Predeceased by her husband,
David; and a daughter, Hilary
Sutcliffe; she is survived by
children, Gail Mucci (Ralph),
Renee Riggi (Ricky), Cheryl
Gibney (Daniel), and Robin
(Anna); a brother, Maurice
Briefer; 14 grandchildren; and 17
great-grandchildren.
Arrangements were by Eden
Memorial Chapels, Fort Lee.

Edward Feldman

Edward Feldman, 84, of Fair


Lawn, formerly of Paterson, died
December 10.
He was a self-employed plumber
and then the Boro of Fair Lawns
building and health inspector. He
was a member of the Fair Lawn
Volunteer Fire Department and
served as chief.
Predeceased by his wife,
Dorothy, ne Mann, he is survived
by children, Sharon Keller
(Thomas), Marilyn Leichtnam
(Richard), and Jeffrey; brothers,
Philip and Herbert (Rose);
four grandchildren; and one
great-grandchild.
Donations can be sent to Fair
Lawn Volunteer Fire Department
Company 1. Arrangements were by
Louis Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Seymour Goodman

Seymour Goodman, 90, of the


Bronx, died November 24.
A World War II U.S. Army veteran,
he served from 1944 to 1946.
Afterward he held various positions
in the workforce before working
with the New York State Department
of Mental Health until retiring at 65.
Due to illness that befell his wife, he
raised his daughters by himself.
Predeceased by his wife, Shirley,
ne Wasserman, in 2010, he is
survived by his daughters; Robin
of the Bronx, and Deborah of Pearl
River; siblings, Sylvia, Sheila, and
Melvin; and granddaughters Ava,
Alexa, Alanna, Aria, and Tara.
Burial was at Montefiore
Cemetery in Queens, with an Army
Honor Guard present; arrangements
were by Ackermans Funeral Chapel.

Alan Lebowitz

Alan Lebowitz, of New Milford, 63,


died December 1.
He was a wrestling referee for
NJWOA Northeast chapter, East Coast
Professional, and South Florida Gulf
Coast Wrestling Alliance. He also
coached high school wrestling before
retiring.
Predeceased by his father, Ed
Lebowitz, and a brother, Gary Botwin;
he is survived by his mother, Dale
Botwin Levy, ne Megibow; siblings,
Dr. Todd Botwin (Dr. Maria), Terry
Ubaldi, Andrea Levy, and John
Lebowitz; longtime companion,
Annette Favia and her three children;
an aunt, Reine Silon; nieces, nephews,
and cousins.
Donations can be made to
Thoroughbred Charities of America.
Arrangements were by Louis Suburban
Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Lena Mandelbaum

Lena Lee Mandelbaum, ne


Kaufman, 97, of Fair Lawn, formerly of

Maywood, and Wayne, died December


8. Predeceased by her husband,
Milton, she is survived by a son, Philip
(Stephanie) of Fair Lawn; and four
grandchildren.
Donations can be sent to Valley
Hospice, Paramus, or Fair Lawn
Volunteer Ambulance Corps.
Arrangements were by Louis Suburban
Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Sylvia Rosen

Sylvia Simmie Rosen, ne Sergay,


87, of Elmwood Park, formerly of
Paterson, died December 6.
Predeceased by her husbandof
60 years, Leonard, and a sister, Ruth
Kantor; she is survived by a son,
Marc (Monique Benes) of Edison;
a sister, Linda Tender (Michael) of
Florida; and a granddaughter, Morgan.
Arrangements were by Louis Suburban
Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Sol Seltzer

Sol M. Seltzer of River Edge, formerly


of the Bronx and Brooklyn, died
December 11.
An Army Korean conflict veteran
earning a Bronze Star, he was a
mechanical engineer and partner at
the Bradford National Corporation in
New York City. He was a member of
Temple Avodat Shalom in River Edge,
Jewish Soldiers at West Point, and a
founding member of Haifa University
in Israel.
He is survived by his wife, Claire;
children, Roben (Lourdes), Sharon
Katzman (Ralph), and Theo (Susan);
and six grandchildren.
Donations can be made to Temple
Avodat Shalom. Arrangements were
by Louis Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Shirley Yedwab

Shirley Yedwab, 95, of Fort Lee, died


December 7.
Arrangements were by Eden
Memorial Chapels, Fort Lee.

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Black Box Studios presents


the first revival of the
comedy/drama Twist of Faith
Black Box Studios is presenting the
first revival of the acclaimed long-running comedy/drama Twist of Faith
at The Black Box Performing Arts Center of Teaneck. This revised production of the Off-Broadway hit is written
and directed by Michael Gurin and
based on an original concept by Matt
Okin. Featuring two young professional actors, Jake Levine and Joseph
Ramondino, Twist of Faith is now
playing a special Tuesday night run
through January 10 at 9:15 p.m.
Three of the most popular area restaurants are offering prix fixe dinner/
show packages for each performance
of Twist of Faith, with special menu
offerings and a guarantee to have audience members satiated and seated at
the neighboring Black Box Performing Arts Center by showtime. At the
sports bar Teaneck Doghouse, dinner
and the show is $44.95 per person. At
Mocha Bleu (Italian/fusion), dinner
and the show is $64.95 per person.
And at the high-end steakhouse Nobo
the dinner/show package is $90.00
per person. All options should be purchased in advance at www.blackboxpac.com/twist.
In Twist of Faith, a wealthy young
stock trader totally indifferent to his
Jewish heritage is forced to spend a
Sabbath in the religious Jewish section
of Borough Park, Brooklyn. During
this experience, Sam forms an unexpected bond with Baruch, the nervous
young Orthodox Jew who soon after
his encounter with Sam has his faith
crushed after a series of life-altering
events. While Sam strives to create a
new life of strict religious observance
and comes to embrace the very faith
which Baruch seems to be leaving

behind, the friends courageously


search for the meaning of existence.
For nine months in 2001, Twist of
Faith ran Off-Broadway in New York
City after touring the United States
and Canada from 1998 to 2000, visiting over 100 venues for audiences
ranging from 100-800 per show. Its
sequels, Second Chances and Destinations, both premiered at Manhattans landmark Theater For The New
City and subsequently enjoyed their
own national tours. The long-running
NY comedy, A Match Made In Manhattan: The Interactive Jewish Wedding Experience was inspired by the
characters in the trilogy.
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twist. Group rates for 10 or more are
available by calling (201) 357-2221.
Tickets can also be purchased at the
venue; call (201) 357-2221 for box
office hours.
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located at 200 Walraven Drive, just off
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Black Box Studios presents the final weekend of
performances of its special engagement of Edward
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The Goat Or, Who Is Sylvia? premiered on
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2002 and closed on December 15, 2002 after 309
performances and 23 previews.
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Tiny barcodes are huge help in
personalized cancer therapy

VR and treadmill training


may prevent falls in the elderly

Israel21c.org

Parkinsons patients benefited most from the


intervention, which could be implemented in gyms,
rehabilitation centers and nursing homes.

Tiny barcodes made of synthetic DNA


can help determine the suitability of specific anticancer drugs to a specific patient
before treatment even begins, according to
an Israeli study recently published in Nature
Communications.
The new diagnostic technology was developed by Technion-Israel Institute of Technology researchers led by Assistant Prof. Avi
Schroeder of the Faculty of Chemical Engineering and the Technion Integrated Cancer
Center.
The medical world is now moving
towards personalized medicine, but treatments tailored only according to the patients
genetic characteristics dont always grant an
accurate prediction of which medicine will be
best for each patient, explained Schroeder.
We, however, have developed a technology
that complements this field.
Together with doctoral student Zvi Yaari
and other researchers, Schroeder created
what amounts to a safe, miniature lab in each
patients body to examine the effectiveness of
a specific drug in that individual patient.
They attach synthetic DNA sequences to
minuscule quantities of anticancer drugs,
which they then pack inside specially
designed nanoparticle vehicles for delivery
to tumors. After 48 hours a biopsy is taken
from the tumor and the tags serve as barcode readers of each drugs activity in the
cancer cells, showing how many malignant
cells were killed.
The researchers are currently working

with drugs registered as anticancer drugs, but


in principle, they can test a battery of drugs
for each patient and find out which is the
most effective drug to treat his or her disease.
Its a bit like testing for allergies, where
simple tests provide us with a specific persons allergy profile, Schroeder explained.
Here we developed a simple test that
provides us with a profile of the patients
response to the designated drug. This
method makes it possible to test the effectiveness of several drugs concurrently in the
patients tumor, in minute doses not felt by
the patient, and which do not pose any danger to him or her. Based on the test results,
the most effective drug for the specific patient
is selected.
The experiments were performed on lab
mice with triple-negative type breast cancer, which does not respond well to standard treatment and presents difficulties
for doctors to find the most effective drug
for each patient.
This technology provides a new window
into fundamental insights about the mechanisms of cancer and resistance to various
drugs, said Schroeder. But my thoughts are
also practical: how our research could help
people.
The new technology was patented and now
there are discussions regarding its commercialization. Its true that itll take a lot more
work to turn our development into a product
thats available to the public, but I believe that
well see it at the clinic within a few years,
Israel21c.org
Schroeder predicted.

SELLING YOUR HOME?

Israel21c staff
A combination of virtual reality and treadmill training may prove effective in preventing dangerous falls associated with aging,
Parkinsons disease, mild cognitive impairment or dementia, according to an Israeli
study published in The Lancet.
The intervention described in the study
combines the physical and cognitive
aspects of walking, and could be implemented in gyms, rehabilitation centers and
nursing homes to improve walking skills
and prevent the falls of older adults and
those with movement disorders.
Falls often start a vicious cycle with
many negative health consequences, said
co-lead author Dr. Anat Mirelman of Tel
Aviv Universitys Sackler School of Medicine and Tel Aviv Sourasky Medical Centers
Center for the Study of Movement, Cognition and Mobility.
The ability of older people to negotiate
obstacles can be impaired because of agerelated decline in cognitive abilities like
motor planning, divided attention, executive control, and judgment, she said.
Current interventions typically focus
almost exclusively on improving muscle
strength, balance and gait. Our approach
helps improve both physical mobility and
cognitive aspects that are important for safe
walking, she continued.
We found that virtual reality plus treadmill training helped to reduce fall frequency and fall risk for at least six months
after training significantly more than
treadmill training alone. This suggests that
our use of virtual reality successfully targeted the cognitive aspects of safe ambulation to reduce the risk of falls.
Mirelman and Dr. Jeffrey Hausdorff
and their Israeli research team, in collaboration with partners across Europe,
collected data from 282 participants at
five clinical sites in Belgium, Israel, Italy,
the Netherlands and the UK between
2013 and 2015.
The participants, all aged 60 to 90, were

able to walk at least five minutes unassisted, were on stable medications and had
reported at least two falls in the six months
prior to the start of the study. Nearly half
of all participants had Parkinsons disease, and 43 of them had mild cognitive
impairment.
Participants were assigned to treadmill
training with virtual reality (146) or treadmill training alone (136). The virtual reality component consisted of a camera that
captured the movement of participants
feet and projected it onto a screen in front
of the treadmill, so that participants could
see their feet walking on the screen in
real time.
The game-like simulation was designed
to reduce the risk of falls in older adults by
including real-life challenges such as avoiding and stepping over obstacles like puddles or hurdles, and navigating pathways.
It also provided motivation by providing
feedback on performance and scores on
the game.
While the incidence of falls was similar
in the two groups prior to the intervention,
six months after training the rate of falls
dropped by almost 50 percent among those
who trained with VR. In contrast, there was
no significant reduction in fall rates among
subjects who did not train with the VR.
Interestingly, when we asked people
if they enjoyed the treatment program,
participants in the virtual reality group
reported higher scores on user satisfaction questionnaires and a greater desire to
continue to exercise with the game, said
Hausdorff.
This suggests that the virtual reality
not only led to fewer falls, it was also more
likely to be used in the long-term. Exercise
needs to be fun and effective if it is going to
be used continually.
Hausdorff said the biggest improvement was seen in participants with Parkinsons disease.
It was very exciting to see such improvement in the presence of a neurodegenerative disease, he said. 
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Wendy Wineburgh Dessanti, a broker/


sales associate in the Weichert Tenafly
office, will serve on the New Jersey Realtors Association Board of Directors for
2017. She has also been re-installed as
a director of the local Eastern Bergen
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Passaic counties for most listings under
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closed over $10 million in sales for 2016.


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Community Relations Advisory Board,
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