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Self-compassion is conceptualized as containing 3 core components: self-kindness versus selfjudgment, common humanity versus isolation, and mindfulness versus overidentification, when relating
to painful experiences. Research evidence demonstrates that self-compassion is related to psychological flourishing and reduced psychopathology. Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) is an 8-week training
program, meeting 2.5 hours each week, designed to help participants cultivate self-compassion. MSC
contains a variety of meditations (e.g., loving-kindness, affectionate breathing) as well as informal practices for use in daily life (e.g., soothing touch, self-compassionate letter writing). A detailed clinical case
illustrates the journey of a client through the 8 weeks of MSC training, describing the key features
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Keywords: self-compassion; mindfulness; compassion; difficult emotions; psychotherapy; meditation
What is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion is simply compassion directed inward. Drawing on the writings of various
Buddhist teachers (e.g., Salzberg, 1997), Neff (2003b) operationalized self-compassion as consisting of three main elements: kindness, a sense of common humanity, and mindfulness. These
components combine and mutually interact to create a self-compassionate frame of mind. Selfcompassion is relevant when considering personal inadequacies, mistakes, and failures, as well
as when confronting painful life situations that are outside our control.
Self-kindness entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail,
or feel inadequate, rather than flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. Sadly, however, many
people tend to use harsh, critical language with themselvesYoure so stupid and lazy, Im
ashamed of you! We would be unlikely to say such things to a close friend, or even a stranger
for that matter. When asked directly, most people report that they are kinder to others than
themselves (Neff, 2003a), and it is not unusual to encounter extremely kind and compassionate
people who continually beat themselves up.
And even when our problems stem from forces beyond our control, such as losing our job
or getting in a car accident, we often dont give ourselves the sympathy we would give to a
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friend in the same situation. With self-kindness, however, we soothe and nurture ourselves when
confronting our pain rather than getting angry when life falls short of our ideals. The inner
conversation is gentle and encouraging rather than harsh and belittling. We clearly acknowledge
our problems and shortcomings, but do so without judgment, so we can do whats necessary to
help ourselves.
Common humanity involves recognizing that the human condition is imperfect, and that we
are not alone in our suffering. We cant always get what we want. We cant always be who we
want to be, either. This is part of the human experience, a basic fact of life shared with everyone
else on the planet. We are not alone in our imperfection. Rather, our imperfections are what
make us card-carrying members of the human race. Often, however, we feel isolated and cut off
from others when considering our struggles and failures, irrationally feeling that its only ME
who is having such a hard time of it. We think that somehow we are abnormal, that something
has gone wrong. This sort of tunnel vision makes us feel alone and isolated, making our suffering
even worse. We forget that failure and imperfection actually are normal.
With self-compassion, however, we take the stance of a compassionate other toward ourselves, allowing us to adopt a broader perspective on our selves and our lives. By remembering
the shared human experience, we feel less isolated when we are in pain. For this reason, selfcompassion is quite distinct from self-pity. Self-pity is a woe is me attitude in which people
become immersed in their own problems and forget that others have similar problems. Selfcompassion recognizes that we all suffer, and therefore fosters a connected mindset that is
inclusive of others.
Mindfulness involves turning toward our painful thoughts and emotions and seeing them as
they arewithout suppression or avoidance (Neff, 2003b). You cant ignore or deny your pain and
feel compassion for it at the same time. Of course, suffering might seem blindingly obvious. But
how many of us, when we look in a mirror and dont like what see, remember that this a moment
of suffering worthy of a compassionate response? Similarly, when life goes awry, we often go into
problem-solving mode immediately without even knowing were in pain or recognizing the need
to comfort ourselves for the difficulties were facing. Being mindful of our suffering is therefore
necessary for self-compassion.
Mindfulness also requires that we not be overly identified with negative thoughts or feelings,
so that we are caught up and swept away by our aversive reactions (Bishop et al., 2004). This
type of rumination on our negative feelings narrows our focus (Frederickson, 2003) and creates
an overly negative self-concept (Nolen-Hoeksema, 1991). The mental space provided by taking
a mindful approach to our difficult feelings, however, allows for greater clarity, perspective, and
equanimity (Baer, 2003).
Research on Self-Compassion
Self-compassion has received increased research attention lately, with over 200 journal articles
and dissertations examining the topic since 2003, the year that the first two articles defining
and measuring self-compassion were published (Neff, 2003a; Neff, 2003b). One of the most
consistent findings in the research literature is that greater self-compassion is linked to less
psychopathology (Barnard & Curry, 2011). In fact, a recent meta-analysis (MacBeth & Gumley,
2012) found a large effect size when examining the link between self-compassion and depression,
anxiety, and stress across 20 studies.
Self-compassion appears to facilitate resilience by moderating peoples reactions to negative
events. In a series of studies, for instance, Leary Tate, Adams, Allen, and Hancock (2007)
asked undergraduates to recall unpleasant events, imagine hypothetical situations about failure,
loss, and humiliation, or perform an embarrassing task. Results indicated that individuals who
were higher in self-compassion demonstrated less extreme reactions, less negative emotions,
more accepting thoughts, and a greater tendency to put their problems into perspective while
at the same time acknowledging their own responsibility. Another study examined the role
self-compassion plays in adjustment to marital separation (Sbarra, Smith, & Mehl, 2012).
Researchers found that those who were self-compassionate when thinking about their breakup
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not only evidenced better psychological adjustment at the time, but this effect persisted over
nine months.
While self-compassion helps people deal with life struggles, its important to remember
that self-compassion does not push negative emotions away in an aversive manner. With selfcompassion, instead of replacing negative feelings with positive ones, positive emotions are
generated by embracing the negative ones. In fact, self-compassion is associated with numerous
psychological strengths such as happiness, optimism, wisdom, curiosity and exploration, personal initiative, and emotional intelligence (Heffernan, Griffin, McNulty, & Fitzpatrick, 2010;
Hollis-Walker & Colosimo, 2011; Neff, Rude, & Kirkpatrick, 2007).
Although many people fear that being self-compassionate will undermine their motivation
(Gilbert, McEwan, Matos & Rivis, 2011), research suggests that self-compassion actually enhances motivation. For instance, self-compassion has no association with the level of performance standards adopted for the self, but it is negatively related to maladaptive perfectionism
(Neff, 2003a). Self-compassionate people are less afraid of failure (Neff, Hseih, & Dejitterat,
2005), and more likely to try again when they do fail (Neely et al., 2009). Breines and Chen
(2012) found that having self-compassion for personal weaknesses, failures, and past moral
transgressions resulted in more motivation to change for the better, try harder to learn, and
avoid repeating past mistakes. Similarly, self-compassion appears to motivate health-related behaviors such as sticking to a diet (Adams & Leary, 2007), quitting smoking (Kelly, Zuroff, Foa,
& Gilbert, 2009), or starting a fitness regimen (Magnus, Kowalski, & McHugh, 2010).
Self-compassion not only helps oneself but also improves interpersonal functioning. Selfcompassionate individuals are described by their romantic partners as being more emotionally
connected, accepting, and autonomy-supporting while being less detached, controlling, and
aggressive than those lacking self-compassion (Neff & Beretvas, 2012). Research finds that selfcompassionate students tend to provide social support and encourage interpersonal trust with
their roommates (Crocker & Canevello, 2008) and are more likely to compromise in conflict
situations, feel more authentic, and report a greater sense of well-being in various relationships
(Yarnell & Neff, 2013). Self-compassion is also linked to more empathic concern, altruism,
perspective-taking, and forgiveness of others (Neff & Pommier, 2012).
Sources of Self-Compassion
Gilbert and Proctor (2006) suggest that self-compassion provides emotional resilience because
it deactivates the threat system (associated with feelings of insecure attachment, defensiveness,
and autonomic arousal) and activates the caregiving system (associated with feelings of secure
attachment, safety, and the oxytocin-opiate system). In support of this proposition, Rockcliff,
Gilbert, McEwan, Lightman, and Glover (2008) found that giving individuals a brief selfcompassion exercise lowered their levels of the stress hormone cortisol. It also increased heartrate variability, which is associated with a greater ability to self-soothe when stressed (Porges,
2007).
Other findings support the idea that self-compassion is linked to the attachment system. For
instance, people who lack self-compassion are more likely to have critical mothers, come from
dysfunctional families, and display insecure attachment patterns than self-compassionate people
do (Neff & McGeehee, 2010; Wei, Liao, Ku, & Shaffer, 2011). Childhood emotional abuse is
also associated with lower self-compassion (Tanaka et al., 2011). Self-compassion appears to
mediate the relationship between childhood maltreatment and later emotional dysregulation
meaning that abused individuals with higher levels of self-compassion are better able to cope
with upsetting events (Vettese, Dyer, Li, & Wekerle, 2011). This relationship holds even after
accounting for history of maltreatment, current distress level, or substance abuse, suggesting that
self-compassion is an important resiliency factor for those seeking treatment for past trauma.
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and increases in the willingness to experience sadness, anger, and closeness were associated with
higher levels of self-compassion (Schanche, 2011). In the same study, increases in self-compassion
predicted fewer psychiatric symptoms and interpersonal problems.
Moreover, self-compassion has been found to be a key mechanism in the effectiveness of
mindfulness-based interventions such as mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) and
mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR). For instance, Shapiro, Astin, Bishop, and Cordova
(2005) found that health care professionals who took an MBSR program reported significantly
increased self-compassion and reduced stress levels compared with a waitlist control group. They
also found that increases in self-compassion mediated the reductions in stress associated with
the program. Similarly, Kuyken et al. (2010) compared the effect of MBCT with maintenance
antidepressants on relapse in depressive symptoms. They found that increases in mindfulness
and self-compassion after MBCT participation mediated the link between MBCT and depressive symptoms at 15-month follow-up. They also found that MBCT reduced the link between
cognitive reactivity (i.e., the tendency to react to sad emotions with depressive thinking styles)
and depressive relapse, and that increased self-compassion (but not mindfulness) mediated this
association. This suggests that self-compassion may be an important key to changing habitual
thought patterns so that depressive episodes are not re-triggered.
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Clinicians can explore the principles and practices of the MSC program and adapt them
to their own clinical context. A MSC training manual will be published in 2014. Additional resources are books by Neff (2011) and Germer (2009), and the following websites
that include downloadable meditations: www.CenterForMSC.org, www.Self-Compassion.org;
www.MindfulSelfCompassion.org.
Case Illustration
The following case illustrates the experience of a client who took the MSC course as an adjunct
to psychotherapy. The reader will be taken through the entire MSC program, describing the key
features of each session and the clients response.
Presenting Problem
Brian is a 52-year-old divorced man with no children who was referred to the MSC program
by his therapist, who had seen him intermittently in psychotherapy for over 9 years. Brian
suffered from depression and anxiety most of his adult life, with symptoms including feelings
of worthlessness (Im fundamentally flawed), hopelessness (All my work doesnt amount to
a hill of beans), fatigue (previously diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome), insomnia (early
morning awakening), dread, restlessness, muscle tension, difficulty concentrating, and low libido.
His symptoms worsened over the year prior to starting the MSC program because his landscape
design business shrank with the economy and his marriage of 21 years ended. Antidepressant
and antianxiety medication, which Brian had taken most of his adult life, provided Brian with
some relief, but he was still socially isolated with recurring suicidal ideation.
Brians therapist referred him to MSC with the understanding that self-criticism and feelings
of shame and low self-worth were interfering with his progress in treatment. Brian typically
left his therapy sessions feeling somewhat better, with a cautious smile on his face, only to fall
into despair by the following morning. Brian knew that he filtered his life experiences through
catastrophic, black-or-white thinking, but he felt helpless to change the feeling tone of his life
despite his therapists best efforts. At his core, Brian felt I was born under a bad sign and he
didnt deserve to feel better.
Brian reported to his therapist that he had been the black sheep in his family. He suffered
from undiagnosed dyslexia and had to repeat the 2nd grade, which was a source of embarrassment
to his ambitious, narcissistically injured, father. Brian was dragged around to shrinks since an
early age, felt like a piece of furniture, and reported that his depressed mother never said she
loved him until she died. His father was a binge drinker, flew into rages, and boasted about his
extramarital affairs. After a fight with his father when he was 16 years old, Brian was thrown out
of the house. Two years later he tried to commit suicide, feeling desperately lonely and unable to
study effectively at the local community college. Despite this background of trauma and neglect,
Brian was a gifted artist. He managed to become a skilled landscape designer, received a few
patents for innovative camping tent designs, and married a fellow artist because she was willing
to have me.
Case Formulation
Brian described his mind as a runaway freight train that started down the tracks at breakneck
speed from the moment he woke up. His primary strategies for alleviating stress were distraction
in his work (which became less available since the economic downturn) and vigorous exercise
(which became more difficult when he was depressed), both of which left him mentally and physically exhausted. He said he lived an animal existence since childhood, struggling emotionally
and physically for survival and hypervigilant to threats. He ruminated excessively about the past
(regret) and the future (worry), unable to access positive thoughts and emotions. His therapist
believed mindfulness training might help Brian become less reactive to his negative thoughts
and emotions. She hoped that mindfulness skills could help Brian tolerate distress in his life
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without amplifying it by fighting with his experience: What we resist, persists and What we
cant feel, we cant heal (Neff, 2011).
More importantly, Brian felt he did not deserve to feel better. Our capacity for selfcompassionthe ability to be kind and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail,
or feel inadequateappears to be related to childhood experience (Neff & McGeehee, 2010).
Shame (Im unlovable because something is wrong with me) and self-criticism (often from
internalized messages of primary caregivers) can be carried into adulthood, resulting in depression, anxiety, and social withdrawal, which typically provide additional evidence for ones
negative self-image. Brian was convinced, I should never have been born. Self-compassion
specifically targets feelings of unworthiness, shame, and self-criticism (Gilbert & Proctor, 2006),
and Brians therapist hoped that self-compassion training could ease the habits of self-criticism
and shame that Brian had been exercising all his life.
Clients who were neglected or abused in childhood are likely to experience discomfort when
they start to feel good in therapy, or even when they think about feeling better. Anxiety may
arise from the looming possibility of breaking an invisible bond with a primary caregiver who
thought the child should suffer for his or her misdeeds or bad nature. This bond is a necessary
compromise made by an abused child to survive, so the client becomes frightened, viscerally
and unconsciously, when spontaneous moments of happiness arise. Other clients dont want
to risk relaxing their guard long enough to experience ease and well-being, or they just think,
Why bother? because they have so few memories of feeling good. For these reasons, sincere
efforts by therapists to help abused or neglected clients may be in vain. These clients first need
to contact the pain of self-denial and self-hatred, see how it originated through no fault of their
own (youre not to blame!), and then gradually bring the same tenderness to themselves that
they should have received as children, and are themselves likely to offer a struggling child or pet.
Self-compassion says, Be kind to yourself in the midst of suffering and it will change.
Mindfulness says, Open to suffering with spacious awareness and it will change. Together,
mindfulness and self-compassion can help clients disengage from emotional pain and soothe
and comfort themselves in response to it. As you will see in Brians case, mindful self-compassion
training has the potential to transform our core sense of self and relationship to the world.
Course of Treatment
Brian was interviewed by the first author one year after Brian completed the MSC program. He
had continued to practice a variety of mindfulness and self-compassion exercises on a daily basis
which he had learned in the program. Brian described in the interview how the principles and
practices of each of the sessions in the 8-week program resonated with him (or not!) at the time,
as well as changes that occurred over the following year. Brians experience is not necessarily
representative of how another person might engage in the same course because each participant
of the MSC program is encouraged to make the program your own and be your own best
teacher. What is particularly unusual about Brians experience is that he attended every session,
but he rarely practiced formal sitting meditation at home during the program itself. In his own
words, Seeds were being planted, and when I was deprived of the class I had to resort to my
own initiative and I have conscientiously practiced ever since. The seeds mainly took root and
sprouted after the course was over.
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herself. Participants are also taught to soothe themselves by finding a comfortable place on the
body where they can feel the warmth and gentle pressure of their hands.
Self-compassion can only be learned in an atmosphere of safety, so participants are encouraged to ask themselves What do I need? throughout the program. Simply asking the question
is itself an exercise in self-compassionthe cultivation of good will toward oneself.
Brian was skeptical about the MSC program from the outset and, after the first meeting, he
wasnt sure he would return. Brian said his social anxiety made it hard for him to even show up.
Furthermore, he had no interest in practicing meditation. He joined the group after reading The
Mindful Path to Self-Compassion (Germer, 2009). His dyslexia made it difficult to learn from a
book, so he hoped he could develop self-compassion by actually practicing it in the workshop.
Brian was also intrigued by the possibility of giving himself the love he never received as a child.
Brian had an epiphany in the first session: Everybody suffers! Throughout his life, Brian
had felt uniquely isolated and unloved. He was bitter about this and his anger often turned on
himself when things went wrong. For example, if I dropped food, Id get pissed off. I felt I
needed to be perfect and in control all the time. Recognizing that everybody suffers, each in
his or her own way, was a relief for Brian because it made him feel less alone. Suffering became
the connective tissue that united him to others. After the first session, Brian noticed himself
gazing at people on the street, wondering how they too suffer, and his heart often softened with
compassion. Compassion took on a whole new level of knowledge, Brian said. Nonetheless,
he did not do any homework exercises after the first session. I could see something there, but
my emotions continued to override my ability to think or act on what I learned.
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the program, except using the stone. But now I rely on the stone almost never, but do rely on the
phrases and the breath.
Brian said that, at the outset, it was extremely difficult to direct loving-kindness toward
himself. When he said, May I be safe, he was reminded how unsafe he felt in his life. This
is called backdraft in the MSC program. Brian could evoke warm feelings, however, when
he thought about his dog or about his psychotherapist (May you be safe), and he gradually
tucked himself into that circle of kindness: May we be safe. Eventually Brian could say, May
I be safe. I let those anxious thoughts and feelings flow through and out. The more I did that,
the more I could feel safe and good about my health, my finances, and my future. Backdraft is
actually welcomed as an essential part of emotional transformation in the MSC program. When
we bring the light of loving-kindness and compassion to our experience, we discover our hidden
wounds and fears. Then we bring kindness to ourselves and the wounds begin to lose their sharp
edge. The process may be understood as compassionate exposure therapy.
Session 4: Finding your compassionate voice. The main lesson of the fourth session is
how to expand beyond the loving-kindness phrases into a natural conversation with a compassionate part of ourselves, and to distinguish the compassionate self from the inner critic.
The compassionate self is motivated by the intention, I love you and dont want you to suffer.
Eventually new, compassionate language flows from that core intention. Practitioners discover
supportive language bubbling into their awareness, such as You can do it, Have courage,
May I forgive myself, or simply I love you.
Brian said that this session was a blank to him because he wasnt ready or able to give himself
this kind of affection. However, in the following week, Brian had an experience that he claims
changed his life for the better:
I was raking leaves outside my houseit was late in the seasontrying to get them
removed before the snow came so the leaves wouldnt kill the grass. I was exhausted
after a long day, rushing to finish, and on the verge of feeling angry when the words
popped into my mind, God bless you, Brian! The anger just vanished and a
modest smile of relief came over my face. This was all the more remarkable since
no one in my family ever spoke that way to me, or used the word God. It may
sound saccharine to others, but it immediately released the pressure, the anger, and
the self-hatred I was feeling. I use it as a tool now. I know what I need to do when
Im angry and anxious. I say, Okay, take a moment and be nice to yourself. Youre
doing a good enough job. Dont worry. Sometimes I imagine a warm hand on my
shoulder. I now know theres respite when things are tough.
The insights that Brian discovered are well known to seasoned mindfulness meditators, but
Brian had them even though he wasnt practicing formal sitting meditation. He learned that
our overall state of mind depends more on our relationship to experience than the conditions of
our lives, and that emotional freedom is readily available when we warm up the experience of
ourselves and our lives.
Retreat. A 4-hour retreat occurs midway through the MSC program. The retreat takes
place mostly in silence and is an opportunity to slow down, observe what is occurring inside,
and respond with self-compassion when difficulties arise. New practices are taught, such as
enjoying the environment (Sense and Savor Walk), savoring food (Mindful Eating), and body
awareness (Compassionate Body Scan).
When Brian was interviewed a year after the MSC program, he remembered the Pleasure
Walk most vividly. The instructions for that exercise are to walk outdoors and notice as many
pleasurable things as possible, slowly, one after another, using all of ones senses. When something
is delightful, give yourself over to it. Like a honeybee moving from one flower to another, when
you have exhausted one flower, go on to the next. Brian remarked that he spent a lot of time in
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nature as a child, savoring it, but during the retreat I realized that I only saw life as punishing.
I had been living in fear and had completely stopped doing that sort of thing.
Brian also noticed during the retreat that his eating style was hurried and binge-like, and in
the Compassionate Body Scan, he discovered that most of the time he was ruminating about
aches and pains in his body (How long can I continue to earn a living?) rather than simply
feeling them. I could see myself worrying, but I felt guilty about that because everyone has
aches and pains, even worse than mine.
Overall, Brians experience of slowing down in the retreat was a glimpse into how his mind
rushes along like a freight train, and he criticized himself for that. In our interview, Brian
and I (C.G.) discussed how the purpose of a retreat is to discover how the mind ordinarily
functions, that waking up is worthy of congratulations, and mindful awareness of rumination,
self-judgment, and unnecessary haste (while eating) provide an excellent opportunity to practice
self-compassion.
Session 5: Living deeply. This session is an exploration of core values that bring meaning
to our lives. We can only be kind and responsive to ourselves in a deep way if we know what we
really care about. This session also investigates how self-compassion may help us recover when
we discover were not living in accord with our core values.
Brian reported that this session made him sad. He said that making beautiful things is a core
value for him. Although Brian is a talented artist, he rarely has time to make art because of his
struggle to survive financially.
Another core value for Brian is to be a good person, which he operationalized as making
beautiful things that make others happy. At the time of our interview, Brian said hes less
perfectionistic now, and he can appreciate his landscaping work a little more knowing that
people are happy with it. He still regrets not being able to pursue art for a living. Brian admitted
he still has a long way to go before he can disentangle his personal value from his work, but he
feels self-compassion is helping: I dont beat myself up so much when things dont turn out
just like I wanted. I dont fret so much. I can open up and take in compliments when I have the
self-worth that comes from self-compassion.
Session 6: Managing difficult emotions. Emotions have physical and emotional
componentsthoughts and bodily reactions. When were angry, for example, we spend a lot
of time in our minds justifying our position and planning what we might say. We also feel
physical tension in the abdomen as the body prepares for a fight. Its more difficult to manage
a difficult emotion by chasing around our thoughts than by exploring the slower, physical component. When we locate and anchor our emotions in the bodyfind where they are located in
the bodydifficult emotions starts to change. Participants of the MSC program are first taught
how to label a difficult emotion (naming the feeling with a gentle, understanding voice), and
then to find where the emotion expresses itself as body sensation.
The main practice taught in this sessionsoften-allow-soothebuilds on the skills of
labeling and body awareness. Softening is physical compassion, allowing is mental compassion,
and soothing is emotional compassion. Once we locate a difficult emotion in the body, we can
soften the area, allow the discomfort to be there, and then soothe ourselves with loving-kindness.
This practice can also be applied to the emotion of shame. First, we identify the negative
core beliefs associated with shame, such as Im a failure, Im defective, and Im stupid,
and then we locate shame in the body and practice soften-allow-soothe. The shame exercise
is perhaps one of the most powerful experiences of the MSC program, since self-compassion
directly targets shame. Remarkably, most participants discover that the experience of shame ties
us together as human beings rather than keeping us permanently apart. (After all, were pack
animals and we crave and need the approval of others to survive.)
Brian couldnt work with these techniques during the MSC program, but he reported that
over the subsequent year he was able to identify his core emotional theme when it arose,
disappointment, and soothe himself when he felt disappointed by people. The seed of softenallow-soothe seems to have been planted: Even if there is a remedy for disappointment, I have
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to allow its presenceallow it to be there since its out of my control anywaybefore I can do
anything about it.
Brian went on to explain that when he wakes up in the morning, often filled with dread
about problems the day will bring, he folds his arms and legs, feels the warmth of his arms and
legs, allows his muscles to soften, and then he focuses on his breathing and a warm pocket of
air in my nose, saying soothing phrases to himself with each in- and out-breath. This type of
customized self-compassion practice is what we encourage participants to do throughout the
program.
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medication and meditation have been working synergistically to improve Brians mental status.
For example, medication may reduce his arousal level sufficiently to enable Brian to practice
mindfulness and self-compassion exercises more consistently.
Symptomatically, Brians sleep has improved, he feels calmer, more optimistic, and he rarely
contemplates suicide. This is interesting because the conditions of his life have not changed
markedly over the past year. The behavioral shift that Brian finds most surprising is that he
actually looks forward to meeting his clients at the end of the day to review his work. He
attributes this change to feeling better about himselfmore like everybody else.
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