A photocopiable homework resource

designed to promote conversations between

parents/carers and their children.

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Acknowledgements

This resource was funded by

Norfolk Drug and Alcohol Action Team (DAAT)

This logo represents all the partner agencies of the DAAT:

Norfolk Childrens Services, Police, Health, Prison Service, Probation Service, Youth
Offending Team, Connexions, Local Authorities, and Norfolk Drug and Alcohol
Service Providers.

Written by Anna Sims and Molly Potter on behalf of Norfolk Healthy Schools.

Artwork by the Graphics Team, Eastern Support Services.

Thank you to parents and children at the following schools who tried out these activi-
ties and gave us really helpful feedback:

Catton Grove Middle School

George White Middle School
Freethorpe Primary School

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Contents
Page

Teachers Introduction ......................................................................... 1

Parent/carer letter ............................................................................... 2

Activities Years 1 and 2

Im special because............................................................................. 4
My Special People ............................................................................... 5
How do you feel? ................................................................................ 6
Dealing with Feelings .......................................................................... 7
Worry Puzzle ....................................................................................... 8
Keep Yourself Safe ............................................................................. 9
Choose to be Kind............................................................................. 10
Dressing Up ...................................................................................... 11
Are we going to the park today? ....................................................... 12
Healthy Living .................................................................................... 13

Activities Years 3 and 4

What are my strengths? .................................................................... 15
The Golden Rules of Friendship ....................................................... 16
The Riskometer ................................................................................. 17
Stick up for Yourself .......................................................................... 18
What do you do about worries? ........................................................ 19
Its your choice .................................................................................. 20
Keeping Secrets ................................................................................ 21
Fitting In ............................................................................................ 22
Lets giggle about sex ....................................................................... 23
Help S.O.S. ....................................................................................... 24

Activities Years 5 and 6

Prince Anir ......................................................................................... 26
What is self esteem? ........................................................................ 27
Communicate Well ............................................................................ 28
Being Assertive ................................................................................. 29
Insults ................................................................................................ 30
Growing Up ....................................................................................... 31
Help we need your advice ................................................................. 32
Problem Poser .................................................................................. 33
Puzzled about Puberty? .................................................................... 34
Drinking Alcohol ................................................................................ 35

Activities Year 7
Proud Parents at 14 .......................................................................... 37
True confessions ............................................................................... 38
How far would you go to fit in? .......................................................... 39
Puberty problems, problems ............................................................. 40
Grace and Carlos .............................................................................. 41
Could I be persuaded? ...................................................................... 42
You cant assume anything ............................................................... 43
Just Another Bank Holiday Monday? ................................................ 44
Teenagers ......................................................................................... 45
Class 7J .................................................................................. 46
Natalies diary .......................................................................... 47
The Party ................................................................................. 48

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Teachers Introduction
Why there is a need for this book
Some parents/carers find talking to their children about topics such as keeping safe,
friendship issues and sex, very easy. Others find it extremely awkward. Most parents/
carers, however, fall somewhere between the two. This book aims to make such
discussions easy to broach and could potentially provide openings for lengthy
discussions between parents/carers and their children.

Purpose of the book

The purpose of the activities in this book is to prompt discussions between parents/
carers and their children. The topics of conversation are the kind that you would find in
the P.S.H.E part of the schools curriculum and they would therefore compliment this
programme. The purpose is achieved by setting an activity as homework and this
hopefully encourages parents/carers to make the time to sit down and discuss the
issues covered in this book issues that many children would rather talk about with
their parents than anyone else.

Format of the Book

The book is split into four sections with activities for:
Key Stage 1 (Years 1 and 2)
Lower Key Stage 2 (Years 3 and 4)
Upper Key Stage 2 (Years 5 and 6)
Year 7
Format of activities
All the activities are set out on one photocopiable A4 sheet. Some activities invite
children to write or draw directly onto the sheet but the onus of each activity is not
about what is actually produced on paper, but on the (valuable) discussion that
surrounds the activity. At the bottom of each sheet is a place where children can ask
the adult, that discussed the issue with them, to sign it. There is also the Two Way Talk
Logo which hopefully parents will grow to associate with the discussion Two Way
Talk activities and know automatically what the point of the homework is.

When and how to set activities

A covering letter, explaining the point of these activities is provided in this book. This
would ideally be sent to parents before any of the homework is set. In this letter it
makes it clear to parents/carers that the school is not, in any way, prying into their home
lives. The letter also introduces parents/carers to the Two Way Talk logo.

Individual teachers or schools can decide when they want to set the homework, which
might be done as one a week for a few weeks, one every now and then or a couple
each term.

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Dear Parent/Carer,

This is to explain the purpose of the Two Way Talk homework activities that your
child will be bringing home over the next few weeks.

The homework is for you and your child to do together. The homework activities aim to
start a conversation between you and your child. It does not intend to be intrusive or
investigate any aspects of your childs life! The box below appears on each sheet and is
for the teacher to know that your child has talked to you but not to have all the details of
your discussion.

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None of the homework requires correct answers, as indeed, there are no correct
answers! The activities are all about sharing and discussing ideas and opinions none
of which can be incorrect!

The topics covered fall generally into the Personal, Social and Health Education part of
the school curriculum, but you may find that it covers topics that you would discuss with
your child anyway. Hopefully Two Way Talk homework will therefore act as an easy
prompt for such discussions.

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 Years 1 and 2

Title Page Aim: to talk about.. Activity:Talk and...

Im special because 4 yourself in a positive way draw or write

My Special People 5 people we trust draw or write

How do you feel? 6 naming and acknowledging feelings draw or write

Dealing with Feelings 7 how we express our feelings and our responses draw or write

3
Worry Puzzle 8 people we trust colour

Keep Yourself Safe 9 influences to do something dangerous draw or write

Choose to be Kind 10 influences to do something hurtful draw or write

Dressing Up 11 recognising dangers and what to do

in those situations read

Are we going to the 12 recognising dangers and what to do

park today? in those situations read

Healthy Living 13 recognising the elements of a healthy lifestyle draw or write

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 I am special because...

This is me!

Parent prompt:
This activity aims to make your child feel
good about him/herself.
Possible questions to help your child with ideas.
What are you good at? (at school and home)
What are things are you good at outside
school?
What do you enjoy doing?
When people say nice things about you, what
do they say?
What do you do to be helpful to other people?

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 My Special People
Draw and label your special people.

This is me!

Parent prompt:
This activity aims to help children to think about the people
that they trust and who can support them if they have
problems. You could consider: family, neighbours, friends
and people at school or clubs that your children attends.

The inner circle could be for those

people your child feels closer to. I talked about this with

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 How do you feel?
1. Draw the mouth
2. Finish the sentence

I have no one to play with at We are going on our school

playtime. trip today.

I feel I feel

A girl in Year 5 keeps calling me My teacher said I worked really

names. hard today.

I feel I feel

Parent prompt:
When do you feel like this?
This activity aims to help children
talk about their feelings.
Use the faces and comments to start a
conversation with your child.

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Dealing with Feelings
1. Draw the mouth
2. Draw or write your
answers
Feeling What I do What I could do to
make myself feel better

I cry and I want

When I feel upset I cuddle my teddy
to be alone

When I feel angry

When I feel sad

When I feel
frightened

When I feel lonely

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 Worry Puzzle Who do you ask for help

Fill in the names of people who can

help you with these problems.
Then you can colour the puzzle. Parent prompt:

REDYour teacher Talk about each problem and decide

who would be the best person to
GREEN.......................... help in each situation.
BLUE..........................
YELLOW................................... I talked about this with

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 Keep Yourself Safe What do you say and do?
At home

Lets make Stop

a big bonfire.

Think

Is this safe?

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On the field

Stop
If you are
out of breath
you can use
Think
my inhaler.

Is this safe?

Parent prompt:
Use the cartoons to discuss with your child how both situations could be I talked about this with
dangerous and how they can keep themselves safe.

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 Choose to be Kind
What do you say and do?
On the playground

Kyle is horrible. Stop

Dont talk to him
or let him play
with us.
Think

Is this kind?

10
In the kitchen

Why dont you Stop

borrow 50p from
your mums
purse - she
Think
wont mind.

Is this kind?

Parent prompt: I talked about this with

This activity can help children to think how their behaviour affects other people.

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 Dressing Up
Lee and Myna loved dressing up. Mum gave them a big
bag of clothes. Lee put on blue shoes, a furry coat and a
gold crown.
Look at me, I am a king, he said. Myna had white
shoes with high heels.
Im nearly as tall as you, she said to her mum.
You look lovely, said Mum.
Go and look in the mirror.
Myna and Lee went upstairs to mums bedroom.
They looked in the mirror and they laughed.
We look silly, they said.

On the table next to the bed were lots of things. A brush,

a book and some shiny red pills in a bottle.
Oh great, I love sweets, said Lee.
Myna watched as Lee picked up the bottle.

What should Myna do?

Use the symbols to help you.

Stop Think Is this safe? Action

Parent prompt:

Discuss with your child the need to know

what they are putting in their mouth. Do
they know that it is safe to eat? Do they I talked about this with
know what to do if they are not sure?

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Are we going to the park today?
Jo was excited; she was going to the park with
her friends Jamal and Fatima. Fatima was
fifteen and had promised to be in charge. As
soon as they arrived, Fatima spotted her
friends who were hanging around the swings.
They are too big for the swings, thought Jo,
frowning.
Come and play football grumpy, shouted
Jamal as he dribbled the ball towards the goal.

Wait for me, said Jo running as fast as she could to catch

him up.
I want to be in goal, said Jamal
OK said Jo, Ill be David Beckham and score the goals.
No chance! said Jamal. Youll never get the ball past me,
Jo began to take the long run up when she noticed a
broken bottle lying in the grass near the penalty spot.
Come on, slow coach! What are you waiting for?

What should Jo do next?

Use the symbols to help you.

Stop Think Is this safe? Action

Parent prompt:

Discuss with your child how they can keep

themselves safe in different situations. I talked about this with

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 Healthy Living
Mina and Mickey want to keep their bodies healthy.
Which of the following things will keep them healthy?

Crisps
Sleep
Water
Cola

Exercise

Use the traffic light colours to colour

Beer the items.

Green Go ahead and have lots Playing

on the
computer
Go carefully. Not a good
Amber idea all the time
Chocolate

Stop danger! These are

Red not useful for a healthy
body. Cigarettes

Coffee
Fruit

Sweets

Vegetables Milk
Walking
to school
Playing
with friends

Parent prompt:
Discuss with your child their
reasons for colour coding the items.
Why do some people eat/do things
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coloured red if they dont keep your body
healthy?
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 Years 3 and 4

Title Page Aim: to talk about.. Activity:Talk and...

What are my strengths? 15 self awareness questionnaire

The Golden Rules of Friendship 16 self awareness and friendship write

The Riskometer 17 assessing risks and potential consequences colour and draw

Stick up for Yourself 18 strategies for dealing with difficult situations write

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What do you do about worries? 19 worries and what to do about them quiz

Its your choice 20 decisions and consequences draw and write

Keeping Secrets 21 consequences of lying and how to deal with write and draw
difficult situations

Fitting In 22 consequences of lying and how to deal with write and draw
difficult situations

Lets giggle about sex 23 males and females, babies, sexual intercourse quiz

Help S.O.S. 24 people we trust to help at difficult times circle responses

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 What are my strengths?
1) Cut the list in two.
2) The adult reads each statement and allows time for both child and adult to
give a mark out of ten.
3) Do not look at each others list while you are filling them in.
4) Compare your marks. Are they similar? Talk about any big differences.
Cut here
The marks that your mum/dad/carer Marks The mark you give yourself Marks
out out
gives you of 10 of 10
S/he is cooperative I am cooperative
S/he listens well I listen well
S/he is organised I am organised
S/he does not need reminding too I do not need reminding too
much as to what to do much as to what to do
S/he is trustworthy I am trustworthy
S/he is polite I am polite
S/he is never lazy I am never lazy
S/he is enthusiastic I am enthusiastic
S/he is thoughtful I am thoughtful
S/he is sensible I am sensible
S/he is friendly I am friendly
S/he always tries hard I always try hard
S/he is always determined to I am always determined to get
get things finished things finished
S/he can concentrate well I can concentrate well
S/he is helpful around the house I am helpful around the house
S/he is generous I am generous
S/he never moans I never moan
S/he enjoys trying out new things I enjoy trying out new things
S/he is not fussy I am not fussy
S/he is caring about others I care about others
S/he is reliable I am reliable
S/he is fun to be with I am fun to be with
S/he rarely loses his/her temper I rarely lose my temper
S/he is brave I am brave
It would be difficult for him/her to be It would be difficult for me to be
persuaded to do something persuaded to do something
dangerous by one of his/her friends dangerous by one of my friends
S/he is honest I am honest
S/he is cheerful I am cheerful
S/he has a great imagination I have a great imagination
S/he is tidy I am tidy
S/he is good at giving compliments I am good at giving compliments
S/he is good at sticking up for his/herself I am good at sticking up for myself

Cut the list in two along dotted line

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 The Golden Rules of Friendship!
Look at these friends. For each situation discuss:
1) What are they doing wrong?
2) How are the friends feeling?

set
Im really up ad
dd
My mum an are She really
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look lik up. gets on my
going to s plit
nerves. She
thinks shes
Yeh Yeh... brilliant at
everything.
whatever. I know.

Ha ha -
yo
look ridic u
u
when yo lous
u run!

tupid.
Youre s Yeh you are.

Can you help me

with this?
ays do
We alw ou
ty
just wha
want.
Sorry - havent
got time. I know!

want to ?
Do you rk
Come on p the pa
chicken - lets come u
climb on that
that
ed Jane
roof - no one I promis wn with her -
to
will find out.
Ive told y
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ca n t
ant to but I me with
you
- I dont w OK Ill co

On the back of this sheet, write a set

of rules that would stop all of these
situations from happening. They I talked about this with
would be the Golden Rules of
Friendship!
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 The Riskometer
VWhat is the risk? Colour the riskometer Draw what could happen
A busy road
DANGER
High
Risk
Medium
Risk
Not Much
Risk

Playing football SAFE

Lending your favourite

book to a younger child. DANGER
High
Risk
Medium
Risk
Not Much
Risk
SAFE

Walking home from school

alone, along DANGER
the main High
road, which Risk
you know Medium
well. Risk
Not Much
Risk
SAFE

Your parents have left

bottles of alcohol on the DANGER
table. High
Risk
Medium
Risk
Not Much
Risk
You wonder what
beer tastes like. SAFE

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 Stick up for Yourself!

Ive lost Go on, I

Have you got mine. Can I really need
your maths have yours? it!
homework?

If you dont Im warning You had

give it to me you. Ill get better watch
Ill get you! my mates out!
onto you.

What would you say to this person? Use the ideas below to help you

Stand up tall, face the Say what you want in a

person and give them firm friendly voice
eye contact Think about what
you really want.

Pretend to be confident
Be calm and stick to
(even if you arent)
your plan

If you are worried or unsure ask

for help

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 What do you do about worries?
1. A group of children in your class
always push in front of you in the
dinner queue and then call you
names. Do you:
a. Tell an adult you trust
b. Do nothing
c. Push back and shout at them.
2.You have left your homework on the
table at home. If you dont hand it in
today you will get detention. What
do you do?
a. Take someone elses homework and
change the name before you hand it in.
b. Tell your teacher that you have
forgotten it and apologise.
c. Worry all the way to school.
5. You have no one to play with on the
school playground. You feel really lonely.
What do you do?
a. Spoil other peoples games. If you are
unhappy, why should they have fun?
b. Ask another pupil in your class if they want
to play with you.
c. Watch other peoples games
6. You have to read your story out in
assembly next week. You are scared of
making a mistake and everyone laughing
at you. What do you do?
a. Ask an adult at home to help you practise
before the big day.
b. Spend every evening worrying about it.
c. Pretend you are ill and stay at home.

3. You only have a pair of very old
trainers for games. Everyone laughs
and calls you names when you wear
them. Do you?
a. Tell an adult at home how you feel.
b. Take someone elses trainers and
pretend they are yours.
c. Pretend it doesnt matter.
7. Someone at school has borrowed your
computer game and now refuses to give
it back. Do you?
a. Take something from the other persons desk
and hold it as ransom until your game is
returned.
b. Start saving for a new copy of the game.
c. Ask an adult at school you trust for help.

4. When you go to school in the morning
an older boy hangs around the gate
and demands that your give him your
crisps and chocolate bar from your
lunch box. What do you do?
a. Worry all the way to school and run
quickly when you see the boy.
b. Kick the boy and run away.
c. Ask your teacher for help.
8. You are finding maths really difficult and
dont understand. You are scared of
asking your teacher, as she always
seems so busy. Do you?
a. Do nothing and just worry.
b. Ask an adult at home to help you with your
maths.
c. Copy the answers of the person next to you.

How did you score?

17 - 24
Fantastic! By telling someone you have taken the first
Question 1 a) 3 b) 2 c) 1
step in solving your problem.
Question 2 a) 1 b) 3 c) 2
9 16
Question 3 a) 3 b) 1 c) 2
Well done! You are beginning to ask for help. By doing
Question 4 a) 2 b) 1 c) 3
nothing and worrying your problem doesnt go away it
Question 5 a) 1 b) 3 c) 2
can get worse.
Question 6 a) 3 b) 2 c) 1
0-8
Question 7 a) 1 b) 2 c) 3
Think carefully. Are you really solving your problem or
Question 8 a) 2 b) 3 c) 1
just creating a new one?

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 Its your choice....
The problem
You see a boy in your class being teased
by a group of older boys on the way home
from school. They take his bag and throw
the contents on the floor.

Choice A Choice B

Pretend you havent seen anything Try and stop the bullies by shouting
and walk past quickly. for help

The boy gets help to stop

The boy carries on being bullied.
the bullying
Consequences
If you were being bullied,
how would you feel if no-one Can you help without
helped? Next time it might putting yourself in danger?
be you that needs help. If not run and get help.

Now you have a go.

The problem
You are playing football on the field near the railway
track. You kick it too hard and it goes over the fence
onto the track. Everyone agrees that as you kicked it
over you should climb over the fence and get the ball.

Choice A Choice B

Consequences

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 Keeping Secrets
Instructions:
Players: 1 child and 1 adult
Each player writes answers to the same problem without comparing.
When both players have finished they should compare their answers and talk
Cut here
Child Adult - your childs problem
Your brother has Your brother has
started smoking and started smoking and
doesnt want your doesnt want your
parents to know. He parents to know. He
suggests that you keep suggests that you keep
his cigarettes hidden in his cigarettes hidden in
your bedroom, as they your bedroom, as they
wont suspect you. wont suspect you.

What do you say? What should your child say?

What do you do? What should your child do?

What happens next? What happens next?

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 Fitting In
Instructions:
Players: 1 child and 1 adult
Each player writes answers to the same problem without comparing.
When both players have finished they should compare their answers and talk
Cut here
Child Adult - your childs problem
Some friends at school Some friends at school
invite you to join their invite you to join their
gang. However before gang. However before
you join you have to you join you have to
pass a test. The test is pass a test. The test is
to steal something to steal something
worth more than 5 worth more than 5
from your local shop from your local shop
What do you say? What should your child say?

What do you do? What should your child do?

What happens next? What happens next?

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 Lets giggle about SEX!
1) Mens and Womens bodies are different:
a) because men have green feet and women have green elbows
b) because women have a vagina, clitoris and breasts and men have a penis
and testicles
c) because men are made in a factory and women grow in a vegetable patch
d) because men eat much more than women.

2) A baby grows:
a) in a large cardboard box
b) under an oak tree
c) in his or her mothers womb
d) to the size of a tractor.

3) A baby starts to grow in a mothers womb (also called a uterus) when which
two things come together:
a) an egg and a whale?
b) a tadpole and a sperm?
c) an egg and a sperm?
d) an egg and a chicken?

3) The sperm from the father and the egg from the mother get together after
a) the mother and father have rubbed belly buttons
b) the mother and father shake hands and politely ask how each other is
c) the mother and father put a sperm and an egg on a plate
d) the father puts his penis inside the mothers vagina and releases sperm into
the mothers vagina (called sexual intercourse).

4) Men and women have sexual intercourse:

a) just to make a baby
b) once every ten years
c) because its a kind of sharing and it feels nice
d) only if they are married.

5) For about how long does a baby grow inside its mothers womb?
a) 1 week
b) 3 months
c) 9 months
d) 3 years

6) When the baby has grown enough to be born it:

a) is usually born out of his or her mums vagina
b) it steps outside from a door in his or her mothers back
c) it rings a doorbell
d) it jumps out of his or her mums vagina in about a minute.

Parent prompt:

The correct words have been used for

all body parts in this activity. However,
please feel free to explain the words I talked about this with
by using terms that are used at home.

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 Help! SOS
We all need help sometimes. Who can help you in the following situations?

Circle the person who can help you. You can circle more than one person each
time if you want.

Adult at Adult at Friend Other

home school
H S F O H S F O

You have lost your favourite pen. You notice that

someone else is using one that looks exactly like H S F O
yours. Who can help you sort this problem out?

All the children in your street are playing on their

bikes and have invited you to play the game S F O
H
chicken. You arent sure what this game is but
dont want to appear stupid in front of your friends.

After school it is raining and your mum is late (as

H S F O
usual), a person you recognise but dont really know
stops his car and suggests that he can give you a lift
home. What do you do?

At break time someone in your class suggests that

H S F O
you play ball in the corridor. You know that this is
against school rules but you want to be this persons
friend. What can you do?

Someone in your class is telling stories about you

H S F O
that are not true. You dont know who started the
stories but you dont like them. Who can help you?

When you are playing in the park, some older H S F O

children call you names and take your football and
wont give it back.

Which people have the most circles?

Who can you depend on when you have problems?

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 Years 5 and 6

Title Page Aim: to talk about.. Activity:Talk and...

Prince Anir 26 self knowledge and values choose

What is self esteem? 27 self esteem and self knowledge write

Communicate Well 28 effective communication draw and write

Being Assertive 29 different responses to situations draw and write

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Insults 30 strategies for dealing with difficult situations draw and write

Growing Up 31 being a teenager from adults view questionnaire

Help we need your advice 32 problems and how to deal with them agony aunt questions

Problem Poser 33 strategies for dealing with difficult situations game

Puzzled about Puberty! 34 changes that happen during puberty questionnaire

Drinking Alcohol 35 the effect of alcohol on different people give opinions

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 Prince Anir
Once upon a time there lived a prince who had everything
anyone could possibly want; that is anything that could be
bought with money. He lived in a big castle, drove a fast
car, had a ton of toys, televisions and computers and he
slept in a beautifully designed bedroom with matching
duvet cover, carpet and curtains. He also had servants
that did all the boring, messy and nasty jobs for him.
However, despite all these things, Anir was not a happy person. He was also not a very kind
person. He often threw his things across the room in a fit of rage, shouted at the servants
and insisted that he only do exactly what he wanted to do at all times. He also claimed that
he was always bored. Nothing and nobody interested him.
One day, Anir was lying on his bed pulling the legs off ladybirds, when a strange noise
startled him. It appeared to be coming from outside, so he rushed across to the window. Just
as he reached the edge of his designer curtains, a bright flash of white and silver light filled
the room. As Anir stood with his mouth wide open, seven elves appeared in front of him
one for each colour of the rainbow.
Hello Anir, Do-Good-and-Right-Rainbow-Elves at your service. Weve come to sort you out
young man, said the orange elf with a look of determination on its face. Anir stood with his
mouth still wide open.
We can each give you a gift just one each, but you have to decide what you want. We
would suggest that you put some thought into it as some of these gifts will last you for life,
explained the green elf with a kindly smile on its face.
Anir looked puzzled, but for the first time in his life, he did as he was told. He sat down to
decide on the seven gifts that he wanted. Can you help him to make a good decision?

Which seven things do you think Anir should choose from the following things?:

To be the best looking person in the To be patient

world To be able to make yourself invisible
An adventurous life Good health
To become famous To have people who love you
To be really clever To treat people with respect
A magic carpet To have a good imagination
To be helpful To never be lazy
To be generous To have a good sense of humour and
To be brave laugh at things
To be easily pleased To be friendly
To have lots of friends To be honest
To have a friend that fits in your To be tidy
pocket To always see the good in things
To be determined to get things done To be sensible
To be the richest person in the world To be a bit different from other people
To be able to forgive people easily To be gentle
To be a good listener To be easy going
To be interested in things
To be confident
To go on a great holiday I talked about this with
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To be really fit and sporty
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 What is self esteem and how is yours?

Youre pathetic Youre pathetic

You might think so but

I certainly dont think
Am I? so. Are you having a
bad day?

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re didnt
to be able to look quite rig
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draw. This looks did it again a
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nothing like it. I like this one.
I love art
give up - I hate - even if it co
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esteem?
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with

Write and decorate your name in this oval. Then write as many things as you can
think of that you like about yourself around the edge. Get other people to add to it.

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 Communicate Well!
For each comment, try and think of Look at how these people responded.
several replies. Discuss which Draw and write a better response.
responses would be useful in each
situation.

Thats rubbish
Ha Ha!

Thats rubbish
Ha Ha!

Shut up and
leave me alone.
I hate you.

What are you

What are you doing?
doing?

Stop being so
nosy. Its none
of your business.

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chicken Come on ch
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can clim e can climb on
b on angerous.
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Oh alright.

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 Being Parent prompt:

Assertive
Passive: means you give in.
Aggressive: means you respond by being
nasty.
Assertive: means you stick up for yourself
without upsetting the other person.

Look at the three

different ways Rajeev Give
me
responds to Anna.
your
crisps.

No - theyre
No - my crisps and
OK go Im hungry.
here away I might let
you I hate you have one
are. you. if you ask
nicely.

Passive Aggressive Assertive

Now look at what is

Oi
happening here. Draw or Rajeev
write about the passive, go and
aggressive and assertive hit
response to this George
scenario. for me.

Passive Aggressive Assertive

What is bad about the passive and aggressive response and what is good
about the assertive response?
Can you think of other situations where I talked about this with
you have been passive, assertive or
aggressive and what happened?
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 Im not surprised that
no one likes you.
Insults Youre stupid

No one would want you

You smell. as their girl/boyfriend Yuk have you ever
looked in a mirror?

Youve got awful

taste when it Four eyes
comes to clothes
Thats awful - you
really cant paint

Play around with the

Talk about tone of voice that
these What could you say
comments are made in reply to these
with. Does the insults that would
How does it feel to
meaning change at stop the person in
be insulted?
all when you say the their tracks without
insults with different just being really
tones? nasty.
How does it feel to
be praised?

Why do you think

people insult other How have you dealt with insults up
people? until now?

Draw how you would deal with this insult

Youre useless
at everything

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 Growing Up Ask a parent/carer the following
questions. There is no need to write
any of their answers down.

1) Did you find the teenage years easy or difficult?

2) In what ways were the teenage years different from childhood?
3) Did you ever do any of the following?

Smoke or drink Do things that your parents told you not to

Break a school rule or two Feel that people didnt understand you
Shout at your parents Take risks of any kind

4) If you did any of them, why do you think you did them?
5) Why do you think the teenage years can be hard for some people?
6) When you were a teenager, which people seemed most important to you?
7) Did you know what was going to happen during puberty before the changes
started to happen?
8) Did your parents/carers sit down and talk to you about puberty, drinking alcohol
or smoking?
9) If they did, what did they tell you and how did they do it? If they didnt, how did
that make you feel?
10) Was there anything that you wish your parents/carers had sat down and talked
with you about? If so, what?
11) Did you learn anything about sex and relationships from the following things?

School T.V. Brothers and sisters Graffiti

Pop songs Parents/carers Magazines Friend Other

12) Was what you learnt from these sources helpful and accurate?
13) Did you ever have a crush on anyone when you were a teenager?
14) If so, what did it feel like?
15) Looking back, what information or advice do you think would have helped you
through the teenage years?

Now you answer the following questions:

1) Did this interview teach you anything 4) Has this interview made you feel
about your mum, dad or carer? differently about the idea of being a
YES / NO teenager, in any way, if so what?

2) How did it feel to be sitting and

chatting about these things with your
mum, dad or carer?

5) Do you think talking things through

makes you feel better? YES / NO

3) Do you feel like you will be able to talk

to your mum, dad or carer more
openly about anything because you I talked about this with
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 Help we need advice
I have just moved to a new town and
started a new school. I really miss my
old friends and Im finding it hard to feel
happy at my new school. What can I
do?
Georgia aged 11
My best friend Gary doesnt seem to
want to have anything to do with me
since hes started playing hockey with
the hockey club. We used to spend
every Saturday together, but now Im
lucky if we have a quick chat at
playtime. What can I do?
Adi aged 11
Im feeling really embarrassed because
my skin has become really oily and
spotty. My mum says its just because
Im startling puberty, but I feel so self
conscious, especially as no one else in
my class seems to have started
puberty.
What can I do?
Leila aged 10
1) If you were to meet these people, what would you say to them?
2) Does the advice that you have given each of these children makes suggestions
about what the children could do to help sort out their problem or have you just tried to
make them feel better about their situation?
3) If someone comes to you with a problem, tick the box next to the following rules that
you think would be good ones to follow?
listen attentively
tell them all about your problems
give the person compliments
offer to come with them and tell
someone if that seems like a good
thing to do
try to cheer them up with jokes
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What advice would you
give these children?
I hate school because of two girls that
are always picking on me. I try to avoid
them when Im on the playground, but
somehow they always find me. They
call me names and tease me about
my hair and now, they have started to
take my crisps off me at break time.
Im too scared to tell them not to
because they often push and shove
me and Im scared of getting hurt and
scared to tell anyone about this
because I know theyll be even nastier
to me if I do. What can I do?
Sam aged 10
I feel really miserable because my big
brother is so perfect. Every time he ever
does anything, he does it really well. His
school report is always brilliant and all
the teachers think hes great. My mum
is always telling him how brilliant he is
which makes me feel just awful. Ill
never be as good as my brother at
anything. What can I do?
Dan aged 12
tell them that things will get better
if they talk to people about their
problem
tell them that other people have
experienced similar situations
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1. Cut out around dotted lines each side of the flap so the
2. Turn sheet over to the blank side Problem Poser is ready to play.
3. Fold all 4 corners into the middle 8. Pick a place. Move fingers the
4. Turn over number of times indicated.
9. Find out who you are with and again
5. Fold all 4
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the middle
move the fingers the number of times
indicated.
10.Pick a situation by lifting a flap.
11.Talk about the problem

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 Puzzled about Puberty!
1) Puberty starts when: a) we are a
toddler b) anywhere between the ages
of 8 and 14 c) when we eat too many
sweets d) we decide
2) During puberty our
bodies: a) shrink
b) change so that we
eventually become
adults that would be
able to reproduce
(make babies)
c) have to smell horrible d) need to
eat chips with ketchup on
3) Changes that happen to both girls
and boys during puberty are: a) we
turn green b) we get grumpy and have
to shout at everyone all the time c) we
have to fidget all the time d) hair
grows between our legs and under our
arms, our skin gets more oily and we
can get spots, we have a growth spurt
and we sweat more
4) An erection is: a) a type of
dinosaur b) a cake made with
pink marzipan c) when a
mans or boys penis
becomes stiff
sometimes because he
feels a bit excited and
sometimes for no
reason at all d) when
we put our hand up at the
wrong time
5) A wet dream is: a) sleeping in a
swimming pool b) when we dream that
we are too scared to do something
c) when a boy or man ejaculates
(releases sperm) in his sleep and it can
even make a bit of a mess on his
sheets d) a day at the beach
6) A period is: a) where a girl or woman
loses a little blood from her vagina
about once a month. It lasts a few days
b) a restless sleep where you toss and
turn c) a type of insect d) a farmyard
tool
7) A girl starts wearing a
bra: a) when her hair
grows really long
b) if she feels shy
c) to support her
breasts when they have
developed d) from her
twelfth birthday onwards
8) Some people find puberty really
difficult because: a) its a hard
exam to pass b) it comes after
double maths c) only a few people
have to go through it
d) the changes are a lot to cope with
and hormones (chemical
messengers in our blood) can make
us really moody
9) People can feel a bit self
conscious during puberty
because: a) everyone always
points at people going through
puberty
b) the changes that their
bodies go through are new
to them and they can
sometimes wonder if they
are normal even though
they always are! c) the green and
pink stripes that develop over the
skin on the face make you stand out
d) you always walk in a funny way
when you are going through puberty
10) Some teenagers argue with their
parents more when they are a
teenager than when they were a
young child because: a) their
parents no longer make any sense
b) their parents were never
teenagers and they dont know what
it was like c) their parents suddenly
change and become far more strict
d) they feel their parents dont
understand them or what is
important to them and they feel their
parents think they are still a kid and
yet they know that they are not one
any more
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 Drinking Alcohol

Lots of people drink alcohol for a variety of reasons

How does alcohol affect the body and behaviour of people?
Who is having fun drinking alcohol?
Who isnt enjoying drinking? Why?
Why are there laws about drinking alcohol?
Who is drinking alcohol in a safe environment?
What problems can occur if people dont think about the effects of
drinking alcohol?

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 Year 7
Title Page Aim: to talk about.. Activity:Talk and...

Proud Parents at 14 37 responsibilties read newspaper article

True Confessions 38 alcohol, decisions and consequences read newspaper article

How far would you go to fit in? 39 peer influences and wanting to fit in quiz

Puberty, problems, problems 40 problems and how to deal with the read problem page

Grace and Carlos 41 stereotypes and media messages draw and write

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Could I be Persuaded? 42 peer influence and different responses draw and write

You cant assume anything 43 stereotypes write

Just Another Bank Holiday 44 consequences of drinking alcohol read different views
Monday?
Teenagers 45 different views of teenagers write

Class 7J 46 smoking and fitting in give advice and opinions

Natalies Diary 47 effect of alcohol on the body give advice and opinions

The Party 48 feelings, decisions and risks involving cannabis give advice and opinions

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Tessa Horner (14) gave birth to a beautiful,
healthy baby boy, weighing 8lb 2oz
yesterday at 12.15 p.m. She is over the
moon and doting on her newborn baby that
she is considering calling Ted. She said,
Hes gorgeous and all of my school mates
are so jealous. I cant wait to get on with
feeding him at night, washing all his little
clothes, making sure he comes to no harm,
changing his nappies and being there for
him all the time: day and night its all
Ive ever wanted to do. Ill be the perfect
mum. Were already thinking about when
we will start trying for number two.
Dan Blaxter (14) is the father and is
equally as proud. He said, Hes so
beautiful. Hes just what Ive always
wanted. I cant wait for him to grow up so
that we can play footie together. Im
already looking forward to helping him
with his homework. My mates are all
thinking of trying for a baby now.
Mr. T Johnson,
Head teacher
from Hawley
High said, Im
so happy for the
new parents,
they have what
they have always
wanted and they deserve to be proud.
Mrs. El Marad taught Dan maths in Year
8. She said, I always knew that Dan
would go on to do something special. Im
so happy to hear his news.
Dans mother, a top surgeon said,
Theyre such a happy little family, Im
sure theyll be great parents and I know
that they wont need any help from me
and my husband in bringing him up
even though we live just down the road.

1) Do you think that there is
anything odd about this
newspaper article? If so,
what is it?
2) Why do you think some
people believe that it is
not always a good idea
for teenagers to start
having a family?
3) What might having a 5) Try and imagine what
baby at 14 stop you its like to have a
from or make it more baby. Complete this
difficult for you to go table that compares
on to do? the day to day life of a
14 year old with a
4) Would you like a baby to a 14 year old
baby at 14; if so, why; without a baby.
If not, why not?

Thing to do 14 year old with baby 14 year old without baby

what s/he would have to do what s/he would have to do
Leave the house
to go out

Go to bed

Have lunch

Go for a night out

Go and buy clothes

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 True Confessions... It happened
to me... Drunken lunch
ends in tears
Gemma aged 14, slim with blonde hair is a Kirsty takes over the
model pupil at White County High School. story at this point,
She consistently gets good grades in all clutching Gemmas
subjects and would like to go to university hand tightly. We
and be a vet when she leaves school. But were laughing so much we didnt realise
lunchtime fun ended in a nightmare last at first that Gemma had fallen over and
summer. Gemma tells her story. wasnt moving. We tried to get her to
stand up, but she was all floppy. Her eyes
It was a really hot day and at break time my were closed and she wouldnt answer
friend Lu came running up to me and said when we called her name. We began to
that she had a surprise for me and that we get really scared, sobbed Kirsty. She
should meet at 12.30 at the school gates. Lu is just wouldnt wake up. We thought she
a really good friend and all the way through was dead.
french I was dying to know what she had
planned. Lu started to panic but realised that we
needed help immediately, so she sprinted
When I arrived Lu and Kirsty were giggling until she got to the main road and flagged
by the school gates. I asked Lu what was down a passing car.
happening but she just opened her school
blazer, hidden there were 2 bottles of vodka! Gemma spent the night at Newhampton
She grinned at me and we all headed off Hospital but has made a full recovery.
towards the woods. Come on lets have I felt that I had let everyone down said
some fun, she said. Kirsty and I followed, Gemma. My friends were so worried
full of high spirits! I had never had vodka about me. My parents were lovely but I
before but I was up for a laugh and what harm could tell by their eyes that I had done
could it do? It was a real laugh at first, we something really stupid and that they
were all fooling around and singing. Kirsty were disappointed in me. Everyone at
kept making silly faces and doing impressions school got to hear about it and we all got
of our teachers. I felt really happy and in big trouble for leaving the school
everything seemed hilarious. But then I premises without permission. I really
started to feel really woozy. Everything wish that I had thought about what I was
started to spin around and then I remember doing. I cant bear to think what would
trying to sit down without falling over a tree have happened if Lu hadnt got help and
root and then I cant really remember any taken me to hospital.
more.
Why did Gemma feel that she had let everyone down?
Do you think Gemmas parents were disappointed in her? Why?
I was up for a laugh and what harm could it do? What do you think about this
comment? Would it have made a difference if Gemma had drunk lager instead of vodka?
What would you have done if your friend had collapsed?
What do you think about Gemmas friends?
I really wish that I had thought about what I
was doing. Do you think Gemma means I talked about this with
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 How far would you go to fit in and impress?
1) You need some new shoes and the latest 4) You are at the school disco. Your two best
craze at school is a brand of trainer called friends are dancing with and snogging
X17. Your mum says that you can have them, boys/girls. A boy/girl that has always liked
but only if you buy them with your own you, but that you dont like much at all, asks
money. You havent quite got enough, so you you to dance. Do you:
mum suggests that you can earn some a) tell him or her that theres no way you would
money washing up. You hate washing up. ever dance with him/her.
Do you: b) dance with him/her and make sure that every-
a) decide the trainers just are not worth it. one can see you.
b) wash up frantically at every opportunity. c) desperately try to persuade someone else to
c) decide to wait and save up your pocket money dance with you.
d) go to school in cheaper trainers and try to start a d) just decide that you dont need to dance and
new craze politely tell the boy/girl that you dont really feel
like dancing.
2) Your friends are talking about a new T.V.
programme that they watched last night. You 5) You have told everyone in your class that
didnt see it because it was after your bed you are going to get your ear/s pierced this
time. Do you: weekend to look cool even though it is
a) pretend you saw it and try very hard to seem like against the school rules. Everyone is
you know what they are talking about. impressed. However, on Saturday, your
b) explain to them that you went to bed before that mum/dad/carer completely refuses to let
programme came on. you have your ear/s pierced. Do you:
c) talk about another programme that you really a) buy and wear stick on earrings.
enjoyed b) go and get your ears pierced without telling
d) just not say anything about the programme. your mum/dad/carer and put them in only when
your parents are not around.
3) You are in the park with several of your c) decide that its too much bother and just leave it
friends. One of them dares you to try and buy and decide that you are cool with or without
some cigarettes from the shop because you earrings.
look old for your age. You dont really want to d) make up an excuse why you couldnt have your
try but your friends are all jeering you on and ears pierced.
saying things like, I bet shes too scared to
do that. Do you:
a) storm off and call them all idiots ??????????????
b) go and try to buy cigarettes. ??????????????????
c) tell your friends to listen to you and explain that How Did You Score?
you really dont think that it would be a good idea
as you would be the only one that would get in Question 1 a) 3 b) 1 c) 2 d) 4
trouble and you dont see the point in trying to Question 2 a) 1 b) 4 c) 2 d) 3
buy cigarettes. Question 3 a) 3 b) 1 c) 4 d) 2
d) try and persuade someone else to do it. Question 4 a) 3 b) 1 c) 2 d) 4
Question 5 a) 2 b) 1 c) 4 d) 3
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5 9 Oops! You are a lit
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tle too keen to ?????????????
do what you think ever 10 14 Fine! You are pr ???????
yone else thinks ob ab ly quite comfortable
is cool instead of what being you but you
you really want could try harder to
to do. Try to be confiden for yourself and do stic
t that people exactly what you wan k up
will like you for who yo be ca us e YOU want to do it. t to do
u are not for Tr y no t to
what you do or how yo w hat other people think! w or ry about
u look.
confident to just be you
15 20 Fantastic! You are
ke you do something you
and no one is going to ma
u are always true to
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Puberty Problems, Problems, Problems!
What advice would you give the following pupils?

d their
nds have starte
My two best frie I feel really left
out
bu t I have nt. I get really moody just before my period
periods them
pe cially w hen they talk about starts. I hate this feeling. Is there
es ?
. What can I do anything I can do about it?
secretly together
Lubna aged 12
Josie aged 13

I have a friend who has I have started having

wet dreams at
started to smell a bit but I night. They make m
y sheets quite mes
I dont like the idea sy.
feel really embarrassed of my mum finding
about my wet dream out
about telling him. What s but she does all m
washing. What can y
should I do? I do?
Jack aged 12 George aged 13

Hair is
really oily and starting
My skin is getting sure w t
hether o grow on my
ly self conscious
spotty. I feel real have to to s fac
ask my tart shaving o e. Im not
ly when I meet
about it, especial n feel rea mum fo r
r a razo not. I would
first time. What ca lly silly.
someone for the Jonath
an age
What c
an I do
r and I
would
I do? d 13 ?
Kito aged 12

break. One minute its

My voice is starting to . My breasts have
e next its really deep grown quite
really squeaky and th large but my m
class that this is um hasnt offere
Im the first boy in my to take me sho d
es I dont speak in pping to buy a
happening to. Sometim I still wear a ve bra.
everyone is going to st but I get a bit
class because I think embarrassed w
n I do? hen we all chan
laugh at me. What ca for P.E. What ca ge
n I do?
Joseph aged 12 Katy aged 12

the time! Next When

I seem to be getting erections all Ih
pain in ave a period
ing and I would
week our class are going swimm m
about a y lower tumm get
,I
ction because
be so embarrassed if I had an ere feel lik
day. It
makes for
y
t want to go
everyone would see it. I really don being q
e sittin
gd m e
swimming because of this. What
can I do? uiet, bu own and
always t this is
p nt
Craig aged 12 What c ossible at sch
an I do ool.
Jo age ?
d 10
A girl in my class is
making fun
of me because of th
e hair that is
growing under my
arms. I hate it.
What can I do?
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 Grace and Carlos
This is Grace. She is a perfect woman. She is slim
and beautiful. Her skin never has even a tiny
blemish. She always wears perfect makeup but
you never see her spending time putting it on and
her hair always looks fantastic. She only ever
wears expensive designer clothes and has plenty
of expensive jewellery. She lives in an enormous
house (with a swimming pool) which is always
immaculate although she certainly never does any
housework. She spends a lot of the year going on
amazing holidays. She is extremely happy at all
times and youll never see her crying or looking
grumpy. She is never clumsy, never gets things
wrong and always carries herself extremely
gracefully.
Grace and Carlos come from a
make-believe place called
Advertsville!
This is Carlos. He is Graces partner and he is the
perfect man. He is witty, charming and intelligent.
He is very good at entertaining people at tasteful
dinner parties which he invites all his attractive and
elegant friends to. He always wears smart suits
and looks extremely well-groomed at all times. He
is consistently happy and you never see him
frowning, looking worried or miserable. He has a
well paid job in which he makes lots of important
decisions and gets paid loads of money. Of
course, he is extremely clever and never makes
mistakes. He has lots of free time in which he eats
out in posh restaurants, drives his fast car, plays
golf and tennis and travels all around the world.

Discuss these questions:
1) How do you think these
characters could make
some people unhappy or
dissatisfied with their lives?
2) Do you think that people
like Carlos and Grace really
exist - with every detail the
same?
3) Why do you think adverts
use people like Grace and
Carlos to try to persuade
you to buy their product?
Now, to the picture of Grace and Carlos, slowly add
graffiti: to turn Grace and Carlos into real people.
You could include some of the following:
Write what Carlos and Grace are saying to each
other - they might be arguing!
Give Grace hairy legs, messy clothes, some
spots, big jewellery and a few wrinkles.
Give Carlos a new hairstyle, blacked out teeth
and a few rips and patches on his clothes
Give them both thought bubbles where they are
thinking real thoughts. For example, Blast, I
need to buy some toothpaste on the way home.
Perhaps make them look grumpy.

I talked about this with Congratulations you have now turned

Grace and Carlos into real people!

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 Could I be Persuaded?
If you found yourself in a crowd of your friends at the park and someone dared you in front of
everyone to go and be rude to an old lady who was walking her dog and when you hesitated, they
started to tease you about being a chicken. Which of the following responses do you think you
would be most likely to do?
passive agressive assertive

be rude to the lose your temper and calmly tell you friends that that
old lady tell your would be a nasty thing to do
friends and you think anyone
how stupid who enjoys being nasty
they are to old ladies is a bit odd.

If you were in the playground and one of your best friends dared you to go and ask out a boy that
you both fancied and when you hesitated she started teasing you in front of a group of your
friends, what are the three ways of responding? Fill in the two empty boxes.

passive agressive assertive

Tell your friends that you will

ask him out when you want
to and not because
someone is teasing
you to do it.

If you were in the park and a group of your friends were drinking from a bottle of vodka that one of
them had stolen from their parents drink cabinet and some others were smoking some cigarettes
that they had found and one of them offered a cigarette to you. When you hesitated, the whole group
looked at you and started saying things like, ha, youre too scared, youre too much of a goody,
goody and youre pathetic. What are the three ways that you could respond? Fill in the three
empty boxes
passive agressive assertive

Who is the coolest and who looks the best and will really get peoples admiration:
the person who does something because they are bullied into it,
the person who reacts in an emotional way or
the person who just tells everyone why they are not going to do what they are being dared
to do?
Can you think of similar situations that you have
been in and what did you do?
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 You cant assume anything can you?
Decide what these peoples jobs are and what they like and dislike.

Job: dustmanunemployedaccountantdoctorsecretarylorry drivernursebuilder

Likes: gardeninggoing to the pubgolfcrosswordswalks in the
countrysideknittingshopping
Dislikes: hard worklittera messy housedogsexercisepeople who drive too fastpop
music

Job: Job:

Likes Likes

Dislikes: Dislikes:

Job: Job:

Likes Likes

Dislikes: Dislikes:

Job: Job:

Likes Likes

Dislikes: Dislikes:

Could you be certain about your answers? Did you make any stereotypes
with your answers?
What is wrong about making assumptions
about people based on what they look like?
I talked about this with
What is a stereotype?
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 Just Another Bank Holiday Monday?
Local people were out enjoying the sunshine on Bank Holiday Monday. The
fair was in town and everyone wanted to have fun.
This is what they said later..

I take my children to the fair every year, said Jon Miller (32) They really enjoy it but
this year we left early. There were fights and youths staggering around shouting rude
words. I dont want my children seeing things like that.

I was really upset, said Danilo Barros (6) A boy grabbed the goldfish I won and
tipped it onto the grass His mother Ana Barros (28) was also upset about the loss of
the goldfish. Danilo cried so much I had to buy him a new one. I would like to have told
the drunk what I thought of him but he was slurring his words and I thought he might hit
me.

It was a real laugh I had a few beers and felt really happy. Everybody was singing.
We had a great time! Lee (14)

It was a bunch of kids who cant hold their drink, said Liam (25) and his girl friend Lucy
(22). I thought it was funny, but I can see how some people might be scared There
was rubbish everywhere, drinks cans, broken glass and puke! said Lucy. It wasnt
very nice and I got vomit on my new shoes!

I had some cider which tasted so good. It made me feel really confident. In fact I asked
Jason out and he said Yes! I felt on top of the world. Later on I was a bit sick. I hope
Jason didnt see me. Lianne (13)

Maurice Dunn, the chairman of the Bank Holiday celebrations committee said that he
had tried to contact the police, but they were very busy and so hadnt arrived until later.
I want to know how they got this alcohol, he said. They were all under age.
Where were their parents? Thats what I want to know!

Joe and I managed to get in a bit of an argument. I cant even

remember what it was all about now. Joe kept baiting me and I
snapped. It was a shame as I was having a great time up to
then. I had a few beers but so what I can take my drink.
Tom (15)

What really happened at the fair on Bank Holiday

Monday?

Who had a good time on Bank Holiday Monday?

(Underline in blue) Why did they enjoy themselves?

Who didnt enjoy themselves? (Underline in red)

Talk about why they didnt have a good time.

Did anyone stop other people from I talked about this with
enjoying themselves? If so, how?

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 Teenagers!

Read some comments that different people made about when they
were a teenager:
It seemed like my I think that what your I had a painful crush on
parents no longer friends think about you the boy in my French class.
agreed with anything becomes more important I used to think about him all
that I did. than what your parents the time, and I used to
say to you. write his name all over my
pencil case.

I remember feeling I found the teenage

really happy one minute years awful, all those I remember feeling
and really upset the changes that you have to as if no one
next thats the cope with and all that understood me.
hormones, I guess! worry about whether or
not you were normal!

Read some comments people made about teenagers:

My big sister is
fourteen and she is so
moody and all she does
is play around with
clothes and makeup shut
away in her bedroom.
Teenagers are I just cant seem to make my
generally really son see sense; all he wants to
disrespectful I do is hang out with his mates.
find. He doesnt listen to what I have
to say anymore.

Discuss:

1) What do you think are the good things about being a teenager?
2) What do you think are the bad things about being a teenager?
3) What do you think are the most important things to a teenager?
4) Why do you think some people find the teenage years so difficult?
5) Why do you think teenagers have more arguments with their
parents than when they were young children?
6) How could the teenage years be made better?
In this discussion we talked about

Something I learnt from this discussion is

I think that when I am a teenager I will

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 Class 7J
Name: Liam
Age: 12
Favourite food: Pizza
Hobbies: Football

Liam always has lots of energy and is one of the lads in 7J. Most of the other children
in the class think he is a real laugh and wish they were like him. The rest of the class
are a bit scared of him. He says he generally finds school boring but he likes games
and is very competitive. He enjoys playing football at break time with his mates. If
arguments erupt at lunch-time Liam is usually involved or not far away. He likes to be
noticed! If 7J have a supply teacher within a short while they will certainly know Liam.
Liam is often getting in trouble but feels that he is treated unfairly.

Some of Liams friends have started smoking down the park after school. Liam is not
sure what to do as his granny died a year ago of lung cancer. Liam used to spend a lot
of time with his granny and really misses her. Before she died, Liams granny used to
talk about the fact that she wished she had never started smoking.

Liam still feels really sad about his granny and knows first hand the effects of smoking.
At the moment he tells his friends that he doesnt want to smoke. However some of the
group have started to make comments and whisper about him. He feels that his
position as leader of the group may be in question because he is choosing not to
smoke.

What do you think he will do?

Name: Sabir
Age: 12
Favourite food: Pizza
Hobbies: Reading and Computer games

Sabir always works hard at school and achieves good results. Some of the other pupils
in the class call him a swot and take the mickey out of him as he always has his head
in a book. At parents evening the teachers always say how good Sabir is and how he
will do well in the future. Sabir is quiet and although he has two good friends in year 6
he often spends a lot of time on his own, playing games on his computer.

On the way home from school Sabir passes through the park he notices Liam and his
mates hanging around the bandstand. He notices they are smoking. He tries to rush
past quickly before they start calling him names. To his surprise they call him over and
start chatting to him like he was one of the gang. He starts to relax and think that
maybe they arent that bad after all. One of the boys offers him a cigarette. Sabirs dad
used to smoke and is now very anti-smoking. Sabir knows the facts about nicotine and
tobacco. However he is getting on so well with Liams gang he feels that it would be
rude to refuse their offer.

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 Natalies Diary
Monday
I am SO EXCITED! Ginas brother Karl is 16 this week and he is having a
party. But the big news is. that Gina and I are invited!!!! It will be
so amazing! Even though Gina and I are only in year 7, Karl said that
we could come if we promised not to show him up in front of his friends.
I need to check with mum to see if I can go. I hope she will let me. Keep
your fingers crossed!
Tuesday
Gloomy Tuesday.mum is thinking about the party. I bet she doesnt let
me go. I hate her. She never lets me do what I want to do. If she doesnt
let me go Ill never speak to her again.
Wednesday
Amazing!!! She is going to let me go after all. She had a big chat with
dad and they agreed as the party was going to be held at Ginas house
they thought it would be alright. They think that Ginas mum is going to
be there to supervise. Ha ha!!! As if Karl and his friends would put up
with that! Gina and Karls mum are actually going out for the evening.
I havent actually told my mum and dad a lie because they have just
assumed that the party will be supervised
Thursday
I have spent all day thinking about what to wear at the party tomorrow
night. I have asked mum if we could go into town after school so I
could buy something new but she said that she was much too busy and
anyway she couldnt afford it She is so mean! She doesnt realise that I
have to look my best in front of Karl and his friends.
Friday
Today is the day.. I feel sick and excited all at the same
time.. it is going to be soooooo exciting. Wish me luck!!!!!
Saturday
Feel terrible today I think I must have a hangover I remember
dashing outside and throwing up in the flower bed outside the front
door. My head is thumping and I still feel a bit sick. I cant remember a
lot about the party except that I had a snog with that spotty boy in year
10. Why did I do that? I dont even like him. Ill never be able to show
my face again! Gina and I only had a few cans of lager.

Why does Natalie feel bad?

Parent prompt:
How much does Natalie know about Adults are recommended to
the alcohol she was drinking? drink no more than:
2/3 units a day (women)
All lager is not the same!
3/4 units a day (men)
Ordinary strength lager 1.5 units
1 unit is a small glass of wine or
Strong lager 3 units pint of ordinary strength lager or
a small measure of spirits
Extra strong lager 4 units

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 The Party
Leon is 14 and attends the local high school. He recently joined
Westfield High when his family moved into the area from
Tootington. He is enjoying school but as yet hasnt really found
any good friends to hang out with. What he is enjoying is the
fact that he can recreate a whole new personality for himself at
his new school. At his old school he felt he was too sensible
and could even be considered boring.

However he is getting tired of hanging out on his own, so when

Felipe and Aaron in his class say they are going to a party, he
jumps at the chance. Leons mum suggests that he stays at
Aarons house that night so she wont have to drive a long way and pick him up. The
three boys set off to the party, chatting about who will be there. Leon feels really excited
at the thought of getting to know lots of new people. The walk to the party takes about
twenty minutes, through lots of back streets and when they arrive at the house, Leon
realises he is completely lost. However, with Aaron and Felipe to take him home, he
doesnt think its a problem.

The party is in full swing when they arrive but Leon soon loses Aaron and Felipe. He
helps himself to a drink and wanders around looking for a familiar face. He realises that
he doesnt know anyone.

Leon sits in a corner and wishes he was at home with

his family. He notices that lots of the people from the
party seem to be crowding into another room and then
shutting the door behind them. He becomes curious
and as he opens the door a strange smell greets him.
As his eyes become accustomed to the darkness he
sees people lying on cushions on the floor and they are
passing around something that looks like a home made
cigarette. He realises that they are smoking cannabis
and decides to leave the room, when he hears Aaron
calling his name. Aaron suggests that he sits down and
joins in All eyes seem to be on him..

How is he feeling?
What could help him deal with this situation?
What information would help him to decide what to do?
What will he do?

Information about cannabis Parent prompt:

Cannabis can be rolled (usually with tobacco) in a spliff or a joint,
smoked on its own in a special pipe or cooked and eaten in food.
It is illegal to have cannabis or to sell it or give it away.
Cannabis can make you feel: relaxed, sleepy, hungry, giggly, confused,
anxious, depressed or even paranoid.
Cannnabis is also known as grass,
dope, puff, hash, pot, spliff, ganga,
blow, weed or draw I talked about this with

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