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Praise
A brother came to see Abba Macarius the Egyptian, and said to him, Abba, give me a word,
that I may be saved. So the old man said, Go to the cemetery and abuse [insult] the dead.
The brother went there, abused [insulted] them and threw stones at them; then he returned
and told the old man about it. The latter said to him, Didnt they say anything to you? He
replied, No. The old man said, Go back tomorrow and praise them. So the brother went
away and praised them, calling them Apostles, saints and righteous men. He returned to the
old man and said to him, I have complimented them. And the old man said to him, Did they
not answer you? The brother said no. The old man said to him, You know how you insulted
them and they did not reply, and how you praised them and they did not speak; so you too if
you wish to be saved must do the same and become a dead man. Like the dead, take no
account of either the scorn of men or their praises, and you can be saved. 1
Reflection
The Abbas wisdom reminds us that our ultimate identity is neither enhanced by anothers
praise nor diminished by their scorn or insults. The dead in the story did not respond to the
brothers insults or praises. They neither sought his praises nor avoided his scorn. Their lives
and the value of their lives were to be found elsewhere, not in the brothers words and
opinions.
Until we know and trust that we are not determined by anothers evaluation of us we will
continue seeking approval, recognition, and reassurance from others that we are enough and
we usually never get enough of being told we are enough. Part of our spiritual work then is to
detach from anothers praises and insults, seeking our life, identity, and value in God alone.
This detachment does not mean we tune out or ignore what others might say whether it be
praise or insult. Rather, it allows us the freedom to hear and consider what is said, to be with
others in a more transparent and authentic way, and to live a humble life, neither making
ourselves more nor less than we really are. And when we can do that we have a new
freedom to be with God.