Professional Documents
Culture Documents
No well-intentioned leader would set out to lead this way, but it happens all the
time.
Peter Scazzero
What first comes to mind when you think of an emotionally unhealthy leader? Or
perhaps a better question might be, Who first comes to mind? Is it a boss, a
staff member, a colleague? Or perhaps you? How would you describe this
person? Is it someone who is chronically angry, controlling, aggressive? Or
perhaps someone who is avoidant, inauthentic, passive? While emotionally
unhealthy leadership expresses itself in all these ways and many more, the
foundational definition of an emotionally unhealthy leader is perhaps both
simpler and more multifaceted than you might expect: The emotionally
unhealthy leader is someone who operates in a continuous state of emotional
and spiritual deficit, lacking emotional maturity and a "being with God" sufficient
to sustain their "doingfor God."
When we talk about emotionally unhealthy Christian leaders, we are referring to
the emotional and spiritual deficits that impact every aspect of their
lives. Emotional deficits are manifested primarily by a pervasive lack of
awareness of their feelings, their weaknesses and limits, how their past impacts
their present, and how others experience them. They also lack the capacity and
skill to enter deeply into the feelings and perspectives of others. They carry
these immaturities with them into their teams and everything they do.
Spiritual deficits typically reveal themselves in too much activity. Unhealthy
leaders engage in more activities than their combined spiritual, physical, and
emotional reserves can sustain. They give out for God more than they
receive from him. They serve others in order to share the joy of Christ, but that
joy remains elusive to themselves. The demands and pressures of leadership
make it nearly impossible for them to establish a consistent and sustainable
rhythm of life. In their more honest moments, they admit that their cup with God
is empty or, at best, half full, hardly overflowing with the divine joy and love they
proclaim to others.
As a result, emotionally unhealthy leaders skim when building their ministries.
Rather than following the apostle Paul's example of building with materials that
will lastgold, silver, and costly stones (1 Corinthians 3:10-15)they settle for
something like wood, straw, and mud. They build with inferior materials that will
not stand the test of a generation, let alone the fire of final judgment. In the
process, they obscure the beauty of Christ they say they want the whole world
to see. No well-intentioned leader would set out to lead this way, but it happens
all the time.
Images of Unhealthy Leadership
Consider a few examples from the everyday lives of leaders you may recognize.
Sara is an overwhelmed youth pastor who needs help, but she always finds a
reason to avoid enlisting a team of adult volunteers who could come alongside
her and expand the ministry. It's not because she lacks leadership gifts, but
because she is defensive and easily offended when others disagree with her.
The youth group stagnates and slowly declines.
Joseph is a dynamic worship leader who nevertheless keeps losing key
volunteers because of his lateness and spontaneity. He doesn't see how his
"style" alienates people who have different temperaments. Thinking he is just
being "authentic" and true to who he is, he's not willing to make changes or
accommodate other styles or temperaments. The quality of music and
effectiveness leading people to the presence of Jesus as weekend services
diminish as volunteers with gifts in music and programming drop out of the
worship team.
PAGE 2 OF 3
Jake is the volunteer director of the small-group ministry at his church. Under
his leadership, the ministry has begun to flourishfour new groups have formed
in the last three months! Twenty-five people, previously unconnected, now meet
every other week to share their lives as they grow in Christ together. Beneath
the excitement, however, cracks are beginning to show. The group leader in the
fastest-growing group is new to the church and appears to be taking the group
in a different direction than the larger church. Jake is worried, but he avoids
talking to him, fearful the conversation may not go well. Another small-group
leader has mentioned in passing that things aren't going well at home. In yet
another group, one troublesome member is talking way too much, and the
group is rapidly losing people. The group leader has asked Jake for help, but he
is trying to avoid getting involved. While greatly loved by most, Jake is conflict
averse. He secretly hopes the issue will somehow resolve itself without
involving him. Over the next six months, three of the four new small groups
close.
This list of examples could go on and on, but I think you get the point. When we
devote ourselves to reaching the world for Christ while ignoring our own
emotional and spiritual health, our leadership is shortsighted at best. At worst,
we are negligent, needlessly hurting others, and undermining God's desire to
expand his kingdom through us. Leadership is hard. It involves suffering. But
there is a big difference between suffering for the gospel as Paul describes (2
Timothy 2:8) and needless suffering that is a result of our unwillingness to
honestly engage difficult and challenging leadership tasks.
3. (If married): The way I spend my time and energy reflects the value that my
marriagenot leadershipis my first priority.
3. (If single): The way I spend my time and energy reflects the value that living
out a healthy singlenessnot leadershipis my first priority.
6. I regularly read Scripture and pray in order to enjoy communion with God and
not just in service of leading others.
2
tweet
share
expand
0
save
email
print
PAGE 3 OF 3
9. I take time to practice prayerful discernment when making plans and
decisions.
10. I measure the success of planning and decision-making primarily in terms of
discerning and doing God's will (rather than exclusively by measures such as
attendance growth, excellence in programming, or expanded impact in the
world).
12. I do not avoid difficult conversations with team members about their
performance or behavior.
13. I feel comfortable talk about the use of power in connection with my role and
that of others.
15. Instead of avoiding endings and losses, I embrace them and see them as a
fundamental part of the way God works.
Peter Scazzero is the Founder of New Life Fellowship Church in Queens, NYC,
a large, multiracial, international church with 73 countries represented. After
serving as Senior Pastor for 26 years, Pete now serves as a Teaching
Pastor/Pastor at Large. Taken from The Emotionally Healthy Leader by Peter
Scazzero. Copyright 2015 by Peter Scazzero. Used by permission
of Zondervan.