Cancer is Not Loving Yourself

Many cancer patients have devoted their entire lives to helping and supporting
others. Their selfless service can be very a noble quality, depending on the
motivation behind it. If they sacrifice and neglect their own wellbeing to avoid
facing any shame, guilt or unworthiness within them, they are actually cutting off
the very limb they are hanging on. They are selflessly devoted to please others
so that, in return, they may be loved and appreciated for their contributions.
This, however, serves as an unconscious acknowledgement of not loving oneself. This
may lock up unresolved issues, fears and feelings of unworthiness in the cellular
memory of organs and tissues in the body. Love your neighbor as you love
yourself is one of the most a basic requirements for curing cancer. This phrase
means that we can only love others as much as we are able to love and appreciate
ourselves, no less and no more. To be able to truly love someone else without cords
of attachment and possessiveness, one has to fully accept oneself with all the
flaws, mistakes, and inadequacies one may have. The degree to which we are able to
care about the well being of our body, mind, and spirit determines upon the degree
to which we are able to care about other people, too. By being critical of
ourselves, or disliking the way we look behave, or feel, we close down our heart
and feel unworthy and
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ashamed. To avoid exposing our shadow self (the part of us we dont like) to others
out of fear of rejection, we try to win over the love of others by pleasing them.
This way, we assume, we could receive the love we are unable to give to ourselves.
But this approach cannot work in the long term. Your body always follows the
commands given by your mind. Your thoughts, emotions, feelings, desires, beliefs,
drives, likes, dislikes, etc., serve as the software your cells are programmed with
on a daily basis. Through the mind/body connection, your cells have no other choice
but to obey the orders they receive via your subconscious or conscious mind. As DNA
research has recently proved, you can literally alter your DNAs genetic setting
and behavior within a matter of a moment. Your DNA listens to every word you utter
to yourself, and it feels every emotion you experience. And it responds to all of
it. You program yourself every second of the day, consciously and unconsciously.
If you choose so, you can rewrite the program in any way you want to, provided you
are truly self-aware. Once you know who you truly are you cannot help but love
yourself. You can no longer judge yourself for making mistakes in life, for not
being perfect, for not always being how others want you to be. Seeing yourself in
this light, you send a signal of love to your cells. The bonding effect of love
unites differences and keeps everything together, including the cells of your body.
When love, which should not be confused with neediness or attachment, is no longer
a daily experience, the body begins to disintegrate and become sick. It is the
expansion of love that is the main purpose of our existence here on earth. Those
who love themselves are also able to love others and vice versa. These two aspects
of love always go hand in hand. People who accept themselves fully have no real
fear of death; when their time comes to die, they leave peacefully without any
regrets or remorse in their heart. Whenever we close our hearts to ourselves, we
become lonely, and the body begins to become weak and diseased. It is known that
widows and people who are socially isolated, or have nobody to share their deepest
feelings with, are the most prone to developing cancer. Your body cells are the
most intimate neighbors you can have and they need to feel your love and self-
acceptance, to know that they are a part of you and that you care about them.
Giving yourself an oil massage, going to sleep on time, eating nutritious foods,
etc., are simple, but powerful messages of love that motivate your cells to
function in harmony with each other. They are also messages that keep elimination
of toxins flawless and efficient. There is nothing unscientific about this. You can
go around a number of hospitals and ask all the patients whether they felt good
about their life prior to falling ill. The overwhelming response would be a no.
Without being a medical researcher, you would have conducted one of the most
important research studies anyone could ever do. You would have stumbled over the
most common cause of ill health, which is, not loving yourself, or, to use a
different expression, "not being happy about how your life turned out to be. Not
being happy or satisfied in life is perhaps the most severe form of emotional
stress you could possibly have. It is, in fact, a major risk factor for many
diseases, including cancer. A recently published study suggests that severe
emotional stress can triple the risk of breast cancer. One hundred women who had a
breast lump were interviewed before they knew that they had breast cancer. One in
two who had the disease had suffered a major traumatic life event, such as
bereavement, within the previous five years. The effects of emotional stress or
unhappiness can severely impair digestion, elimination, and immunity, thus leading
to a dangerously high level of toxicity in the body. Just ridding the body of
cancer through weapons of mass destruction doesnt remove the unresolved
emotional pain behind it (see Chapter 7 about my approaches for restoring emotional
health).