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4. And they hope it happens at home surrounded by the people who love them.
6. And for the majority of people, it turns out not to be what they get.
11. surrounded with the familiar and the loved ones, right?
13. right?
15. People bustling in, and you get to know one nurse,
19. where he went into a hospital and, with the permission of patients,
20. put a camcorder at the side of the bed right at eye level
21. to capture what a patient sees in the bed as they lay dying.
22. He ran the camcorder until the death and afterwards and then
24. And he said, reviewing that footage was one of the saddest moments of his life.
28. And this isn't because the health care providers weren't caring.
30. Right?
31. So what people want is to be at home, but they're at the hospital.
33. but they're surrounded by strangers, and sometimes, not surrounded at all.
40. When you ask medical care professionals what their mission is,
42. But the metaphor that's used often turns out into a kind of warrior-like one--
46. The good side is that when we can save your life, that's awesome.
47. You want that warrior by your side and not giving up on you.
48. Right?
50. that we're moving to not whether you'll die but how you'll die.
58. to the transition from, we're trying to keep you alive, to let's
59. talk about how to die, where you're not going to be abandoned.
62. that you're not afraid as much as possible-- what a friend of mine who's
63. a hospice volunteer calls a midwife to your death just like the other book
71. And the family, often, at least in many countries, we don't die at home,
73. So to have somebody who's aversive about death isn't what you need.
74. Now some physicians and nurses are wonderful about this, especially
77. And they often are trying their hardest to get the patient and the family,
78. often, to acknowledge and understand and make that transition to now we're
80. OK?
81. And they find the patients or the family pushing back.
82. That in the midst of fear and anxiety and being scared,
85. because family think that giving up hope is somehow giving up caring.
86. And they need the doctors and nurses to say no.