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Guys spend a lot of time worrying about whether they should or shouldn’t approach women they’
attracted to. It’s an incredibly common component of approach anxiety; you want to go introduce
yourself to that cute woman you see, but you’re afraid of getting rejected or being another
unwelcome interruption in her day.
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But here’s a secret you should know: women worry about rejection and humiliation just as much
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men do – more so, in many cases, as many men react badly to being approached. As a result,
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women will frequently give subtle, non-verbal indicators that they’d like you – yes, you – to go tal
to them.
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1 Invitation #1: She Plays Eye Games
One of the most common approach invitations is also one of the subtlest: she’ll use her eyes. Eye
contact is incredibly powerful and intimate; in fact, studies have found that prolonged eye-contact
can trigger feelings of love and passion in people. This is one reason why deliberate eye-contact
often used as an approach invitation; we rarely make strong eye-contact with people we don’t like
In fact, deliberately avoiding eye-contact is one of the ways that men and women attempt to avoi
getting drawn into a conversation with other people.
So if you’re wondering whether someone is interested in you, watch her eyes. Not only should yo
endeavor to make eye-contact with women, you should watch for the women who’re trying to cat
your eye. Someone who’s actively trying to make eye-contact is more likely to be open to an
approach. Most of the time when we check someone out, we take around 3 or so seconds to
examine their face. If the person takes longer – four or five seconds, say – then that’s a pretty
strong indicator that they’re interested in you; there’s something about you that fascinates them.
Of course, someone just giving you the hairy eyeball might be interested… or she might be trying
to figure out why you remind her of that friend she hasn’t seen in years, especially if she’s got the
“I’m trying to do do complex math” look instead of a smile. This is why you want to look for
a particular form of eye-contact: the three-part glance.
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A woman who’s interested in you will often meet your eyes, look away (usually down or to the
side), then look back again, usually with a smile. This can be an easy invitation to mistake; after a
breaking eye-contact can be seen as a “oh god, don’t let them think I was interested” move. Mos
people will tend to assume that the eye contact was accidental and move on. It’s the “look back”
part that’s important; it’s a subtle and often flirty way of checking to see if you’re still interested.
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There’re a lot of dudes who prefer the “Oh god, senpai noticed me…” approach
to eye contact.
That smile is to let you know she’s pleased that you’re still checking her out and you should come
over and start talking.
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Because gender roles are a thing, many assertive women still prefer to be the approached rather
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than the approacher. Sometimes it’s because they want someone with the confidence to actually
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come say “hi”. Sometimes it’s because they appreciate feeling desired and having someone
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overtly flirty but not enough to pull the trigger herself. Other times it could be that she’s as nervou
about rejection as men are and is willing to leave a little plausible deniability; if he doesn’t respon
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So what do these more obvious approach invitations look like? The most direct – and forward –
version is the classic “elevator look”. A woman may meet your eyes, look you up and down (letti
her eyes track your torso), before looking you back in the eyes again and smiling. She may also
give you “sticky eyes”1, pointedly holding your gaze with an inviting smile. They may make a poin
of making eye-contact before looking around the room, then meeting your gaze again; a sign tha
they’ve checked out the competition and still prefer you. They may throw a discrete wink or use t
triangle gaze – looking from your eye to your lip and back to your eyes. They may also do
something to bring your attention to their mouth – touching their lip with a finger or biting their lip.
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Other signs of interest – and indicators that they’d appreciate you making an approach – are
almost unconscious gestures. People, men and women both, tend to make small, subtle
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adjustments to their body language when they see someone they’re attracted to. One of the mos
common examples with women are what are known as “preening” gestures – making small
adjustments to her clothing and hair, in order to present herself at her best. The most common
example of preening behavior in women is playing with their hair – smoothing it down, twining it
around their finger or brushing it slowly away from their face. They also may start rubbing their
neck or wrists; self-touching is another sign of interest, as it draws the eye towards those parts.
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“Oh, hey, did it just get warm in here?”
Another common sign of interest – one that frequently precedes other approach invitations –
involves her torso. To start with, someone who’s open to being approached is going to have more
“open” body language. She’ll be facing outwards towards the room, rather than facing the bar or
her friends. Her arms will be angled away from her torso; crossed arms are a defensive, closed-o
signal that says “go away”. Then, if she sees someone she does like, she’ll adjust her body slight
One common sign is that she’ll straighten up and square herself off; it’s a way of improving her
posture and displaying herself to a better advantage. She’ll also frequently angle her torso toward
you. Humans tend to be goal-oriented and point themselves at the things they’re interested in. If
you catch someone’s eye and they open up towards you, they’re definitely interested.
You may also see some mirroring; if you make a gesture when you catch her eye – a wave or an
eyebrow-flash – then that’s a sign of interest and an indicator that you should go over and
introduce yourself.
Just remember: one gesture can be happenstance and two may be coincidence. Instead of looki
for one indicator, you should look for clusters of gestures that occur either simultaneously or very
close on the heels of other signs of interest.
Another common approach invitation that women will give is to use proximity. They’ll position
themselves in such a way as to be in your immediate orbit. They may post up near you as you’re
standing around – not right next to you but close enough that it’s easy to make small-talk. They
may make a point of always just happening to be in your vicinity on a number of occasions while
you’re both there. You may realize that you’re always seeing her out of the corner of your eye, sh
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always seems to end up in the same row of the bookstore as you or that you both just happen to
keep bumping into each other, metaphorically speaking. It gives a level of plausible deniability to
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her trying to get to know you; if you’re not interested, then she’s able to move on quickly without
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having to deal with the embarrassment of a direct rejection.
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“Woah, what a complete and utter coincidence that we ran into each other
again…”
Another common form of proximity is the “accidental” bump – she makes a point of brushing past
you or “accidentally” colliding with you in a place where there is actually plenty of room. When
there’s plenty of space at the bar, say, the woman who accidentally jars your arm or squeezes pa
you and grazes against you may well be trying to get you to turn around and start a conversation
A couple words of warning: first, if you’re some place crowded, then collisions are almost
inevitable. This is especially true on dance-floors; someone bumping into you on the dance floor
isn’t necessarily an invitation to approach them unless you have other signs that she’s trying to g
your attention. The other is that proximity and lingering work for women; when guys do it, it tends
to be creepy. Chalk it up to the greater risk women face from men than men face from women an
don’t hover.
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This happens more often than you’d realize, particularly when you’re out and about during the da
Have you ever had someone who sits down next to you and makes some comment or observatio
– how long it’s taking for her to get her coffee, the problems with the wifi, why the bus is so off-
schedule, something? This tends to be a plausibly deniable way of starting a conversation; she’s
essentially tossing out a low-investment invitation to talk (often called an observational opener in
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cold approach) in such a way that she can wave it off as her just talking to herself. It feels less
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“Hey, you’ve got the wifi password right? How about your number instead?”
Of course, there are plenty of people who tend to mutter to themselves over the course of their
day; not every stranger who complains about the lousy service at Peets is looking to get your
number. So how do you tell the difference between a subtle conversational opener and daily
frustration? Watch for those other contextual clues: proximity, body language, even the tone of
voice. If you get the feeling that they’re hoping for a response, then it’s a good time to strike up a
conversation.
Just remember: when you see those approach invitations, you want to act on them. He who
hesitates is lost after all; if you take too long, that cutie who’s given you the look-away-look-back
glance is going to think you’re not interested and move on. Don’t pass up the opportunity when
you’re given an approach invitation. Learn to recognize when women want you to approach, then
go over and say hello.
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craniest • 2 years ago
" ki d lik thi ll "
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"so kinda like this, really"
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They also may start rubbing their neck or wrists; self-touching is another sign of interest, as it
draws the eye towards those parts.
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Warning, warning: touching the hair or neck or wrists may also mean she is feeling vulnerable
and uncomfortable and frightened. There is a natural urge to get your hands in a position to
protect vulnerable areas when you feel threatened, and the throat is a very vulnerable area.
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Rubbing wrists is a very common (in my experience) self-soothing gesture, when one is feeling
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anxious. I would NEVER EVER EVER read neck-touching or wrist-touching or even hair-
touching as signs of interest unless strongly backed up by other indicators.
NEVER EVER.
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Totally agree.
I think a lot of these signs are problematic if you take them by themselves. I comment o
the length of time it's taking for me to get food/coffee all the time just because
I'm annoyed. (Note: Do not stand between a T1 diabetic with low sugar and her
food! ;))
I think there are a lot of false positives, but most of them will be fairly harmless.
you're commenting on coffee time, and a guy responds to it, it's
probably not going to make things worse for you.
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I just keep the conversation less than a minute long and walk away if I ca
read that they ain't feeling me. I've also seen some dudes bo
these ladies down in nightmare monologues that never end.
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You are right, yes. I didn't intend to diminish your point. Sorry abou
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approach lately in the context of women being shot by men they turn dow
after the latest incident of that happening, so it all seems potentially
dangerous to me. My issue to work on.
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To be fair to DNL, he repeats this or a variation throughout the column:
"Just remember: one gesture can be happenstance and two may be coincidenc
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occur either simultaneously or very close on the heels of other signs of interest.
And with things like neck touching, I would say that there's usually a VER
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clear difference between a sensual neck touching indicating interest, and a fear
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response that causes one to check one's neck. There are usually tons of
micro-expressions that go along with any given piece of body language, which i
why taking it as a whole is so important.
The easiest thing to do if there's any ambiguity is just not approach, which
is a totally valid choice, or wait and sort of double check your first instinct by
responding to glances and such and seeing it the person reacts positively or
negatively.
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Starleitmotif > Lara Garbero Tais • 2 years ago
And to make things even more confusing, I play with my hair in a number of ver
different situations, from "that guy is super cute, does my hair look OK" to "I am
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focusing really hard on learning or remembering something" to "wow, was that
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ever embarrassing" (sort of like when cats fall off something and do the "I totally
meant to do that" grooming). So yeah, it certainly *can* be a sign of interest, bu
definitely isn't always.
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sathania • 2 years ago
I've always been too shy to try the "look at him" approach, but guys, number 4 is very re
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when I like someone I try to pass in front of him a lot, even if that means fake trips to the
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YoshiLand > sathania • 2 years ago
I've picked up on this too. Was at a party and this one girl would always be in my
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line of sight but not in a creepy way but it was noticeable. I found out later that she liked
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I think this is a really, really common strategy for socially awkward women, who
aren't really sure what they're doing or how else to express interest.
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As well as the deep-annoyance with people who break obvious DO NOT APPROACH signs, b
the main point was that body language is usually very obvious, and in the case where someon
reads the body language wrong, as long as they're polite there's no harm, no foul.
It's usually a case of the wrong person picking up the signal or someone making any of
the mistakes mentioned in the article (confusion, the women is trying to place someone's
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face, etc) although there should be enough data to pick that up, it's still not the worst thin
in the world to approach someone who wasn't signalling as long as you're polite a
know to veer off when it's made clear that there wasn't an invitation there.
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That's one reason the eye contact part is so important, it's pretty hard to misread
certain forms of eye contact and associated behaviors, but if that happens, there's still ju
acting like an adult, wishing them a good night, and veering off.
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Eyes are the easiest to read imo. Best way to see if you're about to waste two
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dyson618 • 2 years ago
What if you never get such signals?
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Eliza Jane > dyson618 • 2 years ago
This article doesn't touch on that topic directly because it's outside of its ma
point. This article would be a good place to start:
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And if you just don't get those signals, that doesn't mean you're
hideously unattractive and no one will ever be interested in you. Lots of people meet
dates through interactions that start out platonically, through their extended social circle
or people that they get to know in activities, classes, church, etc. rather than getting
approached or "approach me" signals right off the bat.
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Chalicotherium > dyson618 • 2 years ago
Only stock photo models give and receive these signals.
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Eliza Jane > GothamBuddha • 2 years ago
This article doesn't touch on that topic directly because it's outside of its ma
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Off topic but If you don't think you will, then you probably won't. Dating is a
personal and mental game, negative thoughts get negative results.
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It's one thing to have confidence and try to not psych yourself out. It'
totally another to try to convince yourself that the only reason that super model
over in the corner isn't throwing herself at you is because you're jus
not *positive* enough.
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of yourself that you want to present to the world, um, I'm gonna be
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pictures or facts about them or their interests, that says I wouldn't
enjoy spending time with them. It's 100% their attitude.
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positive would make them smash hits on the dating scene, but it sure
would prevent people from backspacing frantically and saddling up the
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Except what I'm arguing against is this idea that there ARE cues th
are just being ignored or disregarded. I am saying that is not true for
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everyone. Yes, some people do get in their own way, and let negative
thinking cloud their perception.
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But some people are actually correctly calling reality (or at least, as close
to reality as any of us can get) when they say they've never receiv
cues, and it's annoying/insulting to constantly conflate the two.
Yes, some people have confirmation bias. But some people are also
invisible/unattractive enough to not warrant any attention without some
other stimulus. Can we please stop acting like this second group of peop
are non-existent or just kidding themselves?
(Also, not quibble about the artistic merit of inspiration, but a lot of
professional advice I've read, at least from earn-their-income-from
publishing writers, suggests that you can totally have focused or
meaningful work without inspiration. Inspiration seems to be for the lucky
few, not a common feature.)
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On the low end, I think more people get signals than they realize, but on
the higher end of involvement, where the signals progress to the point of
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being inviting...yeah, you're not always going to get those, and
people aren't always in a situation where they can give them.
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tease me about the girl at McDonald's who totally gave me the nod
and smile, and I automatically did the flirty three quarter head turn and
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Inspiration in this case means something different than a magical bolt of
lightning that suddenly makes everything make sense. Inspiration in the
1 Edison sense (and how I despise using him as an example of anything
good) is having a solid idea of what you want to do. So instead of just
blogging about whatever is on your mind, its "I'm going to write a
dating advice blog for nerd guys" or instead of trying to invent something
its "I'm going to make a light source powered by electricity". The
inspiration itself doesn't solve anything, it just gives you a focus fo
your efforts.
The broader sense of what I was getting at is that if your inspiration is "n
one finds me attractive or will make any effort to get close to me", you wi
actively enforce that even when the other person is clearly attracted to
you. This is what's going on with a lot of people who say "I'm
totally clueless". They're genuinely surprised that anyone could fin
them worth making a move on so they actively dismiss contrary evidence
until someone gets right in their face with it. No, that doesn't mean
that everyone has a gaggle of interested people that they're ignori
all the time. It does mean that the one time they do, they miss it.
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reserved for a "certain kind" of people, not going to go into the details.
Some might tryhard and bug the guy/girl enough for them to give the
person a chance, just for their perseverance (I just read a few posts on
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another dating column, not kidding). Others who are a tad more self-
respecting just put their heads down and go on with their lives.
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I think the knee-jerk reaction is kind of like this -
Yes, it is possible that you've never met any of those people. In
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terms of the people who post their first comment on that topic, we'
found over several years that it is much more likely that the poster is
saying that its no fault of their own while either they're oblivious or
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have some trait that actively drives people away.Its more likely a refrain
"nobody likes me and there's nothing I can do about it so dating
advice is pointless" than to be a neutral observation. Those people
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eselle28 > GothamBuddha • 2 years ago
Others who are a tad more self-respecting just put their heads down and
go on with their lives.
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anything that could be negative these days is immediately silenced with
trite and simplistic mottos about positive thinking, and the assumption is
that that negative thing is never *true*, that it's all in the
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person's head or perception and they're biased and lacking
reflection. I can't even say I'm bad at playing ping-pong
without someone jumping up to insist that it isn't true, it's all
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mental game, I just need to BELIEVE in my skills, even if they've
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never seen a second of me playing ping-pong.
Yes, negative thinking can get in people's way. But so can not
accepting the truth of a situation. If I have a broken foot, it's
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annoying to have a doctor tell me I need surgery for my arm. If I've
never gotten any signals of interest from the opposite sex, telling me to
"stop thinking negatively" isn't going to help if that isn't the
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problem in the first place. The problem could be a myriad of other things
that have absolutely nothing to do with positive/negative thinking, and by
Stumble trying to force away negative thoughts, I'm actually sabotaging my
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To use your medical analogy, if you tell your doctor, "This rehab therapy
isn't working, and it never will. My foot is never going to recover,"
they're more likely to press about whether you're really puttin
your all into therapy, because the fact that you think it's hopeless
may mean you're slacking off.
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Some folks are just not attractive. It's kind of patronizing to tell someone
they should ignore their own experiences because they just HAVE to be biased,
instead of maybe giving them the benefit of the doubt that they're not just
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trundlebear > Marty Farley • 2 years ago
I agree that it's not cool to tell people to ignore their own
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Yeah, I do think there's some daylight between someone who
honestly just never gets attention for whatever reason and someone
whose confirmation bias is at play, or someone who is just not good at
picking up social cues or doesn't know what to look for.
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Someone who has plenty of experience and who has just never
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experienced being approached or having attention directed to them is
totally different, in the same way someone that doesn't want to ma
approaches for whatever reason.
There are people farther along on the path who may have just decided
that; "Hey, this is never going to happen", but there's also a lot of
people just starting the journey who could benefit from looking at their ow
behaviors, biases, etc and if they come to the outcome that it'll nev
happen after exhausting all possibilities...fair enough.
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Starleitmotif > trundlebear • 2 years ago
Don't really have anything to add to this, but I wanted to say that
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mediumballpoint > Marty Farley • 2 years ago
Of course, that's entirely possible as well. I was merely suggesting
that GB rule out other possible explanations (e.g., s/he may isolate
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