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To cite this article: Katherine Landau Wright, Matthew J. Etchells & Nancy T. Watson (2018)
Meeting in the Middle: Eight Strategies for Conflict Mediation in Your Classroom, Kappa Delta Pi
Record, 54:1, 30-35, DOI: 10.1080/00228958.2018.1407174
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of the top concerns for student teachers and
their mentors (Moore, 2003). While much of
s a student teacher in the classroom management is learned on-the-job,
Boston Public Schools, we can equip new teachers with skills to medi-
I (Katherine Landau ate conflict in their classrooms. This approach
Wright) was not primar- differs greatly from the authoritarian view of
ily concerned about my classroom management, as the goal is to model
content knowledge or mediation practices students can apply to their
ability to create innova- own lives.
tive lessons. What worried me most was how While often used to negotiate difficult dis-
to manage a diverse classroom. I had nearly putes, such as divorce settlements or workplace
completed a master’s degree in education, conflicts, mediation has tenets for facilitating
and much of my coursework had included behavior management and conflict resolution
information on the educational disparities and that are easily applied to working with students.
challenges facing urban students. However, The word mediate, derived from the Latin
what was missing was how to overcome those word medius meaning “the middle” (Watson
challenges to create an inclusive and support- & Watson, 2011a), involves an intermediary or
ive classroom environment. intervention. In this piece, we outline strategies
Since our early classroom teaching experi- from the conflict intervention approach of me-
ences, we (the authors) have filled a plethora of diation that are easily applicable to classroom
practitioner roles, including school administra- practice. Our goal is to provide both novice
ing when emotions such as anger impaired the may infuriate a teacher, but often the student
teacher’s judgments. This level of awareness not is not even fully aware of this subconscious
only helps the teacher to better manage conflict behavior. Telling the student to stop sighing
in the classroom, but also models for the student will likely only escalate the conflict. However,
how adults can be respectful of one another even explaining to the student the message he or
in high-stress situations. she is sending—for example, When I hear you
sigh, I feel what I am saying is not important to
Model the Use of I-Statements you, and I don’t think that is what you are trying
Training students to use I-statements is to tell me—is more likely to continue a produc-
vital in promoting positive communication tive conversation, while giving the student an
and reducing instances of conflict between opportunity to develop his or her awareness of
students who misinterpret each other (Um- body language.
breit, 1997). I-statements enable the speaker
and listener to focus on feelings and content, Identify Positions Versus Interests and
and decrease the likelihood of either party Needs
becoming defensive. A simple format can be Students’ behaviors do not occur in a vacu-
followed to facilitate effective I-statements um; to understand why a student may be acting
(underlined words indicate standard compo- out, teachers need to examine the reasons for
nents of an I-statement): the behaviors. However, often the reason that
Teacher: When you interrupt me while is most easily identified is also misleading. This
I am teaching, I feel frustrated. I would is because, when faced with conflict, humans
like you to wait until I am finished giv- tend to outwardly express their position without
ing instructions before you ask to use identifying their deeper interest or need.
the restroom. In conflict mediation, a position is what
someone wants in a negotiation or conversation.
Pay Attention to Body Language An interest or need, by contrast, explains why
The need for teachers to understand body someone has taken that specific position. Interests
language and have their body language under- and needs underlie what we say we want and can
stood by students is critical, especially because reveal deeper hopes, values, and beliefs (Watson
developing students may communicate more & Watson, 2011b). When working with students,
with their body language than their oral lan- the outward position will likely be identifiable—
guage. While all teachers will try to choose their perhaps the student does not want to work with
words carefully when addressing a classroom a certain peer on a group project. These students
conflict, school students are acutely adept at will often have a deeper interest or need they
noticing subtle cues that may contradict the themselves may not be completely aware exists.
teacher’s verbal message. Bush and Pope (2002) If a conversation with the teacher can guide the
suggested that during disputes, “body language student to identify his or her needs, it is more
is as important as the actual words spoken” (p. likely that an acceptable solution for both teacher
88). Therefore, it is essential teachers have a and student can be found. If a student does not
heightened awareness of their own body lan- want to work with a specific individual, the reason
guage and the messages they are conveying to may be he or she does not believe the team will
students. succeed, or perhaps an individual has mistreated
Similarly, students need to be cognizant of the student in the past. Once this issue has been
how their own body language is perceived by identified, the teacher can not only resolve the
others. Teachers can use the aforementioned immediate conflict and facilitate a positive part-
I-statements to explain the messages their body nership between the two students, but also help
language is implicitly sending. For instance, the student solve the underlying problem and
a student sighing when being reprimanded avoid future conflicts.
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intervention plan, and (b) intentionally imple- Table 1. Steps for Developing and Implementing a
ment the plan when in conflict (see Table 1). A Classroom Conflict Mediation Plan
Classroom Conflict Mediation Plan is simply a set
of sequential steps to follow when conflicts arise Developing a plan Using the plan
in the classroom. This proactive measure can help
the teacher to remember to mediate, rather than
1. Resolve that effectively me- 1. Use your plan every time
diating classroom conflicts is you have a conflict in the
just manage, the conflict. This ready-made plan
important. classroom.
is especially important toward the end of the
2. Refine and learn communica- 2. Review and modify your
year, when energy levels are down and conflict tion skills you view as essen- plan as you grow and
can escalate more rapidly. Having a plan can save tial to managing classroom change as a teacher.
time and relationships, and supports the develop- conflict. 3. Adapt your plan to best
ment of students as socially responsible people. 3. Determine the physical, support each situation.
Think of the Classroom Conflict Mediation Plan emotional, and cognitive ex- 4. Celebrate when you use
like the version 2.0 of counting to 10 or taking periences you currently have your plan and see the
a deep breath. when engaged in a classroom productive outcomes
conflict. for you, your classroom
Supporting Students’ 4. Determine when a classroom environment, and your
Mediation Skills conflict is yours personally or students.
one you need to help others
To foster a developmentally responsive class-
manage.
room, teachers must identify students’ conflict
5. Determine and write down
mediation abilities, work with students at their specific steps you will use
current levels, and support their development (typically 4–8 steps) each
into strong conflict mediators (Vygotsky, 1980). time you engage in a class-
Every child is going to enter the classroom room conflict.
with different experiences and mental models;
therefore, it cannot be assumed that all students
will react the same way to conflict. Being devel-
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