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Netta Barzilai
embraces inner
pink rhino
l For everyone who thought she was just a one-hit
wonder, Israeli singer Netta Barzilai has released a new
single since winning the Eurovision contest last May.
And it’s already generating plenty of buzz.
“Bassa Sababa,” Arabic for “Bummer, That’s Awe-
some,” dropped on Friday. The song is a celebration of
her life since winning Eurovision — the good, the bad,
and the very, very pink.
The music video accompanying the song features Bar-
zilai, 26, dressed as a pink rhino, charging after the man
who has dumped her as they are about to be married.
She calls on him to “Stop!/ Call your mama/ Run/
Tell her I’m a Rhino/ My killer girls are coming/ If you
won’t hide you’re done.” And “Stop!/ Hold the trigger/
Watch/ My horn is bigger/ I win/ I love my thicker fig-
ure/ I grew a thicker skin.”
The official “Bassa Sababa” video on YouTube had
more than two million views as of Sunday evening in
Israel along with 9,000 comments.
Barzilai told the Associated Press that the song is a love,” Barzilai told AP. “But what they don’t know is
more “raw, real” version of female empowerment than that’s actually what empowered me.”
her Eurovision winner, “Toy.” She wrote the song with Stav Beger and Avshalom
The video also features a lot more pink: other cos-
tumes, a car, bubbles, goo, and hooded students. There
Ariel. Barzilai uses her famous looper alongside an Afri-
can beat and techno-electronic music.
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Instead, you choose your three fa- is about cancer. No, I don’t fully
vorite artists — I went with Shlomo understand the song yet, but I’m Candlelighting:
Artzi, Si Hi-Man, and Mashina, playing it on repeat. Friday, February 8, 5:04 p.m.
reflecting the music of my time in And I’m very grateful to Shiri for Shabbat ends:
Israel three decades ago — and letting me explore new dad-friend-
Saturday, February 9, 6:05 p.m.
it plays a remarkable playlist that ly Israeli music.
reflects the quality of singer-song- You can download Shiri from the
writers and dad rock that I loved Apple and Android app stores, by Call 201-837-8818
then and loved now. It does a far searching for the Hebrew word. judgement on the catchy chorus or bit.ly/jsubscribe
better job than Spotify in going (The app is Hebrew-only at the mo- of “Sloan Kettering” at http://bit.ly/ for convenient
wide within the genre, and deep. A ment.) And you can make your own ArielSK. Larry Yudelson
home delivery.
TRIBAL N0MINEES:
Drake towers
over Grammys
CBS will present Mem’ries… The Mag-
the Grammy ic”). Streisand, 76, has
awards ceremony won seven Grammys.
live on February 10 The ITZHAK
at 8 p.m., but the vast PERLMAN documenta-
majority of the awards ry “Itzhak”, directed by
are not presented on ALISON CHERNIK, 46,
TV. Here’s my list of is up for a best music Drake Barbara Streisand
Jewish nominees in the film Grammy. It com- Emmy Rossum
TV-worthy categories. petes with “Quincy,”
This list’s superstar is a film about famous
rapper DRAKE (aka producer Quincy Jones
Aubrey Drake Graham).
As usual, Drake, 32, got
that was made by his
daughter, RASHIDA
At the movies
many nominations — it JONES, 42. ● “Cold Pursuit” is an action thriller with a lot of irrev-
was seven this year. The Grammys are erent comic lines. Nels Coxman (Liam Neeson) works
Four are for “God’s not quite on the same for the small town of Kehoe, keeping its roads plowed
Plan,” a song that Drake schedule as the Oscars. during the long winters. Coxman and his wife (Laura
wrote and performed, A song (“This is Me”) Dern) are devastated by the death of their son, who
and which was the most from “The Greatest probably was involved with drug dealers. Coxman
streamed song of 2018 Showman,” a 2017 film,
turns into a vigilante, killing the associates of a drug
on Apple and Spotify. was Oscar-nominated Mark Ronson Larry Klein
lord he believes caused his son’s death, picking them
“God’s Plan” is nominat- last year for best song.
off one at a time. Sometimes he uses his snowplow.
ed for song of the year, It is up in 2019 for a with the late WARREN Miracle workers
record of the year, best Grammy for “best song ZEVON and Bonnie “Miracle Workers,” (Opens Friday, February 8)
rap song, and best rap written for a visual Raitt. His producing a comedy, starts EMMY ROSSUM, 32, plays Kim, a rookie Kehoe
performance. “God’s media.” It was com- career took off in 1985, on TBS on Feb. 12 police officer who doesn’t have much to do until dead
Plan,” released as a posed by the team of when he worked with at 10:30 p.m. bodies start turning up everywhere. Rossum is best
single, later appeared BENJ PASEK, 33, and his then-wife Joni DANIEL RADCLIFFE, known as the co-star of the hit Showtime series “Shame-
on the album “Scorpi- Justin Paul. The song Mitchell on her “Dog 29, who played Harry less.” She announced last August that she would leave
on,” which is up for “Shallow,” written for Eat Dog” album. Since Potter, stars as Craig, a the show at the end of its ninth season. Her last new
album of the year the 2018 film “A Star 1995, he has been a low-level angel respon- episodes began airing on January 20. –N.B.
honors. is Born,” also is nomi- full-time producer of sible for handling all of
The band Maroon 5, nated. It was co-com- albums featuring top- humanity’s prayers. His
led by ADAM LEVINE, posed by MARK flight jazz musicians boss, God (Steve
39, is nominated for RONSON, 43. and jazz vocalists. Buscemi), spends most is the creator of the Simon’s brother,
best duo/group per- LARRY KLEIN, 62, is He’s produced sever- of his time on his TV series. Rich is a NATHANIEL, 38, is a
formance for the song nominated for produc- al albums for his wife, hobbies instead of former SNL writer novelist and journalist.
“Girls Like You.” The er of the year. He’s a Brazilian-born singer paying attention to and the creator of the An article he wrote for
band recorded this really cool renaissance LUCIANA SOUZA, 52. mankind’s problems. FX cable series “Man the New York Times
tune with hot singer guy who has worked The couple married in As I’ve noted before, Seeking Woman.” He’s is the basis for “Dry
Cardi B. Those with with a who’s who of 2002; the officiant was Radcliffe’s mother is the son of FRANK Run,” a major movie
more staid tastes jazz and rock stars for MORDECAI FINLEY, Jewish and he identi- RICH, 69, the former now being filmed. It’s
will be cheered by the last 45 years. He 63, a Los Angeles rabbi fies as Jewish, although New York Times the- about a (real) lawyer
BARBRA STREISAND’s began in the 1970s as who renewed Klein’s he isn’t religious. ater critic and opin- who took on Dow
43rd Grammy nomi- a bass player for top Jewish faith and super- The series is based ion columnist who Chemical for creating
nation (for her album acts like BOB DYLAN. vised Souza’s conver- on a novel by SIMON now writes for New environmental dam-
“The Music… The Later, he wrote songs sion to Judaism. RICH, 34, who also York magazine. age. –N.B.
Want to read more noshes? Visit facebook.com/jewishstandard California-based Nate Bloom can be reached at
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On the outs over an intern
RCBC decides to bar members allowing female rabbinic trainees
LARRY YUDELSON women, mainly about intimate matters.
P
Rabbi Schiowitz took pains to say that
ushing back against efforts by none of this was personal.
liberal Orthodox Jews to allow “There’s a lot of warmth and respect
women to serve as clergy, the for Rabbi Helfgot personally. The hope
Rabbinical Council of Bergen would be that he would stay in the RCBC.
County is preparing to oust a member for The question is going to be what they will
allowing a woman training for ordination to do next year.”
serve as an intern in his congregation. While Rabbi Helfgot’s statement didn’t
The member is Rabbi Nathaniel Helf- explicitly say what the synagogue will do
got, leader of Congregation Netivot Sha- when it comes to choosing next year’s
lom in Teaneck. intern, it did say that the congregation
After the Jewish Standard reported in Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot, Rabbi Kenny Schiowitz, Marianne Novak “has always been a leader and pioneer in
November that Netivot had hired Mari- expanding the opportunities for women”
anne Novak to be a rabbinic intern, the RCBC amended leaders treat their positions and treat our community. and gave no indication that he wants to change that.
its bylaws to push Netivot and Rabbi Helfgot outside of its “It’s absolutely out of step with the values of our com- Rabbi Helfgot’s full statement follows:
communal tent. Ms. Novak is studying for ordination at munity. They basically took the tactics of communal “The RCBC has, for many decades, served as an
Yeshivat Maharat; when she is ordained, she will take the ostracism and isolation that you reserve for get refusers umbrella organization of Orthodox rabbis that has helped
title either of rabbah or of rabbi. and sexual deviants and have employed it against people establish and develop the physical and spiritual infrastruc-
The new RCBC bylaws do not allow as members rabbis who disagree with their views,” he said. ture and helped foster the communal wellbeing of the
of congregations that let women hold rabbinic positions “Never did I imagine that the reaction to the Maharat burgeoning observant community in Bergen County. The
or internships that are part of ordination programs. interns would be this,” he said. “I expected scholarship council has always had a wide diversity of rabbis who rep-
“Roughly three quarters voted for it,” Rabbi Kenny arguing against it. Instead of scholarship, what our com- resent the big tent of the Orthodox community in our area.
Schiowitz, the RCBC’s president, said. Rabbi Schiowitz munity got was cowardice and bully tactics. The com- Many of my co-members are dear and treasured friends,
leads Congregation Shaare Tefillah in Teaneck and heads munity shouldn’t accept it. This is something we see in including my close friend, the newly elected president, R.
the Talmud department at the Ramaz Upper School in charedi communities, not in the modern Orthodox. Kenneth Schiowitz, who is a thoughtful and outstanding
Manhattan. He said he was among the minority that “This is not about members of the RCBC having to communal rabbi, talmid hakham, and educator. The coun-
voted not to sanction Rabbi Helfgot. accept or support the idea of woman rabbis. Nobody ever cil members who I know well, work tirelessly for the com-
“People were concerned that Rabbi Helfgot’s associa- asked or should ask them to do that. munity and are devoted spiritual leaders to their members
tion as part of the RCBC gave his hiring of a female rab- “Netivot was on the receiving end of what happened and the broader Orthodox and general Jewish community.
binic intern some sort of endorsement from the RCBC, this time. Next time it could be a different shul. Once our “It is thus, with pain and sadness, that I must express my
which was concerning,” Rabbi Schiowitz said. community accepts that our rabbis can use our commu- strong disagreement and disappointment at the RCBC’s
The bylaw change does not take effect until September. nal institutions this way, everyone is fair game.” recent vote to adopt a bylaw that would restrict the rab-
“We didn’t want to do anything drastic like have some- Rabbi Schiowitz said the RCBC was not trying to tell binic authority and autonomy of its members, beginning
body terminate an agreement that was already made,” Netivot what to do. in Sept. 2019, on learned and committed women serving
Rabbi Schiowitz said. “Netivot is an independent organization and its mem- in spiritual leadership roles or being trained for those
The council met twice to debate their response to the bers have the right to make their own decisions for them- roles in the synagogue context. This is an issue that has
rabbinic intern. Rabbi Helfgot spoke at both meetings, selves,” he said. “In the same way, the RCBC is an inde- been and continues to be in vigorous debate in the Mod-
Rabbi Schiowitz said. pendent organization and its members have the right to ern-Orthodox community. In the last decade a range of
Rabbi Helfgot and other Netivot leaders declined to define itself and its bylaws. I believe that our decision was views has been articulated by various rabbis and scholars,
discuss the issue with the Jewish Standard. Rabbi Helfgot the result of thought-out, transparent, and democratic both here and in Israel on the fundamental issue. As such
issued a statement both praising the RCBC as an institu- process in which all members had a voice. different communal models have emerged as to the prac-
tion and expressing his “disagreement and disappoint- “It’s not the same as saying you’re not Orthodox,” tical implementation of including learned women in spir-
ment” with its decision. Rabbi Schiowitz said. “The RCBC sets its own standards. itual and Torah leadership. For many decades, the infor-
But the decision brought sharp criticism from Yigal The majority of the RCBC members identify with the nor- mal policy of the RCBC has been to allow each member
Gross, an attorney who lives in Teaneck and is a member mative Orthodox institutions like the Rabbinical Council to reach the best halakhic and public policy decisions for
of four Orthodox congregations, among them Netivot. of America and the Orthodox Union. The RCBC is saying that rabbi’s individual shul and its members on matters of
Last year, he and his wife, Tamar Warburg, sponsored we want to be a traditional, normative, consensus-type dispute within the Modern-Orthodox community and this
her predecessor, Dina Brawer, who also studied at Yeshi- Orthodox organization. If you want to be a trailblazer and decision is a shift away from that norm.
vat Maharat. do things that are not normative, that is your choice, but “I was hired by the members of Congregation Netivot
Writing in a blog post in The Times of Israel, Mr. Gross that would be outside of the RCBC.” Shalom to be its rabbi, religious leader and spiritual guide in
said that singling out Rabbi Helfgot for exclusion “seems What would he say to teenage girls who look to Yeshi- matters of halakha and public policy. I have attempted to fill
like the bullying excesses of a mindless mob.” vat Maharat and its students as role models? this role, to the best of my ability, in accordance with Torah
Mr. Gross’s blog post brought into the light a story that “Why would you want to go into the field of being an and halakhic principles as applied in the context of my indi-
Netivot leadership had hoped to keep quiet. Orthodox clergy member when the OU and the RCA are vidual community. Netivot Shalom has always been a leader
“The piece was not written with input from anyone opposed to it?” he said. “There are a lot of places for and pioneer in expanding the opportunities for women to
in Netivot,” Mr. Gross told the Jewish Standard. “But the women to take important leadership roles in the Orthodox enhance their avodat Hashem, explore their educational,
issues that are at stake here transcend the interests of community. In the normative Orthodox community, it will intellectual and religious heritage and take on meaningful
one shul and women rabbis. They pale in comparison be framed as an educator, scholar-in-residence, or yoetzet communal and spiritual leadership roles, within the guide-
to the larger communal issue, which is how our rabbinic halacha,” a woman who answers questions from other lines of halakha in all its majesty and breadth.”
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in and feel comfortable. One of our biggest things is
t should have been obvious from the start that showing gratitude for each other, appreciating each
Janet Hod was, well, a bit different. After all, she other, performing acts of kindness.” She said the mark
said, she wasn’t available to speak on Friday of a caring community is to “forget about ourselves and
because that Shabbat she would be hosting the take care of each other.”
entire Yeshiva University men’s basketball team. Ms. Hod’s outreach is not limited to her synagogue.
“It will be a bit crazy here,” she understated, noting “I help wherever I’m needed,” she said, whether that’s
later that she does this every year. “I’ve had three sons with Chabad of Teaneck, bikkur cholim, or another
on the team, and two are still there,” she explained. In group that can use a hand. And yet, with all these sig-
addition, her husband, Lior, as well as his brother, Ayal, nificant acts of generosity, perhaps the latest one is the
are former YU basketball stars. most unusual.
Still, hosting and feeding 18 young men is a big deal. As part of the March 10 honoree dinner, the Hods
Lior and Janet Hod, who have lived in Teaneck for have endowed a new award, to be presented annually.
about 30 years, will be honored by their synagogue, The first such award will be presented to Danny Dau-
Young Israel of Teaneck, on March 10. “We helped to rio, who delivers mail to the shul, the Hods, and many
found the shul 20 plus years ago and I help to run the local families. But he does much more, Ms. Hod said,
shul — basically, I run the office,” Ms. Hod said. She’s explaining why Mr. Daurio will receive the shul’s first
also helping with the synagogue’s expansion project. Gratitude Award.
“We’ve grown tremendously,” she said, noting that “Danny is the kindest, most giving person,” she said.
membership is now around 240 families. “There are Janet and Lior Hod “He goes far beyond” his job description. During a
a lot of young people, from families whose children recent hurricane, when the post office was closed and
decided to stay in the community,” she added; in fact, Her home, indeed, would seem to be a remarkable trucks couldn’t get down the street, “he drove around
her own daughter moved across the street. “There was place. the neighborhood to make sure people were OK. He
a big need to expand the building,” she said. “My kids are amazing,” she said of her daughter and shoots hoops with the kids, checks on the elderly. He
Perhaps, given the family’s matter-of-fact approach three sons, who range in age from 21 to 27. “They take would make Mr. Rogers proud.
to hosting 18 young men for the weekend, it should in other kids on their own. I take pride in watching “Mr. Rogers would love our neighborhood,” she con-
not have been surprising to learn from Ms. Hod that them show empathy and kindness, to make these kids” tinued. “Danny is family. You don’t have to be Jewish to
“we have four biological children but lots of kids” — often with special needs — “feel part of the group. be part of the community. He’s a good, kind person. A
who grew up in their home because “they needed “My daughter started in middle school, getting lot of dinners are about fundraising. The bigger piece
homes — kids who come from troubled homes, or involved in a charity helping kids with malaria. When is to represent who you are as a community. Every year,
who are studying away from home. One family lost she went to Rutgers, she got involved with the Embrace we want to endow a gratitude award to show appreci-
the mother and we were helping to raise the kids until Kids Foundation, which helps families who have chil- ation for a member of the community whose kindness
a remarriage. dren with cancer. She’s now on the board.” Ms. Hod makes our community better, who’s a role model.
“We have an open home,” she said, adding that peo- hopes, she said, that she’s taught her children to help “Danny is so excited. We invited him to bring his
ple arrive there “completely through word of mouth.” “within and beyond the community — it’s a balance.” whole family.” The shul also has written to the Postmas-
The reason for this outreach lies in the Hods’ own his- As for her husband, “Fate brought us together. We ter General with news of the award; it is hoped he will
tory. “People did it for my husband and me, and we have similar goals in life. We’re blessed in many ways. respond in some way. “It’s our way to say thank you to
passed it on,” she said. “We both had challenging sit- We feel that whatever we have is a gift,” leading them to someone who is special.
uations in childhood.” It is also noteworthy Janet Hod open their home to those who need it. “He’s amazing. I “I think there’s nothing better in life than being able
converted to Judaism before she turned 21. “I wanted to couldn’t do it without a partner.” to help somebody — and there’s so many ways you can
do that since high school,” she said. “I fell in love with She also is proud of her synagogue. “Our whole com- help. It doesn’t have to be financial. You can say hello
Judaism as a family-oriented, home-based religion.” munity is really unique in that it is Orthodox but very to a neighbor. There are so many ways to be kind.”
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in the Jewish community lumped all affil- erode over years of those types of fights.”
f you were asked to describe your iations together, we have to take the time The Gottmans offer workshops based
marriage, would you say it’s great, to understand each population of the Jew- on their book, “Seven Principles for
troubled, or fine? ish community and how to respond to its Making Marriage Work.” Rabbi Sytner is
Many people would answer unique challenges,” he said. “I looked at trained to offer the workshops and will do
“fine,” and that sounds, well, fine. But the least studied population, in my own so in Bergen County.
it indicates room for improvement, backyard.” Orthodox couples are not immune to
according to Rabbi Dr. Ari Sytner of Ber- He noted that the high cost of housing, serious issues found in the greater popu-
genfield, a licensed couples therapist tuition, food, and summer camp often lation, he said. When he asked nearly 200
and professor at Yeshiva University’s adds stressors that put Orthodox couples divorced Orthodox Jews what factors con-
Wurzweiler School of Social Work. into survival mode, and that this leaves tributed to the breakup, he was shocked
On February 11, he’ll speak at Teaneck’s little energy for nurturing their marriage. to find infidelity mentioned by almost a
Congregation Beth Aaron on “When a “I was interested in finding out the quarter of respondents, sexual addiction
Marriage Is Fine, Is It Really? What Sci- trends of couples in crisis within each by 17 percent, physical abuse by 33 per-
ence and Torah Teach Us about Making a population and understanding who cou- cent, and verbal abuse by 55 percent.
Good Marriage Great.” (See box.) ples are turning to when their marriage is The latter is a subject with which he is
“The premise of this presentation is in trouble — rabbi, friend, family member, well acquainted, because he lectures on
that when things are ‘fine’ you may actu- or therapist?” behalf of Shalom Task Force, a national
ally be at higher risk of your relationship Rabbi Synter had been a pulpit rabbi Rabbi Dr. Ari Synter agency that helps Jewish individuals and
eroding, and there are things you can do for 13 years — in Des Moines, Iowa, and families struggling with domestic abuse.
to turn it around,” Rabbi Sytner said. Charleston, South Carolina — so he was “So many people suffer in silence and
“The latest research has found that aware of the assumption that Orthodox feel trapped,” he said. “We need to raise
when couples report their relationship men have greater access to their rabbis awareness that there is help and we must
as ‘fine,’ it may indicate that they are
simply coasting, while in fact the founda-
than do their wives, because men gener-
ally spend more time in shul. If that were
When getting educate young men and women of dating
age to look for red flags and respond to
tion to their relationship may be slowly true, it could put women at a disadvan- through the day them in an appropriate way.”
eroding over time, causing the couple to
grow apart. They may have begun toler-
tage; studies in church communities indi-
cate that access to a pastor and ritual ser-
and paying the Personality clashes were cited by 54
percent of divorced respondents, and
ating a new reality where the norm is a vices make people of both genders more bills is the goal, 57 percent cited communication prob-
lack of joy or romance, and the relation-
ship may be operating in a robotic man-
resilient.
To find out what really is going on, he
a couple may lems. “That speaks to the question of the
shidduch process,” Rabbi Sytner said.
ner. When getting through the day and partnered with the ARCC Institute of New have entered an He was referring to matchmaking cul-
paying the bills is the goal, a couple may
have entered an uninspiring pattern,
City, a research institute that conducts
behavioral health research among Ortho-
uninspiring ture in Orthodox circles. This typically
involves parents, professional match-
which can lead them to feeling a sense dox Jews. pattern, which makers, or volunteer matchmakers sug-
of loneliness.”
Research on church communities,
He discovered that an equal number
of men and women responding to the
can lead them to gesting potential mates based on a “dat-
ing resume” provided by the single. This
however, has found that congregational survey — 72 percent — reported that they feeling a sense resume describes the person physically
support and affiliation are associated
with lower rates of divorce and higher
went to a rabbi when their marriage was
in trouble, dispelling the myth that men of loneliness. and philosophically and lists what he or
she is looking for in a spouse.
rates of satisfaction in marriage. in the Orthodox community were receiv- “How are we preparing our children
Curious to see if this correlation also ing more rabbinic support than women. that they lack skills to constantly work on to understand themselves and then fig-
holds true for Orthodox couples, Rabbi He also found that marriages in all Ortho- their relationship and build upon it.” ure out the ideal personality to match
Dr. Sytner spent five years studying mar- dox communities face their share of Here he is drawing on the work of Seat- them with?” Rabbi Synter asked. “In
riage and divorce trends in three Ortho- challenges. tle-based clinical psychologists John and Orthodox communities the process
dox subgroups: modern Orthodox, “Each community struggles with differ- Julie Gottman, who have researched rela- often starts on paper where the person-
chasidic (ultra-Orthodox) and yeshivish ent issues that may lead them to divorce, tionships for 40 years. ality doesn’t quite come through.
(strict-leaning). and no community is immune, including “After studying 3,000 couples over the “We should be doing more work on
the modern Orthodox,” he said. “This years, Dr. Gottman is able to observe a a premarital level in high school and
What: “When a Marriage Is Fine, Is may be surprising to some, as the mod- couple having a conversation or a fight college, and I am a strong believer in
It Really? What Science and Torah ern Orthodox population invests heavily and in the first five minutes he can pre- premarital counseling for all engaged
Teach Us about Making a Good in higher education. Yet being well-read dict whether or not they will ultimately couples. If we can reverse-engineer a
Marriage Great” and well-educated does not correlate with divorce, with 94 percent accuracy,” Rabbi successful marriage, we can teach cou-
Who: Rabbi Dr. Ari Sytner, a fewer risk factors for divorce.” Sytner said. ples starting out to avoid certain mis-
licensed couples therapist and What exactly are those factors? “So there are things couples are doing takes and implement certain practices.”
professor at the Wurzweiler School “A common misconception you’ll hear right or wrong in how they interact. It’s not Rabbi Sytner and his wife of nearly 21
of Social Work on the street is that people divorce over about the children, money, or other stress- years, Chana, have four children, who
When: Monday, February 11, 8 p.m. money, in-laws, children, and intimacy. I ors. It comes down to how you communi- range in age from 12 to 19. He is pleased
would argue that those are not the reasons cate and reinforce the fundamental friend- to see that local day schools are inviting
Where: Congregation Beth Aaron,
for divorce but the topics around which ship. If couples learn how to make a small speakers from organizations like Shalom
950 Queen Anne Road, Teaneck
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free of charge, with no expectation of repayment. (They
number of recent events have prompted me will, of course, be repaid, but what a gesture!)
to rethink the whole idea of angels. My personal angel died this past week. Dr. Sam Cas-
Not the kind that stood in front of sell — doctor, humanitarian, visionary — was my family’s
Balaam’s donkey or wrestled with Jacob, internist long before he founded BVMI, the Bergen Vol-
but — please just indulge me — angels more closely in unteer Medical Initiative — which provides health care to
line with the popular conception, the warm, caring the working poor. When my daughter was younger, she
presences that surround us with light. Not literally, of suffered a breathing problem, for which he suggested
course, but one can almost imagine the goodness radi- we go straight to the hospital. Just in case she needed an
ating out from them. Epipen, he drove in the car behind us, ready to adminis-
A friend of mine recently had a brush with death. ter whatever help was needed. Who does that?
She won. As it happens, even in the moment when Rachel Hanuka, left, and Lois Goldrich, both of Last week, I met a few other angels, staff, and volun-
she sensed that she had the option of simply letting go, Fair Lawn, volunteered at the Federation Apart- teers at the Federation Apartments in Paterson, helping
she did not see a tunnel or hear her grandmother’s voice ments in Paterson. to provide programming and special food for its res-
beckoning her. An uber-rationalist, she probably would idents to start off the new year. (OK, so it took place
scoff at my notion of angels. But the story she told later, restaurant. January 8. Almost last week.) Interesting place — fabu-
of the two friends who saved, and later guarded, her My sick friend’s daughter came out every day from lous mix of races, religions, and accents. But the peo-
life, sent my thoughts soaring heavenward. Queens, maintaining a harrowing schedule to do so. ple who serve them treated them all as honored guests,
One friend rushed her to the hospital and stayed When, at last, her mom was out of ICU, she took a and their joy shone through.
with her pretty much throughout the several weeks much-needed break to celebrate New Year’s Eve in her This year, I want to be an angel as well. I want to
of heart-stopping uncertainty. The other joined her family’s traditional way, dining at a particular restau- help without being asked, to serve without recogni-
almost immediately at the hospital, not so much to rant with New Jersey friends. tion, to pay forward every wonderful gift I’ve ever
keep vigil but to do whatever needed to be done. You Rallying temporarily and wanting somehow to thank received. Who knows, maybe the better angels of our
can’t pay that back. her daughter, my friend — let’s call her D — called the nature can prevail, creating a powerful force for good
And then there was the manager of the Paramus restaurant, asking them to accept her credit card in a troubled world.
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Many of my children’s friends have dab- What cryptocurrency Offerings (or ICOs), which involve an selling of this kind of currency — yet.
bled in investing in bitcoin and other is and how it works investor purchasing cryptocurrency That means that bitcoin is a lot less
forms of cryptocurrency, so I’ve also The idea behind cryptocurrency is pretty coins that aren’t part of a registered stable and secure than what’s being
heard about the unbelievable amounts of straightforward: It’s a form of digital cur- offering but that promise a future stake issued by Uncle Sam.
money that can be made (and then poten- rency that lets you make online payments in a startup venture. In these cases, the In addition, even though cryptocur-
tially lost). And I certainly understand that to other people or businesses without startups create their own “coins” to rencies have been designed to be theft-
it can be fun to try something different and having to go through a third party such as sell to investors. proof, there’s also a chance of fraud and
cutting-edge. But when people tell you a bank. Records of these online transac- I know that cryptocurrency sounds cybercrime. In June 2011, for example,
these stories, what they usually forget to tions are logged on a public ledger called super high-tech, but digital currency the Japan-based Mt. Gox (which was
mention are the risks involved. a blockchain, which is stored and dupli- has actually been around, in one form then the largest bitcoin exchange) expe-
In fact, I often compare buying crypto- cated on thousands of computers around or another, for years. Loyalty programs rienced a security breach in which $450
currency to gambling in Las Vegas. It can the world. This is how the system remains like airline frequent-flyer miles, as well million worth of bitcoin was stolen. In
be fun to gamble, and you might walk away relatively accountable and transparent. as hotel and credit card rewards, are December 2017, Slovenian cryptocur-
with bundles. But you shouldn’t do it with There are currently about 1,500 types of all forms of digital currency. The ben- rency exchange NiceHash was hacked
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for college, or put toward your retirement. reum, Ripple, and Zcash. You can buy are not in dollars but in each compa- in mind that cryptocurrency exchanges
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about what it does, keep reading here.) But until I sat there among the girls, I that it nearly knocked me over.
ast week, I found myself sitting I know what Sinai does — it takes chil- hadn’t realized — should have realized, So with that preface, let’s get back to
in a circle of six girls, some of dren who have a range of special needs, but hadn’t — that the single most import- the Sinai Schools.
their teachers, the director intellectual or emotional or physical or ant factor, the one thing that makes The Sinai Schools work with students
of their program, and some behavioral deficits — and it tailors an everything else work, the thing that you from first grade until the school year
other visitors, far more moved and education to each of them. It gives each can’t put into a spreadsheet but you can when they turn 21; it uses a fastidiously
infinitely more engaged than I had any one of its students the attention and care feel and recognize, is love. tailored education and inclusion — usu-
reason to expect to be. he or she needs to flourish to the extent As we went around the circle with the ally concepts so different from each other
We were at Ma’ayanot, the girls high of his or her abilities; it carefully bal- exercise Rose, Thorn, Bud — what do as to be nearly impossible to pull off at
school in Teaneck; the six girls in the cir- ances on its high wire, tugged between you have or what happened to you or the same time — to bring its students as
cle were part of the program the Sinai appropriately high expectations and too- what did you do today that is unequiv- close to the mainstream as makes sense
Schools runs there. soft kindness, which would camouflage ocally good, what is or has been a prob- for each one, and at the same time it
I have written about Sinai for years. but not undo a lack of real trust. lem, what on your horizon will bring you demystifies and destigmatizes those stu-
(As always, I write about it a few weeks I knew that Sinai demands patience joy — as I saw that the girls were able not dents for the neurotypical majority.
before its annual dinner, when it raises a and intuition and knowledge and intel- only to think about their blessings and It does so by placing its schools
large proportion of the funds it needs to lectual courage and resolve and clear- challenges, but also to speak in public, to inside larger yeshivas. It now works
fuel its work. To learn about this year’s sighted realism from its teachers and be themselves, to accept themselves and with seven partner schools — three of
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TABC, Ma’ayanot, and Heichal HaTorah Last week, I went to three of those
in Teaneck, and again Kushner in Liv- schools — RYNJ, TABC, and Ma’ayanot
ingston. Its students join with the stu- — talked to the Sinai heads of school
dents in the surrounding schools when and students there, walked the halls,
appropriate — most of the Sinai students listened, and watched. It deepened my
at the high school in Kushner join Kush- understanding of what Sinai offers its
ner students at least some of the time, students, and the entire community.
and many of them go on to standard col- Here’s some of what I learned.
lege programs. Even when the students Marcy Glicksman directs Sinai at
cannot be in class together, they can eat RYNJ. She heads a large program; the
or ride the bus together. Friendships students in it, from first through eighth
develop. Understanding takes root. grade, have a huge range of needs, some
Meanwhile, teachers and adminis- visible, some not.
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equipped to handle, he said. As always, Sinai’s
administrators are realistic. But if they think they
can work with the child, they admit him or her. UP TO
By the time he sees a student’s family, that stu-
dent already has been accepted, Mr. Fishman said.
The next step is up to him. “If we can help you, it is
my job to make it work,” he said. It’s not a painless
process, but it is a doable one.
He knows what it’s like. One of his children went
through Sinai when the school was new; that son is
doing just fine now. And he also remembers what
it’s like not to have enough money, and to feel dif-
ferent and isolated and shamed for that reason.
“My parents struggled financially,” Mr. Fishman
said. “We lived in Brooklyn, and I remember one
day being pulled out of class — I was at a yeshiva
— and having to sit on a bench.” It was because his
parents hadn’t paid his tuition bill. It was mortify-
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Florida, and another one from London.” Other educators The Sinai team also values the way their deeply Jewish They came back to the children.
are interested in trying to replicate the model. “I am get- institution reaches out into the non-Jewish world. “What “Behind each child is a story,” Rabbi Rothwachs
ting calls from across the country,” he said. “Not a month is the probability that Sinai’s biggest donor would be Holy said.
goes by without a call like that.” Name — a Catholic hospital?” Mr. Fishman asked rhetor- Chaya Ziporah, like many Sinai students, is
“There aren’t any other schools that go to the lengths ically. “And then the next thing is we have the Inserra immediately recognizable to anyone who’s watched
that we go to for inclusion,” Mr. Fishman said. “We don’t family, and then we have Cross River. It is so gratifying.” Sinai videos. She’s a vivacious teenager who’s been
own any of our buildings. We have to form relationships.” “We’ve come so far in 37 years,” Ms. Hepner Gross at Sinai since she was a little girl.
That necessity has ended up being a clear virtue. “That said. “Then, it was a question of whether kids with spe- Her English reading skills have improved tre-
means that we really have to make inclusion work.” cial needs should have an education. Now, we are proud mendously in the last year, he said, but her Hebrew
There are schools that are very good at special educa- to be able to give them the best special education possible reading lagged; it’s harder to teach rote reading
tion, he added, “but they’re self-contained. Nobody com- — and it’s also a Jewish education.” skills in a language you don’t understand, and
bines the models of special education and inclusion the “You are getting a world-class, accredited education on Chaya Ziporah’s Hebrew comprehension is not
way we do.” top of the Jewish education,” Mr. Fishman added. nearly up to her English.
This is not a terrible problem, but it nagged.
Reading Hebrew is of great value in her family.
“Her teachers, Miriam Mathel and Rochel Field,
came up with an ingenious solution,” Ms. Hepner
Gross took up the story. “She started a weekly tehil-
lim” — psalms — “prayer session for the girls, to be
led by Chaya Zipora.” That made her feel important
— in fact, she is important, every student is import-
ant — so she devotes time and energy to it. And of
course, the more successful she is, the better she
feels about herself, and the more energy she has for
that and other tasks.
The particulars of that story will not resonate
with everyone, but the underlying values might.
So at the bottom, at the heart, at the core of all
of these children’s stories, beneath the realism and
the care and the attention and the intensity, is love.
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It seems to be the curse at helping families pay for its labor-
of a close community. and work- and love-intensive pro- xtremism — on both the right and Extremism, however, does not have to
If you don’t have a community, if gram. It takes children whose needs, the left — is gaining a firmer, much be violent to be dangerous. Extremism has
you live in the kind of impersonal if left untreated, would have dogged dangerous foothold in the United so polarized our politics that governing has
anonymity that early silent films them for life, and treats them. States. become almost impossible, putting the secu-
showed, all those ceaseless marches Those children enter the main- Extremism takes many forms, the most vir- rity and economy of this nation at risk. It
of unindividualized strangers; if you stream, and go on to lead happy ulent being that which presents itself in acts likely will get even worse as the 2020 presi-
live in the kind of stereotypical city and productive lives. It takes other of violence, especially from the right, as study dential election cycle unfolds. Democrats and
apartment building where no one children, whose needs are disabling, after study continues to show, although the Republicans are poles (and polls) apart from
ever knows her neighbors, then it and helps them also lead happy and extreme left too has been prone to it. each other on all manner of social, economic,
wouldn’t matter. productive lives, even if those lives There always have been those in our society, and security issues. They also are divided
Of course, those places are are outside the mainstream. even at the highest levels, who valued extrem- on these issues internally. The ranks of their
mythological. Very few people live When parents wait too long — ism and even promoted it. “I extreme wings continue to grow,
entirely anonymous lives, and they when their fear of admitting a prob- would remind you that extrem- in no small measure due to the
have to work hard to get them. lem, either to the outside world or ism in the defense of liberty is demonizing rhetoric that has
The Jewish community in north- even to themselves, understandably no vice,” the late Arizona Sena- overtaken our public discourse
ern New Jersey tends to be partic- but still lamentably gets in their way tor Barry M. Goldwater said in — rhetoric that uses code words
ularly close-knit. Mostly that’s won- — their children are affected by that. accepting the 1964 Republican as red flags but actually are
derful. It holds each other so tight Many children who come to Sinai nomination for president. devoid of real meaning.
that it’s hard to fall through it. have to struggle with the rage that Others, however, under- A majority of Democrats, for
But it also can make people grew within them as they were stood the dangers of extremism. example — 57 percent of them
self-conscious. It’s like full-time misunderstood, as they tried to fit “What is objectionable, what is — now have a “positive view” of
Facebook or Instagram, where you into places and spaces where really dangerous about extremists is Shammai socialism as the way to go in
have to curate perfection for your there was no room for them. The not that they are extreme, but Engelmayer America, according to a Gallup
friends, who are putting on that teachers and administrators know that they are intolerant,” the poll released in August. Social-
same performance for you, except that, and they have the patience late Senator Robert F. Kennedy ism, as defined by Merriam-Web-
you can’t ever stop, except maybe to bore through it, but it takes time noted. “The evil is not what they say about ster, “advocates that the means of production,
at night with the lights out and the and energy. their cause, but what they say about their distribution, and exchange should be owned or
shades drawn. It’s easy to tell people that they opponents.” regulated by the community as a whole.” On
That’s why people whose chil- should overcome all the many rea- A current example of that is President the other hand, 71 percent of Republicans show
dren have special needs often sons why it’s hard to admit imper- Trump’s claim that House Speaker Nancy an “upbeat attitude toward capitalism,” which
tended not to admit it, not to see it, fection in their children, which Pelosi “wants open borders” and “doesn’t Merriam-Webster defines as an “economic and
not to act on it, until it was almost implies that they too are imperfect. mind human trafficking.” Such statements can political system in which a country’s trade and
too late. (Spoiler — so are the rest of us. Every and often do promote violence. We saw that industry are controlled by private owners for
If only problems would go away single one of us.) But it’s true. Giv- in October, when pipe bombs were sent to profit, rather than by the state.”
when we ignore them! Life would ing into the stigma about admitting prominent Democrats — Hillary Clinton, for- These numbers bode well for Republican
be far closer to paradise than it is anything — drug addiction, or men- mer Vice President Joe Biden, and Senators chances in 2020, says Gallup, because it sug-
now, should that be true. But it tal illness, or physical illness — just Cory Booker and Kamala Harris among them gests that “a political campaign favorable to
doesn’t work that way. It is correct gives that condition more time and — and to George Soros and Robert DeNiro, and socialism would not play well in a general
that at times small matters work energy to feed off. we saw it again only a few days later in the election.” Yet, at least at this early stage, that
themselves out. Children some- The Sinai Schools is an extraor- mass shooting at the Tree of Life Synagogue is where Democrats are headed in their race
times go through phases, and then dinary institution. As we do every in suburban Pittsburgh. Both were inspired by to choose a nominee.
grow out of them. Infections some- year, we urge our readers to sup- the inflamed rhetoric coming from the right Centrist Republicans, meanwhile, see sup-
times can be fought off. Bodies do port it. If you have a child who regarding immigration issues. Calling physi- port for their party fading among groups they
heal themselves at times. Time does might qualify for it, go talk to some- cians who perform abortions “baby killers” consider key to winning elections at state and
work miracles — from time to time. one there. If you do not, support it led to the murders of several of them or peo- local levels, especially among wealthy, edu-
But the natural tendency to put financially. You will be helping to ple working for them, and to bombings and cated suburban voters. That shift is most pro-
off dealing with problems often improve our world, and in fact the attempted bombings of their clinics. nounced among women, leading Republican
backfires spectacularly. whole world. —JP
The Sinai Schools take children Shammai Engelmayer is rabbi of Congregation Beth Israel of the Palisades, now in Fort Lee.
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perched precariously since the emergence of the Tea Party
in 2009 and the rise in the power of the evangelical Chris- n to d ay ’s f a s t - p a c e d a n d
tian vote. Fear of the power their extremists within wield at ever-changing world, it feels eas-
the polls, however, stays their hand, at least for now. ier than ever to become over-
The irony is that neither extreme actually is fully com- whelmed and overstimulated —
mitted to the philosophy of that extreme. The socialism and based on my experience in the first
Democrats supposedly believe in has nothing to do with month of 2019, things are not slowing
government taking over “the means of production, distribu- down any time soon. take be on March 1-2. It will give us all a
tion, and exchange.” For all the talk about a redistribution Life always has included its fair share chance to feel more present.
of wealth, no politician, including avowed socialist Senator of chaos, of course, but what’s changed If you’re looking to unplug more fre-
Bernie Sanders of Vermont, advocates that, and it is unlikely is the way screens of all types have bur- Jeremy J. quently than one day per year, how
Democratic voters want that, either. What they really advo- dened us with ceaseless awareness of Fingerman about one day per week? That was the
cate is a series of social reforms, such as universal health care, that chaos in real time, and on a global advice of Tiffany Shlain, the Emmy-nom-
and a more equitable and affordable higher education sys- scale. But it’s not just news alerts that inated filmmaker and founder of the
tem. The constant demonizing rhetoric regarding the people have us feeling anxious and exhausted. The need to Webby Awards, when she spoke at a recent FJC Lead-
Sanders refers to as “the one-percenters” (he hovers in and maintain an online presence, curate our existence ers Assembly. Every Friday night, her entire family
out of that category himself, by the way) enflames passions by sharing carefully-chosen pictures and stories, and observes “Tech Shabbat,” which involves unplugging
on both sides, however, only widening the divide. constantly monitor every virtual “like” and interaction from all technologies and not turning them on again
On the right, “capitalism” is less about private owner- keeps us glued to our screens. until Saturday evening. As she writes on her website,
ship and more about libertarian-leaning demands for gov- I’ll admit to an overreliance on technology myself. “Unplugging for a day makes time slow down and
ernment to stay out of our lives. It is about letting Amricans When I do happen to look up at my fellow bus riders makes me feel more present with my family. I not only
make their own choices, without government interference, during my daily commute, nearly every passenger is appreciate this quality time with them, but it has also
except when government interference suits their purpose, looking down into their smartphone screen, oblivious made me appreciate technology in a whole new way.
as in the abortion debate, or doing anythingto diminish to anyone or anything else. By Saturday night we can’t wait to plug back in.” The
Social Security protections. It’s tempting to claim that we’d be better off if all profound impact this practice has had on her family
“Socialism” and “capitalism” thus have become code of us unplugged completely, but in reality, the use of over the last five years is reflected in her short film on
words meant to scare people away from the center, push- technology often is essential to the success of our work. the subject.
ing them to either the right or the left. What’s more, our use of screens often is a paradox. I agree with Tiffany that while there’s something
Judaism views all extremes as anathema. When it comes While it’s true that too much screen time can erode very Jewish about unplugging once a week, there’s
to God’s laws — and especially the bulk of those laws, which face-to-face relationship skills, technology also allows also something very Jewish about plugging back in
deal with ethics, morality, and social consciousness — the us to pursue, maintain, and enhance meaningful rela- with a renewed sense of gratitude and appreciation.
middle path is the only path. Said Moses to Israel in some tionships with people who live far away from us. Technology can provide us with warm and mean-
of his last words, “Do not turn aside to the right or to the In my own work at the Foundation for Jewish Camp, ingful human connections as well. I recently watched
left,” he said ( and not for the first time); “follow only the for example, I constantly tout the benefits of screen-free a YouTube video, for example, paying tribute to an
path that the Lord your God has enjoined upon you.” (See summers at Jewish camps. Yet I fully acknowledge the associate’s significant milestone birthday. It featured
Deuteronomy 5:29-30.) truth that helping to create meaningful and impactful moving and lovely well wishes from people all over the
His successor, Joshua, echoed that message in somewhat summers for more and more young people necessitates world. While of course a YouTube video is no substi-
stronger terms. “But be most resolute to observe faithfully all the effective use of screens year-round. The issue, then, tute for celebrating a birthday surrounded by friends
that is written in the Book of the Torah of Moses,” he said in isn’t technology itself. The issue is one of seeking bal- and family, it’d be difficult to argue that receiving a
one of his final addresses to the people, “without ever deviat- ance: how to find it, and how to maintain it. thoughtful “happy birthday!” from a far-flung friend
ing from it to the right or to the left.” (See Joshua 23:6.) Certainly when campers experience an unplugged somehow erodes the value of face-to-face interaction.
Isaiah went even further. “[W]henever you deviate to the summer at Jewish camp, without smartphones and By celebrating with people near and far — both in per-
right or to the left,” he warned, “your ears will hear the computers — perhaps for the first time that they can son and through the use of screens — our sense of joy-
command from behind you: ‘This is the road; follow it!’” remember — they discover that while technology is a ful connection is increased.
(See Isaiah 30:21.) useful tool, they have the innate ability to connect to When we discuss the benefits of technology ver-
Maimonides (the Rambam) saw the centrist path as the others, have fun, and find validation without it. They sus the necessity of screen-free time, I suggest we
only way to for us to do good in our lives. “Good deeds,” learn to be adaptive, agile, flexible, and resilient, and remove the word versus and replace it with a much
he wrote in chapter 4 of his work “Eight Chapters,” are they develop and refine these skills that they bring back more generous word — and. That and provides
“equally balanced, maintaining the mean between two with them once their time at camp has ended. space for a multitude of complex and seemingly
equally bad extremes, the too much and the too little.” But how do those of us who are no longer camper contradictory truths. The word and allows us to
Moderation, he said, is the “proper rule of conduct,” while age find a similar balance between our plugged in and steer clear of extremes and seek balance, to create
extreme behavior, right or left, is “absolutely pernicious.” unplugged time? I’d like to share two thought-provoking a life that honors both weekday and Shabbat, work
“It often happens, however, that men err…,” Rambam ideas from members of the Jewish community who have and rest, technology and face-to-face interaction.
wrote, “imagining that one of the extremes is good, and is a inspired me in their work to answer this very question. As we enter the second month of 2019, I wish
virtue….[T]he really praiseworthy is the medium course of I remember when Reboot created the Sabbath all of us a year full of and — a year of seeking and
action to which everyone should strive to adhere….” Manifesto, encouraging all of us slow down our lives finding balance.
“If a man will always carefully discriminate as regards his in this increasingly hectic world. I even attended
actions, directing them to the middle path, he will reach a conference once where they handed out little Jeremy J. Fingerman has been the CEO of Foundation
the highest degree of perfection possible to a human being, bags to store our cell phones. To this day, I still use for Jewish Camp since 2010, and he is a vice president of
thereby approaching God, and sharing in His happiness. mine (see photo)! I know the simple act of intention- JPRO Network, the network of North American Jewish
This is the most acceptable way of serving God....” ally putting away your phone can have a profound communal professionals. He lives in Englewood with his
We all would do well to heed these words as the 2020 cam- impact. Reboot’s next National Day of Unplugging will family. Write to him at Jeremy@jewishcamp.org.
paign unfolds. The wider we let the gulf grow between left
and right, the narrower we allow the center to become, the The opinions expressed here are those of the authors, not necessarily those of the newspaper’s editors,
greater the danger we impose on the American future. publishers, or other staffers. We welcome letters to the editor. Send them to jstandardletters@gmail.com.
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f I read one more article about the two new Dem- opening until last week. More Republicans Recep Tayyip); and is populated mostly
ocratic House members, out of the 235 Democrats abstained on that vote than Democrats. with people who are coarse, ungracious,
there, who are suspect or worse on Israel, I think Interestingly, Democratic Representatives and demeaning to the dignity of their fed-
I’ll plotz. Ocasia-Cortez and Tlaib voted in support eral office (see President Trump’s state-
These pieces, usually written by Republicans, tend to of the envoy. ments and conduct as president).
suggest that the Democratic Party in Congress is led by On the other hand, on February 5, 2019, Most Republicans’ failure to criticize
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first-termers Representative Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez by a vote of 77 to 23, the Senate voted to Trump’s offensive and dangerous pro-
(D-N.Y.) and Representative Rashida Tlaib (D-Mich.). approve the bipartisan Anti-BDS Act of nouncements and behavior, while trou-
These predominantly Republican writers refer to 2019, which authorizes state and local bling and unacceptable, perhaps should
offensive remarks about Israel made by the two newcom- governments to prohibit a boycott, divest- Steven R. not be taken as their blanket agreement
ers rather than the statements and votes of the Demo- ment, or sanctions against Israel or “Israeli Rothman with the president on those things.
crats’ leaders on Israel: Nancy Pelosi, Steny Hoyer, Eliot controlled territories.” I would have voted But when either a Democrat or Republi-
Engel, Chuck Schumer, Bob Menendez, Nita Lowey, Ben in favor of the act. But some federal courts, can is wrong, I believe each elected official,
Cardin, Adam Schiff, Jerry Nadler, Carolyn Maloney, Ted one Republican senator, and 21 Democratic senators, all and all intellectually honest people, are obligated to pub-
Deutch, Brad Sherman, Joe Manchin, Albio Sires, Josh of whom oppose the BDS movement, voted against the licly express disapproval.
Gottheimer, and Brad Schneider, among many others. bill, arguing on First Amendment grounds. In addition, and most important, the imperative for
Clearly, however, each political party has some who If you intend to discuss the views of the two parties on all Americans regarding the presence in our govern-
are not fully supportive of America’s strongest ally in the Israel objectively, however, you cannot paint either party ment of those who speak and vote unfairly about the
Middle East, the Jewish State of Israel. accurately with a broad and dirty brush. Jewish State, or worse, advocate that we isolate our
For example, in August of 2018 and continuing today, Otherwise, you could claim that the Republican Party country and Israel, is to hold those elected officials
Republican Senator Rand Paul of Kentucky has put a hold accepts white supremacists (think Charlottesville, about accountable at the ballot box.
on final passage of the U.S.-Israel Security Assistance Act which President Donald Trump said “you also had some As to whether, as many Republican writers argue,
of 2018, which would have officially recognized the $32 very fine people on both sides”); is isolationist (recall the Democratic Party is particularly at fault in these
billion aid package for Israel that first was negotiated by the 2016 campaign when candidate Trump said he matters, I would profoundly disagree. Instead, I sug-
President Barack Obama. As of this writing, the Republi- would “certainly look at” pulling out of NATO because gest that they need to focus most of their attention on
cans have been unable or unwilling to persuade Senator “it is obsolete,” a position he explored as president with their own vineyards.
Paul to drop his objections, and the bill still is in limbo. senior administration officials throughout 2018; accord-
Also, on January 11, 2019, Republican Justin Amash ing to the New York Times and Trump’s December 23, Steven R. Rothman of Englewood served eight terms in the
(R-Mich.) was the only representative to vote against the 2018 surprise tweet that he was going to “pull out [all] House of Representatives. He has been an attorney for 40
establishment of a special envoy to monitor and combat U.S. troops from Syria” in coordination with one of the years and formerly served as Englewood mayor and as a
ati-Semitism; President Donald Trump did not fill that world’s worst Israel antagonists, Turkey’s President Bergen County Surrogate Court judge.
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he Jewish community does itself the best the barrier for many families remains our non-Jewish friends and neighbors
service possible when it identifies and pri- to the same — sky-high prices. The orga- when they face the similar challenge
oritizes its needs and wants. nizational Jewish world could create of finding an excellent education that
Undoubtedly, the lists of the many and subsidies in the form of scholarships they can afford. That answer is the
diverse elements of the community are as varied as for youth groups, summer camps, and school choice movement.
the wide-ranging types of Jewish organizations. From supplementary Sunday schools, but still From charter schools to education
synagogues to advocacy groups, from summer camps more must be done to lower the barriers in which the public funding is attached
to old-age homes, there is a virtual smorgasbord of of accessibility and entice more parents to the student and follows that student
communal institutions. Yet running through this to enroll their children. to the best school for him or her, the
richness of communal life are common threads, both Communal institutions must not only Joshua school choice movement has the ability
pragmatically and value-based. increase scholarships but must apply Einstein both to help inner city and rural work-
Of primary importance is the thread of Jewish edu- the power of positive public pressure ing class families get the best educa-
cation, from Reform to chasidic, and including every- to Jewish for-profit institutions such as tional bang for their buck and to help
one in between. That’s because the Jewish commu- kashrut agencies, kosher eateries, Judaica stores and the Jewish community give the next generation a
nity needs a Judaic foundation for future generations companies, as well as synagogues (which are obvi- Jewish education.
if we are to continue to grow and prosper. Jewish sum- ously nonprofit) to support Jewish education. They With the sky-high price of Jewish schools and the
mer camps, supplementary schools, youth groups, can be encouraged to sponsor a scholarship to a Jew- decades-long failure of status quo public schools
and, of course, the home all are amazing incubators ish summer camp, donating directly, and hosting a to provide quality public education to generations
of Jewish knowledge and education. fundraiser for a Jewish youth group, or providing free of inner city and rural working class children, it’s
All should be doubled down on by the organized com- or discounted catering to the local Jewish supplemen- a moral imperative for the Jewish community to
munity in order to infuse more Jewish children with a tary schools. And then they should be lauded for it. support public education innovations such as the
solid Jewish educational foundation. And the stats repeat- The possibilities are endless, and it is in the interest school choice movement.
edly show that Jewish schools are the best vehicle for of Jewish for-profit institutions and synagogues to do
transmitting Jewish education. That’s true whether they so, because when there are more people raised in and Joshua Einstein is a founding member of the Hudson
are pluralist community schools, yeshivas, Conservative engaged with Jewish education, there will more people County Regional Jewish Council, an elected member
day schools, or even the legally non-Jewish, secular but who will keep kosher, buy Judaica, and affiliate with a of the New Jersey Republican State Committee, sits
Hebrew-focused public charter schools. Jewish organization. on the executive board of the New Jersey State Young
From Jewish schools to summer camps, supplemen- When it comes to primary Jewish education, the Republicans, and has been published in more than 14
tary Sunday or weeknight schools to youth groups, answer is simple. In fact, it often is repeated by newspapers and websites on Jewish and political topics.
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I’VE BEEN THINKING It therefore wasn’t unusual that when So here I am, three years and 52 col-
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tury with whom I had a close relationship done what it usually had done and printed
thought that the confluence of starting my fourth through Sh’ma magazine, died in late Janu- my submission. I probably would have
year writing in this space and the occasion of my ary, 2016, I was moved to write some per- written a couple of articles over the past
50th column would be a good time for some reflec- sonal remembrances. My thought was that few years, when the spirit moved me. And
tion about the past three years. But then I checked reminiscences by a member of the modern that would have been that.
my Times of Israel blog page and discovered that my math Orthodox community about a towering Thus, not only would I not have writ-
was a bit off, and, oops, this is my 52nd column (which Reform leader had a noteworthy slant that Joseph C. ten about all the things I’ve written about,
could have been meaningful if done over the course of one might be of interest. Kaplan I most probably wouldn’t truly have
year. Three, not so much). The two nationally known Jewish publi- thought about many of those things. Hav-
So I ask each of you to disregard the two that you liked cations to which I first tendered the article ing this column meant I had to find topics
the least (or hated the most), so we can pretend this is my through people I knew well, however, gently but firmly to write about, and in doing so I’ve been forced to more
50th. I, of course, will abide by your decisions since I love declined my submission. Disappointed but not defeated, carefully notice and seriously consider experiences I oth-
all my columns, like my children, equally. I thought local, and though I didn’t know anyone at the erwise might have passed over without a second glance.
But reflect on what? Major changes in my personal Jewish Standard, I sent it the article over the transom, My family giving up break time on Yom Kippur to watch
life like turning 70, retiring after 46 years of practicing with the hope the publication might appreciate what I me get an aliyah at mincha; a well responded to erev
law, or my youngest daughter — our mezhinka — getting thought was a different and curious angle. Pesach post on TeaneckShuls; a rabbi’s impromptu com-
married? Might have been a good idea if I hadn’t done It seemed to have struck a chord because the article ments on a lengthy Friday afternoon commute; a spur-
so already. Perhaps significant issues in our society like was accepted the next morning in a 5:30 email from the of-the-moment stop at a childhood home; a yom tov visit
the slow death of civil discourse, the Confederate statue editor (who likes walking her dogs at that time, as she with a friend of more than 65 years. Nothing really special
brouhaha, Supreme Court nomination battles, or the explained when I noted the ungodly hour). She asked for at first blush. But writing a column requires second and
#MeToo movement? Another good idea that might have a headshot and short bio by the close of the business day, third blushes, and seemingly mundane occurrences take
worked, except been there, done that. so the article could appear in the next issue. on deeper and more lasting and significant meanings.
Then of course I could always reflect on the single most And so it did. Writing this column has also given me pause to think
important global change in the past few years — the Novem- While I thought that was a satisfactory end to this epi- about and appreciate the fact that disappointment some-
ber 2016 election result, which has led to one of the most sode, the editor apparently had other things in mind. I times truly can be a prelude to opportunity. You only
dispiriting times in American history, as awful as others in had emailed her a few quibbles over some of the editing have to be wise enough to spot and seize the opportunity
my lifetime such as the McCarthy era, the Kennedy assas- of the piece as printed, and our email chat turned into a despite the disappointment — or, as was I, lucky enough to
sination, the Vietnam War, Watergate, and 9/11. But, as I telephone one. We first agreed to disagree about my objec- have a wise friend offer the opportunity on a silver platter.
tried to explain earlier, I’ve decided not to write about such tions, and then, after playing a bit of Jewish geography, she The last few years have been, for me, a time of change
matters in depth. That’s a decision I reserve the right to asked if I’d like to write on a more regular basis. — mostly, though not exclusively, for the good. And having
change — but not just yet. Frankly, that was not something I had ever really thought the opportunity to write this column, meet many new peo-
So rather than reflect on what has happened since I about, and initially I was a bit thrown. The arrogant part ple, and make new friends through it while learning about
started writing here, let me ruminate a bit on the start. By of me thought that I wrote when I wanted, for whom I myself and appreciating what is important to me, has been
January 2016, I had been writing articles for more than 40 wanted, and about what I wanted. The more honest and a major highlight of those years.
years for various Jewish periodicals like Sh’ma magazine, frightened part doubted that I actually would have enough I’ve always had a passion for writing and a passion for
the Baltimore Jewish Times, the New York Jewish Week, to write about regularly. learning. How wonderful for this column to unite the two.
and the Edah Journal. The calm voice of the editor intruded on these
I wrote those articles sporadically, when the muse thoughts (some of which I may have actually uttered out Joseph C. Kaplan, a regular columnist, is a longtime
hit me, and submitted them to whichever publication I loud) and said it could be every four or six weeks, what- resident of Teaneck. His work also has appeared in various
thought most appropriate. They weren’t always accepted, ever made me comfortable. And it could be about — and publications, including Sh’ma magazine, the New York
of course, and so I have a file — small but unfortunately this was the scary clincher — whatever I liked. Jewish Week, the Baltimore Jewish Times, and, as letters to
not empty — of articles that found no home beyond mine. I gulped, took the plunge, and said yes. the editor, the New York Times.
LETTERS
CUPON is not anti-Semitic other civic issues, is operating out of prejudice and hate. Thank you, Jewish Standard
Larry Yudelson’s “A Scary Time for Us” ( January 25) is an CUPON of Greater Nanuet cannot control the Reading many articles about the current decline (nay,
example of biased, unfair, and negligent journalism that thoughts and speech of every member of Nanuet’s large demise) of the print newspaper, I want to thank you
is more often than not the norm these days. and diverse community. Can the Jewish communities for your news, views, and reviews, mainly about this
Mr. Yudelson’s piece advances the notion that any Mr. Yudelson writes about control all of their members? area of North Jersey, but often about national and
citizen’s group in Rockland County that objects to the We have, however, made it abundantly clear that we do international news.
sale to or development of property by a Jewish organi- not tolerate hate speech of any kind and that our aim Your stories are truly welcomed, read, and appreci-
zation is de facto anti-Semitic, and subtly tars any con- and primary purpose is to preserve the health, safety, ated. The advertisements are attractive, the insight on
cerned member of our community with that insult. We and welfare of our residents. local Jewish life and comments on the Jewish world are
at CUPON (Citizens United to Protect Our Neighborhood) Mr. Yudelson did not give CUPON of Greater Nanuet particularly cogent and enjoyed (even though I often
of Greater Nanuet categorically reject anti-Semitism in all the courtesy of an interview (even though our group disagree with some of them). How pleasant it is to open
its forms and we have made it clear since our formation was willing to speak with him) and chose instead the paper manually, cut out some suggestions (includ-
that we will not tolerate bias against anyone on the basis to write a piece that peddles hearsay and uses the ing recipes), and share opinions read with my husband
of their race, religion, or ethnic background. actions of a few outliers and social media trolls as sup- (even though I sometimes disagree with him also!!).
We understand that anti-Semitism is a real threat to port for his assertions of anti-Semitism. In fact, the Thank you again — and again....
Jewish communities here and nationwide, but we take article reflects the kind of bullying that the people he Edie Sobel, Fort Lee
great umbrage at the suggestion that our group, whose did interview so passionately decry.
primary concern is how our small town will be affected We hope the Jewish Standard will do better in Ms. Sobel is a former editor of the Jewish Community
by over-development, projects that weaken its infrastruc- future coverage. News of Passaic and Bergen counties.
ture, traffic, and environmental hazards, among many CUPON of Greater Nanuet
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that often comes with owning a home,” recommended safety precautions: • Utility knife: A razor-sharp tool like a screwdriver, Lipford doesn’t think
said Danny Lipford, host of the nation- • Power screwdriver: Look for a makes easy work of cutting wallpaper, a drill should replace a screwdriver.
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Curt Schleier Shmuel has done everything Judaism “Son of Saul,” which won the Oscar for close relationship with his mother, and
requires of him: He’s torn his coat, sat best foreign language film. mourning didn’t come in seven-, 30-, or
chasidic cantor and a jaded shiva, observed shloshim (the 30-day Rohrig makes plausible the wide 365-day internals.
community college biol- mourning period). But none of it makes shifts in mood from absurdist comedy “I’m still in mourning 10 years later,”
ogy teacher don’t seem him whole. (to study the process of bodily decay, he said.
like two people likely to “I fear for her,” he says. “I fear her soul they steal and suffocate a pig) to painful In his research, Snyder found kabbal-
become fast friends. is suffering.” moments (for instance, when Shmuel’s istic suggestions that support the dic-
In “To Dust,” the debut film from Behind his angst is a dictum from young children can’t figure out what’s tum from Ecclesiastes. It maintains that
director Shawn Snyder, they make a Ecclesiastes: “Then the dust will return wrong with their father). decomposition purifies the soul, which
hilarious team. to the earth as it was and the spirit unto It makes for a film of intriguing con- lingers over the physical remains, some-
The odd couple plot is not all light- God who gave it.” trasts: religion and science, humor and times painfully so, until the process is
hearted though. For Snyder, 37, the core He feels the latter cannot occur until sadness. And it’s all handled with grace completed.
of the film is how to deal with the loss of the former is complete — and he has no and aplomb. It’s an impressive debut “I never felt comfortable at my moth-
a loved one. idea how long that takes. Only when her for Snyder, who followed the old adage er’s grave,” he said. “I never felt I was
“I watched my mom lose her mom body has completely decomposed and “write what you know.” communing with her there.”
about five years before I lost my own her soul risen, he feels, can he cease “I am Shmuel and my writing partner” Snyder prefers to remember his
mom,” Snyder said in a telephone inter- worrying about her. — Jason Begue — “is Albert,” he said. This mother as she lived, the woman who
view. He recalls seeing “the value she” — To get answers his rabbi can’t provide, is an exaggeration — Snyder isn’t charedi refused to allow him to cancel a trip to
his mother — “found in mourning in the the cantor commits charedi blasphemy — but he was well versed in Jewish prac- Australia when she first was diagnosed
Jewish way.” — he turns to science. tice and tradition. with cancer. “The thing I carry and cher-
When his mother died, he also found By chance, he winds up consulting Snyder grew up in South Florida, ish about Judaism is this intense human-
comfort in Jewish tradition, but he Albert, the biology teacher, a nebbish attended a Jewish elementary day ism, the idea of discussion, of ques-
yearned for more. For a year he accom- who wears his divorced wife’s bathrobe school, was a bar mitzvah, and then tioning, the idea of two Jews and three
panied his father to say Kaddish for her around the house. Albert reluctantly was confirmed. He also majored in opinions,” Snyder said. “And for me art
once or twice a week, and he found the teaches reluctant students in a dead- religion at Harvard. Having grown up is a form of religious engagement.”
ritual “incredibly wise” — but somehow end job where no one respects him, so in “a strong Jewish community, a bub- It is through the art of filmmaking
insufficient — for his emotional needs. he reluctantly joins in Shmuel’s search ble almost,” he suddenly found himself that Snyder further engaged his grief:
“I believe grief is idiosyncratic and for answers. “studying at a liberal arts institution in a The film is dedicated to his mother. He
depends on the relationship between In the role, Matthew Broderick ably pluralistic department.” Not surprisingly, is constantly reminded of her when he
the people who are lost and the people reprises the bumbling, get-along schtick his Judaism waxed and waned. looks at his 4-year-old daughter.
who survive,” Snyder said. that has become a staple of his act- The waning was spurred in part by “I see my mom in her,” he said. “And
A similar crisis faces the film’s main ing resume. Shmuel is played by Geza his mom’s death, and he felt the Jewish it’s amazing how the tradition and cul-
protagonist, Shmuel, the cantor, fol- Rohrig, a modern Orthodox Jew best strictures of mourning were restrict- ture come rushing back through her.”
lowing the death of his wife, Rivkah. known for starring in the Hungarian film ing. Snyder had an extraordinarily JTA Wire Service
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Sunday
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A hilarious look at philosophy, theology, and deep silence. Torah?” for the adult and share a dessert
the legendary series and legal jurisprudence 300 North Broadway, education committee buffet, 2:30 p.m. 20
the “Simpsons” by its of Maimonides Upper Nyack, N.Y. at Congregation Rinat Academy Road. Sue,
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Center/Congregation continues “History of Ave. (201) 837-2795. 65+ of the JCC
B’nai Israel screens the Making marriages the Jews of Italy,” a Rockland meets for
documentary “From great: Rabbi Dr. Ari six-session class, at lunch at Sutter’s Mill
the JCC of Paramus/
Swastika to Jim Crow,”
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Sytner discusses
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(Jim Crow). Part of Aaron in Teaneck, 8 fitness social night: Rabbi Moshe Taragin Caldwell: New Jersey
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Jewish Association
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Disabilities offers an Physician Network
providers, and JCC The Kaplen JCC on the Palisades of mocktail tastings, the chance to meet
ID/DD informational
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Advocacy Issues for acupuncture, chair “Mind, Body, & Sole” on Wednesday, providers and JCC trainers, aromather-
Children and Adults massages, fitness February 13, from 7 to 9 p.m., at the apy, acupuncture, chair massages, fit-
with Special Needs,” and yoga demos,
meditation, nutrition Kaplen JCC in Tenafly. Participants are ness and yoga demos, meditation, nutri-
for family members
with intellectual consults, and stress asked to wear their most chic sneakers tion consults, and stress management.
or developmental management. Wear and casual clothing. It’s free, but registration is requested;
Book discussion in disabilities, 7 p.m. your most chic The evening includes food and EnglewoodHealth.org/calendar.
Teaneck: The Jewish Attorney Maria Fischer sneakers and casual
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Leaves of Faith Refreshments. Program Clinton Ave., Tenafly.
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833-0515. Ridge: The Hadassah
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Monday Valley/Northern Valley
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Jewish Home Assisted Friday Ski Shabbaton for millennials
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was written by Berthe 15 to 17, college students and young nearby Montage Mountain. The week-
Nathanson, Hannah Shabbat in Upper professionals are invited to a Shabbat end is open to singles or couples, 18
Rabbi Joshua Price, and Arlene Rifkin Nyack: Congregation
Sons of Israel begins getaway at the historic Radisson Lack- and older, from any background. For
Finkelstein about memories of
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