What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to?

Do you run and

hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand
there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much
about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all
situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the
woman will become instantly attracted to them.
Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what you say is
irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the confidence you display
when approaching her.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the
environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she
is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here.
Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural.
No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.
2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not
only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the
interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.
3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not
feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her
within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man
who knows what he wants and goes after it.
4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down,
you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in
the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out,
and use a firm yet relaxed walk.
5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal
alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease
with you.
6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you
approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about
approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you.
With practice, you can master this.
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have
your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the
details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose
interest fast.
8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are
uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel
uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements.
Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate
comfort and confidence.
9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool.
Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You
could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like "
I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know
you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice
the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied
tones and fluctuations.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes
a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This
lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with
yourself.
The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice
these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will
be surprised at their power.

13 ways to a perfect date

Throughout the years, men have always asked me, "How do I make that first
date as perfect as she expects it to be?"
I've come up with a checklist of some of my favorite first-date tactics that will
leave her glowing at the end of the night. In fact, these are so good, she'll be
texting or calling you within the next 24 hours expecting more of the same!
1. It's OK to suggest a drink instead of dinner for a first date. She dreads a
potentially boring, four-course ordeal, too!
2. Always call her by early evening on Tuesday to confirm a Wednesday get-
together -- it's the polite thing to do and it lets her know you're already
thinking about her.
3. Be sure to leave both your home and work phone numbers. If you don't
leave your home number, she might assume you have a wife or girlfriend. If
you don't leave any number, she'll wonder what game you're playing.
4. If you want to keep the plans a surprise, at least
 clue her in as to what to wear. You do not want an overdressed,
overstressed woman navigating in high heels on a sunset beach walk.
5. Always listen to what she has to say, and make sure you wait until she's
done talking before responding.
6. Don't assume that just because you're out with a beautiful woman, she
knows how pretty she looks -- she wants to hear it from you. Don't go
overboard, though, or she might think you're insincere.
7. Men judge women according to whether they can picture having sex with
them; women judge men by whether they can imagine kissing them. White
teeth, fresh breath, great shoes, cell phone turned off, and unchapped lips
make her more apt to lock lips with you that night.
8. Do not ask her, "So, what kind of music do you like?" The last 10 guys
asked that. Be original and instead fill your iPod with a great mix of music
that expresses your style.
9. Tip well. Believe me, she'll be watching.
10. Reading body language is simple: If she touches your arm, she's
interested. If she touches your leg, she's interested tonight. If she leans
away from you the whole night, she is not interested at all.
11. Very small gestures go a long way and show her you're a gentleman.
When you drop her off at her house, be sure to wait the extra 30 seconds
while she gets inside (and next time you might be going in with her!).
12. Women need momentum. Without it, they lose interest or wonder if you
have lost it, too. Follow up with a phone call the next night. Even more
important, ask her out at the end of the date. Don't play games or wait.
13. Never look at another woman when you are on a date. If she catches your
wandering eye, you are done.

3 key to meeting women

Most men think there's a magic word they can say to get a woman to talk to
them. while there is no such "magic word," there are three keys to
communicating with a woman that work every single time.
This is not earth-shattering stuff. What I'm about to teach you is a simple
approach that has worked every single time I or one of my students have used it.
Here are the three simple steps to communicating with a woman:
Step 1: Observe What She Is Doing. Take the example of a woman standing
behind you in line at the supermarket unloading her groceries. What is she
putting on the conveyor belt? If she's behind you in line at Starbucks, what is she
ordering? What is she eating?
Notice everything she's doing. Let the environment give you something to say.
Most guys think of something to say that's so random it makes absolutely no
sense in a woman's mind. Women actually make fun of these guys and say, "You
won't believe what he actually came over and said to me."
Step 2: Act on the Observation. In order to properly act upon the observation,
you need to open her up and evoke a feeling. For instance, if a woman is
ordering a double espresso, the thing to talk about is usually the first thing that
comes to your mind.
A typical guy might say, "Do you like coffee?" which leads to a yes or no answer.
A man who is 100 percent present will look at her and say, "Rough night last
night?" or "Busy day ahead?" What you're trying to do is stay inside her head and
remain in her current thought process.
It's much easier to have a conversation based upon things she's already
experiencing. A woman will share something that's already going on in her head.
Another example: you're standing at a bar and see a woman ferociously texting
someone while standing there by herself. You can walk over and make an
assumption like "Is your friend late?" This will in turn open up a conversation
based upon feelings and emotions.
Women are emotional creatures. They want to bond with you emotionally. They
don't want to bond with you randomly. This leads us to Step 3.
Step 3: Listen to What She Has to Say. In order to have good conversation and
bond with a woman, you need to listen to what she says. If you listen to her, you
will know what to say next. It's called a conversation for a reason.
A lot of men always think about what to say next, or they have a script in their
head about what to say next. That's not a conversation -- that's a bad screenplay.
For example, I was standing with a couple of clients on a corner in Williamsburg,
Brooklyn. There was a woman standing there by herself with a suitcase,
obviously waiting for someone to pick her up for a weekend getaway. So what did
these two guys do? They observed and they asked her:
 Guys: "So where are you going?"
 Girl: "New Jersey."
Immediately one of them says, "New Jersey? I'm from Tampa."
That's not a conversation. That is a guy changing the subject to talk about
himself. He doesn't care about her right off the bat. The correct thing to say in
this situation is this:
 Guy: "Where in Jersey are you going?"
 Girl: "The shore for the weekend."
Now, in turn, the two guys can keep her present in her head about the weekend
and ask her about her trip.
 Guys: "Which beach?" or "Wow, how long are you staying there?"
If they listen and stop thinking about how to amuse her by telling her they're from
Tampa, they'll actually connect with her and have a conversation about the shore,
vacations -- and who knows where the conversation might go.
Men complicate things for no reason. There are no magic lines that you can say,
but in reality if men just talked to women like they talk to their closest friends,
they would have amazing conversations. Men just need to relax and listen to
what women are saying.
Do this and you're going to have great conversations. It's that simple! Get out of
the house, observe, react and listen!
Is she attracted to Me
I get so many emails from men asking me this question: "How do I know if
she is attracted to me on date?"
This a great question, and knowing the answer will make going in for that kiss
become her idea and not yours. That's right, guys -- the first kiss has to be her
idea. She has to want it and desire it, and learning what her body language is
saying is key to the first kiss and knowing if she is attracted to you.
When you are out on a date, sit across from her at a table, or if you are about to
sit in a booth, let her sit down first and see where she invites you to sit. Some
women will invite you to sit right down next to them in the booth and some will
not. If she invites you to sit down next to her, she is telling you that she has an
initial attraction to you.
Be a listener, not a talker
The first step to making the date a true success is to listen to what she is saying.
Pay attention to the details, and react to what she has to say. That does not
mean that you can't share a story or two about yourself, but the best dates are
the ones where you're in a listening and reacting mode rather than a talking and
bragging mode.
Of course, she wants to hear about who you are and what you are all about. She
does not want to hear you brag about how much money you have or how
successful you are. She also does not want to know about your negative dating
history.
She wants to know about what you have learned in life to this point.
She wants to see how positive a person you are, and she wants to imagine being
able to hang out with you.
There is a lot to learn about a first date. I really suggest you book one hour of
phone time with me to go over all of this. So if you desire to be the guy who
women want, then email me right now and let's book that hour.
How to read body language cues
Now what type of body language should you be looking for when you're sitting
across from her at that table?
Pay attention to her eyes. One sign of attraction is when her eyes are open really
wide, and her pupils are enlarged when you are talking or when she is talking to
you.
Another sign of attraction is that when you are speaking, she will lean her body
into you and literally be drawn in with your words. She will not get up and go to
the bathroom. She will sit there and not want to miss a single second of the date:
 She will not look at her watch.
 She will not look around the room.
 She will be totally fixated on you the whole time.
 She will play with her hair and lick her lips before she moves towards you,
because she is creating a sexual feeling inside her.
 She will reach her hand across the table and glance at yours.
 She will touch your shoulder or another part of you very casually.
 When she is speaking, she will touch her leg or her face, imagining it was
you who was touching her.
There are many others, but these are a few good ones to get you started.
Keep in mind that what she is doing and communicating with her body is on a
subconscious level. She is not aware of what she is doing, and that is what
makes this so powerful.
One last thing: How do you know after all of this that she wants the kiss?
She wants the kiss if, when you walk her to the car, she lingers and keeps talking
and looking at you. What you do then is go in, move towards her lips, and see
what she does. Then pull to the side and give her a hug. This will create tension.
If she then talks more, look at her, touch her face and move in for the kiss

Action Speaks louder than words

Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman. But
through all my years of coaching men and women, I have found that it is not what
you say that's important, but how you approach.
Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man's character.
They don't care what you say, as long as you say it without hesitation and with
authority. Unfortunately, most men don't know this, so they walk over to a woman
like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected. When you approach like a
wounded animal, you will be rejected every single time -- no matter how clever a
remark you may have.
With 80 percent of human interaction based on nonverbal body language, what is
a man to do? The key to impressing her right off the bat is to be different from all
the other men who are approaching her that evening.
Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing,
even if you are not sure what you are going to say:
1. Walk with confidence. When you see a woman that you are attracted to,
walk right over. Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence.
Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and
not slumped over. Keep eye contact as you approach. Do not hesitate. Most
men linger in the background before they approach, then, when you finally
do approach, she is quick to turn her back on you. The reason is that you
did not exude confidence. Most women notice who is observing them.
When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well
go home.
2. Lose the male pack. When out on the town,
avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males. One of the
biggest turn-offs for women is the "male pack" -- you with five of your
buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women.
When you approach a woman with your buddies waiting on the sideline, she
will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later.
Break away from the male pack and find one other guy to go out on the
town with. Save the male bonding for a sports bar.
3. Dress for a strong appearance. Make sure you're not sabotaging your
efforts with your attire. If you look like a slob, it will not matter what your
body language says, because you will look like every other man who put no
thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women. Buy
clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair
of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge, so when you walk in
 with the right body language, women will see you. Keep in mind that shoes
are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.
4. Create a spark within her. Most men's conversation will center on being
agreeable and non-confrontational in the hopes that she likes you.
In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring! You need to spark her
interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into a
conversation about summer movies and she says that "Spiderman III" was
her favorite Spidey movie so far. Instead of being agreeable,
look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong --
the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so.
This will create a fun, friendly, flirtatious verbal sparring, which will create a
spark in her brain. She will realize that you are not a pushover like most
men and attraction will start to form in her head.
5. Maintain some tension.
Flirting with women is all about gathering informationFlirting with women is
all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the better your
chances. When you call her, you will have more things to talk about. Before
calling a woman, I think about everything she said and then I pick the most
juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it. For example, going back to
the example of "Spiderman III," I would text her the next day: "I was thinking
U & I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time
& place & I'll bring the DVD."
She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just
learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her. Plus, you
are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and
schedule a predictable dinner date.