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With their labile and rapidly developing brains, adolescents are particularly
susceptible to addiction, and addiction leads to anxiety and depression.
What few parents will know is that what we think of as the most typical
addictions and problematic teen behaviours – smoking, drinking, drug-
taking, sex leading to teenage pregnancy – are on the decline.
The bad news is that a whole raft of addictions has taken their place.
Whereas once the dopamine-hungry brain of a teenager got its fix from
smoking a joint or sculling a Bundy and Coke, it is now turning to electronic
devices for the pleasure jolt that typically comes from online playing games
(if you’re a boy) and engaging with social media (if you’re a girl).
What is even more troubling is that, unlike drugs, alcohol and cigarettes,
electronic devices are not illicit. Quite the contrary. They are liberally
distributed by schools and parents, with few restrictions placed on their use.
However, all is not lost. In Teen Brain, David sets out clear, reasonable
and effective rules to help you confidently manage your kids’ use of screens
at this critical point in their lives.
T RA D E PA PE RBACK
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DAVID GILLESPIE
‘Gillespie is academically gifted, a linguist, excellent
at most things he turns his mind to...he’s a polymath,
an old-fashioned Renaissance man, who finds few things
dull and everything else interesting.’
The Courier Mail
For the last 10 years, former lawyer and bestselling author David Gillespie
has devoted himself to exposing forces in today’s society that work against
our interests as consumers and citizens. Beginning with the Sweet Poison
books he followed those up with Big Fat Lies and Toxic Oil. He then focused
on education in Free Schools, before returning to the topic of nutrition in
Eat Real Food and then the everyday psychopath in Taming Toxic People.
Now David turns his attention to another endemic societal threat – the
addictive impact of technology on our children.
Letter from the Publisher But despite the boldness of his allegations, the robustness of his
arguments and his penchant for going head to head with very
powerful people and very big organisations, he has never been
successfully challenged on his facts. David not only knows how
to pick a fight, he knows that every assertion needs to be backed
by a truckload of research. It is this thoroughness and dedication
D avid Gillespie has made it his business to save us from to the truth that has made him one of Australia’s most trusted
ourselves. and popular non-fiction authors.
He helped us quit sugar and lose weight with his best-selling With this new book, Teen Brain, David says he is fighting the
Sweet Poison books most important battle of his professional life. He is, in short,
fighting for the hearts and minds of a generation.
He alerted us to the disease-causing properties of seed oil.
Teen Brain comes into the market at a critical point. Many
He explained how we could save $30 k per year per child on
parents are starting to feel a deep sense of unease at the amount
fees, and get happier, better educated kids, by avoiding private
of time their kids spend on devices. We are hearing of Silicon
schools.
Valley executives banning screens from their home. The media
And he exposed the everyday psychopaths in our midst,
is starting to circle in on stories of social media bullying, school
those really difficult people who made our lives hell – our
absenteeism caused by kids not being able to tear themselves
chaotic bosses, self-aggrandising co-workers, explosive spouses,
away from games, and rising rates of depression and anxiety
demanding relatives.
among teenagers.
Along the way, he has managed to really irritate food
Teen Brain is the first book in the Australian market to pull
manufacturers and marketers, retailers, advertisers, dieticians,
together all the threads of what David says is a psychological
doctors and scientists working for Big Food, psychologists, the
epidemic. Yes, kids are addicted to screens. Yes, the content
private school lobby, vitamin companies and HR professionals.
and the use of that content is damaging. And yes, these factors
are making kids mentally ill. But that’s not the worst of it. The I hope you share our optimism for the potential of this book to
devastating news, and what every parent needs to know, is this: bring about real change.
screens are highly addictive; if human beings engage in addictive
behaviours between the ages of 12 to 22, when the human brain
Kind regards
is uniquely fragile, the addictive pathways are laid down for life.
However, all is not lost. As with all of his books, David, having
defined the problem, provides plenty of solutions. You will
learn everything you need to know about recognising unhealthy
use, limiting screen time and even banning content and some Ingrid Ohlsson
devices. Importantly, you will also learn how to stand up for Director, Non-fiction Publishing
your kids’ mental health in a school environment and among
parent communities.
I have worked with David for over a decade. I find each of his
projects exciting and challenging not least for the opportunity
they provide to start an important conversation within the
community. Of all David’s books, this is the one I believe will
go the furthest in bringing about much-needed change, not
just in homes across Australia, but in schools, among medical
professionals and in policy circles. This is a conversation we need
to have, right now, and David is armed with the facts and ready
as always to take on the vested interests that are making money
from our very human tendency towards behaving against our
interests.
put that down to the perennial intergenerational problem
of ‘teens these days’. Yes, it was a minute-by-minute fight
in our house to keep the kids away from their school-
mandated iPads. And yes, the presence of those devices in
the house had introduced a whole new level of sneaky
behaviour and teen angst. But I put all that down to normal
growing pains.
Then I started reading the research on the significant
addictive is on a hair-trigger, and it takes themselves up with a stomach full of sugar, a teenager
real skill and determination could get cigarettes and booze – it wasn’t easy but it was
substances had
from the adults in the room to possible – and if they knew the right people and had some
substantially
make sure it doesn’t crash and money, they might even get access to some weed or even
increased.’
burn. heroin. Gambling was still difficult to access, but there
None of this is new in an evolutionary sense. Humans were moves to open it up to kids as newsagents began to
have been doing this puberty thing for at least 10,000 have access to gambling products.
generations and largely getting it right. Puberty was just a As the decades rolled on, access to most of these things
phase, and as long as the boys didn’t kill themselves with became steadily easier for most teenagers. And all of that
their exaggerated exuberance it turned kids into functional had its effect on the kids who were teenagers during the
adults without too many problems. We managed that last half of the 20th century and the first half decade of the
largely because, until very recently, highly addictive 21st century. Teen violence, crime, smoking, alcoholism,
behaviours and substances were not terribly available to drug addiction, depression, anxiety and pregnancy all
humans at all, let alone during the most vulnerable years climbed steadily. Suddenly, being prone to addiction in
of their brain development. Before the Industrial our teenage years was a bit of a problem. And it was a
Revolution, unless you were very, very wealthy, the only problem our biology was unprepared for. Until then, it
addictive substance you were likely to encounter was hadn’t really mattered, but now it was causing significant
alcohol, and it certainly wasn’t being wasted on teenagers. harm, not just to the kids but also to the society having to
Roll forward to the 1960s, and the range of addictive cope with the rising menace of delinquent teens. It was bad
substances had substantially increased. Sugar is cheap and and getting worse quickly, with no solution in sight.
was incredibly effective at increasing sales, so it was
The rise of the online world in your pocket was actually an educational necessity. Less
And then, in 2007, the world changed. Just 13 years after than a decade later, our world is awash with addictive
the release of Netscape, the world’s first user-friendly tool behaviours and our schools are the dealers. No one needs
for accessing the internet, Apple released the iPhone, a to commit crime to get the money needed for a hit. And
device that allowed every teen to carry the internet in their now you don’t need to steal your big brother’s ID to acquire
pocket. The personal internet devices had an almost booze, meet a shady person in a sketchy place to buy your
immediate impact. Trends in bad things that required a next hit, or have unprotected sex with the footy captain to
teen to be physically present dropped like a stone. Teen join the cool kids. Now you just need to tap your phone or
pregnancy, alcohol consumption, illicit drug-taking, tablet and the next hit is free. These free hits aren’t blunt
violent crime and physical bullying have all gone off the instruments like the addictive substances of the 1980s.
statistical cliff. All the obvious ill effects of exposing teens They’re not a pill that gives one person an incredible high
uniquely vulnerable to addiction had disappeared, and but barely affects the person next to them. No, the new
society breathed a collective sigh of relief. We didn’t know tools of addiction are purpose-built for the target audience
why, but somehow magically things had self-corrected. and refined by market forces to be as effective as possible
But as the parents of kids who became teens after 2010 in addicting your kid. Massive product variation means
are now discovering, there’s no such thing as a free lunch. there is a highly addictive gambling, gaming, porn or social
Teen anxiety, depression, self-harm and suicide have media app designed explicitly to excite them.
suddenly become much, much worse. The personal device Modern parenting styles
has simultaneously killed off a range of dangerous and At exactly the same moment in history a tide of child-
addictive behaviours that were relatively hard to come by, centred parenting swept over the Western world. We
and replaced them with a different set that can be accessed convinced ourselves that baby knows best and started
24/7 for free. demand feeding. Trained appropriately to respond ‘How
In 2010, Apple followed up the iPhone with the iPad, high?’ every time a child said ‘Jump’, we extended that
and was able to convince schools that having the internet
notion into every aspect of child rearing. Suddenly saying book, Sweet Poison, could have been written with crayon
no to a child was the worst possible thing a parent could on one piece of paper because the takeaway message was
do. A future full of precocious, attention-seeking, spoiled ‘Don’t eat sugar’. It wasn’t a new message. It wasn’t an
adults was fast approaching. But it was okay, because just irrational message. But it was one everyone, including me
in time Apple invented the electronic pacifier, and until then, ignored because dietitians told me fat was the
technology companies convinced us and our schools that problem.
having an addicted but quiet child was actually educating The detail in this book about what’s going on in a teen
them. We wouldn’t accept that explanation from a heroin brain is complicated but worth understanding, because
dealer, but we’ve taken it hook, line and sinker from once you do, you’ll see why these five simple rules are just
technology companies. about all we need to know about raising teenagers in an
age of ubiquitous addictive technology.
Buckle up for the proof
I’ve made some pretty outrageous claims in that little
tirade, so now I expect you to expect me to prove them.
And that’s exactly what this book is about. I spend the first
half looking in detail at exactly what’s going on in a teenage
brain, how it’s different from those of both children and
adults, and why it matters. This is all solid science and at
times it gets complicated – but don’t worry, I have heaps of
dodgy analogies that helped me understand it.
And here’s the thing: complicated science often boils
down to simple intuitive actions you already knew, but
now you know why they’ll work – and that makes all the
difference to whether you’ll implement them. My first
If you’re thinking that’s even more obvious than ‘Don’t eat
The rules sugar’, you’re probably right. But if you want to gain the
knowledge that will give you the confidence to follow
1. Parents make rules and kids follow them. them, then read on. You won’t regret it. Before I wrote this,
I was thinking as I suspect you are – ‘Yes,’ you say, ‘I know
2. Access to personal electronic devices (and all I need rules, but sometimes it’s very hard.’ Now I know
other addictive substances) is severely restricted. why I need them, I’ve become extremely non-negotiable
on that point. I hope it has a similar effect on you, because
3. Rules are clear and unequivocal. your kid needs you to step up.
under construction. Crucially, this is the bit they’re Teen depression and anxiety are on the rise
working on from puberty through to their mid-20s, and
The studies tell us that these figures have been increasing
this can be very bad news for their ability to avoid
steadily in teens for at least a decade. In 2004, just one in
addiction, anxiety and depression.
20 boys and one in eight girls were affected according to
The challenge for parents is to provide a safe environment
the US study. This represents a one-third increase in boys
for learning but not to make it so safe that nothing can be
and a 60 per cent rise in girls in just a decade. Similarly the
learned. We don’t let babies crawl around on the freeway,
Australian study reported that depression in 12–17-year-
but we also don’t freak out if baby falls down 100 times
olds almost doubled in girls in the 16 years between 1998
while trying to figure out how to stand in the safety of our
and 2014, and increased by 60 per cent in boys in the same
living room. We let the experimentation happen but make
period. Depression in children aged 6–11 didn’t change at
sure they have a safe place to fall. Similarly, teenagers want
all in that time. There was also no change in the rate of
to try everything that adults do and more.
depression in people over 20. Anxiety is increasing even faster.
Australian research tells us that anxiety among 18–24-year-olds that have grown up ‘Gen Z aren’t like
more than doubled between 2010 and 2014, and a very large UK with artificially augmented any generation
study has reported that anxiety in children aged 6–18 more than intelligence. Gen Z’s don’t that’s gone before
tripled between 2003 and 2011, the majority of that increase need to know how to get from
them. They
occurring in the 15–18-year age group. A to B because their map app
simultaneously
The US researchers also found that other factors normally will tell them. They don’t need
know everything,
associated with anxiety and depression, such as alcohol and/or to know what seven times four
and nothing.’
drug abuse and family income, couldn’t account for the persistent is because their phone will tell
rises. The massive recent acceleration in anxiety and depression them. And most importantly,
is a gen Z–only thing, and it only affects teenagers. The increase they don’t need to retain a single fact because Google, founded
can’t be blamed on sugar, alcohol, nicotine, drug abuse or in 1998, is always just a tap away. The oldest members of gen Z
violence, because the trends for all of these things are heading in were born at the same time as Google and the commercial
the other direction. So something else must lie at the heart of the internet. None of their generation has experience of life
epidemic of teen anxiety and depression, and there’s good without instant access to the entirety of human knowledge.
evidence that this something is being home-delivered by the They simultaneously know everything, and nothing.
modern equivalent of a textbook – the tablet device. Even The devices permanently attached to their hands are
worse, your local school principal is the pusher. loaded with addictive programs, and that’s not by accident.
It’s a noisy world out there in the app-development market,
Electronic addiction and the crowd is growing bigger every day. There are well
Now that gen Zs have hit their teens and early 20s, we’re north of 3 million apps available, and if you want your
getting to know them a little better. And what we’re finding clever little app to be one of the few that are frequently
is very strange indeed. Gen Z aren’t like any generation used, it better have some addictive characteristic or you’ll
that’s gone before them. They’re the first generation swiftly become roadkill on the digital superhighway.
Making programs addictive has spawned an entirely new their parents did. They don’t need to. They can get a
academic field – behaviour design – focused on the dopamine surge anywhere, anytime, just by looking at
manipulation of desire. In other words, how to trick our their phone.
reward system into making us use the app. Needless to say,
it borrows many of its techniques from the hard-won What boys and girls do online
experience of the gambling industry. Cost of entry is low Because testosterone and oxytocin are in play, gender plays
or free, rewards vary in size and timing, and there’s a strong a part in which variety of ‘porn’ a child is likely to become
element of chance as to whether a reward will be received. addicted to. Boys are attracted to danger porn in the form
All the ‘porns’ are represented. Danger porn sits there in of video games, because testosterone drives them to seek
the guise of games and gambling apps. Approval porn danger and minimise risk. And due to their consistently
hides under social media and online shopping icons and, low GABA levels, they’ll be better at games that require fast
of course, there’s the oldest of the electronic dopamine reactions. Action-based video games deliver simulations of
stimulators, actual porn. The average teenager’s tablet that kind of danger. In 2016, more than three-quarters of
computer is a cornucopia of highly addictive simulators of all video games sold were either first-person military
things we know are addictive simulators, other action games that emphasise physical
‘The average (when taken in excess) in the reaction time, role-playing military fantasy or sports
I’ll cover some specific rules in the sections that follow, value, such as loosening the restriction. None of this is
but in general rules should cover these seven key areas: rocket surgery. It’s the same motivational science that
works on two-year-olds – and you.
1. access to addictive devices
If there are two or more parents involved in rule
2. access to addictive substances and behaviours
enforcement, make sure you’re on the same page. You must
3. access to dangerous activities, such as driving
agree with all rules and consequences. If the child gets any
4. contribution to the household sense you can be divided on this, they’ll work you
5. sleep, including rules about bedtime and curfews mercilessly to create doubt (and a lesser, or no, punishment).
6. friendships If you disagree with the other parent/s, do so in private,
7. relationships and sex. never within earshot of the child. Consistency is critical
for effective enforcement. My policy, when a juvenile
Every family will have different ideas about where to set
request for permission is received, is to respond with the
their limits in each of these categories and what the
same line my father did: ‘What did your mother say?’ It can
consequences will be for breaching those limits, but an
save a lot of upsetting discussions down the track.
absolutely vital component of any of these rules is that
there be consequences. No consequences means no rule.
The consequence will vary according to the nature of the
breach. If it’s too harsh, it will encourage the child to
believe you’re irrational and will increase their incentive
be more devious, to avoid being caught next time. If they’re
too light, they’ll have no deterrent effect. The consequence
for a breach must be known ahead of time, must be
proportionate and must always be applied. It’s also good to
how to manage your you could read this book about parenting teenagers.
You’re welcome.
teenagers’ use of screens: In this chapter I want to focus on what I believe to be
I went to a lot of trouble to write this book. First, ability to access highly addictive behaviour anywhere at
I found a girl, Lizzie, who wanted a large number of any time. According to recent research, a quarter of all US
children. Then, without revealing my devious plan, adults are online almost constantly and among those aged
I convinced her to produce a representative sample of kids. 18 to 29 that number rises to 39 per cent. Just 1 in 10 said
We had six, three males and three females. I also made sure they were online less than daily and only 1 in 20 said they
there were three left-handers and three right-handers – were online less than several times a week. Of those with
hey, it might matter! And I also threw in a set of twins at access to a mobile device, 89 per cent are online daily. That
the end for controlled trials that minimise genetic effects. constant ability to press the dopamine button is having
I also took the trouble of making sure Lizzie was from a disastrous consequences amongst Gen-Z but that is just
large family herself – she is one of five. This was so I would the start of the disease cascade that awaits them, and the
have a basis for comparison to the way she and her siblings next generation and the one after that. You can’t save all
were raised in the 1980s. Then I waited until all six kids, the kids. You can’t change all the schools. And you can’t
now aged 15–23, became adolescents. While I was waiting change the way society treats technology. But you can limit
I got involved in technology start-up based in the United the damage to your children.
States, so I could understand exactly how the next wave of We are by no means perfect in our device access
technology might impact teenagers. I did all of this just so limitations, but here are some of the things we do.
‘We were on the These rules did not spring fully possible buying school-mandated devices but since they
first wave of formed into life. They have have inevitably invaded we have tried hard to implement
screen-addicted accumulated over time through the following rules. Ironically, our eldest, now a veteran of
long and hard-won experience screen use has become one of our greatest allies in enforcing
teens and it didn’t
starting with our eldest. He the limitations set out here.
take us long to be
became among the first tablet
determined to be
users in his school when he
No private screen time
in front of the
purchased, using his part-time This is much easier said than done. But it is critically
problem.’
work savings, one of the first important you do the best you can. Without this rule
shipment of iPads available in enforced you have very little chance of enforcing the other
Australia. He was in Grade 11 and it was 2011. He already rules that follow. Our rule is that tablets are not permitted
had a serious obsession with Minecraft (first released in in bedrooms at any time and preferably should be in a
2009) well under way, but playing it required him to be in charging rack next to the TV, so anyone can see at a glance
a public space in front of a very non-portable computer. where they are. If they need to be used ‘for homework’ then
Usage was easy to monitor and limit. The new iPad meant it must be in a public place, preferably at a table or desk
he had the ability to take his device to school, to the where anyone can see what is on the screen. Because these
bathroom and to bed with him and that pushed his screen devices are extremely portable and they are actually
time numbers into the stratosphere. We quickly discovered required for schoolwork, this is a rule that is extraordinarily
that while teenage boys are hardly the most electrifying difficult to enforce. It requires hyper-vigilance and an iron
company in the world, adding a screen addiction and the determination to just say ‘no’. I am not good at that but I
inevitable sleep deprivation to the mix does not improve am getting better and my resolve has been significantly
things one little bit. We were on the first wave of screen- stiffened by the research I have laid out above. Our only
addicted teens and it didn’t take us long to be determined real holiday from the enforcement regime is on school
to be in front of the problem. We resisted for as long as holidays. We lock ‘em up or leave them behind for the
duration. We reason that they are clearly not needed for No internet-enabled phones
school so why have them available at all during holidays? The easiest way to circumvent any prohibitions you may
The screeching and moaning of the addicted is loud for the have is for the child to simply have access to the internet
first few minutes. But they quickly get over it, because without going through your home network or the school
history has taught them, on this, we are immovable. network. Any modern mobile will come with the ability to
Holidays are a glorious break from the continual connect to the internet and most will enable hot-spotting
monitoring of devices. At first kids are bored but it doesn’t so that other devices can connect via it. Kids need phones
take long for the boredom to motivate imagination. these days because the community has stopped investing
Without the ubiquitous devices kids are transported back in public phone infrastructure. But they don’t need those
to an earlier age, where the only way something rewarding phones to be internet capable. We purchase flip-phones for
or even interesting was going to happen was if they got off our teenagers and they are not internet enabled. They can
their bottom and looked for it. The device holiday call and be called but they can’t do much else. This means
transforms screen-obsessed kids into book-reading, beach- they cannot be used as a back-door to addiction.
going, movie-attending, socialising teenagers like magic.
Obviously, that doesn’t mean parental control is no longer No social media
needed but now it becomes the much more traditional, The big social media companies require a child to be 13
low-volume addiction control of the ‘Is Sally’s mum going to have an account. It’s loosely enforced and widely
to be there?’ variety. disregarded and, in my view, pointless anyway. Kids under
Restricting screen use to public areas only during term 13 are not at any great risk from the addictive properties of
and not at all on holidays should curtail the obvious social media. The hormone mix is simply not sufficient to
addictions like gambling and porn (the kind involving motivate them to do much more than glance at the photos
sex). But more detailed intervention is needed for a few of with the same level of interest that I might have in Aunt
the others. Joan’s slide-night from her recent trip to Croatia, and they
don’t generally have sufficient motivation to get too the bus or at school but rather like limiting sugar
adventurous with photos of themselves. Lizzie and I don’t consumption in the home, every little bit of abstinence we
permit the kids to have social media accounts that allow can impose gives their Delta FosB just a little more of a
them to post photos. They still use Messenger because, chance to reset.
apparently, they are physically incapable of talking to a
person face to face, but they don’t have the ability to post No purchasing capability
photos of themselves to farm likes. This does not stop them Many online stores save your credit card details. This is
browsing the accounts of their mates, but it does neuter especially true if you are using Apple devices, where your
the addictive potential of approval-porn type apps. We credit card details will be stored as part of your Apple ID.
have found that simply saying no, is remarkably effective I discovered this the hard way when I entered my credit
as a control on social media posting. By its very nature, it’s card details on one of the kids’ iPads so they could purchase
a public activity and so relatively easy to detect should a school book. A few weeks later I noticed charges coming
they decide they don’t need to listen to you. through for music, books and other apps and discovered
that I needed to explicitly delete the payment information
No games to stop it being used. If kids see an app or song they like
Games are free, installed in seconds and available all the and the store says they have the ability to download it, they
time. It is virtually impossible to stop a determined child will often automatically go ahead and do it. So be cautious
from getting access to a game if they really want to. And about leaving payment capabilities on children’s devices.
they always really want to. Every now and then we have a Remember online shopping is a powerful addiction too.
games purge on all the kids’ devices. We ask to see all the
installed apps. Any that aren’t required for school are What about Parental Control Software?
deleted. Yes, we know they can be reinstalled in seconds, There is of course an automated solution to controlling
but it reinforces the message that games are not permitted. what is accessed on devices. The category is called Parental
There is nothing we can do to stop kids playing games on Control Software (PCS) and it is well served by a large
‘Hacking this number of software vendors. Lizzie and I prefer enforced physical control to the police-
kind of software Many of them promise to be state emulating, trust-eroding, barely effectual alternative.
is trivial for many able to limit what websites and But if you feel that is something you could properly
tech-aware kids.’ what apps are accessed on implement, then here is a list of popular packages. All of
devices under your control. We these will competently block named websites and most will
don’t use them. The primary reason is that I even though I monitor social media and even chat activity.
am an IT professional (of sorts), I have zero confidence • Qustudio
that I could implement the router and client configuration • Norton Family
that would allow my kids to use the bits of the internet and • Net Nanny
the apps that I wanted them to, when I wanted them to, • Surfie
without creating gigantic loopholes and back doors and • SpyAgent
impairing the ability of the rest of the household to use • McAfee Total Protection Family.
what it needed or wanted. We feel vigilance and awareness
Just don’t ever assume that because you’ve installed some
are a better defence than the false sense of security that
software, your kids aren’t accessing addictive apps, games
automation could bring. Hacking this kind of software is
and social media anyway. A more robust solution, in my
trivial for many tech-aware kids. It can be as simple as
view, is to understand that you are dealing with addiction
switching to incognito mode in the browser or using your
and prohibit access to the device delivering the addictive
friend’s hotspot, changing the device DNS settings or
behaviour as much as possible. Then talk to your kids
grabbing some VPN tunnelling code from a more techy
about what you do and don’t want them doing online and
mate. Our kids’ school control software was subverted
why, then making sure they do as you have said. They don’t
within days of being installed even though it was the latest
want to be addicted any more than you want them to be, so
and greatest and they had the resources of a fully staffed IT
give them the chance to understand what is going on and
department overseeing it. It was done by a student seeing
why it matters. You might be surprised at how they respond.
what he could do. It turned out he could do an awful lot.
Find something else to do years they have whittled them down to the ones they really
Screens become a default behaviour when a child is bored like. I know they like them because I can take a cranky
and has nothing better to do. Alongside all the prohibitions teenage girl to a music lesson or netball training and pick
above, there is something positive you can do. Encourage up a playful happy girl after an hour. She will never admit
your kids to try things that don’t involve screens. This does it made her feel good but the evidence is there for everyone
not mean you need to buy a pony or have them take up to see. The science says the endorphins from activity and
expensive hobbies. But it does mean you should keep an the oxytocin from socialisation will have that effect. And I
eye out for opportunities to participate in new experiences can definitely verify that any time off screens and out in
outside the home. It might be as simple as turning up the the real world practising something that uses physical
come-and-try day that most sports run before their seasons skills or solving problems is almost magical in its ability to
start or finding out about the local rocketry club or pushing re-centre a teenage mood.
will be the noob and everyone else will be an Olympic complete solution. That is, of course throwing the iPads in
athlete or just about to join the Australian Youth Orchestra, the bin. Unfortunately, that is not an option while they are
but the reality is everyone is largely, well, average. Within required for school. This is our band-aid solution. It is a
minutes of their first attempt, most kids will figure out daily struggle to keep these highly addictive and highly
they aren’t as crap as they thought. Usually they also portable devices out of our kids’ hands while they are at
discover it’s fun to learn something new and even more home, and it is tiresome. But we have found that the more
fun to meet different people. They will resist your initial definite we are, the less frequently we have to prove that we
attempts but don’t take no for an answer. Our kids have all mean it. Good luck!