Are You an Asset or Liability?

“Women  Working  in  Relationships”  

By Kevin E. Greene (KevEG) aka Black Theology
Often  whenever  Asset  or  Liability  is  mentioned  it’s  typically  done  so  in  a  business  sense  
referencing  financials,  accounting  and  investment  type  activities.    You  know  the  equation,  
Assets  –  Liability  =  Capital;  where  assets  generally  are  those  things  that  deposits  money  
into  your  pockets,  while  liabilities  are  those  things  that  withdraws  (depletes)  money  out  of  
your  pockets.    It  is  the  “deposit  and  withdraw ”  dynamic  that  becomes  the  central  theme  
when  assessing  whether  or  not  women  can  be  an  Asset  or  Liability  to  their  husbands  
(and  in  their  relationships).    However,  we  can’t  fully  explore  this  question  or  topic  properly  
using  a  business  context;  it  must  be  captured  in  a  spiritual  context  to  help  us  better  
understand  whether  a  woman  deposits  or  withdraws  from  her  husband  spiritually.    
Women  can  inspire  and  motivate  spiritual  growth,  as  well  as  deplete  and  hinder  spiritual  
growth.      

I  personally  believe  women  are  God’s  gift  to  earth  -­‐-­‐  bold,  powerful,  smart,  and  intuitive.    
Women  are  an  intrinsic  part  of  life;  they  give  life  and  nurture  life,  shaping  all  aspects  of  life.    
The  problem  is  that  some  women  truly  don’t  realize  the  influence  and  power  they  have  
over  men  and  life  creations  (Genesis  3:17)  …  somehow  I  got  the  memo  and  it  seems  that  
some  women  did  not  receive  that  memo  (check  your  Junk  mail  folder).      Just  think,  Eve  
influenced  Adam  to  ignore  the  instructions  given  by  God  to  not  eat  the  forbidden  fruit  from  
the  tree  in  the  garden  (Genesis  3:3)  –  talking  about  major  influence.    I  believe  the  same  
influential  power,  if  used  in  a  loving  and  constructive  way  should  be  directed  toward  a  
man’s  spiritual  growth  and  transformation.    Every  woman  should  want  to  be  an  asset  and  
deposit  into  the  spiritual  fuel  tank  of  their  husband,  to  help  him  be  that  man  God  desires  
him  to  be.              

God  instructed  Eve  (women)  to  submit  to  Adam  (her  husband)  -­‐  because  God  understood  
that  women  were  dependent  upon  men  to  lead  them  (to  lead  and  not  control).    I  believe  
that  most  women  strongly  desire  a  man  who’s  capable  of  leading  them  –  one  who  
possesses  spiritual  consciousness  and  relationship  with  God,  one  who  can  take  charge  and  
navigate  through  life’s  obstacles  and  challenges,  and  one  that  is  dependable  and  will  love  
unconditionally.    One  of  the  issues  with  “submission”  is  that  we  often  look  at  submission  
through  the  lenses  of  superiority  (dominate)  and  inferiority  (weak)  complexes;  these  
complexes  can  often  hijack  our  spiritual  development  if  there  is  no  balance,  respect,  and  
reciprocity  in  the  relationship.    Submission  doesn’t  mean  that  woman  can’t  be  strong  and  
courageous;  it  should  not  silence  their  voice  or  lessen  their  contribution  in  relationships.      
We  often  fail  to  realize  that  submission  precedes  (spiritual)  transformation,  and  it  requires  
both  parties  to  work  in  harmony  and  trust  each  other.      

To  be  an  ASSET,  women  must  be  willing  to  and  capable  of  ministering  to  her  husband.    
When  a  woman  ministers  to  her  husband  she  is  essentially  inspiring,  healing,  affirming,  
motivating,  encouraging  him,  and  interceding  and  praying  on  his  behalf  (your  first  ministry  
is  family).    For  most  African  American  men  it’s  becoming  increasingly  difficult  to  deal  with  
life  pressures  and  the  constant  marginalization  and  disrespect  by  racist  ideology  and  
systematic  approaches  of  attack.    Thus,  life  can  be  draining  and  often  deplete  your  spiritual  
fuel  tank;  having  a  women  in  your  corner  who  can  help  replenish  and  refuel  that  spiritual  
fuel  tank  -­‐-­‐  is  not  only  an  ASSET,  but  a  blessing.    If  a  (your)  woman  is  unwilling  to  submit  
to  her  husband,  and  is  incapable  of  being  that  minister  God  ordained  her  to  be  to  her  
husband  –  she  is  unequivocally  a  LIABLITY  and  should  be  liable  for  the  breach  in  
covenant    with  God  and  her  husband.    POUR  IN  AND  DEPOSIT  -­‐  BE  AN  ASSET  TODAY!!