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CONSULTATION: Alan McBride from the Wave trauma centre with junior ministers Jeffrey Donaldson, left, and Gerry Kelly, right, following the announcement of a consultation on a new strategy for victims and survivors
You have to let people make their own journey and let them go at their own pace but you cant let them hold up progress towards reconciliation
Alan McBride
Dealing with the past and the legacy of the Troubles remains one of the biggest issues facing Northern Ireland. Alan McBride, whose wife was killed in an IRA bomb in 1993, tells Noreen Erskine about his own hard journey towards reconciliation
LAN MCBRIDES life has taken many unexpected turns since he lost his wife and father-in-law in the IRA Shankill Road bomb in Belfast 15 years ago. Yet his decision to have a drink in an Edinburgh pub with an ex-UVF lifesentence prisoner and a former IRA man led to what he calls one of the stellar moments of his life. He told them of how his 29-year-old wife Sharon and her father John Frizell had been among the 10 people killed in the fish-shop bombing on a sunny Saturday afternoon in October 1993. After he stopped speaking, he says the IRA man touched his arm and looked directly into his eyes. He then admitted the attack was wrong, saying he was sorry it happened. This was not the first time republicans have apologised for the bomb. Sinn Fein president Gerry Adams did so shortly after the explosion. His remarks that the bombing was wrong and could not be excused were largely drowned out by the outcry which followed his decision to
Its not about apportioning blame, or what-aboutery. Its about showing some understanding of the other side and allowing people the space to tell their stories
Alan McBride
While there, he met a woman whose elderly father had died a few weeks earlier. She told him she understood exactly what he was going through. She was trying to be nice but with the best will in the world, she had no idea of what I was going through, he said. Her father was an old man and his
huge part in fuelling the conflict and keeping it going. I know there were more ideological reasons why some people got involved but the very heart of it for me was that there was this divided society where sectarianism was fuelling and fanning the conflict. In 1998 he said he would vote yes for the Good Friday Agreement, in spite of his reservations over the early release of paramilitary prisoners which formed part of the agreement. Ten years on, Alan McBride feared the recent political impasse at Stormont was threatening to draw Northern Ireland backwards. Speaking before the announcement that the executive would resume its meetings on November 20, he was critical of both Sinn Fein and the DUP concerning the five-month stalemate over the devolution of policing and criminal justice powers. Although he has married again and found renewed happiness at a personal level, the memory of those dark days after the Shankill bombing remains a driving force in Alans quest to help build a shared future. The focus must be on reconciliation, he said. Its not about apportioning blame, or what-aboutery. Its about showing some understanding of the other side and allowing people the space to tell their stories. One of the main learning points in my story is that no two people are the same. You have to let people make their own journey and let them go at their own pace but you cant let them hold up progress towards reconciliation. The Church of Ireland established the Hard Gospel Project in 2005 to tackle sectarianism and racism and to face the challenges of historic difference in the Ireland of the 21st century.